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FIDELITY IN
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ITS MORE THAN YOU THINK
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them spent more time together, family members to whom Jane had casually mentioned
the relationship began to express concern.
When a spouse has developed a
Jane dismissed their comments.
relationship that compromises his or
What Jane didnt realize was how hurt
her spiritual delity, he or she should
and upset Aaron felt at what she was doing.
be humble and take the necessary steps He felt betrayed and rejected and was even
to restore the marital relationship.
beginning to worry that Jane
ut Im not doing anything
didnt love him anymore. Jane
In the beginning,
wrong, insisted Jane when family
talked as though their marriage
Jane didnt even
members voiced concern over the
was strong but, by her actions,
realize that she
time she was spending with a male coshe seemed to care more about
worker. Were just friends.
her co-worker than her husband.
was holding back
In Janes mind, she had not crossed
in her relationship Aaron began to wonder if she
any lines because there had been nothwas thinking of leaving him. Any
with
her
husband.
ing physical or romantic between her
time Aaron brought up the subBut over time she ject of her relationship with the
and her co-worker. She saw no harm
in going to lunch and spending breaks
co-worker, she would refuse to
realized that she
with someone with whom she had so
discuss it and would change the
was
not
giving
her
much in common. She saw no problem
subject. To Aaron, their communiwhole
heart
to
him.
with sending him personal e-mails
cation seemed supercial. He felt
and text messages.
as though his feelings were not
Janes husband, Aaron, was quiet and shy. He was
important to her.
not one to make conversation, and Jane often felt
This couples storyrepresentative of
aloneeven when they were together. Aaron was a
several true storiesillustrates a growing
good man and a faithful father to their young children.
problem creeping into some marriages today.
Still, when it came to being sensitive to her needs and
A marriage can be placed in a precarious
being there for her, she felt Aaron had a lot to learn.
situation when one spouse forms a relaJanes co-worker, on the other hand, was a good
tionship with someone outside the marlistener and could easily read her moods. He was
riage and begins to choose the company of
quick to laugh and fun to be around. As the two of
that person or frequently shares personal
Professor, School of Social Work,
Brigham Young University
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MARITAL FIDELITY
BE FAITHFUL
15
QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER