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SHIRT, Tokyo Darling. CROP
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JEANS, Rialto Jean Project.
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CULTURE CRUSH
Youre invited to a very
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STYLE
Rock these 5 Easy Denim
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32 Cosmotivation
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Should you stop Playing in Food Buzz (123) and 40 From the Editor
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Dont miss $10, Tops! have Pets as Bedmates 208 Horoscope
(100) and get Sexy Beauty in Body News (126). 210 Bitch It Out!/
All Month Long (102). Catch up with our beauty Shopping
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of recovery in I Lived
212 Cosmo Quiz:
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you get when you mix
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theres the The Sex We
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 15. GET TO KNOW CAIT-
LYN Jenner, top
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N EV ER LOSE
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glamour.com). 11. GET YOUR HERO FIX NAME: Ive It would be a ORATION:
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21 Alanis Morissette is equal parts
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25. BARBARA THE SLUT
AND OTHER PEOPLE, by
Lauren Holmes Short sto-
ries about the, uh, ups and 26
downs of sex? Were in.
26. EILEEN, by Ottessa
Moshfegh New friendship
seems (key word!) like a
lonely townies way out. 27

27. WHO DO YOU LOVE,

by Jennifer Weiner Way
more romantic than most
stories starting in the ER.
28. HARRIET WOLFS 28
SEVENTH BOOK OF WON-
DERS, by Julianna Bag-
gott The hunt for lit-genius
Wolfs final book is so on.
29. MAKE YOUR HOME 29
AMONG STRANGERS,
by Jennine Cap Crucet
Freshman year, meet
international crisis.
30. THE SCAMP, by Jenni- 30
fer Pashley Thought your
fam had a black sheep?
Meet Rayelles cousin.
31. PRETTY BABY, by 31
Mary Kubica Do-gooder
ignores stranger-danger
vibes; creepiness ensues.
32. A WINDOW OPENS, 32
by Elisabeth Egan Alice
Pearse has it all...but does
she really even want it?
33. THE MARRIAGE OF
OPPOSITES, by Alice Hoff-
man A bit of Romeo and 33
Juliet in 1800s St. Thomas.

34
Actress and self-described nerd Felicia Day ditched
normalcy (way overrated) to go with her own quirky
flow. Turns out, thats what allowed her to be a boss,
parlaying parts in shows like Buffy the Vampire Slayer
into her own hit web series, The Guild, and a
development deal for her YouTube channel, Geek
& Sundry. Our individual weirdness is what sets us
apart in life, says the girl from Alabama. Learn
how to go from oddball to odd baller from her memoir,
Youre Never Weird on the Internet (Almost).

35. DE - S T R E S S with a coloring book for grown-ups (did we stutter?), like Splendid Cities from Little, Brown and Company.

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1
I have a leopard
gecko, and he is my
best friend. He
hangs out on my
shoulder while I
study. I hand-feed
him grasshoppers.
Hes such a baby.
When Im away
from him, I miss
him so much.
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FERNANDINA BEACH, FL

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GUY CONFESSION

2
I FILL MY USED CONDOMS WITH WATER TO

5 GUY CONFESSION 6

R IG H T AT T H E
IM NOT WEARING
ANY UNDERWEAR RIGHT MY EX S TA R T O F T H I S
B IG G I R L S
NOW BECAUSE YOU
COULD SEE MY HOT PINK LOOKS OLDER, N IG H T OU T, I
FELL WHILE
THONG RIGHT THROUGH
MY DRESS, SO I HAD TO SO WHEN WA L K I NG I N T O
T H E CLU B. M Y
TAKE IT OFF.

MELISSA A., 20, STUDENT,

WE MET, I F R I EN DS T R I ED
T O H E L P M E U P,
MCLEAN, VA

INFLATED MY B U T A L O T OF
PEOPL E S AW.
AGE BY THREE SABRINA T., 21, STUDENT,
QUITO, ECUADOR

4 GUY CONFESSION
YEARS. WHEN
I G O T A NO S E B L E E D I N
T H E M I DDL E OF M A K I NG SHE FOUND When I was 12, I got my
first massage. After the
OU T W I T H T H I S AW E S OM E
GI R L I N A C A B TO H ER OUT, SHE WAS masseuse left me to undress,
I cluelessly lay on top of the
PL AC E . I DI D NO T G E T
L A I D, A N D I AC C I DE N TA L LY PISSED. sheet naked instead of
covering myself like youre
supposed to. When she saw
G O T B L O OD ON H E R FAC E . LEON T., 19, STUDENT,
NEW YORK CITY my bare ass, she laughed
I T WA S A B A D S C E N E A L L hysterically.
A R OU N D. DANIEL N., 23 CAROLINE K., 21

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CHECK FOR ANY LEAKS. BRIAN B., 24

11 My dad was
helping my husband
and me move.
While he was moving
a nightstand, the
drawer opened
to reveal a vibrator,
lube, and a sex-
games book. I was
mortified.
ABIGAIL B., 28

12 I was on a flight
and had to use the
restroom. When I
returned to my seat
and sat down, I heard
a loud crunch.
Apparently half of the
seat cover was stuck
to my butt, hanging
out of my pants. I
was so embarrassed!
CARLEY S., 22

8 DOG CONFESSION
I WENT TO THIS POOL 13 My high school
boyfriend used to

ONE TIME,
PART Y WHERE A SUPER-HOT
GU Y DUNKED ME IN. WHEN
say Here I come,
Im coming, Im
I CAME UP FOR AIR, I FELT coming, here I come,

I PANTSED
A BREEZE MY WHOLE
BOOB WAS OUT OF MY
BIKINI. I JUST WENT BACK
in that exact order,
every time I gave
him a hand job.
My friends and I still

A GUY UNDERWATER FOR A

SECOND AND PRAYED THAT
NO ONE HAD NOTICED.
call him Thomas
the Tank Engine.
KELSEY C., 23

WHO WAS MILAN S., 31, WRITER,

ROCHESTER, NY
14 My roommate
and I were both too
lazy to walk to CVS,

RUNNING
so for the first two
months of school,
10 C E L E B C O N F E S S I O N we stole toilet paper
from the dining-hall
JESSICA BARTH: MIKE WINDLE /GET T Y IMAGES

BY. I DIDNT One night at a swanky party, I found

myself with Jessica Biel, Justin Tim-
berlake, and Jay Z. Being there
bathroom.
KRISTEN F., 22

LIKE HIS caused the rules of time, space, and 15 I waited forever
etiquette to be suspended, so I asked to get pizza from this
delicious place in
Jay Z questions like we were buds. So...I hear youre
my area. The second

LOOK.
MOUSE, 9, PET DOG, NEW YORK CITY
having a baby!? What are you having? Is the name I got it, I dropped it
picked out? He replied with a polite but short Yup. on the sidewalk. I
Then I remembered he is the king of hip-hop and wasnt going to wait
his wife is Beyoncso, embarrassed, I excused again, so I just ate it.
myself. JESSICA BARTH, TED 2 (OUT NOW) ANNE K., 26

DONT MISS NEXT MONTHS

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Worst Dates Ever

I showed up to our date a few minutes late.
He told me that was strike one, and then he said,
Three strikes and youre out. To my face. As I was talking, he pulled
KELLY G., 21 out his laptop and started
reading sports news. When
he looked up, he asked,
Are you done talking? Can
He went in for the we do it now?
GABRIELLE S., 23
kiss teeth first and bit
my lip so hard that it
bruised. The next day, He called his
mom on our
my boss asked me if I date and asked
her to Venmo
ate a blue lollipop. him $15 because
CAIT D., 25 dinner was more
expensive than
he thought it
would be.
EMMA M., 20

He took off
his shoes at a
He tried to persuade me
steakhouse that NBA star Shaquille ONeal
and acted like is the best rapper ever. He
it was normal played me all these YouTube
behavior. videos, and when I wasnt
SARAH J., 21 convinced, he stormed out.
NESA M., 21

We pulled up to a
Laundromat, and he
said, I was wondering
if you could do my
laundry. No, sir!
ANA-LISA M., 28
He ran into one of his
buddies and started talking
to him about threesomes. He
then volunteered me to have
a threesome if that guy
was interested. What?!
COURTNEY S., 21
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When Im working
on something intense,
I want to watch The
Bachelor. Dont be
BRITTANY SNOW surprised. Its the
I got my greatest show on TV!
boyfriend,
Tyler, obsessed.
He wont admit
ithe says he
doesnt really
pay attention.
But hes paying
attention.

@ANNAKENDRICK47
If I were a
@LUCYHALE contestant, Id
Wait. I end up falling
think I in love with the
missed The weird sound
Bachelor. guy and
Im crying. making things
uncomfortable
for everyone.
@JAMIECHUNG1
Hate to
admit it, but
Im looking
forward to
the season
finale.
#DamnIt

Bachelor @SARAH_HYLAND
I always predict the
next Bachelor/ette.
@ChrisBHarrison,

Party
Take the guilt out of your guiltiest pleasure.
move over.

The Bachelor franchise (next up:

Bachelor in Paradise, August 2) has plenty
of fans hanging on its every rose. JORDAN PEELE
Its like a
crazy lover,
that show.
Real good.

@JIMMYFALLON
The night is
G E T T Y I M AG E S ( 14). T W E E T S M AY H AV E B E E N E D I T E D FO R

young for me.

I could go out.
(Or watch
The Bachelor
on TiVo and
go to bed.)
L E N G T H A N D C L A R I T Y.

SEAN PENN [Charlize Theron

@HILARYDUFF The Bachelor.
and I] argue about whether
Martinis. Reeses.
we should fast [forward].
Chips and guacamole.
@AMANDASEYFRIED I dont really want to hear the
Killin this night.
Ive never felt conversations. I want to
this way before. know the decisions. (Perhaps
Liars. thats why they split!)
#Bachelorette
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The Leave
the Night On
singer was a
pro-football
prospect when
he switched
gears and
started writing
hit songs. Now,
the Georgia
boys solo
career is on fire.
BAD BOY I had a

SO
tendency to get into
fights growing up.
I got suspended
a few times. Nothing
too bad! But its in
my nature to be a lit-
tle mischievous.

THE INFLUENCE
I love what Drake

HOT
does. Ive covered his
songs, but I dont
want to be called the
Drake of country.

MUSICAL VIRGINITY
In a small town, its
either sports or a
band with your bud-
dies. I was always
athletic. But in col-

RIGHT
lege, I was exposed
to all this new music,
and I was drawn to
hip -hop and R&B.

PLAN B My dad is a
football guy, not a
music guy. He didnt
totally understand
when I decided to be
a musician. But Im

NOW
not a worrier, even if
I had known the odds
were against me.

THE WANDER YEARS

At heart, Im a rela-
tionship guy, but my
adventurous side
makes it hard. I hope
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want to get married,
SAM HUNT
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have kids one day.

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 GROWING UP, I always
thought it would be better
to be a boy. I mean, I
wasnt doing such a bang- older sisters bedroom
LIZZY CAPLAN
STARS IN up job of being a girl any-
MASTERS OF way. Flat-chested for
SEX, SUNDAY
NIGHTS ON longer than the others,
SHOWTIME. scrawny with coltish
limbs hidden beneath
baggy boys boxer shorts those things, it would hap-
and oversize t-shirtsI pen lateryou know, when
was less a little princess
and more an awkward
collection of elbows.
And believe me, I was
really committed to this
boy thing. When I was a
child, my perfect weekend
would include washing
the car shirtless in cutoff
shorts with my dad like a
couple of bros, playing
with my (parent-
approved) lizard collec-
tion and (classified) snail
collection, and seeing how
lightning-fast I could take
the broken bits of side-
walk the kids in my neigh-
borhood used as
makeshift bike ramps.
I had zero interest in
tearing through trunks of
dress-up clothes or dance-
party sleepovers spent
Whats choreographing routines
to New Kids on the Block.
I didnt want to own a
training bra, let alone
Gender stuff it. I wanted to win
soccer games, be the best
at Streetfighter II, and
hold my breath the longest
Got to Do underwater.
Even though I was at
times met with disapprov-
ing glances out in the real
With It?
From Mean Girls to Masters of
world, in my household,
aspiring to be Dennis the
Menace was A-OK. I
wasnt forced to wear
dresses unless it was a
Sex, Lizzy Caplan has always very fancy occasion, and I
been one of those actresses who was never given a hard
exudes a just-one-of-the-guys
vibe. But theres more to being thats what Ive been striv-
the cool girl than meets the eye.
IM ONLY
Here, she explains. WEARING THE
BARRETTES
TO DISTRACT
YOU FROM
THE BRASS
KNUCKLES.
58
time for coming home cov-
ered in dirt and/or blood.
And although my idolized
walls were covered in
Young Guns II posters
and she had a list of all the
boys shed kissed, I just
assumed if I ever got into
my boobs came in.
Well, my boobs came in
a while ago, and Ive kissed
plenty of boys. I came to
realize that there was a
mysterious and compli-
cated power to be found in
the changing body I was
born with.
These days, I celebrate
my femininity, the way my
body looks and feels, the
way my brain works. And
while I no longer harbor
any desire to be a boy, one
thing hasnt changed. I
still want all the same
opportunities that are
afforded to the boys. I
want to be paid as much as
the boys. I want to vote for
a presidential candidate
who shares my gender. I
want to continue my
career after having chil-
dren without even a trace
of side-eyed judgment.
And most important, I
want to live in a world
where being a girl doesnt
limit ones access to edu-
cation, reproductive
rights, opportunity, or
success. Whereregard-
less of which city, town, or
third-world village you
J A N A C R U D E R / C O R B I S O U T L I N E ; C O U R T E S Y S U B J E C T.
come frombeing a girl
with big ideas, lofty goals,
and a (gasp!) healthy sex-
ual appetite is not consid-
ered a punishable crime.
I dont want to be a boy,
but I sure as hell want to
be equal to them. Perhaps
ing for all along. But listen,
Im still not interested in
going to your sleepover
dance party.
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I DONT DRINK;

THERES
NO SHAME
IN A VIRGIN
MARGARITA
GAME.

DONT JUDGE
I used to discount any woman who didnt drink as an uptight,
un-fun, total buzzkill. Then I sobered up.
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parts was that I had
become someone I never
wanted to know: a
HERE WAS A TIME when the nondrinker, a seltzer
highest compliment I sipper. Friends asked me
could give a woman was out, and I declined. Better
I want to drink with to stay swaddled in
you. I loved the ritual of were boring. Whenever a blankets and reality TV couldnt I see a person was
liquid bonding, how you friend told me she was than to confront the far more complicated
could walk into a bar as cutting back, I smiled and realization that you have than the sum total of the
awkward strangers and nodded, but I also did my become the loser you once spirits she took to her lips?
stumble out with purple part to undermine her avoided at the keg party. Recently, I had lunch
teeth and a new BFF. rational choices. I wanted I began to seek out with a friend who stopped
Every once in a while, friends to indulge the way women who didnt drink. drinking after a medical
I met a woman who I didtill dawn with I still adored my raucous diagnosis, and she said
didnt like alcohol, and it indifference to the happy-hour companions, one of the worst parts was
was like a crackle of consequences. Come on. but I grew a new the way her friends
thunder on a clear day. One more drink wont kill appreciation for any stopped hanging out with
What do you mean you you. To care about your woman who didnt her. Im the same person,
dont drink? consumption is lame. Cool consider alcohol she said. Without a
Id been in thrall to girls drink. mandatory. How lovely to foamy pint in her hand,
booze for as long as I You see it in movies simply sit together and though, she had changed
could remember. It was and on TV all the time. not require the steady in their eyes.
the antidote to my The uptight girl sips her trickle of cabernet, as Im sure it comes from
insecurities, the gloomy seltzer, hair pulled back in though your wineglass is a a fear of judgment. Drink-
and watchful part of me a careful headband, while parking meter you have to ers like to be surrounded
that obsessed about my our earthy, relatable keep filling up with by other drinkers, and
thighs and nervously heroine slurps a fizzy quarters. Phrases that anyone who isnt playing
stammered when I spoke. cocktail, letting her long once made me resentful along can be seen as a
Alcohol was bravado, hair whip in the breeze. I Im on medication, I threat. But most non-
glamour, the most wanted to be that girl have this weird allergy, I drinkers I know arent
delirious fun I knew. To the wild and free kind. just cant take the taking secret notes on
say you didnt drink was Unfortunately, I became hangoverscould make everyones wine levels.
like walking up to other girls too: the kind me leap for joy. After Theyre trying to talk and
someone who could fly who falls off bar stools in decades of feeling sorry laugh and share their day,
and announcing you blackouts and gets into for women who didnt same as the rest of the
much prefer to walk. slurry fights with her drink, I began to feel sorry group. If theyre not
I had no time for boyfriend and cracks for the younger me, who judging you, why are you
teetotalers. My after-work dumb jokes that leave her had made booze the so quick to judge them?
activities involved happy friends exchanging primary litmus test for a Sober women make

hours and dinners where
empty green bottles of
wine piled up. Weekend
revelries took place at the
bar or someones crowded
kitchen with a beer in
hand. If you didnt like many mornings of not
booze, what on earth were
we going to do together?
Knit? Eat quinoa?
Perhaps we all have a
secret bully inside us. I
grew up judged for my
generic-brand clothes and
my liberal politics, and I
swore Id never be so different countries. The
shallow. I prided myself
on my open mind, and yet
I was utterly knee-jerk on
this topic. Nondrinkers
annoyed glances she is too
wasted to notice. Cool
girls might drink, but the
way I drank was not cool.
Eventually, I gave up
alcohol. There were too
remembering what I had
done the night before or
remembering exactly
what I had done and
burning up with shame
for it. I didnt want to quit,
but life will teach you that
want and need are two YOU DIDN T DRINK
WA S L I K E WA L K I N G
months that followed
were as lonely and sad as
heartbreak can be, and
one of the most deflating
persons worth. Why
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They can always drive
home. They are excellent
clearheaded listeners.
They are often warm and
compassionate and
settled in their own body,
which is how I try to be
now. Its been five years
since I quit drinking. Ive
learned that my sober self
is a lot like my drunk self
but with fewer high kicks
and less screaming. I
women didnt like me
anymoreI was there
once too. The part thats
far more important is that
I finally like myself.

