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Training Others to Counsel Men
Description of the Workshop
Creating a Holistic Training Program for Teaching Others to
Counsel Men
Conclusion
References
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b. Didactic integration
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roles. These areas will be discussed in the latter part of the chapter.
There are several variables and approaches that must be
considered when designing a training program intended to increase
counseling skills. These variables include: current level of counseling
skill, theoretical orientation, number of trainees, previous knowledge of
subject matter, expected training opportunities in the future (e.g.,
opportunities to work with male clients), expectations as to the method
of training (e.g., didactic versus experiential) and trust level of trainees.
This particular training program/workshop is designed for
advanced students and practicing professionals in psychology, social
work, or marriage and family counseling. It can also be adapted for
paraprofessionals. Because of the content of the program, it is
recommended that there be a near even distribution of men and women.
If that is not possible, process attention should be given to the
underrepresented group (e.g., five male trainees and one female trainee).
It is also strongly recommended that at least one of the trainers be a
male. Experiential exercises are a major factor in this particular training
program; therefore, the trust level among those involved should be
considered an important variable and promoted. The facilitator/trainer
skill level is also important. In this type of program we have found that
trainers who are flexible, non-defensive, self-disclosing, encouraging of
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dialogue, knowledgeable about mens and womens issues, and are not
stuck on a right way to do therapy help make this program/ workshop
on counseling men most useful.
Table 8.1 provides the outline of the workshop.
Norms
1. Participate at your own pace.
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2. Listen nondefensively.
3. Be open to new ideas.
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Womenb
Competitive
Passive
Strong
Dependent
In control
Emotional
In charge
Illogical
Achievement oriented
Nave, gullible
Intelligent
Beautiful
Non-feeling
Sensitive
Dont cry
Nurturing
Mechanical
Neat
Dominant
Patient
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Protective
Good mothers
All knowing
Soft, warm
Logical
Fickle
Stud
Romantic
Breadwinner
Seductive
Initiator of sex
Artistic
Independent
Authority
Physically weal
Athletic
Sex = love
Sex = Accomplishment
a. If man is not like this, he is a sissy, queer, or gay.
b. If a woman is not like this, she is a bitch, dyke, or womens libber.
B. Mens Attitudes
Toward Self
Toward Others
Homophobic
Homosexist
I need to be right.
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turning off the emotions and turning on the cognitions. This part of a
mans socialization has had a negative impact on his psychological and
physical well-being. On a relationship level, feelings can serve as a
channel for expressing and experiencing intimacy with others. As a mans
option to express and experience feelings gets shut off, so does his ability
to feel alive and make contact with others. Many people (and therapists,
too!) believe that the only emotion that men are comfortable with is
anger. From our perspective it is not that men are comfortable with
anger but rather they are highly uncomfortable with expressing the flip
side of angerthat of being hurt and vulnerable (since these are not
manly emotions). After a brief lecture and discussion on why relearning
to feel is important for men in counseling the trainees are asked to write
down one feeling they have difficulty experiencing/expressing. They are
asked to share with a partner the answers to the following questions:
1. How did you learn to have trouble with that particular feeling?
2. What intimidates you about that feeling?
3. How long have you had trouble with that feeling?
4. How has the difficulty you have with that feeling gotten in the
way of enjoying your life more?
After a brief discussion in a group format about similarities,
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EVALUATION
As with any type of training program or workshop, a written and
verbal evaluation of the usefulness of the program is strongly
recommended.
FORMAL METHODS
Individual supervision: There are many models for doing individual
supervision. We believe that no matter what type of supervision model is
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used, the issue of gender can be brought into the supervision process.
Ideally, the supervisor is knowledgeable of male socialization issues and
of counseling men. Individual supervision can be an ideal learning
environment for helping the supervisee increase awareness of
countertransference issues in counseling men. Feminist therapy
supervisors (Rosewater & Walker, 1985; Schaef, 1981) discuss the
importance of being aware of the processes that go on among the
supervisor, supervisee, and client. In addition, the gender-role dynamics
between the supervisor and supervisee can serve as a learning
opportunity (especially if one or both are male) in the area of gender-role
issues and conflict resolution.
Group supervision: Group supervision can be a learning
environment where the gender of the client can be discussed as an
important variable in the counseling process. How this is accomplished
will depend on the leadership style and the supervisors awareness of
mens issues. In a safe learning environment, process issues among group
members as they relate to gender-role differences can be addressed and
utilized as a learning opportunity.
SEMINARS
Many training agencies do not address the process of counseling
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INFORMAL METHODS
Modeling of agency staff: When professional staff members
acknowledge and deal with their own gender-role differences, this
modeling can serve as a prime training opportunity. Examples include
processing differences in communication patterns or decision-making
processes among male and female staff members. Competitive and
homophobic feelings/ behaviors between male staff members may also
be opportunities to encourage deeper understanding of male
socialization issues. We have found that trainees are acutely aware of
gender-role issues among staff members and subsequently can learn a
great deal from a staff that does not ignore conflict in the area of genderrole differences.
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Conclusion
Training others to counsel men is developmentally in its infancy.
Writing in this area appears not to exist. Psychology and other related
disciplines could pay more attention to male gender and male sex-role
socialization issues as important variables of the psychotherapy process.
The importance of teaching or training others to expand their
understanding of how and why male clients feel/think/behave is the
basis of this chapter.
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