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[] craychel 1093 points 15 hours ago

As a fairly attractive female, I have NO idea if


I'm actually funny.
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[] zsabarab 1586 points 13 hours ago

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHHA
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[] filthy_sandwich 284 points 10 hours ago

Man, I could listen to her boobs talk all day


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[] Noyes654 42 points 9 hours ago

Just plant myself right between 'em and


listen to what they have to say. Her
ideas, I mean.
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[] Sarcastic_Armadillo 66 points 14 hours ago

Better than the other way around, I'm pretty


funny but not attractive. Want to switch?
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[] Hoangsenberg 25 points 10 hours ago

I think someone lied to you


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[] Sarcastic_Armadillo 7 points 10 hours ago

What do you mean?


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[] LikeADemonsWhisper 46 points 9 hours ago

He is saying you look gorgeous ;)


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[S] 109 points 14 hours ago

Oh, that would really bother me. I'm all about


being funny, and to not be sure if people
actually thought I was funny or were just
humouring me to please me because I was
attractive? Ugh. Luckily I have the
reassurance of being the fat guy to not have
to worry about that :)
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[] shantinori 45 points 12 hours ago

I went to a party once and ran into a girl


that I only "knew" from FB. I chatted with
her and her bf most of the night and the
next day she sent me a message saying, "I
hope this doesn't sound creepy but you are
beautiful AND funny!" Best compliment I
ever got. I love making people laugh so it
was nice validation.
Either that or she was hitting on me and I
wasn't picking up on it (doubtful; I'm a
straight woman and I'm pretty sure she's
straight too).
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[] mri3iguns 57 points 13 hours ago

Maybe they are just humoring you and


pleasing you because you're fat and they
feel sorry for you.

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[S] 26 points 13 hours ago

Wait, but.. shit! Hehe, no, I think that


whenever there's laughter directed at me,
it's either they're laughing at something I
said, or they're just laughing at me. The
feeling sorry for me presents itself in a
much different fashion than laughter.
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[] TheyMakeMeWearPants 39 points 12 hours ago

Gotta do a negative test. Drop a line you


know isn't funny, and if your audience laughs
anyway you know you can't judge by them.
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[] dtwhitecp 40 points 9 hours ago

it can't be too unfunny though, because


then it's anti-humor and is funny again
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[] tae-bojangles 53 points 14 hours ago

That was funny.


Go forth and be the total package!
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[] arcosapphire 11 points 13 hours ago

Nobody can tell on the internet, so see if


people find you funny there.
Of course, you have to make sure you don't
mention being attractive.
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[] ActualBreck 29 points 11 hours ago

Being funny on the Internet is a lot different


than being funny in real life though.
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[] Daniel_The_Thinker 17 points 9 hours ago

Things that make me laugh on the


internet would be horribly annoying in
real life.
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[] jaypenn3 9 points 6 hours ago

Ayy lmao
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[] Jourei 6 points 11 hours ago

Hello! I'm attractive!


So, 3 men walk into a bar...
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[] goodbye_zayn 3 points 11 hours ago

oops too late


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[] centralperky 153 points 17 hours ago

Just like John ham in 30 rock I would imagine


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[] icanhe 43 points 12 hours ago

*Jon Hamm
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[] vectormessiah 50 points 10 hours ago

**Jonn Hammm
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[] Mrhelloiamhere 26 points 10 hours ago

***Jonnn Hammmm
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[] machinebx 63 points 8 hours ago

Rum Haaammmm!
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[] Lord_Von_Fappington 4 points 6 hours ago

I prefer some Hamm and Bubl.


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[] Darth_Corleone 496 points 16 hours ago*

My closest friend is a 6'6" light-skinned former college athlete with hazel-green eyes. It's
amazing to watch women around him. I'm essentially invisible while standing next to him.

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You can say almost anything when you're standing with a beautiful person and chances are
that you won't even be heard (I'm not down on myself, or "Forever Alone" or any of that stuff,
I'm just telling you what I see). Ladies, from 2s to 9s (it's not entirely uncommon to see
gorgeous women shrug off well-appointed men to awkwardly stand at my table and laugh at
our terrible jokes), will often ask him if he's a Local Pro Team player, find excuses to randomly
touch him, say EXTREMELY forward/aggressive things to him with no regard for his friends or
wife & kids standing there. Anyways, he's tall, good-looking and in shape.
When we crack on him about how easy life must be, he has no idea what we are talking about.
He insists that the rest of us are making it seem harder than it really is. He says you "just have
to talk to girls and be nice to them". It's just that easy! He doesn't understand that women do
not approach Mortal men and pull them out of active conversations to offer them sex. When a
mutual friend confided in hiring an escort after a particularly brutal stretch in their personal
life, dude wanted to know why he didn't just pull a chick from the grocery store or the gym to
go home with and fuck. Why would anyone pay for it?!?
Ridiculously attractive people think they are no different from the rest of us, but only because
they don't know any better. "Doesn't everyone get free stuff whenever they go out???" No. We
do not.
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[] snugginator 289 points 14 hours ago

That attitude is called the golden glow. Attractive people perceive the world as being a
nicer place than it actually is.
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[] arcosapphire 121 points 13 hours ago

I believe it was 30 Rock which termed this "the bubble".


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[] Stembio 133 points 9 hours ago

My ex fuckbuddy once complained about how hard his friends tried at bars. He was like
"you just smile at a girl and she comes over, you exchange a few jokes, then take her
home! Why do they make it so difficult?" Ohhhhh you silly, beautiful man. You can do
that because you look like a statue of Adonis dipped in caramel. Normal men are not so
lucky.
And yes, that was exactly how we started fucking too. He smiled at me, and then I went
over to him.
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[] Darth_Corleone 33 points 8 hours ago

Can't even stay mad at the beautiful bastards


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[] kingeryck 16 points 5 hours ago

STOP SMILING SO I CAN PUNCH YOU


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[] my02 32 points 8 hours ago

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It's like the physical equivalent of being rich. Why don't you just pull yourself up by the
bootstraps!
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[] Darth_Corleone 9 points 8 hours ago

But with an innocence you can't help but forgive. As you drown in the deep blue
depths of her crystalline eyes...
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[] nightcrawler84 69 points 15 hours ago

Wow this guy is my inspiration! I'm a 6' light skinned (well, light skinned for black) teen
with Hazel/green eyes! There's hope for me yet!
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[] Darth_Corleone 50 points 15 hours ago

Wrap it up and go to town, my young friend!


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[] AFoundingFather 16 points 7 hours ago

Get in the gym and build it, you will be considered a God among men.
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[] UmustBjoking 9 points 7 hours ago

That's right and they don't believe you when you tell them it's not. You can even show
them. Walk up to a girl and talk to her and get the eye roll and the sigh. Have him walk
up to the same girl and say "Hey bitch!" and get a smile and a laugh. Fuck them. Fuck
them all.
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[] Darth_Corleone 11 points 7 hours ago

He says the NASTIEST things to the hottest women and they do the hair-twirl,
arm-touch, "Oh You" giggle. It's truly amazing to behold. I'm not even mad.
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[] UmustBjoking 5 points 7 hours ago

Yeah, as I've said in several of my comments in this thread:


Fuck him. Fuck him sideways with a broken bottle.
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[] Vamking12 3 points 7 hours ago

Dude is amazingly lucky, I have a friend like that.