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when wet and dries to a perfect finish. NYC hair pro Nunzio Saviano breaks
down the tricks and tools thatll save you tons of styling time.
BY D E A N N A PA I

Twist
Up
STEP 1 Pull hair
into a high, tight
ponytail, and
divide it into two
sections.

STEP 2 Wind the

sections (simulta-
neously) until they
start to coil.

STEP 3 Wrap the

coils around each
other two or three
times, and tuck
ends under, secur-
ing with pins.
!
PRO TIP
BEFORE COILING , USE
A POM A DE ON THE
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All STEP 1 Pull hair

into a slick
ponytail at the
STEP 2 Wrap a
bunch of hair
bands haphaz-
STEP 3 Tug
on random
sections to
Tied back of your
head. Lightly
ardly down the
length of the
make some
fatter than

Up tease the tail

with your fingers
ponytail, criss-
crossing them
others.

or a comb. as you go.

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Tail-
spin
STEP 1 Pull hair
straight back,

HERV LGER
as if youre
going to create
a ponytail in
the center of
your head.

through the
elastic once.

around, pull

ate a loop.

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smoothly.

Double
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STEP 2 Twist STEP 3 Secure curls while taking
each side the rolls with down frizz.
inward, pinning a ponytail at
JOHN FRIEDA Frizz
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STEP 2 Tease the

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SOFTEN IN THE SHOWER
Plug up the tub and let the water
pool around your feet. Massage a
handful of scrub into heels and
around toes to slough off roughness.
Peppermint versions (like the one
at left) cool skin, reducing redness.
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Put on sandals before applying

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NOW?
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Playing the
YOU DITCHED A PRODUCT YOU DITCHED A PRODUCT
BECAUSE BECAUSE
It left your face red You didnt like its
and irritated. smell or texture.

Skin-Care
STICK-WITH-IT TIP: Some
ingredients, like reti-
nol, inflame skin on
purpose (to shed dam-
STICK-WITH-IT TIP: Play-
ing with the product
in-store (via a com-
munal tester or

Field?
aged outer cells or
kick-start production
of skin-plumping col-
lagen), and it can take
Stop the on-again, off-again relationship with your four to eight weeks to
productsand start seeing resultswith our guide. build up a tolerance,
BY DE ANNA PAI
says Jeanette Graf,
MD, a dermatologist
in NYC. Stop using it
until skin returns to
normal, then reinte-
grate it into your rou-
tine, using only a
pea-size drop every
other night followed
by a gentle moistur-
izer, says Dr. Graf.
YOU DITCHED A PRODUCT
BECAUSE
You didnt see results.
STICK-WITH-IT TIP: On
average, you wont see
a visible skin change
for about four weeks,
says Amy Wechsler,
MD, an NYC derma-
tologist. If, after
that, you still see zilch,
schedule a quick trip
to your dermatolo-
gists office (or see a
trusted aesthetician)
to be sure its right
for you.
requesting a single-
use sample) is your
best bet. Other ways
you can curate:
Sephora.coms Skin
Care IQ (an online
consultation that
helps you zero in on
new faves by calling
out ingredients, types,
textures, and fra-
grance-free options)
and the OG product-
reviewing website
MakeupAlley.com.
YOU DITCHED A PRODUCT
BECAUSE
You found something
newer and cooler.
STICK-WITH-IT TIP:
Indulge your impulse-
purchase habit with
samples. A monthly
subscription service
(like Birchbox or
Glossybox) lets you
test-drive products
and spring for a full-
size version of some-
thing you love. Also
helpful: Sephora.com,
which includes three
free samples with
your order.

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Wear this sheer
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OPI ColorPaints
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BEAUTY

Fair-
Skin
Diaries
When bronze is the prevailing
summer beauty goal, how does
a pale girl find her look?
BY JE S SICA MATLIN

Among all the tanned, coco-

GET A TA A A N ! bellowed
a deep, slurred male voice
from one of the hundreds of
people packed onto the Jer-
sey Shore. As I walked across
the hot sand in a black one-
piece, the idiot call contin-
nut-scented girls, I probably
looked like Goth Barbie. I
just didnt fit in at the beach.
With my dark red hair
and white, freckly skin, I
fry up in the sun within 10
minutes flat. During bright
al fresco lunches, Im apply-
ing SPF to the backs of my
TRUNK ARCHIVE

ued, fading into the distance. arms before the drinks even
I was embarrassed, sure, arrive. Peoples moms have
but I could see the humor.

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BEAUTY
always worried about my
skin more than their kids.
Thats why I cant help
but marvel at girls who look
natural in a summer setting,
the type I used to idolize on
MTV Spring Break. With
each hour in the sun, they
seem to grow hotter, literally
and figuratively. A tan turns
them into sex goddesses who
look a lot like them, only
thinner, happier, and more
confident. Its like theyre
all related to Gisele. I had to
know what it was like.
Since I cant tan au
naturel without getting
burned, for years I fiddled
with alternative methods.
Tanning beds were off the
table. Their UV rays are
just as dangerous as the
real dealsometimes even
stronger.
Self-tanner was the obvi-
ous next step, but I just never
got the hang of application.
I always ended up looking
coffee-stained or like I was
wearing orange leggings.
Technique aside, a lot of for-
mulas left me smelling like
old, wet newspaper for days.
When a big destination
wedding came upand I
wanted to look bronzeI
knew enough to go pro. After
a custom spray tan, I hopped
on a six-hour flight right
from the salon, stepping
off the plane looking like a
crumpled lunch bag. (My
clothes had bunched in the
seat, and the pigment devel-
oped unevenly.)
At that point, I was done.
The truth is, Im very much
the indoor type. Im thor-
oughly in my element when
Im in AC with a crunchy
snack and a good book. Try-
ing to pull off full-blown
self-tanner was going about
as well as the time I tried to
walk in five-inch Choos
embarrassing to watch.
108 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ AUGUST 2015
FAIR
GAME
Give your skin a
believable glow
and pop of color
with these
editor-tested
favorites.
POWER PINK
Against pale skin,
hot pink is both
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BURBERRY Lip and
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Poppy No. 9, $30,
burberry.com
Now Im doing as my
mom said from the start
Its easier these days as lying
out has become taboo. Sun
bathing is horrible for your
health and makes skin age
like a leather handbag.
My mother said that
the sun was beauty suicide,
says celebrity makeup art-
ist Charlotte Tilbury, who
shares my typical redhead
coloring. Tilbury doesnt
try to replicate the bronze-
goddess looks she creates
for celebs like Kate Moss
and J.Lo. I play up my fair
skin, she says, sometimes
adding bronzer to high-
light or contour. Inspired by
Tilbury, Ive since amassed
an arsenal of gradual self-
tanners, golden powders,
and shimmery lotions, which
are subtler than traditional
self-tanners and look super-
COMPLEXION
PERFECTION
Like having a mini
lighting director in your
bag, it gives skin a
candlelit look.
HOURGLASS Ambient
Lighting Bronzer, $50,
nordstrom.com
SLEEK
PHYSIQUE
This shimmery
shaping cream
makes every body
look lither.
CHARLOTTE TILBURY
Supermodel Body,
$64, charlotte
tilbury.com
glam. Also, Im taking cues
from other fair ladies like
Gwen Stefani and Emma
MINIMAL Stone. They dont sit out the
DRAMA season, instead going for it
This face cream
imparts just a hint of pink lip colors to play up
color with each their porcelain complexions.
application (i.e.,
JEFFREY WESTBROOK /STUDIO D
Once I stopped trying to be
preventing any OMG
surprises).
a beach bunnyand started
having fun with who I really
JAMES READ Gradual
Tan Day Tan Face, ama strange thing hap-
$34, sephora.com pened. I felt sexier. Just in
time to enjoy my summer.
 A WALL OF POLISH, a rack of
mags, and the promise of a
foot rubwhats not to love
about a pro mani-pedi? It
depends on where you go. If a
spa isnt sanitary, you run the
risk of anything from a head-
ache due to potent fumes to
a serious infection from dirty
tools. Weve mapped out the
red flags.
Dirty Digs
When celeb nail artist Debo-
rah Lippmann pops into a
mani-pedi place, she always
scouts out two areas: the cor-
ners and the bathroom. If
theyre clean, its usually a
sign of higher standards.
Secondhand Fumes
While that nail-polish smell is
unavoidable, your eyes
shouldnt water upon entry.
Workers are the most vulner-
able to fumes (see box below),
but even short exposure to
hazardous chemicals can be
harmful, says Thu Quach,
PhD, a research scientist with
to kill germs) and hospital-
grade soaking solutions are
effective, but its tough to know
if a salon is sanitizing the tools
long enough or using the right
formula. Also, certain tools
should never be reused, like
nail files or buffing sponges,
which get clogged with other
peoples dead skin. To play it
safe, Lippmann recommends
bringing in your own kit.
Janky Jacuzzi
Pedi tubs are a potential germ
farm, especially Jacuzzi fil-
ters, which get trapped with
dead skin. If your local pedi
place doesnt do jet-free
bowls, inspect the tub before
they fill it, and see if theres
any grit, grime, or gunk. If so,
I say, Im sorry, but would you
clean this for me? says
Lippmann.
Polluted Polish
If a client has a funky finger-
nailor an open sore near the
nail bedcommunal polish
can get contaminated, says

HOW SAFE
the Cancer Prevention Insti-
tute of California who has
done extensive research on
nail-salon safety.
Lippmann. While she admits
this is a worst-case scenario,
Lippmann prefers bringing
her own polish. A BYOP policy
may also ensure a longer-last-

IS YOUR NAIL Tainted Tools

A dirty nail kit can transfer
serious germs, which can
result in anything from a
ing mani. I constantly see
salons adding remover to the
polishes so they last longer.

SALON?
fungal infection to a staph
infection, says Lippmann.
Imagine if you went to your
dentist, and he used a tray of
tools hed used on another
You trust your nail salon with sharp tools, patient, says Lauren Breese,
noxious fumes, even hot wax. A healthy, director of professional devel-
clean space should be a given. opment for OPI. Autoclave
BY JE S SI C A M AT LIN machines (which use steam
Hairy Situation
Going for a wax? The treat-
ment table should be covered
in a fresh paper sheet, and the
wax pot shouldnt resemble a
messy melted candle, says
Melanie Gilliland, an expert
for European Wax Center. And
if they double-dip? Run.

ITS NOT JUST YOUR SAFETY

PA SCAL DEMEE S T ER /FOLIOID.COM

This May, The New York Times ran an expos on New York Citys nail-salon industry, blowing the whistle on injustices from workers
stolen wages to illness due to chemical exposure. Often when you have rampant safety violations, its possible there are wage violations,
says Charlene Obernauer, executive director of the New York Committee for Occupational Safety and Health. Here, what you can do.

ASK a smelly salon DONT be freaked if DONT fall for a TIP in cash, and give ENCOURAGE your
to turn on their fans or your tech wears gloves super-cheap service. it to your nail tech salon to carry nontoxic
ventilation system. or a maskits to Usually, its at the to be sure that shes formulas. Nail prod-
protect them from expense of something pocketing it. ucts can be dangerous,
chemicals. or someone else. says Quach.

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BEAUTY ESTE LAUDER
Double Wear
Light, $37
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a Kylie?
ONE SIS IS ALL ABOUT
HER CHISELED, TOP-MODEL
YOU WANT
CHEEKS ON
1
GET EVEN
CHEEKS. THE OTHER: FLEEK Apply your usual
LIPS SO PILLOWY, THEY Two shades of base or tinted
foundation are all moisturizer to create a
HAVE THEIR OWN HASHTAG it takes to kontour smooth surface.
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Brush, $45,
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3
GLOW ON

2
SCULPT IT
With an angled foundation
Finish by tapping a
second foundation thats
two shades lighter than
your skin onto your
cheekbone (from your eye
to your temple). Blend
brush, sweep founda- any sharp, obvious lines,
tionone thats two then dust with loose
shades darker than your powder to set.
skin toneinside the hol-
low of your cheekbone
(make an O with your
mouth to see it).
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line with mauve liner the line with your fingertip,
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CALORIE S legs extended. Lean right foot up two steps, one about two feet tall).
BURNED, ON back, and lift legs so bending right knee to Squat, and place hands
AV E R A G E , they are parallel to the lunge. Straighten. on rock behind you,
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 THE SLICE
FOOD BUZZ
IS RIGHT
First the sad news:
Most pizza isnt too
healthy. Its typically
piled with cheese,
upping the sodium
and saturated fat, and
skimpy on vitamin-
rich veggie toppings,
says Dawn Jackson
Blatner, RD, a dietitian
in Chicago (a city that
knows za). Now the
good news: Better-
for-you pie doesnt
have to be blah. In
a Scottish study, 77
percent of adults said
a pizza with less salt
and saturated fat and
more fiber was as
good as or better than
their go-to. Pair these
with salad for a totally
acceptable meal.
Kashi Greek Tzatziki
Single-Serve Pizza
At just 300 calories,
who needs willpower?! IF YOU HAVE
Whole-grain crust sup- RASPBERRIES
plies 9 grams of ber. RASPBERRY SORBET
Newmans Own Pulse 24 ounces of frozen
B E N G O L D S T E I N / S T U D I O D . S T Y L I S T: J A M I E K I M M . F R O M L E F T: G E T T Y I M A G E S ; K R I S T I N T E I G / O F F S E T; J O V A N A R I K A L O / S T O C K S Y.

Roasted Vegetable Thin raspberries in a food processor or

and Crispy Pizza
Get vitamin C (thanks to
peppers, onions, and
mushrooms) and 3
grams of ber in each
240-calorie serving.
Amys Pesto Pizza
This pie gets points for
organic ingredients and
for a hit of calcium, iron,
and vitamins A and C.
blender. With the machine running,
pour in cup water and cup
honey, and blend until smooth, about 3
minutes, adding more water if needed.
Freeze about 30 minutes. Scoop
sorbet into 4 glasses, and top each
with cup champagne, 2
IF YOU HAVE tablespoons crumbled biscotti,
PEACHES and fresh raspberries.
GRILLED PEACHES IF YOU HAVE
Mix teaspoon cinnamon STRAWBERRIES
and 2 tablespoons coco-
BERRIES AND CREAM

BETHANY GUMPER
nut sugar; set aside. Cut 4
peaches in half along seam,
removing pit. Brush cut
sides with olive oil. Cook,
cut side down, on a hot grill
about 2 to 3 minutes. Brush
EAT YOUR
Quarter 4 cups strawberries
(discard stems). Mix with
2 tablespoons coconut sugar
and 2 teaspoons lemon
juice. Let sit for 30 minutes.

SWEETS
tops with oil, flip, and move In a cold bowl, beat 2 cans
to side. Sprinkle with cin- chilled coconut cream,
namon sugar. Cover; cook 1 tablespoon honey, and
until sugar is melted and 1 teaspoon vanilla extract on
fruit is tender, about 5 to 10 high until stiff peaks form,
minutes. Top with Greek about 5 minutes. Dollop on
yogurt and granola. berries; add sliced almonds. No need to skip out on the best
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calories at their next meal than those without. (They took oxyto-
cin or a placebo via nasal spray.) Oxytocin affects the parts of
overflowing with fresh fruit this
the brain that regulate food intake, says study author Elizabeth
month, and Roehls recipes put
A. Lawson, MD. It may have the same appetite-reducing effects them front and center.
post-coitus, although more research is needed. Volunteers? B. G. BY DA NIE L L E M C N A L LY

