HOW TO COPE WITH
" (I Kings 19:18) Elijah
DISAPPOINTMENT
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here is no one to blame
for where you are, but
YOU! If you RISE, it's
up to you. If you FALL, 12:15)
it's up to you. It is not what
happens, but how we react to what
happens that is important. "We had
hoped!" Those are common
words. Disappointment is one of
life's most common experiences.
Life fails to satisfy expectations. best thing in life. When you break talking about. You should never
There are many reasons and
causes for disappointment,
sadness of the soul, and broken
dreams.
Jesus never intended His Church
to be a referral station, but an
answering station. People do not
understand God's plan. When you advantage.
fail to operate in God's plan for
your life, you feel like your whole
world is falling apart. NO - not the
whole world just your house!
WHAT CAUSES
DISAPPOINTMENT?
1. Sometimes pride, thinking too
highly of oneself.
2. Sometimes sin.
UNNECESSARY
DISAPPOINTMENT
Sometimes disappointment is
unnecessary. When a person
willfully neglects or abuses a
known law of life, he suffers
unnecessarily.
1. Eating unwisely can result in ill
health.
2. Speaking unwisely can result in
poor mental health. Speak
positively. Watch what you say!
3. Judas Iscariot had an evil heart
and lust for gain, which brought
about his death. An evil heart and
lust will make you plan to do 7,000 left.
things you wouldn't normally didn't know the whole truth.
do!!!
5. In English history, the story is
4. David and his sin brought about told of a large sign in the fog
the death of his son. (II Samuel which read, "Nelson defeated. . ."
and England wept. After the fog
lifted the English read the whole
5. Samson's courting of Delilah sign with joy, "Nelson defeated
indirectly caused his blindness. the enemy."
(Judges 16:17)
Don't be down in the mouth, when
REMEMBER: Living right is the you don't know what you are
God's law, it will break you. make a big decision until you
Sometimes you need to blame know the whole truth. Investigate
yourself. LIVE RIGHT OR first. Be sure you get ALL your
SUFFER. The devil can't make facts straight before you make a
you! He can only tempt you. If decision.
you are on the wrong territory, the
devil has the advantage. On the UNAVOIDABLE
right territory, you have the DISAPPOINTMENT
Disappointment sometimes comes
UNFOUNDED as a result of conflict between
DISAPPOINTMENT individuals, other times as
tensions between standards of
If you don't know the whole story, good and evil. This kind of
it can cause many problems. You disappointment cannot be avoided.
need to know the whole truth. Then we must STAND up strong
Emotions will put you in a ditch. and let the adverse winds blow,
LEARN to control your feelings. knowing that Christ is our anchor.
Be more willing to be
Some disappointments are disappointed with people than
actually unfounded. disappointing to God.
1. The disciples thought Jesus was UNBEARABLE
dead, and their disappointment DISAPPOINTMENT
was unfounded. (unfounded
disappointment - does not exist, 1. Some disappointments are
the devil makes you believe a lie) humanly unbearable. These we
must take to Christ. If you don't
2. Mary & Martha thought know which way to go - go to
Lazarus would be gone until the your room & PRAY.
final resurrection.
(I Corinthians 10:13) There hath
3. At the tomb Mary Magdalene no temptation taken you but such
searched for Jesus, only to find out as is common to man: but God is
later that He had risen. faithful, who will not suffer you to
be tempted above that ye are able;
4. Elijah was disappointed and but will with the temptation also
said, "I am the only one to witness make a way to escape, that ye may
for Jehovah." God said, "I have be able to bear it.
JESUS CAN FIX ANYTHING, WAY FOR YOU TO WIN. When knowledge of the holy is
NO MATTER HOW you murmur at bad situations understanding.
UNBEARABLE IT IS TO that's a sign of weakness. 11 For by me thy days shall be
YOU!!! PRAISE & REJOICE ! This will multiplied, and the years of thy
cause God to work for you. life shall be increased.
