Mentor 101 Training

November 7, 2016
5:30-6:00 Welcome/ Overview- Jonathan
Paired introductions
Overview- Infographic
o Touch briefly on Roles (Pilot/Co-pilot/ATC)
o Three program outcomes
6:00-6:30 Expectations - Jonathan
Hit on mentor expectations, idea of perfect student
Worst case scenario
What's your normal reaction? (triggers?)
Ways to step outside of your normal reaction
Identify what mentors are hoping to get/what they signed-up for
What's in it for me?
6:30-6:45 Philosophy of Mentoring Abby
5 Senses
Permission
o How many times has someone asked you to do something?
o How many times have you asked someone to do something?
o What would it look like to ask permission?
Tools
6:45-6:50 Commitment Conversation Abby
Integrity
Idea of a perfect mentor
You're mentoring whether you show up or not
6:50- 7:20
Policies and Procedures Jonathan
Questions & common concerns
24 hour turnaround in communication- staff, mentors, student
7:20- 7:30 Next Steps for Mentors Abby

Match Night Saturday, October 26th, 6-8 (hopefully you already went; check-in)
Contract, Prints, Social Media

Welcome/ Overview (Notes)

Paired introductions
o Have mentors pair off and talk about three things for 5-10 minutes
Name/Current Occupation
Why they are here
A memorable moment/circumstance about being a teenager/in high school
o After time has passed, as each person to share the information about their partner.
Overview- Infographic
o What is DUS? Wrap around services that encompasses:
Student
School
Family
Mentor/Adult ally
Case Management
o Three program outcomes
Career & College Readiness
Life Skills
Academic Success
o Touch briefly on three roles
Pilot (student)
Co-pilot (mentor)
ATC (program manager)
Expectations (Notes)
Hit on mentor expectations
o Ask what expectations do they have? What would they expect from someone who
wants a mentor? What do they "know" about a younger generation?
o What is their idea of perfect student? Many times they will say "committed",
"someone who will text/call back", or "someone who doesn't lie". This can be
facilitated as a group or shared out individually. Get to the idea that they all have
triggers!
Worst case scenario
o What's your normal reaction? (triggers?)-They will be triggered at some point!
o Ways to step outside of your normal reaction
Identify what mentors are hoping to get/what they signed-up for
What's in it for me? Try to get mentors to identify something they feel like they are getting
out of this experience for themselves. It is easy to get burned out if they feel like they are
giving without getting anything in return.
Philosophy of Mentoring (Notes)
5 Senses: Write on board for reference
o Came out of research with young people what makes a difference for a young
person
o Could also make a difference for adults?
o Which of these resonate for you?
o How would you incorporate these into your new relationship?
Sense of being heard and understood listening
Sense of being knowledgeable about something thank them, acknowledge,
ask questions e.g. social media, music, etc.
Sense of independence tricky b/c of where they are developmentally versus
age - Pilot
Sense of being competent acknowledge them for what they are good at
praise own it make them feel good about it

 Sense of making a difference service project etc. ask advice from the young
person, share stuff from your own life acknowledge them, thank them can
be similar to being knowledgeable
Permission
o Who has had someone give you advice without asking for it?
o Who has given advice without being asked for it?
o EXAMPLE takes practice recently caught myself with students What
happened? You dont have to tell me. Versus Can I ask what happened?
o What would it look like to ask permission?
ET getting in a fight mentor told her it was bad etc. she knows that
Inherent power dynamic between young people and adults
As adults we are used to being the experts via age, experience etc.
mentoring is an opportunity to level that
o Young people are constantly being should on
You should..
Teacher/boss/partner/parent
What would it look like to a young person if someone asked them permission?
In asking, you have to be prepared for, No
Can I ask you later?
Takes practice to shift
Tools
o 5 Senses (as discussed)
o Permission (as discussed)
o Begin before it begins (how you show up matters!)
o Listen like your life depends on it
o Coaching formula
o Be interested not interesting
o Highlight the non-normal
o Other mentors/DUS staff (you are not in this alone!)
Segway.after all this, what is the secret to being the perfect mentor?
Secret to being a perfect mentor/ Commitment Conversation (Notes)

Integrity do what you say you are going to do regarding your commitment and your
student

You're mentoring whether you show up or not

o That is the only thing you can control regardless of what happens with student
o You are mentoring when
You call because you said you would
You show up and student isnt home even though it was a planned outing
Text, dont hear back and text again and again
o It is very hard not to take it personally or feel disrespected
reference worst case scenario examples
o They might be testing you
o You never know when you are making an impact years later student comes back
and says thank you

Termination even if it doesnt work out model healthy goodbye dont always have the
chance
Policies and Procedures (Notes):
Go over Mentoring Handbook
Highlight and discuss all policies especially:
o Mandatory Reporting
o Gift policy and Money expectations
o Transportation (documents that mentors NEED)

Car insurance
Background check/Fingerprints
Mentor Contract (in handouts)

Handouts (print out 10):

Agenda
Group/individual mentor contract
Mentor Handbook