123
REAL LIFE
I LIVED
THROUGH
CANCER...

PHOTOGR A PHED
BY
E L I Z A BE T H
GRIFFIN
 The other week, my boy-
friend, Tim, and I were run-
ning (very slowly) when my
foot caught on a notch in the
pavement. I face-planted.
Then I burst into tears and
declared, between sobs, I
cannot do this. Id tried so
hard to be normal, but my
body wouldnt let me. Instead
of rising to the occasion,
it kept screwing upeven
something so deceptively sim-
ple as staying upright. Three
weeks after my last chemo
treatment, Id finally cracked.
Youd think Id be happy.
Ive gotten off easyagain.
Two years ago, I had surgery
to remove a rare form of liver
cancer. Late last year, it came
back. I had four rounds of
chemo, then surgery, then
two more rounds of chemo,
and after that, the most
underwhelming appointment
ever. The scans look good,
my doctor told me. See you
in three months. I felt
relieved but also confused.
His easy good-bye was anti-
climactic after all the needles,
MRIs, consults, and follow-
ups. This is it? Im still alive,
and no one at the hospital
thought to order me an ice-
cream cake? (Although if Id
received a cake, Id probably
have destroyed it with a spat-
ula while yelling, You think
this makes up for cancer?!)
My friends want to cel-
ebrate, and its easier to go
along than admit Id rather
sulk on my couch alone. I
M A K E U P : J A M I E D O R M A N / A B T P. B O D Y M A K E U P : T R I N A M E R R Y .
DEANNA DISCUSSED THE CRAPPINESS OF CANCER IN THE APRIL 2015 ISSUE.
DURING
TREATMENT FOR A
RARE LIVER
CANCER, COSMO
BEAUTY EDITOR
DEANNA PAI JUST
WANTED LIFE TO
GO BACK TO
NORMAL. NOW
THAT SHES
HEALTHY, SHES where I was, Im somewhere
entirely different.
NOT EVEN SURE Being alive is a luxury, and
WHAT THAT Im grateful that Im not half-
MEANS. way to hospice. So bitching
feels like a faux pas. I should
live every day like its my last,
shrieking Carpe diem! and
...AND dancing like no one is watch-
ing. But its hard to be enthusi-
IT STILL astic when the long-term side
effects of chemo are only just
SUCKS emerging in full force. Yes!
You survived cancer! Here is
your prize: feet you cant feel
(a result of nerve damage) and
permanent partial hearing
loss! Its like being the first to
reach the finish line, but after
you burst through the con-
grats banner, theres a fire-
breathing dragon waiting to
barbecue you.
thought Id be eager to guz-
zle gin and tonics in a crowd Ive crawled all the way up
of other 20somethings, but Cancer Mountain just to find
the normalcy I longed for myself staring down the edge
during chemo doesnt exist. of a cliff. What to do now with
Instead of getting back to this third shot at life? Should
I deny that it happened and
go back to my pre-cancer
routine of breakfast-work-
canceling plans-dinner-
Netflix-sleep? Quit my job to
travel and make an attempt at
a more meaningful life? What
if I do do something new and
exciting only to find myself in
Japan, streaming Friends
from my bed? I have a press-
ing sense of urgency to go, to
go now, to do something
before a fresh batch of cells
stages another coup. But Im
paralyzed by the fear of mak-
ing a rash decisionplus the
AUGUST 2015 _ COSMOPOLITAN _
WHY
WEAR A
WIG WHEN
YOU CAN
HAVE
YOUR
SCALP
PAINTED
GOLD?
pressure to make this count
plus survivors guilt plus the
memory of the absolute shit
show that has been the past
six months. I am still sad and
angry, and like cancer, theres
no easy cure for that.
Life goes on. I get out of
bed. I wrangle my numb feet
into sandals. I go to work. I
rush to get home in time for
Jeopardy. On Saturday morn-
ings, I wake up Tim early so
we can meet my Cancer to 5K
running group in Central
Park. Its the closest I get to
going to a support group.
Instead of sitting around
talking about our feelings, we
run. I was the lone bald girl at
the first practice. When I
arrive a few weeks later with a
fresh dusting of follicles, a few
other survivors surround me
and marvel at it.
Did all of you lose your
hair too? I ask. They nod.
It looks cute now, says
Meta, a woman with a slight
accent and a gray pixie. I
think she had breast cancer,
but she doesnt mention it and
I dont ask. But wait until it
grows in curly. Others chime
in: Mine came in like a Brillo
pad. This is after four years
of growing it. We grumble as
we drop our bags and begin
our pre-run stretches.
Plastered in pollen and
surrounded by people with
various strains and stages of
cancer, I feel less lost. Its a
step forward. We just run
and try to figure out what
were doing along the way.
125
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OKAY OR NO WAY?
PETS AS
BEDMATES
THE CONS When couples let YOU DECIDE Set on letting
a pet sleep between them, Fluffy curl up on the duvet?
theres a physical barrier to Get allergy shots if you need
sex, says sex therapist Kat them, bathe him weekly, and
Van Kirk, PhD. Worse, some minimize dust-trapping fab-
partners give the dog all their rics. Kicking Kitty out? Her
affection. If youre doing it separation anxiety (meow-
ing! scratching!) may affect
your sleep quality. Instead,
try putting pillows or blan-
PANTY POWER
supplies. Thanks to Thinx, says
to keep hitting the books.
CHRISTINA JEDRA
Ask
Dr.
Ashton
My man never goes
to the doctor. I know
thats bad for him,
but is it bad for me?
It could be. Even if one
partner is screened for
STIs, it doesnt guaran-
tee that the other per-
son doesnt have
anything. Let your guy
know that protecting
his health and yours is
as simple as going to
his primary-care physi-
cian and getting a blood
test for hepatitis, syphi-
lis, herpes, and HIV
and a urine test for
chlamydia and gonor-
rheanothing painful!
I used to have an
eating disorder, but
Ive gotten treatment.
Can that still affect
my fertility?
Both being severely
underweight or severely
overweight can cause
irregular periods, and a
weight below a certain
threshold for your
height may stop men-
struation completely.
But if youre a healthy
size now and your
period is back, dont
worrytheres no per-
manent effect on your
ability to get pregnant.
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 I DISCOVERED that I was different
in the third grade. As the new kid at
school, I was trying hard to find my
footing. I thought I had made friends
with two girls, until they stopped talk-
ing to me. When I confronted them,
they said their mothers had warned
them to stay away because they might
catch my skin condition.
Before that, I had never given much
thought to the way I looked. Confused
and embarrassed, I told my mother
what the girls had said. Soon after, my
mom went to the school and explained
to my class that I had a condition
called vitiligo, which occurs when the
cells that produce melanin die or stop
functioning. The disease had left me
with a loss of skin color in patches
across my bodymy arms, legs, face.
Its not contagious. There is no cure.
I wasnt born with vitiligo. It began
developing rapidly when I was 4 years
old. I dont remember my skin chang-
ing, but I do recall feeling deeply loved
by my family. Growing up in the greater
Toronto area, I was a happy kid. I loved
to hang around my mothers beauty
salon. I visited my dad in Jamaica and
Atlanta. I had lots of friends.
In the third grade, I moved to a new
school, and things changed. Kids called
me a cow and would moo at me. In
middle school, the bullying got physi-
cal. One night after a ball game, out in
the cold, a girl shoved me. I didnt want
to fight. My skin is sensitive in extreme
temperatures, so to get out of the situa-
tion, I let her beat me up. The next day,
she came at me again and I defended
myself. I didnt have to fight her again,
but similar incidents followed.
High school brought more harass-
ment, and I started skipping class.
Eventually, the vice principal recom-
mended an alternative school. Its
crazy that I got ousted when I was the
one getting abused. I went to the alter-
native school and got a job at a call
center. I loved making my own money,
feeling independent. But I couldnt
juggle the job and school. And so, as a
typical 16-year-old, I chose the job.
Around this time, I turned a corner.
A journalist named Shannon Boodram
saw my Facebook page and told me
I was beautiful. She shot a YouTube
video of me, and it grabbed thousands
of views. She said I should be a model.
I had never thought about model-
ingit hadnt seemed possible. I had
imagined working in entertainment or
130 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ AUGUST 2015
THIS journalism, but as a high school drop-
out, I was just living day by day.
SKIN
Its amazing what a little encour-
agement can do. I realized I could use
my unique look as an asset. I talked to
an agent, but she dismissed my mod-
eling dream, suggesting I become a
makeup artist instead. It was an indi-
I WASNT
rect hit aimed at my skin. It stung, but
BORN WITH I was used to that attitude.
VITILIGO.
IT DEVELOPED I didnt give up. I posted pictures of
WHEN I WAS myself on Instagram and sent them to
4 YEARS OLD.
agents. The response was always the
same: no. I went to an Americas Next
AS A KID,
Top Model: All Stars fashion show in
Toronto, gathering the courage to say
CHANTELLE
hello to the contestants. They said, Oh.
My. God. Youre fucking gorgeous. One
WINNIE of them held my face in her hands and
said, You are like a butterfly.
WAS I decided to try out for the runway
shows at Torontos annual fashion
TORMENTED week. Urged on by a friend (hey, Cleo!),
I bought a pair of heels I couldnt
FOR NOT afford, putting tape on the soles so I
LOOKING
could return them. I made the cut,
walked in eight shows, and got noticed.
LIKE
A casting director from Americas
Next Top Model contacted me through
EVERYONE Facebooka fan page set up by my
9-year-old sister, Chrystina. He told
ELSE. NOW, me Tyra Banks had spotted me.
I dropped everything and flew to
THE Los Angeles to try out for the show
21-YEAR-OLD
and made it. Afterward, I heard from
photographers including Nick Knight,
TOP MODEL
who had shot celebrities like Lady
Gaga and Kate Moss. I did a shoot
WELCOMES with him and then starred in a fashion
ad campaign he shot for Diesel. I also
YOUR landed an ad campaign for Desigual.
This past spring, I walked the runway
STARESAND at shows in Madrid and New York.
Recently, I returned to the middle
GETS THE school where I once cried in the hall-
LAST LAUGH.
ways. I talked to the students about
having confidence and lifting one
another up. I remember being in their
AS TOLD TO
position. The kids who once bullied me
ABIGAIL PESTA were just like me, trying to fit in.
T H I S PA G E : C O U R T E S Y S U B J E C T. O P P O S I T E PA G E :
People sometimes ask when I
learned to love myself. But I didnt
MARY ROZZI/CONTOUR BY GET T Y IMAGES.
KIDS CALLED have a problem with myself or my skin.
ME A COW
AND WOULD
I had a problem with the way people
MOO AT ME. treated me because of my skin. They
tried to define me. I had to relearn
how to love myself by forgetting the
opinions of everyone else and focusing
on my own opinion of myself. Today,
my motto is: You only have one life.
Live it for yourself, not for anyone else.
Do what the fuck you want!
CHANTELLE
WINNIE
IN JANUARY
2015.
 Feel
Badass
on the
Beach
The number one thing you need
to rock a teeny-weeny bikini:
confidence. Get yours here.
These moves improve posture,
so youll look more confident,
says Cassey Ho, who created
POP Pilates (Lolo Jones and
Vanessa Hudgens are fans)
and this plan. Do all the moves
in order three times. Then hit
TANK TOP
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ONLY WHEN
VISITING THE
SNACK BAR.

B
1 FIRM UP YOUR ABS
Lie faceup, legs
extended, arms over-
head, squeezing a beach
ball between hands,
with shoulders and legs
a few inches off ground.
Raise arms and legs up
and toward each other,
passing ball from hands
to legs [A]. Lower [B]. CHOOSE A PROP Ho is using CHANNEL, COSMOBODY. VISIT
Reverse motion, passing a beach ball as a Pilates ring in this COSMOBODY.COM AND USE THE
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ball from legs to hands to workout, but if you dont have either, OFF YOUR FIRST T H R E E M O N T H S .
complete one rep. Do 10. you can sub in a pillow.

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Kneel on right leg with
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arms overhead, squeez- SHORTS, ONeill,
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Do 10 reps, then switch SUNGLASSES, Raen,
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CHECK YOUR FORM

To get the most out of this
move, dont twist your
3 TONED FROM
HEAD TO TOE
Get in side-plank position,
shoulders or hips. Think with right hand under
of your body like a wind- right shoulder and left arm
shield wiper: up, down, extended toward sky, and
up, down, says Ho. hold a beach ball between
ankles. Squeeze legs
together, pulsing for
20 reps. Switch sides
to complete set.

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4 LENGTHEN
YOUR LEGS
Lie faceup with hands
Side planks are always
great for your abs and
arms, but thanks to the
behind head, knees bent, and beach ball, this move hits
legs turned out slightly, and the inner thighs too.
squeeze a beach ball between
feet, heels in, toes out. Curl up
shoulders and lift legs so that
shins are slightly higher than
parallel to the ground [A].
Extend legs [B]. Then return
to start. Do 15 reps.
B
ADD A SOUNDTRACK
Ho sets her moves to pop
music. Its like a dance
on the mat. Some playlist
faves are Style, by
Taylor Swift; Firestone,
by Kygo; and Stitches,
by Shawn Mendes.

A
S T Y L I S T: M AT T H E W P E R I D I S . H A I R : A A R O N L I G H T/ C E L E S T I N E A G E N C Y. M A K E U P :

B
C A R I S S A F E R R E R I / T R A C E Y M AT T I N G LY. M A N I C U R E : B A R B A R A W A R N E R F O R

5 WORK YOUR WAIST

Sit on ground with legs in
tabletop position, feet crossed,
and squeeze a beach ball
between hands in front of you.
With legs still, twist upper body
CHANEL LE VERNIS NAIL COLOR.

to the right [A]. Twist back to

center, extending arms and legs
to form a V [B]. Do 8 reps, then
switch sides to complete set.

MAKE IT EASIER Ho makes it

look simple, but boat pose (the
basis of this exercise) is hard. If
youre having trouble stabiliz-
ing as you twist, keep feet on
the ground instead.
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Mara. BODYSUIT,
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Between her Erghs, Holy
cow!s, and What the
heck?s, its hard to believe
that the woman nestled into
the corner booth of the West
Village NYC outpost of Sant
Ambroeus is the same per-
son who helped usher in a
new era of uncensored ladies
(see Girls and Broad City)
tackling ballsy topics (not to
mention balls). In fact, Sarah
Jessica Parker is so G-rated,
you damn near forget she
starred on the biggest show
about sex ever. But the dis-
tinction between SJP and her
character Carrie Bradshaw
is an important one, even if
Sex and the City diehards are
wont to forget it. Such was the
case earlier this week when
the blogosphere mistook an
Instagram from SJP as confir-
mation of a SATC three-quel.
The pic of the actress exiting
Bloomingdales captioned,
I guess the cats out of the
(little brown) bag.Keep you
posted on every detail as we
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are able was actually inti- neutral, and people really
mating the arrival of SJP,
her shoe line, to the retailers
shelves. Its a major milestone
for the newbie designer, who
launched the collection with
Manolo Blahnik CEO George
Malkemus last year. But more
than that, its a reminder that
she is not her. There is no
Sarah Jessica Parker in Car-
rie Bradshaws world, the
mother of three says, going
all meta, I dont exist. No
doubt her upcoming HBO
series, Divorce, will further
the divide between SJP and
CB. In it, she plays Frances, a
woman on the verge of a mar-
riage breakdown, who wears
the same purse the whole
show. Every single thing is
from Etsy, she says. In other
words, Frances is so not a
Carrie. Still, she is down with
her new characters fashion
game. Ive been on Etsy for
years! she exclaims. Its the
best. Thats right: Sarah Jes-
sica Parkerthe style icon
whose over-the-top Chinese-
inspired ensemble at the
Met Gala launched endless
memesshops on the crafty
behemoth that sells every-
thing from pizza earrings to
crochet vaginas. Onward, for
more SJP shockers.
ABOUT SATC 3 AND THAT
INSTAGRAM POST
SARAH JESSICA PARKER: Oh
my god. When I posted that
picture and people were in
a rage at me, I was shocked.
They were convinced I had
been taunting them. Im not
that clever! And to what end
would I relish dangling this
idea and then saying theres
no movie? Im still finding
people and being like, No
@BoobityBopBeep! Why
would I hurt you? Ive never
been a mean girl.
YOUVE ALWAYS BEEN A SHOE
LOVER. WHATS BEEN THE
HARDEST PART ABOUT BEING
ON THE DESIGN SIDE?
SJP: When we started, I
wanted to treat color as a
she were too warm, theyd say
dont want to do it. They say,
We love the shoein black tion to make the hard
and brown. But why would a
purple shoe make your brain
work less well than a black
pump? Its not your shoe
telling your story to your boss
or coworker, it is your brain.
If a purple pump isnt
appropriate for the office,
what you could say then is,
My brain isnt appropriate
SJ
AN
politicsthe way they dress
screams, I have no sex!
Women journalists on the
campaign trail have to dress
the least sexual they can be. I
dont think its fair because it
doesnt have anything to do
with why we want them on
our news every night or want
to elect them. I want to
know, who are you? If you
love wearing a court heel all
day long, that is thrilling.
Whats powerful is what
makes you feel your best
when you walk out the door.
WHATEVER MAKES YOU FEEL
LIKE YOURE IN COMMAND.
SJP: Exactly. For some, its a
Birkenstock. And yet were
still talking about Hillary
Clintonis she warm
enough? Do we know her?
Like, what? Im not even
saying whether Im
supporting her or not, Im
just like, This woman has
been serving in public office
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for years, and people are still
asking, is she warm enough?
Whats her hair? Of course if
she doesnt have the constitu-
choices. And Im not a femi-
nist by the way.Uh-oh.
WHY DO YOU SAY THAT?
SJP: As [playwright] Wendy
Wasserstein would say, Im a
humanist. Im enormously
appreciative of the work that
my mothers generation did.
We are the beneficiaries of a
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lot of disappointment,
heartache, discouragement,
and misunderstanding.
But I see a lot of people
trying to sort out their roles.
People of color, gays,
lesbians, and transgenders
who are carving out this
space. Im not spitting
in the face or being lazy
about what still needs to be
donebut I dont think
its just women anymore.
We would be so enormously
powerful if it were a
humanist movement.
WATCH BEHIND-THE-SCENES VIDEO FROM SJPS COVER SHOOT ON THE DIGITAL EDITION: MY.COSMOPOLITAN.COM.
HOW DID PLAYING CARRIE
AFFECT YOUR SEX LIFE?
SJP: I am ass-backward on
this topic, so to speak. Its
not one I ever talk about.
You can take pictures of me
day and night, photograph
my children, say what you
want about my marriage. I
cant stop you. But you cant
know anything about my
sexual being. Its the last was my headpiece cooking
thing that I am certain is
mine. By the same token, I
love that women feel
comfortable talking about it,
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asking questions, laughing
all of it. And I recognize
that part of that was because
four women sat around a
table and did that.
DID YOU SEE ANY OF YOUR
MET GALA LOOKS MEMES?
SJP: The one thing that I
saw, which was so amazing
my son showed it to me
Rihanna like an egg. Can I
tell you something though? I
never saw the headpiece as
flames. I never saw it!
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WHEN GETTING DRESSED, DO
YOU TRY TO PREDICT WHAT
THE REACTION WILL BE?
SJP: That would drive
me insane. But anytime I
do anything with Philip
[Treacy, the designer of the
headpiece], he gives me a
pep talk. Hes like, Listen
to me, darling. You want
your children to think youre
a freak. In 20 years, they
will know different. Hes
an extraordinary artist.
What he does isnt silly.
It takes months. He wrote
me recently and said, You
cant please three people,
let alone three billion.
YOURE PRETTY POLITICAL.
WHAT ARE THE MOST
PRESSING ISSUES FOR YOU?
SJP: Equality in pay. Paid
sick leave. The thing that
would change peoples lives
maybe more than anything,
assuming that we maintain
access to health care, is child
care. If I could guarantee
every mother who is working
two, three jobs that she had
good child care that didnt
make her anxious all day
people would probably work
in more efficient ways. How
many times do you hear a
wealthy person get asked,
How do you do it all? If Im
asked that question one
more time...Im like, are you
kidding me? Ask someone
who looks like shes about to
drop, How are you doing?
How are you managing?
ANY ADVICE ON SURVIVING
YOUR 20S?
SJP: Have heartbreak after
heartbreak. I think
theres a part of us that
loves it. Its why we love a
romantic movie that is
painful. I think women
know theyll survive.
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 HOTTES
THE
Not since Rent
has a Broadway
musical so
unexpectedly rocked
audiences to their
core. Hamilton, a
hip-hopera based
onwait for it
the life of founding
father Alexander
Hamilton, is the
theater worlds latest
must-see show.