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[] Tak-Tak-Tak 4 points 7 hours ago

I've had women knock me to the ground to get next to my attractive friend.
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[] therealmaxipadd 707 points 16 hours ago

I'm an attractive male but also very introverted. It doesn't help being attractive if you
struggle to strike up conversations with people.
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[] QuarterOztoFreedom 341 points 16 hours ago

Being an attractive male doesn't mean shit if you don't have the social skills to talk to
women. In general, women are too afraid to approach a guy, especially a good looking
dude
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[] therealmaxipadd 360 points 16 hours ago

It's tough. My friends will be like "dude, just go talk to her" and I never know how to
start that conversation.
Me: "Hey"
Her:"Hey"
Her:"Well...?"
Me:"I don't know, I didn't expect to get this far."
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[] machinegunmax 259 points 13 hours ago

... "I saw a mud-crab the other day"


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[] moosey2 79 points 11 hours ago

Horrible creatures!
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[] EncampedWalnut 92 points 10 hours ago

"Do you get to the cloud district very often? Oh, what am I saying, of course
you don't."
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[] Prison_Vape 11 points 9 hours ago

I went werewolf and killed her first.


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[] Ulyces 3 points 6 hours ago

.....Its a man that says that.....


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[] malay4785 20 points 15 hours ago

try, "Hi, my name is "therealmaxipadd," Shake Hands, what's your name?


Its a pleasure to meet you "therealdickclog,"

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Then start with a series of questions like, where are you from, expand on her answer a
couple of times, and then move onto another general question. If she doesnt respond
with any questions, this is the time to say, "Thank you for the conversation" and get
outta dodge. Also, dont start with offering to buy her a drink, thats a good way to burn
a hole in your wallet without talking to girls and getting girls only interested in drinking,
unless thats your cup o pudding.
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[] Timbur- 13 points 13 hours ago

To rapey would probably end up in jail.


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[] schutepoot 6 points 13 hours ago

bringo
made a chat with a sexy lady, my cousin sunshine. am jail now.
~for your health
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[] QuarterOztoFreedom 38 points 16 hours ago

"Bitch go back to reality TV that has you convinced every hot guy is witty and
conversational"
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[] therealmaxipadd 60 points 16 hours ago

For real though. I've had great luck with women if they make the first move and
strike up the conversation.
It's just very hard for an introvert to have the self-confidence to walk up to a girl
and think she may be into you if you talk to her. I've always needed to have the
female express interest in me first.
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[] jp221 9 points 12 hours ago

For me, its not really approaching the girl that's the difficult part. Its continuing
the conversation that's the hard part. I can strike a conversation with anyone..
just making the conversation last without the awkward silence is damn near
impossible for me..
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[] sosdog 17 points 15 hours ago

I have to get hit over the head before I notice a girl is in to me. The last time I
tried anything first, I asked a friend to go talk to a girl he knew and see what
she thought about me.
being pretty is nothing. Until last year when a random girl at work just walked
up and kissed me, I wouldn't have even considered myself attractive.
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[] dude984 9 points 13 hours ago

Wait, someone just walked up and kissed you? There's a story here...

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[] 7heWafer 15 points 12 hours ago

Let me tell you a story...


Some girl at work walked up to /u/sosdog and kissed him. The End.
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[] NameLastname 29 points 11 hours ago

Once there was an attractive barnacle. He was so attractive that


everyone kissed him. The End.
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[] BassFight 7 points 13 hours ago

Honestly that might actually be considered an opening.


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[] therealmaxipadd 13 points 13 hours ago

Except I don't know what to say then. "I'm gonna put this (points at crotch) in
there (points at her crotch)"
?
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[] BassFight 7 points 13 hours ago

Well that might make you come across a tat objectifying and/or verbally slow
yeah. (In some cases it's fine to be focussed on the sex but I'm assuming that's
not your intention.) Assuming she giggles at the not excepting to get far bit,
you could try and play off the fact that you actually don't know what you're
doing while asking for some interests (e.g.; "Help me out here; got any hobbies
to talk about?"), or kid that you actually hoped she would have something to
break the ice, or just ask her to buy her a drink. It depends heavily on the kind
of girl you're approaching but I think a good number would honestly appreciate
you're trying in the first place. Heck, if you admit you really don't know what
you're doing (which might actually feel safer than pretending that you do) some
will probably find it very sweet that you still build up the courage.
Wow that was long, sorry bout that. tl;dr It's okay to admit you're completely
improvising. Some girls like the sincerity.
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[] _____DEADPOOL___ 5 points 6 hours ago

try this :
Did you know that the original name for Pac-Man was Puck-Man? You'd think it was
because he looks like a hockey puck but it actually comes from the Japanese phrase
'Paku-Paku,' which means to flap one's mouth open and closed. They changed it

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because they thought Puck-Man would be too easy to vandalize, you know, like people
could just scratch off the P and turn it into an F or whatever.
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[] ThatBannedGuy 16 points 12 hours ago

Confidence is a big turn on for chicks apparently as well. Me standing there looking
like the strong silent type seems like a win win, but half of that is because I wouldn't
know the first thing to say to anyone that wants to start a conversation.
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[] thekyle1591 12 points 10 hours ago

I'm also pretty introverted and instead of the "strong silent type" I've more often
gotten the "stuck up" tag placed on me before people know me.
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[] Slendyla_IV 28 points 13 hours ago*

This is it. This is my answer. Attractive (hotty pants to girls that don't know me) but I
wouldn't know where to begin when it comes to talking with girls. People say I'm
fun/charismatic in a group, but once I'm down to 1 on 1? I just become silent. When the
1 on 1 is with a girl that's super beautiful? Yeah, my brain turns to pudding.
Edit: clarification. I only know girls say I'm hot because of my sisters friends and some
girl friends in HS. If they are pitying me? Well, then I've been living a lie.
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[] kebeaner 21 points 13 hours ago

Oh I kill 1 on 1s i suck in groups :(


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[] SonOfTheNorthe 5 points 7 hours ago

And I'm terrible at both!


:(
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[] Ismellgorillas 10 points 12 hours ago

I deal with the exact opposite, I can talk to any girl no problem. Not very attractive
however.
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[] randompanda3 7 points 16 hours ago*

I'd say I'm only decent but this is very true.


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[] terrabadnZ 7 points 12 hours ago

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You are me. Then have everyone ask everyone if you're guy because you don't have a
girlfriend...
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[] dmkicksballs13 6 points 12 hours ago

Agreed. I've been called handsome, cute, hot, etc. (I personally think I'm around a six),
but it's not like I can just lean up against a the bar and women flock to me. I swear,
women care way more about personality than men.
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[] agyarko 6 points 11 hours ago

My struggle. I wouldn't say I'm very attractive. Maybe an 8/10 on a good day but usually
I'm a 6.5-7.5 but I have the social skills of a toaster. I've had girls practically throw
themselves at me and I still managed to fuck it up by saying something, or not saying
anything at all.
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[] jp221 16 points 12 hours ago*

My life. I always get complements on being attractive. But the cruelest joke is I have
close NO charisma. Being an ''unattractive guy'' with an outgoing personality gives you
much more of a chance with girls than being an attractive introvert. I've come to the
conclusion that looks don't play that big of a role in life. It tears me up inside knowing
that even if I do get lucky and have random sex with some drunk girl, I will never be
able to connect with someone and have a long term relationship.. : / .
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[] Raptor112358 4 points 7 hours ago

That's not true, you can learn to make connections, to build charisma. Not saying it
will ever be effortless, but don't write off ever connecting with anyone
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[] Llucky99 4 points 6 hours ago

Exactly, trust me /u/jp221, chin up and dont fall into that mindset, it will stick with
you FOREVER. Everyone is there own person and even if you don't have a
charismatic personality you can always find someone to make a connection with that
will then care about you and your story. Giving up hope guarantees being forever
alone, but you could be the worst at picking up chicks, and as long as you keep at
it, you WILL find someone you care about, and who cares about you eventually.
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[] louky 4 points 11 hours ago

I don't care anymore. I'm in good health and look like I've been in a few movies as a
seriously fit early fortifies grey beard.
The Costco moms might as well throw car keys at me.
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[] NarfSquared 3 points 12 hours ago

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Bam, my brother.... We're wasting our personalities. I just imagine people are naked
chickens... or something like that, something from pete and pete.
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[] mcmastermind 3 points 8 hours ago

I feel your pain brah. I should be going out all the time but I don't like to. But, people
are always very surprised when I end up being as nice as I am.
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[] SwedishEnglishGirl 239 points 16 hours ago

Sometimes it's not a good idea to be drunk at parties.........


