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18BehaviorsofEmotionallyIntelligentPeople
ByTravisBradberry/Inc.
Feb.12,2016
Emotionalintelligenceisahugedriverofsuccess
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Whenemotionalintelligence(EQ)firstappearedtothemasses,itservedasthemissinglinkinapeculiarfinding:peoplewithaverageIQs
outperformthosewiththehighestIQs70percentofthetime.Thisanomalythrewamassivewrenchintothebroadlyheldassumptionthat
IQwasthesolesourceofsuccess.
Decadesofresearchnowpointtoemotionalintelligenceasbeingthecriticalfactorthatsetsstarperformersapartfromtherestofthepack.
Theconnectionissostrongthat90percentoftopperformershavehighemotionalintelligence.
Emotionalintelligenceisthesomethingineachofusthatisabitintangible.Itaffectshowwemanagebehavior,navigatesocial
complexities,andmakepersonaldecisionstoachievepositiveresults.
DespitethesignificanceofEQ,itsintangiblenaturemakesitdifficulttomeasureandtoknowwhattodotoimproveitifyourelacking.
Youcanalwaystakeascientificallyvalidatedtest,suchastheonethatcomeswiththeEmotionalIntelligence2.0book,butunfortunately,
mostsuchtestsarentfree.So,IveanalyzedthedatafromthemillionpluspeopleTalentSmarthastestedinordertoidentifythebehaviors
thatarethehallmarksofahighEQ.WhatfollowsaresuresignsthatyouhaveahighEQ.
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1.Youhavearobustemotionalvocabulary
Allpeopleexperienceemotions,butitisaselectfewwhocanaccuratelyidentifythemastheyoccur.Ourresearchshowsthatonly36
percentofpeoplecandothis,whichisproblematicbecauseunlabeledemotionsoftengomisunderstood,whichleadstoirrationalchoices
andcounterproductiveactions.
PeoplewithhighEQsmastertheiremotionsbecausetheyunderstandthem,andtheyuseanextensivevocabularyoffeelingstodoso.While
manypeoplemightdescribethemselvesassimplyfeelingbad,emotionallyintelligentpeoplecanpinpointwhethertheyfeelirritable,
frustrated,downtrodden,oranxious.Themorespecificyourwordchoice,thebetterinsightyouhaveintoexactlyhowyouare
feeling,whatcausedit,andwhatyoushoulddoaboutit.
2.Yourecuriousaboutpeople
Itdoesntmatteriftheyreintrovertedorextroverted,emotionallyintelligentpeoplearecuriousabouteveryonearoundthem.Thiscuriosity
istheproductofempathy,oneofthemostsignificantgatewaystoahighEQ.Themoreyoucareaboutotherpeopleandwhattheyregoing
through,themorecuriosityyouregoingtohaveaboutthem.
3.Youembracechange
Emotionallyintelligentpeopleareflexibleandareconstantlyadapting.Theyknowthatfearofchangeisparalyzingandamajorthreatto
theirsuccessandhappiness.Theylookforchangethatislurkingjustaroundthecorner,andtheyformaplanofactionshouldthesechanges
occur.
4.Youknowyourstrengthsandweaknesses
Emotionallyintelligentpeopledontjustunderstandemotionstheyknowwhattheyregoodatandwhattheyreterribleat.Theyalsoknow
whopushestheirbuttonsandtheenvironments(bothsituationsandpeople)thatenablethemtosucceed.HavingahighEQmeansyouknow
yourstrengthsandhowtoleanintoandusethemtoyourfulladvantagewhilekeepingyourweaknessesfromholdingyouback.
5.Youreagoodjudgeofcharacter
Muchofemotionalintelligencecomesdowntosocialawarenesstheabilitytoreadotherpeople,knowwhattheyreabout,andunderstand
whattheyregoingthrough.Overtime,thisskillmakesyouanexceptionaljudgeofcharacter.Peoplearenomysterytoyou.Youknow
whattheyreallaboutandunderstandtheirmotivations,eventhosethatliehiddenbeneaththesurface.
