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When Father
Knows Best
It’s a whole new ballgame for Bay Area stay-at-home dads
By Dana Young work via phone from his home office, which enables him to
actively participate in the raising of his two daughters.
They’ve heard it all: The “Mr. Mom” jokes, the quips Married for more than seven years, Maiocco and his wife,
about being able to spend the day watching ESPN. But for Sarah, who works for a financial software company, saw this
the thousands of Bay Area fathers who are primary care- as a wonderful opportunity for their family.
givers for their children, life is a lot more than fun and How do you and your wife differ on child-rearing
games – although there is a lot of that, too. issues?
Stay-at-home dads are everywhere, it seems, connected I’m the softy; she’s the one who lays down the law.
by technology to each other and supported by a Bay Area What are some of the joys?
culture that realizes flexibility is a necessity for today’s busy I’m around the girls a lot. I have been able to be with
parents. them and haven’t missed out on their growing up.
While it is difficult to find data on the number of Differences between SAHDs and SAHMs?
SAHDs in Northern California, Paul Banas, Founder of I had our littlest one enrolled in a one-day-a-week class
GreatDad.com and stay-at- at nursery school called “Mommy and Me.” Of course, I
home dad, says there could referred to it as “Daddy and Me,” but I was the only daddy
be well over 100,000 in the class.
SAHDs in the Bay Area Have you ever been referred to as a “Mr. Mom?”
alone, and 1 to 2 million I wear it like a badge of honor.
nationwide. While the U.S. One thing you want people to know about being an
Census reports only 159,000 at-home dad?
stay-at-home dads (see side- I think a lot of people are envious that I’m able to spend
bar p. 24), it excludes many so much time with my children and have developed such a
who are staying at home for strong relationship with them.
another primary reason – Top Bay Area spots to go with your kids?
they may work from home, I regularly take them to the Oakland Zoo – thank good-
or take classes at night, and ness for the yearly pass! We can spend hours at the chil-
can be available as the pri- dren’s portion of the zoo. Lindsay Wildlife Museum is a
mary caregiver. good spot just to walk around and observe the birds and
This month, in honor of animals.
Father’s Day 2008 and the
Matt Maiocco of Lafayette, with growing number of SAHDs, Seth Tator
daughters Lucie, 3, and Janie, 5.
we spoke with several Bay Several years before Seth Tator and his wife of six years
Area dads who “stay home” started a family, they looked at how they wanted to parent.
about the joys – and surprises – of their unique fatherhood. While they knew people who had invested a great deal of
time locating providers who are “like family,” they felt this
Matt Maiocco was the exception. “If you are going to have kids, then parent
Five years ago, Matt Maiocco, a Lafayette-based sports- them,” Tator says. “For us, turning over a newborn didn’t fit
writer who covers the San Francisco 49ers, took on a new that mold.” In order to make their decision work, Tator, a
assignment: stay-at-home dad to daughters Janie, 5, and former banker at Wells Fargo, began attending business
Lucie, 3. During the off-season, Maiocco handles the school on the weekends. He studies at night and is a SAHD
majority of the daytime parenting responsibilities. And, during the week to his two daughters, while his wife, a direc-
during the football season, he can conduct 95 percent of his tor of operations, works full-time outside the home.
Vijay Bhaskaran
Pleasanton resident Vijay Bhaskaran assumed the role
of full-time father twice. The first time was from June
2002 to October 2002, following the adoption of daugh-
ter Maya. In July 2007, Bhaskaran took on the primary
caregiver role once again because of his personal desire to
be a stay-home parent and share responsibility with his
wife Alna Chandnani, a manager at Cisco Systems.
Noting that the choice was not a financial one, Bhaskaran
says, “I had always desired to care for my children even
before we had kids.” A former technology marketing pro-
fessional, he currently manages the household and
attends business school in the evenings at U.C. Berkeley.
What’s the difference between you and your wife
regarding childrearing?
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their job and the other would stay home.”
When their son Hudson, now 1, was born, “it
made much more sense for me to quit my job
SAHD?
Feeling overwhelmed at times and feeling
sometimes like I have no idea what I’m doing.
perfect Nanny
Dads Online
We all know Dads like to play who change diapers change the world.”
on the Internet, and it has been a fertile SAHD-specific newsletter and clearinghouse
breeding ground for Web sites and blogs that provide resources, information, con-
dedicated to the adventures of stay-at- nections, community and networking for
• Personally screened home dads. Most provide information, stay-at-home dads.
• Detailed reference resources, connections and community to ■ Rebel Dad (rebeldad.com) – “The stay-at-
check the growing number of SAHDs in the Bay home dad revolution online.” An insightful
• Trustline Process, CPR, Area. And more than a few provide some and informative weblog by a former SAHD.
• Experienced, Reliable excellent (and often comedic) insight from
■ Doodaddy (Doodaddy.net) – “A San
Nannies, the get-go. Here are some of our favorites:
Francisco Stay-At-Home Dad Getting the
• No fee until Nanny is ■ GreatDad (greatdad.com) – “Because Dads Hang of Things.” Bay Area Parent columnist
placed! don’t always think like Moms.” A leading Graham Charles chronicles life as a stay-at-
source of experience, recommendations, home-dad to 2-year-old Fern.
Applications Welcome inspiration and advice for dads – delivered
■ East Bay Dads (eastbaydads.com) – A com-
Providing you with: from the male perspective. Founded by Bay
munity for dads in the East Bay, EBD is an
Full or Part Time Area Parent columnist Paul Banas.
energetic group of fathers with infants, tod-
Live-in or Out ■ Dad Labs (dadlabs.com) – “Taking back dlers, preschoolers and school-aged children.
Permanent Placement paternity.” An edgy, fun and informative
■ Mr. Dad (mrdad.com) – A Web site from
dad-focused Internet show and Web site that
parenting expert and Oakland resident
Visit our website features comedic and informative videos.
Armin Brott, founder of MrDad.com.
www.nannyconnection.com ■ At-Home Dad (athomedad.com) – “Men
925.743.0587 – Dana Young
By the Numbers
■ 66.3 million – Estimated number of fathers across
the nation today. (U.S. Census Bureau)
■ 26.4 million – Number of fathers who are part of
married-couple families with their own children under
the age of 18. (U.S. Census Bureau)
■ 159,000 – Estimated number of stay-at-home dads in
2006 (U.S. Census 2007). This is up 16,000 from 2005
(143,000 at-home dads, U.S. Census 2006). These married
fathers with children younger than 15 have remained out
of the labor force for more than one year and care prima-
rily for the family while their wives work outside the
home. According to the data:
■ 283,000 – children cared for in U.S. by SAHDs
■ 60% had two or more children
■ 40% had an annual family income of $50,000 or more
■ 35% had children younger than three years of age liv-
ing with them
■ 37% – Number of men in the workforce who would
consider “stay-at-home fatherhood” (careerbuilder.com)