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[S] 67 points 14 hours ago

Well that's pretty dark. I hope that shit hasn't happened to you in the past :(
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[] darkened_enmity 11 points 8 hours ago

:(
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[] teamPEDs 125 points 15 hours ago

I'm okay looking. Not a 10/10 but I do alright for myself.


People stare at me pretty often in public, which can get uncomfortable sometimes. It
gave me more confidence with strangers though. I can pretty much go up and talk to
anyone without feeling self-conscious.
I feel like I have to be very careful with new male friends so they KNOW i'm not
trying to hit on them.
Was a huge detriment to me in the workplace after I dated a co-worker. Terrible,
terrible idea.
I'm not like, mega babe beautiful or anything - I don't go out to bars and flirt with the
bouncers because I know I can get in for free or anything. I'm just a normal young woman
who used to be an awkward duckling.
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[S] 20 points 14 hours ago

That extra confidence, I think that's what I think about the most when I consider how
life must be as an attractive person. The having to be comfortable around friends so
they don't get the wrong idea would suck. I get stared at in public too, but hey, fat guy,
people gonna stare! :)
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[] Alectrical 5 points 12 hours ago

Thank you for making sure your male friends know what you are about. I have been
on the receiving end of someone being too closed about their feelings, and I wish

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[] GodOfThunder44 6 points 9 hours ago

That extra confidence, I think that's what I think about the most...
As an average-at-best late 20's male, I'll tell you a secret: "fake it til you make it" is
fucking essential. If you pretend to be confident long enough, you will become
confident. Women are 100% turned off when they realize that the guy they're talking
to sees them as some sort of goal to attain. When you finally get that confidence, and
realize that you aren't trying to find someone to "complete you" anymore, you will
work wonders in terms of dating/relationships. Don't invest in women, invest in
yourself, and at some point you'll find someone who is worthy of being able to claim
that you're hers.
Personality and humor also are major assets.
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[] Modeko 8 points 7 hours ago

OH MAN the thing about the male friends is spot on.


I'm honestly not being conceited when I say, I've come to the realization that no matter
what, if I make a new male friend, and even if I make it very obvious I'm not interested
romantically, they will at some point develop feelings for me.
It actually usually really sucks for both parties and I end up having to go no contact for
awhile until they can get their shit together. Which I always feel really horrible about.
But it's generally necessary.
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[] rhirhirhi_ 3 points 11 hours ago

This is my experience too. I hate thinking I've made a new guy friend then having to
turn them down.
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[] Kattwinkel 54 points 16 hours ago

Male redditor here, It's nice to catch people checking you out every so often or to receive
compliments from strangers but there are plenty of times where I feel like someone won't
take me seriously when I'm trying to engage them in conversation (honestly this seems to
happen the most with females who aren't "at the top of the attractive totem pole"). I guess
it's just like anything else, in that there are positive and negative repercussions.
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[] Vercingetorix_ 17 points 10 hours ago

Do you find that when you talk to some unattractive women, they are somewhat rude to
you for no reason? Short answers, won't look you in the eye, that kind of stuff.
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[] scupdoodleydoo 12 points 8 hours ago

They're probably self-conscious.

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[] Kattwinkel 4 points 7 hours ago

Yes, maybe a tone of annoyance in their voices as well. The problem I find the most
frustrating is that I am very introverted. Getting up the courage to talk to a girl only to
be treated like crap for no real reason....
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[] NeoGeomancer 23 points 11 hours ago

Like some I have read I became 'attractive' in my early 20s after years and years of failing
to attract girls in high school and early college. So the change in the attitudes of others
and interactions were very apparent to someone who formerly spent a lot of time
practicing the art of reading signals and facial expressions.
Pros: (besides the painfully obvious)
The past several years have taught me that you can get away with damn near anything as
an attractive man; I specify man because more often than not attractive women, sadly,
have to prove they are intelligent where as a man just has to act like he isn't stupid which
can be accomplished by simply not talking.
I get more leeway at work/school; I am often asked my thoughts on a problem and these
simple postulations are often taken as concrete answers or solutions, I also receive help in
a flash whenever I ask for it regardless of who I ask it from (some of this is because I help
others often but it's not the case every time).
Both men and women are waaaaaaay more comfortable about sharing literally any detail
of their life with you especially if you have strong 'listening skills' which I guess is
something attractive people don't do?
Cons:
The more clever and discerning women that don't get swept up by my looks will often think
I am a player purely because of my looks and pseudo-confidence (I'm actually sweating
through my shirt trying to talk to someone new). This is really troublesome because the
kind of women I like are the kind that would question my character without considering my
looks.
SOs are more jealous of other women I talk to and it puts unnecessary strain on otherwise
healthy relationships. I have to talk to other women at some point in my life for work or
school and if they happen to be attractive that doesn't mean I'm going to sleep with them.
SOs are more willing to overlook early relationship 'red flags' and personality
flaws/differences causing an unhealthy idealization of the relationship and myself. I have
had a few seemingly great relationships slowly fester into an awful nightmares because
they didn't understand why I wasn't as great as I used to be. This forces added caution on
my part making me seem distant and less open which has also ended its fair share of
relationships.
After a long enough time of knowing you're attractive and acting on this knowledge you
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any attractive person willing to smile and feign interest; consequentially, if you don't keep
improving yourself you can quickly become one of 'those people' and when your looks finally
wain you'll just be a boring old person.
TL;DR
Being attractive is far from being a skeleton key for life and dating but, it is a pretty effective
lock-pick set for those with the intelligence and confidence to use it.
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[] Kayestone 114 points 17 hours ago

Not an attractive person but I have a sister who people find very attractive, I know
because classmates have told me how hot they think she is. She gets a lot of snapchats
from guys showing off their bods, has had a few stalkers, and a lot of weirdos hitting on
her and being into her. As her big sister I'm always worried about something bad
happening to her.
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[] wowlolcat 34 points 15 hours ago

Is there any twinge of jealousy? I don't have a brother (I'm male), so I'm not sure if
social competition instincts apply to siblings.
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[] Kayestone 66 points 15 hours ago

Of course sometimes. But in the end she was born with her features and she works
hard on keeping her looks as they are.
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[] bubblesugarsocks 7 points 9 hours ago

I can relate to this a little, my sister and I are both pretty but in very different ways
- she has a bright pixie cut and lots of piercings and I have a very classically
feminine style. She gets a lot of attention for her style and while I'm really proud of
her I worry also.
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[] 6767plo6767 21 points 6 hours ago

Lol as the older sister of a model, I can tell you that it sucks absolute ass. I'm not a
troll or anything, but compared to her, I look like a foot. We went to the same high
school, and I constantly got the "that's your sister??" from my classmates. All our
parents' friends always remark how pretty she is, while I awkwardly stand to the side.
Sigh. Nothing kills self-confidence like being the ugly sibling of an attractive person.
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[] filthy_sandwich 3 points 10 hours ago

Yeah that really sucks having that thought in the back of your mind.
I've only in the past few years realized how much women have to deal with when it
comes to sexual harassment, verbal abuse, and general weirdos

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[] LargerGorilla 20 points 10 hours ago

I've been told by attractive women that they've gotten every job that had an in-person
interview process.
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[] BrokenReel 7 points 7 hours ago

To be fair, this is true for me too and I'm a 300lbs.


