7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

Unit
Habits:
Intro

Learning
Goals/Quotes
LEARNING GOALS
Understand classroom
rules and procedures
Understand habits:
-- Repeated behaviors
that we do without
thinking much about
them
-- Can be hard to
change
-- Can be good or bad
or neither
Orientation

Classroom Orientation/Class Rules

Notebooks for daily prompt
HO: Classroom orientation notes [update to include
journal work]
HO: About me questions NEED TO PREPARE
Brainstorm the problems of middle school (need large
paper)
Lesson: What is a Habit?
Comfortable, unthinking way of doing something
Class demonstration: fold your arms two ways
HO: Habits Worksheets (1)-(3)
The Power of Habit (Ted Talk)
#2 7 Habits of Highly Defective Teens (reading)
#4 ID healthy or unhealthy habits (requires video)
7 Habits Inspirational Video: Introduction Video

Habits: Effective &

Defective
Intro pp 3-9

Good Habits/Bad Habits

Identify bad habits and describe good habits you would
like to replace them with

QUOTES

[Students good habit goals will generally be very vague. Have them
keep the list in their journals until we get to Habit 2 so they can learn
how to break out the vague hopes into SMART goals.]

Most people don't have that

willingness to break bad
habits. They have a lot of
excuses and they talk like
victims. Quote #4

Paradigm

Assignments/Activities

LEARNING GOALS

What is a Paradigm?

Openers
Define habit
Create a list of good
habits; Why do you keep
those habits in your life?
I.e., what are the good
results you get from this
habit?
List 3 habits that helped
you get to school on
time this morning.
Name one habit that
makes it more difficult
for you to get to school.
What are good eating
habits?
What bad habits might
affect you at school?
What good habits would
make your parents
happy? How many of
those habits do you
currently practice?
What keeps you from
practicing them all?

Explain the QOTW

Understand paradigm
-- a view or interpretive
orientation towards life
that affects thinking
and behavior.
-- We may or may not
know what our
paradigms are
-- They can change with
intention or new
information
--They may serve us
well or may hinder our
effectiveness

Week 2 Quotes
The way you treat yourself
sets the standard for others.
Sonya Friedman Quote
#15
We cant solve problems by
using the same kind of
thinking we used when we
created them. Albert
Einstein
Quote #26

Use the glasses analogy to explain paradigms.

Paradigms are habits of thought
Paradigms can be useful or not - read (aloud?) pages 1416 (examples of how paradigms serve or dont serve us.)
Paradigms of Life Group Teaching Assignment
friend-centered; stuff-centere d; Boyfriend/girlfriendcentered; school centered; Parent-centered; [Other
possible centers]
Video: Get Service
HO #5 (Paradigms) and #6 (Paradigm Shifts)(2-sided)
HO: Worksheet #2, Paradigm Worksheets (1)-(3)
Video: Stuck on an Escalator
Use Shifting Paradigms power point presentation to
demonstrate how we can get stuck in our thinking and
how shifts happen
HO: #7 -- Principles Never Fail
Podcast: Principles make you memorable The Moth,
Juggling and Jesus
Paradigms & Principles 11-28

Identify one limiting

paradigm in your life,
like Im not outgoing.
Why do you have it and
how could you change it
to make things better for
yourself?
OR
Think on one thing you
could do today that
totally contradicts that
paradigm.
Are your paradigms
helping or hindering
you?
Explain how paradigms
are like the lenses in a
pair of glasses.
Describe a situation
where you might see the
world through a
paradigm of kindness.

PBA

Habit 1
Be
Proactive

LEARNING GOALS
Understand personal
bank account
-- A metaphor for
tracking self-esteem
and good or bad actions
-- Something that can
have a high balance or
be overdrawn
-- Identify deposits and
withdrawals from your
personal bank account.