2. We must never succumb to WHEN GOD WORKS FOR
disappointments. We must triumph YOU - REMEMBER - YOU (Proverb 8:13-21)
over them. We must be masters of WIN!!! 13 The fear of the LORD is to hate
our lives. (I John 5:4) For what evil: pride, and arrogancy, and
soever is born of God overcometh LIFE IS HOW YOU the evil way, and the froward
the world: and this is the victory HANDLE IT - STOP mouth, do I hate.
that overcometh the world, even COMPLAINING - MAKE IT (ARROGANCE - overbearing
our faith. Your faith in God's pride or self-importance)
EXCITING - YOU HAVE TO
Word will ALWAYS cause you to (FROWARD - not easily
overcome! MAKE THAT DECISION. controlled, stubbornly willful)
14 Counsel is mine, and sound
3. Through Christ's strength, love (2 Corinthians 4:8,9) We are wisdom: I am understanding; I
and patience we can overcome troubled on every side, yet not have strength.
unbearable disappointment. Those distressed; we are perplexed, but 15 By me kings reign, and princes
disappointments, unbearable by not in despair; Persecuted, but not decree justice.
human standards, can be changed forsaken; cast down, but not 16 By me princes rule, and nobles,
when we recognize God's hand in destroyed; even all the judges of the earth.
our lives. (Romans 8:28) And we 17 I love them that love me; and
know that all things work together 4 pairs of expressions of those that seek me early shall find
for good to them that love God, to sufferings: me.
them who are called according to 18 Riches and honour are with
His purpose. IF YOU STAY IN 1. Hard pressed, but not suffocated me; yea, durable riches and
GOD'S WILL, HE WILL COME 2. Puzzled, but not utterly baffled righteousness.
TO YOU AND PUT YOU 3. Pursued, but not caught or 19 My fruit is better than gold,
OVER!!! outrun yea, than fine gold; and my
4. Struck down, but not out of the revenue than choice silver.
4. Through unmasking fears and fight 20 I lead in the way of
using faith, we gain victory over righteousness, in the midst of the
unfounded disappointments. (John paths of judgment:
8:32) And ye shall know the truth, 21 That I may cause those that
and the truth shall make you free. love me to inherit substance; and I
DESTINATION: HEAVEN will fill their treasures.
5. When we put Christ first with OR HELL?

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Christian ideals and realize that (Proverb 5:21)
we live in an imperfect world, we hen we leave this 21 For the ways of man are before
can accept unavoidable planet, whether by the eyes of the LORD, and he
disappointment. (Romans 5:3) death or rapture we pondereth all his goings.
And not only so, but we glory in will go to our final (Proverb 4)
tribulations also: knowing that destination. HEAVEN if we have 20 My son, attend to my words;
tribulation worketh patience. lived according to God's Word. incline thine ear unto my sayings.
HELL if we live by our rules or 21 Let them not depart from thine
6. Disappointment changes thinking. The Word of God tells us eyes; keep them in the midst of
dramatically with only one letter in (Proverbs 9:9-11) thine heart.
altered. Change the "d" to "H" and 22 For they are life unto those
it becomes "His appointment." 9 Give instruction to a wise man, that find them, and health to all
Disappointment can give you and he will be yet wiser: teach a their flesh.
stronger faith. Its ALL in how you just man, and he will increase in 23 Keep thy heart with all
handle the disappointment. GOD learning. diligence; for out of it are the
LOVES YOU AND THROUGH 10 The fear of the LORD is the issues of life.
HIS WORD HAS MADE A beginning of wisdom: and the
24 Put away from thee a froward
mouth, and perverse lips put far
from thee.
(PERVERSE - deviating from
what is considered right or good)
25 Let thine eyes look right on,
and let thine eyelids look straight
before thee.
26 Ponder the path of thy feet, and
let all thy ways be established.
27 Turn not to the right hand nor
to the left: remove thy foot from
evil.
(Jeremiah 17:5-10)
WHEN GOD SEARCHES YOUR
HEART WHAT WILL HE FIND?
(Proverbs 16)
2 All the ways of a man are clean
in his own eyes; but the LORD
weigheth the spirits.
