Also, I'd like to emphasize a part of your post: Full agreement with

mating with OUR Soul first and foremost!...... there truly is NO

substitute for that degree of alignment!!! EVER!!! Feeling the gushes,
waves, vibrations of love and adoration oozing from our IB..... to us.....
WHAT A FEELING THAT IS!!!

Is There One Perfect Person for Me?

Jerry: Is there the "one perfect person" for us to be in a relationship with? And if there
is, do you have any recommendations of how to find that person? Also, what is your
opinion about what we call a "Soul Mate"? In other words, is there an ideal Spiritual mate
for each of us?

Abraham: Throughout your lifetime, and because of your interaction with others, you
have been identifying the characteristics in others that are most appealing to you; and
you have, incrementally, been sending out rockets of desires about those desirable traits.
In other words, bit by bit, you have created (in your own Vibrational Reality) your version
of the perfect mate for you. But before you can find your perfect mate, you must be a
Vibrational Match to that desire, which means, you must consistently be a Vibrational
Match to what you want.

If you are feeling lonely or frustrated about not yet meeting your mate, you are not a
match to your Vibrational Reality, and so your rendezvous is postponed. When you are
envious of others who have wonderful relationships, you are not a match to your
Vibrational Reality, and so your rendezvous is postponed. If you are remembering past
unpleasing relationships and using those as your justification for wanting or needing a
better one, you are a match to what you do not want, and what you do want is
postponed. But if you can bring yourself to a place of consistently feeling good, even in
the absence of the relationship that you desire, the rendezvous is certain. In fact, it
is Law.

The "perfection" of that partner means that your partner matches the things that your
life has caused you to ask for, but the finding of that partner hinges upon you becoming a
match to those desires first. You cannot find your perfect mate from your awareness that
your mate is missing from your life. You have to find a way to no longer offer the
Vibration of a "missing partner."

In the same way that from sifting through your now physical experience, you are
continually launching new desires - you also launched desires about your physical
experience from your Non-Physical vantage point before your birth. And sometimes those
desires, or intentions, did include such specific things as creative traits or talents, specific
things you wanted to do, or specific people you intended to co-create with. A "Soul Mate"
would be such a person. But we usually downplay the idea of "Soul Mates" in the
way that so many people want to address them because, really, every person
with whom you share your planet is a sort of soul mate. And the feeling of
Connection that people are looking for, the exhilaration of being with someone
with their hearts soaring, really is not a function of the person you are with, but
instead it is a function of your own Connection with You. We would prefer to
think of Soul Mate as you mating, or consciously Connecting, with your
own Soul or Source or Inner Being or Self. When you, in your physical moment
and time, are offering a similar Vibration to that of your Inner Being, you have
indeed found your Soul Mate. And if you consistently do that, the people who
will gravitate to you will be enormously satisfying in nature.

Think about what you want in a relationships and why you want it. Look for those around
you who are experiencing good relationships, and feel appreciation for them. Make lists
of the positive aspects of those you have spent time with ... In fact, one of the fastest
ways to make your way to a wonderful relationship is to find any subject that
consistently feels good, and focus on that even if it has nothing to do with
relationships.

When you remember that you have already Vibrationally created your perfect
relationship, and that it is all queued up for you in your Vibrational Reality, and that your
work now is to just not offer an opposing Vibration about it - and that it has to come to
you - then it must come quickly. The number one thing that prevents people from
rendezvousing immediately with their perfect mate is simply their awareness and
discomfort about not yet finding one. Remind yourself, often, that you have done the
work, you have clarified your desire, you have shot off the rockets of desire, Source is
tending to those combined wishes, the Law of Attraction has organized the circumstances
and events through which the rendezvous will occur, and now your work (your only work)
is to stop doing that thing you do that prevents your meeting. When you are "doing that
thing you do," you always, without exception, feel negative emotion. so when you are
lonely, or ornery, or impatient, or discouraged, or jealous - you are delaying the meeting.

