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Arranged Marriage
Introduction
One of the most popular methods of selecting our consorts by other people is known in the
term arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is a very common practice in the Middle East, Asia,
and Africa. Most people in these countries believe that arranged marriage can help the marriage
stronger and happier, and it adds such pleasant experience for both the grooms and the brides. In the
arrange marriage, the marital partners are chosen by their parents, relatives, or matchmakers
selection or agreement in order to guide two people through the process of finding the right person
to marry with. Imagine yourself meeting a person for the first day, without knowing who they are,
and having to spend the rest of your life with that one person. This mannerism is accepted widely
by the parents that the following the practice Arrange Marriage, is considered a payback and
show obedience of a child to their parents and guidance who have been raising them. A throwback
to about a few decades ago, some group of people who faced this problem tried really hard to rebel
against this system of matching for a marriage. Due to many social and environmental factors, these
practices are happening to forbid the true loves nationality, culture, and to widen the connections
among the adults themselves. For some people, such as adults, this practice benefits them in many
ways. For example, it may improve their image in the society and add connections. However, most
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people who lived in the Western countries assume it restricts personal freedom, increase the
This research aims to give information about the practice of arranged marriage.
The term arranged marriage is basically defining the practice of selecting or matching a
couple. In the practice arranged marriage, the conjugal partners are chosen by their parents, older
relatives, matchmakers, or religious leaders in an intention to guide the bride and the groom through
the process of finding the right person to marry. The tradition of arranged marriage is most
commonly found in eastern-based cultures countries, including Indian, Japanese, and Chinese
cultures. However, the tradition is not so common among the western families in the present day,
unlike a few decades back. According to Debatepedia (2016), it is stated that the practice used to be
very popular in Europe back in time when the parents from the high society arranged marriages
among their children to ensure that they maintained the economic status and bloodlines that is
greatly valued. The arranged marriage in most eastern countries, the form of the practice is
somehow misunderstood to be forcing because of their cultures, beliefs, and for their social status.
The traditional purposes of these types of unions were political, military, and social. (Arranged
Marriages - Past And Present, 2010) This form of marriage is somehow believed as a slavery issue
because it is considered forcing to both women and men. Some of the forcing marriage in
Afghanistan issue is still on debate until today because sometimes the marriage was too early that
parents believe that their children have no visions and abilities to choose their own soul mates ,but
actually they are just too young to be married. The marriage that is arranged by parents is
considered a payback to their parents who loved and raised them throughout their whole life. (The
According to the statement by the New World Encyclopedia (2017), the arranged marriage
is referring to the tradition has been a part of eastern families and it has passed through from
generations to generations. The system and practice of arranged marriage may not have changed
much over the years, however, the practice has become so much less rigid than before. Even though
only the eastern-based culture practiced this, it is also very popular in a period of the Western
civilisation. The Romans in the late 18th century and the European in the 19th century, daughters
were seen as a form of currency, which could be used to help form strategic alliances and strengthen
the military position of the family. For instance, young girls were often promised to the as a way of
forming connections between the two families and the two areas as well. In some of the cases, the
marriages were arranged when the girls were still as young as babies or not even born yet. In some
instances, the marriage actually took place when both female and male were very young. The
female stayed at home with their families until they reached a certain age and then were sent off to
live with her husbands house with her husbands family. From that, this is one of the factors that
could make the female feel uncomfortable since they dont have the freedom to follow their own
life path. This idea can relate to the belief that female had less choice and less possibility to stand up
for their opinion than male throughout the history. Another aspect of arranged marriage concerns
the marrying agents decision. In the modern arranged marriage settings, the agent wishing to marry
has considered independent over the actual marriage decisions.(Arranged Marriages in Countries
and Cultures,1967)
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In Chinese culture, a marriage is not just between two people, but a relationship between two
families as well. The groom's parents investigate the social status of the brides family. Even though
arranged marriages were once a pattern in Chinese society, it has become common practice for
young people to choose their own spouse. However, after the couple decides to marry, their older
relatives will take over all the arrangements, and they will be the one that observes each others
traditional factor. .. A meeting will take place for the families to meet, usually with the bride and
groom present. The brides family will take this opportunity to ask about the credits of the grooms
family, and to make sure that their daughter or son will be treated well. If the parents are not happy
about the background of the other family, the wedding will surely not happen. However, if both
families accept the differences, the wedding and engagement will continue. Not only in China, 30
percent of the marriages are still practicing the arranged marriage in Japan. After they are being
matched, the Japanese culture-based couple meets and decides if they feel suitable to each of the
families. The parents are usually present at the first meeting. The couple continues to meet socially
often over a period of time before officially agree to marry one another.