LEARNING GOALS
Taking Control of
Yourself
1. Understand the
difference between
proactive and reactive
language
2. Understand what
aspects of a situation
lie within your control
3. Understand the
capacity to react
differently to situations.
4. Learn about
pressing pause before

Personal Bank Account

HO: Worksheet #3 PBA (1)-(3)
Reading: Personal Bank Acct. pp. 31-46

What does it mean to

keep a promise to
yourself? Why might it
be hard to keep such
promises? Describe a
situation in which you
failed to keep a promise
to yourself.
Choose one area of your
life where you realized
you need to begin to
make PBA deposits or
one area of your life
where you would like to
begin to make PBA
deposits.

I. Introduction
HO #2b Both sides for reading
Videos:
Proactive vs. Reactive by Michelle White
Habit 1: Be Proactive by Leila Kim
Class discussion: victimhood, soda vs. water, reflexes at the
doctor

pp 47-72
II: Your Language
Words make a difference including the words we use in
our head
Words Like a Rube of Toothpaste video
Chiefs Morning Motivational
Proactive/reactive language Table Discussion (Handout)

Describe how a bank

account functions. What
information do bank
records help people
keep track of?
Re-write reactive
scenarios
Describe a situation
where you felt like a
VICTIM.
List 5 people who have
talents you admire
Learning about proactive
and reactive behaviors
will be most useful to
me . . .
Learning about what I
can control will be most
useful to me . . .
Describe a situation

making a decision how

to react.
5. Learning how to
create new options for
behavior using the
four human tools
Habit 1 Quotes
You need to learn how to
select your thoughts just the
same way you select your
clothes every day. This is a
power you can cultivate. If
you want to control things in
your life so bad, work on the
mind. Thats the only thing
you should be trying to
control. Quote #18
Be careful how you are
talking to yourself because
you are listening
Quote #9
The victim mindset dilutes
the human potential. By not
accepting personal
responsibility for our
circumstances, we greatly
reduce our power to change
them. Quote #17
You are always responsible
for how you act, no matter
how you feel. Remember
that. Quote #8

OR
Proactive/reactive language google classroom assignment
HO #10 Proactive vs. Reactive Language
Scenarios for Habit 1
III. Knowing what you can control
Circle of control class discussion
Circle of control - handout
HO: Be Proactive Handout (2 pages)
IV. Pushing Pause
Push PAUSE: Dont react out of sheer habit pause, get
control, and think about how you want to respond. Make
smarter decisions.
V. Designing alternative behaviors
4 Human Tools: Self-awareness, conscience, imagination,
will-power
Habit One Quiz

where you found

yourself worrying a lot.
What parts of this
situation did you have
control over? What
parts did you not have
control over?
Name 5 things that you
are worried or concerned
about at this moment.
What are some things
people worry about but
dont have any power to
change.
Placing things inside or
outside your circle of
control
What does it mean to be
proactive?
What
does it mean to be
reactive?
Post-it note: I will not
let ___ decide how I am
going to feel
What do you do that is
proactive?
What
do you do that is
reactive?

Habit 2
Begin
with the
End in
Mind

LEARNING GOALS
Learn the difference
between a wish and a
goal.

Masterpiece video: Masterpiece

Intro: Goals vs. Wishes Exercise (with post-it notes)
Goal-setting (SMART goals): Video
Goal Setting video: Habit 2
pp. 73-104

Learn how to set

S.M.A.R.T. goals

SMART Goals

Develop a personal
mission statement to
inspire them and keep
them on track.

Envisioning your future:

a. One-year future self-visualization in-class exercise
(p. 75) and worksheet
b. Visual Display: Who do I want to be? (20 years)

Consider how decisions

today impact reaching
goals tomorrow.

Mission Statement:
a. The Great Discovery
b. Character Assets
c. List of Values
d. Video: Your Mission Statement
Step One: Your past successes & achievements
Step Two: Your core values
Step Three: Your contributions past & future
Step Four: Your goals short & long term
e. Finalize the Mission Statement
f. Include explanatory paragraph
g. Turn in with attachments
h. Create visually pleasing pocket card

Habit 2 Quotes
A goal is a dream with a
deadline.
Quote #19
A goal without a plan is just
a wish. Quote #24

Goals for one year in the

future
What is the difference
between a wish and a
goal?
What is necessary to
achieve long-term
goals? Describe one of
your own long-term
goals, setting out
smaller goals along the
way.
Name three inside and
three outside qualities
you hope to possess in
twenty years.
What is the end for
you? What do you hope
to be doing ten years
from now? Twenty?
Make a list of things you
want to do in your life.
List your character
assets
List 5 things you have
dreamed about doing.
Identify one learning or
health goal that could be
met within the next six
months. What interim
steps would you need to
meet in order to achieve
this goal?
Person that inspires you.

