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It’s time to
GROW UP
Know your Rights
Why Dedicate
My Baby?
How to keep the
Fire burning in your marriage
It’s time to
From the Editor
Welcome to our new look “VOH”. This has been designed to
GROW UP
give you a more professional look while providing for ease of read as
When you came into this world as a newborn baby, you
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well. The articles are just as relevant and powerful. Please write to
me at editor@hrm.org.za and let me know what you think of the new had a lot of growing to do! You weighed only about two or
look and of course what you would love to see more of in your VOH. four kilograms and you were about 50 centimeters tall! How
Remember, it is your magazine HRM’ers so, get involved. The World heavy and tall are you now?
Cup is in full swing and South Africans have once again been united
by Sports. All races have been supportive of this major event with
the whole of Africa so proud to host an event of this magnitude. VOH GROWING UP is something that you are What are the signs of growth?
is behind Bafana Bafana all the way!!! doing all the time--little by little, day by day, We are to KEEP ON GROWING every day
awake or asleep. Sometimes it may not even of our Christian lives and we are never to
Some of you were concerned about the VOH being a bi-monthly seem as if you are growing, but if you are stop growing! When we fail to grow as we
Tumi publication, well, I am happy to report that VOH will continue to be a young and were to compare your height with should we are disobeying and displeasing
monthly publication again so please do call us for affordable what you were one year ago, you would God. Remember growing in one area and
JULY 2010
advertising rates. In fact, if you take space for 3 consecutive issues, see a difference. not growing in another is as a problem as
you will receive a 10% discount. June 20th being Father’s Day, VOH not growing at all. What is the point of being
wishes all our HRM fathers a blessed day. May He keep you safe Luke 2:52 Jesus grew both in body and in a spiritual giant and a social midget? Live a
and give you wisdom in being fathers after His own heart. You are wisdom, gaining favour with God and people. balanced life. Here are some of the ways one
our heroes. This issue is jam packed with a looooot of great articles, There are 4 different types of growth in life shows their growth.
from family, to money, to legal, to the bible to all you need all in one according to Luke 2:52
magazine. Enjoy the read. Till next month...
Physical growth • Things that used to intimidate you
Intellectual growth don’t anymore.
25
This was the language used by my parents would be part of Hope Restoration Ministries.
when I was growing up and it seemed ok The seeds of hope he laid in my heart that
to me. I used to be so cheeky and moody many years ago in the train, continued to
Years?
that no one could talk to me and that made grow. The prayer group my husband men-
The wedding me proud that people respected me. Even tioned, those old ladies taught how to care
my colleagues at work never believed that I for a man and what marriage was all about.
Our wedding was simple compared to was married and had children the way I was Thank God for praying women.
How it all
Both: We took a day out one day and wrote
all the things about our individual families
we loved and made another list of all things
Jan Smuts airport (the now OR TAMBO int.) about our individual families we didn’t like,
This year on November Holiday Inn to celebrate with our family and changed and then we drew up our own list of things
30th, Mr and Mrs friends. It was a beautiful day. we wanted to incorporate in our marriage.
Mathenjwa will be Baba: It is such a long story we could write We also used this time to pray for all those
celebrating their a book, but my wife’s God made all the curses over our families that they wouldn’t be
Silver Marriage Early struggles difference. My wife got saved and contin- a part of our lives anymore.
ued to pray for me. I started seeing a lot
Anniversary. When in marriage of changes in her conduct that I wanted to
asked how they feel go with her to this prayer group that she Dealing with
about it, they both Mama: I loved my family too much and kept mentioning. It was an old women’s
sighed, like I had asked wanted and insisted on going to see my only prayer group, but I still went. I wanted conflict
mother every day after work which I did for a to see and hear what they were saying to
them a loaded question. while. My husband didn’t like it and I never my wife that brought all the difference in Always attack the problem and not the
Here unfolds their story. understood why. It took me a long time our marriage. I found old grannies crying person. Two wrongs don’t make a right. If
to get to the level of understanding what it and calling on God the whole night once a your partner does or says something hurtful,
means to leave and cleave, but it was a huge month. I continued to go even on days when you do not help the situation by doing or
How it all began cause for fights in the early years of our she wouldn’t go. Those old ladies taught saying something worse it is vital to talk to
marriage. We never got any type of my wife and I how prayer can sustain a mar- each other with respect and humility. Just
We met at Shukumani Higher counselling prior our marriage so it was riage. I got saved a few months after that. like the bible says, “submit one to another.”