The likes of SJP,

Michelle Obama,
and Jimmy Fallon
have already seen
it, loved it, and
OGRA
PHED
BY tweeted the hell
PHOT
n out of it. Now, the
Ma r t i
o e l le r cast invites you to
Sch
join the revolution.
BY S ERG I O K LE T N OY
A N D R ACH EL M OS ELY
 IN TOWN
ICKET

HAMILTON STARS
LIN-MANUEL
MIRANDA AND
LESLIE ODOM JR.
 For a founding father, Alexander Hamilton
was a bit of a badass: Dude is born into poverty, becomes fabled revolution-
ary, dies by duel. Lin-Manuel Miranda, Tony-winning writer and star of
Broadway smash In the Heights, thought so too. So he did what anyone
wait, make that no onewould think to do: bring the story to the stage via a
hip-hop/R&B musical that has Hamilton (Miranda) spitting verses like We
are meant to be a colony that runs independently / Meanwhile, Britain
keeps on shitting on us endlessly and rap battling Thomas Jefferson. Cue
the rave reviews and sold-out crowds. Fast-forward six months: The show
has moved from NYCs Public Theater to Broadways big leagues. Here,
Hamiltons cast members hit the streets and share their own stories.
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(From left)
CHRISTOPHER
JACKSON
PLAYS: George Washington
HOMETOWN: Cairo, IL
YOU MIGHT KNOW HIM FROM: Broad-
ways Holler If Ya Hear Me
DREAM ROLE: Its always the
one Im playing. Its hard for me
to look at shows out there and
see myself in them. Im an R&B
singerIm not going to get cast
in Les Miz. Whats great about
this show is its an amalgamation
of all these awesome and impor-
tant genres of music in a voice
that I like to perform with.
GO-TO KARAOKE SONG: Probably
Livin On a Prayer. Jon Bon Jovi
actually came to the show with
his wife, so getting to meet
him was pretty dope.
JASMINE
CEPHAS JONES
PLAYS: Peggy Schuyler/
Maria Reynolds
HOMETOWN: Brooklyn, NY
YOU MIGHT KNOW HER FROM: 2013
indie Titus
FIRST ROLE: My rst professional
role was a Noah Baumbach lm
called Mistress Americaits
actually premiering this summer,
around the same time Hamilton
opens [on Broadway].
TYPICAL DAY OFF: Im in bed for
half the day. Im not even gonna
lie. Im sleeping, and if Im not
sleeping, Im trying to nally
nish Breaking Bad.
RENE ELISE
GOLDSBERRY
PLAYS: Angelica Schuyler
HOMETOWN: San Jose, CA
YOU MIGHT KNOW HER FROM:
The Good Wife
IF I WERENT AN ACTOR, ID BE
I used to think that Id be a
lawyer, but Im married to a law-
yer. The Lord knew what he was
doing when he just let me play
one on TV.
POST-SHOW RITUAL: Were all
still singing and jamming to the
songs all the way downstairs to
the dressing rooms. No matter
how tired we are when we start
the show, theres such a high
after its over.
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PHILLIPA SOO
PLAYS: Eliza Hamilton
HOMETOWN: Libertyville, IL
YOU MIGHT KNOW HER FROM:
NBCs Smash
POST-SHOW RITUAL: I go home
and Im usually starving, so I have
to try not to eat a whole bag of
chipsbecause I really could. But
popcorn is my jam. I really season
it up and make it fancy.
TYPICAL DAY OFF: Lately, Ive been
watching Game of Thrones. I just
started it, and I was like, How did
I not get on this train? Oh, right
its because I never have time off.
LIN-MANUEL
MIRANDA
PLAYS: Alexander Hamilton
HOMETOWN: New York, NY
YOU MIGHT KNOW HIM FROM: Broad-
ways In the Heights
ON HOW THIS CRAZY IDEA CAME TO HIM:
I wasnt a history buffnot even a
littlebut I was always an English
nerd. I picked up Ron Chernows
biography of Hamilton randomly at
Borders. I knew he died in a duel,
so itd have a cool ending. And I
just fell in love with his story.
CONFESSION: Hillary Clinton came
to see In the Heights in 2009. I
used to walk around in my under-
wear backstage between shows,
and I come out of my dressing
room and theres Hillary with three
Secret Service guys because she
needed to use the bathroom. She
said, Shows great! and I ran
inside to put some clothes on.
LESLIE ODOM JR.
PLAYS: Aaron Burr
HOMETOWN: Philadelphia, PA
YOU MIGHT KNOW HIM FROM:
NBCs Smash
POST-SHOW RITUAL: Lin and I made
up a stupid song that we sing at
the top of our lungs as we leave the
stage. Then we have a shot of rum
in the dressing room, and Ill grab a
dollar slice on my way home.
IF I WERENT AN ACTOR, ID BE
I wish I could say that I would
be feeding the hungry or
something. But Ive always liked
to throw parties, so Id be a world-
renowned DJ who gets flown all
over the place for parties on
yachts and in underground clubs.
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DAVEED DIGGS
PLAYS: Thomas Jefferson/
Marquis de Lafayette
HOMETOWN: Oakland, CA
YOU MIGHT KNOW HIM FROM: His
hip-hop album, Small Things to
a Giant
IF I WERENT AN ACTOR, ID BE
I canceled a summers worth of
touring as a rapper to do Hamil-
ton. Thats my other jobI just
switched roles.
ON HIS BIGGEST FAN: My mom
sends me the reviews before Ive
seen them. She texted me con-
gratulating me about the show
going to Broadway while we were
still waiting for the announce-
ment. She found out before I did!
I dont know how she does it.
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OKIERIETE
ONAODOWAN
PLAYS: Hercules Mulligan /
James Madison
HOMETOWN: Newark, NJ
YOU MIGHT KNOW HIM FROM: Broad-
ways Rocky
FIRST ROLE: In seventh grade,
I played one of the bodyguards in
Bye Bye Birdie. We didnt have
any lineswe just stood there,
and whenever someone would
say something, wed give them
dirty looks. But I was just excited
to have a leather jacket.
PERFECT DAY OFF: As crazy as it
sounds, sitting on my couch, play-
ing Xbox, and eating ice cream
ideally with the windows closed.
ANTHONY RAMOS
PLAYS: John Laurens/
Phillip Hamilton
HOMETOWN: Brooklyn, NY
YOU MIGHT KNOW HIM FROM: This
American Lifes 21 Chump
Street: The Musical
POST-SHOW RITUAL: Dude, I eat
way too much McDonalds after
shows. I mean, Ive been get-
ting better. Now Ill try to get a
sandwich.
GO-TO KARAOKE SONG: Journeys
Dont Stop Believin. Its for
when youre obliteratedly wasted
and youre like, Im just going
to try the highest note I can
possibly sing in my life.
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HOMETOWN: Lancaster, PA YOU MIGHT KNOW HIM FROM: Glee, Frozen (voice of Kristoff)
FIRST ROLE: I was Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz in my dads barn. I was a drag Dorothy.
DREAM COSTAR: Id love to do a play with Cate Blanchett. I saw her in A Streetcar Named
Desire, and its my favorite performance ever.
CONFESSION: I was on a first date, maybe a year and a half ago. We ate dinner, then he
came back to my apartment, and I dont smoke, but he smoked a cigarette. We were
making out, and hes smoking. So I took a cigarette and also smoked it, and then five
minutes later, I projectile vomited because I got so nauseous from smoking. Thats
probably the most embarrassing thing thats ever happened.
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Hand
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I KNOW WHAT YOURE
THINKING: OH, I LEFT THAT
BUSINESS BACK IN HIGH
SCHOOL. WELL, I DIDNT
AND THERES A GOOD
REASON YOU SHOULDNT
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EITHER. LET ME EXPLAIN.

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 I know,
I know.
HANDIES SEEM THE DOMAIN OF TEENAGE VIRGINITY
PLEDGES AND RESENTFUL AGING HOUSEWIVES
something akin to either
This doesnt count or
Honey, I have a headache.
Maybe you think of it as that
thing you do when you forget
to take your birth control and
dont feel like giving a BJ.
Worse, perhaps you write it
off as pass. I recently
brought up hand jobs to a
friend, and her response was
People still do that?
Yes, they still do that! I still
do itand you know what?
My marriage and my sex life
are way better for it.
Believe me: I wasnt always
down with the HJ. In my
early 20s, I was so scared of
coming off as prudish that
I would skip over fondling
entirely. By the time my
husband, Christopher, and
I got together, I had spent
too many years trying too
hard to seem adventurous in
bed. You knowthe back-
busting porn moves, the
strained dirty talk. I decided
that with him, there would be
no more performing. I wanted
to get back to the basics of
sex, and whats more basic
than hand-to-gland combat?
It started as tantaliz-
ing foreplay, a way of teas-
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ing: This is all you get for
now, mister. With him lying
in bed, I would kneel at his
side, kissing his chest while
fondling him, or Id crouch
between his feet, looking up
at his erection like a tour-
ist awed by the Empire State
Building (what guy doesnt
want you looking at his junk
like an incomprehensible tri-
umph of human engineer-
ing?). This playful approach
let me experiment with dif-
ferent touches without feel-
ing like I was fumbling my
way through the worlds most
inefficient wank.
Eventually, I learned the
grip, rhythm, and motion
that makes him shudder
with pleasure. In the morn-
ings before work, when were
too rushed for the foreplay
required for a nice mutual
sexin, hell ask with a smirk,
What about an HJ? My
response is pretty much
always an enthusiastic Yeah,
baby. Thats because I get at
least as much out of it as he
does (and not just because he
returns the favor later with
fingers or oral). Ive never felt
so in control as when giv-
ing an expert, teasing handy.
Occasionally, it gets me so
turned on that Im jumping on
top of him, work be damned.
For us, instead of serv-
ing as a replacement for bon-
ing, it leads to more sex by
keeping us more connected
throughout the week. This
way, we never get a chance
to become distant from each
other in that way that always
spells the death of sex. Plus,
its a miracle cure for any
relationship where the man
has a higher sex drive than
the woman. Im always in the
mood for a hand job, but Im
not always in the mood for
sexand hes always in the
mood for whatever he can get.
But thats just my side of
the story. I asked him why he
likes our hand-job routine.
His response? My dick has
never felt so loved.
WE NEVER GET A CHANCE
T O B E C O M E D I S TA N T
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F R O M E A C H O T H E R I N T H AT
WAY T H AT S P E L L S T H E
D E AT H O F S E X .
Master
the HJ

1. Watch Him Do It
What better way to
gure out what he likes
than to watch him
touch himself? After all,
the guys probably
been doing it at least
once a day ever since
he sprouted his rst
pube, so let his
expertise guide you.

2. Ask Questions
No one is born a
virtuoso at playing the
peen. The only way
you get there is by
putting your ego aside
and daring to ask him
questions. Does
this feel good? More
pressure? Faster?

3. Dont Be
Scared to Start
While Hes Soft
When you rst start
out, treat it like an
experimentthis is
about you getting
familiar with his body
and the way it responds
to your touch. Say,
The point here isnt to
get you hard, okay?
Im just having fun.
Let me tell you, that is
one effective bit of
reverse psychology.

4. Never Forget
the Lube
Giving a hand job sans
lube is like shaving your
legs drynever do it! I
like Liquid Silk: creamy
without the stickiness
of other lubes.

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 I STOOD IN the snow,
shivering, pissed off,
deciding if I should keep
waiting for my date to show
up. If a normal guy had
stood me up for an hour
without a call, I would have
gone home and watched
Project Runway. But Tyler
(not his real name) wasnt
just some guy. He was a god.
He was an actual male
model! Or, at least, an actor
in some small films whod
dabbled in modeling. Either
I Slept way, he was by far the most
gorgeous man who had ever
gone out with me. Assuming
he showed up. Im a New
With
York 6, maybe a 7 back in
Ohio. I kind of look like
Julianne Moore after shes
had a big lunch or 10. Ive
gone out with my share of
a Male cute boys, but Tyler was
different. He was hot. Sexy.
Wed met the week prior on
the set of a film we were both
Model,
acting in, and hed asked me
to get a drink with him. I
couldnt believe it. I vowed in
that moment that I would
get him in bed. I didnt think
and I had a shot at really dating
him, but for one night, I
could live like a legend. I
wanted a story I couldnt tell
Heres
my grandkids about.
Suddenly, I felt a tap. I
turned around, and there he
washis hair perfectly
mussed, his sharp jawline
What I covered with stubble. He
looked like the love child of
Justin Timberlake and Jude
Lawthe kind of guy youd
Learned
write a vampire novel about.
Sorry Im late, he said.
The subway took forever.
No worries, I just got
here a minute ago myself!
The snow is crazy! I said,
CAN YOU ELEVATE blushing. I decided to
YOUR SELF-ESTEEM forgive his latenessafter
BY SLEEPING WITH all, I was the one who chose
SOMEONE WAY OUT OF to meet at a statue outside
YOUR LEAGUE? instead of a bar.
Tyler brushed some snow
BY CHEL SE A DAVISON
from my face and told me
166
some of his friends were at a
bar nearby. I didnt love the
idea of sharing him on our
date, but I planned on
getting him alone later in
the night, so it was cool. We
walked down the street
hand in hand. I prayed that
a friend, an acquaintance,
or especially an ex would
walk by and see us together.
If a 10 was interested in me,
then I couldnt be a 6, right?
Or at the very least, it made
me a 6 with the coolest
personality in the world!
When we got to the bar, we
found about eight of his
model friends, mostly
women, lounging on a couch
in the back. I felt like Alice
in Calvin Kleinland. I
introduced myself and
pulled up a chair as he
headed to the bar to get
drinks for some friends.
However, it turned out that
didnt include getting one
for me. I told myself it was
presumptuous to expect the
guy who kept me waiting for
an hour in the snow to buy
me a drink. Right?
An hour later, as I half-
listened to a friend of his
recounting some designer
drama, I realized Tyler had
walked off. I excused myself
and searched him out in the
crowded room. Finally, my
eyes found his jacket in the
back, with his arm around
one of his (female) model
friends. As I made my way
over, they startedmaking
out. My face burned with
jealousy and rage. I couldnt
believe he would be so rude.
I wanted to hurl my drink in
his beautiful, stupid face!
Instead, I stood there,
watching. I couldnt help but
notice how much better-
looking this girl was than I
am. My anger turned to
embarrassment. What did I
expect? I knew he was out of
my league. It was foolish of
me to expect him to treat

me like I was on his level. I
should be grateful to be
chosen as his date at all.
Plus, Id already suffered in
the snow, so I might as well
just finish my conquest.
When I bragged to my
friends, I could just leave
out this part of the story!
When he came back over
to our couch, I pretended
not to have noticed he was
gone. His friends began
trickling out, and I
suggested we head to his
place. He smiled, and I
swooned again. Finally, the
date seemed to be picking
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up. He caught me when I
almost slipped, he snuck a
kiss as we waited for the
train, and we started
actually sharing
information about
ourselves.
So, Im originally from
Boston. What about you?
he asked.
If a 10 was interested in me, then I
couldnt be a 6, right? Or at the
very least, it made me a 6 with the
coolest personality in the world!
Cleveland! And no, I
dont know Drew Carey.
Ha, your sports teams
are, like, allergic to winning!
I laughed. Yeah, we
suck. But at least we dont
have Bostons fans!
His face went to stone.
You should shut up about
things you dont know
anything about! he snarled.
I tried to apologize, but
he pulled away. Just shut
the fuck up! I did, because I
didnt know how to respond.
Why was I still there?
Somehow, having sex with
this man was my
redemption. The proof that
the guys in high school had
made a mistake. The proof
that I could be sexy and
wanted, even with an extra
15 pounds. The proof that
the voice in my head saying
youre nothing was wrong.
He motioned when it was
his stop, and I asked if he
still wanted me to come. He
said, I guess, so I followed.
Its not like wed have to talk
during sex. Yes, he was an
asshole, but it was going to
be worth it!
We got upstairs and shed
our clothes. The electricity
Id felt when we first met
was back, and for a moment,
I felt like Id made the right
choice by following through
with my plan. I was about to
have incredible sex with this
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Adonis. Ornot. There was
no foreplay, no seduction
he just stuck it in like he was
charging a cell phone. The
whole thing was over in
minutes. Id expected to feel
validated, like a champion,
a sex goddess. Now I just felt
stupid. He snored next to
me as I stared at the ceiling.
Suddenly, the sight of his
well-sculpted body was the
last thing I wanted to see.
I snuck out once the sun
was up without saying a
word. When I got home, I
didnt text my girlfriends
like I plannedI just
wanted to forget the night
ever happened. Not only
had I acted like a doormat
and slept with a guy who
treated me like garbage, Id
deserved it. Using a
beautiful man for sex didnt
bolster my clearly low self-
esteem, it just made me feel
cheap and stupid. Tyler
texted me later that day:
LOL did u leave? and I saw
him again a few days later to
finish shooting the film.
There was another actress
on-set that day. Between
takes, she asked how Tyler
and I knew each otherwe
both said we didnt. Even
though I regretted the
night, it was a wake-up call
that I needed to start
respecting myself. Casual
sex can be great, assuming
the guy doesnt treat you like
human garbage. Sure, that
may mean dating guys who
are a little more dough than
meat or spending some
nights at home, but at least
the models on Project
Runway wont leave you
feeling pathetic.
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OVE&
WITH MORE WOMEN
USING THAN EVER,
ITS HIGH TIME FOR
A CLOSER LOOK
AT HOW A FAVORITE
ILLICIT PASTIME
SMOKING MARIJUANA,
IS AFFECTING
OUR DATING AND
SEX LIVES.
BY MOLLY OSWAKS
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ARE OF PROFES-
SIONAL MODELS
AND USED FOR
ILLUSTRATIVE
PURPOSES ONLY.
 NOW THAT 23 STATES AND DC
HAVE LEGALIZED WEED, 4 OF
THEM FOR RECREATIONAL USE
AS WELL AS MEDICAL, THE
DEBATE ABOUT WHETHER IT
ENHANCESOR RUINSSEX
AND RELATIONSHIPS IS RAGING
HOTTER THAN EVER. CAN A
COUPLE SURVIVE WHEN ONLY
ONE IS A POTHEAD? DOES
WEED MAKE SEX MIND-BLOW-
ING OR FORGETTABLE? HERE,
EIGHT READERS LIGHT UP THE
HIGHS AND LOWS OF DATING IN
THE STONED AGE.
THE PRODUCTIVE POTHEAD
My boyfriend and I both smoke weed, and thats
just a part of our lives. Just like I do yoga and he
rides bikes, its just another thing. We buy weed
together. He packs bowls for mehes the orga-
nizer of all the weed stuff, and I just smoke it. My
boyfriend is an engineer for a tech start-up, and
I run my own business as a web designer. We
both attribute the amount of weed we smoke
we light up almost every dayto the fact that our
jobs are so highly technical. It helps us turn our
brains off from that mode. If youre a functional
pothead, you dont have to think twice about it.
EMILY, 28, WEB DESIGNER, SAN FRANCISCO, CA
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WHERE
smoke withat home, at night, or on weekends IS WEED for medical and medical use only:
during the day. When we have sex after smoking, L E G A L? recreational use: ARIZONA, CALIFORNIA, CONNECTICUT,
theres definitely more of an observational qual- DELAWARE, HAWAII, ILLINOIS, MAINE,
ALASKA, COLORADO,
ity to it. Im kind of outside myself, observing, OREGON, AND WASHINGTON MARYLAND, MASSACHUSETTS, MICHIGAN,
instead of in it and in my head. A kind of cool (PLUS THE DISTRICT OF MINNESOTA, MONTANA, NEVADA, NEW
COLUMBIA) HAMPSHIRE, NEW JERSEY, NEW YORK,
detachment happens. And afterward, I feel like NEW MEXICO, RHODE ISLAND,
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happened or something that I liked. Alcohol MORE YOUNG are like, Oh my god, this is the coolest girl ever.
for me is definitely a depressive experience. WO M E N I want to marry her.
BRIANNE, 28, DIRECTOR OF MARKETING FOR A VAPORIZER COM-
I used to have so much fun when I drank, and H AV E B E E N
PANY, NASHVILLE, TN
now its just not that fun anymore. When I LIGHTING UP
smoke, I like who I am a little bit more, and OV E R
Im able to express myself better. THE L AST THE STONER BUDDY
KRISTIN, 29, START-UP FOUNDER, NYC DECADE I love my boyfriend so much, but when he is
stoned, he becomes a different person. Hes

