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Huangyu Wu (William)
15897214
Kan Gu (Karen)
15901698
16910052
16921836
Abstract
In todays world, the various reasons caused the separation of the couples, and there
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was also an increasing rate of divorce. Therefore, how people should do for
maintaining a romantic relationship became a hot issue to discuss. The purpose of this
study was to find some important factors in a good romantic relationship.
A survey was conducted, which involved one hundred interviewees in public areas of
Auckland. The result of the questionnaires was quantified by means of gender,
duration of a romantic relationship which respondents had, economic condition and
culture. All findings were displayed in the shape of charts.
There were a number of similarities and differences in the groups. As estimated, good
communication was the most important factor for maintaining a healthy romantic
relationship. Whereas, the sexual behaviour seemed not very important according to
the survey. Culture factor could little affect the opinions of respondents. It was worth
noting that the single respondents showed many different opinions during the
interview.
In conclusion, the respondents had various opinions considering of a good romantic
relationship, but the most important factors were same, such as good communication
and adultery.
Acknowledgements
We would like to thank the people who guided us with our project which is about how
to maintain positive romantic relationship.
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At the beginning, we wish to extend our bona fide gratitude to Kate Absolum as the
teacher for GIE 5, who provided us with valuable guidance in every stage of the
writing of this project, she has advised and taught us knowledge and procedures in
developing this research. It was a fantastic opportunity for us towards improving out
English academic ability. Meanwhile, we would like to extend our thanks to Duncan
Philps who is the elective teacher for GIE 5 for all his kindness and help not only in
this project but also enlighten our future study. We would like to thank all our teachers
who have helped us to develop the fundamental and essential academic competence.
Finally, we especially thank all our group members, as we have cooperated as a group
to finish this project, not personally and everyone supported and help each other. Last
but not least, we want to thank our classmates for other groups suggested some good
ideas and also grateful to a hundred respondents who spent time completing
questionnaires.
Contents
Abstract..2
1. Introduction6
1.1 Background......6
1.2 Aim...8
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1.3 Hypothesis8
2. Methodology.
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2.1 Overview 10
2.2 Sample10
2.3 Procedure11
2.4 Materials.11
2.5 Analysis..12
3. Findings13
3.1 Viewpoint between male and female..15
3.2 Viewpoint in different current status..16
3.3 Viewpoint in different financial background..17
3.4 Viewpoint in different cultural background19
4. Discussion.
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4.1 Different viewpoints in gender...30
4.2 Different viewpoints in relationship status.....35
4.3 Different viewpoints in types of job.......39
4.4 Different viewpoints in different cultural background.......40
5. Conclusion45
References....47
Appendix..67
1. Introduction
1.1 Background
With the development of socialization, different characteristics of behavior influence
individuals viewpoint for romantic relationship between themselves and their
partners. People might pay close attention to how to keep the positive romantic
relationship and improve the satisfaction in the subsequent relationship (Weiser &
Weigel, 2016). A mature and stable relationship could be considered as the basic
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people involve in a relationship, they may usually assume activities and make efforts
to ensure successful goal attainment. As a result, when they feel anxiety and uncertain
about future, the acceptable way might be regarded to establish the tie between
individuals and their partner through sharing the same goals.
According to these views, it is clearly seen that the positive romantic relationship
might be affected by the complex aspects and the individuals immerse in a period of
romantic relationship that could focus on various factors. However, whether all the
negative aspects in romantic relationship can be defused is unknown and the previous
work did not cover the research about if the negative factors playing an important role
could also promote the relationship or not, for example, deception. Guthrie and
Kunkel (2013) discuss the deception is existing even in close relationships. They use
relational dialectics to argue that both of romantic partners may obtain more
satisfaction in the relationship even with deception.
1.2 Aim
The main purpose of this research is to investigate what factors largely contribute to
the positive romantic relationship, how to maintain a positive relationship and what
will lead to dissolution. In addition, this study was established to find whether
different gender, culture, relationship status and occupation have different preferences
in them of varied kinds of opinion and interest when they dealing with romantic
relationship.
