tyler durden - foundations review notes:

hei everyone... i just recently made notes of the ENTIRE 8 hrs of foundations
by tyler... so thought i'd put it up here if anyone is interested... hope its ok
with you rsd boys that i put it on here.. if not.. take the thread away.. notes
go from top to bottem..

(real social dynamics... foundations part 2 notes)

- never be reactive to any girl... whatever she says or does during the pickup... " being un-reactive is a really big turn-on for woman...." so if she
throws shit-tets... respond with yeah," cool..
- woman tend to divide men into two categories:
1. the kinda guy who doesent read too much into the interaction," who goes
out and meets woman easly and all the time and who thinks of it as a fun
way
to release some tension.. who is just having fun," sex is not some kinda
huge deal for him. its just to cement a moment.
2. the provider guy," the guy who can take care of her... he'll take her for 3
months of dates before they have sex
- when girls say... be yourself.." what they really mean is bring her into
you're world, show her what u are about and let her make up her own mind.
- always trust the process," you built it for her
- i am the alpha and i am the boss of the venue... i do what the fuck i want
and talk to who the fuck i want and if she doesent want too talk to me... fuck
her i dont care
- be willing to test yourself... and don't stop when u hit a plateau or get into
a lull.. you just got to push through that
- this is something where you will have to push yourself out of your comfort
zone.." and the more you can do that," the more sucessfull you will be at
this
- cool guy thinking:
1. i will built confidence and social skills over a period of time
2. i will be a naturally attractive guy
3. i will become a better person from inside and out
4. i will commit to step out of my comfort zone and getting myself out there
5. i don't view this as work. its a fun thing
- even if its a rough night and you get pounded or get AA all night," it
doesent matter cos this will then thicken your skin an you will learn for the
next time that you go out.
- how to get good with girls
1. commit to going out 3 nights a week
2. commit to starting conversations with x-number of woman each night

(tyler says 10 woman a night)

3. learn how to open conversations with everyone (as you built confidence,"
people will be more and more receptive to you
4. you learn how to keep a conversation going
- you always have to go through the process.. first you learn to open and
then you will learn how to go through all the processes up untill sex... but
this takes time.
- how to get good with girls (naturals)
1. you learn to physically escalate
2. you learn about body-language, her body language, confidence, humor,
charisma and sexual tension
3. when u start out u pick a default way to start conversations, hook her
attention (make observation of her), create a vibe, get physical comfort, ask
for a number, move venue's
- dont change you're personality just so you can pick her up... she will sense
the lack of congruerence (realness about you)
- to be really good with woman you must really put your personality out
there," you must put it out there on the line.. its like put your head on the
chopping board and know it will be fine
- why do we go to nightclubs to learn how to meet woman?:
1. clubs have the number of girls that you need to practice (built momentum
of talking to people to get into state)
2. clubs have the number of girls that you need to hit state (state is
talkative," out of your head," having a good time and being care-free)
3. clubs make daytime seem easy (if u can do club-game," daytime is a
peace of cake)
4. you can the learn attitudes and styles of interactions of social people
(take a step up," go a little bit higher then what you used to
- about nightclubs (continued):
1. you learn how to hold court
2. you learn how to befriend large groups of people
3. you learn to handle social pressure (get used to girls having bitch-shields
and how to break those)
4. you learn to out-alpha guys (just tool em back a little bit)
5. learn to handle funny logistical puzzles
- whoever has a stronger belief in themselfs will affect the other person
(kinda frame-controll idea... look at justus for this)
- confidence: (woman can tell a lot from these tools straight off)
1. voice (any sign of weakness in any of the below and its not gonna go
far,"make sure your voice is as strong as theirs)
2. eye-contact (so much of thise game is in the eye-contact)
3. body-language (girl will look if your uptight or loose)
4. touch (start touching people right from the start)
5. social skills (if the girl feels you are just having fun and seem high-value,"
she will want to be part of that)
6. not putting up with nonsense
- female psychology:

1. social conditioning (acts as if she does not like sex)

2. lack of accountability (have sex.. then it "just happened", be the leader
and guide the interaction through various stages)
3. girls as choosers (girl observes your personality and once she is ready she
will choose you, show her enough of yourself so that she wants it)
4. change her mood," not her mind (if you want to change her mind get her
giggling," get her laughing and then re-suggest what u said before in slightly
other way)
5. girls live in the emotion of the moment and backwards rationalize it
6. congruence tests
- beautifull girls have options," a woman could reject 10.000 guys and have
sex with one out of 10.000 and still have more sex then the averige men
just because she has sooo many options
so the guy who is most different and stands out from the hordes of other
guys who want something from her is the one she will end up with
- female psychology (continued)
1. secret society (there is a double standard that woman have for one type
and another type of guy)
2. girl eye code (so as not to feel slutty and ratify feelings)
3. why girls are drawn to clubs subconsciously (a club is just a giant happy
state pumping venue for them)
4. clubs as a revalidation venue
5. dancing as sexual exhibition
- female psychology (continued)
1. dancing as a programming defensive wall
2. peer group jealousy / protectiveness
3. validation
4. the lifestyle of a professional hottie
5. buying temperature (as the emotions take over," its canceling out the
girls logic)
6. nancy friday "my secret garden" sexual fantasies
- the biggest part of meeting woman is really simple," its just about making
them laugh but not in a clown way (so true)
- a man is turned on like a light-switch," a woman is turned on like a volume
knob.
- if a woman stays after u attempt something like a move or a kiss and she
says no.. the only thing that it means is "not yeat" and you need to up her
buying temperature with jokes, stories.
- a woman is a lot more likely to move around the venue before leaving the
venue together with you," she is probably a lot more comftable going to
restaurant near your house then straight there
- as she is getting to know you... the emotion is taking over and the logic is
going down.. she is getting to know you and is feeling more attracted to you
and then just escalate

(real social dynamics... foundations part 3 notes)

- congruence tests (shit tests) instead of responding logically, your strongest
responses are:
1. to answer straighforwardly but be visibly emotionally unaffected by what
they are trying to do
2. to not answer at all as if what they said was too far outside of your reality
to process (just keep on talking)
3. to cut of their thread by not responding and asserting a new topic of
conversation (snip and stack)
4. to answer in the way they want but do something funny that is slightly
different
5. to jokingly call them for trying to step up (in breaking rapport kinda way)
6. to joke that what they said is playing up to earlier observations you made
of them. (wauw you are a troublemaker)
7. to joke that they're too strong for you to handle and that they win (wow..
you got me," you win alright)
8. to playfully misinterpret what they said (they tried to compliment /
impress / come onto you / make em repeat themself)
9. to jokingly imitate them (whatever she said.. say it right back in a silly
voice)
10. give them a weird look (if a girl says something totally weird to you,"
give em a weird look and talk about something else)
11. ignore it (when guys try and pull you into a role.. just ignore like you
cant even hear what they say)
- if a girl says something that is moving you away from your target (the pickup).. just ignore it (answer the question that you would have wished to been
asked)
- the best way to deal with a shittest is just to blow it of... the least reactive
way is the best because if you use the fancier techniques you come across
as very reactive
- when woman throw shittest at you.. thats a good thing," its her way of
playing with you (she is doing it cos she is curious and interested about you)
so play with her back
- as a man you need to have your own purpose in life outside of woman
because then when woman give u these tests they just bounce of off you,
because u know you can always meet someone new.
- its about having that natural personality that comes across to woman
really well and woman just happen to be attracted to you," its just who you
are.
- elements of a solid pick-up that can consistently get you results:

