Is relation

turning out to
be bitter
between
university
going students
with their
parents

Prepared for: Michelle Draper

Prepared By: Tasnif Mahmud

ID:1030882530

Submission Date:16th
August,2013

NORTH SOUTH UNIVERSITY

 Acknowledgement

To begin with I am thankful to the almighty Allah for giving me the strength to do my very first

research titled Is relation turning out to be bitter between university going students with their

parents. At the beginning of the course research seemed to me like a walk in the park but doing

the research has been quite a tough stride. I had to do plenty of tasks to which I was quite

oblivious. Despite all those apprehensions and qualms I managed to get hold of the whole

concept of the research, and the person to thank for it is my very own faculty member, Michelle

Draper madam. She has been very helpful throughout research paper, allowing me to consult her

whenever I got stuck with any area of this study. She encouraged me to do my research on my

preferred subject, as opposed to finding any flaws in my choice of topic. Her foreknowledge and

intellect has been very crucial to my research as she gave me information which is difficult to

hoard nowadays. I am thankful to the respondents who took the liberty to fill out my

questionnaires without hesitation. My thanks also go to friends and family for caring and

respecting my purpose of a research and encouraging me all the way.

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 Abstract

The body grows slowly and steadily but the soul grows by leaps and bounds. It may come to its full

stature in an hour.

L.M. Montgomery, Rilla of Ingleside

Canadian author Lucy Maud Montgomery refers adulthood as an untamed horse in her book

Rilla of Ingleside. She explains adulthood as an explorer, freedom seeker and unrest nature.

This is the time where young adult want to explore their abilities, want to know themselves.

They dont want to be controlled by anyone, want to make mistakes rather than sit lame at home.

And for their change which is demanded by their own age make distances with their own

parents. Thats why I am trying to find out how this change effects this children and parents

relation. The goal of my research paper is to find what kind of relation is between university

going students with their parents. At the end, my hypothesis was proven to be correct as majority

of the respondents actually answered the way I was expecting to. For instance, more than 92% of

the parents think that the relation between them with their university going children is not as

good as it used to be with their parents. And more than 80% university going students says that,

they hardly get time so spend with their family. What I found from the survey that, distance

between university going students with their parents is expanding due to their inquisitive nature

and their parents over possessiveness. In addition, invention of western culture is also one of the

main reasons for making this relation bitter.

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 TABLE OF CONTENTS

Page no.

1. Acknowledgement 02

2. Abstract 03

3. Table of contents.. 04

4. Introduction.. 05

5. Background.. 06

6. Areas of research.. 07

7. Hypothesis. 08

8. Methodology. 8-9

9. Primary research 10-30

10. Secondary research 31-35

11. Limitations..36-37

12. Conclusion38

13. References.39-40

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 INTRODUCTION

In human context, a family is a group of people affiliated by consanguinity, affinity, or co-

residence. In most societies it is the principle institution where parents grow children and

socialize them into societies. Their main role as family is to bear their children until they become

independent by themselves. Sometimes this bonding between parents and their children start

distorting especially when their children start going varsity. At this stage, they start to explore by

themselves, their life style start changing rapidly and they feel less accountable to their parents.

This age also refers as emerging adulthood or young adults, the age between ages 18 to 25,

where adolescents become independent and explore various life possibilities. Which

repercussion, parents feel like they losing control over their children.

Bangladesh is a country where family is run like a nuclear shape. Everything is run by the center

of the family. Where accountable to parents is norm for children. But due to invade of western

culture in our society children feel less accountable to their parents especially when they started

to go varsity. I wonder if their relationship is actually getting worst day by day or not, whether

parents or their children not trying to evolve with the changes. . I hope to find answers to such

questions through my research work.

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 BACKGROUND
We dont tend to think in terms these days of anything other than a period of life called Young

Adulthood which prevail from 18 to 25 years old, thought it appears that at least some of the

population choose to refuse young adults their unique role in todays society-that they actually

are different. It is true that whatever they will learn at their early adult ages, of their lives will

remain with them for the rest of their lives. That is why many psychiatrist and social scientists

believe that, the main education or training for the life should be getting from this life stage.

