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Emotional Eating
Survival Guide
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G ETTING G ROUNDED
Welcome,
sister.
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What Is Emotional Eating?
Emotional eating is eating food for rea-
sons other than physical hunger.
For many people, the emotional eating cycle starts with
an intense craving, moves to satisfying that craving,
then feeling guilty about it.
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Why Did I Start Eating Emotionally In The First Place?
Emotional eating happens as a reaction to restriction.
When you try to lose weight by limiting calories or avoiding certain foods, you can set off a binge.
Sometimes simply deciding that you want to lose weight can set off a binge.
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Remember that there is How Do I Stop Emotional Eating?
Follow the Intuitive Eating Plan (Page 6), which will explain
beautiful woman. Treat yourself with kindness, no matter what size you are or
what you just ate
You may be scared of losing weight, and your body may not
it, it IS possible to stop. be ready to release its boundary of safety
Food is delicious!
I can show you how. Some feelings are uncomfortable, and feeling full and guilty
from eating may be easier than feeling bad
However, you may find that you prefer to keep your weight!
This is absolutely fine, as well.
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The Solution
Somewhere along the way,
women lost touch with their
wild, instinctual nature.
W E WILL COVER
Ending emotional
3. Methods for
own language
hearing your body eating
speak in its
once and
4. A guide for all...
to nourishing yourself emotionally so
that food is no longer the go-to for emotional
...requires proving to your body that you wont restrict
satisfaction
it, and that youll give it what it needsboth emotion-
ally and physically.
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The Wise & Wild Way If you feel triggered by following a plan
because it makes you feel like youre go-
1. Wait Until Youre Hungry To Eat ing on a diet, consider this the anti-diet.
2. Give Yourself What You Really Want Other diets and eating plans are based on the idea that
someone else knows better than you.
3. Eat SLOWLY And Sitting Down
This plan is based on the idea that you know whats
4. Finish When Youre Pleasurably Satis- best for yourself, and that your body has inherent in-
stinctual wisdom that will allow you to reach its ideal
fied, Not Painfully Stuffed weight naturally and without restriction.
5. Feed Your Emotions With Compassion
6. If You Binge, Mother Yourself While diet plans are based
7. Wear Clothes That Fit on trying to change your-
8. Say No To Food, People, And Situa- self, this plan is based on
tions That dont Feel Good Or Nourish
Your Soul loving who you really are.
9. Say Yes To The Life Your Soul Wants Physical change occurs as
To Be Living
a byproduct.
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Reflection Questions:
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S ECTION 1 Physical Hunger
1. Wait Until Youre Hun- For most people, physical hunger feels like a rumbling
gry To Eat in the belly, a hollow emptiness, a dull ache that comes
in waves of intensity: slow and subtle at first, then in-
creasingly strong until it hurts.
Practice eating when you experience
Most people experience physical hunger every 3-5
physical hunger, not emotional hunger. hours, depending on what they eat, genetics, age, physi-
cal activity, etc.
Whats the difference? Emotional Hunger
Emotional hunger usually occurs in the mouth, not the
belly. You may notice increased saliva or an itchy, rest-
less feeling in the inside of your mouth. Also, emo-
tional hunger happens immediately and urgently, like
you must eat NOW or you will die (whereas physical
hunger takes a while to build).
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If you dont know what to do while Sometimes we cant help but watch the
youre waiting for hunger to come... Try: clock to countdown the minutes until we
can eat again.
Going for a walk
What do you do if youre not counting down the min-
Talking to a friend
utes till you eat again? You live your life.
Journaling
Imagine all the head-
Working space and energy that
would be available to
Exercising
you if you no longer ob-
Being in nature sessed over food. Imag-
ine living your life to
Relaxing
the fullest.
Reading
Imaging bringing your
Traveling focus away from food
and towards what
Making art youre actually doing in
Meditating / pray- this present moment.
ing Imagine going on a
date, calling a friend, or
Making love trying something new.
Imagine getting up, tak-
Dancing
ing a shower, and going
Sleeping out.
How Do I Know If Im Hungry? When You Do Feel Hunger, EAT
On a scale from 110 of physical hunger, if 1 is fam- Dont try to see how long you can get away with not eat-
ished and 10 is overstuffed, I recommend starting to ing. This will only lead you to binge later on. Prove to
eat somewhere around 34. If you wait too long, you yourself that you wont starve yourself by eating when
are more likely to overeat. your hungry.
Again, if youre not sure if youre physically hungry, Little by little, your body will get the hint that you are
give it a few minutes. Emotional hunger is ur- following its cues, and it will stop leading you to binge.
gentphysical hunger can wait a bit.
