DreamYourLifeAmazing

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TableofContents
Chapter1WelcometoYourDreamLife.7
LifeWithoutDreams
DreamBasedLiving
Statistics
OnlySixThingsRequired
SuccessDefined
ReallyHappy
Chapter2BeginByDreaming.21
BrainstormingDreamCasting
RemoveDis
ThePush
IfTheyCan,SoCanYou
Chapter3DefineandRefine33
BrainstormingRefined
HowtoEatanElephant
WritetheVision
DrawyourDreams
MapBeforeyouBegin
RevisittheList
VoiceYourselftoSuccess
Chapter4WorkingWithOthers51
Influence
ListeningMastery
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ThePowerofRoles
Personality
Layers
BecomeUnlayered
Chapter5TimeYourGreatestCommodity..75
Habits
WinningyourDays
PrioritizeEverything
ChangeYourMindAboutTimeManagement
DontBeBlindedbyYesterday'sDream
PingPongs
NeverForgettheBigStuff
MonkeyButtons
DelayedReplyThePause
Chapter6PrincipleCenteredRelationships...93
PeopleFirstParadigm
Cooperation
EvaluatingRelationships
Chapter7TheHeartofaLeader...105
Leadingyourselfor3,000
InfluenceasaLifePrinciple
Teachability
DontBeAfraidOfTheTruth
Chapter8SuccessHacks....115
Whiteboard
FailureistheFoundationoftheWin
MentorsandFocus


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MistakesAreMagical
WinbyLeavingaLegacy
EveryoneisaSalesman
EmotionalBankAccounts
Chapter9PurifyYourPurpose..133
LifeMastery
TheRichManLie
EveryActionFeedsTheDream
IQEQSQ
GeniusBeginsinWonder
SpiritualQuotient
Chapter10GuidancetoStayTheCourse...147
BELIEFISATOOL
TheSystemsofEnslavement
ReadingtobeaSuccess
MasterConflictResolution
StopThis
NeverStopEvaluatingyourProgress
IWishIWas39Again
CelebrateVictories
TheDUHPrinciple
TeachyourWaytoPower
RoleRelationships


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Introduction

I was born in that world wherepovertyandignorancecause

great pain and suffering. There is hardly anyone able to
climb free from the darkness and cultural despair. The
journey to freedom and the bridge seemstobeuncrossable
fromtheotherside.

My life's desire was to find my way free of the destiny my

impoverished life had for me. Immediately after leaving that
world, a strong desire was borninmetohelppeoplecaught
inthetrapsandsnaresoflife.

Though I know poverty is agreatsnare,itsonlyoneoflifes

pains. You see, even those who live free from financial
impoverishment, still have emotional and spiritual crisis and
struggles.

The things commonly being presented as solutions are far

too often not making men free, but instead, enslaving them
to a life of servitude. Few are fully alive nor fully able to
dream. I desire to help you find the fullness of freedom. If
you will let me, I will also teach you how to help others find
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AccompanyingMaterial
I mention in this book the accompanying video training and
the Dream Planner workbook. You will find free versions on
my website as well as theabilityto buyaprintedcopyofthe
DreamPlanner
workbook.
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Chapter1
WelcometoYourDreamLife
LifeWithoutDreams
My life is dedicated to helping you find your
dreamsandachievegreatthings.Thisisoneofmy
mainmotivationsinlifebecause Iwasdestinedfor
failureanddeath.

As a highschool dropout, fatherless since the age

of two, without hope, without culture, training or
direction,mylifewassetforadesperateend.

During my highschool years, I was voted, Most

likely to die of a drug overdose. I so lacked the
toolsanddirectioninlifethatbythetimeIwas18,I
wassleeping ina friends closet,hidingtherewhile
hermomwashomeandonlycomingoutwhenshe
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In that closet, Ihadmyfirstepiphany. Whilesitting

inthedarkwaitingformynextbolognasandwichto
be passed under the door, I realized for the first
timethatI couldfigureoutwhatotherpeopledidto
becomesuccessfulandjustdothat.