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[] BrownEyedPunkRockGrl 12 points 9 hours ago

Unless you work in tech. Then nobody ever takes you seriously :/
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[] strokeshao 223 points 12 hours ago

I just came here to say I'm fat.


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[S] 44 points 11 hours ago

Me too, bro/sis, me too.


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[] stuff_rulz 21 points 10 hours ago

I'm the opposite. I'm skinny. Horribly skinny. 6'5"ish and like... just over 100 lbs... and
in a wheelchair. Hurrah!
(Muscular dystrophy)
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[] PaleFury 11 points 7 hours ago

Wow! This is going to sound totally foolish, but are you self-conscious of being in a
wheelchair?
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[] stuff_rulz 10 points 6 hours ago

Absolutely.
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[] Old_West_Bobby 59 points 14 hours ago

That there must be more to life than being really really ridiculously good looking.

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[] NameLastname 15 points 11 hours ago

But why male models?


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[] Ob1Kn00b 4 points 4 hours ago

Seriously? I just told you that like five seconds ago.


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[] floyding 139 points 17 hours ago

Please be sure to provide photo evidence of attractiveness with your comments.


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[] r35h93 70 points 16 hours ago

Clothes are also a non requirement.


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[] kiwi_babe 7 points 15 hours ago

hey you should go hit up /r/gonewild


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[] PS4play 124 points 15 hours ago

The question specifically asks for attractive people.


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[] TrainedHouseCat 40 points 13 hours ago

OHHHHHHHHHHH!
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[] Shawarma123 11 points 10 hours ago

Shiiiiiiiiiiiiit.
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[] succulent_headcrab 1 point 7 hours ago

mv /r/gonewild $(find -nearest burnward)


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[] I_will_probably_edit 38 points 15 hours ago*

I became pretty good looking at about 20 - and the change in how people treated me/how
I saw myself took some getting used to. There's a before/after picture of me in my
submission history for anyone who's curious.
When I first became/realized I was good looking I derived a lot of my self worth from the
attention I received from other people because of the way I looked. This led to a brief
modeling career and a lot of fun, shallow, and short relationships with some very beautiful
women that I didn't really get along with.
The problem was I still felt like the weird looking 16 year old version of myself and it took
about 8 years for me to reconcile the way I saw myself with the way others saw me.
I'm 30 now, and things are good - I feel like there are other things about me that are more
important than the way I look so I don't worry much about being considered attractive, but

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I still get a decent amount of attention because of how I look on the outside.
Now when a girl tells me I'm "the best looking guy she's ever dated" I take it as a compliment
- but I don't let it go to my head. I've just sort of realized that by some function of luck I
ended up looking a way that quite a few other people like, and that shouldn't be something
that makes me feel special because I didn't do anything to earn it.
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[] Iplayin720p 42 points 12 hours ago

Link for the lazy: http://imgur.com/c1DbrUn


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[] allaboutthebooks 13 points 11 hours ago

Haha. I just gave up scrolling the history and came back to beg cause I am lazy.
Thank you!
Also he is pretty.
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[] Sssgth 5 points 9 hours ago

daaaang
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[] onlyblackredditor 16 points 14 hours ago

I gotta admit that I expected you to be ugly for some reason, but you're actually a really
good looking fella.
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[] I_will_probably_edit 6 points 14 hours ago

haha thanks
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[] gophergarden 43 points 16 hours ago*

College girl here.


Looks don't exactly make things easier (and I can vouch for this after a childhood of being
awkward and greasy and bullied), and it kinda affects different aspects of your life.
With regard to guys, I do get my fair share of stalkers, street harassment, and booty
callers who don't take no for an answer. Those are never fun. There are also those guys
who mistake your courteousness as a sexual advance, and that seems to happen more
often.
With regard to academic, extracurricular, and professional settings, as nice as it is to be
acknowledged for your accomplishments, there is a bit of an innate need to
overcompensate and become a bit of a perfectionist in whatever field you want to go into.
Sometimes people will assume that your looks are an indicator that you aren't intelligent,
meant to be taken seriously, or able to fulfill the requirements of a given obligation, and
that always sucks.
With regard to friendships, although I am someone who has always had some level of
difficulty making and maintaining friends--though I do have a handful of close girlfriends
and some guy friends--I have noticed that a lot of times friendships will end over some

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extension of looks (for example, I had a friend that would get upset with me over experience
with boys).
With regard to girls in general, college-age girls can be petty as fuck and sometimes get the
wrong impression based on how I look and how I carry myself. If I had a nickel for every time
a girl has accused me of trying to steal their boyfriend, I'd have a shit-load of nickels.
Lastly, with regard to internal perceptions, sometimes I struggle with body image (weight) and
feel a constant need to be more than just looks. I have gone to therapy to deal with these
insecurities, and it helps immensely.
TL;DR Looks don't just affect your sexual/romantic relationships; it can affect other things in
life too.
EDIT: Some grammatical mistakes.
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[S] 7 points 14 hours ago

TL;DR Looks don't just affect your sexual/romantic relationships; it can affect other
things in life too.
Well that's definitely true from both ends of the spectrum. The general idea I'm getting
is that it's a trade-off of negatives, like being stalked vs being ridiculed/bullied. To put it
broadly.
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[] hotdudethrowaway 194 points 15 hours ago*

Real answer incoming...


I'm a bi-racial dude, black/white, 6ft4, pretty fashionable, also have an English accent for
when I'm travelling. Mixed raced babies are dealt a pretty good hand.
All my life I've been considered cute, now in my late teens I'm considered handsome. It
comes with all the perks you would expect and then some. Walking down a busy street I
pretty much have a free pass to eye fuck hot girls if I catch their eye, I'm not considered a
child molester, I can charm my way into getting a free refill at Burger King and I've never,
ever been picked on. Guys would never admit it, but I can tell the way I look has an affect
on them (in terms of the way they treat me).
However, I'm pretty introverted as it is, and it's sucks when people expect so much from
me because of the way I look. In fact, it's absolutely heartbreaking seeing a girls face go
from 'fuck you're hot' to 'oh...'. Make no mistake dudes, personality is where it's at,
believe me. Thankfully I'm slowly coming out of this phase, but I still very much keep my
self to myself. I never really considered myself as good looking as people would tell me
(everyone has image issues) until now, which I'm a little worried about because I've
become so aware of it, and I like being the humble friendly dude.
So, yeah. Double edged sword I guess? Except one edge is extremely blunt...
Also, bet no one would've expected me to be a closet Runescape addict. Ha.
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[] awfulmemory 184 points 12 hours ago

Everybody gets free refills at Burger King.


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[] icanhe 37 points 12 hours ago

Was thinking the same thing...if that's all super attractive people get, I'm fine being
averagely-attractive.
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[] Ravenna 36 points 10 hours ago

Lol it's ok let him have it.