Inc.com:WhyYouNeedEmotionalIntelligencetoSucceed
6.Youaredifficulttooffend
Ifyouhaveafirmgraspofwhoyouare,itsdifficultforsomeonetosayordosomethingthatgetsyourgoat.Emotionallyintelligentpeople
areselfconfidentandopenminded,whichcreatesaprettythickskin.Youmayevenpokefunatyourselforletotherpeoplemakejokes
aboutyoubecauseyouareabletomentallydrawthelinebetweenhumoranddegradation.
7.Youknowhowtosayno(toyourselfandothers)
Emotionalintelligencemeansknowinghowtoexertselfcontrol.Youdelaygratificationandavoidimpulsiveaction.Researchconductedat
theUniversityofCalifornia,SanFrancisco,showsthatthemoredifficultythatyouhavesayingno,themorelikelyyouaretoexperience
stress,burnout,andevendepression.Sayingnoisamajorselfcontrolchallengeformanypeople,butNoisapowerfulwordthatyou
shouldunafraidtowield.Whenitstimetosayno,emotionallyintelligentpeopleavoidphrasessuchasIdontthinkIcanorImnot
certain.Sayingnotoanewcommitmenthonorsyourexistingcommitmentsandgivesyoutheopportunitytosuccessfullyfulfillthem.
8.Youletgoofmistakes
Emotionallyintelligentpeopledistancethemselvesfromtheirmistakes,butdosowithoutforgettingthem.Bykeepingtheirmistakesata
safedistance,yetstillhandyenoughtoreferto,theyareabletoadaptandadjustforfuturesuccess.Ittakesrefinedselfawarenesstowalk
thistightropebetweendwellingandremembering.Dwellingtoolongonyourmistakesmakesyouanxiousandgunshy,whileforgetting
aboutthemcompletelymakesyouboundtorepeatthem.Thekeytobalanceliesinyourabilitytotransformfailuresintonuggetsof
improvement.Thiscreatesthetendencytogetrightbackupeverytimeyoufalldown.
9.Yougiveandexpectnothinginreturn
Whensomeonegivesyousomethingspontaneously,withoutexpectinganythinginreturn,thisleavesapowerfulimpression.Forexample,
youmighthaveaninterestingconversationwithsomeoneaboutabook,andwhenyouseethemagainamonthlater,youshowupwiththe
bookinhand.Emotionallyintelligentpeoplebuildstrongrelationshipsbecausetheyareconstantlythinkingaboutothers.
10.Youdontholdgrudges
Thenegativeemotionsthatcomewithholdingontoagrudgeareactuallyastressresponse.Justthinkingabouttheeventsendsyourbody
intofightorflightmode,asurvivalmechanismthatforcesyoutostandupandfightorrunforthehillswhenfacedwithathreat.Whenthe
threatisimminent,thisreactionisessentialtoyoursurvival,butwhenthethreatisancienthistory,holdingontothatstresswreakshavocon
yourbodyandcanhavedevastatinghealthconsequencesovertime.Infact,researchersatEmoryUniversityhaveshownthatholdingonto
stresscontributestohighbloodpressureandheartdisease.Holdingontoagrudgemeansyoureholdingontostress,andemotionally
intelligentpeopleknowtoavoidthisatallcosts.Lettinggoofagrudgenotonlymakesyoufeelbetternowbutcanalsoimproveyour
health.
Inc.com:WhyYouShouldHireforEmotionalIntelligence
11.Youneutralizetoxicpeople
Dealingwithdifficultpeopleisfrustratingandexhaustingformost.ButhighEQindividualscontroltheirinteractionswithtoxicpeopleby
keepingtheirfeelingsincheck.Whentheyneedtoconfrontatoxicperson,theyapproachthesituationrationally.Theyidentifytheirown
emotionsanddontallowangerorfrustrationtofuelthechaos.Theyalsoconsiderthedifficultpersonsstandpointandareabletofind
solutionsandcommonground.Evenwhenthingscompletelyderail,emotionallyintelligentpeopleareabletotakethetoxicpersonwitha
grainofsalttoavoidlettinghimorherbringthemdown.