The first story of success I told myself was this,

The guy who ownsthistwostoryhousethat Iam
hiding in, was just six years earlier a Cuban
refugee and had escaped imprisonment after his
familywasmurderedbyhisgovernment.Thisman
arrived to the USA not knowing the English
language, had no American education and no
connections. Butsixyearslater,hewasasurgeon
working for a top hospital in New Jersey and
making 150,000 a year. For 1977, that was huge
money.

Thisisthefirstpremiseofsuccess:Ifsomeone
can,socanyou. Youwould thinkthatgrowingup
in theUSA,Ihadalltherightfoundations.Instead,
here I was 18 years old, with twelve years of an
Americaneducation,andlivinginacloset.
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I have spent many, many years learning what it

takes tonotliveinsomeoneelse'sclosetandhave
gotten so goodat it,thatInow havededicatedmy
lifetohelpingothersgetfreefromtheirs.

DreamBasedLiving
This book is a culmination of 30 yearsofreading,
teaching and learning from those who are
achieving success. I have coached thousands of
entrepreneurs and families on these principles of
lifeandsuccess.

Any book to help you change, will require three

things.

Number one is MINDSET.

If you have stinking

thinking, you will fail no matter how much you

learn.

NumbertwoisSKILLSET,orwhatIliketocallthe
HACKS. These are the things people do towinin
life,gainfriendships,getrich,livehappy.
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NumberthreeisHABIT. Iadded tothisbookwhat

Ithink isthemissingpieceinmostselfhelpbooks:
the tools and techniques to make habit of the
things you learn and buildyourlifearoundwhatis
trulyimportant.

Statistics
I refuse to bore you with statistics, but I think itis
important for ustoknowhow prevalentsadnessis
withintodayssocietyandhowa booklikethiscan
add so much to our human experiences. As you
readthesepages,Idlikeyoutoconsiderandlearn
these skillsformorethan onereason:notjusthow
you can be better or more productive or find your
dreams, but also how to take these lessons as a
future guide into your community and help others
findfulfillment.

Many studieshavebeen donewithvaryingresults.

But the numbers I am about to show you are

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probably not far off from your experiences and of

peopleyouknow.

Studies show that 85% of the people who work,

dislike or hate their job. With couples, 50% of all
marriages end in divorce and many of those who
do remain married, are not excited about their
marriage andcurrentrelationships.Imentionthese
two examples since they are probably the most
studied and the most obvious. The point of these
examples is: almost 100% of these same people
entered into the new joborthemarriagewith very
high hopes and excitement. But something went
wrongandinsomecasessowrongtheywillnever
betrulyhappyagain.Letsfixthis.

OnlySixThingsRequired
With all the studies and all the selfhelp focus for
the last 100 years,therehasemergedalistofthe
top six things a person looks for to be happy and
fulfilled.

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The point ofthislistisnottoargue itsaccuracyor

whether it is complete, or even redundant. The
point of the list is to get you to take stock of your
life and help others to find where they might be
stuck. The list simply helps identify the top areas
forfocus.

Hereisthelist:
1) Certainty
2) Uncertainty
3) Significance
4) Connection
5) Growth
6) Contribution

Certainty: Most people get pretty stressed out if

there isnt a level of consistency in their life.Most
people need things to have a common feel or
familiarity for comfort. A life that does not have a
certain amount of order can cause chaos. Every
personis differentinhowmuchcertaintytheyneed
butweallneedit.
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Uncertainty: the opposite of certainty, but very

much needed to keep the soul alive and
wondering. The man who hasthesamejobfor30
years, driving the same route, and turning the
sameknobsatwork,seemstolosehissoul.

