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COMM. 2110
Introduction
more responsive style Ive had for years. Over the course of this
in relationships, and Ive seen the positive (and negative) effects those
others feelings are involved. This often leads me to not getting what I
sensitive topic.
that I was unhappy with the way he acted, because I didnt want
to hurt his feelings or have him think I was stifling his personality.
Whitney, and she would have her boyfriend over all the time. I
was fine with him coming over, because I also had a boyfriend,
but they were very loud when in her bedroom and I found it not
over face-time, and I would sit at the kitchen table for hours. I
day her boyfriend was over and I was video chatting with my
mother, and they were being extremely loud in her room. I had
only confronted the other person about it. I had a problem with another
happen again, but I did nothing. My inaction led to further issues and
the problem.
Strategies
approach important topics with people. In the past, I would often take
the easy way out, and have critical conversations over weaker
me express myself through body language, but I can read the other
circumstances.
interactions.
Constraints
sometimes it felt like I took two steps forward and one step back. For
about moving out, I had the conversation with her in person and I felt
communicating face-to-face.
Another constraint I ran into was when I really did hurt someones
feelings, since that is what I had been avoiding all along by not
speaking up. When I told my roommate I was moving out, she told me
that she felt hurt and I did feel bad about it. However, I did not want to
react out of pity and back down on my plans, even though it seemed
like the easy thing to do. I had to remain steadfast in my plans and
continue on despite her feelings. That, for me, was difficult, but I am
Implementation
family and I know will still love me even if I offend him. For example, a
guy whom I had just met at Synagogue found out I was dating
someone who isnt Jewish and he very rudely asked me about it. I was
/ offense, but I did not verbally tell him what I wished I had later (like
oriented and concerned about their emotions, but they can handle
more than I think. There were times I was afraid that I would hurt or
but I realized that honesty really is the best policy, and when you have
loving than one where you abide by niceties and keep emotions to
more as an adult, rather than their child because Ive come to them
with my decisions that I want their support on, but not necessarily
asking for their permission. I really feel a new sense of respect from my
such an emotionally charged issue, and I have been through ups and
downs myself, its hard to be mad at someone for it, especially when
you know she is already beating herself up about it. I had to very
carefully craft the way I spoke to her and the things I said so that she
knew I was still her friend and I support her in her sobriety, but I just
There were some instances with people where I was almost forced to
nobody else in the group was contributing any effort, and I had to ask
them to help. If I had not spoken up, nobody else would have either
and I dont think our project would have ever gotten done. Plus, I didnt
want to turn the project in with their names on it, knowing that they
were getting points for something they did not even do. I could already
silently cursing their names and handing in the paper with a grin on my
that everyone could earn their points. I made sure to not point fingers
or act like I was better than anyone, and I used inclusive words like
assertiveness, I got the exact result I wanted, and we all got good
grades.
and she feels comfortable to speak openly to me. Had I not been
were often more telling than her words (or lack thereof), and after a
while her nonverbal messages became much more open and trusting,
until eventually she began to actually speak more. I also initiated a lot
hello or inviting her to dinners with friends, and I think this has made a
big difference in her happiness and general life. Ive watched her open
up more and more every time we meet, and Im glad that I did not give
up after the first few meetings when I felt like she heard nothing I was
saying.
Results
friends, I have not hidden my true feelings in a while, since Ive been
the few times Ive been able to show my assertiveness with them has
can solve it. Ive also realized how much happier I am with myself
when I tell people how I feel. I used to pretend like everything was ok
and nothing bothered me, but inside I carried a lot of negativity and
Recommendations
in situations both big and small, because I feel this has really helped
must be practiced and honed, and Ive heard of many ways to help
confidence in children and adults alike. Its a simple exercise that can
be done anywhere, at any time of the day, and only takes a few
minutes.
I found the most difficult part of this was, for me, not having important
let that conversation spill over into subsequent texts for the next few
voice. I have seen the power of body language and tone of voice, and I
Works Cited
Bacon.