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In this essay I will be discussing how the younger generation of men in the Gay
community have become so caught up in sexual desires that they forget what romantic love looks
like, though they still have that desire of romance and love. To elaborate on the idea I will also
be discussing how gender identity comes into play within the gay community and its over-
sexualization. When people think of younger gay males in the community one of the first things
that comes to their mind is well they must have slept around, all gay men do now most of the
time I would create an argument against such a stereotype, but in this case- the stereotype is
relatively factual. Gay males have become so caught up in their own sexual desires, that they
The gay community has suffered greatly throughout time, we have suffered religious
prosecution, governmental threats, and death. From my viewpoint in this community in addition
to my own experiences, I believe that younger gay males use sex as an escape. We have suffered
so much, so a one night stand full of promiscuousness and pleaser is a sweet relief. Thomas
But keep your tears for me. (Quote in When Midst the Gay I Meet, Moore, Lines 1-12)
I feel this quote is a powerful example of how the gay community uses sex as an escape,
for instance one lines 5-8 I feel the tears that he is releasing are those of pain that he has
experienced from being gay. When the world tells you that everything you are and everything
that you desire is wrong, taboo, and sinful (in many cases punishable by death) then someone
needs to have a way to forget that. Just to my disappointment at some point gays decided to turn
to sex.
Now due to the promiscuousness of the community, and practice of unsafe sex there has
been a huge growth of STDs within the community- which is why when in my case like many
others, when I came out my family didnt care about my sexuality, but rather the risk I have of
getting various STDs especially aids. In the Journal Interpersonal and social network influences
We know little about the type of person who discusses sexual matters and the ways in
which the nature of the relationship between two people could facilitate or constrain the
possibility of such a discussion. To the extent that such discussions provide opportunities for the
transmission of health promotion (messages or are supportive of the maintenance of safe sex
cultures, an improved understanding of them is essential in continued efforts to maintain safe sex
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cultures and reduce the transmission of HIV and other sexually transmissible infections.(Smith,
Page 267)
What I believe the author is trying to say is that due to the lack of talk about safe sex
between gay members in the community there is a correlation between that and unsafe sex. If it
was advocated for more within the gay community and seen less as wow you dont trust me or
it doesnt feel as good then there wouldnt been nearly as much danger.
Continuing on I would like to focus on the human sexuality as a whole. One of my main
points within this essay is that people dont treat LGBT people with respect because they are
seen as taboo. In the video Human Sexuality is Complicated Hank Green basically goes over a
lot of points such how gender, sex, and sexuality are both extremely intertwined in who we are
and also how they are in no ways connected. He ends his video by telling the audience that we
dont have to fit inside any boxes or have to conform to what society has us believe is the norm,
but that we should instead love ourselves for how beautiful we are.
In this next paragraph I will be discussing Teresa of Avilas poem I Live Without Living
In Me for this I cannot accurately describe it without quoting the whole thing, because of how
that is love. The desire to be touched, loved, and embraced by someone that may or may not
reciprocate the feelings that you have for them. When we look at the love that is experienced it is
alluring and temping- it is something that we feel that we cannot live without. When we
experience this along with rejection or loss we ourselves experience a sense of longing so strong
that we may feel that we should die. I feel that this feeling is lost within the majority of that gay
community. It has been corrupted with lust and pleasure that can only be quenched by sex and
scandal- but in the end we are left as empty shells of who we once were. Then the cycle will
Next I will be analyzing an image painted by Seiji Inagaki a Bisexual artist from japan. Though I
could not find a title to the image I feel it is an amazing depiction of how sexualized the gay man
is. Even in art forms it has been shown, the man in this painting is submissively laying on the
bed accepting whatever happens to him. I feel it is symbolic of how we swallow our pride and
take whomever is giving us attention. We form a fantasy that everything in the world is okay and
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that this one night stand is going to be different, in the end that is definatly not the case. When
morning comes the fantasy is over and the lust is fleeting away as we pack our things and move
on to the next person seeking attention. Knowing that it will happen again we delete their
numbers, forget their names, and try to push down the experience- hoping that next time just
maybe will be different- just maybe itll be the one, someone will come and sweep us off our feet
and tell us that it will be okay. That maybe we are beautiful and have a chance to be in love.
Then the cycle repeats itself and our hopes are proven wrong.
But the question remains: If sex is liberated, what is it liberated from, and what is it liberated
to? The lack of a clear answer soon became obvious in the feminist movement. Do women
liberate themselves by taking multiple partners, defying the conventions enshrined in marriage,
and having children at random by the men whose embraces they enjoy? Or does this not frustrate
a deeper need for a stable family? Have women benefited from a liberation that enables men to
abandon them at will, or are they merely the more completely enslaved by this? Easy divorce has
meant that a woman's power to retain the father of her children and the protector of her home has
been removed from her. Is that a gain in freedom, or a loss? And if liberation is a matter of being
free to have multiple partners, what kind of freedom does this bestow on the unattractive and the
I wanted to use as an example to raise the question: Is sex for the gay community some
sort of liberation? Its important to wonder if the oversexualization that is within this community
supposed to be some form of movement, or is it just some over popularized and stereotyped. In
some cases I feel like the gay community is trying to prove something with their
provocativeness, maybe were trying to say that well always be marginalized for the way we are
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and that we have to accept it. Or maybe that if the world says that what we do in the bedroom
and behind closed doors is taboo- that well just prove them something by making it a social
norm.
In conclusion the oversexualization of the gay community is something that the world
impost onto the community and then they took the idea into their hands and exploited it.
Throughout everything the gay community has used sex as some form of escape in hopes of
making things better- but all it did was lead to the loss of romantic desire, making it extremely
hard to find long term partners. To end I want to raise the question: Do you think the gay
community will change at all in the near future, or do you think it will be one continuous circle
of destruction?
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Works Cited
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Moore, Thomas. "When 'Midst the Gay I Meet." Thepoetryfoundation. The Poetry Foundation,
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