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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
I would like to express my appreciation towards Dr. Zawacki, Dr. McNaughton-Cassill,
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Acknowledgements ........................................................................................................................ iv
Abstract ............................................................................................................................................v
List of Tables ............................................................................................................................... vii
List of Figures .............................................................................................................................. viii
Chapter One: Introduction ...............................................................................................................1
Chapter Two: Method ....................................................................................................................13
Participants .........................................................................................................................13
Procedure ...........................................................................................................................13
Measures ............................................................................................................................14
Chapter Three: Results ...................................................................................................................17
Chapter Four: Discussion ...............................................................................................................19
Appendices.....................................................................................................................................25
References ......................................................................................................................................43
Vita
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LIST OF TABLES
Table 1
Table 2
Table 3
Table 4
Table 5
Table 6
Table 7
Table 8
Table 9
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LIST OF FIGURES
Figure 1
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Larue, Schmidt, Eggers, Imhoff, & Schonbrodt, 2014; Seto, Lalumiere, Harris, Chivers, 2012).
As a result, much literature about BDSM defines sadomasochism itself as sexual violence
without qualifying the differences between groups of people who engage in BDSM.
Recent efforts by researchers have cast BDSM in a more favorable light, finding little or
no support for the previous pathologization of BDSM by the medical establishment (Connolly,
2006; Richters, de Visser, Rissel, Grulich, & Smith, 2008; Wismeijer & van Assen, 2013).
Richters et al. conducted an influential study over a large sample (n = 19,307) of respondents to a
national survey in Australia, where 1.8% of sexually active people reported engaging in some
BDSM activity. Overall, they found no differences in pathology between BDSM practitioners
and conventional respondents. Instead, BDSM practitioners were less likely to report distress on
the Kessler-10 psychosocial distress scale than the conventional respondents. Similarly,
Wismeijer and van Assen found that BDSM practitioners scored somewhat higher on the WHO5 Well-being Index than the non-BDSM control group. Currently, no scientific consensus has
emerged to explain these effects; higher self-reported well-being may potentially be due to
BDSM activities or differences in sex or personality. For instance, Connolly found higher rates
of narcissism among BDSM practitioners compared to a control group, which may have
implications for self-esteem and well-being. Damon (2002) found dominant heterosexual men
may have greater self-esteem and lower sexism than either submissive or conventional
heterosexual men. This effect may have occurred due to the role itself or due to violation of
masculinity norms. Collectively, these studies question the previous negative assumptions about
BDSM. Although these findings are not uniformly positive with regard to BDSM and health
outcomes, they allow for the possible interpretation that BDSM activities are simply a less
common or unusual sexual preference which are not well-understood at the current moment.
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However, existing studies have not examined the influence of relationship skills on relationship
satisfaction among individuals in BDSM relationships. As such, these studies have limited
applicability in understanding BDSM relationship dynamics or predicting happy BDSM
relationships.
Qualitative investigation into BDSM has found promising emergent themes on the
expression of BDSM desire and the construction of consensual relationships. Common
discursive structures include strict attention to consensuality, a temporary imbalance of power in
the form of dominance and submission (often referred to as power exchange), role playing,
sexual arousal, and mutual definition (Moser & Kleinplatz, 2007; Taylor & Ussher, 2001;
Weinberg, Williams, & Moser, 1984). Consensuality requires that all participants in BDSM play
give their informed consent throughout the agreed-upon activities. Consent and awareness of
physical and emotional boundaries are often maintained by prior negotiation and active
communication before, during, and after play. Oftentimes, consensuality is maintained through
the explicit use of a safeword, a phrase which unambiguously revokes consent to all BDSM
activities. Power exchange involves one partner taking on a dominant role and another partner
taking on a submissive role, whereby the dominant partner gives the submissive partner intense
sensations (e.g. flagellation, bondage, etc.) enacts a particular role play. BDSM often involves
sexual arousal, but does not necessarily require genital contact in order to enact (Richters et al.,
2008); in fact, purely psychological role play may involve no physical contact whatsoever
(Hebert & Weaver, 2015). Finally, BDSM is also mutually defined; both partners determine the
limits and boundaries of the BDSM context (e.g. a submissive is not necessarily submissive to
complete strangers, masochists dont necessarily enjoy stubbing their toes, etc.).
differences, alternative relationships must justify their existence to institutions which hold the
discursive power to medicalize and pathologize different ways of being and relating. Second,
distinctions between happy and unhappy BDSM relationships remain relatively unknown.