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[] twentythousandtimes 14 points 9 hours ago

Not if it's a Burger King outside of the US.


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[] Lint007 8 points 9 hours ago

"Wow! When you're beautiful, Burger King magically gives you free refills!"
"Actually, you got a free refill because everyone gets free refills...But if they
didn't, you would still get one because you're beautiful."
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[] Raptor112358 5 points 7 hours ago

He's from the UK, where there are no free refills. It's a forsaken land
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[] MoneyHoesNClothz 4 points 3 hours ago

Lmaaoooo this whole thread gave me the chuckles. Like he had this whole emotional
response and y'all are straight up "umm. Everyone gets free refills at Burger King"
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[] TheScumAlsoRises 12 points 11 hours ago

What do you mean when you say you "have an English accent for when I'm travelling?"
You put on an accent when you go places?
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[] Vigilax 18 points 10 hours ago

The accent is special when he's traveling because it's unique unlike when he is home,
where everyone has an English accent.
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[S] 22 points 14 hours ago

Thanks for the honest reply. Personality is important, no doubt, I've just always had the
impression that the day to day things are probably easier for attractive folks, at least the
one's that believe it of themselves. Not perfect though!
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[] whatisboom 8 points 12 hours ago

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which I'm a little worried about because I've become so aware of it, and I like being
the humble friendly dude.
Can confirm this part. The last few years my confidence has skyrocketed and I worry
about being the arrogant asshole.
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[] JunkleJay 7 points 12 hours ago

Trying to get in shape myself but old school runescape.. I MUST DO ALL THE QUESTS
CHILD ME DIDN'T!
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[] Loxe 12 points 12 hours ago

Pretty women smile at you when you walk by them. On occasion you'll even get a big grin.
The other day in the hallway at work I heard some girl whisper to her friend/coworker "Is
that him?!" You can sit at a bar alone and nobody will think you're a loser. Basically you
just have to not fuck up and people will automatically like you most of the time. Some
people straight up hate you for absolutely no reason, though. Like a lot of redditors I'm
pretty introverted so sometimes I have to try really hard not to be an asshole when people
want to sit and talk to me for longer than I'd like.
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[] SpunkVee 21 points 10 hours ago*

I get stared at a lot. I also have a lot of random people compliment me. I've gotten "wow,
You're fun to look at", and "everything about you is perfect" which is pretty fun. My wife
and I have had tourists ask to take our picture (generally unsure if this is because we're
pretty, or if it's because lesbians are super rare where they're from), and I've definitely
caught more than one person taking pictures of us "sneakily". I was once courted by a
man for months before I realized he wasn't just buying me bottles of rum and offering to
take me places tp be nice. Culturally he just didn't understand that my wife was really my
wife, and I didn't understand the significance of his little gifts.
Overall its pretty fun. I've never not gotten a job ive applied for, I can talk people into just
about anything, and the world in general is really nice to me. I'm 33 though, and although
I keep on top of my fitness, skincare, and makeup, I'm well aware that the bottom is going
to fall out of this thing eventually.
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[] QuarterOztoFreedom 66 points 16 hours ago

I have social anxiety but people tell me I'm good looking all the time. For me, I hate going
out in public because I see people staring and feel like I'm the center of attention among
females wherever I go which makes me SO ANXIOUS. And I feel like people expect me to
be charming or whatever because of my looks and I am not at all.
Also, its only the ugly girls that ever have the balls to approach you. Good lucking girls are
almost always busy being approached by other men, and I'm sure approaching someone
themselves has never even crossed their mind.

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[] FirstForFun44 15 points 13 hours ago

This is true. If you're looking for someone of equal hotness you gotta go for it and
typically they are thinking "why the fuck is he talking to me he's hot." Only the ugly
ones are forward.
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[] methlabrador 6 points 8 hours ago

If i'm forward, does that mean i'm ugly though?


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[] MrBillyLotion 64 points 16 hours ago

Well, there's pros and cons... The pros would have to be its super easy to get girls
anytime, love that about it. The cons would have to be I don't know, just kidding, I look
like Shrek IRL.
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[] snushund 24 points 10 hours ago

So a perfect 10 then? Shrek is love, shrek is life


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[] Allisade 30 points 15 hours ago

Mostly I don't think about it at all.


You have more options, and that changes how you interact with the world. You have more
choices for jobs, sex, and friends.
However, with those extra options, you get extra attention, and people have extra
expectations for you, which creates a certain amount of extra pressure.
For most (for me certainly) it's not a magic source of confidence or self worth, you don't
think of yourself as Hot or Special or Great, most of the time I don't think about it at all.
I'm as insecure as the next person and while, objectively, I've been told and have seen
evidence that others find me very attractive, I just don't think of myself that way unless
asked specifically to consider it.
When looking in the mirror I'm not unhappy with what I see, I even like what I see to
some degree - and the funny thing is, I'm happier about being accepting of myself than I
am with what's actually looking back at me.
I know it helps sometimes. Like I said - "extras" - I get better reactions at interviews, or
socially than I probably deserve based solely on my knowledge or charm. But while it's an
unfair edge and on one level I know it's been there, when I'm psyching myself up for my
next interview or whatever, I'm just as scared and nervous as anyone else.
The trickiest part in general is probably people who decide you're great, then you do
something wrong or don't live up to the imaginary version they have of you, and suddenly
you're a bad person. When you're not what they wanted it's like they take it personally.
I've had a couple people obsess over me and that is... mostly just hard and sad. It can be
scary but people are generally good, they just want something I can't give and it hurts.

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Mostly it's not something I think about at all, I guess it's always there, and I'm grateful for the
ways I'm sure it's made my life easier, but... it doesn't help me get my work done, or dinner
cooked, it doesn't help get the kids dressed or the house clean, it doesn't help with traffic or
deadlines... it doesn't change most of day to day life at all.
Sorry! I feel like I should have a more exciting answer but, I think real life is just real life for
everybody.
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[] thekrazemuzic 18 points 16 hours ago

It's creates a very jealous and aware fianc.


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[] slightlyamused1 36 points 12 hours ago

As a woman it honestly makes me disgusted by people. The things people say to me are
beyond appropriate sometimes. The other day I was walking past a guy and he said he
wanted to smash my pussy and asked for my number. Standing next to him was his five
year old son. It's really disheartening that people only see me for my body and not my
mind. I cry about it often.
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[S] 9 points 11 hours ago

That's gross. I don't get how people can act like that. Some people just weren't raised
properly. Wow that sounded like I'm an old man.
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[] slightlyamused1 3 points 11 hours ago

It sucks. But it's something you have to live with and choose to rise above.
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[] UseANooserChame 9 points 11 hours ago

This feels gross to reply honestly to, butt fuck it. I'm frequently told how good looking I
am, but it's a recent thing and I'm still coming to terms with it. It's weird, honestly.
I was always the goony kid in school, and for years after. I had/have some pretty severe
depression that, a couple years ago, I decided to start dealing with. Started getting my life
in order, pursued my dream job, hit the gym, and got more confident about maintaining
my appearance. I carry myself better. I'm 26 now and have started to outgrow a lot of the
attitudes that held me back. I've started to notice women checking me out everywhere I
go, which makes me uncomfortable, even if it is pretty cool. I've always been introverted
and awkward, and that hasn't changed much. Still haven't gotten laid in an embarrassingly
long time, but that's just because I make myself intentionally oblivious to girls' advances. I
always make excuses to not pursue girls I'm into because I still can't wrap my head
around the fact that I'm (at least physically) desirable.
The point of this rambling, narcissistic answer is that looks aren't much, especially if you're
a guy. It definitely does make things easier though: people seem more trusting and are

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nicer than they were when I was my skinny, awkward self. The other side of that coin is that
people view me keeping to myself as being "too cool" or "aloof," whereas before it was just
what it is, a self image shaped by depression. To answer the question directly, it's pretty nice
to know that lots of girls think I'm hot, but it's also kinda intimidating.
Boo fucking hoo though, right?
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[] Flomosho 271 points 17 hours ago

They see my fedora and my neckbeard and their panties instantly drop. With one tip of my
fedora, the women are already flocking to my doorstep.
M'lady.
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[] myguitarisacoustic 79 points 16 hours ago

M'dora
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[] Reerhy1 83 points 10 hours ago

M'xplora
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[] racist_alien 33 points 16 hours ago

As you see gentlemen, this is a redditor in his natural habitat.


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[] PS4play 45 points 15 hours ago

You're asking reddit?


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[] Andire 9 points 14 hours ago

You didn't catch the "what do you look like?" Thread?


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[] boomselektah 8 points 10 hours ago

Before I hit puberty I was short and fat, then I grew tall and lost the fat, then the acne hit.
Once that went away I magically became pretty damned good looking, so I know how both
sides feel. Being a good looking person is definitely sweet and I ain't complaining one bit.
I'm gonna sound like a huge douche saying this; but most of my confidence has less to do
with being good looking and more to do with my above average penis size and knowing
that I know how to use it well.
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[] FraytheKate 7 points 10 hours ago

Very, very secure in my appearance. Very very insecure about the rest; sense of humor,
intellect, etc. b/c I don't actually know what I'm good at. Internet is a god-send in that
way, it's a place to find out what people actually think of my mind without my face being
the first thing they see.
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[] rachallred 19 points 15 hours ago

I'm kind of attractive.


I suffer from social anxiety so I avoid people, crowds and eye contact. People usually stare
at me when I'm walking, men, women, little kids. It's awkward because I honestly think
there might be something wrong with my appearance that day.
I get tons of unwanted attention, I have been stopped in the streets, I have been asked for
a "selfie" from random strangers, I've been harassed, stalked, you name it I've
experienced it. It escalates quickly and it gets super scary fast.
You get the worse (in my opinion) treatment from men. They only see you as an object, as
in "you look good so you must be dumb/easy". Men who approach me and comment on my
appearance get the boot fast! Men who want to buy me things: dinners, jewelry, trips, or a
car disgusts me to no end and sadly there's a bunch of them in my industry. I feel
dehumanized every time something like this happens to me.
Women get catty and jealous so it's hard to make new friends. I'm a fairly nice person so
men think I'm being nice because I want them, so when they realize I'm just being friendly
the obsession begins. It gets lonely.
People call me egocentric and shallow. People assume I'm a bitch. On the other hand, I
have never gotten a traffic ticket and I have been stopped at least a couple times. I get a
nice treatment in airports, stores, events, everywhere I go. If I'm eating by myself in a
restaurant I rarely get the check, and when I do I still get free wine or coffee, something
on the house which is funny because I'm weird and I don't like free stuff but that's subject
for another post!
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[S] 9 points 14 hours ago

Interesting! The harassment, stalking, unwanted attention thing sounds terrible, I'm
sorry you have to deal with it. I have no idea what industry would have people offering
to buy you cars, but that's insane.
I couldn't really say if you get the worse treatment from men. I'm a guy, but I also
suffer from anxiety so don't really go up and talk to random people, so I can't judge how
that would go. I guess every type of person can get judged in some way, beautiful or
ugly, fit or fat. You do get some perks as an attractive person, but sounds like some
scary drawbacks as well.
Thanks for answering.
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[] rachallred 4 points 8 hours ago

Before quitting my job I did business development for an engineering company. I had

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lunch/dinner meetings with clients (mostly big energy, oil and gas related), I had to attend
events, golf tournaments, and every other social events with well-off middle aged men.
That's the type of industry I used to work for so it was easy for them to approach a
relatively young and attractive woman because they think Pretty girls are going to be
impressed with their money. One day I was attending an event my company hosted and I
got approached by this 55+ dude trying to make me drink. He told me not to resist it
because he knew that by the end of the night I was "going to be drunk on his boat, which
he had right on his lake house, the same house I was going to be spending the night at". I
laughed because I don't drink when I work, when I am by myself or when I have to drive
so I told him that by the end of the night I was gonna be in bed with my children. He got
aggressive and so insistent that a couple of coworkers had to intervene.
I had another one follow me around in one big convention I had to attend in Galveston. He
then follow me to my hotel room. He found out my phone number, email address (work
and personal) actual address, Facebook and LinkedIn accounts, and he sent me gifts to
work. He offered me a brand new car because "No one this beautiful should drive a cheap
car". He offered to take me on a trip to his house on the keys... I blocked him everywhere
and never engaged in any type of conversation with this man but at least you see the
downside of being somewhat attractive.
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[] shantinori 8 points 12 hours ago

I don't consider myself hot but I'd say I'm fairly cute and I've noticed that the few times
I've been pulled over, the cops are extremely nice to me. One stopped me for speeding
and when I admitted it (I was unfamiliar with the are and didn't realize the speed limit
had dropped along a certain stretch of road), he laughed and said, "Eh, it's not the crime
of the century," and let me go with a warning. I have never been ticketed.
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[] justheretolearn 5 points 9 hours ago

when they realize I'm just being friendly the obsession begins.
This really hits home. Men act REALLY weird when they are rejected, especially if they
have built your "interest" in their minds. I am dealing with this now at work and it's so
uncomfortable!
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[] _Not_Bruce_Wayne_ 20 points 14 hours ago

it actually wasn't until recently that I learned that I am attractive. I went through life
assuming I was below average looking, and that girls were always laughing at me.
it wasn't until I got engaged and she started boosting my confidence that i started to
wonder. I eventually went to my old buddies and asked their opinions. they informed me
that I was the best looking in our group.
turns out girls were giggling and checking me out. not laughing at me
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Hah, well that must have been a nice ego boost.


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[] BirdsNoSkill 13 points 9 hours ago

Here is a situation at work.


I overheard a joke about guy saying how is is going to jokinly kidnap a female employee.
I chimed in said that is creepy, the female response was its not creepy if you're hot.
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[S] 9 points 9 hours ago

Yeah, no, still creepy!