THE THIRD WHEEL
I was dating this guy who was otherwise very
sweet and wonderful, but there was an addiction
issue. He couldnt go to parties without know-
ing at what point in the night hed get to go back
to his place, or go somewhere else, and smoke.
The only way he could get out of bed or get ready
for the day (he was in school at the time) was to
smoke. It was embarrassing to have to explain to
friends. Theres a difference between the casual
stoner who prefers smoking to drinking and the
guy who cant have normal social behavior. It got SOURCE: NATIONAL SURVEY ON DRUG USE AND
HEALTH BY THE SUBSTANCE ABUSE AND MENTAL
to a point where I just became so frustrated
with the inconvenience. It really doesnt work for
me to be out at a restaurant or have plans to go
see a play later and for him to say I cant because
I have to go smoke. That necessity was totally
disruptive. It was like having a third person in
the relationship. I broke it off.
LEE, 24, FUND-RAISER, BOSTON, MA
THE MEDICAL MARVEL
Depression has run in my family for genera-
tions. I started going to therapy for it in sixth
through the surveys and
grade. Ive tried every antidepressant under
the sun, and nothing ever really worked for me.
But I keep taking them just to keep it in check.
Now Im taking Celexa. In college, I had no sex
drive whatsoever. I bounced around on differ-
ent medications to try to fix that, and nothing
really helped until I tried smoking. Now, I am
an everyday weed smoker, and I do think it helps
my depressionand my relationship with my
boyfriend. When I smoke, I get very relaxed and
super horny. Im like a ravenous frat boy. I had of cannabis on people.
a boyfriend with a very low sex drive, and it was
too much for him. It was always a point of con-
tention. But my current boyfriend loves it!
MEGHAN, 29, JOURNALIST, NYC
THE INDUSTRY INSIDER
My boyfriend is super supportive of me being in
this industry, working for a vaporizer company.
Hes a musician, and cannabis and music often
go hand in hand. Hes totally supportive and
Across the board we see
actually very helpful. All his friends come over
and try the vaporizers, giving real-time feed-
back. The way dating is today, the girl can be the
aggressive one, going after the guy. A bunch of
my friends dont use cannabis, and theyre like, but as you increase the
How do you do that? And Im like, You just
invite them over to hit the vape. Then the guys
30
%
2013
28
2009
%
23%
2004
PERCENT OF WOMEN
AGES 18 TO 25 WHO SAID
THEY USED MARIJUANA
IN THE PAST 30 DAYS
HEALTH SERVICES ADMINISTRATION
BURNING
QUESTION
DOES WEED
MAKE SEX
BETTER?
A. If you look
clinical studies, both
men and women
consistently report that
cannabis acts as an
aphrodisiac, says
Ziva Cooper, PhD,
an assistant professor
at Columbia University
Medical Center
who studies the effects
There are even strains
marketed directly
to women for a
pleasure-enhancing
high. Women report
it may decrease
some of the pain
involved with sex.
In males, however, too
much can decrease
sexual performance.
a dose-dependent
relationship. At lower
doses you may have
positive effects,
dose, there might
be negative ones.
totally out of it and quiet, and his breath and
saliva taste really different and not appealing.
He has this one friend hes always smoking weed
with, and I think thats also what bums me out
most. The fact that when he gets with this one
friend, its all about doing drugs. I just feel like
when you get into real lifeaka after college
its important not to have your social activities
revolve around drugs, no matter how innocuous
they seem.
EMILY, 26, WRITERS ASSISTANT, LOS ANGELES, CA
THE DATING DILEMMA
I seem to gravitate toward a certain type. They
are always creative and very passionate about
what they do, but they also happen to be very
big pot smokers. Its like they need pot to enrich
their creative selves. They become so dependent
on smoking all the time that you dont know if
you like the person better stoned or not stoned.
It gets to the point where it is confusing what
their true nature is. With one guy I dated, smok-
ing was so much of who he was, I never really
knew when he was and wasnt high, what was
his pure nature and what was his stoned nature.
I think I liked him better highhe was less edgy.
But I would question myself. Is it bad that I like
his altered version more? Pot can definitely
make it hard to connect, especially when youre
first getting to know someone.
JILLIAN, 25, GRAPHIC DESIGNER, NYC
THE COLORADO QUITTER
I am more likely to have drinks on a date than
smoke weed. Even though weed is legal in Colo-
rado, you cant smoke in restaurants or some
other public places, so it usually happens at
someones house. My friends always said hav-
ing sex while high on weed was so good that you
shouldnt do it, because you wouldnt enjoy sober
sex as much. They were rightwhen I tried it, it
was awesome. High sex makes your mind and
body more sensitive to pleasure, and in compari-
son to drunk sex, its lessaggressive? You dont
remember the act of it as much as the feeling
because you are in another state of mind. I had
a bad experience with weed a couple of months
ago where I fainted, so I stopped smoking. Even
though I liked high sex, I think its more impor-
tant to enjoy sex with your partner sober because
youre more focused on each others needs, rather
than just being horny because youre high.
CHRISTINA, 22, MARKETING STUDENT, BOULDER, CO
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THE
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THINGS
THAT TURN
MEN ON
You never knew a
messy bun could do
it for him, did you?
BY KELLY GONSALVES
AND EMILY C. JOHNSON

I love a girl in a turtle-

neck and pants. Its
more mysterious.
Youre left wondering,
whats under there?
ZACHARY W., 26

On the rare occasion

that I go to temple, I
immediately notice
any girl who sings. It is
bold and so sexy.
DAVID S., 27

Frizzy hair. It means

shes a woman who
gets ready fast.
MELVIN S., 29
When a girl
I really like the way normally wears
girls look in the morn- contacts and then one
ing when they have day busts out her
sleepy eyes. Theres glasses, its like
something adorable Im with this whole
about how unguarded other side of her.
it is. JEREMY H., 28
CHAD B., 20

B E C AU S E The The The

H E S A P P -Y 3-Second Fingertip Lurker
Snapper Artiste He sends
DECODE His semi-
nude bod
He wants
you to
absolutely
nothing,

HIS says Cant

stop thinking
about you,
know hes,
like, super
creative.
but hes
seen
all your
SNAPCHAT but the
meager
But he
does score
Stories.
A little
Quick! Score 3-second points for creepy.
some insight from timer to view relying on But know
it says more than that
his snaps before ...and also just a hot theres no
they self-destruct. the seven sele to question
BY GREG DORRIS other girls Id impress that hes
like to bone. you. into you.

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 N O T- S O - D I F F E R E N T S T R O K E S

WHAT HE
ACTUALLY
WANTS IN BED
Rethink that wham-bam BS.
T H E HU S S T L E His wish list looks like...yours.
BY EMILY C. JOHNSON
3 PHRASES THAT
MAKE YOU HIS GF 10%
BJ BIAS

NOT HIS HOOKUP OF GUYS

WANT TO
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business. Dating expert (OVER ANY
Matthew Hussey sends help. OTHER TYPE
OF SEXUAL
ACTIVITY).
HES BRISTLING AT THE DTR
TALK... I could give AF about 18%
labels, but I need to know what OF WOMEN
to say to guys who ask me out. WANT TO
REACH AN O
WHY IT WORKS: A hint of compe- VIA ORAL SEX
(OVER ANY
tition goes a long way with guys. OTHER TYPE
Reminding him he could lose you OF SEXUAL
could be the kick in the ass he ACTIVITY).
needs to see how good he has it.

HE CANT DECIDE WHAT HE

WANTS... Thats okay. But if MAKING LURVE
we dont know what we are next MAT TERS
month, lets just stay friends. 92%
WHY IT WORKS: Youre relaxed 88% OF WOMEN
OF GUYS WANT THAT
and not judge-y but willing to end WANT TOO. HARD
things sans progress. Taking con- TO HAVE PROOF THAT
trol is hot, and the idea that youd ROMANTIC MEN HAVE
FEELINGS ALMOST AS
downgrade him to friend? Ouch. TOWARD A MUCH OF A
PARTNER SOUL AS WE
THEYRE NOT DO!
HE PULLS THE I DONT WANT THAT HOT
A RELATIONSHIP CARD... Im FOR CASUAL
not asking for a ring. I just HOOKUPS.
FOR MORE OF
wanted to see where things go. MATTHEWS SECRETS
ON DATING AND
WHY IT WORKS: Script flipped
RELATIONSHIPS, VISIT
now hes the drama queen. Spend HOWTOGETTHEGUY
less time with him. If he wont .COM.
invest in you, hes not worthy. FOREPL AY THAT
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 Q / I woke up in the
LOVE middle of the night
ADVICE FROM and heard my boy-
friend masturbat-
OUR GUY ing on the other side
GURU, LOGAN of the bed. Couldnt
HILL he wait until morn-
ing or at least go Q / Im trying Q/ M Y B OY F R I E N D A N D I A R E C O N -
into the bathroom? (and failing) to
Im offended seduce my BF. Hes T E M P L AT I N G A T H R E E S O M E . W E
should I be? always too tired. T H I N K I T WO U L D B E S U P E R H O T, B U T
A Your BF made a Should I just buy W I L L O P E N I N G O U R R E L AT I O N S H I P
boneheaded decision a vibrator and CH A NGE THINGS FORE V ER?
with his boner, not his get over myself?
brain. But offensive? I A By all means, buy a A People who say threesomes are
think he was just lazy. vibrator and get off. gateways to adultery are basically like
Still, he needs to know But intimacy matters. people who say that youll become a
it bothered you and If you pretend you drug addict if you smoke one joint. Just
turned you off. Tell dont need sex, that
because you have anal sex one night
him you get that hes dishonesty will push
going to masturbate you apart. Tell him
doesnt mean its going to become all butt
but to take his self- what you need. And play, all the time. If you both think a
love elsewhere next when you buy that threesome is hot, by all means, try a trio.
time. Or better, have vibrator, show him Whether its a onetime thing or the first of
the balls to ask you to how to use it. many mnages, what comes next is
play with his balls. up to both of you to talk about.

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 Q / I WENT HOME Q / My boyfriend
quit his job to
WITH A GUY, AND
become a stand-up
WE STARTED comic. Slight prob-
HOOKING UP. HE lem: Hes awful. I
WANTED TO HAVE
dont have the
heart to tell him,
SEX , AND WHEN I but Im scared we
DIDNT, HE GOT wont be able to
FRUSTRATED AND cover the bills in a
ASKED WHY I WAS
few months. Help!
THERE. DOES A You dont need to tell
GOING HOME him hes no Aziz
Ansari. Hell figure it
WITH A GUY
out when, instead of
AUTOMATICALLY
killing, hes crushed by
MEAN HE EXPECTS the sound of silence.
YOU TO SLEEP Make it clear youll
WITH HIM? support his dream as
long as it doesnt mean
A A man should supporting him finan-
never automati- cially. Since he already
cally expect sex. quit his job, go to his
Even if youre naked open-mic nights and
cheer him on for a
in his bed, you dont
while, but tell him that
owe him anything. not being able to pay
But if you go home the cable bill would be
with guys and sex seriously unfunny. If
doesnt happen, he needs an extra
they might get dis- nudge to get a part-
appointed. Just tell time job, tell him a
him his hissy fit con- knock-knock joke.
firmed your deci- Whos there?
sionthen GTFO. Monster.com!

Q / My hookup gets
random texts at
2 a.m. when Im
sleeping over. Im
TRI ANYTHING dying to know if
ONCE, RIGHT? theyre from
another girl. How
can I find out with-
Q / A good guy
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L O G A N P H O T O G R A P H E D B Y J A K E C H E S S U M . FA S H I O N S T Y L I S T: A D A M

M Y S T E R Y. D O A L L G U Y S R E A L LY F I T A His friends might

sleeping overbut
just to cuddle. He I N T O T H E B U T T- M E N V S . B O O B - M E N occasionally text him
doesnt try to kiss CAMPS? late-nightbut if this
me. Does he like is a regular thing, we
me or not? A No. It isnt like being a Yankees or a Red both know the texts
A That sounds sweet Sox fan, where you choose one and stick to are from women who
and boring. He prob- it for life. Most guys root for both T and A. want to bone him.
ably wants you, but Or they mix it up. A guy might obsess over That said, hes not
hes shy or worried your boyfriend, hes
T, then worship that A, and refocus on the
about messing with your hookup. If you
your friendship. If
T again. The bottom (and top) line: Guys
want to be exclusive,
you like him, youre are diehard fans of womens bodies. have a convo about
going to have to kiss your relationship, not
him first. Otherwise, VS. whos booty-texting
you might be stuck him. As long as youre Hill is a contributing
with a human pillow just FWBs, its really writer for Cosmopolitan
and Cosmopolitan.com.
forever. his business.

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 THE
SEX
WE
TALK
ABOUT
TALKING ABOUT SEX WITH
YOUR GIRLFRIENDS IS
ONE OF LIFES SIMPLE
PLEASURES. SO WHY DOES
IT HAVE TO STOP WHEN
EVERYONE FALLS IN LOVE
AND SETTLES DOWN?
BY MICHELLE RUIZ

WHEN YOURE SINGLE AND

hooking up, talking about
sex with your friends is as
free-flowing as a fresh
pitcher of bellinis at brunch.
He has a micropenis. He
has an anaconda in his
shorts. He cant get it up.
He cant keep it up. Hes
amazing at oral. He
slobbers like a Saint Bernard
during oral. Good, bad, hot,
hilarious, and everywhere in
between, if it happened to
one of your main bitches in
bed last night, theres no
such thing as TMI.
P E T E R R O S A / T H E L I C E N S I N G P R O J E C T. C O M

That is, until you all start

falling in love.
Notice how the sex talk
mysteriously starts to dwin-
dle when your group starts
getting serious with boy-
friends or girlfriends? Once
youre in a relationship, the
carnal conversation splits.
Theres the sex you talk about
and the sex you dont.
When youre hooking

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up, talking to your girl-
friends is an opportunity to
explore and be curious and
get a sense of whats nor-
mal, says Megan Fleming,
PhD, a clinical psycholo-
gist, certified sex therapist,
and instructor at Cornell
University. Theres a big
difference when, all of a
sudden, youre honoring
a more serious relation-
ship. Demonstrating the
45-degree crooked angle of
his wang with your index
finger, for example, tends
to lose its sparkle once
that wang belongs to your
fianc.
Talking about an S.O.s
sex game, right down to
the thrust, can be socially
awkward too. Your friends
meet him, partake in Sun-
day Fundays with him, and
become friends with him.
It crosses your mind that
Fuck, Im bringing him to
her wedding. I cant tell her
about his weird balls, adds
Annie, 28.
Talking about your rela-
tionship sex can even feel
like betrayalespecially if
its a complaint. When she
was single and playing the
field, June, 33, provided
detailed reports of her
hookups to her friends. She
remembers imitating to
her former roommate an
odd, teeth-gritting face one
guy made when she got on
top. But once she started
seriously dating her now-
husband eight years ago,
she stopped confiding to
even her best friends about
their sex life.
When you get into a
relationship, you start to
see yourselves as a unit,
and youre fiercely protec-
tive of that unit, she says.
Even if he does something
weird in bed, you tend
to keep those details closer
to the vest.
When the sex talk fades
away, sometimes that safe,
girlfriends-only space for
getting advice about sex
fades away too. And by
silently carrying the weight
of that weird thing he did
or didnt do enough of relationship, deep down I
youre perpetuating the was low-level worried that
idea that relationship sex
is always wonderful and
that people dont talk about
it when its not, says Kris- a dinner table of close
ten Mark, PhD, an assis-
tant professor and director
of the Sexual Health
Promotion Lab at the Uni-
versity of Kentucky. Most
relationships have their
sexual ups and downs.
But when no one else is
talking about that, you
think, Oh my gosh, I must
be alone in this.
Im definitely more
likely to tell my best friend
that my boyfriend and I
had a rocking good time
on vacation, if ya know
what I mean, than to tell
her about those ruts where
we dont have sex for three
weeks because were both
stressed out and tired, says
Nicole, 33.
Opening (back) up to
your friends about your sex
life could not only demys-
LOVE LUST
tify relationship sex, says
certified sex therapist
Nan Wise, PhD, an assis-
tant research professor at
Rutgers University, but
if people were more open
and authentic about their
sexuality in their friend-
ships, they would feel much
better about their sexual-
ity with their partners.
Verbalizing to your friends
whats bugging you could
help you sort out your feel-
ings and better express
them to your partner.
Talking about relation-
ship sex to your friends
can be respectful, she says,
especially if youre asking
for advice or support, as
opposed to bashing your
partneror his balls.
Annie had followed her
friends lead and stopped
talking to them about
sex with her serious boy-
friend. But a year into the
we werent having enough
sex, she says. So she broke
the sex-talk seal and asked
friends how often they did
it. Turns out, they were all
having sex a couple of times
a week, about the same as
Annie and her man. And
they all wanted to be hav-
ing it more. Of course,
theres no such thing as
normalonly normal
for you. Still, knowledge
is powerand can relieve
your stress. It made me
feel so much better, Annie
says.
Then their convo turned
to analwas anyone into
it? And, OMG, almost
getting caught by ones
mother-in-law during the
holidays! Its proof that you
dont have to stop talking
about sex with your friends
when you fall in love. You
can talk about it in brand-
new, equally fun ways.
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SECTION 1
S U B S E C T I O N 1A SECTION 2

THE WEIRD
PEOPLE YOU WIN OVER YOUR
MEET AT WORK
Cherish your normal,
COWORKERS
respectful coworkers... Lets be honest: The office is basically
high school, and being the new kid
is painful. Youre not sure who hates
whom, and you definitely arent guar-
anteed a friend to hang with at lunch.

