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Someone said The

end of world is our

home.

Definition

1. The boundary between senior and old age cannot be defined

exactly because it shifts according to context and to society.
People can be considered old because of certain changes in their
activities or social roles. Examples: people may be considered old
when they become grandparents, or when they begin to do less or
different workretirement. Most countries have accepted the
chronological age of 65 years as a definition of 'elderly' or older
person.

2. German chancellor Otto von Bismarck created the world's first

comprehensive government social safety net in the 1880s,
providing for old age pensions. In the United States of America,
and the United Kingdom, the age of 65 was traditionally
considered the beginning of the senior years because, until
recently, United States and British people became eligible to retire
at this age with full Social Security benefits. In 2003, the age at
which a US citizen became eligible for full Social Security benefits
began to increase gradually, and will continue to do so until it
reaches 67 in 2027. Full retirement age for Social Security benefits
for people retiring in 2012 is age 66. Originally, the purpose of old
age pensions was to prevent elderly persons from being reduced to
beggary, which is still common in some underdeveloped countries,
but growing life expectancies and elder populations has brought
into question the model under which pension systems were
designed.

3. The very concept of an old age home is new to India. An old age
home is usually the place, a home for those old people who have
no one to look after them or those who have been thrown out of
their homes by their children. The place is of course like home
where the inmates get all the facilities for a routine living, like
food, clothing, and shelter.
4. All these necessities are well looked after but, the much-needed
love, and care of loved ones is of course sadly missing; for, how
can outsiders provide solace? In these homes, it is very interesting
and even touching to talk to people whether they are men or
women.
5. At least in India till now, the old people staying away from the
home, from their children, or left to themselves is not considered to

be a very happy situation. This concept of separating the elders

from the youngsters has been imported into India from the West.
6. However, for the West it may not be so heart rending for, there, it is
their original life style that two generations never stay under one
roof. But, in India where, for centuries, not only two but also even
three generations have lived together, this new concept of nuclear
families with the elders ousted, is just too touching to bear.
7. If, in any home we talk to the inmates, their story would be much
the same- turmoil in the family, disgust against the old and, finally
the removal of the elders from the family scene. It is the family
atmosphere, and being among their flesh and blood that, most of
the old people miss at the old age home.
8. They do get their daily needs fulfilled but, from where will the love
of the dear ones come? The stories of almost all the old people are
the same and very dismal.
9. It is the breakup of the system of the joint family and the
introduction of a nuclear family that has brought this unhappy
situation enter our society, and the old age homes have had to
come up to cater to the needs of the elderly.
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Besides this, since the women have started working out of
homes, there is now, no one to look after the routine needs of the
elders at home. Also with the women working out come their
attitudes towards the elders, for, today, the working women do not
take the elders as their duty but as useless appendages in the
family.

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This attitude of the women has also largely contributed to the
removal of elders from families. With this backdrop, the necessity
for old age homes was felt, and is being increasingly felt with the
passage of time. The entire spectrum of circumstances has led to
this unhappy need for old age homes.
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No matter how well they are looked after in these homes, a
single visit to an old age home brings depression to the onlooker
as, no one - Yes, no one seems to be happy there.

13.
It is very clear to all who visit an old age home that, all the
inmates are there, not for the love of being away from home and
independent but, because there is no better alternative left for them,
once they are neglected and unwanted in their homes by their own
children.
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The only solace is that, they are getting their daily
requirements of shelter and food - if not the bonds of love from the
family.

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Reasons Why Retirement Homes Are

Becoming a Must Today

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Senior Citizen Homes

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Most of us would shudder at the thought of our parents
having to live in a retirement home during old age. But given the
modern situation where most children are working away from
home, whether abroad or in another city, the best option and
sometimes the only option is to keep the parents in a retirement
home.

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I personally know an old lady living all alone in an
apartment in Indiranagar while his only son is working in the
States. She faces a myriad problems everyday and her son too is
under considerable tension regarding her well being. In such a
situation a retirement home can act as a perfect solution for both.

Lets see some of the reasons why retirement homes are

becoming imperative today:

1.