Well, in today`s modern world, where western culture invaded our own culture it is often seen

that they are not being raised by good guideline.

Young adulthood merits scholarly attention as a distinct period of the life course in industrialized

societies. It is the time period of the life time that, offers the most opportunity for identity

explorations in the areas of love, work and worldviews. It is also a period of life that is likely to

grow in importance in the developed countries as well as developing countries too .Many

societies is accepting this as a new demographic group and getting evolve with the changes

brought by young adults.

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 Areas of Research
My research is mainly based on 50 people where 25 0f them are the university going young

adults and rest 25 are the parents of university going young adults. Most of the young adults who

participated in the questionnaire are aged around 20 to 22 years and most of them have average 2

to 3 siblings. On the other hand most of the parents are business man and they spend time at

home average around 8 to 13 hours. The questions include about both parents and their young

adult children social activity, their perception, their way of assisting each other perceptions, how

parents are getting evolve with their children change, how young adult want to treat their

upcoming generation. From my research I found that, maximum young adults prefer to spend

time with friends at weekend. Around 64% young adults thinks that, their parents should let them

live their live like western parents where 80% parents think that, gap between parents and their

university going children is because western culture invading our culture. The most important

thing came out by the survey that, around 64% of university going students are determined to

treat their next generation like western parents where 92% of parents think that, their relation

with their children is not so good as it used to be with their own parents.

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 HYPOTHESIS
Bangladesh is a country where parents like to live together with their children and take decisions

of their children until they become fully self-dependent. From my research, I expect to find is

western culture is being threat to this tradition. Since most Bangladeshi people still follow this

tradition, I think the culture is now changing. It is expected that relation between varsity going

students and their parents is becoming bitter due to this changes. I also think this varsity going

children seek for independence and less accountability where their parents still want

accountability and control in their hands.

Methodology

The completion of this research required the collection and analysis of a large number of data. I

collected these data from two sources. I did both the primary research and the secondary research

on the topic.

Primary Research:

For my primary research I designed a carefully structured questionnaire. Through these

questionnaires I mainly focused on two different groups, those who are studying in university

and those who have university going children to collect the primary data in order to find out

about the respondents think about their relationship with their parents.

For my primary research I would like to conduct a survey on 3 types of people

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 1) General People.
2) Those who doing their graduation
3) Those who have varsity going children

The survey is being done towards the general class of people. I have conducted this survey

among my relatives and also the relatives of my friends. I also tried to conduct the survey among

some North South University faculty members. In order to prove my claim and make my

research project more detailed, accurate and effective I took help from other peoples

(researchers) research regarding this issue. My sources consist of articles, journals from the

internet that connect me to my thesis.

Secondary Research:

For my secondary research, I mainly relied on resources from the internet to acquire different

kinds of data available on the topic. I browsed through articles related to the subject matter using

standard search engines like Google and Yahoo. I also went through a few online journals and

books and also read the discussions of general public on various articles to get a better

understanding of the viewpoints of on the topic.

Primary Data Presentation & Analysis

I mainly focused on two different groups, those who are studying in university and those who

have university going children.

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Here I am presenting data of the survey; that I have done on the university students. I asked them

14 questions and their data is stated below:

From young adult prospective:

10
QUESTIONS A % B % C % D %

1 24 96 1 4 - 0 - 0

2 - 0 - 0 - 0 - 0

3 - 0 - 0 - 0 - 0

4 10 40 9 36 6 24 - 0

5 0 0 2 8 10 40 13 52

6 2 8 8 32 10 40 5 20

7 - 0 - 0 - 0 - 0

8 8 32 17 68 - 0 - 0

9 5 20 13 52 7 28 - 0

10 10 40 15 60 - 0 - 0

11 18 72 7 28 - 0 - 0

12 7 28 18 72 - 0 - 0

13 16 64 9 36 0 - 0

14 9 36 16 64 - 0 - 0
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 Graphical Representation and Analysis
The graphs and their respective explanations are based on the questions asked to the survey

respondents. There were 14 questions in total.

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Q.1.Do you live with your parents?