Although there is a growing conceptual understanding of relationship structures in BDSM, there
are no studies which quantify the relationship between BDSM dynamics and relationship
satisfaction. As a result, there are few ways to assess and predict relationship satisfaction which
adequately account for the consensual power exchange elements that are often mixed with
negative conceptualizations of sadomasochism. In other words, existing literature focuses on the
sexual elements of BDSM (e.g. whipping, bondage, humiliation) without regard to relationship
qualities also present in normative relationships (e.g. communication, respect, compatibility).
Predictors of positive and negative relationship outcomes of normative relationships may also
apply to BDSM relationship outcomes, and traditional models of social relationships may better
explain relationship outcomes than differences in sexuality.
Social exchange theory posits that people aim to maximize their rewards and minimize
their costs in social interactions (Sabatelli, 1988). People choose to participate in a particular
relationship because it provides a satisfactory level of outcomes compared to other available
relationships. These outcomes are frequently evaluated in terms of a persons perception of their
partners own attributes (e.g. physical attractiveness) and the quality of their relationship (e.g. the
levels of love experienced). Additionally, outcomes are evaluated with reference to a persons
comparison level (CL), which represents the outcomes a person believes they are entitled to
hold; outcomes falling above or below a subjective standard determine a persons satisfaction
with a relationship. A persons overall satisfaction with a relationship may rise and fall as their
comparison level changes, even if the rewards and costs stay the same. Interpersonal satisfaction
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is typically measured in terms of global sexual satisfaction and global relationship satisfaction
(Lawrance, Byers, & Cohen, 2011), which are in turn evaluated with respect to other
characteristics of interpersonal relationships.
Communication has frequently been associated with the interpersonal satisfaction
(Holman & Jarvis, 2003; Byers, 2005; Mark & Jozkowski, 2013). For example, MacNeil and
Byers (2009) found that more communication is associated with greater relationship satisfaction
in heterosexual couples. Sexual self-disclosure was associated with greater sexual satisfaction. In
line with social exchange theory, it was theorized that disclosure of sexual preferences allows
couples to understand and reconcile their disparate sexual preferences, thereby facilitating couple
interactions which maximize sexual rewards and minimize sexual costs for both partners.
Similarly, Holman and Jarvis (2003) found that among four couple-conflict types, positive
communication and relationship satisfaction were lowest among couples who were hostile to
each other during conflict and highest among couples who validated each other during conflict.
Litzinger and Gordon (2005) also found that marital satisfaction was independently predicted by
communication and sexual satisfaction. Interestingly, when communication was high, sexual
satisfaction did not contribute to marital satisfaction. However, marital satisfaction was higher
when communication was low and sexual satisfaction was high than when both predictors were
low, suggesting that sexual satisfaction may somewhat compensate for the absence of
communication. Since communication is a frequent topic of discussion in BDSM discourse
(Taormino, 2012), it stands to reason that communication may be pertinent to BDSM
relationship outcomes, especially when viewed through social exchange theory.
Sexual compatibility may also be a significant factor in relationship satisfaction. In line
with social exchange theory, sexual compatibility may reflect the amount of reward and cost to
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role may be a key distinction in predicting satisfaction in BDSM relationships. However, respect
remains a relatively understudied concept in relationship literature, and these ideas are yet to be
explored.