Note: I recommend carrying food with you at all times
Waiting for physical hunger may feel like a long time. A in case you get hungry. Carrying food not only helps
lot of people normally spend so much time thinking prevent the kind of hunger that sets you up to overeat,
about food, that the idea of waiting for hunger feels like it also lets you know that food is always on hand if you
peering into a void. And if youre worried that you for- need it, so you dont have to overstuff yourself at meals.
got what hunger feels like, just keep waiting. It will
come sooner than you might think, and when it does, it Remember that real life happens
will be unmistakable.
between meals! Plus, there are
Its very normal to experience lots of emotional hun-
gers and longings between physical hungers at first, as few things more pleasurable
the body starts to trust that will be fed. Remember to
be extra sweet to yourself if this happens, and practice
than eating food when youre ac-
filling yourself up in other ways. tually hungry.
Remember that real life happens between meals! Plus,
there are few things more pleasurable than eating food Its worth the wait.
when youre actually hungry. Its worth the wait.
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A Note On Blood Sugar
I want to address low blood sugar, which is characterized by lightheadedness, dizziness, or crankiness. Experiencing
these symptoms can be a sign that your blood sugar is low. Even if you dont feel a physical hunger in your belly, eat
a little bit of food to perk yourself back up, as low blood sugar can lead to a binge.
If low blood sugar episodes happen to you often, try to increase protein in your diet and cut back on coffee, alcohol,
sugar, and processed carbohydrates.
Experiment with your body and be gentle if you notice yourself feeling restricted. The key is to focus on how your
body feels, and eating foods that hurt your body restricts you from feeling good.
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Reflection Questions:
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S ECTION 2
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Obeying your bodys cravings provide you with deeper satisfaction.
Its also the best way for your body to in-
tuitively tell you what nutrients you may
be lacking.
For example, when I started this practice, I craved a
lot of cheese and dairy, probably because I needed
more calcium or protein. I hadnt let myself enjoy
dairy because I thought it would make me fat, but
once I started to eat it when I was hungry and trust
the reasons why my body was asking for it, I felt so en-
ergized and nourishedI actually lost weight!
The best part is, when you let your body tell you what
kind of food it wants when youre hungry, you experi-
ence a kind of pleasure that is totally unparalleled.
Your food will taste better than you can imagine! This
is your body thanking you for listening and giving it
what it wanted. It feels great and strengthens the bond
between body and mind.
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The following checklist can help you con- The Wise & Wild Checklist
nect with your bodys wisdom and in- Are you truly physically hungry?
stantly figure out what would be most sat-
If you close your eyes, can you can get a vision,
isfying, pleasurable, and beneficial to eat. taste, or feeling of what you want?
This checklist only works when youre physically hun-
Is it warm?*
gry, in the 34 range on a scale from 110.
Is it cool or cold?
If you wait too long to eat, you will be so hungry that
you wont have specific cravings and youll want to eat Do you want something crunchy?
anything!
Do you want something soft and creamy?
If youre not hungry and youre craving a specific food,
get curious as to why that food is calling to you, what it How about something green?
represents, what memories you have around it, and Do you want something heavy? Light?
how that specific craving might indicate an unmet emo-
tional need. Is it sweet?
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S ECTION 3
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What I Learned
When I was emotionally eating a lot, I really struggled with going out of my way to give myself what I wanted and sit
down to enjoy it. I thought I didnt deserve to have my whims catered to. I wasnt allowed to have a reward unless I
had accomplished something. So I would deprive myself of the pleasure of food and take a practical approach to
things, rushing through my meals to get to the next task. But since I wasnt actually present for my meals, Id end up
overeating or bingeing later to try to access the pleasure and self-nurturing I was desperately seeking.
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Create A Sacred Space If you find yourself speeding up, have compassion for
yourself. You are on a healing journey, and it takes
time to change old habits. Simply come back and slow
Sit down while you eat.
down. Remind yourself that you are ALWAYS allowed
Do not put anything in your mouth while standing. to eat whatever you want when youre hungry, so
This includes while you prepare food. There have been theres no need to rush.
so many times when Im cooking a meal and I keep tak-
If youre finishing a meal and realized you rushed
ing so many bites of all the things Im putting into it,
through the whole thing, you can still chew the last bite
that by the time I sit down to eat, Im no longer hungry.
slowly or set the intention to slow down at your next
If you have to taste the food youre cooking, take small meal.
licks or tiny bites, but no mouthfuls. Sneaking food can
If you eat lunch at your desk at work, turn off your com-
lead to a lot of unexplained weight gain. Plus, how can
puter while you eat. If you can, sit somewhere else.
we really enjoy food if were not present for it?