If we were standing in your physical shoes, we would remind ourselves that we have
already done the work of specifying and asking. We would accept that the creation is
already accomplished. It is done! And then we would think about it only for the sake of
the pleasure of the thought. When the moment of thought is blissful and satisfying -
without the contradictory energy of trying to make something that has not yet happened,
happen - your Vibration is pure and powerful, and your creation can easily flow without
hindrance.

- "The Vortex - Where the Law of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships"; pp
42-44 (bold red emphases mine. CC)

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So, the long and short of "How *I* found my Soul Mate" is ... I never looked for him. Instead, based on what
Abraham was saying, I decided that I would look in the mirror and LOVE the one I saw there, no matter what. I decided
to let EVERYBODY off the hook, including ME. I decided that NO THING and NO ONE is more important than that *I*
feel good. I decided that *I* AM ALWAYS RIGHT. I decided that I do not need one other person on the planet to love
and accept me in order to feel good. I decided to HAVE FUN. I made TRUE peace with the thought that I might never
again have a partner "of my own", that I do not NEED a partner to feel whole, and that the only partner I REALLY need
is ME, my Inner Being, MY OWN SOUL. And then I went out and HAD FUN ... in my work, in my spare time, with friends,
without friends, I soaked up the admiration of men whether I wanted to be with them or not, I admired what I could
about men whether I wanted to be with them or not, I had a couple of VERY FUN one-night stands WITHOUT
considering whether those guys were potential "partners" or not. I went out dancing with my girlfriends, etc. pp. I
learned to appreciate whatever I could about my ex/roomie again, even though I had chosen to officially end that
particular relationship. VERY IMPORTANT: I NO LONGER TOLD THE OLD, PAINFUL STORY OF THAT
RELATIONSHIP TO ANYONE. If I caught myself starting to talk about it, I cut myself short before I could get into

the dirty details. I MATED WITH MY SOUL, WITH WHO-*I*-REALLY-AM.

And within a fairly short time after really implementing these intentions in my life, simply having FUN, and not even
thinking about the subject of "intimate long-term relationships" any more, things really just fell into place in small, but
miraculous ways to bring me to my rendezvous with my Luscious Lover (please notice that I have not once called him my

"soul mate" ). I hadn't been to my Mom's for Christmas in YEARS because I'd always had to work -
Christmas 2010, my colleague who ALWAYS went to her home country over the holidays couldn't go for some reason, and
took over my shifts. I got cheap train fare down, and PERFECTLY TIMED, to boot - NEVER BEFORE had I had such a
stress-free 400 km journey to visit my family. Spent a WONDERFUL Christmas with my relatives. My sister and my
cousin's GF organized a "girl's night" at Mom's place during my stay, to which my sister felt called to invite one of her
oldest male friends - one I'd met quite a number of times before and liked, but had never considered a potential mate.

That friend did not balk at being the only man at a hen party . And that friend and I talked and talked and
talked, and just somehow GLOWED in each other's company that night - WITHOUT any edginess or trying to make a
particular impression, just BE-ing our relaxed, fun selves. I actually cornered and kissed him that night just because IT
FELT RIGHT, but without thought to the future. And then I went back home, not worrying about the distance or
where this might go or how he might feel about me or even if he might be "mate material", and we stayed in close touch,
and then he almost immediately felt impelled to visit me (dust bunnies, ex/roomie, and all ), and then we GLOWED in

each other's company some more, and it JUST FIT PERFECTLY. Over a year later, we STILL GLOW in each

other's company!

This was not SPECTACULAR, HOLLYWOOD-TYPE FAIRY-TALE stuff, my friends, but it FELT EXCITINGLY MAGICAL
and EASY. TOTALLY UNCONTRIVED. THINGS JUST WORKED - NEXT LOGICAL STEP, NEXT LOGICAL STEP, NEXT
LOGICAL, GOOD-FEELING STEP. Our CROOOOOHOOOOOOZE, my move down south to come live with him, every little

bit - NEXT LOGICAL STEP. Even if others (or that older, less "enlightened" version of me ) might have
thought it "rushed", "unwise", "risky", whatever.