1
0.9
0.8
0.7
0.6
0.5
Male
0.4 Famale
0.3
0.2
0.1
0

Yes
No

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 The question was designed to know from a general sense to find out how many of university

going students are living with their parents. . As we can see, majority of the responders live with

their parents. But this is tradition not prevailed in western culture. As majority of the responders

says that, they live with their parents among them, 56% are female and only 44 % are male. And

only 4% dont live with their parents. We assume that, they are out of Dhaka city, came here for

study and would prefer to live with their parents.

Q.4.How often do you spend time with your parents?

Hardly 24

Seldom 36

Regularly 40

0 5 10 15 20 25 30 35 40

This question was asked to know, how much they spent time with their parents. This question

bears two significant facts, how much they spend time with their parents and how their bonding

with their parents. Cause children who spend more time with their family tend to have better

boding with their parents. When the people were asked how often they spend time with their

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parents, majority of then said that they spend time with their parents regularly. Almost 40%

responders agreed with that. Though, 36% responders said that, they seldom spend time with

their parents. This is acceptable. Young adult may not have that much time to spend time with

family. But most surprising fact is that, 24% of the responders hardly spend time with their

parents. Which refers that, their boding with their parents is not so good.

Q.5.How many times a day do you talk with your parents?

Less than 3 times a day 52

4 to 5 times a day 40

6 to 7 times a day 8

More than 10 times a day 0

0 10 20 30 40 50 60

This question was one of the most important questions of my questionnaire survey. I wanted to

know how they kept in touch with their parents. Parents tend to call their children several times

to get to know their updates though they are matured enough to go out by themselves.

Surprisingly 52% of the responders said that, they talk with their parents less than 3 times a day.

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It clearly indicates that, they prefer to stay by themselves and dont like to get in touch with their

parents frequently. Approximately only 40% young adults talk with their parents 4 to 5 times a

day, which is low but acceptable. And surprising; only 8% responders talk with their parents 6 to

7 times a day, it indicates that they still like to be in touch with their parents and have secure

bonding with them. But no responders said, they talk with their parents more than 10 times. The

numbers stated above indicates that, now younger adults prefer to be more independent. Which is

good but the numbers also represents that their relations with parents is also diminishing

gradually.

Q.6.How long do you spend time outside your house?

45
40
40
35 32
30
25
20
20
15
10 8
5
0

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 I asked this question to know from my respondents, how long they spend time outside from

their house. 40% of them said that, they spend 8 to 10 hours outside. On the other hand, 32%

responders said that, they spend 12 to 14 hours outside. It clearly indicates that big portions of

the young adults spend maximum time outside. This number is expected. Only 20% of the

responders said that, they spend less than 6 hours outside. Contrary, 8 % of the responders said

that they spend more than 16 hours outside. These numbers indicated two extreme points. First,

there are some young adults who are introverts, prefer to stay at home. Second, some young

adults tend to spend maximum time outside from their home, which is not so good. According to

the survey results, young adults have balanced life.

Q.8.Do you have any restriction going out with your friends at

night?

32%
Yes, have certain restriction to go out at night

68%

No, dont have any restrictions to go out at night

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 When young adults were asked do they have any restriction going out with their friends at

night, majority of them said that, they have no restriction going out at night. They argue that,

their parents are modern enough and have full trust on them. Where 68% said that they dont

have any restriction, on the other hand 32% responders said that they do have certain restrictions

going out with friends at night. Some of them said their parents are kind of strict and some said

their parents are more concerned about their safety. The pie chart stated above indicates that,

young adult are changing social norm where parents are trying to evolve with it.

Q.9.How do you take judgment of your parents?

60
52
50

40

30
20 28
20

10

0
They are very possessive
They are not so strict not so lenient
They are very friendly and understanding

This question was also one of the most important questions of my questionnaire survey. I

wanted to know how they take their parents judgments. This question reveals two important

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things, how young adults or emerging adults take their parents decisions and what is the image of

their parents among them. When the question was asked, 52% responders said that, their parents

are not so strict and not so lenient, which should be ideal among families. Parents should be

friendly enough with their children so that they dont feel hesitate to share with their parents and

strict enough so that their children obey them. On the Contrary 28% responders said that, their

parents are very understanding and friendly. They argue that their parents do trust them, gave

great support to do new things and try most to understand their point of view. But rest 20%

responders said that their parents are very possessive, make them bound to follow their rules.

