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DOUBLE-INCOME 5 STRATEGIES TO HELP YOU
14 SUMMER &
MONSOON BEAUTY
CARE
FINANCE MANAGEMENT SURVIVE OFFICE POLITICS Ameeta Sharma
Sudha Chandrasekaran Lesley D. Biswas
ARTICLES
26 IT’S ONLY WORDS AND 116 MIND SAYS “MOVE
WORDS ARE ALL HAVE ON...” HEART SAYS
Manisha Prakash “HANG ON...”
Nandita
32 DIEPPE PRETTIEST OF
CHANNEL PORTS
Eva Bell
118 THE PROBLEM OF
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Dr S. N. Khosla PARTNER SEARCH
36 DECORATIVE GRASS Gulsum Basheer
Shilpa Shanbhag 122 THE MUNNABHAI BOY
Anil Merani
48 DO YOU SHOP TILL 124 CREATING
YOU DROP? WANNA ENVIRONMENTAL
KNOW WHY? AWARENESS IN SCHOOL
Rumy Agarwal
CHILDREN
62 ART ON CARPETS D. B. N. Murthy
Suman Bajpai 126 ALLOW THEM TO BE
76 A WOMAN WEARING
MANY HATS
TAUGHT BY NATURE ALSO
Rajshekhar Pant 60
TEN FASHION
Shakti Koushik 128 LEGALISING
PROSTITUTION A VIABLE NO – NO’S
94 CURE FOR HEARTBREAK SOLUTION Minakshi. S. Desai
Sucharita Dutta-Asane PVV Satyanaryana
96 ANIMALS SYMBOLISE
HIS THOUGHT PROCESS
133 ARE YOU WATCHING
MORE TV
COOKERY
Subhra Mazumdar M. Nathan 37 FUN WITH SEASONAL FRUITS
● Chocolate Cake a portion of
garnish with
chilled.
the mango
pulp and
mint leaves.
Serve PEAR, APPL
AND CHERRY
E
PULAO
with Fresh Cherries
cake with
Chocolate
fresh cherries
INGREDIENTS:
MINT AND 2 pears
CUCUMBER
FICTION
1 apple
cherries
REFRESHER
200 gm fresh
● Stewed Pears in
3 tbsp sugar powder
1/ tsp cinnamon
(cold soup) 2
1 plate full
cooked rice
INGREDIENTS: (kept warm)
leaves
60 gm mint r
sized cucumbe METHOD
the apple but
cut
18 BEING MYSELF
the the 3-4 minutes.
till the sauce mint leaves place
to chill. Dividethree minute.
for another
wooden spoon Put off the heat the soup into and cook the
METHOD s, cut into remaining mint leaves the soup heat and remove a
● Apple in
time CHOCOLATE
begins to thicken. to cool to Peel the mangoe in Put off the with
the sauce and run the
mango and place the syrup
flakes fruits from
Fruits are all
and allow ture. Spread
the
small pieces in a portionsSprinkle the chilli Place the cooked
and cream
CAKE WITH room tempera top of the cake bowls. the slotted spoon. a serving plate
on pieces, sugar a smooth pulp. Cut and core
stir gently. rice on
favourites. Every FRESH sauce evenly to obtain and the apples. warm sweet
mixer and keep do not peel the cooked
with a spatula. plate serving dish apples but pieces just
before and place and
its cake on the Place on a of the rice
season has Place the fridge at to chill. Cut into small to serve the soup. fruits on top
to CHERRIES
Mustard Sauce
plate in the in the fridge the pears. Cut into are ready
Kusturi Rangachari
and keep the so that the sauce Do not peel the you small portions of the
apple serve at once.
abundance INGREDIENTS:or sponge cake least for 1
hour
and thickens. eight pieces
and remove
and Place
200 ml of water the pieces in
the chilled
soup and Pear, apple
cherry pulao
and
● Stewed Pineapple
te sauce: sauce and
the chocola mix in the cloves
– For pieces and
different forms
chocolate
2 tbsp drinking
slices. Add the pear
fire, stirring
arm 3 tsp sugar cook on low till the
chilled, lukew ED PEARS
time
52 HEMA’S CHOICE
to
from time
sauce:
chocolate
to change
hot METHOD Prepare the of water. Lower STEW pears begin
and served ET
should take
Ice Cream
into the remaininwater. Stir on low For and
80 WHEN DEEPU WED DEBBIE Orange Sauce ● Sprouts, Musk Melon and
Romola Shanbhag ● Chicken Salad with Watermelon Salad
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120 MY FIRST O
Keerti Garg 28 ● Watermelon and
Cucumber Refresher
with Mint
●
Butter Sauce
Burger Patties with
Crushed Pineapple and
136 ON CATCHING THE TRAIN AND THE WINNER IS... ● Stewed Peaches Apple Sauce
R. G. Katju Dr Rumy Agarwal with Mint ● Aam Pana Sweet Rice
● Rasgollas Baked ● Caramelised Peaches
with Mango Puree with Ice Cream
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given assured income even if they are doing just
DEMON CALLED DEARNESS nominal task. It is another thing that funds are being
C
ommon man in the country is nowadays siphoned off to the influential people. Also in the name
perplexed by dearness, which is increasing day of fighting terrorism and Naxal menace in J&K,
by day. It is not that the goods were cheaper northeast and Naxal-infested states thousands of crores
earlier, but he was able to afford them. Now, he is of rupees are being allocated. It is a matter of
unable to buy things of his choice. Common man has investigation how much part of these funds is used for
only his immediate requirements of food, clothing, the real purpose and how much is usurped by the
housing and education of his children to meet. He does corrupt bureaucracy. All these measures have resulted
not want to bother about the finer aspects of in increased money flow into the market leading to
economics. higher rate of inflation.
The fact is when you are living in an economy Now, the government has withdrawn subsidies on
(countries are now spelled economies), you cannot the petroleum products making them dearer. Naturally it
help but be a part of it. You have to go with the system. will have cascading effect on prices, as transportation
You cannot make the system to go with you. For long, has become more expensive.
India has been following capitalist economic system Giving vent to increasing public anger against
with a socialist infrastructure, rather we may say, with a growing dearness, all the opposition parties organised a
socialist mindset. Everything here from food to fuel had daylong bundh in the country. This bundh may be
been enjoying heavy subsidies from the government. termed most successful in the sense that it got full
Two decades ago, in tune with the changing world public support. For the first time in the entire tenure of
order, the Government in India also shook off its old the UPA, such a unity was witnessed among the
socialist structure and started moving towards liberal opposition parties. Monsoon session of Parliament will
economy. start soon. We can expect bubbly debate on dearness.
But everybody in the country was not prepared Finance Minister Pranab Mukherjee rules out any
either mentally or economically to keep pace with the rollback in the petroleum prices. According to him, the
changing economic order. Moreover, the parties in government can no longer bear the burden of oil pool
power had to take care of their vote bank also. So the deficit. Hence there is no other way except letting it go
pace of economic reforms always remained slow and as per the ways of international market.
full of hiccups. Main stress of the governments, But dearness is a perpetual problem here. Moreover,
irrespective of whichever party was in power, was to our Prime Minister has also indicated further hike in
convince the masses about the compulsions they were diesel prices under decontrol policy. The government
facing in world economic order. cannot coax the people to accept dearness as their
Two decades have passed since then but healthy fate. The government claims that the country has
signs are missing. Poverty has grown out of all successfully overcome the recession and its economy is
proportions instead of diminishing. Poor are multiplying booming again. But it continues to give incentive
and progress is still elusive. Deeds of the governments packages to the companies as before. Clearly, the
pumped lot of money into economy. Two Pay government is benefiting some peer groups at the cost
Commissions, implemented since then for the of others and common people. There are indications
government employees, also played vital role in fanning that the petroleum prices were decontrolled to provide
inflation as the government people got more money at undue advantage to some big corporate houses
their disposal. The government took full care of its venturing into India’s oil wells. Only the Finance Minister
employees to shield them from increasing inflation. can tell it better who these corporate houses are.
But the common man, who is employed in India is often compared with the communist China in
unorganised sector, is kept outside the purview of the terms of economic progress. But in reality, bank loans
Pay Commission. His income is limited and he has to are given at zero rates, deficit being absorbed by the
manage with the same meagre income. Naturally, he government, to make their products competitive in
will have to cut down his expenses in order to cope international market. In capitalist India this is
with the ever-increasing dearness. But how long can he unimaginable. But this is an unfair practice and is bound
do so? A day will come when growing dearness will to have an adverse impact in long run. In India,
devour not only all his income but his savings also. government is passing some economic shocks to its
Apart from this, in the name of eradicating people. Opposition called bundh to highlight the
unemployment and poverty the government has problems of the public. It should give rise to healthy
launched a number of rural employment generation debate for total uplift of the economy.
schemes with good intention. Jobless villagers are letters@womansera.com We
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one are the days when
most women stayed at
home with their kids, and
it was such a comfort to
come home from school to
find mom there, supper on
the stove or in the oven,
maybe baking a cake or
frying hot samosas... a hug
from mom, mom’s help
with homework, so on and so forth. It
was a warm, loving era. Then came
the neighbour’s wife, an engineering
graduate who started working as a
systems engineer in a nearby firm.
The couple had all kinds of gadgets
and a luxurious lifestyle which no one
else could afford in the
neighbourhood. All the wishes of their
kids were fulfilled and soon this trend
of double-income couples caught on
and it became the norm.
Suddenly, nothing was the same.
Everyone was in a hurry, quality was
replaced by quantity, togetherness
was replaced by “wheneverness”.
Now, there HAD to be two incomes
— unless one had a significantly high
income. Stay-at-home mom is still a
necessity, but is now a rarity.
difficult to establish joint ownership households. Surely one plus one
of property owned by one partner totals two. Second incomes cannot
prior to marriage, which gives the just vanish down a black hole, but the
couple one more reason to opt for truth is, they can and often do. Firstly,
separate accounts within the home. income is often misconstrued as
Another sociological development wealth, which means that you cannot
reinforces the increasing preference just earn your money, but must also
among married couples for financial grow over time through judicious
independence. Says Rohan, a investments. And secondly, double-
finance analyst, “People have income families often fritter away the
realised that, like jobs, relationships second salary unconsciously just to
are no longer permanent.” Marriages maintain a household. You might
today are riddled with divorces which have to keep two maids instead of
make the sense of security harder to one, pay for a creche or maintain a
come by. Divorce law also pushes second car. Then, there are
women into the workplace. In case commuting, business attire and
of divorce, women are pushed into entertainment costs. All these plus
the workforce in middle age, even taxes effectively skim the cream off
though they may want to stay at the second income.
home. It all sounds easy enough to find
Sure, in theory, double-income answers to the eternal question of
households should end up twice as how you can make your money work
wealthy as single-income families but harder. In the first place, one should
in practice, it is more an exception keep expenses under control so that
than a rule. Often, after three a surplus amount of money is created
decades of work life, double-income for investments and next, stow that
families find that they are not really surplus away smartly into the right
much better off than single-income instruments at the right times. Too
With double income deepening often, earning double-incomes is
their pockets, young couples of today SURE, IN THEORY, significantly easier than managing
can afford to do impulsive shopping,
eat out frequently, take dream
DOUBLE-INCOME them. Some of the managing
techniques are pointed out by finance
vacations, visit fitness centres HOUSEHOLDS planners.
regularly, wear branded clothes, etc. SHOULD END UP
The new, rapidly spreading family TWICE AS WEALTHY Capping expenses: We all need
model is now run along the lines of to lead a good life but without
an equal partnership, with the AS SINGLE-INCOME prudence, one cannot create surplus
husband and wife handling their own FAMILIES BUT IN amounts of money needed for wealth
incomes separately. The desire for PRACTICE, IT IS creation. So where do you cut back?
private space also factors in the In the first years after marriage,
current trend towards separating
MORE AN EXCEPTION expenses are usually high, when
aspects of a couple’s finances. The THAN A RULE. couples spend a large portion of their
generations now in their twenties income to set up house. And roughly
and thirties, who matured amid 20 years into marriage, savings again
increasing home ownership and a slow down, since large expenses like
decline in the birth rate, often had children’s higher education and
their own rooms. marriage happen. Therefore, on an
They tend to dislike the average, families create wealth
interference of others in their own between the third and twentieth years
space and they feel strongly about of their marriage. The expenses, of
using their money as they see fit course, continue through every
even after marriage. For some years stage and are of two kinds —
now, the increasing presence of discretionary and non-discretionary.
women in the workforce and the rise The former is what you spend on
in the age at which they marry has non-compulsory but vital chunks of
led to a boom in single women daily living — entertainment, travel,
purchasing their own homes and leisure, gifting and theoretically at
property. Married couples also find it least can be reduced at will. The
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not exist.” Having said that, it doesn’t
mean you allow the situation to
overwhelm you. Here are five tested
strategies to navigate this maze that
will help you survive and shine in a
OFFICE
bitter experience for life that might
have you contemplating even quitting
your job. Considering that the political
game is a part of every office set-up,
POLITICS
you can expect to encounter similar
situations in varying degrees at every
workplace, so quitting your job isn’t a
viable solution. But sticking it out
might take its toll on you. So find
How to overcome ways to defuse the situation.
According to editor and founder of
your colleagues’ intrigues. office-politics.com, you could try two
things. First, bury yourself in work
By Lesley D. Biswas and ignore what goes on. This will
Being Myself
Akshaya was besotted by her husband’s
love – till Jyotsna put her wise to him.
I
By Kasturi Rangachari
stood at the open door of the fridge, staring stuff and haven’t yet accumulated – after just six
into the vegetable bin. What should I cook months of marriage – junk that I want to get rid of.
today? It was Sunday and it had to be a But Puneet wanted to go and so we went. As I said, I
special meal. Paneer mattar? But we had had can’t refuse Puneet anything and I can’t bear it when
that last Sunday. Pav bhaji? I didn’t have he sulks!
enough tomatoes. Ah! My eyes had fell on the “Monday blues, Akshaya?” asked Shivangi
net bag full of ladies’ fingers. We’d have glancing my way as I breathlessly slid into my seat
stuffed bhindi, my favourite dish which I hardly ever in the cabin we shared in office. I was half an hour
made because Puneet didn’t like it too much. late and I had a pile of work to get through before
“What’s today’s lunch menu?” Puneet the 11 a.m. monthly meeting of team
came up behind me and asked as he put heads. A pile so big that I had no hope of
his arm around my waist and swung me “How does even reading through it by 11.
around. I smiled. It was lovely to feel how sweet corn “Not exactly,” I said and turned on my
much even his casual touch still excited me. soup, system. “I haven’t prepared for the
“How does sweet corn soup, parathas, parathas, meeting.” Shivangi nodded absently. Her
stuffed bhindi, dal, salad and pineapple stuffed eyes were fixed on her own computer
trifle for dessert sound?” I asked.
“Great! But make it methi-alu instead of
bhindi, dal, screen and her mind was obviously far
away on her own preparation for the team
bhindi,” Puneet said blithely. salad and leaders’ appraisal meeting.
