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Setting Boundaries and Self-Care

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SEXUAL ASSAULT RESPONSE LIAISON (SARL) AND SAFETY AND SECURITY COORDINATOR (SSC) TRAINING

SUMMER 2013

and Self-Care 1 SEXUAL ASSAULT RESPONSE LIAISON (SARL) AND SAFETY AND SECURITY COORDINATOR (SSC) TRAINING SUMMER
2 Session Learning Objective: Develop personal strategies for strengthening resilience through setting
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Session
Learning
Objective:
Develop
personal
strategies for
strengthening
resilience
through
setting
boundaries
and self-care.

What are Boundaries?

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Personal boundaries: Guidelines, rules or limits people set for themselves for:

Reasonable, safe and allowable ways for other people to interact with them and for how they will respond when someone steps outside those limits.

Professional boundaries: Effective and appropriate interaction between professionals and the people they serve.

Session Materials are in Tab 11 of your binders.
Session Materials are in Tab 11 of your binders.

Negative Effects

 
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Numbing defenses (e.g.,

 

Flashbacks

   
 

Irritability

avoidance, denial, distancing)

Rage

Shame

Anxiety

Alienation

Horror

Loss of control

Grief

Suicidal thoughts

Disturbed sleep

Physical distress

Anger

Low self-esteem

Fear

Disturbing images

Nightmares

 

Resilience is…

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One’s ability to return to healthy functioning after being in a stressful situation.

The power to cope with difficulty and to adapt to challenges or change.

Core elements of resilience:

1. Self-knowledge and insight

2. Sense of hope

3. Healthy coping

4. Strong relationships

5. Personal perspective and meaning

Self-Knowledge and Insight

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Positive self-esteem: Liking and respecting yourself enough to be able to focus on the needs of others instead of seeking other’s approval.

Strong inner locus of control: Recognizing that you have the ability to influence many outcomes in your life.

Independence: Making independent choices and relying less on others to make decisions for you.

Self-Knowledge and Insight Strategies

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Explore your motivation for working with Volunteers who have been victims of crime.

Identify your own strengths and challenges.

Know your own values.

Recognize limits of control.

Tailor services provided to each Volunteer.

challenges.  Know your own values.  Recognize limits of control.  Tailor services provided to

A Sense of Hope is…

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Belief that situations can get better.

Positive outlook, a belief that the future will be better than the present or past.

Recognizing the difficulty of the experiences of the Volunteers you serve, yet maintaining a positive view toward life’s challenges.

Components of a sense of hope:

Optimism, the ability to see a solution.

Sense of humor and the ability to have fun!

Strategies for Developing a Sense of Hope

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Develop opportunities to succeed.

Practice gratitude.

Give praise.

Seek professional development opportunities.

Decorate your office.

Find appropriate ways to have fun.

 Seek professional development opportunities.  Decorate your office.  Find appropriate ways to have fun.
Healthy Coping is… 10  Balancing the negative aspects of work with positive activities. 
Healthy Coping is…
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 Balancing the negative aspects of work with positive
activities.
 Paying attention to physical, emotional, mental, and
spiritual needs and doing something about them.
Components of healthy coping:
• Using your skills and abilities.
• Effective planning.
• Addressing negativity proactively.
• Using creativity.

Healthy Coping Strategies

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Learn to identify how you react to stress.

Balance work with personal life.

Get enough sleep.

Use calming techniques.

Use technology and other resources wisely.

with personal life.  Get enough sleep.  Use calming techniques.  Use technology and other
Strong Relationships 12 Belonging is a basic human need.  Create positive connections with others.
Strong Relationships
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Belonging is a basic human need.
 Create positive connections
with others.
 Develop networks of
support.
 Seek and give support to
others.

Strategies to Develop Strong Relationships

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Build communication skills.

Collaborate with others.

Discuss cases when appropriate.

Foster a team approach.

Address conflict resolution proactively.

Strive to be genuine, empathetic, and warm.

Personal Perspective and Meaning

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Personal points of view—weighing the costs and benefits of supporting Volunteers.

Individual morality and spirituality.

points of view—weighing the costs and benefits of supporting Volunteers.  Individual morality and spirituality.

Personal Perspective and Meaning

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Strategies:

Know your personal values.

Find new meaning in your work.

Question old beliefs.

Engage in social activism.

Eliminate activities that are not in line with your values.

Discuss with a Partner…

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What were your reactions to the 5 core elements and strategies of resilience?

Remember, the 5 elements were:

1. Self-knowledge and insight

2. Sense of hope

3. Healthy coping

4. Strong relationships

5. Personal perspective and meaning

Which elements do you think vary across cultures? How so?

What would you like to change in your personal or professional life based on the resilience elements?