Q.10.Do you think your parents don`t see things in your way?

60

60

50 40

40

30

20

10

0
Yes, they don`t try to understand my pont of view

Young adults, who recently passed their collage life, try to reestablish their new identity as an

adult. For their inquisitive, they always want to try new things. Which make collation with their

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parents. When the question was asked to the young adults, do they think their parents dont see

things in their own prospective. 40% of the responders do agree that, their parents dont try to

understand their point of view. Which means that, they try do to make them understand them, but

their parents try to impose their decision on them. On contrary, Majority of the responders

disagree with the fact. Almost 60% of the responders said that, their parents try to understand

their point of view. They argue that, their parents are very understanding and try think from their

point of view.

Q.11.Do you think your parents should take only important

decisions in your life?

3%

Yes
97% no

From the above pie chart we can see the two options for this particular question. From the chart

we can see that approximately 97% people think that, their parents should only take important

decisions of their lives such as their marriage. They also argue for their point that, they are

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matured enough to be by themselves. On the other hand only 3 % of responders said that, their

parents should take part in every decision making whether it is important or not. They stand this

point that, being in family the most advantage one can get is support. They can take their parents

support and experience to make decisions. That stated above pie chart, indicates that majority of

the young adults dont like their parents entanglement in their life, which actually supports my

hypothesis that relation between university going students with their parents is distorting.

Q.12.Are you willing to live separate, if you have sufficient money to

live by yourself?

10%

Yes
No
90%

My research target was to find out, is relation between university going students with their

parents is distorting. This question which I asked my responders was the most important

questions among my survey questionnaires. I wanted to know that, are they willing to live

separate if they have sufficient money to live by themselves. This question reveals the shocking

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thing that, 90% of the responders who are young adults will live separate if they have sufficient

money to live by themselves. On the other hand 10% of the responders are willing to live with

their parents though if they get sufficient money to live by themselves. The pie chart started

above reveals that; relation with their parents is really distorting as a result they want to live

separate if they get any chance. They prefer to live by themselves than adjusting with their

parents. This result also supports my hypothesis.

Q.13.Do you think your parents should let you live your life by

yourself like western parents?

36%

Yes
No
64%

Even a decade back, young adults were not so familiar with western culture. The transformation

mainly took place by extensive use of social media. Western culture invaded our norm and

believes. And the change drastically happened among our young adults. For their inquisitive,

they try to intimate every new thing. Thats why I asked my targeted young adults groups do they
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think their parents should let them live their lives by themselves. Surprisingly 64% responders

said that, their parents should let them live their lives by themselves like western parents. They

think, living in modern world we should change ourselves and accept what the developed

worlds citizens are practicing. Only 36% of young adult said that, their parents should not

intimate what western parents are doing. They argue that, we should protect and practice our

culture.

Q.14.Would you treat with your children as you are being treated

from your parents?

Yes; 36

No; 64

So far, throughout the research paper, I have been talking about the topic which says that,

relation between university going students with their parents is getting bitter day by day. But I

have not asked them how they would be with their own children. That is why I added this

question to know from the respondents would they treat with their children as they are being

treated by their parents. As they had to choose one particular answer for the question, their
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answer was quite expected. 64% of the responders said that, they wont treat with their children

as they are being treated by their parents. The number indicates that, they are determined to bring

change in new generations by being more lenient. On the other hand 36% of the responders said

that, Yes, they will treat with their children as they are being treated by their parents, This

number shows that, there are some young adults who bears their tradition and norm in their heart

and would take to their descendents.