Motivation to participate in BDSM may also be an important determinant of relationship
satisfaction. Until recently, academics and laypersons alike assumed that women did not
participate in BDSM for their own pleasure, but instead were pressured by their male dominant
partners. (Breslow, Evans, & Langley, 1986; as cited by Rehor, 2015). Contrary to this belief,
Rehor (2015) found in an international sample of women from kink communities (n = 1,580) that
most of the women participated in or watched any of 126 sexual or BDSM activities for their
own enjoyment. For instance, 86% of women participated in moderate bondage for their own
enjoyment, 77% participated in physical humiliation, and 75% participated in whipping. Yost
and Hunter (2012) describe how BDSM practitioners related their motivation to participate in
BDSM through essentialist and constructionist narratives. Participants reported intrinsic
motivations through essentialist narratives (e.g. they felt BDSM was a natural, core part of their
sexuality), extrinsic motivations through constructionist narratives (e.g. they were introduced to
BDSM by others), and neither (e.g. they didnt describe their motivation with intrinsic or
extrinsic terms). Additionally, a small number of participants described being introduced to
BDSM by others, but then experiencing an interest as an essential part of themselves (called
socialized essentialism). Men were somewhat more likely to view their participation as an
essential expression of their sexuality, while women were more likely to view their desires as a
socially constructed. Findings of differences in motivation to participate in BDSM challenge
harmful stereotypes about BDSM practitioners and demonstrate that motivation exists on a
continuum. However, these studies fall short of interpreting BDSM motivation within existing
motivational frameworks.
Self-determination theory (SDT; Knee, Hadden, Porter, & Rodriguez, 2013) offers a
promising explanation for different motivations to participate in BDSM. SDT posits that being
self-determined means that ones actions are relatively autonomous, freely chosen, and fully
endorsed by the person rather than coerced or pressured by external forces or internal
expectations (p. 307). A key feature of SDT is that motivation exists on a continuum ranging
from intrinsic to extrinsic, rather than an intrinsic-extrinsic dichotomy. This continuum reflects
the degree to which the self regulates involvement. SDT identifies kinds of behavioral regulation
ranging from least to most self-determined: amotivation, external regulation, introjected
regulation, identified regulation, integrated regulation, and intrinsic motivation. Amotviation
describes lack of self-regulation to participate in an activity (e.g. Jack doesnt know why hes
dating Jill). External regulation involves contingent rewards or punishments for behavior (e.g.
Jack is dating Jill because her family is wealthy). Introjected regulation occurs when internal
pressures such as shame and guilt arise (e.g. Jack is dating Jill because he feels guilty). Identified
regulation requires acceptance and valuing the target behavior as part of ones own identity (e.g.
Jack is dating Jill because he feels he chooses to be and values the commitments he made with
her). Integrated regulation occurs when behaviors resonate with higher order or overarching
identities (e.g. Jack endorses a principle to grow, and his relationship with Jill helps him adhere
to this principle). Finally, intrinsic motivation occurs when a behavior is completely selfdetermined only for the innate satisfaction of the behavior itself (e.g. Jack is dating Jill because
of the many wonderful experiences theyve shared together). External regulation and introjected
regulation are conceptually grouped as controlled motivations, while identified, integrated, and
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intrinsic motivation are conceptually grouped as autonomous motivations. (Gaine & La Guardia,
2009). Having more self-determined reasons for being in a relationship has been linked with
higher relationship satisfaction (Blais, Sabourin, Boucher, & Vallerand, 1990). Similarly, selfdetermined motivation for specific relationship activities (e.g. sexual intercourse) accounted for
unique variance in relationship well-being (Gaine & La Guardia, 2009). Altogether, motivation
for specific relationship activities and general motivation to be in a relationship accounted for
80% of the variance in relationship satisfaction. If BDSM relationships follow general models of
relationships, then it follows that motivation to participate in BDSM activities may also predict
relationship satisfaction in BDSM relationships. Additionally, psychosocial effects from BDSM
role differences (Wismeijer & van Assen, 2013) and gender differences (Richters et al., 2008)
may be explained by differences in motivation (Yost & Hunter, 2012). For instance, male
dominants may be more likely to report positive outcomes due to relatively autonomous
motivation to participate in BDSM compared to female submissives. Consequently, variation in
interpersonal satisfaction due to apparent differences in sex or BDSM role may in fact be due to
variation in motivation.
