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volunteered to direct a play while taking a full load of 16 hours of class, and my father was
diagnosed with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis. (ALS, you know, the ice bucket challenge
everyone and their mother did back in 2014.) For some time, his doctors thought that what he
was experiencing was multifocal motor neuropathy before identifying it as being ALS. I knew he
was ill, but I didn't realize the severity. In May of 2016, we met for lunch to try to heal our rocky
relationship, and he told me that he was ill. I hadn't talked to him in a year, and ignored the
typed letter he had sent me at the beginning of the fall semester. He grieved not being able to
walk me down the aisle and not being able to hold a grandchild or hope to walk the steep slopes
of Calabria, where his parents were from. We've had so many disagreements and so much
anger between us, but no one wants to see their father reduced to tears as he reaches his
winter days.
Come the New Year, I realized that 2016 wasn't left behind, not at all. I was still faced
with the reality of American politics, the reality of the hate and malice that fills the hearts of men
and their leaders. My father was still sick. My family felt fractured. I went into the spring
semester ready to conquer all regardless, only to have my feet knocked out from under me by
an enemy that can neither be physically fought or seen. I fell into a depressive episode so
draining and taxing that I struggled with my work. When the depression let up, anxiety took its
place. The only constant was the voice of the eating disorder in my ear promising me that I
didn't need that meal, I didn't need to eat today - it was all for my own good to not be the pig I'd
let myself become. My schoolwork came second to my fatigue, to my loss of hope, and to my
defeat. Somehow, I made it through spring semester with my mind and GPA in one piece.
I remain confident in my capacity to work and learn in the university setting and to fight
past my own struggles to succeed, but this coming year is going to be increasingly difficult.
Recently, my father and step-mother traded in their Toyota Camry for a modified Sienna, one
that has a ramp that lowers and space for a wheelchair. His doctor is ready to write him a
prescription for a powered wheelchair, theyve already made the bathroom handicap-accessible,
and one of my cousins will be building a ramp in the garage. I learned all three of those things at
once, and it came as a blow. This has been real for me in the past year, but what Im coming to
see is that this isnt normal. This isnt going to be the kind of death a lot of other people go
through with their parents or grandparents, one that happens in old age or is a sudden thing like
cardiac arrest or a stroke, or an aneurysm, like with my grandmother. I dont get to rip off the
bandaid and then mourn. This is going to be a continuous grieving process as I watch him fade
bit by bit, week by week. I turn 21 in October, and Im living something my friends wont likely
see in their lives for another 40 years. Im heartbroken and Im scared. Who wouldnt be?
However, Im being taught all over again that I dont have to be strong all the time, and Im
Ive grown in the past year. I know that I have. Ive realized that at some point, old
grievances must be put to rest in favor of forgiveness and care. As much as Ive worked to tried
to separate myself from my family, I need to be close to them and keep that love and support in
my life. My hopes and dreams arent going anywhere; I have time to see them through. At the
end of the day, my peace of mind comes first. Before Im anyones student, daughter, or sister,
Im a human who fights to heal and to be at peace in my own mind and body. That doesnt mean
that I dont have any of myself to give to others. Im coming to see that I have an overflow of
love and patience and understanding to part onto others who need it, but nothing is so important
to sacrifice my health.
trying to learn more about my family: our history (my grandparents were both Italian
immigrants), our recipes, our stories, and our traditions. I want to develop a deeper
understanding of my family to help me grow closer to them. This time last year, I was preparing
to go to France. Now Im preparing for summer classes and looking at what I can do with my
talents. Im applying to volunteer at Christ Hospital, Im doing a fieldwork practicum with art
therapy for the elderly with dementia in the fall. My continuing goal this year is to work towards
peace and mindfulness, so Im going to try (emphasis on try) meditation and group therapy. Ive
realized that theres no rush in what Im doing. Im nearing the end of my coursework and Im
preparing to do my capstones for my two majors in my third year. Ive decided not to graduate
early simply because the idea terrifies me and Im just not ready. Im adding on a minor in
anthropology to augment my understanding of the world and its peoples. I love learning about
from where we came and to where were going in our cultural and linguistic development. I have
a cousin who is a professor of anthropology and Im going to ask her just how I can connect that
I have absolutely no idea what this year will bring for me. However, Im going to delve
deeper into myself and be whomever Im going to be. That would be enough.