1 DONT HIDE OUT. If you wait too long

bridge or Dictator of a Small Country, you to ask peoples names and duties, it
might feel awkward, says Bruzzese. Ask

things will happen for you. cially to helpful people in roles like
office management and accounting.
1. FIGURE OUT WHAT Is there anything
MATTERS. How? Just 2 SHOW OFF FRESH IDEAS. A foolproof
ask, says Alexandra in this job that maybe the only thing that way to annoy new coworkers: pitching
appears to cheer her up
Levit, author of New wasnt done before? Is ideas they have triedor discarded
is making you hate
Job, New You. Tell there something you yours too. before. Ask about whats been done.
your manager you really liked about the And dont try to blow everything up,
WHEN YOURE AROUND ONE
want to make sure you person who had this A key virtue of starting even if you inherited a hot mess. While
meet expectations. job before me that I a new job is hope, so it can be tempting to come in like gang-
What would success can continue to do? dont let anyone drain busters and prove yourself, being a
look like to her? Ide- That way, youre not yours, says Ross good listener is a hugely valuable skill,
ally, during your first asking anyone to McCammon, author of says Levit. Look for a single process or
meeting, you can get trash-talk a former Works Well With project where you can shine.
Others (out October 6).
in writing the goals on employee. Ignore her messages, or
which youll be evalu- 3 BE AS NICE TO THE CUSTODIAN AS YOU
rebuff her with a quick
ated during your first 3. HAVE A COMMUNI- Sorry, super busy! ARE TO THE CEO. People notice how you
three months, six CATION TALK. Within treat other people, and some workers
months, and year. the first 90 days of a have more influence than you think,
The more subjective job, set aside some says Bruzzese. If you rub gatekeepers
you leave this, the time with your new the wrong way, good luck getting help
more open your per- manager (or each with the jammed copier, much less face
formance is to inter- manager, if you have time with anyone important. It doesnt
pretation, Levit says. more than one) to go have to be a big deal: If you pass the
over some ground front desk and notice a package needs
2. KNOW WHO YOU rules, says Lindsey to be delivered, say, Hey, Im headed
REPLACED. Youll want Pollak, author of that way. Can I drop this off for you?
to do some subtle Becoming the Boss.
Excels at mansplana- 4 DONT PLAY FAVORITES. Know a little bit
snooping about your How does she want tions and discounts all
predecessor. Ask to hear from you? your ideas until another about a lot of people, instead of joining
coworkers about how In person? E-mail? man endorses them. yourself at the hip with one. Youve been
IL LU S T R AT I O N S BY ROB E R T B A L L . G E T T Y IM AG E S ( 5 )

previous projects Text? If youre run- WHEN YOURE AROUND ONE cast in a long-running show, and theres
worked outbeing ning late, what is the Stop him with a rm a lot of backstory to catch up on. I
mindful not to make it best way to tell her? Thanks, Chad, but I learned this the hard way at a previous
about people, which It may seem like small know that. Heres what job, says Sara Nelson, editorial director
can sound gossipy, but stuff, but keeping Id really like to get to. of Amazon.com and Kindle. The person
This moves the convo
about their job duties, the lines of communi- who took me under her wing was the
along and lets people
says Levit. You can cation running know what you know. office complainer, the person nobody
also directly ask your smoothlyand not wanted to be stuck with in the elevator. I
boss about this, says inadvertently peeving eventually extricated myself from her,
Anita Bruzzese, her with long voice but we never had a normal working rela-
author of 45 Things mails or weekend tionship after that. She was mad at me
You Do That Drive e-mailscan get you for rejecting her, when I should have
Your Boss Crazy. Say, off to a great start. waited to accept her in the first place.
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YOUR FIRST DAY

TO-DO LIST
The truth about first days is
you rarely have any work.
Ross McCammon, author
of Works Well With Others,
supplies an agenda.
DAY BEFORE Send an e-mail to
She needs to express your boss asking if theres anything
every thought, loudly. you should start thinking about.
WHEN YOURE AROUND ONE
(This not only gives you something
She might be anxious to do in the morning, but it also
or excited. Try being makes you seem both eager and
empathetic (It sounds conscientious.)
like you have something 9 A.M. Youre here! Dont look
intense going on...) or down, literally and metaphorically.
playful (Wow! You. 9:30 A.M. Familiarize yourself with
They chose you for the job. You are not a fraud. You Are. Talking. Really. your ofce, phone, and computer.
will not embarrass yourself. (But maybe take these Loud!). Either way, None of it will work. Stay cool.
precautions just in case.) says McCammon, deal
with it really early on. 10 A.M. Stie the urge to record an
Its awkward, but its out-of-ofce greeting. You will
1. LEARN THE CULTURE. Heres where you realize that screw it up and have to record it
Anthropology 101 seminar was not a total waste. One of worse if you let it
fester and become again. And again. This will be both
the best things you can do at a new job is observe: when passive-aggressive. amusing and annoying to cowork-
people arrive and depart, how people socialize (in the (Upside: Loud talkers ers. But mostly annoying.
kitchen? over drinks?) and communicate (do people might be shouting 11 A.M. Be mildly delusional: Act
curse? is there a Gchat you should join?). Not to say you helpful scoop.) as if you are comfortable even if you
have to eat salad at your desk every day just because arent. Pretend that your new col-
everyone else does, but know whats normal. leagues are vague acquaintances,
not total strangers. Your disposition
will be more open and positive
2. TAKE NOTES. People see it as a huge sign of respect because of it.
when you write down what they are saying and a sign
12 P.M. Type something. Anyone
of disrespect when you have to ask again because you typing looks like they are working.
didnt write it down. Carry a notebook or your phone. Send an e-mail to contacts about
Bruzzese suggests saying, Im just going to jot down your new job. Come up with vague
some notes on my phone so I dont forget the specifics. ideas for projects. Begin a draft of
That way no one thinks youre texting your BF. a memoir titled I Think Ive Made a
Big Mistake.
He is wearing a
3. ADMIT YOUR IGNORANCE. Being asked a direct ques- wedding ring but likes 1:35 P.M. Youll likely be asked to
tion on a topic you know nothing about is an unpleasant to walk up to you from lunch, so give people time to invite
you (but no one has ever invited
feelingbut trying to fake your way through an entire behind and whisper
gross things in your ear. anyone to lunch after 1:35 p.m.).
conversation on said topic is the stuff of nightmares.
Confidence means saying simply, I havent heard about WHEN YOURE AROUND ONE 3 P.M. Bathroom break. Expect
Be direct. Tell him you hands-free faucets involving
that. Can you catch me up? or Can you remind me who
have no interest in what a sensor that will not detect your
that is? During those first 90 days, its fine to ask a lot hands, leaving you moving your
hes doing. Try: Id like
of questions, says Pollak. to preserve this working hands underneath the faucet like a
relationship, but Id grocery-store clerk on meth as your
4. BUT DONT ADVERTISE YOUR IGNORANCE. Do not, how- appreciate if you would new colleagues cycle through and
ever, ask things you can easily find out elsewhere. Years stop. If he persists, wonder what your problem is.
ago, I had just started a job and was in a big meeting, talk to a manager. 3:05 P.M. If you believe, the water
says Alexis Bryan Morgan, director of designer relations will come.
for Rent the Runway. Someone mentioned a famous 5 P.M. You made it. You dont yet
designer, and I blurted out Whos that? My boss looked have a record of success like your
at me and joked Youre fired. The point is, I should have new colleagues, but you also dont
GET T Y IMAGES (3)

have a record of failure. Its rare to

gone back to my desk and figured it out. Even today, have power with no baggage. This
there are so many acronyms in the digital world that happens only a few times in your
are new to me, but instead of wasting everyones time, I careerand only on the rst day.
make sure I listen, take notes, and do my homework. Enjoy it.
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S U B S E C T I O N 1A

Youre familiar with the pitfalls of the Reply All

function, right? Just checking.
The Ghost
You need her input 1 SILENCE YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA. In the begin-
desperately. But shes ning, step away from Twitter, Instagram, Face-
never at her desk. book, and all your other networks. (When you
WHEN YOURE AROUND ONE share that viral video, it carries a time stamp.)
Face-to-face convos And quiet your cell too, says Levit. Moms have a
are more efcient than way of blowing up your phone in week one.
e-mail with elusive
types, McCammon
2 GET IN EARLY, STAY LATE. At least in the begin-
says: As soon as she
walks in, pop in and ning, try to get there 15 minutes early, and stay
start talking. Give her about 30 minutes later than your boss, says
a quick list of things Bruzzese. Thankfully, face time is less important
you need answered, than it was in the past, at least in some careers.
then go through it item But in a new job, it looks bad to zoom out.
by item, and last, sum
up what you plan to do.
3 PROJECT COMPETENCE. You may not realize it,
but body languageand actual languagespeaks
volumes. Ive worked with people who didnt
give enough thought to how they spokesaying
things like yeah, uh-huh, umas well as offering
limp handshakes. It all can translate into imma-
turity, says Rebecca Widness, founder of Wid-
ness and Company Public Relations in New York.
chocolatey
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Being super-polished with little things like your
posture, your outfit, or the way you answer your
Vanlla Almond The Guy Who Gets phone can make you appear (and actually be)
runch
Away With Everything more confident.
He comes to work late,
passes off assign- 4 SIP, DONT SWIG. Its never a great idea to get
ments, and still gets
blitzed with coworkers, but definitely not in the
promoted.
very beginning. Laurie Ruettimann, an HR con-
WHEN YOURE AROUND ONE
NEW CHOCOLATEY DIPPED sultant in Raleigh, North Carolina, recalls how,
Watch and learnhe
BARS MADE WITH LOW-FAT might have something in an effort to keep up with the guys on her team
ICE CREAM IN THREE FLAVORS. to teach you. Hes who took her out to dinner after her first day at
UP TO 190 CALORIES EACH. gured something out, work, she helped polish off six bottles of wine. I
McCammon says. ended up puking at 8 p.m. and had to get up the
There is something he next day for meetings, she says.
brings to the table that
the boss loves. Let him
5 WHEN IN DOUBT, DONT. Not sure if you should
do whatever hes doing,
and focus on adding wear that skirt? Dont. Take that long lunch hour,
your own value. even if its a slow day? Dont. Always respect that
squiggle of doubt, Pollak says, especially during
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 APPENDIX A

SEVEN WAYS YOU SCREWED UP

YOUR BENEFITS
Is your approach to open enrollment
eeny meeny miny moe? Cosmo financial
columnist Alexa Von Tobel, CEO of Learn-
Vest and author of Financially Fearless, S U B S E C T I O N 1A
gives you a do-over.
YOU OP TE D OU T
Take advantage of your perkslife, dental, and especially,
health insuranceto protect yourself and your nances. (If
you dont get benets through a job, head to HealthCare
.gov.) I opted out of a $7 per month dental plan at my rst
job...only to get a cavity and a huge bill!
YOU PICK E D THE W RONG PL A N
Consider the true cost of a health plan: not only monthly pre-
miums but also copays, prescriptions, deductibles (how Silent but Judge-y
much you pay before the plan kicks in), and coinsurance Hes denitely feeling
(the percentage you cover after it kicks in). Look for a plan things about your
with a lower deductible, especially if you have a chronic work, but hes not
health issue, see a specialist, take brand-name meds, or communicating.
might get pregnant. Consider high out-of-pocket costs only if
WHEN YOURE AROUND ONE
youre healthy and cant afford better coverage....But
Are you sure this is
remember, anyone can get sick or injured, and one trip to
about you? He could
the ER can cost a lot.
be annoyed at
YOU RE -UPPE D W ITHOU T THINK ING something else entirely
Ninety percent of workers auto-enroll in the same health or have a case of
plan each year, a 2014 study by Aac found. The best way Resting Douche Face.
to prepare for the unknown is to review your benets and Approach him by
make sure they still t your needs. saying, Ive noticed
that when I do this,
YOU DIDN T TE A M UP
you do this.
If you live with a partner, you might save by becoming a
dependent on your S.O.s insurance (or vice versa). Plus,
people under 26 can glom onto a parents insurance. Be
aware of differing open-enrollment periods.
YOU PRETE NDE D YOU D NE V E R GET OL D
Youre going to work for roughly 50 years to support
70(ish) years of your lifethe earlier you start saving for
retirement, the better. Aim to contribute at least 5 percent of
your base salary monthly by age 25 and 10 percent by age
30 to an employer-sponsored 401(k). If youre not enrolled at
work, try a Roth IRA, which you can open online. Dont touch
a penny in your retirement accounts before age 59 to avoid The Prankster
a major hit from taxes and penalties. He thinks hes the next
coming of Jim Halpert.
YOU NEGL ECTE D YOUR MONE Y
You think hes unfunny
Just because you wont use your retirement money soon and distracting.
doesnt mean you should ignore it. Set a calendar alert to
WHEN YOURE AROUND ONE
check on your investments at least once a yearas you get
Dont feel you need to
older, youll want to take less risk. Brokerage rms have free
engage, even if it makes
online retirement calculators that can help you nd a good
you feel a little like a
mix. And keep an eye on those funds after you leave your
jerk. Nonresponse THREE LAYERS OF
job. If you feel unorganized, combining all your retirement CHOCOLATEY DECADENCE.
when someone is joking
accounts into one (aka rolling them over) might help. ALL FOR 130 CALORIES PER BAR.
can be really powerful,
YOU L E F T BE NE F I T S BE HIND McCammon says. You
Perks dont always vanish as soon as you give notice or lose drain the situation of
your job. Drop by HR to ask if any benets will linger. In some the energy he tried to
cases, a severance package can be negotiated to extend your put into it. Be glad hes
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health and dental plans temporarily. Some companies will too busy with his act to
provide at least 18 months of COBRA insurancebut you outshine you on the job.
cover the (high) cost.
SOURCE: ALINA SALGANICOFF, VICE PRESIDENT AND DIRECTOR, WOMENS HEALTH POLICY,
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 YOU HAVE TO
BE GUIDED
BY WHAT IS RIGHT
When Marilyn Mosby was elected states attorney for Baltimore,
she became the youngest chief prosecutor of a major U.S. city.
Less than a year later, 35-year-old Mosby became the talk of the nation,
making the call to charge six police officers in the controversial death
of Baltimore resident Freddie Gray. She talks about
the career choices that prepared her for the challenge.
BY ABIG AIL PE STA