1.3 Hypothesis
The primary aim of this research project is to discover what factors chiefly affect
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romantic relationship. The first hypothesis is good communication could be the best
way to maintain positive romantic relationship. It will also compare the importance
between people share same goal and sex quality, it is believed that the quality of sex
could result in emotion, therefore affect the romantic relationship. Secondly, most of
participates may agree with that deception is acceptable and will not lead to
dissolution but adultery could be the critical factor lead to break up. The next focus is
on passionate and romantic could be the most important factors in a positive romantic
relationship, it may be inconformity to people have different background.
2. Methodology
2.1 Overview
The purpose of the research was to investigate how to maintain a romantic
relationship. A survey was conducted to target people living or staying in Auckland
and all respondents were over 18 years old. Questionnaires were distributed in various
areas such as the Central Business District in Auckland, the campus of Auckland
University of Technology and City Wharf. These places were chosen to ensure a
representative sample. Data were collected from April 22 to April 25.
2.2 Sample
A hundred participants completed the questionnaire. The age group were divided into
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six, which were younger than 20, 20-30, 31-40, 41-50, 51-60 and over 60 years old.
The current relationship status included single, boyfriend or girlfriend, de-facto
relationship and married. And then the non-single respondents were grouped by the
relationship duration with the current partner which were less than 1, 1-4, 5-7 and
over 7 years. The status of employment included students, employed in part-time,
employed in full-time and unemployed. The places of birth were classified by
continents, i.e., Asia, Africa, Europe, North America, South America and Oceania. In
order to obtain representative data, all respondents were chosen at random, often at
public places, which provided the opportunity for the questionnaire to be complete.
2.3 Materials
The purpose of the questions is to find what the important factors were in a romantic
relationship. Some factors, such as adventurous, passionate, playful, romantic, sexual,
health and same goals, could have the positive effects on the relationship; other
factors, for instance, deception, quarrelling, indifference, violence and adultery, could
affect the relationship negatively. For maintenance of a healthy romantic relationship,
some kinds of behaviour could be helpful, for example, having good communication,
shared activities, control of emotion and privacy and space. The questionnaire
contained 22 questions which cover Likert scale, multiple choice and open questions.
Very satisfied
Example of a selection
question.
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specify):
The procedure for collecting data consisted of three steps. First, the respondents were
approached and were asked whether they had time to carry out a simple questionnaire.
Second, after obtaining their permission, they were required to complete a
questionnaire, and they were guided in writing their answers in order to prevent
potential misunderstanding of the questions and invalid answers. Third, the papers
were collected and analysed through Microsoft Excel and the graphs were copied to
Microsoft Word.
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3. Findings
Findings varied from the different population types in terms of gender, the status of
the current romantic relationship, the financial situation and the culture.
Of the interviewees, almost a half were female, and another half were male; one in
three were single, while others were divided into four groups according to the years of
keeping the current romantic relationship, which include less than 1 year at seven
per cent, 1 - 4 years at 16 per cent, 4 - 7 years at six per cent and more than 7
years at seven per cent; just over one third had full-time jobs, 15 per cent had parttime jobs, but nearly a half were students or unemployed; one out of three were
easterners and two third were westerners. Respondents were asked the same questions
regarding the factors of romantic relationship, the factors of keeping romantic
relationship and the factors causing breakup, so there are several charts below
displaying the findings respectively.
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3.1
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15
Adventurous
Playful
Sexual
Same goals
Female
Male
element while not a single male respondent agreed. 15 per cent of respondents
indicate love, responsibility, mature personality and trust could also be the important
factor during a romantic relationship.
Female
number
34%
13
Male
Others
Privacy and space2%
13%
Control of emotion
8%
Shared activities
10%
Having good communication
67%
14
Female
Deception
10% Quarreling
2%
Indifference
5%
number
34%
Violence
32%
Adultery
16%
Male
Deception
11%
number
32%
Quarreling
3%
Indifference
9%
Others
1%
Violence
21%
Adultery
22%
percent of male are the same. However, 33 per cent of male respondents consider
adultery should be the least factor while a quarter of female agree. Quarreling is not
considering to be important among all respondents, three percent and four percent
respectively.