The current study investigated the association among communication, respect for ones
partner, sexual compatibility, motivation to participate in BDSM activities, and relationship
satisfaction. Social exchange theory predicts that interpersonal satisfaction increases as a
function of increasing rewards and decreasing gains, while self-determination theory predicts
that overall relationship satisfaction will increase as motivation to participate in a relationship
becomes increasingly self-determined (i.e. intrinsically motivated). If BDSM relationships
resemble relationships in general, then one or both models will likely explain variance in
relationships satisfaction. Additionally, sex and BDSM role were examined as factors related to
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relationship outcome. Although differences in sex and BDSM role were detected in psychosocial
measures for previous studies (Damon, 2002; Richters, et al., 2008; Wismeijer & van Assen,
2013), it was not clear whether these factors would have an effect on interpersonal satisfaction.
Consequently, the additive and interactive effects of sex and BDSM role on interpersonal
satisfaction were investigated.
Based on the literature reviewed above, we hypothesized the following effects:
1. Higher sexual communication, respect towards ones partner, sexual compatibility, and
motivation for relationship activities (MRA) are associated with higher overall
interpersonal satisfaction with intimate partners.
2. Dominants are more likely to report interpersonal satisfaction in relationships than
switches or submissives, while switches are more likely to be report interpersonal
satisfaction in relationships than submissives. Men are expected to report more
interpersonal satisfaction than women (see Figure 1).
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and sexual and BDSM practices. Participation was anonymous. Participants recruited through
social media were given a hyperlink directing them to the consent form and questionnaire page.
Following recruitment, participants were prompted to fill out the survey hosted at
Surveymonkey.com. Participants were instructed to complete the survey alone. To account for
partner influence, participants were instructed to complete the survey in isolation from their
partner and were asked if their partner has already completed the survey. Participants completed
the survey in the following order: Demographic information, relationship information, BDSM
information, Respect Toward Partner Scale, Dyadic Sexual Communication Scale, Hurlbert
Index of Sexual Compatibility, Motivation for Relationship Activities Scale, Interpersonal
Exchange Model of Sexual Satisfaction Questionnaire.
Measures
The survey includes measures for basic socio-demographic information, relationship
information, and BDSM information. The relationship information includes items regarding the
duration and level of commitment (e.g. married, dating, single) of the respondents current
relationship. The BDSM information section consists of both closed (e.g. Which of the
following best describes you: Dominant, Switch, or Submissive?) and open-ended (e.g. How
do you identify in terms of BDSM/kink orientation?) questions about BDSM identity (Yost &
Hunter, 2012), the types of fetishes and BDSM play done within the relationship, the duration
and boundaries for the BDSM aspects of the relationship (e.g. 24/7 slave, Dominant while in
private, endorsement of SSC/RACK, etc.), and the frequency of sexual and BDSM activity (e.g.
How many times per month do you engage in [sex/BDSM play] with your significant other?).
The means, standard deviations, and Cronbachs alphas are displayed on Table 2; overall,
reliability was good for both predictor and dependent variables.
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Items (e.g. I respect my partner) are rated on a 5-point scale from 1 (strongly agree) to 5
(strongly disagree). Items are averaged to produce a score.