“Okay!” I said smiling at my handsome pineapple I tapped my fingers on the table
husband as I put the bhindi back in the trifle for impatiently as I waited for my system to
fridge and took out the methi. I hated methi- dessert wake up. My heart was beating fast and
alu, but if it made my husband happy for sound?” my hands were clammy. For the first time
me to cook it for him, I would do it! I loved in my five years at SigmaWorld, I was
him enough to make the small sacrifice;
I asked. unprepared for a meeting!
besides, if I didn’t, he would sulk and that
T
would spoil my whole day! he meeting was a disaster and I still hadn’t
Lunch was good even if I didn’t have any methi- recovered from the reaming out I got from
alu. I over ate and felt heavy and lazy after I had Sharma sir, when the next Friday came around.
cleared the table and put the leftovers away. I would I had spent the week working harder than I ever
have loved to have a nap, but fat chance of having had, catching up with stuff I should have done the
one! Puneet napped after breakfast on Sundays and previous week and writing an overdue report, but I
always had something planned for Sunday hadn’t managed to finish it all. Come Friday
afternoons. Today it was to go to the new market he evening, I gave a loud groan and put my head
had heard of which had opened on S. N. Road. down on my table. Puneet had planned a getaway
“It is like a garage sale,” he told me. “Anyone this weekend and was looking forward to the trip so
can go and set up a stall and sell anything they want much!
to. Many people go there to sell off anything extra “He’s booked us into a resort near Kashid,” I told
they have at home and to buy things they fancy from Shivangi. “We are…were…are…supposed to leave
the other stalls.” tonight and come back only on Monday morning!
I wasn’t ecstatic about the prospect of the visit to So I cannot work this weekend.”
the market because I don’t like buying second-hand “But Sharma sir will be even more furious with
I
hesitated. “Well, yes…But his work is different. Puneet’s irritation, and finished it.
He’s got this exciting job in PR where he gets to I didn’t have the guts to go and give it to sir
meet celebrities! Exciting people! But me, I’m just myself and so I went and left it on his desk when he
a programmer. I just write codes for clients living was away for lunch. He didn’t mention it to me or
across the world, clients whom I never see. Okay, I comment on it and I knew that meant that the report
now supervise a team that writes code. But I’m really was all right. But I also knew that it would be a long
a nobody compared to Puneet!” time before he forgave me for my lapse.
Shivangi gaped at me. “Listen woman!” she “He should understand,” I grumbled to Shivangi,
finally gasped. “Talk of putting oneself down!” “I’m married now and have a home to run and a
I shrugged. “I’m not putting myself down!” I husband to think of. I can’t give my everything to my
protested. “It’s just that a charismatic man like work any longer.”
Puneet is much more interesting than an ordinary
A
employee of SigmaWorld like me!” rnab, another team leader, had just come into
“You need to have your head checked to, girl!” our cabin with some papers in his hand. “Then
“You’ll understand when you get married,” I either quit or don’t accept promotions that
assured my friend with a smile. “That is, if your mean more work!” he snapped with acerbity. “Don’t
husband is as wonderful as mine!” give others problems because you haven’t finished
Shivangi just snorted in reply. your work or you expect them to cover for
When I went home, Puneet was already you!”
back and had the music on loud as he “I don’t expect others to cover for
packed for our weekend trip. “Hi, Akshi!” he me…” I began angrily, but Arnab
called out as soon as he saw me. “I’ve interrupted me.
packed for you too, so you just have a bath “Oh yes, you do,” he said. “I filled in
and change and we can leave. We’ll eat at for you thrice last month when you had
some place on the way…” to go home early, remember?”
“You’ve packed for me?” “Yes, but I’ve filled in for you too…”
“Yes. Two pairs of jeans, a few tops, “Yes, when I’ve been ill, but you
your swimsuit and,” he smiled naughtily wanted to go home early one
and fluttered something between his evening because you had a party
fingers, “two of these and the other to attend and the other two times
stuff I got you last month! I don’t think because Puneet called and told
we need anything else!” you that he had taken the
The “these” were two wispy, afternoon off.”
transparent, sexy nighties and “the I had nothing to say. Arnab
other stuff I got you last month” was right. “I’m sorry,” I said to
consisted of naughty lingerie him stiffly. “I’ll see that it doesn’t
which he had bought me from happen again.”
Victoria’s Secret outlet in New Arnab looked exasperated.
York where he had gone on work “Don’t act all hurt, Akshaya,” he
the previous month. To tell the said. “But we men sometimes get
truth I wasn’t particularly fed up, you know. Women want
comfortable in them – I am more the equal pay and they grumble
and whine about the glass ceiling, but they also then put her arm around my shoulder. “Forget it,”
want to do less work and get special consideration she said. “You don’t have to take an immediate
because of their many problems.” decision. And I’ll give you something more pleasant
“Well, we are women!” it was Shivangi’s turn to to think about. Jyotsna is in town! She called me and
snap. “Nature gave us the ‘problems’,” she made asked me to organise lunch with the gang. So
quotation marks in the air for the word, “that you are Saturday it’s a get-together for lunch at Piccadilly!”
talking about – we didn’t create them ourselves! Yes, “Oh, I can’t possibly come. I’d have to leave
we need special consideration when we are Puneet…and it’s the weekend…”
pregnant, when we’ve just delivered, when we are “Oh don’t be silly, Akshaya!” Shivangi
breastfeeding, when our kids are ill…” countered. “Jyotsna is coming here after so long.
Surely Puneet can manage to be by himself for a
I
tuned out their argument and became immersed couple of hours! Tell him to set something up with the
in my thoughts. I had none of the problems guys.”
Shivangi was talking about – yet! – but I still “No. Puneet says that the weekends are our time
needed “special consideration” and often wanted together.”
my colleagues to help me. Because I wanted to go “But,” Shivangi frowned thoughtfully, “didn’t he
home early, because I didn’t want to take work go golfing with his friends one weekend last month?
home, because I wanted others to give their And doesn’t he have a monthly boys’ night out on a
presentation first so as to give me more time to Saturday?”
prepare my own – it was all because I didn’t want to “Yes, but…that’s different! Those guys have been
disappoint Puneet by saying that I was doing these things for ages and he can’t
busy when he wanted me to spend time get out of them just because he is married!
with him. As a result, I gave more time to
Shivangi His friends will say that he is henpecked!”
Puneet and less to my work sometimes! But looked at me “You too have been doing things…and
surely that was all right for a newly-married absolutely Jyotsna is a good friend…”
woman? Or…was it? stunned. I shrugged. “Puneet will be disappointed
“Akshaya? He’s gone,” Shivangi “Leave your and I can’t bear that,” I said and ignored
brought me back to the present. job? But…but Shivangi’s snort.
“He’s right, you know,” I said with a you’ve worked But, as it turned out, I was able to attend
sigh. “I am not pulling my weight here. your arse off the get-together because Puneet’s best
And,” I hesitated, wondering if I should tell for five years friend, David, called on Saturday morning
Shivangi and then I decided to do so. and have just and asked him to come over so that they
“And…Puneet is talking of my leaving my got your first could discuss the programme for the next
job. He earns enough and has bought a promotion!” college alumni meeting, over lunch.
flat...” “I have to go,” Puneet said. “So you can
she gasped.
Shivangi looked at me absolutely go and meet your friend, Jyotsna. I’ll drop
stunned. “Leave your job? But…but you’ve you on the way.”
worked your arse off for five years and have just got
I
your first promotion!” she gasped. walked into Piccadilly and quickly spotted my
“I know…but I’m married now and my husband friends sitting at a big table to one side of the
wants me to quit. Surely I should listen to him? restaurant, making a lot of noise. And sitting
Won’t our home be a happier one if I am a full-time facing me was Jyotsna looking even more gorgeous
homemaker?” than she had looked the last time I had seen her a
“Are you the type to be happy cooking, creating year ago. She saw me and smiled and waved and I
a beautiful home and taking up hobbies? No? I went up to the table.
thought so! Then your home won’t be a happier one “They told me you weren’t coming and I was so
if you resign. I know that you are proud of what you disappointed!” she said, getting up and hugging
have achieved and of being financially me. “I’m so glad you could make it!”
independent. Will you let all that go when there is “No reason she couldn’t, actually,” said
no real reason to? It will be different when you have Shivangi. “Except that weekends have been
a baby – but now?” declared billing and cooing time by hubby dear!”
Put like that I knew that I didn’t want to quit my There was a sharp note in her voice, but Jyotsna
job. But if I refused, Puneet would think that I didn’t smiled her usual gentle smile. I loved that smile. In
love him. He’d be miserable and would mope and fact, I loved and admired everything about Jyotsna,
be sullen. I sighed. just as Shivangi did. When she had been at
Shivangi watched me in silence for a minute and SigmaWorld, Jyotsna, who was a few years older
S
he opened the bag and took out the kurta. Her as the others said their farewells and left.
eyes lit up. “Of course, I knew that I was being “Fine!” said Jyotsna.
stupid,” I went on. “I know that Avinash only We ordered coffee and sat back. “Tell us all your
likes you in pastel colours. So, will you ever wear it? news,” said Shivangi. “How is Avinash?”
Actually, I bought it because I couldn’t resist it!” “No, I want to hear about you, Akshaya,” said
Jyotsna laughed. “Haven’t you noticed that I’m Jyotsna. “I haven’t really talked to you since your
not dressed in a light pastel colour?” she demanded. wedding. Are you happy, girl?”
“I love this kurta. You bet I’ll wear it!” “Oh, I am!” I exclaimed. “Puneet is absolutely
I plonked myself down and greeted the others. great! He’s wonderful in every possible way!”
Everyone in the group had worked in SigmaWorld “Yeah,” said Shivangi caustically. “He adores
and we were all good friends; so the conversation Akshaya. He doesn’t want to let her out of his sight!
was lively and there was a lot of laughter. We You’re lucky to see her, Jyotsna. Normally,
ordered lunch and, later, Shivangi picked up the weekends are off limits for Akshaya’s friends. Puneet
bill. wants her all to himself then.”
“No, I’ll pay,” protested Jyotsna. Jyotsna turned to me. “Is he possessive,
“Hey, I know that you’re married to a crorepati, Akshaya?” she asked with a strange look on her
but this is my treat,” said Shivangi as she handed face.
over her credit card to the waiter together with the “Yes, he is and I love it!” I exclaimed. “It shows
bill. that he adores me!” I paused a moment and smiled
“I have to leave,” said Padmasini reluctantly, at my friend. “Just as the fact that Avinash is
picking up her cellphone and looking around for her possessive of you, shows that he adores you! And,
handbag. “I have to take my Rishika to the doctor’s. just like you, I love doing everything as he wants me
to because I want to make him happy.”
“So you do just as Puneet wants you to?” Jyotsna
still had that strange look on her face as she asked
me the question.
“Yes! Just as you do! I mean, Avinash likes you to
wear only pastel colours and you do that – except
today for some reason! He likes you to look slim and
trim and so you go to the gym, though you hate all
those machines there! He doesn’t want you to work
because he wants you all to himself and so you gave
up your job. You watch action films instead of the
romantic ones you enjoy, you follow IPL matches
though you hate cricket, you learnt to cook his
favourite dishes from your mother-in-law – you live to
make him happy, don’t you? And I’m doing the
same thing!”
Jyotsna leaned forward and I took her hand and
clasped it tightly as I went on, “The only difference
between Puneet and Avinash is that Puneet isn’t as
rich as your crorepati husband, Jyotsna. So he can’t
buy me a diamond bracelet and plan a holiday for
two on a cruise boat for my birthday as Avinash did
for yours last year – but he’s as loving and as
wonderful! You told us that Avinash …” of energy. So what was wrong with his taking that
“Akshaya…” interrupted Jyotsna. “I’ve left decision?”
Avinash! Last month.” Shivangi cleared her throat. “Akshaya, be
I froze. “Wh...what?” stuttered Shivangi truthful. Was that particular weekend the best time
“Yes. I couldn’t take it any longer.” for a getaway weekend? Puneet realised that you
“Take what?” needed a break – that shows that he is considerate
“Avinash’s so-called ‘love’!” and caring – but planning that weekend when you
“So-called…love?” had a deadline to finish a report after a disastrous
“Yes. It is smothering me!” appraisal meeting doesn’t show that he respects the
work you are doing.”
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either Shivangi no I said anything and after I bristled. “He didn’t know that I had a report to
staring into the distance for a few moments, finish!” I exclaimed.
Jyotsna went on. “It took me three years to “How come?” asked Jyotsna.
realise that Avinash didn’t actually love me,” she “I…I didn’t tell him.”
said. “He loved a fantasy and tried to make me into “And why didn’t you?”
that fantasy – a woman who was as soft as the “That’s because he doesn’t like Akshaya talking
pastel colours she wore, who agreed to everything about her work at home,” Shivangi informed
he said, who really had no personality of her own Jyotsna. “But he loves to talk about his own!”
but was content to be whatever her husband wanted Jyotsna sat back and sighed. “Exactly like
her to be! He took away my identity. Avinash. When I resigned from SigmaWorld and
“But it wasn’t completely Avinash’s fault, I moved to Delhi after we got married, I thought…I
suppose. I lacked self-confidence from the presumed that I’d get a job and work…till I
beginning. I was afraid that my decisions had a baby. But Avinash told me that he
would not be the correct ones – after all, I “That’s wanted my entire attention…and so I
had married a rich, charismatic, successful because he dropped my plans of working. I had
man whom everyone respected and so I doesn’t like enjoyed my work. It had given me
was sure that his decisions would be better Akshaya independence and individuality. Now that
than mine! talking about was gone.”
“Besides, I didn’t want to create waves her work at We all fell silent, absorbed in our own
in my new family. So I was submissive and home,” thoughts.
everyone was happy – by ‘everyone’ I Shivangi “When did you decide to leave
mean, my in-laws and my husband. informed Avinash?” I asked in a hushed tone. I was
“But slowly I realised that I wasn’t still stunned by what my friend had just told
Jyotsna. “But
happy. I felt smothered by Avinash’s love. I us.
wasn’t getting the freedom I needed and I
he loves to “When he told me some weeks ago that
wasn’t being appreciated. I began to talk about his he didn’t want any kids because that would
resent Avinash. I began to miss the things I own!” take away some of the attention I gave
had given up without a struggle. I had him.”
stopped playing the sitar because none of my in- I gasped. “That’s not normal,” said Shivangi
laws liked classical music. I liked rich, deep colours, quietly.
but the new flat Avinash bought for us was done up “No, it isn’t. I realised then that my passivity, my
completely in white and I found that depressing. I giving in on every issue, hadn’t made Avinash feel
was never asked my opinion on anything because it secure and loved as I thought that it would. It had
was presumed that I would be my husband’s echo. I simply become a way of life for him. And he wanted
began to find that humiliating.” more and more from me.”