Primary School in Tembisa in 1977. pretty much like a jungle and one had to find One day, many years after our marriage, I Remember that at another time it will be you
We dated for 7 years before mar- their way out. Also having to ask for was praying and God told me that before he needing to be treated with grace. Building
riage which we wouldn’t advise the someone’s opinion / permission instead of addressed my needs, he needed me to go a successful marriage doesn’t take a day. It
youth to do. Then Baba Mathen- doing things your own way used to be a and ask for forgiveness from my wife. He is a life long journey. In your anger, do not
jwa looks at her, softly touches her problem for me. Another issue for us was showed me ALL the wrongs I did her most sin. We used to spend three weeks without
cheek and says “I used to call her that my husband was very vocal about things of which she didn’t remember. This was a a word when we had had an argument, but
Zandi then” then they both burst he was unhappy about, but I didn’t say difficult task for me, but the minute I asked now even 6 months go by where we don’t
out laughing. “Now she is Ma much. He was very harsh and heartless at for my wife’s forgiveness, I was baptised have an altercation, so be patient with one
04 Mathenjwa or Siza. I gave her the times. He wasn’t receptive of correction and with the Holy Spirit and received the gift of another. 05
name Siza because she is always it made it difficult for us to deal with our speaking in tongues there and there. When
The Mathenjwa Family helping people” problems. We were also struggling the bible says in 1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, in
financially. We lived by begging and the same way be considerate as you live
Back L-R: Mduduzi (1st born), Nonceba (Mduduzi’s wife), Nsizwa (2nd Born) Mid-
borrowing money. The way we used to fight, with your wives, and treat them with respect
dle L-R: Mr T Mathenjwa, Mrs Z Mathenjwa, Buhle (3rd born)
Front: Mpumi (Last born)
Voice Of Hope Newsletter Voice Of Hope Newsletter
my baby?
Being a husband is not a prerequisite to Legal claims for reasons of medical negligence by doctors
being a father...(And I’m not permitting This article was necessitated by the growing oversight primarily by lay persons who are not
pre-marital sex)”Even though you have conversant with the law and the rules applicable to medical negligence cases and therefore end
10,000 guardians in Christ, you do not have up not initiating legal proceedings in a court of law because of lack of knowledge. In the book of
many fathers...” (I Cor. 4:15) “And he will turn “A Baby Dedication is a ceremony in which believing Hosea 4: 6, God says “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge”.
the hearts of the fathers to the children, and parents, and sometimes entire families, make a
the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest What then is medical negligence?
commitment before the Lord to submit a child to God’s
I come and strike the earth with a curse.” Medical negligence is also known as medical malpractice. It is defined as an Improper, unskilled,
(Malachi 4:6)
will and to raise that child according to God’s Word and or negligent treatment of a patient by a physician, dentist, nurse, pharmacist, or other health
God’s ways” care professional. The negligent conduct by such professional may cause injury or death to the
God is our Father in Heaven, and He wants patient.
more people like Him. I believe He is looking Responsibilities Involved in Baby Dedication
to & fro throughout the earth for people with Christian parents who dedicate a child are making a promise to the Lord to do everything within Medical negligence occurs when the care provided by the professional deviates from the accept-
hearts like His own. He is a Father, and He their power to raise the child in a godly way, prayerfully until he or she can make a decision on ed standards of practice in the medical community. In other words it is the failure of a physician
lovingly disciplines us like a Father. He holds his or her own to follow God. Parents who make this vow of commitment are instructed to raise or other medical personnel to meet the standards of professional conduct for duties relating to
us as a Father. We can sit in His lap as a the child in the ways of God, and not according to their own ways. Some of the responsibilities the medical profession. Those standards are based on what a reasonable doctor or professional
child does with his or her father. However, include teaching and training the child in God’s Word, demonstrating an example of godliness, with the requisite knowledge and skills would or would not do.
many fathers today have abandoned their disciplining according to God’s ways, and praying earnestly for the child.
families, whether physically, emotionally or At Hope Restoration Ministries we believe on a strict policy in baby dedication: Parents need to A person who alleges negligent medical malpractice must prove
verbally. Maybe even spiritual things have be guided in fulfilling this Christian duty and the responsibilities accompanied by it. four elements:
led him astray. The devil is tricky, but not as Why dedication? 1. A duty of care was owed by the physician: This legal duty exists whenever a hospital or
Skin Care
powerful as those who walk according to health care provider undertakes care or treatment of a patient.
Christ. For we have overcome him through 1. Children are an inheritance from the LORD. They are a reward from him. The children born 2. The physician violated the applicable standard of care: In order to prove this element the
our Big Daddy. to a man when he is young are like arrows in the hand of a warrior. Blessed is the man patient must show that the doctor failed to conform to the relevant standard of care. The