A P PH OTO/A L E X B R A N D O N

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 DEFINING MOMENT
One of the reasons why I
became a prosecutor and got
interested in trying to reform
the criminal-justice system
was because of a tragedy. I
was 14 years old, and I had
a cousin who grew up with
me, like a brother, in a police
family in Boston. Nobody in
my family had gone past high
school, so we both had aspi-
rations of being first-genera-
tion college students. He was
killed right outside our home
in broad daylight. Thats an
image that is branded into my
mind, opening up the door
and seeing him lying in the
street. He was mistaken as
a neighborhood drug dealer.
He was actually an honor
student. If it werent for the
testimony of a neighbor who
showed courage, who cooper-
ated with police and testified
in court, my family wouldnt
have received any sort of jus-
tice. That was my introduc-
tion to the criminal-justice
systemdealing with the
prosecutors and courts, see-
ing how the district attorneys
office guided my family. I saw
a 17-year-old who was going
to a gravebut the individual
responsible for his death was
also 17 years old. And so at
14, Im looking at the system
and saying: How could we
have gotten to this young man
before he elected to pick up a
gun and kill someone?
RACE AND SCHOOL
Growing up, I was part of
one of the longest-standing
desegregation programs in
the country. I woke up at 5
oclock in the morning every
day and was bused an hour
from the inner city of Bos-
ton to a school in one of the
richest towns in Massachu-
setts. At one point, I was the
only black child in the entire
190 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ AUGUST 2015
school. At a very early age, I
kind of had the responsibility
of being the representative for
black people. It was something
I welcomed. I would get the
stereotypical You go, girl, but
I understood that it had to do
with a lack of exposure. So I
was responsible for a cultural-
diversity day at the school,
bringing outside agencies
to talk about race. That was
something I did from second
grade until I graduated.
FINDING A WAY
I worked really hard to do well
in school, driven by my cous-
ins killing. I got a presidential
scholarship to Tuskegee Uni-
versity. I was active on campus
and graduated with a 3.8 GPA.
But I got wait-listed to every
law school I applied to because
I didnt do as well on my LSAT.
So I needed to think outside
the box. No situation or cir-
cumstance should define your
destiny. Only you and God
can do that. I started calling
around to law schoolsthis is
not traditional, people dont
do thisand I said, I really
want to interview with you. I
think you need to know that
my LSAT score is not indica-
tive of my potential. People
said it was fruitless. I called
schools every day for months.
And finally a woman was
like, Okay, all right, lady, yes,
come in. I talked about why I
was driven by this and what I
could bring to the school. Then
I called every week and fol-
lowed up. In the end, I got into
my first-choice law school,
Boston College.
GOING FOR IT
When I decided I was going to
run for states attorney against
a powerful incumbent, people
told me I was too young, I was
too inexperienced, I couldnt
Where ya been? So its really
important to have that sup-
port system.
BUILDING TRUST
PEOPLE TOLD ME I People are so distrustful of
law enforcement and the
WA S T O O YO U N G , I WA S
criminal-justice system. Its
T O O I N E X P E R I E N C E D,
incumbent on a prosecu-
I COULDN T R A ISE tor to be able to break down
E N O U G H M O N E Y, I those barriers of distrust.
C O U L D P O T E N T I A L LY When people lose a loved one,
D E S T R OY M Y C A R E E R . they really need to be guided
YO U C A N T L E T through the process. In court,
they have to relive it. I know
N AY S AY E R S D E F I N E
that from experience. Before
YO U R P U R P O S E
I took office, my homicide
B E C AU S E O T H E R W I S E prosecutors werent reaching
YO U L L B E N OW H E R E out to the family until we had
I N L I F E . a person of interest. Now they
are required to sit down with
raise enough money, I could the families, victims, and wit-
potentially destroy my career. nesses and say, This is the
You cant let naysayers define process. Im going to keep you
your purpose because other- posted, and if you ever have
wise youll be nowhere in life. any questions or concerns,
Ive never had much patience feel free to call us.
for those kinds of people, even
the ones who are coming out INTERNET TROLLS
of the woodwork now. Theyve been real racist and
nasty. I had somebody say
WORK AND LIFE that I deserve to have my
I have two girls, 4 and 6 years throat cutor something to
old. I met my husband [Balti- that effect. I dont pay any
more City Councilman Nick attention to it. Especially in
Mosby] at Tuskegee. It wasnt this position, you cant be
just a physical attraction guided by emotion. You cant
there was substance to him. be guided by public percep-
He wanted to be a public ser- tion. You have to be guided by
vant. He wanted to come back what is right. You have to be
to Baltimore and change his guided by the law.
community, and that drew me
to him. We sat down the first JUST DO IT
time and talked for hours, As young people, we need to
and when I walked away, I utilize this moment and make
said, Hes going to be my hus- it into a movement, to address
band. And I got him! Hes some of the structural, socio-
my strongest advocate. My economic, and systemic issues
job is easy because its what that plague our communities
Im passionate aboutthe all across the country, not just
A P PH OTO/A L E X B R A N D O N
hard job is when I go home at in Baltimore. We have got to
night and Ive got a 4-year-old understand the importance of
whos tapping her wrist, like, civic engagement. My election
is a testament to how impor-
tant it is to vote.
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In Rapid City one Thursday last summer, a
26-year-old bartender and student Ill call Nicole
her middle namehad a positive pregnancy test.
Usually even-keeled, almost unflappable, Nicole
says that afternoon, I was just bawling. But as
soon as she got over the initial shock, she knew she
wanted an abortion. She was committed to finish-
ing school, and her boyfriend had recently moved to
another state.
Nicole drove to a childhood friends apartment,
where they began making phone calls. She knew her
best option was the Sioux Falls clinicthe next-clos-
est option was 400 miles away, in Colorado. It didnt
have an appointment for three weeks. Nicole wasnt
sure she could wait that long; she wanted to use the
abortion pill, which cant be taken after nine weeks
of pregnancy. She knew an ultrasound would reveal
exactly how far along she was, but she got conflicting
information on whether her insurance would cover
it. Later that night, her friend sent her an instant
message with a link to the website for a nearby Care AS
Net center that advertised free ultrasounds along-
side information on emergency contraception and
MEDICAL
abortion education. CLINICS
Just to let you know, theyre probably going SHUTTER,
to be pro-life, her friend typed.
The next morning, Nicole called Care Net. I PREGNANCY
didnt have anywhere else to go, she explains. On CENTERS
Tuesday, Nicole drove alone down Main Street, to a
one-story office in a shopping center with a credit CAN BE
union and a KFC. THE ONLY
Inside, a receptionist behind a counter
instructed Nicole to provide a urine sample in the
PLACE TO
bathroom. Then a nurse and a younger woman, TURN.
194 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ AUGUST 2015
During the ultrasound, the nurse
said the images werent clear and she
needed to do a transvaginal scan. She
didnt explain anything or say, Were
going to stick this cone inside you,
Nicole says, agitated. The nurse dis-
played the embryo on a screen, pointed
to its features, and printed the images.
The younger women prayed over Nicole
and asked to be invited to her baby
shower. The next week, ultrasound
results in hand, Nicole drove more than
six hours, following a two-lane highway
across Wyoming and staying overnight
in a hotel, to reach an abortion provider
in Denver.
Stacey Wollman, CEO of the Care
Net center in Rapid City, says that all
clients are informed that the center is a
faith-based Christian ministry and can opt out of dis-
cussing faith, being prayed over, or receiving follow-
up calls. She disputes that the staff would ever point
out fingertips while explaining fetal development,
discuss a baby feeling the sensations the mom feels,
or ask to be invited to a shower.
Nicole says the nurse from Care Net called her
every day for two weeks. Then once a month, she
called from a restricted number and left messages
saying, I just want to chitchat. Annoyed, Nicole
never answered or complained. The calls kept com-
ing all the way until Februaryaround when she
would have delivered.
Every year, thousands of women like Nicole seek
help at what appear to be secular medical clinics but
are actually Christian anti-abortion centers. Through-
out the United States, there are at least 3,000 cri-
sis pregnancy centers, many of which belong to two
religious anti-abortion organizationsCare Net and
Heartbeat International. Some women arrive at those
centers in search of Christian counseling or free dia-
pers, but the vast majority are looking for professional

A SAMPLER AT
THE CABOT,
ARKANSAS, CENTER
WARNS OF GUILT
IF YOU KILL [A]
PRECIOUS LIFE.
able. Around the country, access to abortion has
eroded dramatically. As abortion regulations shut-
ter medical clinics offering the full range of options, a
woman facing an unplanned pregnancy finds herself
in a very different landscape, one in which a preg-
nancy center is her most visible, most affordableand
sometimes the onlyplace to turn.
This isnt happening only in red states. Nation-
wide, anti-abortion centers now outnumber abor-
tion clinics 3 to 1. Theyre in all kinds of towns, from
Beverly Hills, California, to Shreveport, Louisiana.
P R E V I O U S PAG E : A L I TAY L O R .
Youve seen their ads on highway billboards and
online: Pregnant? Scared? We offer confidential
counseling. Search Google Maps for abortion help
in almost any town and youll find local centers with
pro-choice-seeming names and websites that say,
Need someone to talk to about your options? Con-
tact us or We inform. You decide.
Centers increasingly look just like doctors offices
with ultrasound rooms and staff in scrubs. Yet they
do not provide or refer for contraception or abortion.
Many pregnancy-center counselors, even those who
provide medical information, are not licensed. And
even some workers who are licensed, such as nurses
and ultrasound technicians, repeat myths about
abortion and contraception. Last year, I attended
Heartbeat Internationals annual conference, where
nurses told me that birth control introduces too
many chemicals into your body and that women
never recover emotionally from abortion.
The anti-abortion movement regularly presents
pregnancy centers as a scattering of kindly women
working with shoestring budgets. In the press or on
websites, center directors use language about being
small, humble grassroots organizations, without
explaining national affiliations. Pro-life strategy
documents reveal how, historically, the pregnancy-
center movement purposely remained under-
ground, avoiding the limelight and the controversy
of the pro-life political activism.
Many pregnancy centers are, in fact, run by reli-
gious women who want to help. But they also are
an arm of a sophisticated political movement. A
yearlong investigation of crisis pregnancy centers
including dozens of interviews with center staff and
volunteers, anti-abortion and reproductive-rights
advocates, lobbyists, elected officials, and women
searching online for abortion-related terms, accord-
ing to an Inside Philanthropy report.
At the Heartbeat conference, pregnancy-center
staff referred to centers as ministries and dis-
cussed their underlying goalshepherding spiritu-
ally broken women toward Christ. The majority
of pregnancy-center staff Ive met are Evangeli-
cal Christians who say theyre dedicated to helping
women escape a cycle of premarital sex and spiri-
tual pain. Yet at the conference, Heartbeat speak-
ers coached center staff to scrub their websites of
Christian references. Speakers also recommended
pregnancy-center staff to discourage women and
girls from not only abortion but also contraception
by emphasizing disproven negative consequences
and encouraging sexual integrity, meaning sex
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only within heterosexual malign contraception
marriage. and abortion. In her book
All of this is supported Before Roe, political his-
by tens of millions of fed- torian Rosemary Nossiff
eral and state dollars. At describes how a lawyer for
least 11 states now directly the Pennsylvania Catho-
fund pregnancy centers, lic Conference, William
according to state con- Ball, pushed against the
tracts and contractor web- states plan to counsel
sites. Many states refer low-income couples on
low-income pregnant women to contraception by running full-
anti-abortion centers on health page ads in 50 newspapers and
department websites, as well as testifying before legislators. On
in informed consent materials Sundays, priests sermonized
that abortion providers distrib- against politicians who veered
ute to patients. from the Churchs positions.
Few states, however, have any Former Representative Stephen
laws regulating how pregnancy Freind told me that Pennsylva-
centers interact with women. nia legislators and Church law-
Unlike other mental-health pro- yers worked side by side to draft
viders, center counselors are the nations strictest abortion
generally not bound by profes- laws, with hopes of overturning
THEN:
sional standards or malpractice A CLASH OF Roe v. Wade.
laws. In many cases, the anti-abortion organiza- BELIEFS OVER
THE CASEY SUIT.
tions that run the centersnot state employees NOW: PROTESTS
monitor their own work. AT A KENTUCKY
PREGNANCY
CENTER.

In order for a woman to receive any material
support, the program requires that she receive at
least 20 minutes of counseling from staff, usually
after taking a pregnancy test. Real Alternatives
contract with the state relies on debunked studies
that imply abortion leads to breast cancer and clin-
ical depression. Centers are not allowed to advo-
cate for birth control, much less dispense it. The
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contracts directives advise pregnancy-center staff
to make an assessment of the clients spiritual
needs by asking questions like How does your
faith impact the choices you make? (One quarterly
report from a center to Real Alternatives refers to
clients with the aliases Mary and Joseph.)
Some Real Alternatives centers market them-
selves as secular medical clinics, following the
strategies Care Net and Heartbeat outline in their
training. On its website, Morning Star Pregnancy
Services, for example, offers ultrasound before
abortion at its three locations
in the Harrisburg area. Morn-
ing Star and some two dozen
other Real Alternatives centers
turned down my requests to
visit. Kevin Bagatta and his staff
declined multiple calls over sev-
eral months.
Real Alternatives is helping
spread tax-funded anti-abortion
centers throughout the country.
The organization advised Florida,
Minnesota, Nebraska, and North
Dakota in establishing state-
In a corporate park in Little Rock, Arkansas Preg-
nancy Resource Center shares a secluded cul-de-sac
with the states only surgical abortion provider. A few
years ago, when a doctor who performs abortions
moved across town to join the clinics staff, the anti-
abortion center followed. One Saturday, I watched
about 30 protestorsmostly white men in T-shirts
and shortsstand on the lawn of the crisis preg-
nancy center screaming, Youre killing your baby!
Every weekend protestors block the clinics
driveway, and on some weekends the police are
called, clinic workers and escorts told me. The preg-
CENTERS
nancy center allows the protestors to stay, and pro-
ARE NOT testors sometimes redirect women into the center.
A physician at the clinic told me that patients peri-
ALLOWED TO odically arrive for their abortion appointments late,
ADVOCATE after mistakenly first going to the pregnancy center
across the cul-de-sac. That Saturday, women enter-
FOR BIRTH ing the clinic looked over their shoulders, then at
CONTROL, the ground, some with tears in their eyes.
MUCH LESS About 30 miles north of Little Rock, a bill-
board displayed between exits (Pregnant? Need
DISPENSE IT. options?) advertised A Womans Place, a preg-
nancy center in the small town of Cabot
that has since been renamed Options
Pregnancy Center. Cabot feels neither
down-and-out nor especially fancy:
Tidy homes and churches fade into a
strip of chain stores like Kmart and
Popeyes. Down the road, Options Preg-
nancy Center occupies a brick building
beside a salon. Its website and ad in the
high school paper offer options coun-
seling. It has an ultrasound machine.
The needlepoint sampler in its bath-
room says, You will live with the guilt
for the rest of your life knowing you
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 I FELT LIKE
LESS OF A
WOMAN.
MAYBE
I WAS
SELFISH,
A BAD
PERSON.
Options Pregnancy Center hired pastors to lead
its public school lessons. I spoke with two of those
pastors and read their curriculum, which only dis-
cusses contraceptives in terms of failure rates and
emphasizes the negative emotional consequences
of premarital sex. One of the pastors, Daniel Tyler,
told me he teaches the idea that if you start hav-
ing sex, you cant grow emotionally. He adds, The
stuff were saying is stereotypical, like guys think-
ing about sex all the time.We teach that even the
198 _ COSMOPOLITAN _ AUGUST 2015
She remembers the counselor asking, Dont
you love your daughter? Dont you want to do for
this one what you do for your first?
Its not that I dont like this babyIm just
afraid for the baby, Smith recalls saying.
Smith says the counselor asked her boyfriend
if he was willing to parent. When he said he was,
the counselor insisted they had no reason to con-
sider adoption. It shocked me, Smith says. I was
thinking, But adoption is what you do.
Smith questioned her boyfriend, saying he
might not stick around, regardless of whether
they shared a child. But the counselor insisted.
It seems like he wants to be there, she said, and
Smith could always raise the child without him.
Im a single mother myself. I know how it is,
Smith remembers the counselor saying.
At the Heartbeat conference I attended, a
 THE RED PIN
MARKS THE
STATES SOLE
ABORTION CLINIC.
THE OTHERS workshop leader instructed pregnancy-center
MARK PREGNANCY staff to offer their personal stories of hardship
CENTERS.
to encourage clients to follow their advice. Many
pregnancy-center workers have told me their goal
is for every woman to mother.
I dont know what single mother means to
her, Smith told me later. Maybe to her it means
divorced with alimony, with grandparents around,
but to me, being a single parent means doing
everything. My mother passed away when I was 8.
I dont have a safety net. People dont understand
that to really invest in a child and be there to pro-
vide stability, I have to sacrifice every single thing.
With the adoption counselor and her boyfriend
in agreement, Smith was outnumbered. The
counselor looked at me like there was something
wrong with me. I was already putting the blame
on myself for getting pregnant. Theres so much
emphasis on being a good mom. I felt like less of
a woman. Maybe I was selfish, a bad person who
should be ashamed of myself.
When I called representatives for both the preg-
nancy center and the adoption agency to discuss
Smiths story, they each said their organization is a
strong advocate for adoption and would never dis-
courage a couple from making that choice.
Smith never made adoption plans. And she
didnt tell anyone else about her ambivalence
toward her pregnancy. I thought, If thats how an
adoption counselor reacted, imagine what someone
else would say about me not wanting a baby.
She gave birth to a girl in the spring of 2010. Six
months later, she and her boyfriend broke up. She
became numb and overwhelmed with postpar-
tum depression. After missing work, she lost her job.
Everything snowballed, she says. She sometimes
looked at her baby daughter and thought, It would
be easier if she werent here.
It wasnt that I didnt love my baby, she says.
I just hated the situation.
Months later, she called the center. Look,
where are you when I dont have a job, I dont
have a car? she recalls asking. The woman who
answered the phone was apologetic. She gave her
the number for a counselor at a church who helped
her access other services.
Smith is now a single parent of two. People

TO
THE RATIO NATIONWIDE
BETWEEN ANTI-ABORTION
CENTERS AND LEGIT CLINICS.
IN SOME STATES, ITS 40 TO 1.
judge single mothers every step of the way, she
says. But how would they judge me if I exercised
my other options, my rights? I couldve had an
abortion, given my daughter up for adoption, left
her at a hospital. Whatever decision she made,
Smith figures, the reaction would be the same. Id
wear a label for the rest of my life.
Reporting for this story was aided by a grant from the Investigative
Fund of the Nation Institute, a nonprofit journalism center supported
by the Ford Foundation and MacArthur Foundation, among others.

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TWINKLY WONDER-
LAND OF FUN,
SO GRAB YOUR GANG
AND SPARKLE ON!
BY MAR JORIE KORN

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LIVE IT UP!
How Do Your
Smores Stack Up?
Swank up the marshmallow and graham cracker
campfire treat with a mix of flavor combos.
Ideas by Stephen Collucci, pastry chef at NYCs

Get the Colicchio & Sons.

