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Adam Blum: Tera, what are the persistent myths about bisexuality?
Tera Beaber: There are so many stereotypes. For example, that all
bisexual people are promiscuous, non-monogamous, or that they
are going through a phase and are in denial about their true identity.
They are seen as confused. Many people simply believe that
bisexuality doesn't actually exist.
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TB: Until they take the time to explore their fears and prejudices,
some people are unwilling to date someone bi. You often see this in
dating sites with the hurtful words, no bisexuals.
Due to the stigma, some bi people choose not to come out as
bisexual because they want to be accepted. And we all know that
life in the closet is lonely.
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AB: What kind of issues are you seeing with bisexuals in couples?
TB: If you are bisexual, coming out in your relationship can be
difficult, and courageous. Couples need lots of support around this.
If their partner is lesbian or gay, that partner might feel abandoned.
They may assume that their partner will cheat on them with
someone of the opposite gender. Its important to remember that it
is not bisexuality that is the threat. Partners of any sexual orientation
can cheat.
Most lesbian and gay people have been marginalized. When they
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find out their partner doesnt have the same sexual orientation, their
painful history of being stigmatized can get triggered.
In any relationship we need look at our own fears of being left.
However, coming out in a couple can also be a positive experience.
For some relationships, the disclosure of one's bisexuality can
prompt rich and honest conversations about identity, desire, and
relationships needs. Disclosure is an opportunity for partners to
deepen their connection and understanding of each other.
AB: What can gay, lesbian, and straight people do to be helpful?
TB: We all can do some personal consciousness-raising by
examining the stereotypes we hold. Ask yourself How would I feel
if my partner came out as bisexual? Then look honestly and
compassionately what comes up for you.
AB: Thats a great question to consider. And what do you suggest
to bisexual people who want to increase their comfort with their
own sexuality?
TB: Seek out bisexual community where you can find it. Social
support is a huge contributor to self-esteem. Know that you are not
alone and get connected to others who can reinforce that who you
are is valid and wonderful.
Therapy can also help because it provides a non-judgmental place
to explore identity and attractions. In therapy you can experience
the acceptance that you are not getting in society. Thats healing.
From there it is easier to the take the feeling of Im okay into the
world.
Find a therapist that is not only neutral but is affirming of your sexual
identity. Ive seen clinicians who just dont get it when it comes to
bisexuality. Some assume the client is on a path to being lesbian or
gay. Therapists have also been exposed to bi-negativity in the
culture and are prone to the same myths and stereotypes.
AB: Weve been talking about the difficulties of being bisexual in
our culture. Are there any benefits?
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Adam Blum
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Keith
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Manny
3 months ago
Well, I'm gay, but if the circumstances are right, I will have sex
with a woman. I believe that if you are bi-sexual and you are
in a gay relationship, then you are gay at that time, if you are
in a straight relationship then you are straight for that time.
Yes bi-sexuality is the threat over and above what other
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