I found my voice. “I think you are being unfair to “You mean…you’ll never go back to him? That
Avinash,” I said. “He loves you and wants to protect you’ll get a divorce or something?”
you….” “Yes, if necessary…but I hope it won’t come to
“But I don’t want to be protected! I’m not so weak that. I hope the fact that I have stood up to him will
that I need to be! And by deciding everything for make him rethink matters and that he’ll realise that
me, he’s taking away my voice, my right over my he has made an absurd demand on me and our
own life, my right to live as I want to!” marriage. That he’ll come to his senses…”
“But all decisions taken for us need not do that! Shivangi and I both held Jyotsna’s hands. She
For instance, Puneet decided that I needed a break grasped them back. The coffee we hadn’t even
a couple of weeks ago and insisted that we go out noticed, cooled on the table in front of us.
for the weekend. I came back feeling fresh and full “Don’t make the mistake I made, Akshaya,”
I
started the next day. In small ways, I began to do herself do not come easy to her after years of being
things as I wanted to. When I made methi-alu for passive – but she is revelling in it now. Revelling in
Puneet, I made bhindi for myself. I began to talk being herself! We
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t a party held some time back, I Here’s how to cases, a person acquires the local parlance
chanced upon this stunningly unconsciously. A Delhi person will speak in
beautiful woman, wife of one of my
refine your a different manner compared to, say, a
husband's friends. It was quite speech to person from Chennai. Most of the time you
difficult to keep my eyes off her, as cannot help it but it spoils your language
she was in one of the choicest ensembles
refine forever.
with striking danglers hanging from her ears yourself. For someone who wants to have refined
and just the right kind of make-up, hairdo ways, giving time and attention to speech is
and accessories. She looked the picture of perfection. a must. Besides, a good way of speaking also helps in
But not for long! Her whole persona turned repulsive the winning friends and influencing people. Good speaking
moment she opened her mouth to say something. She skills are a must for a pleasing personality.
had quite a strange way with words. She spoke in a Ways to improve speech Speak slowly and clearly.
parlance which was quite irritating, more so because it Don't rush with words. Use your words when required.
did not go with her appearance. One expected a refined Keeping quiet is a better option when you are not sure
way of speaking from this enchanting woman. about something. When you are among gossip-
This incident set me thinking about how much we mongers and have no choice, maintain a diplomatic
do to make ourselves look good from the outside and silence. At best, give a smile or a nod. Indulging in
we pay so little attention to our diction. It is self- gossip only gives temporary pleasure.
defeating to undermine the importance of speech. Later, it can have unwanted consequences. Learn to
People know us because of what we say. In many pronounce words correctly. Try to limit body movement
ways, our speech is the expression of who we are as a while speaking. Let others also have their turn at
person. Make-up and attire does not do much to speaking. Apply your thinking before giving a voice to
contribute to a person's personality: it only adds to your your words. Try to read good books and magazines.
person in ways of making you more attractive. But Brush up on your current affairs and knowledge about
speech divulges all. It informs about the educational the world around you.
qualifications of a person, his or her value system, self- Mostly, people get bored with trivia and gossip.
beliefs, inclinations and much more. Everyone wants to have variety in a discussion. Beauty
So, are you one of those people who is all glitter with brains is always likable. Your words will cheat you if
and shine but only till she opens her mouth? If so, it is you are ignorant.
time you paid attention to your words. In reality, taking Even our beauty queens go through rigorous
care while speaking helps in many ways. Many of you practice to improve their diction before they go to
would agree that at times words even lead to conflict. participate in beauty pageants because they realise
So it would be wise to use them judiciously. In many that beauty is not just skin deep! – Manisha Prakash
TEEN ACHE
TEEN CHE
I am a 17-year-old girl who has not
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yet started her periods. I feel worried
and left out because all my friends
secondary signs of sexual maturity
like growing breasts, underarm and
pubic hair, it may just be a matter of
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have done so. My mother says, waiting.
everyone is a late starter in the family There is no harm in consulting a
and it is no cause for worry. Please doctor who can access your condition
advise. accurately and suggest treatment if
By normal standards, you should necessary. If you have not got your
I am in a real fix. For some time, my have started your menarche by now, periods even when you are a year
parents were missing money from but if it is delayed in your other family older, it is definitely important to get
their purses, and had suspected our members, perhaps this is a medical opinion.
servant who they sacked. Last week, hereditary trend. If you have got the
I was shocked to catch my younger I am a 16-year-old girl. Some days
15-year-old brother pilfering cash I really love a boy in our class back, my aunt and her son had come
from Mom’s handbag. When I (12th std) very much. He is one of to stay with us for a week. One
confronted him, he confessed that he the smartest and most popular morning, when I was bathing,
had been stealing earlier too, and guys. I try to talk to him on every suddenly my cousin brother pushed
that the servant was innocent. He small pretext, clearing doubts, open the bathroom door. The latch
begged me not to tell my parents and borrowing his notes,etc. I smile at had not closed properly. Both he and
that he would never steal again. He him a lot also to show I like him, I were shocked and he beat a hasty
claimed that the pocket money Dad but I still cannot find out whether retreat. I feel very ashamed that he
gave him was too little to meet his he likes me too. My friend even had seen me without any clothes. He
expenses and so, he resorted to asked him point-blank but he didn’t is behaving normally and seems to
taking the money. answer at all. This is driving me have put the incident behind him.
I do not know what to do. I feel crazy. Should I just tell him that I Should I too do the same or talk to
terrible that the servant was given a love him? Is it wrong for a girl to him to clear the matter up?
bad name for nothing at all. She was make the first move? We are both It was an unfortunate mistake, and
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inconsolable. But if I tell my parents, 17 years old. you should not feel guilty or ashamed
Dad will surely punish my brother It is clear that this boy is not about it. It is wise and correct on the
severely. I do not want this as he is a ready to have a girlfriend. He may part of your cousin to ignore it. Do
good kid, otherwise. I am his 17-year- find you attractive but may not not rake it up or make a big issue of it
old elder sister. want to be your exclusive by talking about it with him. It will
It is important that you set things boyfriend. This is understandable. cause unnecessary embarrassment.
right with the servant who will be Girls mature sexually and He seems to be a decent guy. It
suffering agony with the false emotionally earlier than boys. could make trouble for him. Such
accusations. Coax your brother to When girls start thinking about unintentional accidents happen. Put it
confess to your mother who will romance, boys and dating, boys out of your mind and stop feeling
perhaps be more lenient with him. are usually only interested in cars guilty . And yes, always latch the
His behaviour cannot be excused, and football. In a couple of years bathroom properly when using it!
especially when he kept silent when though, they find the other sex
an innocent person was made the very alluring. This column is especially for teenagers.
Adolescence can, we know, be a trying and
scapegoat. What guarantee is there Don’t declare your interest and confusing time. There are so many questions
that he will not be stealing again, “love” to this boy. You will which seem to evade solutions. A wrong
taking more care not to be caught? embarrass him and even scare decision, or an indiscreet move, can spell
disaster and ruin a life. Share your problem,
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you must speak to your mother your time, play hard to get, give you find a way out — to a happier, healthier
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where, to get what you want
out of life, you’ve got to work,
and work hard. Really hard.
Attention, all ye job-seekers,
lend me your ears, for I have
How not to just sit a few tips which just might give you
the cutting edge and ensure that your
around – and get a move on! foray into a career will not be with too
By Dr Rumy Agarwal many hiccups.
Be obedient but not passive:
Don’t ever project the helpless,
content-to-flow-with-the-tide image
cos, if you do, you will just keep
flowing! You will never be singled out
for being given additional respon -
sibility and, as it follows, neither for
promotions (especially out of turn!).
Strut your stuff, fellas, show your
bosses that you’ve got what it takes
and, for that, you need to show
spunk, enthusiasm and initiative.
For instance, if there is any
problem at work, don’t rush to inform
your boss. Think about the problem,
view it from all angles and try to think
of a practical solution and then, and
only then, go to Big Daddy with infor-
mation and suggestions to solve the
problem). Try it and see the
difference it makes. At once, your IF YOU WANT TO BE movers and shakers, be more gung-
ratings in the boss’s eyes are ho about yourself. Be prepared to
buoyed! “Here’s a feisty one,” thinks
COUNTED AMONG THE take that odd chance – it may be just
he. He knows then that you can be MOVERS AND the catalyst you needed. If there’s a
relied upon for new assignments – SHAKERS, BE MORE challenging assignment to be given,
and the perks (a favourable Confi - GUNG-HO ABOUT put yourself up for it. If you are
dential Report, a good word, a raise scared and nervous about your ability
in salary, etc) just follow! YOURSELF. BE PREPARED to handle it, tell yourself that it’s okay
Remember, a laid-back attitude at TO TAKE THAT ODD to be frightened but – what the hell –
work is a sure-shot way of landing up CHANCE – IT MAY BE even if life comes up lemons, you can
to disuse atrophy – DON’T have it. always make lemonade! Above all,
Perk up and go sniffing around for
JUST THE CATALYST YOU be an eager learner; if you project
situations which need rectification NEEDED. complacence and boredom, that is
’cos it is these “situations”, these his reasoning is that if you are doing what you will get from your boss too.
problems, which will give you the your job adequately, it’s no big deal,
opportunity to showcase your talents. ’cos he’s paying you for doing just Keep relationships at work in
Move, guys, move! that. Why the hell should he reward the right perspective: This is a tad
you? But if you give more of yourself intricate ’cos friendships are emotion-
Be ready to experiment: Y’know, to your work than is expected of you, based and emotions are not
you don’t always HAVE to stick to well then, you do deserve a “pat on governed by the little black book of
age-old ways of doing things. If you the back” (sometimes read as professional etiquette, y’know.
feel that a certain method has “promotion” or “increment”. Anyway, maintaining the right
outlived its utility or is overused for balance (being buddy-buddy with
want of anything better, have the guts If you have it, flaunt it: And I am some and distant with others, but
to change it. If it succeeds, you’ve hit talking about talent and potential, my polite and pleasant with all) is
pay dirt; in case it doesn’t, at least friends, so no naughty smirks, okay? absolutely essential. And try to keep
you’ve proved that your creativity is If you feel that you have something to your work-related opinions and
not at a dead end! And that counts offer to your work by way of aptitude grievances to yourself – you never
for something, especially in the long or ingenuity, then go ahead, bring it know when they might reach the
run. to the boss’s notice (but be discreet – wrong ears and you are left with a lot
neither pompous nor apologetic). of eggs on your face.
Perform beyond expectations: Have self-confidence and then So, if you keep the nitty-gritty in
Abstruse though it may sound, the hardsell yourself. In the professional mind, guys, you will be able to punch
boss rarely gives a promotion for a world, the meek and humble do NOT the right digits to get to the top.
job performed well as per norms or rule the world ! Remember, the boss usually bestows
expectations; what he looks out for, a kindly eye on the one who is a cut
and rewards, is the spark to stray Donʼt underestimate yourself: If above the rest. So go on, be THAT
from the path of the pedestrian. Look, you want to be counted among the person. We
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An acrobat from
internationally acclaimed
circus company “Circus
Oz” dismounts from his
balancing act during a
rehearsal of their new
production for the opening
night in Melbourne on 16
June. The circus without
animals has performed in
26 different countries
across five continents to
over two million people.
Intervention vessel
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This is the view of the Q4000 multi-
purpose oilfield intervention vessel,
burning off material from the
Deepwater Horizon wellhead near
the disaster site in the Gulf of Mexico
on 24 June. The rig had exploded on
20 April, spilling millions of gallons of
crude into the Gulf.
Surfing event
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of Dobrush.
masterpieces
An important exhibition
explores the full career
of film-maker Tim Burton
through hundreds of art
works that spectacularly
illuminate his creative
vision behind the movies
Beetlejuice Batman,
Edward Scissorhands,
Charlie and Chocolate
Factory and Alice in
Wonderland.
The Edges of the world
▼
A gallery assistant dips
her toe into the outdoor
pool installation entitled
What a performance!
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“H2O-SfLv” by Brazilian
An actor performs during artist Ernesto Neto, at
the opening of “King Kong the Hayward gallery in
360 3-D” at Universal central London on 16
Studios in Hollywood, June. In the next picture
California on 29 June. Neto stands within one
of his installations. The
new exhibition forms part
of the Festival Brazil at
the Southbank centre”
Art is today resurfacing
all over the world,
particularly in India.
Nicaraguan school
children show their
XO laptops at the
Miguel Larreynaga
school in the town of
Tipitapa on 24 June.
The one Laptop for
9-part self-portrait ▼ Child Organisation
A collage of Polapan prints by (OLC) has distributed
artist Chuck Close is displayed at 17,000 Laptops in
Sotheby’s during a preview of the 150 public schools
Polaroid Collection in New York. across the country.
The collection which the founder of
Stress on sex
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DIEPPE
banks of the river. To the north, it is
open to the English Channel.
Hundreds of boats were anchored
along the quay. Jutting right into the
sea is the Transmanche Terminal, a
Dieppe harbour
Castle museum. St. Jacques church.
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When I lost a lot of weight I got
terrible stretch marks on my arms
and stomach. They look very ugly
and although now I am slim I cannot
wear sleeveless or low saris. Is there
I am only 17 and am diabetic. My any permanent solution?
beauty problem is my skin which is Sudden loss of weight, or
dull and lifeless. Also from time to sometimes even with exercise, such
time I get an attack of small pimple- a dramatic weight loss will lead to
like rash which lasts for a fortnight stretch marks. These can be covered
and at that time my skin feels very to a limited extent by careful
oily. What should I do? application of make-up but that is not
Diabetes is a serious problem and always possible, especially for arms.
at your age it is the hormonal You should think of approaching the
changes, the problems related to dresses with see-through arms, and
diabetes and the medication you for a ‘permanent’ solution consult a
must be taking for it – add that to the good cosmetic surgery person who
pollution and other problems of the should take you through all your
weather and it is not easy for skin to options surgically.
cope. Do consult a dermatologist for
the pimple-like rash and for the
oiliness of the skin. I am confused about keeping my face
Be attentive to your skin’s needs – clean. I do use some make-up but
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cleanse and tone regularly and avoid clean it every night. I want to know if I
make-up items like blusher and should use an astringent and toner
compact. every day after cleansing it with
If you exfoliate and massage cleansing milk?
regularly your skin will improve. Also, You have not mentioned your
try to eat healthy foods that are age. Irrespective of age though,
effective for your diabetes cleansing of skin at the end of the
management as well. day is always recommended. Often
washing it with a gentle soap and
removing all the make-up and grime
I have always had dandruff since I is sufficient.
was a teenager. I try different sham- When the skin is younger it does
poos and conditioners and it goes not need a toner but as we mature
away for a few weeks and then and nature is unable to produce all
comes back. I am really tired of it and the necessary detoxifying and
want a permanent solution. What nourishing oils, it is necessary to aid
should I do? the skin by giving it products like a
Uncured dandruff can lead to skin mild soap-free cleanser, balancing
problems that eventually affect other toner and a nourishing night cream.
parts of the body as well. If you have When using cleansing milk ensure
tried different hair care products and that all residual cleaning agents are
it keeps coming back it might be a removed from the skin.
DECORATIVE GRASS
Furnishing with a natural grace.
B
By Shilpa Shanbhag
amboo is the tallest grass together in order to make a multi- damage to the surface of the bamboo
that takes a year to reach layer resembling wood, which is then furniture.
its full height, which could shaped into any kind of furniture. This ● Protect your bamboo furniture
be as high as 30 to 40 feet. kind of bamboo furniture resembles from the sun and rain as these may
It then hardens and matures hardwood furniture and is sold in both damage it.
in the next four to seven light and dark shades and finishes. ● Also, polish, wax and paint
years before it can be used Bamboo is used to make beds, your furniture regularly.
to make bamboo blinds, workstations, desks, tables, stools, ● Refrain from wetting your
screens, curtains, fences chairs, couches, kitchen cabinets, furniture to prevent damage.
and furniture. bathroom cabinets, and more. ● At least once a year, do major
Bamboo can also be used for fencing cleaning, which involves vacuuming
purposes in terrace flats and private off the dust that may get deposited
BAMBOO FURNITURE homes. Bamboo fencing adds a in the crevices.
Bamboo, being eco-friendly, is a touch of class to the garden it ● Should you spill water or other
strong and tough material that resists outlines. But before erecting bamboo liquids on your furniture, make sure
shrinkage and swelling and can fences, it is advisable to treat them you blot it dry immediately in order to
hence be used to make furniture. The with a thin layer of UV-resistant stain prevent staining.
best part of the furniture is that it has to prevent decay and weathering. ● If the bamboo has cracked,
a style of its own. As the grass grows sand with a fine-grit sandpaper until
quickly, it can be used regularly smooth and then rub with wax. This
without causing any damage to the CLEANING IT should restore the piece to its original
environment. Bamboo needs to be cleaned just colour and shine.
