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The Good Life
My mother was the one for spontaneous actions, for example, she has had jobs from dog
training, to real estate, to having her own dog boarding company, to bank telling, to mortgage
brokering. Another example would be her closing her eyes and randomly choosing North
Carolina to move all of us, from New Hampshire. My sisters and I would always think that it was
because she was not happy. We did not know how to make her happy. But I sat my mom down
for about an hour to interview her, and it turns out she is living a life without regrets.
I started the interview to get a good background (and this is something I have been
curious about so what better way than to bring it up in the interview?) I started with how was
your childhood. Her response was a little heartbreaking, I did not have the greatest childhood,
but did not have the worst I guess. I had an alcoholic, abusive father who abused my mother and
us. I had a mother who was physically there but was not there emotionally or mentally. I lived in
an area where there was a ton of bullying, and they liked to target me. I had no support from
school or home. I felt a little guilty for making her have to talk about that. She began to go on a
tangent on how kids these days have it easier, there has been an established line between abuse
do you truly believe in? This was her answer, my religious belief is not what I was raised to
believe, I do not really know what I believe but I believe in something. I do not believe in
evolution, I believe there is something I just do not know what. I do not believe in the God I was
taught to believe in. To me, it was two thousand years ago, someone was buried alive, and they
thought he was dead and he came back and they thought it was a miracle but he was not really
dead. The bible to me is just a book someone wrote. My belief is that, if that were true we would
still be seeing that today. I was a little thrown off; I did not expect that to be her answer. She
began to tell me that religion angers her because she was grown up to have a literal fear of god.
She feels as though we misinterpreted religion along the way. We do not see it as a happy lining
sadness. I wanted this to be based on the good life. So I just asked the broad question, what do
you think a broad definition of a good life is, for everyone to go by? Her answer made me tear
up, I think I am living the good life! I have three beautiful, smart girls, it was not always easy
with two marriages but I do not ever think to myself and wish I had done things differently. I
look back at my life and I think everything that I did and every decision that I have made led me
to where I am right now, I am living somewhere where I have never been happier, my girls are
all successful and awesome people, and yes I do take some credit for that. I found an awesome
husband and I am financially comfortable and live in a beautiful house, I could not be happier.
Her answer reminded me of Anicius Boethius in chapter 2 of the Happiness Hypothesis,
he said, nothing is miserable unless you think it so; and on the other hand, nothing brings you
happiness unless you are content with it. I believe her answer is very similar with him because
she had so many things that she can be sad about, her childhood was awful, my mother does not
make a lot of money and religion makes her angry, yet she still finds happiness within others and
her surroundings. A lot of people cannot overpower the bad, but my mother does it every day.
My final question to her was, what if someone isnt living a good life, how can they
change that? Her answer was, I think you have control over it, well there are somethings out
of our control like our health and natural things, but if you are not where you want to be
financially or religiously, you can help yourself and you can handle that. You have control on
how you accept it and you can choose to feel sorry for yourself or you can change it. I think her
answer was something I kind of believe in; she went on to say happiness is being content and
appreciating what you have. She defines the good life for others in a negativity bias sort of way;
you need to overcome the good. You need to know that bad is not stronger than good, do not
the fullest and ever regret anything you ever do, you never know where life will lead you and if
you do not take risks, you will not be happy with your outcome. Her answer was one I was not
expecting, you expect your mom to tell you to always be careful and to not do anything risky, my
mom told me to do the opposite. She tells me she does not regret any decision because every one
interviewing my mother. She even mentioned Prozac! She told me she was depressed when she
was younger and she told me how her parents got her on all of these medications. She had really
bad side effects and that is why she does not push medications on us unless they truly make you
feel better. I mentioned affective style, which according to Haidt is a persons average or typical
level of happiness. She told me she saw that to an extent. She did not believe it was a magic
tube filling up in your brain, she believes it is different for every person and it changes over our
lifetimes. I asked her if she has reached her affective style she told me yes and no, she believes
she can less stressed but she does not think she can be more happy than where she is now. I told
her to get rid of her stress she should try meditation, she said that maybe she will. I tried to base
my whole interview on this chapter because it reminded me of my life and my mothers so I tried
else can too. We just need to push ourselves. I believe in the conclusion at the end of chapter
five, the Pursuit of Happiness, we just need some balance and some specific guidance about
what to strive for. I believe if everyone lived their lives with a positive outlook and something
to strive for everyday, then we can all live the good life. My mom tied into all the ideas of a good
life. We talked about religion, money, childhood, depression and almost everything else covered
in class. She always has an opinion for everything. I told my mom about some of the quizzes we
took in class too, I watched her take one of the quizzes to realize we got the same answers! The
quiz was the one about the empathy quotient, she had an opinion on that too, I think if you are
not empathetic, you will have a hard time in this world. She explained it by saying that living a
good life means to be happy with yourself and others around you. You need to be able to share
your thoughts with people because bottling up your feelings will not make you happy either. My
mom told me time and again in the interview that she was living a good life; I always thought
she did not see her life in that way. My sisters and I were wrong about my mother in many ways,
but especially about her happiness. We were so focused on finding physical things and mental
things to make her happy, but we never realized that we, ourselves, are her happiness.