Beruflich Dokumente
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Justyna Borowska
M.A.
What's independence?
Self-reliance is the willingness to undertake the tasks based on
personal activity, and its source is the will to act and acceptance of
the aim.
Self-reliance meets three criteria:
- it is taken on its own initiative,
- aims for a particular goal,
- when your child wants to achieve his own goals, rather than
getting your approval
Self-reliance of the child awakens in parents conflicting emotionson the one hand we hope that the child will be ok, so we could be
proud of well done parental job; on the other hand- we are
concern about their safety and we have this sense of emptiness and
loss, They do not need me anymore." The child also experience
dillemas- on the one hand child wants independence, on the other
hand -afraids of being independent person.
Developmental psychology
Process of achieving independence can be divided into
three stages: symbiosis, separation and individuation.
Stage individuation - related to the needs: selfrealization, exploration of the world, self-activity and
self-expression, child develops his own interests.
the easiest way is to get in a situation of fun. In play the child has the
opportunity to actively play and relive observed situations (eg. A child
passively participate in purchases made by father, then in kindergarten in
a group of peers while having fun they become a client or a salesman,
they organize shop).
You can play with the child in doing things on time. They love
competitions.
If you are in a hurry and you need to finish the job that was started by the
child, explain to him that fact before you act, so that your child doesnt
think that he didnt cope with a task.
Helping out in every situation does not help. In fact reinforces the sense of
helplessness, destroys creativity and takes away the opportunity to
experience the variety of experiences.
Assist only as much as is necessary for the child to end their action with
a success.
6.
The first areas in which the child can develop his independence, is a fun
and self-service.
Two- and three years old
Children can clean up the toys after themselves, help with feeding the
animals, arrange shopping on the lower shelves ( I mean put some
products away). They may decide, but give them only 2 options. Black
pants or brown?
four-years old
Children can set the table (cutlery, plates), help you with dusting (dont
expect polished furnitures), butter their sandwiches, feed pets.
Five-Years old
Children can prepare sandwiches, clean up after a meal (eg. Insert plates
to the dishwasher), make the bed, tye shoelaces, dress themselves.
six-years old
Children can water the flowers, assistance in preparing dishes under the
supervision of a parent, rake leaves, bath alone but in the presence of
caregivers.