Children are working away from home

Most children reside outside India or in another city for work
purpose and the ageing parents are left all alone with no one to
look after them. A retirement home offers the opportunity to live as
a community giving the feeling of an extended family.

2.

Safety is an issue for senior citizens

It has become a common occurrence nowadays of crimes being
committed against senior citizens, as they are easy targets. Living
in a retirement home gives protection and security to them because
of constant screening of visitors. Also gadgets like CCTV offering
constant surveillance and video intercom makes sure that it is
possible to monitor visitors.

3.

A like-minded community
We are social animals and friends are an essential part of our
lives. Once people retire from their jobs they miss the daily
interactions that they used to have with colleagues who were of the
same age group. At retirement homes with neighbours and
occupants of the same age group it is easy for any person to blend
in comfortably and lead an actively social life.

4.

Stress free living

Daily work at home may not be mentally stressful but is physically
very demanding, especially for senior citizens. At retirement
homes, most of the daily chores and work is taken care by the
association offering senior citizens a stress free living. Even chores
like daily cooking are taken care of at the community kitchen.

5.

Medical attention
A constant cause of tension regarding senior citizens are health
related issues and medical emergencies. Since retirement homes
are exclusively for senior citizens, medical help is always available
and are better equipped to handle emergencies.

6.

A constant companionship
The modern dilemma during these times are that even though there
is no monetary scarcity, yet due to work pressure and commitments
children are often not able to give their parents as much time as
they would want to. The result? The senior citizens health often
ends up being neglected. Isolation is also a huge issue which can
lead to mental depression. At a retirement home, the community
thrives on companionship and care, hence minimizing any feeling
of neglect and isolation.

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Having said this, we must also remember that there is also a
downside to retirement homes. Firstly, a huge amount of money

gets locked in as a deposit or a down payment which cannot be

retrieved if for some reason the inhabitant decides to quit the
home. Secondly, retirement homes lack a mixed age community,
which some people may prefer to having only senior citizens as
community members.

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What is Home? Why should we need home? Why
we do love with our home? Because With home we
all are connected with some relations , some
memorized. And That will give us happiness. So we
want that we should in touch with home forever..

I want to sing here John howard paynes poem.

HOME HOME SWEET SWEET HOME

Mid pleasures and palaces though we may roam,

Be it ever so humble ,theres no like home;

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A charm from the sky seems to hallow us there,

Whichseek thro the world is never met with elsewhere.
Home ,home,sweet sweet home!
Theres no place like home, theres no place like home!

An exile from home,splendor dazzles on vain;

Oh! Give me my lowly thatached cottage again!
The birds singing gaily, that came at my call
Give me them-and the peace of mind, dearer than all!
Home ,home,sweet sweet home!
Theres no place like home, theres no place like home!

I gaze on the moon as I tread the drear wild,

And feel that my mother now thinks of her child,
As she looks on that moon from our own cottage door
Thro the woodbine , whose fragrance shall cheer me no more.
Home ,home,sweet sweet home!
Theres no place like home, theres no place like home!

How sweet tis to sit neath a fond Fathers smile,

And the cares of a mother to soothe and beguile!

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Let others delight midnew pleasures to roam,

But give me , oh give me the place like home.
Home ,home,sweet sweet home!
Theres no place like home, theres no place like home!

To thee Ill return overburdened with care;

The hearts dearest solace will smile on me there;
No more from that cottage again will I roam;
Be it ever so humble theres no place like home.
Home ,home,sweet sweet home!
Theres no place like home, theres no place like home!

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I think India must be one of the few
countries/societies where culturally, and traditionally,
there is so much respect for elders. It is probably the
only country where we touch the feet of our elders
as a mark of respect. Yet on a practical level and in
our infrastructure we are far behind many other

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countries and societies in looking after our elderly.