The wonderfully interesting thing about certainty

and uncertainty is how each person responds so
differently

what is perfectly comfortable and

exciting for one person, will cause great distress

for another. My wife and I are almostoppositesin
these as I love diversity and change and would
love to liveontheroadormoveevery sixmonths.
Sheontheotherhand,lovesconsistencyandwas
raised living in the same neighborhood, with the
same friends for21yearsofherlife.Weboth love
diversity and stability, but at such different levels
it'samazinghowthisonethingissopersonal.

Significance:Tomatter,tobeheard,ortomakea
difference in this life. How rewarding life is when
you matter, when people credit you for their
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success or salvation. The person who has strong

significance intheirlife,cansuffermany obstacles
and many disappointments because therewardof
significanceempowerstheirsoul.

Connection: The defining difference between the

introvert and theextrovertistheway manypeople
define
connection. Some arecontentandsatisfied
with a small group of very intimate friends and

others require a feeling of popularity and social

feedback.Either way,onceyoufindwhichoneyou
are, you are more able to design this life and not
be distracted by the environmentandyourcurrent
circumstances.

Growth:
The life of one who does not strive for

personal growth is lostto becomesomeone else's

imageorsomeoneelse'spictureofreality.Seemy
chapteronthePUSH.

Contribution: Can be similar to significance, but

has more of an anonymity and does not require
that you have recognition, but rather, a personal
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feeling of value. This trait is found more as we

become older and those in the grandparent
mindset, wherethesenseoffulfillmentcomesfrom
justbecomingacontributor.

Forthebrave ofheart,Iwouldaddfearlessnessto
the list. Much of the motivations in modern day
societyisfearbasedorfromalackbasedmindset.
Iwant toproposetoyouthatonceyouremovefear
fromyourlife,youwillseemoreclearlyandfindlife
tobefoundedonmorejoyousprinciples.

SuccessDefined
Many oftheexamplesandchartsusedinthisbook
can be found in my companion workbook called
the
Dream Planner
. You can buy a printed copy
from us or you can download some of the free
chartsandsampleshere:
www.billebert.com/planner/

One of the crisis with success teaching and

promoting success is the trap that success hasto
look a certain way. That you have to live in a
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certainsideoftownordriveacertaintypeofcaror
have the kinds of friends defined by some other
person's standards. We need to begin bydefining
what makes a person satisfied, capable and a
valuetoothers.

A person's dreams that are

layered or hidden by others
expectations or agendas, will
be lacking in fulfillment and
joy.
~BillEbert

Helpinga person findandfulfilltheirdreamsisone

of the greatest of goals, but it can be a bit tricky.
Let me help you avoid some of theobstacles and
giveyouanexampleinthefollowingstory.

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Andrea is a mom of 4, shes a beautiful woman,

whose husband and children adore her. She gets
to stay at home because her husband provides
enough money for hertonothavetoworkoutside
the home and she has chosen tohomeschoolher
children.

Everyone likes Andrea except Andrea. Her life is

full of service and shes immaculate and takes
detailed care of every area of life, shes a
superwomanofwomenandagoldmedalistifthere
wassuchathinginmommyhood.

All of her conversations revolve around her tasks

and the affairs of her kids. She avoids spending
money on anything for herself and never talks
about her needsorfeelings.Nowthiswould allbe
well and good if Andreas life choices were hers
and not built on others expectations. With just a
few conversations, it was apparent to me that
Andrea was not happy and was a slave to fear.
Fear of not doing enough or not measuring up or

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thatshewouldmake somegravemistakeandhurt
someoneoroffendsomeone.

In talking to her about her dreams, Andrea would

begin to cry and retell stories of her childhood
where others forced their expectations onherand
never let her find what she truly wanted to do or
become.

Now please, dont get me wrong, a life of service

and the care for others is, in my opinion, the
highest of occupations, and a person who
dedicates their life to the happiness of others isa
grand person indeed. But if that person is doing
those things out of a broken spirit or a feeling of
slavery, obligation or codependence, then the life
is not full and will more than likely echothesame
codependency in those they are hoping to
influence.