Number of people
0
Adventure single
Passion
Playful
<1
Romantic
1 - 4 Sexual
4 Health
-7
Same>7
goals
Others
16
single
Others
9%
Same goals
9%
Adventure
25%
Health
9%
Romantic
9%
Playful
11%
Passion
27%
17
Number of people
40
30
20
10
0
single
Good communication
other
<1
1-4
4-7
sharedRelationship
activities
Emotional control
status
>7
privacy and space
18
Number of people
16
12
0
Deception
Quarreling
Indifference
single
>7
<1
Violence
1-4
Adultery
Other
4-7
single
Adultery
25%
Deception
25%
Quarreling
7%
Indifference
7%
Violence
36%
100
75
50
25
Adventurous
Playful
Sexual
Same goals
Part-time
Student
20
38
25
13
Disagree Strongly
Disagree
Undecide
Agree
Agree Stongly
Part-time
Student
Unemployed
21
50
38
25
13
0
Adventurous
Playful
Sexual
Same goals
Full-time
Part-time
Student
Unemployed
22
3.4
westerners
Others
9%
Adventurous
12%
Samegoals
22%
Health
13%
Passionate
18%
Playful
16%
Sexual
1%Romantic
7%
Easterners
Others
9%
Adventurous
21%
Samegoals
27%
Passionate
15%
Health
15%
Romantic Playful
6%
6%
Figure 10 shows the percentage of the most important factors of romantic relationship
in terms of Adventure, Passion, Playfulness, Romance, Sex, Healthiness,
Same Goals and Others.
The proportion of Same Goals was the highest both in two groups, at 22 per cent and
28 per cent. The factor Adventure accounts for 21 per cent of all the factors, which
was the second highest in the western group. By contrast, the second highest in the
eastern group was the factor Passion. The factor Sex was the lowest in the western
group, at two per cent. Furthermore, there was no eastern respondent who chose the
factor Sex.
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westerners
Privacy Other
3%
7%
ControlOfEmotion
10%
SharedActivity
6%
GoodCommunication
73%
easterners
Privacy Other
3%
9%
ControlOfEmotion
3%
SharedActivity
9%
GoodCommunication
76%
Westerners
Others Deception
1%
13%
Adultery
27%
Quarreling
4%
Indifference
7%
Violence
46%
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easterners
Deception
21%
Adultery
33%
Quarreling
3%
Indifference
15%
Violence
27%
To summarize the findings, Good Communication is the most important factor for
maintaining a good romantic relationship; Sex seems not very important in a
romantic relationship; Violence should be concerned for protecting a romantic
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relationship.
4. Discussion
4.1 Different viewpoint in gender
The Figure 1 confirm that most people believe two people sharing a common goal is
more important than the quality of sexual behavior. It is believed that both partner
pursuing the same objective and sharing values could be mutual understanding during
trouble. Two people share a similar goal could affect actual behaviour with contextual
demand (Oettingen, Ahn, Gollwitzer, Kappes, & Kawade, 2014). The finding shows
that only one interviewee agree with sexual behavior is the most important factor
among all 100 interviewees. According to biology, the purpose of sexual behavior is
for procreation and propagation. Most people could obtain pleasure and enjoy the
process. The high quality of sex could contribute to positive romantic relationship but
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it could not be the critical factor. Yoo (2014) pointed that it is sometimes observed
that sexually satisfied partners do not necessarily feel emotionally close.
In figure 2, The majority of female respondent and two third of male respondents
agreed that good communication to be critical to maintain a positive romantic
relationship. Communication usually defined as the process of thought transference
and feedback. Sharing oneself opinion actively to another could help create intimacy
and interaction. Quarreling is one kind of communication, which consisted in most of
relationship. It is also being observed that quarreling is not the most important factor
lead to dissolution which also can be seen in figure two. Communication exist in most
of period in a positive relationship, first acquaintance, dating, marriage and growing
old. Constructive communication skill could be utilized in the established phase to
start or sustain the relationship (Marla, 2015). Good communication could untie
misunderstanding and share how they feel without criticizing, state their needs
without blaming each other. However, indignation, suspicion and incomprehension
could result from poor communication or lack of communication. Poor
communication behaviors could make both of partner feeling hurt or pain even
between highly satisfied partners (Young, Bippus & Dunbar., 2015)
Deception with partner may have two reasons. Firstly, to avoid conflict or relational
trauma. Secondly, a vicious real lie. As it could be seen from the figure 3, one fifth
respondents pointed that deception is the critical factor which lead to dissolution. In
Guthrie and Kunkel (2013) s research, several participate agree that using deception
is easier than telling the truth, sometimes could avoid possible fight. It is believed that
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deception is one of the reason result in dissolution, however, most of people are
interested in the reasons behind deception and these reasons could be the causes for a
couple to break up such as adultery.
