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A method of childrearing is not-or should not be-a whim, a fashion or a shibboleth. It
should derive from an understanding of the developing child, of his physical and
mental equipment at any given stage and, therefore, his readiness at any given stage to
adapt, to learn, to regulate his behavior according to parental expectations.
If we follow these principles, we can see that there is not a method of child rearing but
a method for this particular child at this particular stage in his development. From this
we can see that a method that is indicated for one stage of development may be
completely unsuited for another stage of development. For example, the principle
underlying our care of the infant in the first few months is one of total gratification of
need. But if we apply this principle to the rearing of the two year old or the still older
child we would be rearing a self-centered, extremely dependant, ill-mannered child.
The difference clearly is the equipment of the infant and equipment of the older child.
We satisfy, as far as possible, all needs of the tiny infant because he is completely
dependant and has no means for controlling his own urges. But as the childs physical
and mental equipment matures he is able more and more to take over the regulation of
his own body needs and to control his impulses. As his readiness for self-control
gradually reveals itself, we increase our expectations for him and alter our methods
accordingly.
A very large number of the problems that appear in infancy and childhood appear at
the juncture points of new developmental phases. As we saw in the proceeding
chapter, each of the major phases of development in infancy brings forth new
problems for the child and for his parents. The emergence of a strong love bond
between the baby and his mother produces a period of anxiety at separation in the
child. The onset of independent locomotion, the striving for the upright posture,
produces its own anxieties and typical behavior problems whenever body activity is
interfered with. Body independence in the second year and the emerging sense of an
independent self bring forth a period of negativism. The cultural demands of weaning
and toilet training in the second year create their own problems for the pleasure-loving
child who is now expected more and more to meet externally imposed demands.
Each child reacts in his own way to the problems presented by new phases of
development. There may be transitory disturbances of eating or sleeping or disorders
of behavior that accompany any of these phases. For these reasons it no longer makes
sense to speak of feeding problems or sleep problems or negative behavior as if
they were distinct categories, but to speak of problems of development and to
search for the meaning of feeding and sleep disturbances or behavior disorders in the
developmental phase which has produced them. If we employ this approach we will
find that these disturbances have special significance for each developmental phase
and we are in a much better position to understand them and to find methods of
dealing with them.
Excerpted from: Fraiberg, S. H. (1959). The magic years (pp. 75-76). New York: Fireside.
Socialization, Guidance and Discipline
with Infants and Toddlers
Definitions
Discipline:
Developed by J. Ronald Lally. WestEd, The Program for Infant/Toddler Care. May be reproduced for
educational purposes.
Factors That Create Discipline Problems
DISCIPLINE STRATEGIES
(Techniques for when child is engaged in harmful behavior)
DO:
Be consistent and flexible (age, temperament)
Tell child to STOP firmly and at close range
Give brief reasons why behavior is unacceptable
State and model acceptable behavior
Concretely help children stop doing unacceptable behavior
Offer children reasonable choices when choice is acceptable
Avoid implying choice when there is none
Recognize/acknowledge childs feelings with language
Clarify that it is not child but childs behavior that is unacceptable
Use redirection, logical consequences, or Cool-Out Time
Seek help if you are about to lose control
DO NOT:
Shame or humiliate child
Physically indicate your disapproval
Say bad boy/girl; avoid good boy/girl for acceptable behavior
Moralize or let too much anger come through
Use NO too often
Use bribes, false threats, and false choices
Use food or scheduled activities as re-enforcers
Retaliate against children
Make children say sorry
Developed by Brenda Jones-Hardin. WestEd, The Program for Infant/Toddler Care.
May be reproduced for educational purposes.
Guidance and Discipline with Infants
and Toddlers
Prevention
Adapted from: Lally, J.R. (Ed.). (1990). Infant/toddler caregiving: A guide to social-emotional growth and
socialization (62-80). Sacramento, CA: California Department of Education. This document may be
reproduced for educational purposes.
Guidance and Discipline with
Infants and Toddlers
Developed by Brenda Jones Harden. WestEd, The Program for Infant/Toddler Care.
This document may be reproduced for educational purposes.
Neonatal illness
Prolonged hospital stays
Abandonment
Family ecology
Multiple caretakers/moves
Unresponsive, non-contingent parent
Under- or over-stimulating household
Parent psychopathology
Parental substance use
Family violence
Larger ecologies
Community violence
Neighborhood deterioration
Limited resources
Lack of community role models and providers of guidance
Impact of pervasive poverty
The influence of cultural prescriptions
Managing Behavior
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Intervention: To Address the Needs of Children Who Present Inappropriate
Behaviors
Provide alternative modes for child to express affect (e.g., symbolic and motor play;
reading relevant stories, etc.)
Consistency between home and program re: strategies to address childs behavioral
difficulties
Staff should de-brief at end of day together and with childs parent regarding what
worked and did not work with child
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Discipline For Young Children
Developmentally appropriate
Accompanied by language i
Immediate
Emotionally neutral
Forehand, R., & McMahon, R. (1981). Helping The Noncompliant Child. New York: Guilford.
Lieberman, A. (1993). The Emotional Life Of A Toddler. New York: Free Press.
Lyman, R. & Hembree-Kigan, T. (1994). Mental Health Interventions With Pre-School Aged Children.
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Provence, S. (1985). Helping Young Children Channel Their Aggressive Energies. Zero to Three, 5(5),
unpaginated insert.
Sheridan, M. Foley, G. & Radinski, S. (1995). The Supportive Play Model. New York: Teachers College
Press.
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Guidance and Discipline with Infants
and Toddlers in Group Care
Resource List
Books
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Article
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