Motivations for Relational Activities Scale (MRA). The MRA (Gaine & La Guardia,
2009) is a 102 item Likert-type scale which assesses four subscales for sources of motivation for
participating in relationship activities (external regulation, introjected regulation, identified
regulation, and intrinsic motivation) and six subscales for different relationship domains (sexual
intimacy, physical intimacy, self-disclosure, social support, instrumental support, niceties, and
life aspirations). Items (e.g. "Why do you engage in sexual activity (petting, oral sex, or
intercourse) with your partner?/Because I expected it to be interesting and exciting") are rated on
a 7-point scale ranging from from 1 (Not at all true) to 7 (Very true). Items are clustered into
autonomous activity motivation (identified and intrinsic) and controlled activity motivation
(external and introjected) factors. For the purposes of this study, only the 14-item sexual
intimacy subscale, the 14-item physical intimacy subscale, the 13-item disclosure of feelings
subscale, and the 13-item disclosure of thoughts subscale were used for this study and edited to
include BDSM items (e.g. Why do you engaging in sexual activity (petting, oral sex, or
intercourse) or BDSM activity (bondage, sadomasochism, sensual roleplay) with your partner?).
Autonomous and controlled subscales are separately averaged to produce a score.
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Scale labels were mistakenly switched. This error was not caught until data collection was in progress.
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the variance in relationship satisfaction, F (9, 245) = 17.280, p < .001.Many predictors which
were significant at the bivariate level were nonsignificant in the regression models. Sexual
compatibility emerged as a significant predictor of both sexual satisfaction (t = 6.651; p < .001)
and relationship satisfaction (t = 2.469, p = .014). Respect towards partner emerged as a
significant predictor of relationship satisfaction (t = 5.031; p < .001). Sexual communication
emerged as a significant predictor of sexual satisfaction (t = 3.368; p = .001) and relationship
satisfaction (t = 2.711; p = .007). Autonomous motivation to disclose thoughts emerged as a
significant predictor of relationship satisfaction (t = 2.489; p = .013). Controlled motivation to
disclose thoughts emerged as a significant, negative predictor of relationship satisfaction (t = 3.023; p = .003).
Next, a MANOVA was conducted to examine hypothesis 2 regarding the effects of sex
and BDSM role on interpersonal satisfaction. Observed power was generally low (Sex = .135,
Role =.251, Sex * Role = .311; calculated in SPSS 22.0) due to low overall numbers of certain
cells (Table 6). No significant effects were observed in the MANOVAs (Table 7). Subsequent
one-way ANOVAs also failed to reveal significant effects and also displayed low power (Tables
8 and 9). Regardless, no effect of sex or BDSM role was found.
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Reddit.com and Fetlife.com, two unique websites with substantially different communities.
Furthermore, I was able to recruit from many different groups within Fetlife (e.g. groups catered
towards people unfamiliar to BDSM, groups for specific intersections of role, gender/sex, and
sexual orientation, etc.), contributing to the overall diversity of the study. Finally, this study was
informative of the demographics of respondents; it was initially expected that women would be a
less accessible demographic due to a perceived unwillingness to respond to a survey of this
nature. Although female dominants were the smallest group in our study, female submissives in
fact comprised the largest group by a substantial margin. This, along with the generally high
ratings of autonomous motivation somewhat suggests that women in the BDSM community may
play a more active role in the BDSM community than critics would believe (Breslow, Evans, &
Langley, 1986; as cited by Rehor, 2015). Nearly half of all respondents identified as bisexual or
pansexual, which was substantially higher than certain population estimates (Gates, 2011). The
demographics observed in these study may be pertinent to future studies regarding BDSM
populations, since diverse samples may require more care than common subject pools.
There were few key limitations which must be considered with the current study. First
and foremost, the study design did not include a non-BDSM practicing control group as a
comparison. As such, differences or similarities between relationship practices and interpersonal
satisfaction in BDSM and non-BDSM practicing relationships cannot be inferred. Second, the
cross-sectional design of the study provides only a brief snapshot of BDSM relationships and
does not account for changes in interpersonal satisfaction over time. Third, the participants were
not recruited from a random sample, but a relatively small, self-selected pool of participants.