Here I am presenting data of the survey; that I have done on the parents who have university

going children. I asked them 10 questions and their data is stated below:

From parents prospective:

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QUESTIONS A % B % C % D %

1 - 0 - 0 - 0 - 0

2 - 0 - 0 - 0 - 0

3 - 0 - 0 - 0 - 0

4 8 32 17 68 - 0 - 0

5 14 56 11 44 - 0 - 0

6 20 80 5 20 - 0 - 0

7 23 92 2 8 - 0 - 0

8 8 32 17 68 - 0 - 0

9 5 24 19 76 - 0 - 0

10 20 80 5 20 - 0 - 0

Q.4.How do you define your relationship with your children?

25
 70

60

50

40

30

20

10

0
32
Very friendly
68
Not so friendly but not so hard

My research target was to find out, is relation between university going students with their

parents is distorting. This question which I asked my responders was pretty straight forward. As

they had to choose one particular answer for the question, the result is bit predictable. . I wanted

to know, how they define their relationship with their children especially university going

children. Almost 68% of the responders said that, their relationship with their children is not so

friendly but not so hard. This number indicates that, they are much lenient with their children, try

to understand their thoughts and also try to make them understand their own point of view also.

Rest 32% responders said that, they have very friendly relationship with their university going

children. This number refers that, their relations with their university going children are very

friendly, they have good understanding and boding among them.

Q.5.Do you think your children stay reserve from you?

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 No; 44%

Yes; 56%

From the above pie chart we can see the two options for this particular question. The result

indicates that, approximately 56% parents feel that, their children stay reserve from them. This is

quite normal among the younger adults being reserve from their parents. Parents think that, their

children should share everything with them, let to know what they are doing and with whom they

are hanging out. But things dont go that way with younger adults as their parents want, so they

stay reserve and protective from their parents. On the other hand 44% of the parents of university

going children said that, their children dont stay reserve from them. Their relation is much

friendly and they do share things with each other.

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Q.6.Do your children prefer to stay in their room than spending with

family?

4%

Yes
No

96%

When parents were asked, do they feel their children especially university going children prefer

to stay their own room than spending time with family majority of them said their children

spend maximum time in their room. Where 96% parents think that their children prefer to stay in

their room on the other hand 4% parents said that their children spend much time with them.

They added that they have good understanding among them and encourage them to share things

with family. The pie chart above clearly indicates that, younger adult are less connected with

their family. This result also supports my hypothesis.

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Q.7.Do you think relationship you and your children is not as good
as you were with your parents?

100
90
80
70
60
50
40
30
20 8

10
0 92
Yes No

My research target was to find out, is relation between university going students with their

parents is distorting. This question which I asked my responders was the most important

questions among my survey questionnaires. I wanted to know that, how parents compare their

relationship with their children as they were with their parents. This question reveals the

shocking thing that, approximately 92% responder who are parents of young adults, dont find

their relationship with their children is not as good as it used to be with their parents. On the

Contrary 8% responders said that, their relationship with their children is as good as it used to be

with their own parents. This pie chart stated above clearly support my hypothesis.

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Q.8.Do you think your children are staying with you because they

are not financially established?

53

52
52

51

50

49

48
48

47

46
Yes No

When parents were asked, do they feel their children especially university going children are

staying with them because they are not financially established. Only 52% of the parents said that

there are lot more reasons to stay with parents, financial instability is not the only key factor for

staying. On the other hand 48% parents think that, their children are staying with them, only

because they are not financially established. This pie chart shows that, there is uncertainty among

parents about their children. They are not confident about their children will they leave them if

they became financially established.

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Q.9.Do you think your children are matured enough to take
decisions of their own life?

80

70

60

50

40

30

20

10

0
24
Yes
76
No

I asked this question to know how parents think their children are matured enough to take

decisions of their life. This question shows how parents treat their young adult. Surprisingly 76%

parents think that, their young adult children are not matured enough to take decisions of their

own life. This result indicates that, either their children are failed to gain their parents trust or

their parents are over possessive. On the contrary, only 24% parents think that, their young adult

children are matured enough to take decisions of their life. The bar chart stated above, indicates

that, parents still want their university going children to ask their parents before they take any

decision.

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Q.10.Do you think invade of western culture creating this gap
between you and your children?