The scope of this book does not allow me to

address all the nuances and solutions for
codependency, but I would recommend a great
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book called,
Love is a Choice
, written by Dr.
Robert Hemfelt, Dr. Frank Minirth, and Dr. Paul
Meier.

ReallyHappy
In coaching people and families, I find a very
common storyevenwiththeapparentlysuccessful,
DIScontentment
. Finding you have climbed the
ladder of success only to discover it was leaning

against the wrong wall is devastating. We see it

manifest inmidlifecrisisandthe7yearitchand
many other terms society uses to explain the
symptomsofanunfulfilledlife.

Theremedyistodefineandpurifyyourpurposeas
earlyaspossibleandasoftenaspossible.

A life lived from a state of visionor dream isfilled

withpurpose and inspiration.Weareabletosuffer
the mundane tasks of life if we know that we are
doingitforagreaterpurposeorcalling.

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Chapter2
BeginByDreaming
BrainstormingDreamCasting
Itisinterestingthatthebestwaytobrainstormisto
turn off your brain. The technique found in this
chapterispivotal andshouldweavethroughallthe
months of your dreaming, your projects, and life's
adventures. The keys found here, if implemented
regularly, will keepyouontrackandhelp youstay
inthepassionzone.

As important as thischapterwillbe,somewillfind
it easy to complete while others will have
challenges brainstorming. So, whether you have
an easy time with brainstorming or a hard time, I
willhelpyoutraversethedreamandcomeoutwith
visionaryresolve.

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Below youwillseeapagefrommydreamplanner
workbook:

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Brainstorming is the first knock on yourdreaming.

It gives you the ability to clarify what you really
desiretodowithyourlifeandgivesyoupermission
todream.

Thebrainstormingstagebeginsbywritinganything
that comesto mindwithoutrationalizinghow,why,
orwhatitwilllooklike.

Thethreeprimarycategoriesasillustratedonthe
Brainstormingpage:

SKILLS, ACCOMPLISHMENTS, LEGACY, and

one subcategory, will help you jog your ideasand
help withwritingyour dreams. Forexample,there
may be SKILLS you may want to develop,maybe
youwanttoread700WPMor run sevenmilesper
day or speak on stage. ACCOMPLISHMENTS:
Write the things you want to seedonelikeplanta
garden, get a raise, or travel the world. LEGACY:
Write the things you want to leave behind when
you are gone.

Examples for legacy could be

building six orphanages, or writing a book to

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improve children's outlook on life, or building a

homeforwoundedveterans.

These titles or examples are not to restrict you in

anyway, but rather give you points to jog your
ideas. Itisperfectlyokayifyoulistaskillunderthe
accomplishments section or a legacy under the
skills section. Thinking is not important here, only
dreaming.

Ifindtherearetwoissues whenapersonattempts
the brainstorming exercise. The first, they have
toomany itemstowritedownthisis agoodthing.
Second, they have too few things to write down
and have trouble dreaming. Before we talkabout
both scenarios, lets first talk about the fourth
categoryonthepage,WHOAMI?

WhoamI?
The WHO AM I section, though its not directly
connected to your dreaming, is very important to
consider as you go through your life. This section

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is to help you define the picture you leave behind

whenyouleavearoom.

Do you know that when youleavearoom,people

talkaboutyou?Youknowthisistruebecauseyou
talkaboutpeoplewhentheyleavetheroom.Iwant
youtoconsiderthatyouhavecontroloverthestory
that most people have about you. Think about it
like your personal brand ortheessenceyou leave
whenpeoplemeetyou.