How does saying no

sometimes help you with
beginning with the end
in mind? What things
do you have to say no
to?
In ten years a
newspaper decides to do
a story about YOU! They
interview four people
about you. These could
be friends or family.
What would you want
them to say about you?
Draw a picture of
something that
represents you. It could
be an animal, plant,
machine, a food, etc.
Explain why you chose
what you did.

Habit 3
Put First
things
First

LEARNING GOALS
Time Management
Learn how to identify
and prioritize the most
important tasks.
Identify time wasters
and procrastination
Be inspired to do new
things that take
courage.
pp. 105-130
Week 5 Quote
Courage is simply the
willingness to be afraid and
act anyway.

I. Introducing Time Management

Introduce the importance of doing things in the right
order; Demonstrate using a recipe concept. (See lesson
idea)
Video: Habit 3
Flow Time Management System Flow Time vs. Set Time
Prezi
Habit 3 Prezi

II. Managing Urgent and Important - Quadrants Lesson

a. Pgs. 107-113
b. Do object lesson using rocks and jar
c. [Add group teaching exercise about the four types?]
d. Video: Quadrants Explained
e. What are Your Rocks of the Week?
Be sure to look at the various roles that have
obligations associated with it

f.

Put them in quadrants

Now add the stuff youre missing
Review Exercise
Use the blank quadrants worksheet and put in the
terms where they belong

III. Working Outside Your Comfort Zone

HO: Fears worksheets (1) and (2)
Courage/Comfort Video: Habit 3

Identify one
unimportant activity
that you spend time
on. Why? What
might happen if you
decided to put first
things first?
What kinds of things
could you put in your
planner besides
homework
assignments?
Identify your big
rocks
Things that seem
hard for others, but
are easy for me
Things that require
courage for me
What is the difference
between urgent and
important?
What do you like to
do after school?
What tools do you use
to keep track of tasks
and appointments?
(Planner, lists, apps,
calendars?)
What does it mean to
say that something is
a PRIORITY? How can
you decide
Describe some ways
you waste
time/procrastinate?
The worst thing that
could happen if I face

my fear
The best thing that
could happen if I face
my fear
Some things that hold
me back from moving
into my courage zone
One thing outside my
comfort zone that I
will try

RBA

The Public Victory

Relationship Bank
Account
RBA Quote

pp. 131-144
Exercise: Identify people close to you and rank them on
the quality of the relationship

Identify your
important
relationships: Parents,
teachers, friends.

The victory does not go to

the one who wins the battle,
it goes to the one who brings
the peace. Quote #6
Choose being kind over
being right and you will be
right every time. Quote #3

Habit 4
Think
Win-Win

LEARNING GOALS
Learn the difference
between win-lose; losewin; lose-lose; and winwin
The importance of
Cultivating Abundance
The dangers of
comparing & competing

Win-Win: Theres Enough to go Around

Intro: Read Dr. Suess Zax
pp. 145-162
Chapter Read Worksheet
Kids skits
Thumb wrestling exercise
Three essential character traits include:
1) Integrity: goes back to your personal mission statement
and values
2) Maturity: the balance between courage and consideration
3) Abundance mentality: the paradigm that there is plenty
out there for everybody. This is the opposite of the scarcity
mentality.
For Win/Win the focus is on the results, not the methods. The
essence of principled negotiation is to separate the person from
the problem, to focus on interests and not on positions, to
invent options for mutual gain, and to insist on objective criteria