Bamboo has become a popular like any other hardwood. Follow this ● Never sit on wet bamboo
product in recent years, and is regimen to clean the furniture because it is so soft that it can get
treated with high regard as a choice ● Dust the furniture regularly to damaged or lose its shape. Wait for a
for decorating a room, garden, and avoid dust from accumulating on the few days before you start using your
above all a house. Though sturdy furniture. Use a small dust brush or furniture after cleaning.
and indestructible, it is easy to clean cloth and simply wipe over the ● By rubbing the furniture
and maintain. surface to remove dust particles. The periodically with linseed or other
Bamboo furniture is usually made furniture requires to be dusted at furniture oil, the furniture’s shine can
through a process of cutting strips of least once a week. be restored.
bamboo, boiling them in order to ● Once all the visible dirt is ● To maintain the furniture’s
make them resilient to mildew and removed, use a soft cloth or sponge golden colour, a colourless lacquer
bugs and then gluing the strips soaked in soap water to clean the can be applied to protect it from dirt,
together. After they are stuck together furniture. Avoid using detergents, wear and tear and other harmful
edge to edge, the panels are pressed which contain chemicals to prevent conditions. We
Fruits are all time CHOCOLATE wooden spoon till the sauce
begins to thicken. Put off the heat
favourites. Every CAKE WITH and allow the sauce to cool to
room temperature. Spread the
season has its FRESH sauce evenly on top of the cake
MUSTARD
SAUCE
INGREDIENTS:
3-4 apples
For the mustard sauce:
3 tsp French mustard paste
1/ tsp sugar
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METHOD
Cut the apples into eight
pieces and remove the seeds.
Do not peel the apples.
Mix the mustard sauce in 3
tbsp of lukewarm water and
keep the paste aside. Heat
another 100 ml of water in a
pan and lower the heat. Mix in
STEWED POACHED
the sugar and the mustard PINEAPPLE AND EGGS WITH
paste and stir gently. Put the
apple pieces in this mustard CHERRIES WITH ORANGE
syrup and cook the apples in
the sauce for 3-4 minutes or till
ICE CREAM SAUCE
the sauce begins to thicken INGREDIENTS: INGREDIENTS:
slightly. Putt off the heat and 6-7 pineapple slices 6 eggs
cool to room temperature. 250 gm fresh cherries 300 ml orange juice
Serve chilled with cold rice 2 tbsp sugar salt to taste
noodles or with ice cream for 3/ tsp cinnamon powder
4 pepper to taste
dessert. For serving: oil for frying the eggs
1/ tsp cinnamon powder
Apples in mustard sauce ice cream 2
METHOD METHOD
Cut the pineapple slices Heat oil in a non-stick pan and
into halves or leave these fry the eggs sunny side up. Turn
in circles. Heat 150 ml of the egg gently so that the yolk is
water and add the cooked from the top as well. Fry
sugar and the all the eggs in this way adding salt
cinnamon powder. and pepper to each egg before
Stir gently till the you turn these over. Place the
sugar melts. Add the fried eggs in an oven-proof dish.
pineapple slices and In the pan in which you have fried
cook on low fire for 2- the eggs add the orange juice and
3 minutes. Add the bring to boil adding the cinnamon
cherries and continue to powder.
boil for another minute. Boil the orange juice on low fire
Put off the heat. Serve the for 2-3 minutes and then pour
pineapple and cherries with a over the poached eggs.
small portion of the syrup over Place the oven dish in an oven
scoops of well-frozen ice cream. and bake for only 3-4 minutes in a
Toss gently and place on a
CHICKEN serving dish and serve as a salad
SALAD WITH at room temperature.
LITCHEES
INGREDIENTS: WATERMELON
300 gm boneless chicken
salt to taste AND CUCUMBER
Poached eggs with orange sauce 1 tsp vinegar
3 tbsp olive oil
REFRESHER
300 gm peeled litchees WITH MINT
1 cup full watermelon pieces
INGREDIENTS:
– without the seeds and
2 cups watermelon pieces –
peels
without the peel and seeds
1 cup watermelon pieces –
2 cups cucumber pieces –
peeled and seeded and cut
without the peel and seeds
into cubes 1/ tsp pepper powder
1 tsp pepper powder 2
1 tsp chaat
1 tsp coarsely ground chilli
masala
powder
mint leaves
1 tsp oregano powder
METHOD
METHOD
Run the water-
Sprinkle salt and vinegar
melon and cucu -
on the chicken pieces and set
mber pieces and
Chicken salad
aside for 10 minutes. Heat
pepper powder
with litches the olive oil in a non-stick pan
and chaat masala
and add the chicken and fry
preheated oven at 180 degree C in a mixer and
on low fire for 2-3 minutes.
and serve at once. blend. Pour into
Sprinkle a few drops of water and
If you do not want to use the glasses and chill.
cover with a lid. Continue to cook
oven you can heat the eggs Throw in a few mint
till the chicken is tender. Put off
slightly before serving in the leaves into each glass
the heat and sprinkle the pepper
microwave for 30 seconds. and serve as a summer
and chilli powder and oregano.
Serve with noodles or steamed refresher.
Place the chicken pieces in a Watermelon and
rice. mixing bowl and add the fruits. cucumber refresher
with mint
RASGOLLAS
BAKED WITH
MANGO PUREE
INGREDIENTS:
6-8 rasgollas
1 kg sweet good quality
mangoes
11/2 cup milk
11/2 tbsp brown sugar
METHOD
Peel the mangoes and cut into puree over the rasgollas. Sprinkle peeled and seeded and cut into
small pieces. Place the pieces in the brown sugar and place in a cubes
a mixer and grind to a puree. Add preheated oven at 180 degree C 1 cup cucumber cut into small
the milk and run the mixer once for 10 -12 minutes or until the pieces – with the peel
again. Place the rasgollas on a sugar just about begins to melt. 1 or more green capsicum cut
baking dish and pour the mango Serve hot or at room into small pieces
temperature or even chilled. 2-3 tomatoes cut into small
pieces – optional
2 tsp lemon juice
SPROUTS, 1 tsp pepper powder
1 tsp coarsely ground chilli
MUSK MELON powder
1 tsp oregano powder
AND WATER- METHOD
MELON Mix all the ingredients together
and serve in a shell of water
SALAD melon which has been scooped
out.
INGREDIENTS:
If the salad is chilled before
200 gm sprouts
serving, it tastes better.
1 cup full watermelon pieces –
without the seeds and peels
1 cup watermelon pieces –
Rasgollas baked with mango puree
the peanut
MUSK MELON butter in a mixer
WITH PEANUT to a fine paste.
Remove to a
BUTTER SAUCE butter dish and
place in a fridge.
INGREDIENTS: Keep in the
400 gm musk melon fridge till time for
100 gm peanut butter use.
2 tsp sugar powder Spread on
METHOD pieces of bread
Peel the musk melon and and enjoy the
remove the seeds and cut into spread between
small pieces. Run the musk slices of bread Musk melon with
melon pieces, sugar powder and like a sandwich. peanut butter sauce
CARAMELISED
PEACHES
WITH ICE
CREAM
INGREDIENTS:
10-12 peaches of good quality
Burger patties and big size
with crushed
pineapple and 3 tbsp sugar
apple sauce 1/ tsp cloves powder
2
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By Ameeta Sharma
easonal change brings the Combating the sun: Something
necessity of variation in as simple as using an umbrella while
one’s beauty-care regime. out in the sun is extremely helpful
Gone are the cold days of during summer. SPF with a minimum
extra-dry skin in winter strength of 30 is recommended for
where the use of the right people who have sensitive skin and
cream makes a lot of need to be in the sun for their daily
difference in the way your activities or go on two-wheelers for
skin feels to the touch. The long distances.
present situation is moisture At least twice a week, or
loss of skin, a dull flaky look and preferably every alternate day, using
extra-oily skin. With the sweating, the lemon juice on your face and neck
hair too becomes greasy and needs as also hands and other parts of the
to be washed more frequently. body that are exposed to the sun
Beauty care has to be tweaked to suit helps with the suntan reduction.
the climatic change. Apply directly with cotton wool and
wash off after 15 to 20 minutes.
Unchanging problem: While
season change brings a difference in Balanced diet: As the saying
temperature or humidity what goes – you are what you eat.
remains unchanged in urban India is Consuming a balanced diet is
the pollution and harmful rays of the extremely important during these
sun which create havoc for the skin. months which drain your inner
These have to be tackled on a reserves of water content. Seasonal
regular basis. So the early addition fruits like watermelon and melons,
in the regime for adolescents creates and vegetables like cucumber and
a habit that keeps them aware and gourd (lauki) are extremely good for a
active to take charge of their own balanced diet.
personal care. If you have a problem with
diabetes then balancing with not in a harsh rough
sugar has to be done. Green movement.
leafy vegetable like spinach A home-made product is
are also very good for the economical and allows you
stomach. Avoid extra fat as fresh ingredients. Soaked
digestion is sluggish in these almonds can be blended
months, and consume roughly and mixed with raw
buttermilk rather than full fat milk, a dash of honey and
milk. some oatmeal powder for face
and neck exfoliation. Masur
Facials and massages: pink daal can be soaked for a
Heavy creams or essential oils few hours and then put through
are best avoided in this season a blender mixed with rough
as overloading your skin with oatmeal for the body. While
pore clogging creams is not body exfoliating is best done
going to do it any good. You with vigorous movements to
need moisture, not necessarily improve the blood circulation,
oil. movements on the face should
Before you decide on be smaller, gentler and must
products to use on your skin, it never pull the skin down but
is recommended you know massaged upwards.
your skin type. It might be oily,
dry or a combination with a T Cleansing and toning
zone (this is when the nose ritual: Off-the-shelf beauty
and forehead area is oily while products promise instant
the rest of the face skin is dry). results but it is the regular use
If you have the problem of that will really give you lasting
open pores, always use an ice benefits. While one feels like
pack after steaming your face washing one’s face with soap
or removing the blackheads. more than twice a day, that
Adding a few drops of practice will not benefit you in
rosewater will have a the long run as the harsh soap
refreshing effect on the skin. or face wash imbalances the
Use a lighter cream or oil for Ph of the skin and makes it dry.
body massage as well. Oil can Opt for a soap-free face
be diluted with adding water wash and select a good toner
and mixing well to spread it for your skin type. A toner with
evenly. alcohol needs to be avoided as
it strips the skin of all that you
Joys of exfoliation: need for a healthy skin. Home
Removal of dead skin is remedies include using raw
mandatory for healthy skin. tomato juice for cleansing and
Also, if you use make-up then toning the facial and neck skin.
if the base is clear and well
cared for, the products you use Right moisture: While the
on your face would reflect that skin might feel oily, when you
inner beauty and the effect will wash or wipe it, the surface
be far better. does become dry. Heavy
As the skin breathes, creams that are needed for the
pollution deposits particles on winter months are best packed
the surface, the top layer of the away for some time and lighter
skin becomes listless and dull. lotions are the call of the day. If
Exfoliators for the body scrub you have extra-oily skin, you
are often harsh as the skin on could make your own lotion of
our arms, legs, hands and feet a water base to which a few
is thickest. However, face drops of lavender oil are
exfoliation mix needs to be added. Splash on your face
softer and must be used gently and then pat dry.
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without thinking. By Rumy Agarwal
arketing gurus have never tandem with product
had it so good – the world desig ners. This
consumer goods is their means the products
oyster and they have the and their advertise -
customers just how they ments sneak into our
want them: putty in their psyche, mould our
hands! No, really, I am not thinking, and guide
being hyperbolical – it is a our actions. Hmm...
plain simple fact. Look seems like copy -
around you – most of the writers and product
things that you are surrounded by are designers can make
there as a result of your conscious the world’s best
decision to procure them in preachers or spiritual
preference to other similar articles. gurus!
Which means that we buy the things Anyway, as I was saying, our urge electronic media. Pretty awesome, I’d
we do because they are: to splurge is quite effectively a say, to be able to creep into the
● good, economical, give their product of all the smart whipper - crevices of a nation’s collective
money’s worth (the common sense – snapper lines this combo tribe unconscious and influence its
but boring! – reasons); badgers us with via the print and spending behaviour! Which is why
● fashionable (must have them the psychodynamics of ad-making
’cos everybody else – or those that and the psychology of marketing
matter in our social circuit – has INTERESTINGLY, fascinate me – how the hell do these
them); THE LOOK OF THE people push the right buttons to get
● of the latest technology and
are, therefore, a cut above the rest;
PACKAGE ALSO HAS AN us to loosen our purse-strings? How
do they motivate us to buy one brand
● attractively packaged or ENORMOUS IMPACT ON instead of an other? Which instincts
endorsed by some celebrity (pretty ITS PERCEIVED QUALITY. of ours do they appeal to? Which
inane reasons for spending dough emotional strings do they play on?
but, we know, the human mind works
AN EYE-CATCHING These and many such questions flew
in strange ways at times). PACKAGE ALMOST about in my mind like bats in a belfry
And how have we arrived at these SUMMARILY TRANSLATES and I thought, why not thrash out the
conclusions or picked these reasons psychology of product marketing?
for shopping? This is how. Conscio- INTO SUPERIORITY Yeah, why not? And guess what I
usly or unconsciously, we let our - OF THE PRODUCT OR discovered!
selves be guided and our thinking be
influenced by the very persuasive
VERACITY OF ITS Each damn jar, tube, pouch, box,
bottle on the store shelves has been
clan of advertisers working in perfect CLAIMS! carefully designed and packaged to
Different Cuts
and sexy.
Longish and longer Urban-Afro style
A parting that falls over
Hema’s Choice
When a village girl has to choose between two conflicting proposals...
By Anil Kumar Panda
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n arrow of light emerged from behind the already gone to the field. ‘He should at least wake
hill, which stood like a wall across the me up,’ she muttered to herself. She ran to the
eastern periphery of the village. The glow backyard, to the empty shed and collected
extended from the top of the hill to the middle cowdung. She cleaned the ropes, spread dry straw
of the sky, piercing through a large chunk of on the floor for the cows to sleep on and began to
cloud having frayed edges. The sun was gather the clothes to be washed. The toothless old
about to appear as the strand of light woman sitting on the verandah smiled at her as she
lowered and kissed the vast stretch of undulating closed the doors behind her. As she alighted the
fields — the sweating farmers were already tilling, stairs, a squirrel ran past her towards the old
walking leisurely behind the demure oxen. The cattle banyan tree. It stopped in the middle of its trunk,
grazing at a distance looked like dots on a canvass. teased her by blinking its eyes before getting lost
As they grazed, the dew-washed thin blades of amidst thick leaves.
grasses stung their nostrils which they cleared with
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their hooves or by shaking their heads violently. The he river was already crowded when Hema
squirrels got alert and paused to look at the cows reached there. The women had taken their
with their tails swinging in the air. The birds baths and were collecting their clothes to
emerged from their nests in droves and return. Girls of her age were washing
made somersaults in the air. Sometimes, clothes sitting on stones and sands, talking
they would perch on the heads of the cows The river and laughing. On the other side of the river
and pry for the twisting worms in the was already men and children plunged into the water
grasses. crowded from a high rock sending out waves.