This limitation was due in part to the secluded nature of BDSM communities. Previous work has
circumvented this limitation in large, nation-wide studies (e.g. Richters et al., 2008). As this was
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not possible for the current study, participants from multiple sites and sub-communities were
recruited. Consequently, interpersonal satisfaction was skewed towards high satisfaction, with no
truly unsatisfied respondents (i.e. restriction of range). Generalizability may be further limited by
low numbers of certain participants (e.g. female dominants), leading to a sample which was not
truly representative of the population. However, this may also add the benefit of reaching
previously unexplored pockets of the BDSM community, since Reddit.com and Fetlife.com have
been seldom utilized in research. Fourth, the current study elicited complaints from participants
who noted their concerns in comments at the end of the study. Length was the most common
complaint; however, a number of participants suggested that the measures did not adequately
reflect their role, gender, or relationship status. Indeed, the study design may be seen as clumsy
in light of the fact that most measures were designed for heterosexual, monogamous, nonBDSM-practicing couples when the population in question was anything but this. Finally, the
motivation to engage in sexual activities was dropped due to experimenter error. Fortunately, the
other similar motivation measures produced the expected effects, mitigating the potential damage
of this error.
With these limitations in mind, there are many promising paths for future BDSM
research. There is a lack of relationship measures which have been tailored to the nuances of
queer, nonmonogamous, BDSM-practicing relationships. Research designs and instruments
which may be appropriate to non-BDSM practicing couples may not be appropriate with BDSM
in mind. For example, some participants voiced their concerns that BDSM is not inherently
sexual or does not always involve inherently sexual activities (e.g. oral sex, intercourse).
Nonmonogamous respondents were forced into the inelegant decision of either responding to the
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survey with only one partner in mind or not completing the survey. Indeed, the lack of
appropriate measures may have contributed to frustration and subsequent participant attrition.
Similarly, the underlying structure and common features of BDSM and nonmonogamous
relationships has yet to be explored. Although BDSM practitioners frequently engage in roleplay,
sadomasochism, and bondage over the course of their relationship, these behaviors may occur in
isolation during any one physical encounter. It seems likely that there are clusters of related
behaviors (e.g. spanking and whipping cluster in a sadomasochism cluster), and that different
clusters of behavior may be associated with different subjective experiences or different
perceived benefits. For example, sadomasochism may be especially likely to elicit endorphins
from participants, which may lead to feelings of subjective relief (Hebert & Weaver, 2015)
whereas roleplay activities may engage different processes and different rewards. Thus,
examining the underlying structure of different BDSM and nonmonogamous relationships and
investigating the effects of these structures on behavior and relationship outcomes may provide
insight into what makes BDSM and nonmonogamy rewarding for some people and not others.
The effects of BDSM communities is also worth investigating. As previously mentioned,
BDSM communities provide locations for BDSM practitioners to give and receive support and
engage in discussion regarding their sexualities. However, not all BDSM practitioners gravitate
towards the same kinds of communities (e.g. online versus offline), if at all. For example, a
college student with a preference for spanking may never seek out support from a BDSM
community, if theyre even aware of the existence of such like-minded folk. Furthermore,
different communities likely have different norms regarding interpersonal behavior (e.g.
communication), gender politics, and policing of sexual predators. As such, it is entirely possible
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that the influence of social communities have substantial direct and indirect effects on
interpersonal satisfaction as well as individual well-being.
Despite these limitations, the current study supported the idea that BDSM relationships
have relationship structures consistent with social exchange theory and self-determination
theory. Communication, compatibility, respect, and autonomous motivation were associated at
the bivariate level with higher interpersonal satisfaction, while the simultaneous linear regression
model captured a significant proportion of variance in interpersonal satisfaction. Sex and BDSM
role were not associated with differences in interpersonal satisfaction. Altogether, the current
study contributes to sexualities literature by providing insight into the machinations of BDSM
relationships and suggesting that BDSM relationships largely follow the same theoretical
tendencies as other relationships, even when structural differences are present.