1. open (get the conversation going)

2. hook / touch (differentiate yourself from other guys)
3. touch (establish touching between you and the girl)
4. vibe (share stories, shoot the shit, tease)
5. qualify (qualifying her, why u wanna see her again, showing her why she
wants to be a part of this )
6. number
7. venue change
8. sex
- wing rules (going out with a friend):
1. accomplishment intro, or joke merge of swap out (big up your friend
before or after he comes in, big him up in crazy way is good.... ambassador
for unicef?)
2. joking around with your friends and inside jokes (try and get her into
this.... matt damon joke?)
3. when wing comes in after hook-point body-language toward him and
greet extensivly
4. then quikly catch him up to speed about what you are talking about. "
where talking about the ......
- girls want to go with regular, cool guys who are just having some fun... the
girls dont want to be the party, they want to be let into the party (reallyy
vital this one)
- if you and your wing are having a great time and your the life of the
party..." the people in the club can see that and they want in.
- if you are already shooting the shit with your friend, when you walk by a
girl..." just tap her on her shoulder and she is in there right away (remember
casper and the guy at t' hart about his sister)
- when its two guys and two girls there is a different dynamic going on then
when its just one guy and one girl," when the girls buying temperature goes
up the conversation will split into one girl. one guy
- then what will happen," girl eye-coding.. so if one of the girls is having fun
and the other one isent," you will loose the set.. if one of the girls wants sex
and the other one does not.. no sex
- the way into a two on two conversation is one guy will go in and warm it
up.. and then friend comes in after hookpoint. another way is to go in with
your friend.. if your already joking around this is highly effective
- always ball-bust your friend..." when a girl gives a phone nr to your friend
say stuff like... "dont do it, he's bad... dont do it" and ect
- when speaking to girl she always has to understand that you are having
fun.. and yes you are enjoying her company and drawn to her female
energy... but if they where gone.. i'd have just as much fun
- girls have to look out for eachother," because as the girls buying
temperature goes up from alcohol and dancing... and they know that if they
dont cockblock some guy who is not worthy.. her friend might
go home with someone she does not want want to end up with.
- with winging.. " if your proud of your friends then girls will feel this... if you
not proud of your friends.... girls will feel this also. (show a lot of

enthousiasm towards your wings / friends and girls will want to find out)
- wing rules (continued)
1. getting your wing in with a 2 set "my friend is bored"
2. two set dynamics with 2 on 2 aproaches
3. you and your friend tooling each other as a joke and way to demonstrate
value
- whatever it is that you have going on in your life... be enthousiastic about
it," but dont say it in a bragging way.
- the major two ways that girls will blow you out after bad girl eye-coding
and them feeling uncomftable is "we have to go to the bathroom" or " we
have to go dance"
- everything is feedback," all rejection is learning as your modifying," your
never a victim," every rejection is one step closer to success.... its ridiculous
to care about rejection and its irrational and dumb
- opening single, double and groups of girls:
1. warm versus cold approaches (no eye contact is needed before
approaching the girl is needed)
2. working the room vs sticking to one girl (girl will get the feeling you do
not want anything from them," so eject before they do and then re-open
later.. leave on high-note)
3. no eye contact is necesarry...." you just appeared
4. get attention (tap her on the shoulder if she is not facing you or even
when she is walking by or whatever)
5. establish dominance with your eye contact, voice (deep booming voice
from your chest) and body-language (do not look down or act submissive)
- opening single, double or groups of girls (continued):
1. keep talking untill they open up....."no way out rule" (keep talking untill
something you say hits, do not worry about her reaction)
2. structure opportunities to help them talk (give her a reason to talk to you)
3. if girls ask you questions do not let them take over and tool you
4. if girls are seated then preferably either stand them up or sit down
(always try and get comftable as soon as possible," otherwise you'll loose
value)
- start of your interactions with higher energy and then slowly as you and
the girl are getting to know eachother better... take the energy back to a
normal conversational level

(real social dynamics... foundations part 4 notes)

- if a conversation starter is too good.. it sounds rehearsed," but if its just
kinda loose and whatever.. its just a conversation and its great.
- after you sit down with the group of girls just keep talking about what you
where saying... " if you then go from offering value from talking about cool
stuff to taking value (sooo.. whats up).. you go wrong there.

- u can sense the nature of the relationship of the people by examining the
dynamic of the interaction, if the girl is having some fun. they met that
night, likewise, if she looks bored of comftable with the guy, they are dating
- when you start a conversation and she "locks up / becomes uncomftable...
you can then back of a bit / take a few steps back while you keep on talking
to her
- if you open a girl in a " high traffic " situation... " always get her out of
there as fast as possible... you go stand against the wall, snap your fingers
and motion and say " hei come here "
- opening single, double or groups of girls (continued):
1. getting comfortable so you can work (always find a comfortable position
for yourself," if you do not you will loose value)
2. engaging late comers (do not go backwards, but pull her in and engage
em quickly)
3. reinitiating lost or interrupted approaches (go back in but talk about
something else, dont reinitiate the same thread or reinitiate with playfull
stuff like " i hate you " or " you and i would not get along ")
4. determining the relationships within the group (so how do you all know
eachother)
5. getting alone time with the girl (with larger groups they usually ok with it
because they have more people to keep the conversation going)
- if you do what you feel and you come from a position of realness," you will
get a great result and that is always how your gonna get your best results
cos there is gonna be a lot more power behind that then a chess move
- opening single, double or groups of girls (continued):
1. approaching girls facing the bar (go in say " hey guys " and in a tapping
motion take the shoulders of both girls and pull em out, or get in like a
wedge beside em.. tap.. tap and make a " come here motion ")
2. approaching girls on the move (either claw her into you, or tap em on the
shoulder... another great way is to just start talking and keep talking as they
go by... keep your feet planted as they will look if you follow em)
3. approaching girls at a table (is a seat available?, is purse on the seat?)
4. approaching girls alone who wants to find her friends (ok... here," hold out
your arm and you go and find the friends together, when u find them also
talk and joke around with them)
5. approaching mixed guy / girl sets (at the beginning, only talk to the guy..
and the girl will try and get into the conversation.. and just playfully keep
pushing her away)
- hooking a conversation:
1. stand out from other guys as quickly as possible (girls get approached
countless times a night)
2. add value to their night (a good thing that gives them a good experience
to their night, make a comment about them, tell a funny story.... no
interview questions, add playfullness)
3. get them reacting to you for your own amusement (so that means no
impressing girls with stories or ect or entertaining her)
4. cold-reading them

5. teach them something of interest (you have a good girl face, but every
once in a while you make a bad girl mannerism, casper's longer finger
routine)
6. playfull cold-reads (you guys are bad, you guys are fiesty, crazy, you guys
are the most evil girls in this entire place...." these work really well right
after the opener)
- hooking a conversation (continued):
1. future adventures projection (if i did not have to go i would adopt you as
my new little sister," we could go to greece and wear toga's and you could
sell lemonade.. you'd be good.. you and her in dorky scenario)
2. role-playing (my utrecht gf for the next 5 mins... see how you do," danceinstructor for the next 5 mins.. ok show me your moves)
3. conspiracies (walk around the club and tell people you just got married..
she will play along," we are brother and sister.. do you think we look alike?)
4. busting them on their mannerisms (when she touches you to apologize,
lean back.. and when she does it again to apoligize.. do it again)
5. push / pull (your either one of the coolest girls i have ever met or your a
total weirdo.. i havent decided yeat...." its a compliment with a little tease
after it to take it back)
- hooking a conversation (continued):
1. elastic band snapback effect (its kinda like putting a funny lil challenge up
and they will come back at it... are u a good dancer?.. no i dont think your a
good dancer!)
2. disqualification (you know what.. iam a bad man," iam evil.. iam the kinda
guy your mother warned you about.. so watch out ok," you know what i dont
think we should talk more, iam bad for you)
3. pimp talk (your talking sexy but saying something retarded)
4. qualifying and challenging
5. silly games (l.a. vs nyc handshake," handhitting thing," thumbwrestling
thing)
6. imitating them or other people (their accents," anything about them... its
great cos when u do that she knows she cant control you)
- when you walk through the club," do not be the serious.. " james bond "
type guy cos everyone is doing that.. be the guys having fun," be the guy
that doesent give a shit and having the time of his life
- with kino.. for example with hand-holding.. " sometimes you just want to
let go and she will keep holding onto your hand.. and if she does not hang
onto your hand," then just let go of her
- touch (kino'ing the girl)
1. pinging (if she likes you... this is great to test her btw... punch her and she
will punch back, poke her and she will poke back)
2. teaching something physical in nature (transition to it... hei let me show
you something)
3. moving her around (spin her around," or just grab them and physically
move them," but make it as they being led)
4. poking (same as with pinging)
5. high-fiving (good way to see how comftable a girl is with you," just do a

random high-five... if the girl likes you.. she will respond enthousiastically," if
not.. then it will be a weak high-five)
- touch (kino'ing the girl) (continued):
1. tickling
2. wrestling
3. hair pulling
4. neck-biting
5. slow down speaking
6. get closer
7. triangular gazing
8. back scratching
9. smelling hair
10. kissing

(real social dynamics... foundations part 5 notes)

- when she asks the typical " interview questions ".... give her a funny
answer as to show her that you are unlike any of the other guys she has
interacted before... (what do you do," iam a dildo-model)
- be a little bit silly with the girls," show them that you can not be
catagorized and let her figure you out
- vibing with the girls (building a conversation to have a great vibe with her):
1. be playfull
2. tell funny or interesting stories
3. teach her funny things
4. ask her questions and misinterpret her answers (how old are you?... 20....
wauw you look really young for 40)
5. deep and wide rapport (deep rapport is one topic and go deep and long
into that specific topic," wide rapport is talking about a million different
things)
- if a girl is acting out of character with you and you call her on the phone
and she is not in that mentaility she is not going to be receptive.... so try
and keep her in character if u think you can only get a phone-close
- the way to act around woman is to act as if you go out with your friends

and you just shooting the shit with them and just hanging out," with this you
will have a lot of success
- during vibing you have to learn to stop talking and see if she re-initiates
the conversation a little bit...." one way you can do that is just to look at her
with that expectant look in your eyes
- if you can just vibe with the girl...." and not try and impress her in any way,
you will see a lot of times that she will just start asking you questions...
usually the standard interview questions on which you can bust her.
- vibing with the girls (building a conversation to have a great vibe with her)
continued:
1. make her want to find out more about you
2. vibing versus giving advice or having a set purpose
3. essence of nerds
4. building energy in the interaction
5. knowing when to pipe in and understanding hierachies
- in loud venue's you need to plow..." but in more quit places you can have a
nice conversation easly...." in loud venue's just talk.. and talk.. and then give
a generic compliment so it makes sense when u go for the nr
- to be really good with people in general...." you have to treat people you
dont know like old friends (assume attarction.. anyone thats talking to me
likes me)... talk to them completely openly and freely, and not worry
what they think," not trying to impress them and having a good time. they
will then pressume on an onconcious level that you can do that with
everybody... they are curious about how you can do that and wanna talk
to you because of that
- there are two ways to be the anchor of a conversation," one way is to be
the center of attention... but another way is to have everyone qualify
themselfs to you.. so to be the guy sitting there being the judge
- with vibing... just have a lot of fun together... as much as you two can
create... pull her into your world," into your reality.... that is a great form of
vibing
- never play the reassuring game... " just try and move off off that topic as
soon as possible... because if you are reassuring her you are breaking trust
because your going by her world view
- the angles you wanna have during pickup are...." iam not jugemental about
sex...." iam just a guy to have fun with...."
- commonalities you wanna built are things like..." places we would like to go
or been too...." dont really go into the deep emotional connetion road as it
slows things down
- qualification (qualifying the girls):
1. having a standard of what you'll respond to so she wants to impress (if
they are boring... maybe u wanna keep talking to your friend and the girl will
work harder to bring her best self to the table when talking to you)
2. curiosity frame (if something you ask comes from a genuine place of
curiosity to find out about her...."ask in curiosity tone of voice," then your
coming from a place of power and realness)
3. commonalities (you dont need to agree with her on everything..." also let

her show you why her opinion is cool and later when you do find
commonalities it legitimizes those)
4. understanding and demonstrating authority in her world (when you
understand her world..." you understand her)
5. teaching her things that make her feel closer to you
- qualification is the one thing that reduces your flaking rate the most...." its
the one thing that is very importend in every single pick-up.
- if she has the impression that she is a better person when she is around
you," its going to result in her wanting to be around you more... people dont
value what they dont have to work for
- girls love a guy who will just speak his mind...." who will say what he really
thinks and who is not trying to agreeable (what.. you like apples," i hate
apples)
- qualification gives you a reason to call her the next day," qualification
gives you a reason to get to know eachother better
- qualification (qualifying the girls continued):
1. qualification and how it makes you showing intrest ok
2. psychology behind qualification
3. qualifying and then backpedding
4. using the emotionally unexplained (if you cant find anything you can
qualify her on.... i feel good around you," i feel comftable around you," i
wanna hang out with you more)
- qualification (qualifying the girls continued):
1. showing her unique value to you (whenever a girl says something that
truly impresses you... be impressed)
2. giving your criteria and having her try to reach it
3. misdirection (do you have a belly-button ring?. yes / no... good cos i cant
stand when girls dont have a belly-button ring / good cos i hate it when girls
have a belly-button ring)
4. a good vibe is truly the best and most natural qualifier
- there are two real qualifiers... " the first one is having standards (give them
and she can work towards showing to you that she has those qualities....
frame it to her as in " what i think is cool in a person ")
- phone numbers (getting them):
- (in breaking rapport tone).... you know what?.. you're drunk aren't you?. we
could have hung out and had fun, but you're drunk and you'll forget about
me. are you drunk right now?... if i call," will you remember me
- you are either one of the coolest people i ever met," or you are like a total
weirdo. where you ever a fat kid in high-school? reason i ask is you have
these funny little things and i thought only a fat kid could develop that

(real social dynamics... foundations part 6 notes)

- venue changing:

1. over hype wherever you're going (giving her those logical reasons to do
what she emotionally wants to do)
2. meet your friends (iam here with some very cool people," you wanna join
us?)
3. meet new people in the club (pretend like we just got married and then
introducing her to other people in the club)
4. take her to dance
5. take her to go get a drink at the bar
6. see different parts of the club (over hype the different other parts of the
club and then take her there)
7. checking out a different venue
8. go to an afterparty (do it at your own house if you have too)
- the more venue's you have been with her..." the more experience she has
with you so you just also addressed your flaking problem as you have all
these fun little experiences together
- the best moment to venue change is on a buying spike.... " if you say
something that is completely hysterical and while she is cracking up
laughing you say... come here," you gotto see this its so cool or venue
change
- venue changing (continued):
1. go to eat
2. go back to your house (give a fun or interesting reason to go there)
3. go back to your room (give a fun or interesting reason to go there)
4. get on your bed (give a fun, interesting, nonchalant or commanding
reason)
- a great and dominant way to get a girl into bed is to just throw her over
your shoulder," carry her like a caveman and throw her onto the bed. a lot of
times a great way to move things forward is to command them, just say it
- sex:
1. slow escalation (depending on the girl afcourse)
2. teasing by moving forward and pulling away (elastic snapback effect)
3. dominance (some girls like dominance," some girls dont so see what
works)
4. playing hard to get (jump into bed," escalate a little bit.. get her hott and
then jump out of bed and show her your t-shirts / the view or whatever)
- sex (continued):
1. wash rinse repeat (if you move it forward and its not going forward," keep
going and try again later... if you try moving forward and she says "no no..
all it means is..." not yeat)
2. not arguing with token resistance
3. stopping and joking around to make it not a big deal (tickle a girl," blow
and make funny noises on her belly-button.... remember the girl in indonesia
at the hotel)... try and alternative between sillyness and going for it
4. going for it when its right
- one of the biggest things with sex is... if the girl understands that she can
leave at any moment and you dont care is she leaves...." she is going to feel
a lot more comfortable with the sex thing....

- phone game (working the phone):

1. when you call a girl you might feel apprehensive because you do not want
to loose the validation of her liking you previously
2. realize that regardless of her reaction, it does not de-validate that you did
a great approach
3. also realize that she may have liked you in the moment but could have a
million reasons not to see you again (boyfriend, too inconvienent, ect....)
- when you get a girls number..." your basic emotion will be not to call her
number.... your mind tells you that you should not call her even tho it makes
no sense at all
- phone game (working the phone) continued:
1. the other reason you might feel apprehension is because you can not
read her body-language or see what she's thinking like you face-to-face
2. that goes away with practice
3. you never know which girls will call back (just get the nr of every girl you
meet... because sometimes even girls who are not into you initially will
wanna go lout)
- a good time to phone girls is between 7 and just before 10 at night," but
might also be the time when every other chump calls them... " so test it out
and see what works great for you
- when you go to call girls on the phone that you met," do two things first...
first thing is to get into a talkative state on the phone (call some friends)..
and also make a little list of topics that you can talk about with the girl
- the best way to start with the initial phone-conversation is to just launch
right into a story and get her laughing," do not start with the usual... hei
whats up," how you doing or ect. with the story it will warm her up for more
convo
- never take anything personally on the phone," just keep pushing forward
with the interaction... cool people never take anything personally," and cool
people always have other people and other girls to go out with.
- phone game (working the phone) continued:
1. if you have trouble on the phone you can use what you talked about on
your last call to get your mouth moving
2. sometimes its not a bad idea to just call and chat without suggesting a
meet
3. though trial-and-error, you will eventually get a sense for when a girl is up
for a second meet, and you'll know when to suggest it.
- sometimes its also a great idea to just bring your friends out for a day 2
with a girl...." have him / her or even another couple tag along with the
"date" for 30 mins so she can see you with your friends and ect..
- phone game (working the phone) continued:
1. use the numbers of the girls that dont like you to work on conversation
skills
2. take time out every once in a while to call all your numbers
3. its not a bad idea to keep your computer near by and have a brief ledger
of each girl and what you talked about
- (phone message to leave)....." hei its tyler.. we met at ..... club," it was

good talking to you, iam hanging right now by the pool relaxing. give me a
call back when u get a chance.. seeya
- you need to have the " dont take it personally " mindset... also on the
phone... as you never know which ones will call you back and witch ones
wont," or which one will flake you off and which ones wont
- day 2's:
1. bring her somewhere that you enjoy," dont go out of your way because of
the girl (and make it a casual thing)
2. draw her into your world. make it cool (club jeffy)
3. a day 2 should be casual, and if you can do something fun that does not
involve money then all the better (take her out shopping.. try out funny
clothes together," take her to a bar where everyone knows you)
- sometimes with a day two.... " you can break "the rules " and still have
success... its sometimes a bit illogical (hei you came to see me," ill grab us a
bit to eat)
- day 2's (continued):
1. its ok if she brings her friends
2. its ok if you bring your friends
3. its a great idea to have her meet you at your house," then leave and
come back later
4. have a repeatable plan that works for you
- personality:
1. nice guy - too supplicating
2. macho guy - too arrogant
3. both are coming from a place of reaction and overcompensation
4. good guy - a good mix between the two. you have a strong sense of who
you are. you do not let people walk all over you but your willing to be
friendly to people
- being a friendly guy when you go out anywhere is huge... talking to people
everywhere you go is fantastic

(real social dynamics... foundations part 7 notes)

- the most important part in hooking comes from who you are," and by the
way that you carry yourself its how they decide that they want you to stay....
a lot of that comes from influctions from your voice," your eye-contact,"
your
body-language... and especially your humor is gonna have a huge amount
to do with it... how commanding you are.
- a lot of guys when they approach are not thinking about what they want,"
they are just hoping for that approval... just hoping that that girl will be
nice.... and if the girls can feel that in any way they are going to move away
- laughter is not a matter of content," but more about status... if you have
high-status." and even if what you say is not that funny... people will still
think and / or act as if it is
- when you have a level of confidence that a woman can feel that you are
not leaning towards her emotionally in any way and it draws her towards
you. because how you feel is a self furfilling prophecy," if you expect her to
react
well and you are completely in your reality and not her's then your gonna
get that much stronger reaction.
- when you go out you must view it as socializing and to not have a strong
outcome in mind or trying to get a reaction from anybodey.... iam having a
good time," iam enjoying myself and iam going to meet woman naturally
- in the pickup... one of the major parts is that you can say random things at
random times and woman will get sucked into that," for instance you can
just be talking and out of nowhere say "you are so fiesty"... she will ask.. buy
why?
you know why!!... just launch into it directly.
- so tell me...." which one of you is the boss in this friendship?.... or you can
confuse them and say" she told me your the boss "
- in a lot of ways..." the art of meeting woman is the art of learning how to
convay your personality very very quickly so she can see different qualities
about you in as quick a time as possible
- you must work on your conversation skills with men and woman," because
usually around the people who matter the most i.e. hot girls and cool guys..
" are usually the people who you shut down around conversationally
- implementing a habit:
1. realize you're not cut from a different cloth (what they can do," you can
do also)
2. you might not be that smart, but other people aren't that smart either
3. what one man can do, another man can do (what are the actions that he
did that i can follow to get on that path)
4. don't wait for a girl to dump you. that is reactive
5. be proactive and create the habit before the problem occurs (have the
series of habits in your life that can help you)
- implementing a habit (continued):
1. come up with a plan (eg: go out 3 days a week," approach x-amount of

sets)
2. make a choice just to get out there, even if conditions aren't ideal
(whatever happens," just go out anyway)
3. just show up (dont give yourself an exuse not to go out)
- implementing a habit (continued):
1. progress feels directionless at times
2. progress is like a j-curve. it takes a long time to get going, but once you
get somewhere you progress goes off the chart
3. you must have blind faith that if you keep working at it you will get it
4. get an idea of what you want
5. formulate a plan of how often you need to show up to get there (do i need
more inner-game," do i need a bootcamp... ect.. ect..)
6. accept that your new activity is a part of your life for the duration of the
time you've decided, and never decide based on emotions if you're going to
show up or not
7. dont worry if you're not getting results," just stick to the plan with blind
faith, and make your criteria for success just to show up
8. make it a hobby, look at all the details critically without taking advice
dogmatically, and take then initiative to shift the focus of your training when
your intuition tells you that it might help
- make a plan of action..." write it down and then commit to it also... also try
and get it together with other people so you stick and commit to it.
- where do you get your state from (state control)
1. when in-state... " people respond better to you... girls actually come and
talk to you.... interactions flow better. when your in-state, you are the
person that you wanna be," and your acting in the way that you wanna act.
2. when you first get good with woman," you will find ways to get yourself
in-state which are called "the warmup sets".... first 3 approaches do not
count and as you get talkative you get into state
- when you fully come to a point where woman's approval does not matter
to you," when you know that you've talked to loads a woman," you've had
loads a great reactions in the past.. this one isent going to affect you one
way
or the other... " thats going to make a huge difference for you.
- if woman are going to have sex with a guy," then she will need discrection
and a non-judgemental view from your point.
- the concept of your identity and what you deserve out of live will always
affect you," and in many ways will also try and undermine what you are
trying to do... " as your mind always looks for the easy way out
- when you go out a lot...." you know that when you hit "state" you can drop
every technique... when you are so on you can look at a girl from across the
room." point and say "come here" and she will come over without a hitch
you can say "whats your name," make out with her," throw her over your
shoulder in literally seconds.
- different ways to find your state:
1. you have to think that you are allowed to be in state," your allowed to
dominate

2. superficial social standards (money," having looks," having a nice car

outside)
3. alliances (when you have guaranteed acceptance because of who you
have around you or who you have in your life)
4. compentancies (guy with a guitar in a club," access to exclusive parties,"
access to anything people want... whenever you have something that
people want from you you will feel in state)
5. role-plays (if you wing with someone who is better then you..." you will
find yourself doing what he's doing)
compentancies:
- as a guy if you indentify yourself as being non succesfull with woman..."
then your inclination will be to see out lines," routines that can allow you to
take on a different identity so that you can feel permitted to feel success
because your gonna think that you are not enough and that you need to
take on something else (like going in with a guitar... cos you know that you
have something that people want from you)
- core confidence / identity..." you know that you deserve it, you know that
you are entitled to it because its just who you are. the core confidence that
does not depend on how you look, having met anybodey else standards
except your own," who doesent depend on who is in the venue with u," who
does not depend on if you have these cool stories," doesent depend on if
he's got someone else with him who looks up to you. its who you are
- if you dont have the core-confidence (like me) then you first need to do a
complete overhaul of your world view and how you see and experience
things. and if you over haul that then your game is 50% of the way fixed.
- you have internal and external validation...." people who are externally
validated are always at the mercy of how other people respond to them. on
the other hand you have people who's entire reality is determined internally
they dont really care what other people think of them. (just dont be a loud
asshole tho)
- when you go to a nightclub," and there are all these cool people and you
think that they are above you..." your state goes down. on the other hand if
you go to a club full of 18 year old's that are all kinda dorky you might feel
completely comfortable. the guy with core-confidence does not predicate his
sense of reality on something external (other people around him)
- in each interaction.." one of the people is always reacting more to the
other person, and the person reacting the most is the one with the lowest
social value and is less attractive to the other person.
- the guys that get girls have their own style," their own way of interacting
and they do not try and live up to other people's standards.... they draw
other people into theirs (especially not the tv or advertising standards)
- coolness being that you can play with and bend social rules," you dont
conform or submit to social rules but you can play with them.... you have a
reportoire of humor and personal style. there are things about you that
stand
out and that are interesting and compelling, you have a sense of where you
stand high-up.

- social strategies:
1. value givers (someone who offers value not with favors, not with
entertainment but someone who offers value with their presence and their
individuality)
2. value takers (doing things to get approval or a reaction from other
people," or that people will be indebted to you)
- the reason that you care what other people think of you can only come
from one place," and that is insecurity... it comes from a position of scarcity
and insecurity because otherwise you wouldent care about it so much
(real social dynamics... foundations part 8 notes)
- when girls start asking you if you are a player (thats a shit test btw)... it
means that your going in the right direction. (are you a player... smile.. why,
you buying?)
- with store clerks to close em well for the nr and ect.... you can say stuff like
"you know what.. i gotto go and you gotto do what you gotto do," if we
werent so busy people we could have hung out more
- the shorter the pickup.." the more non commital and non-threatning you
wanna make the phone nr exchange.
- when you in a coffey bar or something simillar open you want to be quite
loud as that other people can hear you too.." and that not only the girl but
the entire room will respond to you," and then when you stay fokused and
normal in that situation and remain unpressured and unstiffeled to people's
reactions.... " thats where a great boost of attraction will come from with the
original girl your talking too.
- same situation with busses or trams," when you get into the thing just start
immediately joking with the driver (you will see everyone looking)... and as
you walk on you kinda strut / flaunt it. you notice everyone is looking
and they see it also," you make a little joke with one person. and then you
can decide what girl to sit beside.. she will either open you or you say one
little thing like "whats up" and bang you've got attraction
- offering value is about adding to the room and about dictating the vibe
around you," when you approach a woman and you joke around with her... it
has to be the case that its something that you like to do. when you do that
and when you're joking around with that girl she knows its real.
- in any social interaction, there are 3 spaces.. you, other person and that
empty emotional space in the middle where both of your value dangles. say
you would look a a hot girl," she has always got that value of sex dangling
in front of you. but what is interesting is that if you are completely
unaffected by that person's value (for girls its sex) and interact with her as a
person then you have a far higher chance of that person liking you
- a good way of thinking especially for newbies in the seduction game is that
if the girl is talking to me," its on... its really as simple as that.
- always have a better answer ready to her questions of shittests," does not
matter sometimes if its a retarded answer (if you believe it.. it doesent
matter).
- take on good healthy habits like going to the gym," building a social circle..

building a live. these are the things that are going to contribute to your
general happyness.... you do this for yourself and the thing with woman will
be a part of that overall picture.
- the positivity challenge: for 2 weeks you will only allow yourself to dwell on
a negative thought for 30 seconds and then you cut it off... " while your
doing this," view everyone in a positive way.. no matter what obscure
positive quality that person has inside him.." make sure that you see this
and decide to focus on the positive in them. when you view everyone in a
positive way your worldview changes to assume that everyone sees you
that way

My Notes On The Julien World Tour Webinar

Hey guys! Just watched the Julien World Tour webinar this morning and thought I
would share my notes with those who missed it and/or are just interested. Thanks again
to Julien and crew for taking the time to record and answer questions today! [If for some
reason you don't want this content posted, I apoligize and feel free to take it down]
Re-frame things to make them more relatable to the girl
Coca-Cola polar bear analagy: Soda is nasty chemicals and sugar that is bad for your
health, but when your watching the Coke polar bear commencial it frames
the experience of drinking Coke as looking happy and fun!
Be relatable by being aware of her goals
Your goal: To fuck.<---> Her goal: To not look like a slut
How to re-framing a "fuck-buddy"
-No girl is going to want to say yes to "Would you like to be my fuck buddy?"
*Re-frame* this into "Would you like to be in a relationship in progress?"
Make the girl think shes special and different
"I don't usually talk to anyone like this, I actually really like you"
Don't always be so stubborn
-If you love physics and keep talking to he about that but she just doesn't "get it" move
on to another topic
-If your trying out some move (ex spin handshake) and she won't do it, move on. Don't
get so stuck if she doesn't comply to one thing; Be adaptive.
Go easy at the beginning of the night, its really just practice. Conserve your
energy.
Having a "State Crash" is like hitting turbulence while flying
A noobie will freak out ("Oh my god" "What do I do" "This shit sucks")
An advanced guy will be like ("Click, click, adjust this, adjust that, ok and we're

good!")
Memory is state access dependent
If you're in a "bad state" you're going to remember all of the shitty reference
experiences you've had.
Vise-versa with being in a "good state"
While in the slippery slope of "State Crash"
1. Have blind faith that you will snap out of it.
2. Follow a process
The process, Julien's 4 mantras
==============================================================
=
1. Theres nothing to win nothing to loose
-There is no "doing well" just do to do. Act for the sake of acting.
2. The more I do, the less the enviromnet does to me
-You're either reacting to the environment, or the environment is reacting to you.
-If you stand still, you are on the recieving end of the enviroment and will spiral
downward.
-STATIC == DEATH (write this on your hand to remind yourself) JUST DO
SOMETHING.
3. Don't force it, let it arise.
Do something, but do it at a congruent pace. (open girls saying "I have a state crash" oir
"im sad" or "I used to be sad, but im a little less sad now")
4. How can i make myself laugh?
That's your goal. Thats the key to success
==============================================================
Open and talk to fucking everyone.
Committing to a set
-This happens toward the end of the night
-First part of the night, just building leads
-Progressively have longer and longer sets
-Second part then you commit
-You have to have long interactions
-Once you commit, stick to the girl you committed to (Don't fall into grass is always
greener syndrome)
-stick to the decision you've made
Plant the seed
==================================================
[Girl says shes going to x place later tonight]
Step 1

"Oh that's cool! I have a friend who lives near there. I think he's throwing a party later."
*Later on in the night*
"Hey we're going to the same area lets split a cab"
This conveys:
A) It's not completely out of the blue
B) You made it relatable to her. (She has a logical excuse that she's not acting like a
slut)
Step 2
Try to find a logical excuse to let you use her apartment "Can i use your bathroom"
(Plant the seed before hand.
*During cab ride*
"Man i need to pee!"
"Man my friend with the afterparty is not answering his phone, thats weird,
anyways...blah blah)
==============================================================
Alcohol is retarded
-Pickup is basically doing personal development on steriods.
-Your working on the drunk you, not your sober self. Work on your sober personality.
Be who you wanna be at, work, with friends, all the time instead of just when drinking.
Still interact with women while in a relationship
-Different levels (just flirting, or Pulling, or make it relatable to the girl youre dating)
Have a gf and want to sleep with other girls (do this from the start of the
relationship):
"I love you, I love you i wanna be with you, exclusivly with you. I wanna marry you,
have children with you, grow old together, die and go to heaven together, BUT..
Right now in order to really explore and know who i am / become who i am, i have to
go talk to other women / get this out of my system. If we are exclusive right now it
would feel forced and you shouldnt force love right? I dont want pent up resentment,
look at so and so couple, I dont wanna be like them. I want us to last forever. This is
something I have to do for "us" (Frame: Its something you HAVE to
do, not something you want to do) (It's like you're adding on more coke-a-cola polar
bear)
To get better at pickup
-Go out every day! 30min minumum.
-Going out only on the weekends and you will loose the momentum.
-It's not something that you "go do" its something thats a part of your being, that you are
all the time.
Julien's most important things learned about life
======================================================

-No one gets out of here alive

-No matter what you do your not taking your accomplishments with you when you die
-Nothing matters, once your dead you're gone forever
-Choose a path in life thats engaging and that keeps you feeling alive. Do what turns
your mind on, whats interesting to you.
-Do things to give not to take( leave a legacy to help others not one for your ego)
-Take responsibility, no one gives a fuck about you. Everyone feels like they still have
their parents and that someone is going to console them. No one is coming to fix your
life. Youre not a unique case. Someone else in existance has already had your probelm,
probably worse and still made it through it
-Embrace life and just enjoy the ride
======================================================
How to handle loud clubs
-"You can't half ass it", You have to offer more fun. More intensity.
-You dont have to dance to talk to girls dancing. Talk 2-3 minutres, hook then bounce
her off the dance floor, talk more get logistics, then send her back to the dance floor
How to deal with bitchy girls on their period/nerds girls/nice girls/ect
-Treat all girls as the same.
-If you go up acting like the girl is going to be stuck up, then she will start acting like
that. (self fulfilling prophecy)
-Go up to her and assume she is fun/cool/amazing and she will have to live up to
that assumption.
Making a girl feel special, not judged
-Blame the emotionally unexplained " I just really like you, we have an awesome
connection, its so weird idk why i feel this way"
-Open up to her (Interaction isn't only focused on her, focused on yourself too).
-You have to become "hooked" as well.
-In the middle of the interaction "Its weird, you're actually really cool"
-Share a story starting it out like "Oh this story is kinda nerdy, and i usually dont tell
anyone this but..."
**BUILD A SOCIAL CIRCLE!
-Day 2 with hot girls and then put them in the friend zone
-Then hang out with them going out, going to parties ect. and go with them to pick up
hotter girls
__________________
*Actually goes out*

Notes of all four of Tyler's "Truth about

success" videos

Hey guys,
I took notes while watching the 'Truth about Success' videos that Tyler put out. Thought
I might share them with you. I think it could come in handy if you prefer to read in
stead of watching/listening. Or, if you already watched the videos and want a quick
refresher of the main points.
To make sure you'll get most out of this post, I put the links to the videos in the post as
well. So you can watch the whole video if my notes aren't sufficient. (EDIT: I can't yet
post links, so I put just part of the url there)
{C}
Truth about success - Part 1
Why to never skip a training:
When you skip one day, you know you will skip the next as well. If today is not a
convenient day to go to the gym, there will never be a convenient day.
When I make the decision to, I will stick to that decision. Because when I fail in that
decision, I fail in my larger scale goals.
When you have a shitty job, still do it 100% at your best, because everything is a test for
the 'big show'.
We are all cut from the same cloth. That means that anyone who has more success then
you, just works harder. Successful people are just regular people that were super
decisive.
Only if you can stick to your decisions, you can live your dreams.
Work ethic is cultivated over time, and you are your worst enemy. You can always quit.
Talent cant blossom without execution.
When your brain tells you that today you are not going to stick to the decision you
made, your brain is working against your dreams.
In order to be the best you can, you must challenge yourself to be the best person you

can. You do that by pushing your comfort zone and to love what you do.
Whatever excuses your brain comes up with, are irrelevant. (This is the first world, we
have so much possibilities!)
Make sure that all desires are lined up towards the same goal.
Taking action and getting new experiences will keep you getting closer to a perfect
understanding of the world. This wil help you to view the world as it is (reality). The
journey helps you get grounded and be in the moment.
Motivation is an art, learning this art is needed to play at the big boys level.
Only you yourself wants you to succeed, no one has sympathy for you. If you have a
dream, then you can choose to find your own motivation and use it.
You must burn the boats. Play to win. Throw your hat over the fence.
You have the power to transform, to become something else. If you want to become
someone who cant be tired down, you must be able to become something else than you
are right now. You must go to any length to transform.
Dont overestimate the importance of networking: no one is going to help you. You got
to do it yourself. Success is a slow progress of doing the right things (habits).
THE VIDDY: YT slash watch?v=JGjPLeMEZLE
Truth about success - Part 2
Make sure you have a bigger plan for yourself
Success is challenging to obtain and fleeting when you have it.
Success is something that has to be earned and re-earned.
Dont try to minimize time and effort, it will cause failure.
Duality
On the one hand, you must have faith that things will work out and that bad things that
happen, in the end are helping you.
On the other hand, never forget to take action. Failure is the default if you dont have
rational paranoia towards failure. You must have the rational paranoia for failure.
Success is being focussed on what you want, not on what you not want. (What gets
attention, grows).
When you fuck up, take lessons from it and correct course afterwards.
Laziness is a very addictive habit. For that reason, the natural urge to minimize time and
effort has to be supressed. It is also very hard to get away from, because lazy people
will always rationalize their lazy habitual and emotional addiction. In other words, they
lie to themselves.

Hard work brings you back to reality again and again. It is hard to tell lies and
rationalizations to yourself when you are in constant action, and therefore you are closer
to reality when you do so.
You must have some humble appreciation to what you achieve and want to achieve. You
know you can do it, but also that it is not easy.
The right way to do things and the wrong way to do things:
usually, gradual progress is the kind of progress you want. The magic pill solutions
have so many downsides. For instance, if it is easy to get the results that you want by
using a magic pill-method, it is probably also very easy to lose it again.
You must be an executor. If you say you will do something, and then a problem occurs,
find a solution to the problem. And then do the thing you said you would do within
the deadline. No excuses!
Get out of your comfort zone. Why? Because pressure is needed to grow.
Read good books, so you know what to do when bad shit happens.
Even when you are in pain, you must know that it is somehow a lesson that will help
you grow and become a better person.
The path to success is a narrow road.
THE VIDDY: YT slash watch?v=JRVNQonYdNU

Truth about success - Part 3

People who work hard, usually are very passionate. They work not for the money, but
for the flow state that they get out of it.
5 different mind-sets:
1. My life sucks, the world sucks
2. Some people do very well, but my life sucks
3. I am awesome, other people suck
4. We are awesome (we= my peergroup)
5. We are awesome, and the world is awesome
Another important paradigm: When I give all my success away or lose it, it is okay
because I can achieve the same level of success again.
Most successful people are very willing to help others, because they are in the level 5
mind-set: the world is awesome. And they are not scared that others will get better or as
good as they are, because they know that they can achieve the same success that they

have again.
Because a lot of people who are successful are willing to share their knowledge, you can
study success easily. Most successful people write books about their success!
-Mainstream media spread an idea of endless possibilities even for mediocre people who
dont put any effort in becoming a better person. This is a false belief!
-Another false belief: I cannot make an impact.
I can make an impact on major events, but most people think you cant because our
brain can not take up more than 150 people. So when you think of the end of apartheid
in South-Africa, you think of Nelson Mandela. When you think of the freedom of India
from the British, you think of Ghandi.
But those people were not operating alone.
Of course not. There were so many people involved in those big events that all
participated and had impact.
Only because our brain is hardwired to link one person to one event (or brand, or
business), you think only a very small amount of people make a difference.
A good thing to do is meet very important, very successful people in order to see that
they are regular people that work very hard.

Also presidents get asked questions they dont know the answer to.

Also major business owners sometimes have a headache. Also diplomats make
silly jokes sometimes and then laugh about it alone.

Also famous musicians sometimes burp during dinner of have to go to the

bathroom to take a pee.

With the same people, you want to see how they made a list of things to do, how they
checked of certain things, how they made a small goal and then a bigger one, how they
persisted when something seemed very hard to do.
This way, you see that you are in essence the same, but you behave differently.
-Study failure just as well as success
Study failure so you know it very well. Get to know the universal principles of failure
and success. Surrender to them.
Choose a roll and then play it as good as you can. It is actually simple.

You must believe in abundance. Trust your faculties. There is abundance of ideas and
energy.
Good example: be a good tipper. The world is not a scarce place. Give abundance, and
in the end you will gain abundance. What you put in to it is what you get out of it.
Thats also why you must work hard.
At first when you work hard you think: this sucks, it doesnt make me happy. But when
you do it for two or three months, you will like it and it is no big deal anymore. This is
the same thing with eating good food. When you taste some crazy healthy salad for the
first time, you think: this tastes shit, it wont make me happy. Id rather die a few years
earlier and be happy then to eat this shit.
But when you eat healthy for two or three months, you will like it.
(This is growing into a flow-state).
When you make a habit out of something, you start to like it and look forward to it. This
is a universal principle of life. People who fail are not aware of this or they know it but
are not willing to put the effort in that is needed to make something a habit.
Examples of universal principles:
Work to give, not to get
Become present to the moment, dont get stuck in your head
THE VIDDY: YT slash watch?v=mZMaiRHjc1Q
Truth about success - Part 4
Use your time to help you grow. Use time to reach goals. If you have commuting time,
use it effectively by listening to audio books.
When you come home from work, go to the gym and do a workout (or go for a run in
the park).
Eat healthy. Good foods are: spinach, broccoli, kale, turmeric, rosemary, oregano, basil.
You can buy em cheap at the farmers market (way cheaper than go to wholefoods).
Then, after working out and eating healthy, spend time working on whatever goal you
have. If this is pick-up, make sure you go out every night. If the goal is to write a book,
then write every night. If the goal is to learn French, then listen to French hiphop every
night and figure out the meaning of each word.
After doing that, make sure to get good sleep.
Dont forget that everything is intertwined. If you dont get enough sleep today, it might
affect your behaviour the next day. Maybe you dont work out because you dont feel
well. Now because you dont work out, you start to feel bad about yourself. And
because of that, when you go out, your game sucks (girls see that you feel bad about
yourself/have low self-esteem). So realize that every choice you make in one area of
your life, affects other areas in your life as well.
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Drugs, television and booze are all examples of short term happiness. You smoke a joint
and feel good for a minute. Next minute: not anymore. You watch some show on TV
and will happy for a minute. Next moment: not anymore.
What can bring long lasting happiness: feeling happy about yourself. When you do
everything in your power to become a better person, when you work on yourself and on
your goals, thats when happiness is long(er) lasting.
In the end life is not easy, not fair. Some people have unfair advantages, others dont.
Its not fair, but dont bitch about that. Accept it. Embrace it. And go with it.
About unfair advantages:
Almost everybody has unfair advantages, but everybody has them in different areas.
You have to find out what your unfair advantages are, and if you do that, you focus on
those. You should play to your strengths. In general, people can become very good in
only one or two things.
Tylers unfair advantages (as an example):

Nerd, wants to learn things and talk in depth with people

Couldnt read social cues when he was young, so he had to watch peoples
behaviour very, very carefully to understand them when learning game

Started relatively early in the game

Was ridiculed in the book The Game by Neil Strauss, so he didnt have
anything to lose anymore.

Me :
What are the excuses that you cant approach in street sets, bus sets, train
sets, club multi sets?
-enter in a fight
-being rejected
-people will hear me
-people will look at me
-shes with her friend or boyfriend
-shes on the other side of the street
-shes too far and people will see me running to her like a weirdo
-shes living in my town
-I dont have logistics
-shes not so hot
-people are watching
-shes with a group of friends
-shes watching me
-theres too much people around watching
-theres people I know around
-fear of expression
-fear of not being liked by other people
-fear of standing out and imposing myself
-fear of being to selfish
Here are also some notes Ive taken from different videos of different RSD
instructors, a good reminder. I put everything I wrote, No news, it does still

apply.
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Julien
Treat every girl like a ten
Sharpen the blade
-have fun talking to unattractive girls
Create the value : create the party
Use girls as a wingman, use Bases
Basically : Open ALL. Do it for the references. Done.
Comittement and Buying in :
Would you like to make it happen?
OR
Would you want to make something happen and you will die to make it
happen?
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Todd
Develop a motivation for pain. That strong push.
Find the excuses so Disgusting that you will Never reconsider them again.
Find so much pain in them.
I buy in no matter what.
Judgements are bullshiting you
Be okay with wherever you are. Accept the world as it is But you can make
something positive to change or step up.
Resisting the Truth will waste your time and energy
Ozzie
Taking fears, multiplying by 10.
Take action with 50% of the information and you can still be successful,
youll never going to have 100%, its to late, the opportunities are gone.
In business, you have to take action quickly.

Guys have couple of lines and they use them all the timeyou want to be
successful, you gotta be dumb.
You dont need to know everything.
Guys need to be fully prepared to do somethingBullshit.
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Brad
Funky productivity tips
1. Structure to create free time. Writing goals. Planning days. Planning
weeks.
2. The more success I want to have, the more time Ive got to put in. Plan
more on the week to move ahead
3. Confident Goal planning. Need to create ways and plans to the end
result. Get the structure. Start small. Start with baby steps.
4. Focus. The more success you have, the more opportunities come to
your way. Successful people have Intense Focus.
5. Synergy. Do things in the same time. Save time by gaining more
information for e.g.: audiobook in the morning or in the gym.
6. See where youre wasting time. Measurement. Stay productive. (no
youtube, no facebook!)
7. Brainstorming defragmentation. Meditation. Break back. Snaps if
necessary and Get back to work.
8. Realisation. Goals of wolf. The lifestyle changes. Whatever something
shift, you need to step back and re-analyse to get on the flow and be
balanced.
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Todd
Develop dancefloor game
Develop verbal game
Get of your Ass! Now!
You can get yourself at a pretty good level but if you want true greatness,
you need to find something deeper than that. Find something intrinsic,
deeper drive, a real cause, a real purpose.
The things that are the most important to you are what you focus on.
-Owen

Being truly dedicated, every little thing you see, you relate it to your field,
find ways, create ways to improve.
You will be constantly challenging yourself.
Challenge yourself step-by-step you give yourself these little building
blocks along the way so that you can actually see the progress.
Be aware of creating new obstacles by trying to find girls and losing
moment. Losing fun etc
1. Push through, game your head
2. Game without talking, try not to be funny, try to make it awkward, find
the Hard way.
Keep something, find the why. Keep yourself motivated, keep yourself
disciplined. If its hard, baby step it, if its easy make it complicated.
The way you do one thing, is the way you do everything Brad
Nihilism
Theres a lot of power in life to have nothing to lose.
People will sense you try to play it safe. Burn your ships before the battle,
and shoot deserter!
You want to be truly in the moment and play it to Win.
You really have should have nothing Held back. Dont get attached.
As soon as you have a tiny neediness, as soon as you dont want to lose
her, youre fucked!
You cant negotiate unless you are able to walk away. Must have the ability
to walk away.
Theres nothing to Lose.
It has to go Down or it will never happen!
Youre not going to live for ever (nor will your legacy), so you may as well
have some fun
Taking no Risks ensure mediocrity
Anything you have can be taken away Dont get attached.

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Tyler on what women really want but will never admit.
Girls are testing you. She sends you something, you must know what to
respond. Something funny.
-Be able to mentally and emotionally dominate over her. Care less than her.
-Lack of reactiveness
-Be the fucking Caveman who got the meat and the fur and the heap of
bitches sucking titties
-To get a girlfriend, hang out a lot
-Forget excuses
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Todd Method
I dont try to make anything special, I dont try to be overly amazing.
I just try to be 10% cooler than the normal guy and have a fairly normal
conversation and then I pepper in little statement of intent, I pepper little
attempt to escalate, depend how is it received. I either escalate more or I
back off and go back to normal conversation.
There is a continuous cycle, this inevitable cycle where I dont make
massive mistakes, I dont give girls a reason to reject me or blow me out
and then I gradually and inevitably move it forward and never backward.
I just let you say something wetty enough to repeat, I just want wetty
conversation.
It just cant happen if theres no sexual dialogue.
Look good sets and see what happen. Look really bad sets and see what
happen. Look the extreme cases and Learn. Do great or Fuck up royally.
Todd and a girl
They sense game at miles and miles away. Intense.
Guys cant be normal until they have sex A lot.
Persistence is Sexy.
Believe in your level of CAN but not your level of CANT.
Whatever the level youre at this is OK.
Any girl is attainable giver the Right circumstances.
Pain is a fundamental part of the game.

The Short-term is variable.

The Long-term is Assured.
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Ozzie
Build character by writing goals.
Write the characteristic of your identity.
When you go out make sure to be Tired.
The option of not Now. Listen to your mind then do it. Know who you are.
Stop getting safe. Go. Yes now. Stop looking for easy situation. Scary
situations. Dont allow your mind telling you not now. Trust the world. Youre
safe now and youre safe approaching but your mind is scarce.
Become a risk taker. Risk taking is situations where youre gonna lose,
where youre gonna fail. Try to not fail will let a pussy feeling for the girl.
If youre not risking, youre not growing, remember.
Keep challenging yourself. You have to keep challenging yourself.
Tyler/Todd/Julien
Giving value is the most important thing, having fun and bringing Good
things in life that she would love it.
General mindset : I am awesome, lets spread it!
Not manipulator. Have an awesome time talking.
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Todd
-Look at people who are funny
-Impro comedy
Yes and : Im accepting everything, Im not contradicting whats going on, I
accept that the world is as it is and Im gonna add something, Im gonna
offer something.
Be patient, let it happen, dont force it. Justify it.

The phrase literally: if *this* is true then *what else* is true.

Going and offering value, finding the first unusual thing. Justifying it (not
right or wrong, just interesting explanation). How can we offer even more
value.
If its true then what else is true* then imagine and create incredible fantasy.
Huge value in set.
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Alex Simple and powerful skills
Chicks like guy company.
If you can sustain 4-5h at a time : great results.
High impact 5 min interaction : funny but Shitty
Low impact sustainable interaction : easier
Low the criteria for verbal game. Dont be Clever. Be stupid. Be magical.
Dont get yourself to seriously. Take the pressure OFF.
Let yourself be Silly.
Simply be expressive. Honest.
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Ozzie
Fail Big, Fail Fast and Stick around.
Success : willing to learn, greedy for learning. You want to learn.
The ultimate goal cant be the result, the performance.
Be careful, trying to make the result will put you in Fear.
It never goes as Bad as you Imagine.
When you start focusing on results (performance) and not Symptoms (fear),
Performance will go down and symptoms start to go up = negative spiral +
pussying arounf the whole fucking night = paralysis.
Fear of failure ; Fail Fat Big : the biggest group in the club, the most
intimidating. The *Impossible group.