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Jabriah Stevens
Professor Kays
ENG 102-22
May 2, 2017
Divorce is a process in which two adults go through when they no longer want to be
legally married. Divorce is an ongoing issue in America and has been increasing significantly
over the years and the years to come. Also, the divorce rate in the United States is the highest in
the world and over one million American children suffer from the divorce of their parents
(mediate.com.) There are many divorces that involve children, and creates an enormous change
in the family structure. Which it could either affect the child positively or negatively and in my
research paper I will discuss the negative and positive effects that divorce has on children.
As much as people always focuses on the negative sides of things, there is always a
positive side in every situation. When it comes to divorce thats dealing with children, you
should keep in consideration your child and how your child may deal with the divorce. As much
as it's already difficult for the parents itself. Imagine a child younger dealing with the aftermath.
It could be very difficult; however, if it was for the sake of their childs well-being and their
safety, it could potentially be beneficial. According to (Susan Pease), divorce can actually be a
relief to the children because they no longer have to live with all the tension they had
experienced. If the parents have been constantly fighting, arguing and having many
disagreements. After the separation and the divorce, the child will no longer have to deal with it.
It could also increase their focuses on school. Children who must witness their parents fight
throughout their marriage become a norm to the child. The fighting between the parents causes
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behavioral problems in school which the child begins to act up in class and show aggression as
well as a decrease in their school work. It takes away the childs focuses, affecting their well-
being at school and their school work. But after the separation, the child doesn't have to any
longer deal with it and can potentially do better in school. In addition, it is not healthy for
children to be in an environment where they see the lack of respect and trust Often after the
divorce the parents find a way to get along for the sake of the children once they are no longer
living together (Richards, Naomi). Once the child is no longer exposed to a hostile living they
benefit tremendously.
Children can benefit from their parents divorce if each parent communicates effectively
with each other and with their child. They should explain the separation while keeping the child
out of any squabbles, they shouldnt bring the child between the two of their differences. It was
shown that children who didnt see it coming, are the ones who are more psychologically
affected the most (psychologytoday.com). They usually didnt have any time to deal with the
understanding of the separation and because the parents didnt communicate well with them.
They are lost and left to fill in whats going on, on their own. Children who have a sense of
stability and the strong sense of family can help indicate whether the child can benefit (Demo,
David). If the parents communicate and work together for the sake of the child, the child can
succeed after the divorce. Parents shouldn't show any lack of love and support while going
trough the divorce, if they lack their responsibility which is their child then they could potentially
affect their child rather than help them. If the parents can communicate and work together for the
sake of the child, it could teach the child how to deal with situations in life. Those who parents
were in an abusive relationship, also teaches the child that they dont have to stay in the abusive
relationship or a relationship that doesnt make them happy. In some cases, some parents even
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find a way to get along for the sake of the children once they are no longer living together. Again
they can learn that relationships dont have to break down completely. They can be changed into
Divorce can be very traumatic and can affect a child either positively and negatively. It
all depends on three factors according to Meditiate.com. Children are affected based on the
quality of their relationship with each of their parents before the separation, the intensity and
duration of the parental conflict, and the parents ability to focus on the needs of children in their
divorce. Therefore, children can also be affected negatively, in which many people tend to focus
on the most. Children are mostly psychologically and mentally affected negatively. Many
children deal with many issues such as peer pressure, finding themselves, and maturing. So,
when it comes to their parents getting a divorce, it could become another stress factor. As much
as it becomes difficult for the parents to stay in the marriage, they also tend to not realize how
divorce could possibly affect their children as much as it does to them. Also, it can be a bad
effect on their child. If you are constantly fighting in front of your child, you may make your
child believe it's ok to abuse. Children learn from their parents and what they see.
Age plays a role in the effects of divorce on children. Children who are usually younger,
are affected the most due to their parental dependency and inability to understand. They usually
dont understand whats going on. Also, children of a young age usually tend to believe the
divorce is their fault. Children blame their selves and try to find ways to keep their parents
together such as a change in their behavior or doing things around the house that they believe
will keep their parents from fighting and fussing. Children at a younger age tend to feel
neglected and abandoned, they may feel like if daddy and mommy can stop loving each other
that they can stop loving them. They just assume their parents no longer them. Many children
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also dream of the fantasy of mommy and daddy. So, when their parents divorce, they assume
they will either get back together or they expect and wishes that their parents should be together.
Children who are older may have a better understanding and can usually handle the news of the
divorce much better. However, every child is different so they will react differently.
Divorce is an unpleasant situation and can become detrimental to a child. It was shown
that parental divorce can have detrimental effects on school-age children and adolescents.
(Clarke-Stewart). When it comes to children dealing with their parents divorce, they ultimately
either have to deal with self-esteem, depression, school achievement, and psychological
adjustment. Divorce increases behavioral problems within children. They began to be troubled
children and develop problems with anger, disobedience and rule violations. Divorce can affect a
child in many ways. It is also shown how children from divorced parents are more than likely to
get the divorce later in their lives. They usually have more relationships problems than someone
who parents are married. Overall, divorce could potentially be beneficial to the child or could
potentially affect the child. It all depends on many different reasons such as the child itself, the
reason for the divorce, how the parents were during the divorce and after and if they
communicated well with the child. Again, every child is different therefore, they are also affected
differently. However, parents should also consider the child well-being during the divorce rather
than theirs. They need support systems, they depend upon their mom and dad, the ones who
raised them. Therefore, if they cant be role models and love them, they wont think no one else
will. Divorce changes everything and become stress factors on children and nonetheless, parents
Work cited
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Richards, Naomi. "The Positive Effects of Divorce on Children." Divorce and Separation
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