Nourishing your body is far more important than what
If youre alone, prepare an eating space as you would your boss or co-workers think of you.
for a guest. Dont just plop on the couch with a pot of
Minimize distractions while you eat. You may listen to
mac and cheese and wooden spoon. Place your food in
music, but avoid reading, watching TV, crying, or hav-
a bowl or on a plate, get your favorite spoon or fork,
ing stressful conversations while you eat. Simply sit
make a setting at your table, light a candle and give a
and eat. If youre eating with other people, be mindful
blessing if it feels good.
of how the conversation is affecting you. When we eat,
Whether alone or with other people, eat slowly. Place we consume more than just our foodwe also consume
your fork down between bites. Remind yourself that our environment. So choose a pleasant environment
you are allowed to eat. without distractions and enjoy your food.
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What comes up for you around eating without TV or reading? Does it sound boring?
Lonely? Try it out and see what happens.
For me, eating without distractions and actually focusing on my food was one of the most difficult and important
steps in overcoming emotional eating. If I absentmindedly watched TV while eating a bowl of soup, Id want to keep
eating after I finished (even though I was full) because I wasnt actually there for the soup and felt cheated on the ex-
perience of eating.
When we focus on our food and are actually there for the experience, we can receive the full pleasure of whatever
were eating. Plus, we are far more aware of when we are satisfied, so we end up eating less.
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Save yourself the binge and go out of
your way to be present while you eat and
and enjoy your food.
The more present you are for your food, the more
likely you will be to recognize when youre no longer
hungry.
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S ECTION 4
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How Will I Know When To Stop?
If youve started eating around 3-4 on a scale from 1-
The key to knowing when 10, I recommend finishing around 7-8. You want to be
satisfied, nourished, and energized (not stuffed, slug-
your body is satisfied is to gish, and bloated).
only start eating when Some foods may only take 3 bites to get you to 7-8,
other foods may take you 20 bites. Let yourself be sur-
youre physically hungry. prised by the actual amount of food your body re-
quires... and be open it being less than you think.
If you start eating without waiting for If youve had a few bites of your meal and you get the
signal that youre satisfied, make a movement or ges-
your body to tell you to start, you wont
ture that communicates youre done. I like to push my
receive any cues from you body about plate away a little bit, place my napkin on the table,
when to stop. lean back in my chair, or take a deep breath and put my
hand on my belly. Make some gesture as an anchor for
The only way youll know if youre satisfied is if you
you to signify youre finished eating, even if the food is
slow down enough to feel your bodys signals. Put your
still in front of you.
fork down between bites, sit back, relax, and chew.
If you get the signal from your body that youre satis-
Take your time and remember that you are always al-
fied, but you still want to eat food, take a breath, place
lowed to eat whatever you want when youre hungry.
your hand on your belly, and connect with what you
Theres no need to rush.
really need. Or, simply remove the food from your area
(even if it means calling a waiter over to take it away
while other people at the table continue their meal).
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Practice discovering what
satisfaction feels like in
your body. Make it a game
at every meal.
If you grew up in a family like mine, you might feel
guilty about throwing away leftover food once youve
had enough. I invite you to practice leaving a bite or
two on your plate, and noticing what comes up. Ask
yourself whats more important: not wasting food or
carrying extra weight on your body?
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S ECTION 5
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Congratulate yourself for noticing that Not turning to food when youre experiencing intense
emotions can be scary at first. When I stopped using
you want to eat even though youre not
food, it felt like my emotions were too big for my body
hungry. This is a huge step. and I needed food to help soften the intensity of what I
felt. The sweeter and more compassionate I was to my
Then take a breath, place your hand on your belly, have
emotions, and the more I listened to what they had to
compassion for the part of you that wants to eat, and
say, the less I resisted them, and the milder they got.
ask yourself what you need.
They were no longer screaming at me to get my atten-
Consult the Universal Human Needs list on the follow- tion, like a child throwing a tantrum.
ing page. Then do what you can to satisfy your needs.
My body now trusts that I will pay attention to my emo-
Maybe you need to slow down and rest. Maybe you tions if they have something to say, so they come in
need a hug. Maybe a challenge... whatever you need, do healthy waves and at times that make far more sense
your best to give it to yourself, or let yourself sweetly than before. Plus, my body now knows that food is not
know that youll be taking care of that need as soon as the answer to making me feel better emotionally, so I
possible. am less inclined to binge when Im upset.