I can't really describe to you the fireworks feeling of KNOWING when we clicked. But I can promise you YOU WILL
KNOW IT WHEN YOU SEE IT - IF you are willing to ALLOW and JUST BE YOU, and then NOT ANALYZE AND DOUBT
IT TO DEATH by getting hung up on some silly details, like PREFERRING brunettes to blonds, and then telling yourself

you could NEVER fall for blonde. Or WORRYING about perceived obstacles or that he might not be "The
ONE", after all, because he's not sending you flowers and texts every other minute. You'll KNOW that
*YOU* ARE "IT" when your feeling is, "HOT DAMN, I like you PRETTY DAMN GOOD, and I REALLY want to see how
this goes, NO MATTER WHAT! I like you so much that I DON'T CARE what you do - there's NOTHING you could do or
be or have that could make me NOT like you!" If there is ANYTHING - their intentions and attentions, your
attractiveness, their attractiveness, the timing, blah-blah-blah - you're having second thoughts about, even though you
are feeling strongly attracted, it's not because the other is not "The ONE" - it's because YOU are not yet a match to

YOU. Which doesn't mean you can't have some FUN with them along the way to pass the time. Oh, and if
you are somehow feeling disappointed that mine is not some wildly romantic, unlikely, dramatic Hollywood-style fairy-tale

story ("What, you connected over turkey a la king and caipirinhas at your MOTHER'S HOUSE???" ), then
that, too, is a sign that you are not yet a match to YOU.

(On a side note: I know a wonderful man who for many years dyed his hair black - it looked very natural, I must say, and
absolutely stunning in combination with his VERY clear blue eyes. But he recently decided to go back to his natural
blonde. Now what would a girl do who INSISTED she couldn't fall in love with a blonde guy, but hooked up with someone
like him? Would she REALLY be silly enough to say, "Nope, I'm outta here!" just because he no longer matched her "list"?

Okay... back to MY Magnificent Man ... This Wonderful and Wondrous Being I am sharing my Life with has EVERYTHING
on my "list" - which I NEVER specifically and consciously created! He treats me like a QUEEN! Yet he does not fawn over
me. And he is the Emperor of My Heart, BEAUTIFUL and SPLENDID beyond compare - even when he's a bit slovenly.
He supports and respects me in a way I've never experienced before, and it seems I support and respect him in a fashion

HE has never experienced before. His sense of humor and his sharp intelligence, his mental and physical
dexterity and his sensuousness are SIMPLY AWESOME. We share many, many interests and preferences, we
ADORE many of the same things, and he has introduced me to things I didn't yet know I COULD ADORE. Just as I do
for him. We complement each other in the most MAGNIFICENT ways, and we give each other the space we each need to

maintain our own Connection - and he's not even an "Aber"! I am ENJOYING THE DICKENS out of this
GLORIOUS Relationship, and contrary to everything I ever learned before Abraham, I am NOT *WORKING* on "making
this relationship work". I am, however, keeping in mind that this ABSOLUTELY AMAZING, ADORABLE AND ADORING,
AWESOME MAN-IFESTATION is NOT the "reason" FOR my Alignment - he is AWESOMELY GOOD-FEELING
CIRCUMSTANTIAL EVIDENCE *OF* MY Alignment. And another VERY IMPORTANT THING: I do my very best to

STAY OUT OF HIS HEAD!

This Handsome Hunk IS currently My Perfect Mate in physical, and I am in nothing less than KNOWING that it will
remain so for the rest of my natural life - but I know that no matter what happens, *I* am MY SOUL MATE, and THAT
is the one Relationship I DO "work" on, because I DESERVE NOTHING LESS THAN TO FEEL GOOD. That's My Story -

and I'M STICKING TO IT!!!

Christine

PS: Abraham have more to say about "Soul Mates" and "Non-Physical Agreements" on page 88 of the Vortex book.

"You could be in the presence of a person with whom you had a Non-Physical alliance,
and if you were disconnected from your Source, you would not recognize the relationship.
Often the people with whom you feel the greatest annoyance or disharmony are actually
your Soul Mates, but, in your lack of alignment with who-you-really-are, you do not
recognize them."