80

70

60

50

40

30

20

10

0
80
Yes
20
No

So far, throughout the research paper, I have been talking about the topic which says that,

relation between university going students with their parents is getting bitter day by day. But I

have not asked them what the thing is creating this relation bitter. As they had to choose one

particular answer for the question, their answer was quite expected. Approximately 80% agreed

with the fact the western culture making this relation bitter day by day. On the other hand only

20% of the responder said that, there is some other factors that making this distance. It may be

they think that, financial or social is the key factor for this gap.

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 SECONDARY DATA PRESENTATION AND ANALYSIS
Online Newspaper:

Hofer, B. (May28, 2009). A parents role in the path to adulthood

[Supplemental material]. The New York Times. Retrieved from

http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2012/05/28/do-we-need-to-redefine-

adulthood/a-parents-role-in-the-path-to-adulthood

In this article Barbara Hofer who is a professor of psychology at Middlebury

College pointed out that, individuals are taking longer time to consider

themselves as an adult. She added that, for their financial instability, they

are remaining dependent on their parents for long time. She said that, this

making them subconsciously dependent and limiting their personality

development. She also refers that, those collage parents who use social

media, tend to have good relationship with their children.

Online Podcast:

The Agenda with Steve Paikin. (September 21, 2010). Emerging Adulthood:

Jeffrey Jensen Arnett [Video podcast]. Retrieved from

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y_f8DmU-gQQ

Here Jerry Jensen Arnett, a psychologist at the University of Maryland said

that, young adult are much more matured then before. He added that, they

are, very steady and getting much time to prepare themselves so that, they
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dont make any mistake in future. He referred them as a new demographic

group.

Online Article:

Reinberg, S. (February 07, 2013). Doctors lounge [Supplemental material].

Young Adults Are Americas Most Stressed Generation: Survey. Retrieved

from http://www.doctorslounge.com/index.php/news/hd/35603

Here author Reinberg, young adult who are between 18 t0 33 year old are

most stressed out than another. Where whole nation average stress level is

around 4.9, young adults stress level is approximately 5.9. He also

mentioned that, unemployment issue, marriage and student loan are the key

factor for their stress.

Online Magazine:
Stein, J. (May 9, 2013). Millennials: The Me Me Me Generation. Time

Magazine. Retrieved from

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2143001,00.html

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Here author Stein, referred young adults as a narcissist. He said that, for

their higher qualification and their passion for their carrier making them

distracted from their own family. The author pointed out some key factor,

how the young adults are motivated, what are their likes, their fame

obsession, why they are becoming selfish etc. Author also referred them as a

hard working generation than baby boomer generation.

Online Article:
Woodacre, B., & Bane, S. (April 23, 2006). Off to College? Enter Here:

The Changing Parent/Child Relationship [Supplemental material] . National

Association for Collage Admission Counseling. Retrieved from

http://www.nacacnet.org/studentinfo/articles/Pages/Relationships.aspx

Here author made a guideline for both parents and their children. When

early young adults complete their high school and get admission in collage it

brings a big change in both parents and their children lives. Author suggests

that, parents should keep patients so that their children can explore by

themselves also suggest the young adults to get in touch their parents

regularly. The authors also added that, parents should get used to with

modern technology so that they can get closer with their collage children and

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also suggests the collage children to make their parents understand what

they what to do or what they want to be.

Online Article:

Coburn, K.L., & Treeger, M.L.(2007). Letting go: Tips for parents of new

college students [Supplemental material] Great Schools. Retrieved from

http://www.greatschools.org/college-prep/planning/304-letting-go-new-

college-students.gs?page=all

Here author Colburn and Treeger made a guideline how parents get evolve

with the change when they sent their children to college. He suggest them to

act like a couch rather than becoming a spectator. He also suggest them get

connected with their children though gadgets and social network. He also

pointed out that, parents should always open their door of conversation to

children so that they dont feel hesitate to talk and make them encourage

about their passion.

Online Article:

Johnson, W.L., Giordano, P.C., Manning, W.D., & Longmore, M.A., (July1, 2010).