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APPENDIX A
Interpersonal Satisfaction
5
4
3
2
1
0
Dominant
Switch
Male
Submissive
Female
25
Frequency
Percent
79
176
31.0
69.0
55
71
129
21.6
27.8
50.6
220
4
4
9
14
4
86.3
1.6
1.6
3.5
5.5
1.6
130
18
101
6
51.0
7.1
39.6
2.4
28
103
54
34
28
11.0
40.4
21.2
13.3
11.0
26
2.714
1.641
.685
83.906
9.034
.862
4.675
.577
.897
6.598
.608
.888
2.420
1.001
.778
5.872
.899
.911
2.652
1.162
.793
6.525
1.162
.875
2.124
.964
.726
33.302
2.09
.880
33.384
2.233
.920
1.
.207**
.157*
.243**
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
.412**
.336**
.151*
-.017
.190**
.134*
-.003
-.208** -.107
.083
.587**
.138*
.288**
.279**
.534**
.029
.705**
.028
-.055
-.279** -.149*
-.001
.546**
.134*
.713**
.024
.242**
.414**
.553**
.402**
.346**
.330**
-.075
-.149*
.312**
.313**
-.083
-.099
.334**
.415**
.273**
.409**
.359**
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7.
8.
9.
10.
.080
.401***
.190**
.106
.055
.089
-.029
.027
-.006
Submissive
16 (6.3%)
113 (44.3%)
p
.597
.539
.418
28
F
.000
.049
29
p
.993
.826
.820
.44
2
.29
6
1.22
4
Power
.050
.056
Powe
r
.190
.266
APPENDIX B
Background Questionnaires
Are you male or female?
o Male
o Female
Please indicate gender other than male/female if applicable: __________
Is your partner male or female?
o Male
o Female
Please indicate gender other than male/female, if applicable: __________
What is your age?
o 17 or younger
o 18-20
o 21-29
o 30-39
o 40-49
o 50-59
o 60 or older
Are you White, Black or African-American, American Indian or Alaskan Native, Asian, Native
Hawaiian or other Pacific islander, or some other race?
o White
o Black or African-American
o American Indian or Alaskan Native
o Asian
o Native Hawaiian or other Pacific Islander
o From multiple races
o Some other race (please specify):__________
Which of the following best describes your sexual orientation?
o Heterosexual
o Homosexual
o Bisexual or Pansexual
o Asexual
Which of the following BDMS roles best describes you?
o Dominant/Top
o Switch
o Submissive/Bottom
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If needed, describe how you identify in terms of BDSM role (e.g. Dominant, Mistress, Slave,
etc.): __________
Which of the following BDMS roles best describes your partner?
o Dominant/Top
o Switch
o Submissive/Bottom
If needed, describe how your partner identifies in terms of BDSM role (e.g. Dominant, Mistress,
Slave, etc.): __________
1. I respect my partner
2. I am interested in my
partner as a person
3. I am a source of healing for
my partner
4. I honor my partner
5. I approve of the person my
partner is
6. I communicate well with
my partner
Strongly
Agree
Agree
Neither
Agree Nor
Disagree
Disagree
Strongly
Disagree
All of the
time
4
Most of
the time
3
Some of
the time
2
Rarely
Never
31
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1. My partner rarely
responds when I want
to talk about our sex
life
2. Some sexual matters
are too upsetting to
discuss with my sexual
partner
3. There are sexual issues
or problems in our
sexual relationship that
we have never
discussed
4. My partner and I never
seem to resolve our
disagreements about
sexual matters
5. Whenever my partner
and I talk about sex, I
feel like they are
lecturing me
6. My partner often
complains that I am not
very clear about what I
want sexually
Strongly
Disagree
1
Disagree
Somewhat
Agree
4
Agree
Somewhat
Disagree
3
Strongly
Agree
6
33
34
35
Why do you engage in physical intimacy (i.e. hug, kiss, cuddle) with your partner?