Holding a pot at her waist, the wife of when Hema Squeezing petticoats between their legs, the
the farmer walked indolently towards the reached girls entered the water. They held each
river, pausing and playing with dew till there. The other’s hands so that the slipping sands
her friends caught up with her. They women had would not pull them down. They held water
gathered at the river and bowed their taken their in the cups of their palms and threw it over
heads towards the flame of orange that baths and their heads, creating rainbows. The drops
filled the horizon. Somewhere, a farmer were of water hung onto their tresses like nuggets
played his flute sitting under a tree. The collecting of diamonds.
cows held their heads up and let the girls
caress their necks and kiss their foreheads.
their clothes theAs the sun began to turn white behind
mango trees and the dew disappeared
The women let loose the knots of hairs and
to return. from the tip of the bent grass, the river fell
shook their heads gently. They blushed as silent. Hema took her bath, gathered the
crumpled petals of henna rolled over their bodies clothes, tweaked the cheeks of the girl bathing
and got strewn in the sands. beside her and walked towards her home with water
The rooster crowed, standing on one leg over a dripping from her dress. She walked up to the
dunghill below the half-opened windows. Hema got verandah and opened the doors of her house. The
up from the bed. She cursed herself for sleeping late. cows had already returned from the field and were
Standing at the windows, she inhaled the morning chewing the cud leisurely, sitting on the verandah.
air. The banks of the river would have been As she rushed to the courtyard the cows followed
crowded, she thought. She took the broom and her. She hung the clothes on the string in the
began to sweep the floor hurriedly. Her father had courtyard. The cows mooed in the shed and beat the
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polished with utmost care. “She has your eyes and he closed the doors, stood in front of the mirror
nose and chin, just like that of a pigeon,” she had and looked at herself. Clouds of dark tresses
heard her mother saying about her to him while ran down to her waist. Two strands, like two
plaiting her hair. tender creepers, hung on either sides of her
forehead, making half moons by the sides of her
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ometimes the rice water would get spilled out of eyes. She pushed them back and pinned them over
the bowl as his thoughts flew into the future — her head. Tiny drops of perspiration stuck to the
when Hema would be wed and he would have eyelashes and shone like diamonds. The lips were
little grandchildren. Tears gathered at the corners of as thin as petals and quivered to open up. She was
his eyes as the face of his wife appeared from already 17 and looked like the most beautiful girl in
nowhere and he felt the walls of the house shaking the village. Her eyes fell on the photograph of her
with their laughter. As his thoughts evaporated, his mother — smiling at her from inside the wooden
eyes would fall on Hema who was staring at him for frame. Her mother’s eyes looked like two butterflies.
spoiling his dress with rice water. He ‘If those eyes were alive,’ she thought, ‘she would
would straighten himself, hold back like to hold them in her palms for ever.’ The villagers
the tears and begin to eat like a often said that Hema’s eyes had the same
child. That stare of Hema’s mysteriousness and depth of her mother’s.
reminded him of her mother. She heard someone calling her father’s name
outside. Someone might have brought some news
from her father? She opened the doors
and found Sadhu, the peon of the
village school, standing in front of
her. His eyes stayed fixed on
Hema’s face for a while. He
was thin, dark and wore a cap
that looked as old as him,
about 60 years. Wisps of
thin white hairs hung loose
at the periphery of the
cap and his eyes were
covered with thick
glasses.
“Where is
Madhab?” he
asked, bending his
head to one side.
“Not yet returned
from the field I
think?” His senile
frame seemed to fall
on Hema. Her father and Sadhu had been friends She opened it and saw her father standing in
for long. Sadhu used to come to her house quite front of her. His body had turned black and was
often. He would drink tea with her father sitting on glistening with sweat. A drop of perspiration was
the verandah. They would talk for hours on various hanging from the tip of his nose. He handed over
things — about rain, the slow progress of the hoe and basket to Hema and sitting on the floor
government’s various schemes in the village, about began to wipe his body with his cloth. Hema put the
each other’s family — till Hema’s mother would hoe and the basket in a corner and asked her father
shout at them as the cows seemed restless in the if he wanted some water. He nodded. She went into
shed for fodder, and lamps were to be lit. kitchen and came with a bowl of water.
“Not yet, uncle,” said Hema. She looked anxious “Where have you been?” she asked handing
and expected news of her father from Sadhu. over the bowl. He bent forward a little and began to
“Come inside. I will make you some tea.” wash his face. “Where have you been?” she said
“No, no, daughter. I have so much work in the again looking at his face.“Have you given rice
school,” Sadhu adjusted his cap by pulling it a little water to the cows?” Madhab asked without
towards his forehead. answering her. “I forgot to tell you that I might be
“But you can sit till he returns.” late as I had to go to the other side of the river — to
“My goodness! Don’t say that. I don’t expect him the master’s house,” said Madhab, standing with his
to come soon and the headmaster will throw me out back to Hema and wiping his face.
of the school gate if I sit here and drink tea from the “Don’t bother about the cows. I have given them
hands of my daughter,” said Sadhu. rice water and fodder. I also washed the shed with
“He must be coming. He must be feeling tired in cowdung,” her tone seemed a little rude.
this heat,” said Hema looking towards the “Don’t get angry, my darling daughter,
river. and give me something to eat.”
“The rain is about to come in a few Hema sat He dusted the place on the floor and
days. He might have gone to buy seeds,” near the cot squatted down. She sat in front of him
said Sadhu. He came down from the with a pile putting the bowls of rice between them. He
verandah and stood in the middle of the of clothes to put one morsel after another into his mouth
road. as if he had been hungry for days. “It is
“He did not tell me anything when he darn. Off due to that old man,” he began to say with
went out of the house. How could I know?” and on, the a morsel in his mouth, half eaten, “who had
Hema said. Her eyebrows danced like mooing of visited us last week.” Hema nodded
leaves in the wind. cows could looking into his eyes. “He is a very learned
“Tell Madhab that our headmaster be heard man and had been to great places to learn
wants to talk to him. He should come to Sanskrit in his youth.” As Madhab talked
school during the recess hour today,” said
from the his eyes got wider.
Sadhu turning towards Hema. “Don’t shed. “So?” Hema asked with a look of
forget to tell him. It is urgent and that’s why innocence in her eyes.
I myself have come to give this message.” Madhab ran his hand inside the bowl
for rice, felt sure that no grain was left, lifted the
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ema wanted Sadhu to stay till her father bowl to his mouth and drank the rice water. It
returned. She saw him walking down the hot formed a ring around his lips, which he wiped with
and dusty path in hurried paces till he his thumb. “His son will be coming from the town
vanished behind the cluster of huts at the edge of the this month. The old man along with his wife and son
village. would come to see you, maybe this month,” he put
She closed the doors and sat on the cot waiting the bowl in front of him and looked at Hema. She
for her father. Tears welled up in her eyes. She said nothing and went on eating quietly.
could hear the desperate cry of a hungry dog in the “It is up to you. I have nothing to say. The
backyard. The day was getting hotter. villagers say that the boy has a great appetite for
Hema picked up a broom and started to gather learning and would return to the village after having
the cobwebs that had accumulated at the corners of finished some medical course at the college. You
the roof. Inside the holes in the walls, the pigeons know we don’t have such a college in our village,”
shook their bodies, looked at Hema with dreamy Madhab stopped to take a breath. “They say he
eyes and fell into a daze. She gathered the webs into would earn in thousands after that.” He waited for
a knot and was about to go to the backyard when Hema to say something. She finished her rice and
she heard the knocks on the door. Throwing the began to collect the utensils. Then she got up, held
sticky ball into a pot she rushed to the door. the utensils in front of her face so that her eyes could
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he found her father seated on the cot made of the cot creaked when Madhab turned over.
wood and coconut rope. Suddenly, she She woke him up so that he could reach the
remembered Sadhu’s visit. “Sadhu had come to school before it closed. Madhab washed his face,
tell that you must see the headmaster,” Hema said, told Hema not to forget to give fodder and water to
cursing herself for forgetting to give the news. “You the cows, combed his hair and went to the school
should see him at the school during the recess hour.” closing the doors behind him. The colour of the sun
“When had he come?” he asked. “What more was beginning to turn red at its fringe as it hung
did he say?” between the treetops and the horizon. The farmers
“Nothing more. He was in a hurry and did not sit were getting ready to go to the barns to thresh
even for tea,” she said. paddy.
“Let me take a nap first,” said Madhab and,
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placing his hands under his head, he began to ome, Madhab, come, said the headmaster
snore. when he saw Madhab standing in front of his
Hema sat near the cot with a pile of clothes to office. “I was waiting for you.”
darn. Off and on, the mooing of cows could be He was sitting on a wooden chair behind a table
heard from the shed. The pigeons ruffled their wings which looked quite old and was covered with a
as gusts of hot wind set their bodies on fire. Beads of plastic sheet. The headmaster wore a pair of thick
perspiration ran down the temple of Hema, one after glasses having a dark frame. A few books and
another, and fell on the cloth she was sewing. notebooks lay scattered on the table and a pen was
Sometimes, the sweat gathered on her eyelashes lying open on a sheet of half-written paper.
and blurred her vision. She would place the cloth on He gestured to Madhab to sit on a stool in front of
the floor, wipe the eye with the edge of her frock, him, he closed the pen and put away the paper he
take a deep breath and resume her work. was writing on. Though the sun was about to touch
The thought of getting married and leaving the the horizon in the western sky, it was still hot inside
house and her father worried her. How would the the room. A ceiling fan with twisted blades was
life on the other side of the river be, she wondered. whirring labouriously from the ceiling. Sometimes,
She remembered the old man whom she had seen in whiffs of winds entered the room through the
the village market walking with an umbrella in one windows and lifted the pages of the calendar on the
hand and a bag in the other. He looked so simple wall.
and innocent and his forehead was smeared with “Madhab, I want to talk to you about Hema,”
thick sandalwood paste. The villagers treated him said the headmaster taking off his glasses and
with great respect. They went to him to cleaning his eyes with his middle finger and thumb.
seek advice if they were in trouble. Madhab shifted on the stool and nodded his
‘Did his son look like him?’ she head. He was about to say something when the
wondered. ‘How would headmaster said, “Yes, yes. I had sent Sadhu to you.
life in the town be? How is Hema? I have not seen her since she left the
How could I face school.”
the girls in the river Madhab said nothing. His eyes were fixed on the
when the news deep furrows that formed on the forehead of the
spread in the headmaster when he spoke.
“It has really been difficult for you after her
mother died?” the headmaster asked.
“Yes, of course,” whispered Madhab.
“What is she doing in the house?” the
headmaster went on, dusting his shirt with his
fingers.
“She assists me in taking care of the cows and the
house. Most of the time she remains busy in
household jobs.”
“I know, I know. It must be very difficult for her to
leave the house. There is so much work to do.”
The headmaster shook his head up and down. He
began to put the glasses on and placed them at the She has been a good student of our school,” said
edge of his nose. He pulled the chair closer to the the headmaster releasing his hands from under his
table and said, “The matter is, or let me say the armpits and shaking Madhab’s shoulder.
purpose of calling you here is, I want Hema to work Hema was sitting outside on the steps of the
in our school.” He leaned forward as much as verandah when Madhab reached home. The
possible towards Madhab and acted as if he had crimson rays of the sun splashed on the verandah of
confided a great secret in him. the house. A hen surrounded by her chicks scoured
Madhab pulled his head back and sat straight. the dust near Hema’s feet. The chicks ran about and
“What?” gathered behind her whenever a dog or a cat
“Yes, we need a teacher for the kids below five passed by. Women seated in front of their houses
years in our school. As Hema has completed her covered their heads as their in-laws returned from
primary education, I think she can do it.” the fields and river, following the cows and bulls.
The air was filled with the sounds of bells and shouts
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adhab looked at the face of the headmaster of children playing in the street.
who was smiling at him with his upper lip As he reached home, Madhab asked Hema if the
drawn into his mouth. cows had been given rice water and fodder and,
“But she is only 17 and has no picking up a pail, went to the shed to milk
experience in teaching. And who will look the cows. Hema followed her father,
after my house?” Madhab asked in a low As they curious to know what had transpired
voice so that the headmaster should not stood facing between him and the headmaster. As
feel hurt. Madhab milked the cows, she stood near
“That will be taken care of. She will
each other him and caressed their necks. “What did
remain in the school for three to four hours near the the headmaster say?” she asked and kissed
only. She would finish all her work in the gate, the a calf on its forehead as it licked her hand.
house and come to school.” headmaster Madhab adjusted the pail between his legs
“I will see. I have to ask her,” said asked as it got full and heavy. “Nothing,” he said,
Madhab and hung his face down looking Madhab caressing the udder.
worried. “Then how did Sadhu say that the
“I am telling you for her benefit. She about his headmaster wanted to meet you urgently?”
would not feel lonely here and can health and Hema pressed on holding the calf around
continue her study if she likes,” the future plans its neck so that its head touched her cheek
headmaster said as if to make a child for Hema. and she felt the warmth of the soft skin.
understand a riddle. Madhab handed over the pail to Hema,
“All right, sir. Give me permission to patted the cows and picking lice off their
go.” backs, said, “The headmaster told me to take you to
Madhab got up from the stool and stood before the school tomorrow, nothing else.” He began to
the headmaster with folded hands. gather the broom, the pans and the straw into a
“And how will the crop be this year?” the corner of the cowshed. “Be ready tomorrow, we
headmaster asked as he got up from the chair and have to go to school.” They came out of the shed
followed Madhab to the gate. and closed the gate made of wattle to keep dogs
“We are expecting the monsoon to come soon, and cats from entering at night.
otherwise it would be difficult to plant the seeds,”
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said Madhab without turning to look at the adhab returned from the field and told Hema
headmaster. “The land has already been tilled in the to put on a clean frock and get ready. Hema
pre-monsoon rain. Day by day it is becoming wanted to know why his father was so
difficult to depend on agriculture due to insufficient interested in taking her to school. He told her that
rain and non-availability of seeds of good quality.” the headmaster wanted to talk to her. “Why did you
As they stood facing each other near the gate, the not tell me yesterday?” she pleaded looking
headmaster asked Madhab about his health and perplexed. The father and daughter came out of the
future plans for Hema. His hands were crossed over house and the neighbours sitting on the steps looked
his chest and the palms were hidden under the curiously at them.
armpits. “To the school,” said Madhab to the women, who
“Let me go, sir. The girl is alone in the house and looked at them questioningly. “The headmaster
the cows have to be taken care of.” wanted to see her.”
“All right, all right. But you must consider what I “When are they coming to see Hema?” said the
said. Don’t let Hema sit in the house and kill time. old woman whose voice seemed trembling with age.
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“Her marriage would give you a great relief,” he headmaster waited for any reaction from
said the old woman, looking at the women who Hema. She had turned into a statue listening to
nodded their heads and their glances flitted between the headmaster. She had lost the power of
Hema and Madhab. “Don’t let her move in the street speech.
like this; what will they think if they see her loitering “All you have to do is to take care of the little
in the village?” the old woman said as Madhab and children of nursery classes,” the headmaster said,
Hema turned to go. A group of children followed looking at Hema and Madhab alternately. “At the
them to a distance, dispersed into groups and began same time, you can pursue your studies.”
to play. Hema’s hold tightened on the shoulder of her
father.
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hey stood in front at the gate of the school and “But let me tell you, sir,” Madhab said,
saw the headmaster and Sadhu working in the straightening himself in the chair, “it would be very
garden. Hema looked at the old structure of the difficult to get such a boy. The father of the boy
school that she had left a few years ago. She himself had come with the proposal.”
remembered her friends, and the time she had spent “It is up to you. I am just giving you a proposal,”
during her schooldays. She went to the headmaster the headmaster said leaning back in his chair and
and touched his feet. “Arre, Hema! Come, come,” looking at the ceiling. “We are looking for a girl for
said the headmaster and led them to his office. He this post and we thought Hema was alone in the
sat in his chair and offered Madhab a chair to sit house after her mother’s death so she could pass her
on. Hema remained standing at the side of her time here.”
father. “Marriage can wait,” said Hema, crumpling her
“Have you talked to Hema?” said the father’s shirt in her hands. There was an unusual
headmaster, wondering at the beauty of Hema. gravity and maturity in her voice that Madhab was
astonished to notice. “Anything can wait. Let me, sir,
come to the school from tomorrow.”
The air of authority in her face
startled Madhab. He could not
dare to look into her eyes and
turned his face towards the
headmaster. Silence
prevailed for some time.