Figure 6 reveals an interesting point which a quarter singles believe that deception is
the worst. In contrast, only few non-singles agree with that. Drouin, Tobin and
Wygant (2014) stated that deception is common in daily life, and it has pros and cons
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According to the figure8, the specific analysis of passionate, the total number of
students occupy the largest percentage. The hypothesis for this question is that the
part-time job means people have more time and certain economic base to enjoy
romantic relationship, but the figure of bar chart shows the student group may
consider the important aspect in romantic relationship is passionate. The
longitudinal study examined that some features or behaviors between adolescent
personality types and young adult romantic relationship quality is the important factor
which effect their emotional world. Although during adolescent period, there are some
negative behavior such as anxiety, impulsion and peevishness, the positive aspect of
their character which include passion and brave could remedy these defects. (Yu,
Branje, Keijsers & Meeus, 2015) Perhaps when the young generation become mature
with the growth of social skills and working experience, the factors of feature could
reduce the influence in romantic relationship, but the factor of passionate still
indicates the advanced impact in the specific period.
Regarding the reasons for breakup which were found in Figure 12, Adultery was the
first choice of the eastern respondents at 34 per cent, and even the percentage of
Adultery was higher than the percentage at 27 per cent from the western
respondents, although Zhang et al. (2012) mentioned that American participants were
more likely to have an exit response instead of finding third-party help which were
the most choices from Chinese participants. The first choice of western respondents
was Violence. Indeed, Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) is a significant problem
which exists widely in the world, even though various organizations and individuals
made many efforts on raising awareness and reducing incidence (Jackson et al.,
2006). IPV and adultery as well, they both should be paid more attention for keeping
a good romantic relationship, since they are the first two reasons causing breakup in
the findings.
5. Conclusion
This research aimed to investigate the peoples opinions about what factors could
effect romantic relationship in the terms of improvement, maintenance and
dissolution. It also aimed to explore the difference in perceptions in terms of gender,
culture, relationship status and occupation when they dealing with romantic
relationship.
One of the most significant findings is that there a factor affect romantic relationship
which is that Passion for single people is the best way to improve a romantic
relationship, and communication for non-single people is the best way of improving
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is possible to pose more questions about more questionnaires and more specific
questions in the future.
Recommendations
It is suggested that more participants should be interviewed in the research in the
future. More over, in the future investigating, more attention should be paid to the one
small part and detail, which could has more value of application.
Another suggestion is that there are some differences of recognition and acceptance
level of Adultery and Violence between people from eastern and western countries,
which may valuable for researchers who are interesting the differences between
western and eastern countries.
Moreover, expectations of romantic relationship between employed and unemployed
people are different. It might be valuable of application.
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Appendix
31 - 40
60+
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Very satisfied
Agree Strongly
Agree Strongly
Agree Strongly
Agree Strongly
f)
Agree Strongly
Agree Strongly
Agree Strongly
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(please
specify):
h) O t h e r
__________________________________________
9, Which is the most important factor? Choose one (a-h)
______________
10, How do you think a positive romantic relationship can be
maintained?
a)
b)
Shared activities
Not important
Important
c)
Control of emotion
Not important
Important
d)
e) O t h e r
Not important
Important
Important
(please
specify):
____________________________________________
11, Which factor do you think is the most important to maintain a
positive romantic relationship? Choose one (a-e) _______
12, To what extent do you think these factors could lead to relationship
dissolution?
a)
Deception
Disagree Strongly
Agree Strongly
b)
Quarreling
Disagree Strongly
Agree Strongly
c)
Indifference
d)
Violence
e)
f)
Other
Disagree Strongly
Disagree Strongly
Agree Strongly
Agree Strongly
Agree Strongly
(please
specify):
_____________________________________________
13, Which factor do you think could be the main cause for relationship
dissolution? Choose one (a-f) ________
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