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12.Youdontseekperfection
Emotionallyintelligentpeoplewontsetperfectionastheirtargetbecausetheyknowthatitdoesntexist.Humanbeings,byourverynature,
arefallible.Whenperfectionisyourgoal,yourealwaysleftwithanaggingsenseoffailurethatmakesyouwanttogiveuporreduceyour
effort.Youendupspendingtimelamentingwhatyoufailedtoaccomplishandshouldhavedonedifferentlyinsteadofmovingforward,
excitedaboutwhatyouveachievedandwhatyouwillaccomplishinthefuture.
13.Youappreciatewhatyouhave
Takingtimetocontemplatewhatyouregratefulforisntmerelytherightthingtodoitalsoimprovesyourmoodbyreducingthestress
hormonecortisol(insomecasesby23percent).ResearchconductedattheUniversityofCalifornia,Davis,foundthatpeoplewhowork
dailytocultivateanattitudeofgratitudeexperienceimprovedmood,energy,andphysicalwellbeing.Itslikelythatlowerlevelsofcortisol
playamajorroleinthis.
14.Youdisconnect
TakingregulartimeoffthegridisasignofahighEQbecauseithelpsyoutokeepyourstressundercontrolandtoliveinthemoment.
Whenyoumakeyourselfavailabletoyourwork24/7,youexposeyourselftoaconstantbarrageofstressors.Forcingyourselfofflineand
evengulp!turningoffyourphonegivesyourbodyandmindabreak.Studieshaveshownthatsomethingassimpleasanemailbreakcan
lowerstresslevels.Technologyenablesconstantcommunicationandtheexpectationthatyoushouldbeavailable24/7.Itisextremely
difficulttoenjoyastressfreemomentoutsideofworkwhenanemailwiththepowertobringyourthinking(read:stressing)backtowork
candropontoyourphoneatanymoment.
15.Youlimityourcaffeineintake
Drinkingexcessiveamountsofcaffeinetriggersthereleaseofadrenaline,whichistheprimarysourceofafightorflightresponse.The
fightorflightmechanismsidestepsrationalthinkinginfavorofafasterresponsetoensuresurvival.Thisisgreatwhenabearischasing
you,butnotsogreatwhenyourerespondingtoacurtemail.Whencaffeineputsyourbrainandbodyintothishyperarousedstateofstress,
youremotionsoverrunyourbehavior.Caffeineslonghalflifeensuresyoustaythiswayasittakesitssweettimeworkingitswayoutof
yourbody.HighEQindividualsknowthatcaffeineistrouble,andtheydontletitgetthebetterofthem.
Inc.com:5AspectsofEmotionalIntelligenceRequiredforEffectiveLeadership
16.Yougetenoughsleep
Itsdifficulttooverstatetheimportanceofsleeptoincreasingyouremotionalintelligenceandmanagingyourstresslevels.Whenyousleep,
yourbrainliterallyrecharges,shufflingthroughthedaysmemoriesandstoringordiscardingthem(whichcausesdreams)sothatyouwake
upalertandclearheaded.HighEQindividualsknowthattheirselfcontrol,attention,andmemoryareallreducedwhentheydontget
enoughortherightkindofsleep.So,theymakesleepatoppriority.
17.Youstopnegativeselftalkinitstracks
Themoreyouruminateonnegativethoughts,themorepoweryougivethem.Mostofournegativethoughtsarejustthatthoughts,not
facts.Whenitfeelslikesomethingalwaysorneverhappens,thisisjustyourbrainsnaturaltendencytoperceivethreats(inflatingthe
frequencyorseverityofanevent).Emotionallyintelligentpeopleseparatetheirthoughtsfromthefactsinordertoescapethecycleof
negativityandmovetowardapositive,newoutlook.
18.Youwontletanyonelimityourjoy
Whenyoursenseofpleasureandsatisfactionarederivedfromtheopinionsofotherpeople,youarenolongerthemasterofyourown
happiness.Whenemotionallyintelligentpeoplefeelgoodaboutsomethingtheyvedone,theywontletanyonesopinionsorsnideremarks
takethatawayfromthem.Whileitsimpossibletoturnoffyourreactionstowhatothersthink,youdonthavetocompareyourselfto
others,andyoucanalwaystakepeoplesopinionswithagrainofsalt.Thatway,nomatterwhatotherpeoplearethinkingordoing,your
selfworthcomesfromwithin.
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