It is hardest for me to
think Win-Win when:
It is easiest for me to
think Win-Win when:
Does it ever bother
you when a friend
does really well? Why
or why not?
A situation in which I
had a Win-Win
attitude was (describe
the situation):
When I practice WinWin thinking, I enjoy
the following benefits:
Five ways I can apply
Win-Win thinking in
my relationships.

 some external standard or principle that both parties can buy

into.
Process:
First see the problem from the other point of view
Second identify key issues and concerns (not positions)
Third determine what results would constitute a fully
acceptable solution
Fourth identify possible new options to achieve those results

Win-Lose: Try to get ahead at the expense of others;

Spread rumors about others; Concentrate on getting their
way without considering others feelings
Lose-Win: In order to get you to like me, I am going to be
a doormat and let you win all the time.
Lose-Lose: If I feel like a loser, I am going to drag you
down with me. That will make me feel better.
Win-Win: Happy when others succeed; Help others
succeed; Think abundance; Are willing to share
recognition with others; See life as an all-you-can-eat
buffet for everybody.
Tumor Twins: Competing & Comparing
Girls Rock Comparing
Insanely Competitive

Make a list of
everyday classroom
activities that are set
up to foster
competition or
comparison.
How might
competition or
comparison work
positively in
someones life? How
might they be
destructive?

Habit 5
Seek First
to
Understa
nd, then
to be
Understo
od

LEARNING GOALS

Video: Paradigm Shift

pp. 163-180

Communication Skills

Habit 5 Quotes
When you talk, you are only
repeating what you already
know. But if you listen, you
may learn something new.
Quote #20
You teach people how to
treat you by what you allow,
what you stop, and what you
reinforce. -- Quote #11

Listening
Ineffective listening: Skits
Exercise: Practice effective listening and report the results
(see Winter Break homework assignment)
Videos about listening skills
Everybody Loves Raymond, Clip 1, Clip 2
The Office re: active listening
HO: Worksheet 9
Giving Feedback

Always be kinder than you

feel. Quote #13

Speaking Your Truth

Explain the QOTW

Describe one example
of when giving
feedback was difficult
for you.
Make a list of 4 or 5
things people have
said to you that you
found hurtful.
List of
encouragements?
What is self-centered
listening?
When do you have
the most difficult time
giving feedback to
others? Why?
List 3 possible ways
to give feedback so it
is not frightening to
you or threatening to
other people.
When you are talking
to someone, how
does it make you feel
when you think they
are not paying
attention? Give an
example.

Habit 6
Synergize

LEARNING GOALS
Working with Others
pp. 181-204

Week 8 Quote
Alone we are smart, together
we are brilliant. #1

Appreciating Differences
HO: Synergy Boxes
Habit 6 Group Teaching Project

Video Lesson:
Creative Problem Solving
HO: Habit 6 - Chapter Read
Video:

LEARNING GOALS

Sharpening the Saw

Renewal
Body pp. 208-215
Brain pp. 216-227
Heart pp. 228-233
Soul pp 234-241

HO: Habit 7 worksheet

Taking time out to relax and

renew is essential to living

Describe a shunner
Describe a tolerator

Working Together
Group project: puzzle packets, other
Action Plan to synergetic solutions
Define the problem; Their way; My way; Brainstorm;
High way
The five roles found on any great team:
Plodders, Followers, Innovators; Harmonizers; Showoffs

Habit 7
Sharpen
the Saw

Explain the QOTW

Describe a celebrator
Why does synergy
involve openmindedness?
Describe the process
of brainstorming
What makes you
unique or different
than anyone else?
Identify two activities
under each area, one
that you do already
and one that you
would like to develop

well. #7

Culmina
ting
Activitie
s

Wrap Up Quotes

7 Habits Review Worksheet

Keep Hope Alive Worksheet
Final Writing assignment
Design scaffolding for final essay
Practice attaching and turning in in google classroom
Rubric: final writing assignment
Test: 7 Habits Movie Clips
Alternates: Pre-made packet projects on each habit
Poster on one of the habits

Seven Habits word

scramble, crossword