4 EF THR RARE bo) UE a3 Dog Fear fon SE BORA A SE Overcoming Masculine Oppression in Mixed Groups by Bill Noyer and Alan Tule “Sexson inthe problem; anrone can tlk when they want ‘ede apm er jul hat so wave hod more all zoppon wom‘ carton, chimed is athe na, Around the room, reactions spanned oie ronde! retentmen, disocton, passive interest, eagernes ond "Alas weak mestng, one woman conttonled the man wit ‘ue iatraon a thir domination ofthe grows, A couple st Decale had tuppered her, but mot roomed Unaware Ot Fomained parse. Delesive anger had aurea i soveral oh ‘Themen. daepte thi bet intatons “The woman wha spoke out last week absent tonish. The grout beon dwinaing i ee sna sboy ater tuning Ibs year Many encied noweomers hove atensed one ts ‘Reetngs and never returned. Obese suck tut lar rei Eslorelnsing away. The greup of some 30 members has shrunk {Shall tate he oxtgioa 18 women, five romain, The Problem, A hypothetical stvaion—but reel problem, and allo ‘organiation, Mt wolutary groupe auch ae focal change ‘Sroupe, are dominated bya few people, with anal rer lather egal merbers These group abjeties on eau Tutt ond democrlesecielyzem unatinobe oven hn theiconn domain. Ove nfotmal sud ofa dozen emell groupe found that the moe! eguen alters spoke ine mes cx len the los request tler tr spree that these rose {fe share or have small mrberehip with ub ars ‘ter. Peale ae alt lion led by heny handed oulfeny Bosis at werk ar spouse a home, ad acer abel Mest ‘peopl, and espacial those who foin social cheng grape ‘ell ony tb acnpied ut loo mali a coiaton {hd bean active portispant Movers groups, besnuee hee bs ales ol ustice and egaierianism, ore ne aru where ‘he common problems ol domination sold wll be deal wih “Vs guise rarer tomen ond oon we on Serco ‘ur oun oporasave behavior i aed Cale and femle) ‘ups. More clten than no men are the ones dominating ‘inup actntySych behavior itherlor ered 4 “ranean ‘beavier pattern netbecaune women rover al thal way, bet ‘aussi generally en who os Over the pst fow ears there hes boon a remendous crease in he awareness olay omen and some men ragerding mascline Goran In ole leadership universlly entre accepted. Untrtunsey sroupe alten have real cilicaly aeveloping. egal febsions even when everyone theoretically agree with fat ‘aa “he following formulations are dravn primaniy Irom eur ‘Now Society. While ot locus w on changing beheviee, we Tecogo'za that equally Important changing oneousnes Hien Beainning to take responsibilty for conionting cot ‘behavior mut do so in an alrmative may. Wears matings hein fo Take port in the iberation ct all prope, through {hunging ovr actions ond cr ions oursange athe wore Webave tien razed m3 society which w oppose very routs We hove learned onto n ways ered on ncraseny ‘nd contel Tn addition to masculine Somination, clas. age ‘elgion end race conribue to authertaransivcures| Out goss ace to id the socet?end our own organssions— of those fom of mination Common Pals hs following ae some ofthe more common problems to FHoaging the shove. Talking 20 ch, to Jona, and oo loud rable solver Continually giving the awe o sation bore ‘ses have nad much chanoe ie senna, Spetking n capt ltrs. Greing ona own slutensar opinions the nal word onthe subject oan agorvalnd by fame ok 20 and body peste Deensivenes. Responding oevery contrary opinion athowgh At Laing al sors of dramatic to tte el gh Tad nd conten fous Tobe oxclston a arturing idheiduas or he group through aterton fo press snd form Patdowuns and oneupmanship. “I used to bee tht, but forse "How can you pomnbly soy tl?" Neots Finding someting wong or problematical in cveriing. Focus transfer. Traslering the lout o the ducutsion to one's own pet iss in order fo give ons own pt aps Residual office holler. Hanna ono oral power postinns George Custer, Intranaigency and doamatiom: taking lt Sed for ons poston on sven minor ome, 252 roe, ich old an fan ine tater, fis on er Specie l sexe, and explore verius set inne vee "Fo proces ie beating one rther han emphasing uit ln dolningourmies ae oppeason the focus om libersion ‘An agenda for he fst meeting a the men's coveus could 08 Agenda Gathering gen feview Selfatiemation at males Rep and sieuasion (option): “Why Wwe need fo work on eliminating minaing Benowor in groups 15 Sharing feinge (nereus? Bored? exci?) 10 Sine 2D Brainstorm (optional: “Ways men ype msne ch alone 9 maton/atatimation tne fo “Stomativ and cel sharing the graup lee bole) 10 Evaluation (Wat os good? and “Wha cou be improved) ‘The Vestimaton/se-estination’oxercie ie the central part lth agenan Each man takes ture shaving ways ches oun [sssontive group pemeipent ond sre nhc tl ood {0 grow, ad then gel rerponss trom the group, ‘The eserese begin wih ton inte quit ne lor each man {othink abou himsl raving tee wo areas They snc {eluntor fo be he ea person lad on by the whole aro, ier ren nates of nk tao in whch al the es stout hiss mane shares tor ve minutes his thing about imei while he grup listens Forte lloming tn misses tmembe's ofthe gtoup share their thinking scat hi how Theyre seen hie grow and specie areas whece tnoy toe ‘anges needed Alter all he men have shared, theft an hatte more mites to respond This ime occ wha ciate wl bring chang how be wl boing Shout ts and wha space support he will ned Ions eo ‘nthe group. Contra fr support can be mages ha tine “Thi whole proce thon past foreach man, wth 320 to 28 minute limit foreach It group larger than ae ‘ight want to break ins two separate groupe ov have a ncced isting complet the recess Fllew up sumo {ot continued suppor Repeating he” eomation sn mination exersue, forming tuppor! pei, Soi. pest Sounveling, and plying sre ser aye upper con be gen “neeantaly inrmited groups hare seat crcam of ren, ‘uisisom por pontve Sovessnent in he mavenen aed or progress toward ber sity. Aout 18 urunly secure, doom lel verelings, shave them, and begin to deal mith ther. We gray wl id ha 'hotefelngs, in rosconrmel pan of growing and shanna And, fr the mer when crite has bow wus ooingt ‘ol pein and. confusion are pariculafiy Yeast. and “propriate, Through mulval suppor man son fospond oa A Mans Ant Senism Movement ‘The maintenance of prsen! sooty depends upon the male population continuing io be the compttineunleong pote Eras eve be he nlclvrom nals ugh men ‘ober industry and Dunner, that sie crda. wil help men o become conscious af out ‘en pairs and eed, 1 recoprse how we dominate her Sind fo give support to eachother In our own sug Uberation. Becoming conscious ofthe ways men Some Ders.an And iis crucial othe movement “The nal impel fr th men movement came rom wornen tullenging th seam ol he mon aoa es on, terete, ‘tenet eqener aa dslensve mature ores al qit Agro ‘tquitnadn men with an mage ol emtloce a acing ba ‘cpprenrshave nomhore a gobut down Thev lacus cow terrible they are rather than om how tear poenl hos been Hed by tity. The recess t grawin from taney 1 hoyhood to manhood tesches us te be oppressive and cxterely deleterious te our own naturel gromth a human Seinae Mn nee to recognize and concertraa on out quale ol love oldaep concern and caring nhich hav been suppressed ‘We con overcome te barrier whch preven ye lrm na the {ull humans we are. Merit groupe mus alm the human ‘ualiiocl men and bea space in which necan revi hose ‘usltue through tant an separ 29