As Madhab got up from
the chair to go, he heard
the headmaster humming
a song with his gaze
fixed on the yellowish
blades of the fan rotating
demurely overhead.
“Come from tomorrow,
Hema,” he said and
began to gather the
papers spread on the
table into a bundle.
Madhab realised that
the case was no more in
his hands. We
PARTNER SEARCH
Beware of wedding brokers while trying to find a
match for your son or daughter. By Gulsum Basheer
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hat parents do behind – or the parents step into a ensuing wedding, contacts the
their children’s backs, on matrimonial agency. broker. The minute the phone call is
Sunday mor nings goes Having many cousins with children made, she is prey to the broker’s
an advertisement for the of marriageable ages, I have been demands.
weekly matrimonial privy to their tensions and hassles. The broker lands up in her house,
classi fieds in a leading Most importantly I have watched with with photographs and biodata of
newspaper. It is every alarm how gullible they become when prospective brides or grooms as the
parent’s fond desire to they are dealing with marriage case maybe. Before I say more about
see his child settled in life brokers. After all, they want the best the blundering brokers, I should
with a partner worthy of for their child. The broker knows this describe what a typical biodata for a
him or her. and how to sweet-talk the parents marriage alliance looks like. None of
Until a few years ago, most into becoming putty in his trained the boy’s or girl’s achievements in his
parents chose their child’s better-half hands. professional field is highlighted in
from among their relatives and The brokers advertise themselves this. Instead, right after mentioning
acquaintances, with a fond uncle or in the local newspapers. An the applicant’s name and date of
an over friendly aunt playing the advertisement might run something birth, the fond parents mention the
matchmaker. like this “All religions. Marriages colour of his complexion, whether
Now, with joint families breaking fixed, doctors, engineers. All very fair/fair/wheatish. Then the
up into nuclear units and people professions. VIP marriages. Exclu - child’s build which is always slim,
settling far away from the places of sive and Bonafide.” while the heavier ones are passed off
their ancestral origin, finding a bride The unsuspecting parents, usually as athletic.
or groom has become a Herculean the mother, as the father is busy My cousin contacted a broker to
task. So in steps the marriage broker (may be) earning to pay for the find a bride for her highly qualified
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By Minakshi. S. Desai
tyle and fashion aficionados
never had it so good. With
the alarm bells of recession
ringing, sales and discounts
are the order of the day, the
prices hitting rock bottom
faster than the sensex on a
bad bull day. And while it is
difficult to resist splurging on
all the must have’s that had
previously been out of your reach,
here’s a good time to dwell on some
bitter truths. What’s fashion and style
for one can very easily spell disaster
for another. So, rather than follow
fashion blindly, it makes more sense
to make your own style statements.
● Roman sandals with sexy
straps and tie-ups are definitely
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something that you would like to add
to your footwear collection. However,
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these are a strict no-no if you happen cool and fashionable on the teeny
to have ankles that are not as boppers, the same sadly is not
delicately turned as you would wish applicable to women past their prime.
as the extra straps only succeed in There are umpteen fashion choices
drawing attention to the part of your for the older generation whereby you
body that you are not too proud of, cannot only look chic but make a
fat ankles. fashion statement too.
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● The most elegant of outfit loses ● Hair colour can often go
its charm when accompanied by horribly wrong. While it is nice to be
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sandals that have scuffed heels and adventurous and add that extra zing
a battered look. After each wear, to your personality with a tint or a few
make sure to wipe the footwear tastefully applied highlights, out - yourself into an outfit which has
clean, polish if required, and put them landish colours and tints can be very magically shrunk while hanging in
back in the cloth bags supplied by tricky. Global shades of rust or your wardrobe.
the shoe store or in a shoe box, blonde on a dark complexion can There is nothing more unsightly
ready to stack in your shoe rack or wreak havoc on your appearance. than an item of clothing trying its best
cupboard. Our roads are more often Your stylist will be the right person to to hold in the rolls of your extra fat. If
than not dirty with grit, garbage and advise you on the shade most you cannot control your weight, it’s a
rubble strewn all over the place. So suitable for your complexion. good idea to invest in a new
it’s best not to drag your feet or ● Long nails that aren’t wardrobe.
scrape the heels on sharp stones. manicured properly, nail polish that And if, as it often happens, the
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● There is nothing more is chipped or nails that are bitten to budget strings are feeling the pinch,
depressing looking than love handles the bone look abominable. take up jogging, or go for long walks.
pouring out of low-waist jeans. And Undeniably, taking care of your nails That way the zipper won’t give you a
yes, short flared kameez with is time-consuming; so if pressed for problem and you will be able to
churidars are the latest in fashion, as time, keeping your nails neatly spend on a few knick-knacks too!
are the Anarkali’s frock tops and clipped is a better bet. And while you “Clothes make the man. Naked
leggings. But if you take a moment are at it, use hand cream regularly. people have little or no influence on
to think before enthusiastically ● Saris embellished with sequins, society,” said the famous novelist
slipping into one of these, you will stones and embroidery have been Mark Twain. While the question of
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realise that the reason it looks so doing the rounds for quite a while going around in your birthday suit
good on the mannequin in the store now. As have designer blouses with doesn’t arise, it is a fact that
window is that her dimensions border more colours and designs than the appearances matter.
on the anorexic. So, unless you think colours of the rainbow. Whether they How you dress, walk or talk has
you can pull it off, it’s advisable to are here to stay is the big question. everything to do with how successful
resist the temptation. Be that as it may, in an effort to outdo you will be in what you have on. So
● The fact that it’s called inner the competition, you end up with go out there and make an
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wear should tell you something.
Something that should remain in –
hidden from view. Bra straps or
more work than you or your saris are
capable of taking. And this is not
taking into account the variety of
impression!
Winners of Eurofab
We
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ruffles or edges peeping out from an easy matter where sari blouses
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under a sari you paid an arm and a are concerned; the obliging tailor
leg for do tend to bring down the tone conveniently leaves enough margin
of your attire. Invest in satin or cotton for just such an eventuality.
petticoats that complement the sari But it’s another matter when it
rather than make do with something comes to jeans – while squeezing
that doesn’t quite match. And try not yourself into a pair becomes a Amit Pateria
to let it show! gargantuan task, zipping them up is a Near Shree Ram Place, Darjee OLI,
● Dress you age. While clothes pipe dream. Which brings us to the BADA, Lashker,
that are the height of fashion look tenth fashion faux pas: squeezing Gwalior, M.P. Pin: 474001
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By Suman Bajpai
hirty artists and designers, a unique and spectacular event.
extraordinary designs and Each time it promotes a novel,
low prices… Sounds quite exciting art form and has become a
alluring? Every year People trendsetter in the art world.
for Animals (PFA) holds a This year’s show has her aligning
unique fundraiser exhibition with Sunil Sethi Design Alliance to
with a novelty. This is an create carpets out of master art. It’s a
effort of Maneka Gandhi, great opportunity for connoisseurs to
chairperson of People for own a limited edition (They are in 10s
Animals, who organises and twenties only). M F Hussein,
every year an event to raise funds Raza, Sabavala, Manjit Bawa, JJ
and awareness for animal welfare. Valaya, Ritu Kumar, Sabyasachi
Each PFA fundraiser is designed as Mukherjee, Manu Parekh, etc. are
the participant artists. Never before How did you come up with
has such an exhibition been this idea of art on carpets?
conceptualised and presented, Every year we take art and do
creating a whole new segment in something new. Each PFA
India’s growing art market. Planned fundraiser is designed as a unique
as a three-day event, the exhibition and spectacular event. Each time
will be held on 27-29 August 2010 at it promotes a novel, exciting art
The Lalit in New Delhi. form and has become a trendsetter
In an interview Maneka Gandhi, in the art world. Past PFA
who nurtures stray dogs in her home, fundraisers include a centenary
reinforces her commitment to her exhibition of Raja Ravi Verma
cause – People for Animals – and oleographs, a collection of designer
throws light on her personal take on T-shirts by all of India’s top designers
carpet as art. and the Affordable Art Show with
Excerpts: over 1000 works by the country’s top
Why have you chosen the arts 15 artists each priced at an
to help your crusade for animals? unbelievable standard price of Rs
Art and all the forms of art have 40,000! We marked India’s 60th year
always interested me. In fact, People of Independence with a spectacular
for Animals did the first big art exhibition of 6000 British-India
exhibition/sale in India – which is now lithographs dating back to the
so common that every day there are 1700s. We had an exhibition of 10,
50 exhibitions. Artists are wonderfully 000 antique tiles from haveli’s. We
generous people and it is a joy to had India’s first major
work with them. So it is natural for photography exhibition of 250
me to combine the two. But we do it photographers and broke all sales
in a different way – we don’t do records. Then we did artistic
paintings. We do lithographs, candles of Dimple Kapadia.
photography, oleographs, pottery, T- Art has never been translated
shirts and shawls with designers, onto carpets so we thought we
Kanhai works of Krishna... would try to see whether we
Moreover, people like buying could bridge the gap. It needed
them. We’re good at selling them and many technical innovations but
try to keep them at a level where we have been successful. It
everybody’s happy. The buyer is also provides work to weavers.
happy as it turns out to be a bargain, I am the chairperson of
while we are happy because we get Rugmark, the NGO involved in
enough money for our hospitals. the carpet industry which looks
after weavers’ children for many
years. So I could combine the
two. We have woven paintings of
legendary artists into a limited
edition of carpets, using the very
best materials. The name of the
exhibition is Fly your own carpet to
your walls and we intend to turn
carpets into the ultimate modern art
form.
probably have facial hair and a trust him and you shouldn’t have
deeper voice than women have. someone you cannot trust involved
These days, many lesbians and in handling your affairs.
homosexuals are finding the courage But if you still have any feelings
to come out of the closet (especially if for him, do not hand him over to the
they live in one of the metros) and police. Instead, tell him that you will
I am a woman trapped in a man’s tell society about their sexual do that if he does not make good the
body! I am a man but I feel like a orientation. They then carve out a life money he has taken from you. Then
woman and am happiest when I’m for themselves openly in the gay cut him out of your life. He does not
dressed as a woman or when I am in community. deserve a friend like you.
the company of women friends and If you can find the courage to
men I am attracted to. But I can’t speak frankly to your parents, this
openly live like that, can I? So I dress would really be the best option. You When I was 12-years-old, my father
like a woman only when I’m locked shouldn’t get married just to maintain tried to rape me. I cried and
in my room and do not let my male your cover because that would be screamed loudly and he did not
friends know that I find them very doing a great injustice to the woman succeed. But since then he has
attractive. But everyone suspects you marry. misbehaved with me by touching my
from my manner and behaviour that I private parts and breasts whenever
am gay. my mother is not at home and we are
What should I do? I cannot bear to My closest friend and I both come alone together.
cause my family pain (since they from a lower middle-class back - When I finished my 12th standard,
suspect nothing because I live what ground, but due to hard work and a I insisted on joining a college in
seems a normal life) by telling them lot of luck. I have succeeded beyond another city saying that it was the
that I am a homosexual and at the my wildest dreams in a business I best college for the course I wanted
same time I cannot give in to their started and now find myself very rich. to do. That was two years ago when I
demand that I get married. Since I From the beginning I looked after my was 17 and since then I have made
am 30, their demands are getting friend and made him a part of my excuses for not going home during
shriller and shriller. Again, I do not business, but now I have discovered the holidays.
want to go through sex change that he has been systematically Now my mother is very upset with
procedures since I am afraid of the cheating me from the start. I am my behaviour and I too am not
painful and time-consuming process. shattered. What should I do? My happy. I feel depressed all the time
If you don’t have the guts to face family wants me to hand him over to and sometimes I even feel suicidal. I
your parents, society or sex change the police. Should I do this? have not confided in anyone
procedures, you only have the option Jealousy and greed make people including my college mates and so
of going on living in the closet. But do terrible things and your friend was they find me strange and I don’t have
living a lie is not easy and you will obviously not large-hearted enough any friends. I am sorry about this
have to do that all your life. Of to be happy over your success. And because several of them, especially
course, you could move to another your generosity towards him seems my room-mate, were very friendly
place and live there as a woman and to have just exacerbated his negative initially.
live a lie only when you come home feelings. Sometimes I feel that I just cannot
to visit your parents. But it wouldn’t Your friend doesn’t deserve to be keep things to myself any more but I
be easy to pretend to be a woman all given a second chance in your know that if my mother comes to
the time. After all, as a man, you business. You wouldn’t be able to know what happened to her only
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versatile singer. By Shakti Koushik
he is a gold medalist in both the time I can in his film Indira. That
B. A. and M. A. in music remember, I was was my debut in
from Madras University. She three years old. My playback singing.
was given a fellowship to do mother Renuka is
her master’s in world music the one who started Who is your idol in
from Wesleyan University, teaching me music. music?
Connecticut, U. S. While in She was one of the All my gurus –
the U.S.A., she learned pioneers of stage starting from my Mother
western classical opera and shows in her time. Renuka, Sri Tanjavur,
jazz. Besides this, she S. kalyamaramam,
performed in Indonesian and West What kind of music did you Sangita Kalanidhi, T. Brinda, Dr T.
African music concerts. The learn? Vishwanathan, Sri Manikbhua
President of India Gold Medal in I mainly learnt Carnatic music and Takurdas, Shirley Meier (Western
1987 for carnatic and light classical in my summer holidays I used to classical guru) and last but not least
music and the Central government travel to Bombay and learn my husband Sriram Parasuram.
senior Fellowship in 1989 add to her Hindustani classical. I am also a great fan of Bade
list of many achievements. Ghulam Ali Khan, Kumar Gandharv,
She has been singing hits like You have done masterʼs in Mehndi Hasan and Shobha Gurtu (I
Acham Acham Illai set to A. R. “ethnomusicology”. What is it? feel elated when I hear her songs , I
Rahman's music in the film Indira, The study of music groups – have listened to many of her songs
Meenamma to Deva in Aasai', ethnic groups is ethnomusicology. and learnt from them. I wish I had
"Malarodu from Bombay, Thennattu met all these people in person).
from Pasumpon and Nalam Nalam You are a classical singer…How Among the western singers, I like
from Kaadhal Kottai. She has also and when did you take up Whitney Houston and I also liked
sung in the Hindi film Ram Jaane, playback singing? Pavarotti, it is really unfortunate that
Biwi no.1, Taal, Lagaan, Jis Desh Playback singing happened to me he passed away. He took opera
mein Ganga Rehta Hai, and by chance. A friend sent my CD to A singing to a different level and
Deewanapan. She was awarded a R Rehman and he gave me a break moulded it so that a large number of
Platinum disc for record sales for her people can enjoy it.
song Phenk Hawa composed by Anu PLAYBACK SINGING However, my all-time favourites
Malik. Her voice was used in the are S. P. Balasubramaniam, Janaki
Tamil dubbed version of the Lion HAPPENED TO ME and Asha Bhosle.
King. She has been singing regularly BY CHANCE. A
for all the top music directors in the FRIEND SENT How do you feel when the
Tamil, Hindi, Telugu and Malayalam songs you sing are picturised in
film industries. MY CD TO A R bad taste?
The lush green surroundings of REHMAN AND HE When I sing a song then I am
lending my voice to the character. It
the restaurant coupled with rain
made it a perfect time to talk to noted
GAVE ME A BREAK does not show my character or
singer Anuradha Sriram. Excerpts IN HIS FILM INDIRA. scruples. It is done because it is
from the interview:
When did you start learning
THAT WAS MY commercially viable. So, I am okay
about it. However, if I am given a
music ? DEBUT IN PLAYBACK song that makes me uncomfortable
I started learning music right from SINGING. then I refuse to sing such songs.