If you still want to eat after checking in with yourself, Life might feel scary at first when you open yourself to
slow down and get curious with the sensations in your feeling what you normally manage with food. But mak-
body. Where does the desire to eat live in your body? ing space for what scares you also makes space for
What does it want for you? How else can you give that more joy, love, and pleasure! And it puts you in touch
to yourself besides food? with the part of you that is bigger than your emo-
tionsthe part of you that is making space for them.
Approaching the sensations of your body with curiosity
and compassion will give you access to their messages. The more you practice paying attention to your needs,
Emotions are information, and they arrive because allowing space for your emotions, and having compas-
they have something they want you to know. Some- sion for yourself, the less your subconscious will look to
times all they need is to be heard. food as a way to give you what it thinks you need.
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Universal Human Needs
HONESTY MEANING
CONNECTION authenticity aliveness
acceptance integrity awareness
affection presence awe
appreciation transparency celebration of life
belonging PLAY challenge
communication adventure clarity
community fun competence
companionship humor consciousness
compassion joy creativity
consideration laughter discovery
emotional safety spontaneity growth
empathy PHYSICAL WELL-BEING hope
familiarity air /food/water/shelter learning
intimacy comfort mourning
love movement/exercise mystery
partnership protection participation
respect rest/sleep purpose
security relaxation self-expression
self-worth sexual expression stimulation
sensitivity safety to matter
stability touch wonder
support AUTONOMY PEACE
to know/be known choice beauty
to see/be seen confidence harmony
to understand freedom ease
to be understood independence equality
trust privacy inspiration
warmth space spiritual communion
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Give Yourself The Sweetness You Need
Place your hand on your belly or heart, give yourself a hug, draw yourself a bath, or sing yourself a song.
Many of our mothers tried to ease our pain with candy, ice cream, or other sweet treats.
Its time we fill our lives with so much sweetness, cookies will no longer be appealing.
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Other ways to sweeten your life: If you want to binge, put
Write yourself love notes
Wear clothes that feel soft and comfortable against your skin
which will give you more
Buy soaps that smell delightful insight into whats really
Make yourself some tea
going on, and whether or
Go for a walk in nature
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S ECTION 7
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This isnt giving up.
And this doesnt mean youll suddenly explode. This simply means youre no longer taking the self-hate approach. It means youre
no longer using dominance, fear, or inner bullying to motivate yourself.
It means youre going to take the risk to trust yourself. To believe that your instinctual body wisdom will prevail. To believe that
your ancestors and their bodies held innate intelligence, and that it is no longer appropriate to disrespect them and your current
body by forcing it into clothes that no longer fit.
The more comfortable you are in your clothes, the more likely you are to want to stay comfortable throughout the day, including af-
ter you eat. That means less bingeing, less food that makes you feel sick, and more food, people, situations, and experiences that
feel good.
Plus, the more the body feels allowed to be as it is, the less likely it is to rebel with food. Give your body permission to be here, as it
is, and it will reward you greatly.
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S ECTION 8
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How we do anything is how In many ways, healing from emotional
eating is really about learning to trust our
we do most things. instincts and give ourselves permission
If we dont say No to things that dont nourish us in our
to have preferences and opinions.
everyday life, then we probably wont say No to cook- Its about giving ourselves permission to live our lives
ies, ice cream, and other foods that dont provide true how we want, regardless of whether or not it pleases
nourishment to our bodies. others.
Learn how to say No, without explana- And its about protecting ourselves from harmful situa-
tion. tions, food, and people so our bodies dont have to do it
for us.
You do NOT need to make excuses or have a conversa-
tion if you dont want sex. Even if you are midway
through the act.
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S ECTION 9
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What kind of life do you Sometimes we hold ourselves back from
doing what we really want to do cause
wish you were living? were scared.
Whats stopping you from Life can be scary. Especially when its inviting us to do some-
thing very different from what weve been doing for a long
living it? time.
I like to see emotional eating as one of my greatest teachers. bud was more painful than
Emotional eating always let me know when Id fallen off my
souls path. the risk it took to blossom.
- Anas Nin
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Conclusion
You made it, sister!
And in some ways, the journey may be just
beginning.
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About Me
Hi, Im Ali. I coach 1:1 and lead groups
for women to help connect them to the
wisdom of their bodies so they can
overcome emotional eating and nega-
tive body image. I guide women in let-
ting go of restriction-mentality and I
teach them how to eat according to
their inner wild wisdom. I believe that
when women listen to their bodies,
they not only release excess weight, but
also gain access to their innate intui-
tive powers and inner truth.
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