With Indian society changing and with the gradual
shift from joint family system to the nuclear family
system, our relationship with the elders in our own
family is also changing. Today a person working and
living in a large city has many demands on him. He
or she has very little time for himself and his own
immediate nuclear family (children and spouse). In
this changing scenario what happens to our elders.
We need to plan better for our elders, and in fact for
ourselves, because sooner or later all of us, (no
matter how much we resist it will eventually get
there.
The average lifespan in the year 1947 was 31 years! So the
number of people living beyond the age of retirement, ie 60 years,
would not have been very high. Also, at that time, the support
system of the joint family was very much prevalent. Today the
average life span is around 65 years. So the number of people
living beyond 60 years is dramatically higher. It is now fairly
common to see people living up to the age of 75 or 80 years. That
is 20 years of life after retirement. Add to this the remaining living
years of your spouse. So, whatever I have earned and saved over
40 years has to last my spouse and me another 20 years! And
remember, these last 20 years of life will be the years when my
spouse and I will have the highest expenditure on health. Of
course, Im not even getting into inflation. So can my spouse and I
live comfortably and independently for 20 to 25 years without
earning? Unlikely for most of us. So who is going to look after us?
Our kids? But they might have their own problems. So perhaps one

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of the things that we really need to look at is, even after I retire at
the age of 60 from a government or a corporate job, I must still
find other ways to continue to earn a living and continue to be
productive
for
as
long
as
I
can.
As a society we have created infrastructures and support systems
to help us to look after our children. So, we have for our children
10 years of school, ie, from the age of 6 to 16. Before that, we have
kindergarten, before kindergarten we have nursery, before nursery
we have play schools and crches to help look after our children.
No such support system exists in our society for the elderly. We
need to have more and more professional organizations which
bring the elderly together so that they can be productive in their
time and how they spend it, and have a good time even after they
are past retirement age. Examples of these are some Nana-Nani
or Dada-Dadi parks. Recreation Centres or parks for senior
citizens are being run by local self-government bodies, NGOs,
senior citizen groups and local area bodies in different parts of the
country. They get some grants from the government/municipality
and sometimes, funds from donors/sponsors. Delhi has been
particularly active in this regard they have over 75 such
recreation centres and the Delhi government offers some financial
aid and assistance for starting and the upkeep of such endeavours.

As pointed out by Mr. Himanshu Rath a huge percentage of our

voting population is above the age of 60 and that number is only
growing. And most of our politicians are also above the age of 60.
Despite this obvious synergy, there are very few facilities or
policies designed for the elderly by the centre or various state

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governments. The Indira Gandhi National Old Age Pension

Scheme (IGNOAPS) was launched by the Ministry of Rural
Development. All persons of 65 years (and above) who are living
below the poverty line, according to the criteria prescribed by the
Government of India, are eligible for the scheme. The pension
amount is Rs.200 per month per person. Most states give between
Rs.200 and Rs.500 and only to those below the poverty line. Some
state governments have been more generous. Tamil Nadu gives
Rs.1000, 20 kg of free rice to cardholders and 35 kg to BPL
families. Goa gives all senior citizens a pension of Rs.2000 per
month, not just those below the poverty line.

30 In essence we need to remember that just touching the feet of our

elders is not enough. It should not become a meaningless gesture
which we go through because of tradition, rather it should be a
gesture born out of genuine affection, love and respect. And what
we should never forget is that where our elders are today we will
be tomorrow.

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And no one think about those mother who left their

homes and now a days they live in OLD AGE HOME.
How will they cure about themselves at that ages.
What is condition of OLD AGE HOME????
See.

This people They are broken heart

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They do not need support of the pole or other subjects

but in this time they really need to support of his sons,

A lot of these elders have daughters too, and these

daughters cannot be 'budhape ka sahara' because
their duties after marriage is considered only
towards their husband's parents and not their own.
Many women suffer in silence and in helplessness
as they can see their parents suffer but unable to
do anything to change it. Is this not unfair on both
the daughters and their parents? This is also one
of the reasons why a girl child is not desired, she

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can never be of any help to them in old age.

Shouldnt the responsibility of both the parents lie
on the couple? Why should this responsibility be
only on the sons & their wives? I have seen many
women commenting on the insensitive nature of
sons towards their parents, but can they do
anything to their own parents? Did they not leave
them and go away? Why do we as women accept
this kind of bias towards us?