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[] enzlow 6 points 13 hours ago

I am told I am an attractive man and sometimes I do catch women ogling me. It becomes
way more apparent when I am teaching young women (18-21) because they make it very
clear that they think I'm attractive. I'm getting to the age where I feel creepy and slightly
uncomfortable when confronted with this because everyone in the classroom sees what is
going on. The older women are way more subtle about it, but even they can't keep it to
themselves sometimes. The funniest thing is to hear my wife tell me about all the women
who lustfully stare at me, most of which I am completely oblivious to. However, I kinda
figured it out in college when I went out to bars and had women approaching me instead
of the other way around. That built up my confidence quite quickly, which just happens to
be one of the most attractive traits a man can have.
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[] petethepianist 6 points 11 hours ago

After high school, it's just strange. I can't be nice to someone without her (or him I
suppose) thinking I'm flirting, and then of course if I mention I'm in a relationship I'm
immediately an asshole for leading them on. When I still commuted to work via train, I got
into the habit of wearing my class ring with the band portion out as a deterrent, (even
though I was single for the majority of time, still shy).
Over the last few years I've really committed myself to gaining muscle and grew a beard.
Now I get much stranger attention, and much more often than not, it's from men.
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[] BigFatBee 6 points 8 hours ago

This is a pretty bad question for a lot of reasons. Go through post histories in this thread
and a lot of people who have pictures of themselves are pretty... average, to be nice.
Being subjective about your own looks is very difficult for a lot of reasons, in particular
because of our emotional relationship with ourselves. TONS of people are completely
clueless about how other people perceive them, which goes both ways. Some people think
that they are well liked (for myriad reasons) and simply arent. Some people think nobody
likes them and are in fact their own biggest critics. According to the law of averages, most

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of us are just normal. Some of you might be average looking but extremely likeable and are
therefore treated as attractive. Some of you might be really good looking with shit
personalities and might think your looks preclude you from basic human decency or pro-social
behavior (and people definitely think you're an asshole or a cunt). There are so many factors
that blend in to what makes a person attractive that I think it's highly unlikely anyone who
would answer this question, or feels qualified to answer it, has a very objective view of the
facts.
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[] MajorMajorObvious 80 points 16 hours ago

It's repulsive how many undesirable people you attract. I find that the people who are
attracted to physical beauty are the most unappealing kind of people, from desperate
cougars to unhygienic strangers. It does help boost self confidence though, but as like
everything is a double edged sword.
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[] ryantoar 94 points 15 hours ago

the people who are attracted to physical beauty are the most unappealing kind of
people
Uh, I think that's all people.
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[] Zaivia 16 points 14 hours ago

Yeah :/ I mean, if you only care about looks and you couldn't honestly care less about
a person's personality or morals or interests or whatever, then I'd call you shallow and
perhaps unappealing. I mean hey, if a couple of good looking people with horrible
personalities get together, and they are happy with each other, then that's great. But
to say that "people who are attracted to physical beauty are the most unappealing
kind of people"...I mean, that's like 97% of people. The other % is asexual people,
and then maybe blind people. Jokes aside though, I feel like looks are kind of
important. I don't think people should get offended for saying "I don't find that person
attractive." That's their opinion. Being attracted to your partner is important, and I'd
say that a physical relationship is just as important as any other aspect of a
relationship. And a physical relationship is difficult if you don't find them attractive.
This is all just my opinion though, you can feel free to disagree with me, varying
opinions make the world go round.
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[] femme123 4 points 8 hours ago

I find myself agreeing with you, but I'll add this: i notice the unappealing ones because
they don't just stare, they leer. There's a definite creep factor to their attention, so it
comes across as an unspoken invasion of privacy. Normal, non-creepy people tend to be
more subtle or respectful when they look, so their attention largely goes unnoticed.
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[] spacepunch 4 points 5 hours ago

In my experience, it's only when there's a huge gap in attractiveness that people make
obvious passes like that. I'm a moderately attractive dude, and I get some really
uncomfortable attention from unattractive women. Shit like, "I wanna have your babies."

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From a total stranger. Anyway, I've been guilty of similar things in weaker hours, and it's
always when I feel a great deal of desire for a woman, but no hope of ever getting with her.
It's sort of a hail-mary and an insult and an act of worship.
Edit: spelling. Also, I do love me some cougars though! :D
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[] zydric 11 points 14 hours ago*

ill give a different side to this.I'm ugly as sin but my wife is dead gorgeous (she came in
2ND in miss nova Scotia one year among many other beauty contests and such things) .
Every time someone sees me and her together they have no idea we are actually together
and they just assume IM her ugly brother. It's hilarious when they find out Im with her.
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[S] 5 points 14 hours ago

Haha, awesome. You get to stand there grinning thinking, "That's right fuckface." That's
great.
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[] sirthomashenry 15 points 14 hours ago

Female here. I would consider myself about a 7. Maybe an 8 on my best day. I would say
the struggle for me is that 7s are approachable. I am a sociable person, I DO like to talk to
people so for the most part, I like that people generally find me attractive yet they are not
intimated to talk to me. However, there are also a lot of weirdos that feel comfortable
approaching me as well, because hey, you've got a chance with a 7. On the other hand,
men that are more attractive than I am, say an 8, 9, or 10 have no problem acting like
total fucking assholes to me because they have pulled hotter girls.
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[] zerorules 10 points 14 hours ago

Things start out very well. Through High school and College it was very very easy to have
sex. In a lot of cases at parties at some point a girl would approach me with little
conversation (sometimes none) and would be very interested in sex. This is a lot of fun
when single.
The issues come when in relationships....Girls get very jealous when at a party another
attractive woman approaches you and just offers sex. This creates all kinds of issues. It is
also hard on some guy friends as they always felt I was drawing to much attention leaving
them to hang. The effect on relationships in general sucked.
I had to basically become a homebody to stave off these types of problems. I have been
with my wife now for 10 years, and still get messages from girls from my past offering sex
and trying to get together. I have to be very careful when this happens and make sure
that I let my wife know so I never look like I am hiding anything. It hard for her to
understand that sometimes I get unsolicited offers of sex. I take it that most people go
through their entire lives without a conversation starting with an offer for sex from a

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stranger.
Would I change anything....hard to say. I slept with countless women. Many of them incredibly
beautiful, but I also lost friends. Like all things it is a mixed bag. I would have to say that I did
feel that I got some preferential treatment from younger woman teachers that I had and would
actively use this to my advantage.
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[] OSHA_certified 5 points 11 hours ago*

Intimidating and annoying all in one.


There are several things that I encounter when it comes to this.
On the annoyance hand, I've noticed people tend to think I'm an idiot and have lived my
life benefiting from attractiveness, so I get people breaking things down Barney style even
if I've told them that I either know what they're talking about or have told them I have
experience with what they're trying to tell me. It's like they think that I'm lying to them
and just want good looks to get me somewhere, and I've had a number of people be
completely surprised that I know what I'm talking about when it's on a subject I know
much of.
On the intimidating hand, I also get people that expect me to be the most socially tactful
person around because I must get so many people wanting to talk to me and be my friend.
Truth is I have only a couple friends and I am not socially graceful. I'm not RUDE but I
don't always know what to say which is off putting for a lot of people.
I don't thank my stars people think I'm attractive. I'd rather be normal.
Also the relationships I've been in always had me worried that they were only with me for
my looks or if they actually liked me as a person and it led to a lot of insecurities about
myself that I still have because I am afraid that I'm actually a horrible person but people
put up with me because I'm attractive.
To me personally, being attractive doesn't inspire confidence. It degrades every interaction
with a new person into a wonder and battle with myself on whether they like talking to me
as a person or just being polite while they get to stare at me.
TL;DR: people expect little of me on intelligence and it's annoying; people expect much if
me on social graces and it's intimidating. It is a constant struggle to wonder if they like my
personality or face more. I want to be average.
Edit: Added some things.
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[] izzyjubejube 9 points 13 hours ago

I usually dress like a slob and don't really care about my appearance, but when I actually
sometimes put an effort in I get a lot of male attention (I'm a girl).
It's nice seeing a guy's head turn once in a while, but I think I usually come across as
unapproachable... I had a pretty interesting hairstyle for a while, which guys would tell me
they liked, but I think it can be intimidating? I'm not sure. Also I'm painfully shy, which I
guess looks standoffish to people who don't know me.
My boyfriend tells me I'm hot when I'm unshowered in sweatpants, though, so that's all I

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[] Marzap 10 points 9 hours ago

I just recently started feeling attractive. Which has made a huge difference in how others
react to me.
I have always been a dude's girl. Up for talking about sports, cars, video games, politics,
science, etc... So I've had a lot of guy friends my whole life. I've also been chubby... Not
"fat" but definitely not "skinny"... (read big boobs)
I started dressing a little better, got eyelash extensions, I wear red lipstick a lot, and
started openly flirting and it's been a 180 from before.
It's fun. Lol... I personally love the attention. But it's also very new. So I feel like I can't
empathize with those who say they feel bad or objectified. I love being objectified.
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[] UmustBjoking 8 points 7 hours ago

ITT: good looking women are confident and guys approach them; good looking men are
often shy and women don't
C'mon ladies, hold up your end here.
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[] Intanjible 4 points 13 hours ago

This thread is like that 30 Rock episode "The Bubble".


