NASEEHA FOR MUSLIM GIRLS

After returning from work, office, travel, or whatever has separated you,
begin with a good greeting.

Meet him with a cheerful face.

Beautify and perfume yourself.
Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested.
Receive him with love and endearing sentences.
Try to prepare delicious food for him and have it ready on time.
Soften Your Voice
For your husband only, it shouldnt be used in front of non-mahram
men (men who can marry you if you were unmarried).
Physical Beautification
Take care of your body and fitness.
Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.
Bathe regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood
traces or bad smells.
Avoid that your husband should observe you in dirty clothes or
rough shape.
Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tattoo.
Use the types of perfumes, colours, and clothes that the husband
likes.
Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time.

However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course, only act
as such in front of mahrem men and women.
Be Happy With What Allah Has Ordained.
You shouldnt be depressed because your husband is poor or has a
small time job.
You should look at the poor, sick, and handicapped people and
remember Allah (SWT) for all that has been given to you.
You should remember that real wealth lies in ones Iman and piety.
Indifference to Worldly Things

You should not consider this world as your last hope and interest.
You should not ask your husband for unnecessary things.

Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it
means that one should look forward to the life hereafter and utilise whatever Allah
has given us to achieve paradise (Jannah).
Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money
in order to give away as charity and feed the poor and the needy.
Be Grateful
According to the Prophet (Pbuh), the majority in the hell would
comprise women because they were ungrateful for the good done to
them.
The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more
and will do his best to please you in more ways.
The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be
disappointed and will start asking himself: Why should I do any good
to her, if she never appreciates?
Devotion and Loyalty
Support your husband particularly when he is going through a bad
phase in life , e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
Support him through your own work, money, and property if needed.
Obedience
Obey your husband in all that he commands you, unless it is
prohibited (Haram).
In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his
support and consultant.
Please Him If He Is Angry

First of all, try to avoid what makes him angry.

But if you cant, then try to appease him as follows:
If you are mistaken, apologize.
If he is mistaken then:
Keep still instead of arguing with him; or
Yield your right or
Wait until his anger subsides and discuss the matter peacefully with
him.
If he was angry because of external reasons then:
Keep silent until his anger subsides
Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted
him
Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened,
e.g. You should tell me what happened
I must know what made you so angry.
You are hiding something, and I have the right to know
Guardianship While He is Absent

 Protecting yourself from any prohibited relations.

Keep the secrets of the family, particularly intercourse and things
that the husband doesnt like other people to know.
Take care of the house and children.
Take care of his money and property.
Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full
hijab.
Refuse people whom he does not like to come over.
Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place.
Be good to his parents and relatives in his absence.
Show Respect to his Family and Friends
You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his
parents.
You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.
You should avoid putting him in a position where he has to choose
between his mother and his wife.
Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for
them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.
Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home.
Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for
them, support them in time of distress, etc..

Admirable Jealousy
Jealousy is a sign of wifes love for her husband but it should be kept
within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulating or backbiting others,
disrespecting them, etc..
You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.
Patience and Emotional Support

Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.

When you face hard times and disasters that may happen to you,
your husband, your children, relatives or property, e.g. diseases,
accidents, death, etc.
When facing hardships in Dawah (imprisonment, getting fired,
arrested, etc.), be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of
Allah and remind him of paradise.
When he ill-treats you, counter his ill-treatment with good treatment
Support in Dawah
Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory
and voluntary worships.
Encourage him to pray at night.
Listen and recite the Quran individually and with your husband.

 Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your

husband.
Pray particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.
Share in arranging Dawah activities for women and children.
Learn Islamic rules (ahkam) and good manners (adab) for women.
Support your husbands activities by encouraging him, offering
opinions, soothing his pains, etc.
Yield some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband
for Dawah.
Encourage him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you
and children will be in the preservation of Allah.
Good Housekeeping

Keep it clean, decorated and well arranged.

Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom.
Be Perfect of food and prepare healthy foods.
Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house, e.g. sewing
etc.,
Learn to raise your children properly and in an Islamic way.
Preservation of Finances and the Family
Do not spend from his money, even for charity without his
permission unless you are sure that he will not mind it.
Protect his house, car, etc. while he is absent.
Keep the children in good shape, clean clothes, etc. Take care of
their nutrition, health, education, manners, etc. Teach them Islam
and tell them the stories of the Prophets and Companions.