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By Romola Shanbhag
hen Deepak made his usual week-end call She wants the whole works...jaymala, saat pheres,
from California, I was least prepared for havan,kanyadaan...”
the news he gave me. “Mom, I think it’s I couldn’t believe my ears.
time I heeded your advice. I am ready to “Deepu, I didn’t realise you knew all these rituals...”
get married,” he said. I gave a shriek of “I didn’t,” he returned gleefully.” Debbie filled me
joy. “ Excellent, Deepu beta. Come down in. I told you she knows everything. She’s more
as soon as possible and I’ll introduce you Indian than I am, Mom. And she wants the authentic
to the nicest girls in our community. Wait till I tell Indian ambience too, or we could have got married
Daddy...he will be thrilled to know that finally a in one of the many Indian temples here itself.”
bahu is entering our home.” He paused.” It’s okay with you and Dad, isn’t it?”
“Wait, Mom,” Deepu laughed.” I’ve already got he asked.” She’s really great,Mom.”
my bride...Debbie. Debbie Gordon.You’ll “It’s fine,” I said, my heart thudding.”
love her...she’s...” We’ll work it all out.”
My heart sank.” American? Is And that And that started the busiest time of our
she...er...Chinese American, Jewish, started the lives. A great flurry of activity followed with
Japanese or...or...” busiest time Deepu giving me long-distance instructions
“Relax, Mom. Debbie is fully of our lives. at every stage. Several of Debbie’s family,
American...and...” A great flurry it seemed, wanted to be a part of the
I didn’t want to hear more. I was in of activity celebrations.
despair. followed “And, they want to be dressed in
“I had waited to celebrate our only with Deepu authentic Indian clothes, Mom,” said
child’s marriage here in Delhi...on such a Deepu.” I know it will mean a lot of work
giving me
grand scale, with all the rituals and but I’ll send you all the measurements the
ceremonies,” I wailed.” But now...” long-distance tailors will need. Please keep everything
“Mom, we are getting married in Delhi instructions ready...since we will land a week before
itself..so stop worrying,” he said. at every the marriage, there will be enough time to
“In Delhi?” I was taken aback. Images stage. make any small alterations, isn’t it?”
of a church wedding, bridal gown,
I
bridesmaids, and a five-tier wedding cake swam agreed nervously. After a marathon sitting with
through my head. our family darji, I sent him a list of all that the
“Why Delhi? Your Daddy and I will come there,” man asked for. And soon, over the phone, I
I spoke quickly. began to jot down measurements: shoulder to
“Mom, let me explain. Debbie wants a very shoulder, around waist, around the fullest bust, from
traditional Hindu wedding. You’ll be surprised to waist to crotch, from neckline to waist,etc,etc.Even in
know that she is writing a thesis on Hindu culture my dreams, I was doing this!
and tradition for her Phd. Mom, she knows more Choosing the venue was a challenge. Debbie did
about all this than I do!” not like banquet halls or marriage shamianas. “
“What?!” She’s set her heart on getting married in a temple,”
“Yeah...she says the more traditional, the better. Deepak told us.
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premises. Since we had decided to make the he girl dimpled and said shyly,” Namaste,
ceremony exclusive to close friends and relatives, Maji, Babuji,” and in one graceful movement
accommodating the guests in the temple premises bent forward to touch our feet. In that instant,
did not pose a problem. she won our hearts for ever. As I embraced her,
Deepu gave me a didn’t-I-tell-you? look over her
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en days before the red-letter day, our American shoulder.
sambandhis arrived at Indira Gandhi A short while later, the bridal party left in several
International Airport. We watched with taxis to the hotel where we had reserved suites for
fluttering hearts as a small contingent of passengers them. And we returned home, tired, spent, and
accompanied by Deepak came out to the arrival completely happy.
lounge, wearing baggy pants and enormous cooling The following days were spent in sightseeing and
glasses, straw hats and bandanas. Cameras slung “fittings” of the wedding clothes. Our tailor had
from shoulders and faces sported huge excited grins. wreaked minor miracles in outfitting persons he had
Deepak herded the group like a conscientious sheep never set eyes upon. Only minor adjustments were
dog, towards where we waited. needed and made; there was all-round satisfaction
In moments, the group descended on us. Large and praise for his work.
white freckled arms engulfed us in bear hugs and Everything was finally ready for the Big Day.
loud smacks on cheeks; heads of red, golden, Needless to say, I revelled in all the attention I
brown and platinum hair was awarded in my friends’ circle. There was no
lowered dutifully as we other topic going round than “Deepu’s wedding”.
placed garlands of marigold Nothing was scrutinised and discussed more avidly
than his bride’s folks who were all about the place,
shopping, talking, tasting food and taking movies on
webcams. Debbie charmed everyone with her
cheerful face and brave attempts to speak in Hindi.
“ You are very lucky, Madhu,” Saroj Chopra told “But they are all so friendly and...”I began.
me crossly.” We had to search long and far to get a “Oh, Mom, they don’t bear any rancour...they
suitable bride from our community for our separate as friends, you know...People are
son.Finally,we found Swati....and, can you believe separating all the time. They think it is boring to be
it? She refuses to speak in Hindi. It’s always English. married to the same person all through life. “ He
But your American bahu is trying her level best to smiled before saying reassuringly, “But you don’t
learn our language! How lucky you are!” have to worry about Debbie and me...she is
Kanta Kapoor expressed similar sentiments.” My completely smitten by our Indian concept of being
daughter-in-law lives in jeans and sweaters...why, married for seven births...saath janams, you know.
she wears this outfit even to temples! But look, how She vows this will be true for us. I think, even if I
nice your Debbie looks in her salwar kameez....and wish to divorce, she will not let me!”
she is not even Indian !” I wasn’t listening to him. My mind was working
My gaze went to Debbie who stood by chatting overtime. ” But then, let Joy Taylor and Dick Gordan
with our son; they need not tell me, I thought to do the kanyadaan,” I told him.” It will look odd, but
myself. I know myself that I am very lucky, indeed. they are the real parents, after all.”
Two days before the day, we cornered Deepu.”
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Son, I hope Pam and Dick Gordan are ready and eepu shook his head.” That can’t be, it, Mom.
prepared to participate in all the rituals? Panditji will Debbie wants all of them...let me explain.” He
guide them all the way...so there’s no need for them took a deep breath and began.
to feel anxious.” “She wants Joy and Dick because they are her
“Yes, they are ready,” returned Deepu biological parents, but then, she says, it was her
cheerfully,” and so are Ben and Joy Taylor as well stepfather Ben who brought her up, and so she feels
as Goldie and Tom Crystal.” more daughterly towards him than anyone else..He
His naivete amused me as his father, smiling, is Dad to her in the real sense of the word.”
explained :” I think, Debbie has not explained this My head reeled and I could see a glazed look
well to you as yet....we need the bride’s close over my husband’s eyes.
parents...they also have to ‘give’ the daughter “But then, Debbie swears she was never really
away, you know in the kanyadaan ceremony.” close to Joy. It was her father’s second wife Goldie
“I know, Dad, but all the six of them want to take who steered her through the turbulent teen
part. They are all her parents, you know,” Deepu years...so, she wants Goldie to give her away....but
said. then, you see, Goldie separated from Dick and
“All her parents? Six of them?!” cried my husband married Tom Crystal and Dick’s wife is now
and me in one voice.” What do..you...how...” Pam...so, how can they be left out?’
His father and I looked at each other in shock.
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eepu led us gently to the settee.” Sit down I found my voice first.” You mean, most of the
comfortably, both of you, and I’ll explain. It’s elders in the group are in some way or other
all very easy, really.” Debbie’s parents?” I stuttered.
We slumped down and waited. Deepu sat in front Deepu looked relieved.” Yup! That’s it, in a
of us, leaned forward and locked his fingers nutshell. All the elders are parents and all the
together earnestly. youngsters are her stepsisters and brothers.Thank
“It’s like this,” he began.” Debbie’s god, you’ve worked it out so splendidly.”
biological parents are Joy Taylor and Dick ‘Leave me out, son,” his father
Gordan...” Panditji groaned.” You lost me early on...but I think
“What..t..t?” we cried. became quite I’ve caught the general drift.”
“Yeah...but they separated when she cooperative “Don’t worry, Dad. Mom knows...and,
was a kid. Dick married Goldie and soon after this Mom, I am depending on you,” said our
Ben Taylor married Joy.” appeal! “I’ll son looking at me appealingly with puppy
“What..t..t..t?” we shrieked. not raise any dog eyes which never have failed to melt
“But then, a few years later, Goldie and objection if my heart from the time he was a kid...
Dick divorced . She married Tom Crystal different But all that I could manage by way of
and he went ahead to marry Pam.” persons come reply was a “ Ye..ah..Arr..gh...gh...” It
“Whaa...t..t?!!” we bawled . as the bride’s seemed to satisfy Deepu for he walked out
“Why do you keep saying ‘What? parents at of the room, whistling the bridal march.
What?’ like that?” Deepu demanded different The family panditji threw up his hands in
testily.” In the U.S this kind of stuff is very times,” despair when we told him about the
common.” he said. required adjustments. Earlier,in fact, when
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anditji became quite cooperative after this
appeal! “I’ll not raise any objection if different
persons come as the bride’s parents at different
times,” he said,” but the kanyadaan, which is a
very important ritual...which pair of parents will do
this?”
We put the question to Deepu who at once
claimed that all six parents would want to do it.” IT’s
like giving away the bride, isn’t it? I’m sure there will
be a stampede in the mandap,” he prophesied but these ex-wives and ex-husbands are all like one
fearfully.” Can the panditji do something? big happy family!”
Indeed, he could, it turned out. He offered two Another hurdle had been negotiated successfully.
options. It was a wedding to remember. It was a
“The six persons can all stand in a line, touching beautifully balmy March evening when everyone
the person in front of each while the first couple will congregated at the small temple, tastefully decorated
do the actual kanyadaan,” he said.” This will keep with garlands, lamps, incense sticks and rangoli
them connected, you see.It will be as if all of them patterns on the floors.
are doing the kanyadaan.” Our Indian guests enthusiastically assisted the
“Ah, like electricity passing through a wire,” visitors in every possible way. Slipping sari pleats
supplied my husband, knowledgeably... were retrieved from the ground and pinned into
“Correct,” said Panditji. place, cholis were tugged down and dupattas
“And the second option?”I asked. placed over shoulders. The men made an impressive
“All of them stand in a circle with their hands on sight in their embroidered kurtas, shervanis and
the kanyadaan kalash,” he offered.”And the sacred bandgallas. All wore marigold garlands and large
milk can be poured in a joint effort, so to say,” red tilaks on their foreheads.
supplied the panditji, clearly pleased by his own
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resourcefulness. eepu and Debbie were the cynosure of all
“That could be messy,” I said. “In the confusion, eyes. He looked dashing and handsome in a
the kalash may drop...I think, the first ‘electric dark blue zari-worked kurta and the sehra of
current’ method is better.” flowers on his face. His bride in a bloodred gagra
Deepu liked the idea too. choli and jewellery which threatened to weigh her
“Won’t there be difficulty choosing the first pair of down was the picture of demure beauty.
parents?” I asked.” How will they decide?” As expected, as the ceremonies began, our
“I’ll tell them to draw lots,” said our ever guests looked puzzled as Goldie and Tom
optimistic son.” Debbie will take care of it. They all welcomed everyone but later at the jaymala
love her and will listen to anything she says. She can function, it was Pam and Dick who came forward as
even pretend it is the way we do it here in India.” the bride’s parents. Soon, Joy and Ben Taylor
“These people are really amazing!” breathed my stepped into the decorated mandap officiating as
husband with awe.” Here, in our country,a divorce Debbie’s Mom and Dad.
brings such a lot of acrimony, bitterness and grief A buzz of curious conversation began among
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he highlight of the wedding was, without willing hands of her exultant groom.....
doubt, the kanyadaan ceremony when six A sumptuous lunch followed the marriage where
excited persons strode purposefully into the the guests dipped into the delicious spread.
small mandap almost crowding out the poor Panditji Everyone declared that it had been a beautiful and
and the grinning Deepu. And then the kanyadaan meaningful ceremony.It was the talk of our
line was formed headed by Goldie and Tom Crystal! community for a long,long time.
They presented an interesting assembly. Goldie Now, six years later, we have two members added
wore a white hat with her peacock blue to our family. A blue-eyed,red- haired five-year-old
Kanjeevaram sari, and Tom had his cowboy shoes Revati and a chubby, dusky, six-month old David.
beneath his silk churidaar. Pam wore huge dark Deepu’s and Debbie’s kids, our grandchildren.
glasses while Dick’s straw hat was so rakishly worn With authority, I vouch that whoever said, East is
that it threatened to fall into the havan. Pam and East and West is West, and ne’er the twain shall
Dick had long strings of beads around their meet, was simply talking through his hat! We
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have got cancer of the breast. Please I am a 30-year-old executive. My
help. problem is that I sweat excessively
Your fears are well founded. in my armpits. This emits not only
Probably what you are feeling are bad odour but also creates
small fibroadenomas which are embarrassment. Please help.
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down on your intake of coffee and
colas. Take a lot of fresh fruits and
I am 18 years old and a few days green vegetables. In case all these
before the start of my menstrual measures fail, you can take the help
I am 25 years old and have recently cycle, I get irritable, moody with poor of a plastic surgeon, who will inject
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delivery will vary in different women. premenstrual syndrome (PMS) which should be done only under medical
Many women who had an episotomy is quite common in young women. advice.
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earlier than four months because of clear but it is related to hormonal
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sex in six weeks. Most young women the required medicines. Do not panic. knees which makes walking difficult. I
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breastfeeding their baby, lose interest and get controlled in the appropriate First you must consult your doctor
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The little master
Proper clothing can transform the looks of
even a kid and fashion out an attitude in
him which makes him look business-like,
without robbing him of his innocence.
Here is Mehar in different outfit.
In a colourful
half-sleeved
chequered
shirt, a
slanting cap,
In jeans, half pants
jersey and and sports
goggles, the boots, the
kid is all set boy is ready
for a cycling for a game of
competition. tennis.
In a jogging
Equipped with shoes, and
sun-protection attired in
device and sports
dressed clothes, the
in the best lad has a
ultra way, the football under
boy is ready his foot for
to step out. action.
Katrina Kaif and Ranveer Kapoor in
B O M B A Y F I L M D O M “Raajneeti”.
film”? Obviously, something went
awry somewhere.
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By Sucharita Dutta-Asane
aya and her friend
Gitanjali lost their sons in
an accident. Maya’s son
was behind the wheel
when the truck slammed
into them. Maya refused to
take up the wheel or for
that matter do anything
else ever again. Shattered
beyond belief or
expectation, she plunged into her
teaching job with a renewed fervour,
adopted a child and moved on. Maya
gave up her job and stayed at home,
unable to deal with the loss.
When the past crowds in on us,
we leave almost no room for the
present – or the future for that matter.
Maya did just that and clutched her
past so tight that it squeezed the
breath out of her own present and
future. But how many of us are able
to cope with loss and get on with life?
How easy is it? And what can one do
to deal with the loss of a loved one –
even a pet – in such a way that the
past doesn’t keep intruding on the
present? Is everything lost when we
lose a lover, husband, child, parent,
or foetus in the womb?
There is a lot more to life beyond
the loss. Here are ways to recover
from the trauma and carry on with life
and its unfulfilled potential.
THOUGHT PROCESS
Chandrabhaga Orissa, 2006
• National Award - Pratibhashree
• First Award in College Painting,
UP, 2003
• All Indian Women’s Federation,
Agra 2003 An artist who aims to create a silent
• Swagat –2003, Agra, 2003
revolution in the mind of the viewer.