ParentChild Relations and Offending During Young Adulthood. Journal of

Youth and Adolescence, 50, 786-799. Retrieved from

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3112466/

Here author tried to point out how young adults get involved in criminal

world. Author pointed out that, parental monitoring during adolescence

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prevent young adult from getting involve in crime. They also added that,

young adult tendency of intimating relationship; employment and family

formation prevail throughout their life course.

Online Article:

Henig, R.M. ( August 18, 2010). What Is It About 20-Somethings?

[Supplemental material]. The New York Times. Retrieved from

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/22/magazine/22Adulthood-t.html?

pagewanted=all&_r=0

Here author pointed out 5 stages of transition of adulthood. He said that,

where majority of the men and woman around 1960s passes this stages and

entered adulthood before 30 on the contrary young adult are taking much

time to pass these stages to adulthood now these days. Due to social and

economic changes young adult are taking much time to think about their

path so that they dont make any mistake in future, moreover they are

staying with their parents while they are going to college. Author said that,

they tendency of living with parents subconsciously limiting young adults

experience and decision making ability.

Online Book:

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Levine, A., & Dean, D.R., (September 4, 2012). Generation on a tightrope: A

portrait of todays college student. Retrieved from

http://books.google.com.bd/books?

id=tif6mXGuW7cC&printsec=frontcover&dq=Generation+on+a+tightrope&h

l=en&sa=X&ei=_64MUqHMBsWJ7AbywICQDw&redir_esc=y#v=onepage&q=

Generation%20on%20a%20tightrope&f=false

Here Levine and Diane Dean addressed this generation as a pragmatic

generation. They found out that, todays young adult think they are going to

collage to have trainings and skills for their future work field rather than to

develop moral values. They also found out that, young adults are very much

optimistic about their work but at same time almost equally pessimistic

about the future of the country. They also said that, young adults are much

more serious about their academic studying than 1970s young adults. They

pointed out that, young adults real strength is their real digital skills.

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 Limitations

Pre-Research
Before my real research started it is always important to do a pre-test of the hypothesis on a

small sample group. Though I managed to discuss my questions with few parents and their

collage going children to get an idea of the possible answers, I was unable to check the questions

with some other parents due to the lack of time.

Design of the Questionnaire

It is true that each and every question was not perfectly designed. I understood that problem

when I took a sample survey of 2-3 people in my pre-research. Then before going to do the real

survey I consulted with my faculty member and made my questions more specific in order to

make sure that they do not get diversified from my hypothesis. Sometimes I saw that people got

confused with some questions especially when they were asked to give their opinions in the open

ended section of the questionnaire.

Information and sample size

For the primary data analysis there was a limitation in data gathering. I had to limit my sample

size up to 50 for the less accessibility to meet the respondents as some of the children both male

and female were professional and busy with their work.

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Time Constraint

It is an intensive research to be conducted in a broader scale and so it obviously requires more

time than any other projects. But as we had to maintain our regular class schedules as well as

with the exams of all the courses, there was a time constraint conducting the research. This type

of research work needs proper dedication and effort with adequate time and that was not

completely possible for us to give due to our time shortage. Again, if we had enough time we

could have managed to increase our sample size which would indeed make our results look more

efficient and accurate.

After all the limitations I have tried to overcome it and make my research paper more

informative as well as interesting.

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 Conclusion
I would like to conclude by saying that, young adults have varying attitude

towards their own parents, both positive and negative. They want their

parents to treat them like western parents do on the other hand want to stay

with their parents after getting financially established. From the parents

prospective, they don`t consider their university going children as a adult,

want them to take their parents advice at every step. From my research I

found out that parents want their children be treated how they are treated by

their own parents while young adults want to treat their next generation in a

new way. . As this is quite extensive research paper, someone choosing this

topic for their research paper should do a survey on the parents and their

university going children from city and village backgrounds. I have mostly

kept myself busy by focusing on the certain factors, but due to the shortage

of time and other limitations, I could not really justify my hypothesis very

well considering other factors. I would not say that I can solidly prove my

hypothesis but I am pretty much sure that a extensive survey program can

help to give a solidified answer to if the relation between university going

students with their parents is getting bitter day by day.

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