(You may fool people, but you can
not fool God. He knows the heart
& mind of man.)
CHECK LIST: LOCATE
YOURSELF
Are you saved? YES or NO 24 He that loveth me not keepeth
not my sayings:
Do you READ the BIBLE
everyday? YES or NO Are you keeping the WORDS of
GOD? Y or N
Do you PRAY everyday?
YES or NO
Have you been baptized in
water since your new
birth? YES or NO
Have you been baptized in
the Holy Ghost with the
evidence of speaking in
tongues? Y or N
Do you belong to a local
church? Y or N
Do you pay tithes
faithfully? Y or N
(Matt. 22:37,38)
37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt
love the Lord thy God with all thy
heart, and with all thy soul, and
with all thy mind.
38 This is the first and great
commandment.
Do you love God with all your
heart? Y or N
LOVE TO GOD MUST COME
FROM:
1. The heart: All inward affections
2. The soul: All consciousness
3. The mind: All thoughts
ALL OF YOU
(John 14:23,24)
23 Jesus answered and said unto
him, If a man love me, he will
keep my words: and my Father
will love him, and we will come
unto him, and make our abode
with him.
(Mark 8:34)
34 And when he had called the
people unto him with his disciples
also, he said unto them,
Whosoever will come after me, let
him deny himself, and take up
his cross, and follow me.
To deny yourself & take up your
cross & follow Me.
The gospel benefits are solely on
the basis of personal choices &
meeting certain conditions.
(John 3:16)
16 For God so loved the world,
that he gave his only begotten
Son, that whosoever believeth in
him should not perish, but have
everlasting life.
4 things one must do to be saved
after being born again:
1. Continue willing to follow Jesus
2. Deny himself daily; renounce
all self-dependence, self-interest,
& self-pursuits which are contrary
to God
3. Take up the cross daily
4. Follow Christ daily
(Romans 6:12-23) (NASB)
12 Therefore do not let sin reign
in your mortal body that you
should obey its lusts,
13 and do not go on presenting
the members of your body to sin
as instruments of
unrighteousness; but present
yourselves to God as those alive
from the dead, and your members
as instruments of righteousness to
God.
14 For sin shall not be master
over you, for you are not under
law, but under grace.
15 What then? Shall we sin
because we are not under law but
under grace? May it never be!
16 Do you not know that when
you present yourselves to someone
as slaves for obedience, you are
slaves of the one whom you obey,
either of sin resulting in death, or
of obedience resulting in
righteousness?
17 But thanks be to God that
though you were slaves of sin, you
became obedient from the heart to
that form of teaching to which you
were committed,
18 and having been freed from sin, 22 But now having been freed Do you love your neighbor as
you became slaves of from sin and enslaved to God, you thyself? Y or N
righteousness. derive your benefit, resulting in
sanctification, and the outcome, 1 Cor. 13:4-8 (NASB)
19 I am speaking in human terms eternal life. 4 Love is patient, love is kind, and
because of the weakness of your is not jealous; love does not brag
flesh. For just as you presented 23 For the wages of sin is death, and is not arrogant,
your members as slaves to but the free gift of God is eternal
impurity and to lawlessness, life in Christ Jesus our Lord. 5 does not act unbecomingly; it
resulting in further lawlessness, so does not seek its own, is not
now present your members as Do you present your provoked, does not take into
slaves to righteousness, resulting members as slaves to account a wrong suffered,
in sanctification. righteousness? Y or N
Does sin have dominion 6does not rejoice in
20 For when you were slaves of over you? Y or N unrighteousness, but rejoices with
sin, you were free in regard to the truth;
righteousness. GOD THROUGH JESUS HAS
MADE US FREE! IT IS UP TO 7 bears all things, believes all
21 Therefore what benefit were US TO STAY FREE. things, hopes all things, endures
you then deriving from the things all things.
of which you are now ashamed? (Matt. 22:39)
For the outcome of those things is 39 And the second is like unto it, 8 Love never fails;
death. Thou shalt love thy neighbour as
thyself.