Now a Days, People Use to Live with his wife &

children, But they Left their Parents to Live
Alone/Penniless. But they Forgot their Childhood, at
that that time Their Parents, sacrifices a lot for Him, If
This is called Advance Society, Then I don't want to be
Advance. They Love his wife & Child, but they Forgot
how much their parents loved him, in their Childhood &
make them Self Dependent.

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so ay the last way to help of this type of parents . some gave concept of
OLD AGE HOME.

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There are many place in india like old age home But
places loke ayudham have changed the concept of old
age home. The concept of Senior Citizen Homes was a
place for unhappy parents.That concept is finished. In
Ayudham Parents go there because they wanted. Here
Childhood and old age complement each other. They
believed that; We dont need retired, We need more
re-wired people.
India is only country where to touch the feet of elders,
to sick their blessing is a show of reverence.
But for making to more advance youth forget his
culture. Son will refuse to have home his parents. At

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this moment parents never want negative thiking

about his son. See this mother ,

This real Indian culture . In Sanskrit Our Rishi said that

,putro kuputro jayet kavchidapi kumata n bhavati

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This is true , 10 children cant care of a mother.

A short story about this .What type of relation between
mother and children when they young and when they
would be youth.
Two children of 5 years old quarreled .one say this is
my mother and 2nd say this mother is mine.
After some years same. Both are quarreled but one say
this mother is yours. And 2nd say this is your mother.
This can happens only in India .
What you believe ? Old Age Home is good for us?,
Is good ofr Our culture ? is good for our nation?

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No , It is not good symptoms for us, or our culture , or

our nation.
Why we need of old age home?
Because
culture

our youth generation is forgetting his

So wake up and memorize that muj viti tuj vitase dhiri

bapudiya
..

Sugan Bhatia, Ph.D. President Indian University

Association for Continuing Education Delhi 1.1 The
elderly (aged 60 years and above) in India account for
more than 9 percent of the total population. The
National Population Commission estimated that the
population of the elderly is expected to grow from 71
million in 2001 to 173 million in 2026. This
demographic scenario appears to indicate a very
precarious condition for the older persons in terms of
their capability to enjoy the right to life with dignity.
While those in the age group 60-69 years could be
expected to lead a fairly healthy life and offer their
services as volunteers for informal care giving to others
in the two higher age groups, both the 70-79 years age
group and the 80 + years age group would require
critical social and medical healthcare support both
informal care giving and formal care giving. 1.2 The

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growing incidence of elder abuse and severe fissures in

the multigenerational family or household has forced
many older persons to abandon their family home;
some of them have also been pushed out and have
thus been left shelter-less. Most urban areas appear to
have a growing incidence of cases of abandoned
elderly. A new culture of peer group participation
being attempted by the old persons appears to be
taking roots in many parts of urban India; Old Age
Homes of various types are rapidly becoming a choice
for many abandoned, left out or neglected old
persons with or without survival resources.

Though in our daily schedule we forget about them , but they never
ever forget us come what may be the situation, for them we always
remain their kid and for us they always be a guiding light, for us they
are our foundation , whatever present we are having today is all
because of them. We feel that we have grown up but still the child in
us feels relaxed when we realize that we have our elders above us,
this is so valuable but then in today's bottle neck competitive world
we often fail to express and this is where we start losing them and
making our parents feel dejected.

No one on this earth can hate his/her parents they are always loved
but sometimes people just take it granted, they fail to realize what
you expect out of other people around you is genuinely and self

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lessly given by our parents , let it be advice, let it be help and let it
be moral support. our parents are the only one on this earth who can
never ever imagine anything bad for us. what i believe is we can earn
money as much as we want but we cannot buy a set of parents and a
family...if we are earning a lac per month and we dont have anyone
to share our happiness with those who will have a genuine glitter of
happiness in thier eyes,that one lac is of no worth. Even our spouse
can not feel that for us which our parents feel coz we are their
dreams and we all know wen dreams get fulfilled how much
happiness we get. So we all should try to be a fairy dream for our
parents that they feel that their upbringing is justified and not be a
nightmare that they repent for their whole life time.

THE END.