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[] JuliaGasm 4 points 12 hours ago

I've been told I'm very attractive by lots of people. It feels almost as if they're friends with
you cuz you're hot (maybe 20% of the time I feel like this) And you also catch people
staring quite a bit.
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[] bulbysoar 13 points 13 hours ago

Lady here. I'd just like to be able to walk down the street without being harassed. That'd
be pretty peachy.
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[] zazoom783 7 points 15 hours ago

Being a blonde woman, it is great for getting out of speeding tickets.


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[] DickHeadSummationGuy 13 points 16 hours ago

Man here...

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Well, I use it to my advantage. I use my "dreamy" eyes to woo HR people and get things I
need or want. I get extra benefits where possible. I can get a laugh in any room. I can always
get sex on vacations or club nights. I get free drinks at bars. People don't forget you and often
treat you overly nice. Basically, just imagine walking around with a sign that said, "I have a
million bucks in my pocket and I MIGHT share it with you" stapled to your forehead...
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[] Yevla 13 points 15 hours ago

It's awesome, thank you.


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[] FlaccidExplosion 6 points 14 hours ago

I'm told I'm very attractive but I have anxiety that keeps me from talking to women. If the
circumstances are different though, and we're already introduced or something, then it's
much easier for me to relax and be myself. People without anxiety don't realize how
difficult it can be, no matter how attractive you are. Any time someone tells me I'm hot, I
just shrug it off and say "no I'm not" because that's pretty much what I think.
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[] Notmyprotein 6 points 13 hours ago

Personally, it's turned me into a huge arsehole.


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[] Princepurple1 2 points 9 hours ago

username checks out


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[] ihuha 3 points 12 hours ago

its hard to tell since you don't know how life is not being attractive.
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[] Scr33nlines 3 points 12 hours ago

This will be kind of odd, but here goes I guess. I'm told I'm hot, but I don't see it, or
maybe I have shit self-esteem, I don't know. I'm also introverted as hell and have social
anxiety. My friends keep telling me that girls are probably just scared to approach me and
that I should approach them. So I'm stuck in this shitty spot where I'm not sure if I believe
I'm hot, and I may be and only my friends are telling me, so it's just weird. If I am hot,
then it doesn't mean shit without a personality and some spine to go with it.
Or did you mean like, Robert Downey Jr. hot? Cause that'd probably be a whole nother
story. I'm sure at that level I'd be approached by someone, at least some very attractive,
confident women who've been constantly reassured that they're the shit.
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[] SgtShitlord 3 points 12 hours ago

People say I'm cute a lot, although that's probably thanks to my FABULOUS personality

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It makes dealing with people super easy. Like whenever I see people go on about how
customers hassle them I remember how I never really had any trouble. Wherever you go
people are just generally nice to you (plus people buy you stuff sometimes. You can't not love
free things)
It does have sucky points, like creepy people coming up to you and starting conversations you
never wanted to have. Plus stalkers; I'm 19 and so far I've had 2 people stalk me on social
media/in person etc.
It also makes relationships weird, especially as you're getting to know someone, since you've
no idea if they like you because you're pretty, if they want to date you, or if they're completely
indifferent to your appearance.
Despite that it's still way better than being ugly (you know who you are, Reddit people!)
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[] cum_get_it_throwaway 3 points 11 hours ago

As an attractive girl, I find that other girls are much more intimidated and threatened by
me. Also, having friendships with guys can be difficult. Not going to lie though, my looks
definitely give me a confidence boost and I can almost always talk/flirt my way out of a
problem.
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[] TheGoodCitizen 3 points 10 hours ago

Attractive as a younger man and being somewhat of an assertive but brooding introvert
with a tendency toward philosophic conversation I think I mistakenly fell under the
impression that the things I had to say were very novel and thought provoking.
Looking back now, I realize that I was an idiot that some girls were willing to listen to and
what I thought others perceived as wit and charm were ultimately just shy narcissism
people were dealing with out of kindness to someone they thought were besting them in
some way.
Of course looking back to youth, everyone I knew including those that were considered
somewhat unattractive, I now realize were all exceptionally beautiful.
Such is the unappreciated gifts of youth, as they say, that are wasted on the young.
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[] lilcashew 3 points 10 hours ago

I am getting up there in age, so it's not as bad as it was when I was younger...everyone
assumes I am flirting when I talk to them. Male and female. When I was a teenager
waiting tables, I was sexually harassed constantly by coworkers and guests. As an adult,
I'm still sexually harassed by coworkers. My older sisters get angry at me when I cut my
hair, or don't wear makeup because they are jealous of not being as pretty as me and
angry when I don't take advantage of it? It's a generally very hostile environment to be an
attractive female, IMO. I'm sort of glad to be growing out of it.
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[] FeedMeACat 3 points 9 hours ago

Not hot. But I dressed up as a rock star with black clothes, Ramones shirt, aviators, and
tight jeans. I have a good jaw line and with a black long hair wig, it all came together.
Before my female friends recognised me they were checking me out. And the whole night I
was getting stares from women on dates. It was really uncomfortable.
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[] town_klown 3 points 9 hours ago

Male here. Very similar to the top comment, I receive compliments often about my
appearance but I am also extremely introverted and self conscious. Going through school I
was always athletic and involved in sports, which made it easier to make friends and for
women to approach me, but I was constantly bullied for my shyness. My "friends" would
often try to put me in the spotlight whenever we hung out with other people and make fun
of trivial things like knowing who popular musicians were at the time, not going out to
parties and knowing the popular kids. I remember once everyone pointing out and
laughing at me in a large group of people for not knowing who the band Offspring was.
Looking back it seems so insignificant but at the time it felt huge and hurt like hell. I often
thought to myself "I wish I was ugly and happy". This led to social anxiety, especially with
women and I didn't lose my virginity until I was in my 20's. I look now at these same
people who bullied me through school and I see them post updates on facebook on their
engagement, marriage or children and always think how unfair it seems that I'm still single
in my late 20's. The worst aspect about it is that as an attractive person who is
introverted, people often assume that you are arrogant because you keep to yourself and
aren't talkative. I'll never forget the first time I overheard a complete stranger talking to
someone else about me, saying how "cocky and full of himself he is". This was by far the
most hurtful thing and it only compounded my shyness, which negatively affected my
relationships with women. Today when I receive compliments it is always flattering on
some level, but it has gotten to a point where it has become meaningless because people
don't know anything else about me. While I know this isn't their fault and the first thing
you notice about someone is their physical appearance, I feel like my upbringing has
created a negative stereotype and that people judge me on how I look before even getting
to know me
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[] BitchNigga_ 3 points 9 hours ago

ITT: Social Anxiety


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[] em425 3 points 6 hours ago

Somewhat attractive female here. It is very hard to have an intelligent conversation with a
guy without him steering the conversation in a flirtatious direction.
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