Not
At
All
True
1
Untrue
Somewhat
Untrue
Neutral
Somewhat
True
True
Very
True
3. Because I am very
attracted to my partner
and desire to be in
physical contact with
them
4. Because it increases the
intimacy and closeness
in our relationship
5. Because physical
intimacy helps us stay
connected and fosters
emotional closeness
between us
6. Because I believe it is a
healthy aspect of a
good relationship
7. Because it symbolizes
our togetherness, which
is something I value
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Untrue
Somewhat
Untrue
Neutral
Somewhat
True
True
Very
True
1. Because I find it
exciting to explore my
innermost feelings
with my partner
Not
At
All
True
1
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3. Because I find it
interesting to talk
about my feelings
with my partner
4. Because it is
important to me that I
can share my feelings
with my partner
5. Because I value being
open about my
feelings in my
relationship
6. Because being in-tune
with each other's
feelings helps our
relationship stay on
track
7. Because when my
partner shares his/her
feelings, I feel
obligated to share
some of mine
8. Because that's what
my partner expects me
to do
9. Because people are
supposed to share
their feelings in
relationships
10. Because my partner
nags me until I tell
them what I'm feeling
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Why do you share your thoughts and concerns with your partner?
Not
At
All
True
1
Untrue
Somewhat
Untrue
Neutral
Somewhat
True
True
Very
True
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7. Because talking to my
partner gives me a
new perspective on
my problems and
helps me deal with
them
8. Because I sometimes
feel guilty if I keep
my thoughts private
9. Because I worry my
partner will think I'm
dumb or boring if I
don't share my
thoughts
10. Because when my
partner shares their
thoughts, I feel like I
have to share mine
11. Because my partner
won't stop asking me
questions unless I tell
them what I'm
thinking
12. Please mark this
question as "Very
True"
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1.
Very Bad
1
2.
Very
Unpleasant
1
3.
Very
Negative
1
4.
5.
Bad
2
Somewhat
Bad
3
Neutral
4
Somewhat
Good
5
Unpleasant
2
Somewhat
Unpleasant
3
Somewhat
Neutral Pleasant
4
5
Negative
2
Somewhat
Negative
3
Somewhat
Neutral Positive
4
5
Good
6
Very
Good
7
Pleasant
6
Very
Pleasant
7
Positive
6
Very
Positive
7
Very
Somewhat
Somewhat
Very
Unsatisfying Unsatisfying Unsatisfying Neutral Satisfying Satisfying Satisfying
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Somewhat
Not
Not
Somewhat
Very
Worthless
Valuable
Valuable
Neutral Valuable Valuable Valuable
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
1.
Very Bad
1
Bad
2
Somewhat
Bad
3
2.
Very
Unpleasant
1
Unpleasant
2
Somewhat
Unpleasant
3
Neutral
4
3.
Very
Negative
1
Negative
2
Somewhat
Negative
3
Neutral
4
4.
5.
Somewhat
Neutral
Good
4
5
Good
6
Very
Good
7
Somewhat
Pleasant
5
Pleasant
6
Very
Pleasant
7
Somewhat
Positive
5
Positive
6
Very
Positive
7
Very
Somewhat
Somewhat
Very
Unsatisfying Unsatisfying Unsatisfying Neutral Satisfying Satisfying Satisfying
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Somewhat
Not
Not
Somewhat
Very
Worthless
Valuable
Valuable
Neutral Valuable Valuable Valuable
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
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VITA
Alexander Wang is from San Antonio, TX. They earned a Bachelor of Arts in
Psychology at Lawrence University and Master of Science in Psychology from The University of
Texas at San Antonio. Their research interests pertain to the psychology of gender, sexualities,
and relationships. Their future plans include attending a doctoral program, engaging in
relationship and sexualities research, and practicing therapy oriented towards sexual minorities.