Overtime, arranged marriage have evolved slowly and now it becomes absolutely changed.
There are some significant changes that happened such that parents have now become more liberal,
as a result of more and more people are getting attracted towards arranged marriages. Parents have
now become more open-minded and their children can share their likes and dislikes with them
pretty comfortably. The busy life of youngsters is also a contributing factor.(Sood, 2015) This is the
reason why more and more people are placing their faith in their parents to select a suitable partner
for them. Arranged marriage is no more the oppressive institution as it used to be, but these days it
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is based on mutual trust and collective understanding. Also due to many factors such as
advancements technology in the modern world that brought up the idea of online date arrangements
and even arranged marriage from meeting online. Nowadays, arranged marriage can bring up to a
business world which sites receive money from arranging dates for two strangers from different
parts around the world. There are so many sites and application that arrange dates for both of the
sides randomly. Some of the couples were successfully matched and they meet in real-time real-life
and married one another. As the divorce rates are increasing recently, children started to trust their
parents to look for a perfect life partner for them. This trust has shown as a result of a perfect
relationship that is shared between the parents and their children. Nowadays parents do not affirm
their authority on their kids but are always cooperate and supportive of their decisions and choices.
People may have thought that arranged marriage may be like forced marriage when parents come to
aid the practice, but its actually another story. Unlike arranged marriage, forced marriage are the
situation in the system of forcing someone to live together as husband and wife without caring their
feelings, but the force stands with the belief that living together will make them love each other
some day. This marriage are banned and illegal in some places in the world like Norway. While
arranged marriage gives the freedom to both of the groom and the bride to choose whether or not
Therefore, its impossible to understand a clear and complete versions of arranged marriage. All of
the marriages are different and it depends on the families of both the bride and the groom
themselves. Even though technology can bring two person from another side of the world together,
it is maybe not efficient as parents classic practice. Also right now, parents in most of the families
started to be open minded and they start to understand their kids better and not as rigid as before.
Also to arranged a marriage is not considered forcing anyone to love, but in contrast, the partners
get a chance to decide among themselves only with the help of parents.
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Conclusion
Above all, this research is meant to give the readers the information, facts, and details about
arranged marriage. As stated above, the involvement of parents in arranged marriage is beneficial as
the parents know their what their child needs more than anyone else. Arranged marriage can have
many disadvantages, but in what ways could the practice be passed from generations to generations
if those members that were once matched by others are not feeling thankful for ones that chose the
partners for them. In the past, this form of marriage can be beneficial in the way that it could
possibly keep the person with royal bloodlines and high-society families still valued on the same
level. On the other hand, some group of people may rebel against this idea as the believe that the
arranged marriage tends to steal away two persons freedom they should have in part of managing
their own relationship. Some people may be wondering if arranged marriage are similar to forced
marriage, but no, its different. Practicing arranged marriage is different from forced marriage in the
way that the agreement will have to include the conjugal partners opinion before ploughing on any
ideas. Arranged marriages today are unlike before. It was less rigid and included more freedom for
the couple to decide whether or not they are going to married one another. And lastly, the forms
have changed, when technology came handed in to help that the partner from another side of the
world could meet one another online to personally and marry. Therefore, arranged marriage are not
a bad idea if it was fair to both of the sides and also if both families are happy with the conditions.
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Reference
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Sood, N. (22 January 2015). How arranged marriages have undergone a sea change over
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Kalyani. (2014). Countries Where Arranged Marriages are Common. Retrieved from http://
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