WhenIwasaveryyoung man,mygreatestdesire
was that whenever I entered or left the room, I
wanted people to take me seriously. HereIwasa
very smart kid, but people looked at me as
insignificantand ignoredmostofwhatIsaid.Iwas
determined to be heard and wanted tobethought
of as the smart guy in the room. This is a fairly
typical young guy desire, to be looked upon as
being smart. But as I got older and learned many
tricks ofcommunication andbuildingastoryasthe
smartguy,Irealizedthatitwasnotasvaluableto
be the smartguy. Itwaswaymorevaluabletobe
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theguywhocared.Thisisthepowerofcontinually
revisiting the brainstorming page as often as you
can because what you think is your best dream
canactuallybeadistractionandconsumethetime
you would be using to reach a higher purpose,
whichwewilladdressintheREFINEANDDEFINE
section.

RemoveDis
The prefix DIS in Roman mythology actually
meansGodoftheUnderworld.Weseethisprefix
in many of our English words. For example,
whenever we put the prefixDis infrontofcertain
words, it becomes a negative attribute such as,
dis
suading,
dis
ease,
dis
couragement,

or

dis
traction. DIS stops us from moving forward
and from finding our divinity, our calling and our
destiny.

Mastertheskillandchallengeyourselftodaytosee
if there are any areas in your life where you may
be able to remove the DIS from yourlife.Thisis
something that you can use for yourself, for your
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children, for your spouse or employees. As you

become more and more ofaleader,youwilllearn
Dis is one of the things thats keeping people
back. If you become a master of defining and
killing it, you become a master of destiny not only
foryou,butforthepeopleyoulead.

ThePush

The man who does not war

against decay, has subjected
his circumstances to lies and
death.
~BillEbert

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Everything in life requires a push. To do anything

great in life, requires a push. If you are going to
havebabyguesswhatyouhavetodo?

Life requires push. A blade of grass has to push,

the mountains push up, the rivers push down.
There's something always moving and pushing.
Like being an athlete, you're pushing against the
weightssomething opposing you. In life, there is
always something opposing you. If you stop
pushing in your marriage, you will have a
dysfunctional marriage. If you stoppushing onthe
job,youarenotgoingtogettheraise.

If we stop pushing in relationships, if we dont

continue improving, fixing or making relationships
better, they are going to decaythis is an
inescapable natureoflife.Leavesomethingalone,
like the most beautiful garden in the world, the
garden dies. The nature of growth, change or
mastery,isthenatureoflife,itiscalledthepush.

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WhatIwouldliketodoisreversewhat'shappening
in our culture: People don't want to push. They
dont speak in public, theydontbetterthemselves
noroffendthosewhoarenotpushingorstrivingfor
excellence.

Our current culture has made it culturally

unacceptabletopush.

It has become frowned upon to push others to

become better as its now called, Judging or
Don't make waves or have an opinion on what
might be right or wrong. More and more of the
world istakingonanonpushideology.Thisleaves
only the option for the things wevaluemosttobe
left to decay. Decay morally, decay intellectually,
anddecayofthecultureofindividualexcitementto
bethebestorthesmartestortoexcel.

There are so many reasons not to push, but you

must even push against the reasons. Push IS the
humanexperience,don'tapologize.Thewinnersin
allarenaspush.
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IfTheyCan,SoCanYou
The most inspirational start I see in individuals is
when they get that POP moment or when they
see someone doing something they would love to
doandrealizefor themselves,Iftheycandothat,
thensocanI.Thatwasmyfirstpopmomentwhile
hiding in my friends closet and throughout my
youth I saw over and over again that the people
who were doing amazing things, were not that
special, they were not superman nor wonder
woman. Many times, we make excuses saying to
ourselves,I'mnot assmartashim,orasprettyas
herormypersonalityisnot.

I can tell you for a certainty that, with only a few

exceptions, all the successful people I know are
not any better equippedthan the rest oftheworld.
They are not smarter or more confident or more
beautiful. What they do have is a work ethic or a
knowledge that helps them gain success, but you
need to start telling yourself that you can do
anything.Ifsomeonehas,thensocanyou.
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Hang around people and events that are training

success and you will see that within a very short
amount of time, you will find someone you can
relate to with a story that will help you find this
placeofICANDOTHIS.

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