Glow
Going!
YOU AND YOUR CREW. HANGING
THE PRO
NUTELLA
+
PRETZEL
under the stars on a
gorgeous summer
night. Hard to screw
that up, but you can
step it up. Little
touches like string
lights and bubbly THE LEMON PIE
pink drinks will take LEMON CURD
+
your great outdoors COCONUT FLAKES

bash from garden-

variety fun to a
winning, everybody-
Pinning night you
will never forget. So
whether your aim is THE
to make out under SOUTHERN
PEACHES
the stars or make +
MILK
memories with your CHOCOLATE

girlsDo. It. Up!!

THE AZTEC
CAYENNE
+
DARK

SEE STARS CHOCOLATE

1. Download the SkyView

app, which allows you to
ID stars and constellations.
2. Make August 12 to 13
an all-nighter. Before dawn, the
Perseid meteor shower is in
view. 3. Give yourself an even THE BLACK
more celestial body with FOREST
FRESH JAM
+
BITTERSWEET
CHOCOLATE

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LIVE IT UP!
FLIRTY FIZZ
Sparkly pinot is a
thing. Try it ($14,
charlessmith
wines.com).
GET LIT
Instant fes-
tiveness ($79,
onekingslane
.com).

LOUNGE AROUND
Patterned towels
PINK LADIES
sub for rugs
Sip Wlffers Dry ($80, johnrob
Ros Cider ($16, shaw.com).
wolffer.com).

Set the
Mood

B E N G O L D S T E I N / S T U D I O D . B O T T O M L E F T: B U C K S T U D I O / C O R B I S . P R E V I O U S PA G E , S M O R E S , P H O T O G R A P H E D B Y B E N G O L D S T E I N . F O O D S T Y L I S T: J A M I E K I M M .
You dont need fancy
outdoor furniture to
make this fete fabulous.
A string of lights, lush
towels to warm up
the ground, a few
glammy-looking throw
pillows, and some BLING IT
surprising fizzy drinks Flop atop sequin
pillows ($49 for
(pink cider! bubbly pillow sham,
pinot! onesies!) will set westelm.com).
the nighttime mood.

TO EACH HER OWN

Nothing says party
like individual-size
before you flame on: 1. Make sure its legal. 2. Have at least one person pink champs
stay a little sober. 3. Dont go crazy with the size. 4. Have water on-hand ($15; premiere
to put it out. 5. Check that the ash is completely cool before you leave. champagne.com).

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BRUSHED
CLEAN
FEELING
LIVE IT UP!
SPIC Y
PULLED
PORK
Its a taste
bonanza and a
bargain! The pork
takes forever to
cook but doesnt
need watching,
so pop it in before
bed or work.
S E R V E S 10
Mix together 1/3 c.
B R OW N S U G A R , 2 T
GROUND COFFEE ,
2 T KO S H E R S A LT ,
4 t. S M O K E D
PA P R I K A , 3 t. S W E E T
PA P R I K A , 2 t. ground
C U M I N , 1 t. ground
C O R I A N D E R , 1 t.
ground C L OV E S , 1 t.
G A R L I C P OW D E R ,
and 1 t. B L AC K
P E P P E R in a bowl.
Pat the rub all over
a 5-lb. P O R K
S H O U L D E R . Coat it
well! Save excess rub.
Put the pork shoul-
der in a pot with a
lid, and leave it in the
fridge for two to eight
hours to spice up.
Remove and add
enough water to cover
the pots bottom.
Cover with lid, and
put in the oven at
200 degrees for 10
to 12 hours, until its
internal temperature
is 200 degrees.
No thermometer?
Poke the meat with
a finger: If its soft
enough to fall apart,
its done.
Remove from the
pot, and tear meat
apart with two forks
or your hands.
Next, if you have
time, bake it for an
hour or two. Either
way, when done, mix
in the excess rub.
Serve on a
platter with buns
and toppings like
tomatoes or chopped
onions, or stash in the
fridge for up to three
or four days.
206
CHARRED
SUMMER
LESS THAN
SALAD
$
3.25
A PLATE!
A salad with kick
is the perfect
partner for this
sandwichs rich
deliciousness.
Crunch courtesy
of popcorn!
S E R V E S 10 T O 12
Turn your ovens
broiler to high.
Chop ends off 6
Z U C C H I N I , then slice
each into four long
sticks. Lay the zuc-
chini and 6 S H U C K E D
E A R S O F C O R N on
a baking sheet, then
coat everything with
O L I V E O I L . Sprinkle
with salt and pepper.
Broil the veggies
until the zucchini
starts to blacken,
turning the corn a
couple of times so it
cooks evenly. When
everything is lightly
charred, remove.
Mix the juice of 3
LIMES, 3 T OLIVE
O I L , 11/2 t. C H I L I
P OW D E R , and salt
and pepper to taste
in a bowl.
Cut the zucchini
into long strips, and
slice the corn kernels
from the cobs.
Transfer the
Party
vegetables into the
bowl with the
dressing. Add 6 oz.
C R U M B L E D F E TA
and mix. Sprinkle
Food on the
F O O D S T Y L I S T: J A M I E K I M M . P R O P S T Y L I S T: A L M A M E L E N D E Z .
3 c. P O P P E D
P O P C O R N over the
top, then dust with a
little extra chili
Cheap
powder, salt, and
pepper to taste.
Squad goals: Have everyone over for dinner and enjoy
an insanely impressive meal together without spending a lot of
time or money. We hit up Leanne Browns Good and Cheap:
Eat Well on $4 a Day for a make-ahead, fun party feast that Adapted from Good and
Cheap, by Leanne Brown,
will blow thembut not your budgetaway. from Workman. Bonus: Buy
a book, and theyll donate
BY L AUR A BROUNSTEIN another to someone in need!
PHOTOGR A PHED BY BEN GOLDST EIN
 Loving Venus is retrograde all month, promoting reflection over action. Stop sighing
BY AUROR A TOWER over rearview romances; redirect your energy! Jupiter leads the way by moving into
@AUROR A ASTRO meticulous Virgo on the 11th, inspiring you to step up at work and impress the VIPs.

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Keep hustling! Friendships If youre angling Not so fast, Keep analyzing You may nd Youll get a boost
Jupiters arrival in might feel like an for a raise or Sagyou may your relationships yourself from ratcheting
your sign on the awful game of promotion, stay need to put your and personal considering some up your tness
11thone of Clue (who alert for signs innate wander- aspirations. fun with a former routine. When
your best days of stabbed you in about when to lust on hold for a When practical ing or something the Sun moves
the yearwill the back at the make your move. minute. The 3rd Saturn goes deeper with an into your house of
bring in a wave of beach house with Answers will start is a good day for direct on the 2nd, old love. Either relationships on
opportunities a mean tweet?), coming in on the intuition, so youll know way, sparks will the 23rd (kicking
through next but after Venus 15th when the follow your gut. whats right. Take y when Venus your love life into
summer. Save and Jupiter unite Sun unites with The 7tha a break from the makes a trine high gear), youll
time for love on the 4th, youll Venus in your super-lucky soul-searching with your ruler, feel extra-con-
when the Full know whos on zone of fame and daycould bring with a spontane- revolutionary dent in your skin.
Moon enters your team. Break success. Your positive attention ous trip around Uranus, on the Circle the 29th;
your zone of from any haters love life will heat from the big the 26th. 19th. its going to
relationships on around the 8th. up around the bosses at work. YOU NEED: A little YOU NEED: To be a sizzler.
the 29th. YOU NEED: A luxe same time. YOU NEED: To spice in the keep an open YOU NEED: A
YOU NEED: To spa day to totally YOU NEED: To be balance your bedroom. Dont mind when it workout buddy to
clearly articulate unwind. exible at work enthusiasm with be shygo for it! comes to love keep your
your needs. THE LIBRA GUY: even when others practicality in THE CAPRICORN and romance. motivation high.
THE VIRGO GUY: The guy is going are being erratic. order to shine. GUY: He has great THE AQUARIUS THE PISCES GUY:
New condence in circles over a THE SCORPIO GUY: THE SAGITTARIUS ideas but can GUY: This month, Hes reorganizing
has upped his major decision. Hes in the hot GUY: Your boy is be insecure. youre his North his schedule and
swagger. Cue Talk it through, seat at work. easily sidetracked Show how much Star. Relish the priorities. Being
Beyonc and then you gotta School him in the these days. Grab you value his attention by lying exible in more
show him how get him out art of diplomacy his attention enthusiasm by back and ways than one
much you love of his head and with a lesson in with a private getting on board directing him will remind him
his big...dreams. in your bed. giving and taking. bikini show. his surfbordt! southward.... where you t in.
PISCES
LIBRA

SAGITTARIU
SCORPIO

CAPRICORN
AQUARIUS
VIRGO

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August is about A slew of planets If miscommuni- Your nances are
transformation. will be in your cation threatens looking fab!
Channel your zone of home and to derail your Instead of
inner re goddess family, making hard work, stay making it
to secure a win now an ideal time calm. Youll be rain in
youve been to spend QT with rewarded with celebration,
working toward, your family. Do it two golden days focus on
but don't forget during the rst on the 6th and investing in
the crew who part of the the 12th. Wind your future. Make
helped get you month, because down Olivia like a buttery
there. The New
Moon in Leo on
after the 23rd,
your focus will
Popestyle on
the 26th with a
after the 15th by
being more social
LEO may feel inspired to act when
take-charge Mars moves into your
the 14th might shift to more glass of your than usual. GUY sign on the 8th, but dont jump
COURTESY DANIEL S. DUNNAM; GET T Y IMAGES (2).

unveil a new intimate matters favorite red wine. YOU NEED: Less the gun! Now is the time to watch
romance or cast a of the heart. YOU NEED: To stuff! Take Jesse Williams and wait, no matter how much
platonic friend in YOU NEED: To develop a new inventory, and 08.05
a different light. breathe when professional skill ditch what you you want to bust a bold move.
YOU NEED: A family feuding that will take you don't need. Financial gains youll make after
fresh approach hits a nerve. to the next level. THE CANCER GUY: bountiful Jupiter moves into your
to a recurring THE TAURUS GUY: THE GEMINI GUY: A long summer of house of income on the 11th will
problem. If hes feeling less Take a weekend fun has left him LOVES:
be reassuring. Treat yoself to
THE ARIES GUY: than a hundred break with cash-strapped. Receiving praise
without tooting his something nice.
His inner class percent, show limited cell Remind him that
clown is vying for him youre not reception for a the best things in own horn. your year: Your relationships
attention. Spring just a warm body reminder about life are free with a HATES: with old friends and new
for a toy that you but also a trust- the joys of taking decadent indoor Petty bickering connections have huge potential
can both enjoy. worthy listener. things extra slow. picnic for two. and pointless to thrive this year. Embracing
debates. team spirit and sharing the
DREAM DATE: spotlight with others will remind
An all-day people why they want to be in
TAURUS
GEMINI

extravaganza that
ARIES

hes planned from your corner. Just believe in what

start to finish. youre doing and forge ahead.
WIN HIM OVER: Youll have time to celebrate all
By showing off your your wins in a festive way (maybe
silly side and with mistletoe?) in December.
matching his energy you need: To jot down all your
on the streets and
between the genius ideas and insights.
sheets.

Aquarius: The unique twists and

turns of his mind push all the right
buttons. You bring out the noblest
of each others ambitions.
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INFORMATION
COVER CREDITS
MARC JACOBS, marcjacobs
it
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MARIA FRANCESCA PEPE, maria
francescapepe.com. CHANEL,
chanel.com.
INSIDE COVER CREDITS
CRAZY FIRST: ZADIG & VOLTAIRE, zadig-
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garber.com. VALE, shopvale
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blumarine.com. CARINE GIL-
SON, carinegilson.com. TACORI,
tacori.com. DAVID WEBB,
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
PAGE 16: TOKYO DARLING, tokyo
darling.com. BECCA BY
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butwater.com. RIALTO JEAN
PROJECT, rialtojeanproject
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your nails ! This is the A prom queen license zadig-et-voltaire.com. MALIA
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plate? Really? Someone
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francescapepe.com.
shopping. to relive her glory days.
CARLY S., 22 ELLIE C., 22
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NYC, 212-650-0455. MARIA
FRANCESCA PEPE, maria
francescapepe.com. PAGE 66:
BETINA, betina-ny.com. TRUE
RELIGION, truereligion.com.
NOIR JEWELRY, noirnyc.com.
PAGE 68: RAG & BONE, rag-
bone.com. MISS ME, macys
.com. DIANE VON FURSTENBERG,
DVF Meatpacking, 646-486-
DROP TROU
4800. B-LOW THE BELT, b-low
I think I finally and NO SHORTS, NO SERV ICE
thebelt.com. LADY GREY JEW-
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go? AMANDA P., 32 DANI V., 20 PAGE 70: AG, agjeans.com.
TIMO WEILAND, timoweiland
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A N N O Y E D B E Y O N D B E L I E F ? E - M A I L I N B O X @ C O S M O P O L I TA N webster.com. NOIR JEWELRY,
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/us. VITA FEDE, vitafede.com.
WHITE MOTH, whitemoth.com.
PAGE 72: MOTHER OF PEARL,
hampdenclothing.com. BIG
STAR, bigstardenim.com.
& OTHER STORIES, stories.com.
DELPHINE DELAFON, net-a-
porter.com. LUV AJ, luvaj.com.
BROOKE PERSICH, brooke
persich.com.
WHATS SEXY FOR AUGUST
PAGE 135: KARLA COLLETTO,
everythingbutwater.com.
OXYDO, nordstrom.com. JENNY
SWEETNAM, jennysweetnam
.com. FOREVER 21, forever21.com.
WET HOT AMERICAN
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PAGE 136: MOEVA, moeva.com.
WAREHOUSE, warehouse.co.uk.
PSYCHE JEWELRY, psyche-
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RIS, robertleemorris.com.
ALEXIS BITTAR, alexisbittar
.com. PAGE 138: KARLA COLLETTO,
everythingbutwater.com.
OXYDO, nordstrom.com. JENNY
SWEETNAM, jennysweetnam
.com. DIOR, dior.com. BANANA
BOAT, drugstores. PAGE 139: OYE
SWIMWEAR, oyeswimwear.com.
JENNY SWEETNAM, jenny
sweetnam.com. URBAN DECAY,
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ARMANI, giorgioarmanibeauty-
usa.com. PAGE 140: NORMA
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GENS, drugstores. NEUTROGENA,
neutrogena.com. PAGE 141:
HILFIGER COLLECTION, Tommy
Hilfiger, 212-223-1824. ALEXIS
BITTAR, alexisbittar.com. THE
WET BRUSH, thewetbrush.com.
LIVING PROOF, livingproof.com.
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neys New York. DENIM & SUP-
PLY RALPH LAUREN, denimand
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birkenstockusa.com. CARRERA,
Solstice Sunglasses. PAGE 143:
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express.com. MOSSIMO SUPPLY
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clothing.com. 7 FOR ALL MAN-
KIND, 7forallmankind.com.
ANN TAYLOR, anntaylor.com.
SEQUENCE, sequence
collection.com. CALVIN KLEIN,
Hour Passion Boutique, 212-
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guess.com. LACOSTE, lacoste
.com. NIKE, nike.com. TOMTOM,
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honora.com. CHANEL, chanel
.com. PAGE 146: JUICY COU-
TURE BLACK LABEL, juicy
couture.com. BILLABONG,
billabong.com. CALVIN KLEIN
JEANS, calvinklein.com.
ATELJ 71, bloomingdales.
com. DIOR, dior.com. PAGE
147: EQUIPMENT, Equipment
SoHo, 646-277-6497.
PARKER SMITH, parkersmith
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cole.com. BEBE, bebe.com.
LEVIS, levi.com. MAISON
BOINET, Barneys New York.
KEDS X KATE SPADE NEW
YORK, keds.com. MADEWELL,
madewell.com. HUDSON
JEANS, hudsonjeans.com.
SUPERGA, superga-usa.com.
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Mara Chicago, 312-475-
9500. DONNA KARAN NEW
YORK, donnakaran.com. SJP,
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COSMO QUIZ

SHOULD YOU LAY OFF

THE IM SORRYS? By Anna Breslaw

4 Your boyfriend is
supposed to come over
and assemble an IKEA
bookshelf for you, but
hes MIA. You:
a. Send him a rage-filled
e-mail. I mean, youre sleeping
with the guy. The least he can
do is help build a Flrm.
b. Say nothingbut make
a mental note in your brains
Shitty Boyfriend ledger.
c. Leave him a voice mail:
Hey, wondering where you are!
Sorry Im being so demanding.
I probably told you the wrong
timemy bad. Love you, bye!

c. Almost every time. 5 You are working late

Ugh, so sorry. and need to bail on drinks
with a friend at the last
minute. You text her:
3 Your roommate a. Hey! Cant make it
borrows your favorite skirt tonight, just FYI. LYLAS!
without asking. Next time b. Gotta flake on plans
you find it, its stretched lame work stuff, ugh. Sangrias
out. Your response: on me next time.
a. Confront her ASAP c. OMG, dont be mad,
forgetting that she covered the but my boss is expecting this
whole cable bill this month. huge project done at 9 a.m.,
b. Let it slide but feel and my coworker has to leave
justified by stealing a few early to take her goldendoodle
bowls of her Capn Crunch. to therapy so I have to stay late,
c. Apologize profusely for and I am soooooooo sorry.
the brand running so small. Dont hate me forever!

MOSTLY As: SORRY, NOT SORRY MOSTLY Bs: JUST SORRY-ISH MOSTLY Cs: SICKENINGLY SORRY
From breaking your BFFs flatiron (it Confrontation makes you squirm Props for taking responsibility, but
EDUARD BONNIN/STOCKSY

fell!) to kicking a guy at CrossFit (he was rather than apologies from either side, constantly prostrating yourself in
in the wrong spot!), you consider youd rather act like it didnt happen. agony can get annoying. Worse, people
yourself too flawless to say sorry. Its There are benefits to being as neutral as will treat you like a doormat. Instead of
admirable that you rarely back down, Switzerland. Just watch yourself. Its a self-hating when something goes
but when it comes to sorry, you gotta short distance between Chill Boulevard wrong, stand your ground. You can be
give a little to get a little. and Passive-Aggressive Avenue. polite without shouldering the blame.

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