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• Lalitkala Sketch Award, Dr. B. R.
Ambedkar University, Agra, 2002 By Subhra Mazumdar
• Youth Festival, U.P. 2002
• B. K. College of Art & Craft he artist is an all-rounder. I observe nature silently, especially
Annual Award, Bhubaneswar, Having fulfilled his urge to be through the medium of animals who
2000 a practising painter, Ranjan cannot voice their feelings. I try to
• S. P. Memorial Award, Kumar Mallik has pushed the decipher the feelings of these dumb
Bhubaneswar, Orissa, 1999 barriers of art still further and folk and try to see how urban lifestyle
Publication (Book) continued to add academic is a modern-day torture imposed on
Portraits of Agra, 2003 glory to his artistic them. They are misfits in city life and
Visual Art, 2005 inclinations. He has done a yet man has subjected them to this
doctoral thesis on the Jain torture. We keep them for our own
About me: art of the Chitrakut region benefit and our status as human
I am a full-time creative artist. and has honed his skills by working beings increases as we minister to
Painting is not the subject of along with Jatin Das, the leader them. In actual fact, animals are the
shapes, tones, colours and their among contemporary masters. A sufferers rather than the beneficiaries
eternal relationship along with the nature lover par excellence, his is the of our actions.
play of light that creates a voice that is audible in bringing
sensation. I paint because I wish home the fact that other What are the
to respond and communicate to creatures on our fragile earth emotions that you like
this sensation. There is a selection need a voice to put forth the to portray on your
of figurative shapes and colour sufferings they have to canvases?
tones rendered in surrealistic styles endure, at the hands of It is the sufferings
with different mediums and humans. linked with urban life that
brushstrokes for my painting. Excerpts from an interview: comes to the fore. I
Mostly I like the human figure and Why do animals feature know that domesticating
animals in an abstract background in almost all your paintings? or using animals is an
for visual aesthetics. My subjects For me, the animal is a age-old practice, but
are socio-living relations. symbol of my thought process. when one steps back
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By Kusum Mehta
ncient and yet always at indication of impending danger. The as a sealing stone, will never be
the height of current reason for the colour change is rather poor.”
fashion: that is turquoise the influence of light, cosmetic Turquoises were loved as
for you. Its brilliant sky-blue products, dust or even the ph-value ornaments decorating turbans, often
belongs to the all-time of the skin, which may all trigger off set in a border of pearls, in order to
favourite trend colours in chemical responses. protect the wearer from the “evil eye.”
the world of fashion and In earlier times turquoises were They were used as talismans
jewellery. In many cultures sometimes thought to be responsible decorating daggers, scimitars or the
of the old and new worlds for the material wealth of their horses’ bridles.
this gemstone has been bearers. For example, Persian The turquoise came to Europe
well appreciated for thousands of philosopher Al Kazwini wrote, “The only during the time of the crusades.
years as a holy stone, a good-luck hand wearing a turquoise and using it And from this period comes the name
charm or talisman. It is a virtual “turquoise”, meaning simply “Turkish
“people’s gemstone”. The oldest stone.”
proof of this lies in Egypt, where in The turquoise was prized by many
tombs from the period around 3000 ancient cultures, including those of
BC were found artefacts set with Egypt, Persia, Tibet and the Aztecs
turquoise. and Incas of Central America. The
In the ancient Persian kingdom, stone was used as money by
the sky-blue gemstones were American Indians of the 16th century,
originally worn around the neck or on and the gem is associated with
the hand to ward off unnatural death. religious rites of the Navajos and
If the stones changed their colour, other tribes. The importance of
there was an imminent danger for the turquoise to the American Indian
wearer. continues to the present day.
However, in the meantime, it has At all times in history, the
been found that turquoises may in turquoise was worn to ward off the
fact change their colour, but this influence of dark and evil powers. In
reaction is not necessarily an former times thought to protect riders
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icture this: you are getting negligee and set out to seduce your where each and every penny
married in a couple of man; only to find disappointment writ matters, spending on lingerie
months’ time. Wedding large on his face which he tries his appears to most as a ‘wasted
preparations are on in full best to conceal. You wonder where expenditure’.
swing. So are your you went wrong. Well, the answer But nothing can be farther from
preparations to have a really lies underneath: your lingerie. the truth because the perfectly-fitting
memorable first night. You In Western countries the lingerie undies not only entice your man they
want to gift your hubby the market is huge. Victoria’s Secret, also give your breasts perfect shape
ideal present: You. You buy Bravissimo etc are prestigious brands and support.
a baby pink bedspread and in this field while in India the lingerie So how do you go about playing
heart-shaped pillows and arrange for business is still in its infancy. the ultimate seductress? Here are
rose petals to be strewn all over the Awareness is definitely spreading few tips:
bed. You buy a sheer negligee in among the strata of urban women but Getting your assets into shape:
lavender blue. What about the the demand for high-end lingerie is You may have an hourglass figure
underwear? What about it, you quiz. I nowhere near that in the Western but if you have been wearing ill-fitted
am not wasting my money on such countries. The main reason perhaps bras, chances are high that your
trivialities, you pout out. You put on is that most women are put off by the breasts have gone out of shape or
your old set under the transparent exorbitant prices. In a family set up have started sagging. Your first step
SIMPLICITY
ALLURING
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Shikha Agnihotri
Born: 22-Feb-1981 (Kanpur)
Education: PhD. on Drawing & postgraduate in drawing
Painting - Topic - Bhartiya from Kanpur University and
Chitrakala Mein Khanijon Ki PhD holder on Bharatiya
Bhumika from C.S.J.M. University, Chitroon Mein Khanijon Ki
Kanpur. Bhoomika, Shikha’s father
Solo Shows played a great role in
Solo Exhibition in Press Club of moulding her daughter’s
India, Delhi in April, 2009; Solo career as an artist. Her
Exhibition in Lalit Kala Academy, works seem to
Lucknow in the year 2008; Solo communicate messages
Exhibition in Chikutasi Kala Mela, through their visual language. There
Kanpur in the year 2003 & 2005; was an array of styles which are this interest at an early age. He
Solo Exhibition in Kala Mela, capable of displaying emotions and himself is a poet and that is how I
Phool Bagh in the year 1998. sensibility. The paintings exuded an can say that artistic knack is in my
Group Show innocent charm through their genes. And one more person, Biplab
Group Exhibition in Atelier - La depictions. She does not believe in Biswas, I am really thankful to him
Cafe, Sahpurjat, Delhi, on Acrylic decorating or giving detailing to her who guides me on important aspects
on canvas, 2010; Group Exhibition work, even that simplistic and of Fine Arts from which my paintings
in Lokayata Art Gallery, Hauz minimalistic work attracts the has improved.
Khas, Delhi, on Acrylic on canvas, viewers. Krishna is her favourite
2009; Group Exhibition in subject, and her series is based on Tell us something about your
Chikutasi Kala Mela, Kanpur in the his romantic emotions which is a very style of work?
year 2001 & 2007. different form. She also likes to depict It is semi-realistic from the
Awards strong personality of woman, her beginning. I had never tried to make
Solo Exhibition in Chikutasi Kala positive aspects and power. my work very realistic, instead I
Mela, Kanpur in the year 2003 & Excerpts from an interview: believe in showing the expressions
2005 on Oil and Water colour through lines only. I feel the detailing
medium; Solo Exhibition in Kala Why are you an artist? or overdoing mars the essence of the
Mela, Phool Bagh in the year 1998 I don’t know why I’m an artist, but I thoughts and depiction.
on Oil and Water colour medium. should say art is in my blood. I
Workshop like to paint, so I am an Do you think that being a
Reflections of Vastu in painting artist. full-time freelance artist is
that improve the lifestyle in Interior a tough task and one has
Designing. What have been to work hard to survive?
Collections major influences in I am lucky that I had my
Many Collection in art galleries in your life and art? father’s support but after
India as well as in USA, London If I had to think of one coming to Delhi, it was not
and Australia. person who influenced easy for me to establish
Mob: 9289500841, 9289044197 my life tremendously, it myself in terms of financial
Email: artist.shikha@gmail.com would have to be my father aspect. Fact is that this
www.artistshikha.blogspot.com who helped inculcate in me financial issue often hampers
the creative part of an artist. The current artists and for me everything How big is the international
question of livelihood is very big and is very positive and encouraging. Art market for Indian art today?
if you don’t have any solid market is also very affirmative. Indian art is getting acclamation
background or financial security then Opening of the art galleries are in a because of our senior artists in the
sometimes artist has to compromise way good to explore the new avenues, international market. Outside India
with his/her work. Working as a especially for the young artists. I think people have started taking interest in
freelance artist is no doubt a tough the future of the new generation is our art as they sense that it has a
task and requires lot of patience. very bright in every field and they can feel of spirituality. And it emerges
prosper if they have an inclination from the heart and soul. That is why
What is your opinion regarding and positive attitude. These days’ the concept of Indian art is attracting
the current artists and trend in the people are drawn towards the art and them. Especially in Dubai, you will
art market? parents are also encouraging their find that Indian art market is growing
I also belong to the category of teenagers to join this field. immensely. In my view Indian art
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We have plenty of lemons in our How can we prevent formation of skin
garden. Apart from making pickle and on sauces and jellies?
juice, what more can be done with Spread a thin layer of melted
them? butter or cream over jellies, puddings
It can be easily said that ‘a lemon and other sauces right after cooking.
a day keeps the doctor away’, for Stir and all the skin and foam will
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Now that the pickle making season apart from making delicious summer disappear.
is here, we need clinically clean drinks it is also useful for therapeutic
bottles and jars to store the same. and beauty purposes. Lemon juice What is the right time to add salt to
But sometimes jars containing pickles can be used as an antiseptic, as a the following: soups and stews,
and preserves continue to carry their pain reliever, helps to dissolve gall meats, corn, whole pulses and
odour even after being washed. What stones in combination with olive oil, vegetables?
should we do? regular intake of fresh lemons may Normally we add salt and turmeric
This problem, however large it also be useful in treating cases of at the beginning of cooking
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may seem, has a solution that is kidney stones. vegetables or dal etc. but it is good to
quite simple. Light a matchstick and keep in mind the time to add salt in
while it is still lit, drop it into the jar Strawberries are a rich food – both some particular food items. Add the
and close the lid tightly. Wash with in terms of money and food value – salt early while preparing soups and
soap and water after some time. so we cannot afford to waste them. stews. For meats, sprinkle just before
Please tell us how we can store them removing from the stove. Cook the
Please tell me a simple way to clean properly. vegetables in salted water. Cook the
up after an ‘oil-spill’ in the kitchen. Yes, truly, strawberries are a rich corn first, then add salt, pepper and
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Every now and then we have to fruit, and such an attractive one that it the lemon juice. Add salt to whole
face this problem. But not to worry, is very difficult to resist them. It is pulses like kabuli chana and rajma
just sprinkle a little wheat flour on the important to store them in the right after boiling. For vegetables which
surface and rub it with your fingers. way so they keep fresh for a long reduce in volume after cooking, it will
Then wipe with a cloth. You can also time. be a good idea to add salt after they
use soda bicarbonate instead of the Wash the berries and pat dry. are cooked and prevent oversalting.
wheat flour, but remember to rub it Place in a plastic bag in intervening – Savita Bhargava.
with a paper or cloth, as it will be layers of fruit and sugar. Fasten the
harsh on your hands. bag firmly and put it in the freezer
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WHY SHOUT?
When we shout
To prove our point,
Win an argument
Or intimidate our rival,
It shows we are at fault
For the simple reason
That we had shouted.
Maybe we have
Been wronged
And blamed
For no fault of ours.
Yet when we scream,
Our foe triumphs.
And our credibility crumbles.
Sometimes, we can’t
But help shouting
To release our anger,
Our frustrations.
But then it does
More damage to us
Than to the person intended.
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he religion section of dailies courses’ talk about. study. "While those not happy with
in India reported on a dis- "The pattern for daily TV use is their marriages watch more TV."
course on the Bhagavad Gita particularly dramatic, with 'not happy' Yet there may be good news here
in the cities. Talking about people estimating over 30 per cent for broadcasters. Commenting on the
the desires that arise in the more TV hours per day than 'very study, co-author John P. Robinson
mind, the pieces stated how happy' people," the study says. said the worsening economy could
futile they were. The desires "Television viewing is a pleasurable boost TV viewing.
could either be fulfilled or enough activity with no lasting benefit "Through good and bad economic
not. In the former case, the and it pushes aside time spent in times, our diary studies have consis-
consequent ‘happiness’ or other activities – ones that might be tently found that work is the major
satisfaction would be fleeting. If, on less immediately pleasurable, but activity correlate of higher TV viewing
the other hand, the desire was not that would provide long-term bene- hours," Robinson says. "As people
fulfilled, there would be a lot of frus- fits in one's condition. In other words, have progressively more time on their
tration. TV does cause people to be less hands, viewing hours increase."
Given this assessment it appears happy." The study concludes that, "These
that the human being is not destined points have parallels with addiction;
to be ‘happy’. However, there is since addictive activities produce
some good news. Happiness is rela- THE STUDY momentary pleasure but long-term
tive and, yes, some people have The study, published in the misery and regret. People most vul-
reported being happier than others. December issue of Social Indicators nerable to addiction tend to be social-
An extensive new research study has Research, analysed data from thou- ly or personally disadvantaged, with
found that unhappy people watch sands of people who recorded their TV becoming an opiate."
more TV while those who consider daily activities in diaries over the In India, retired people with time
themselves happy spend more time course of several decades. on their hands and little or no means
reading and socialising! Researchers found that activities of venting their energies are left with
The University of Maryland such as sex, reading and socialising no alternative but the “tube”. This
analysed 34 years of data collected correlated with the highest levels of does not necessarily make them
from more than 45,000 participants overall lasting happiness. Watching unhappy, especially since, for most
and found that watching TV might TV, on the other hand, was the only couples, this is the only companion-
make you feel good in the short term activity that had a direct correlation able time spent.
but this feeling is definitely short- with unhappiness. The verdict then would seem to be
lived. There seems to be a definite Unhappily married couples also that, as with any other seemingly
correlation between TV watching watch more TV. "Happily married pleasurable activity, moderation is
hours and happiness. This also couples read newspapers and maga- indeed a prescription while striving for
seems to agree with what the ‘dis- zines on more days," reports the the goal of “living happily after!” We
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he TV ad of Moov displayed these days and Kolkata at 3 p.m. and the car journey from Shillong
showing a gentleman missing his train by a to Guwahati airport never took less than 21/2 hours.
solitary minute — his rushing to the platform And check-in time was one hour before take-off.
whilst the last bogie whizzes past — reminded So, when at 11.30 a.m. after concluding a group
me of an essay in our XIIth English course way meeting, he nonchalantly murmured, “Khaana kab
back in 1957. The article basically classified milega?” I was shocked. I looked pointedly at the
passengers into two categories. The ‘A’ group watch and the indicator sank in immediately. “Don’t
believed in reaching the platform — or, for that worry, Katju, there is enough time,” he told me.
matter, the airport or bus stand — at literally the last Management pandits strongly emphasise two key
moment, without a worry or crease on their principles for a successful career — viz:
foreheads. The other group ‘B’ type — yours truly 1. The boss is always right.
belongs to this group — starts fretting about their 2. If he is wrong, follow point 1.
intended journey performing mental gymnastics from Remembering this I kept quiet — but kept on
many hours earlier thereby reaching the take-off point fretting. Half an hour later, he rose from the lunch
any time from half an hour to two hours before. table and said, “Call the car, Katju.” My shirt wet
Three decades ago my boss and I were in with perspiration, I rushed to do the needful as if I
Shillong. He had to catch the flight from Guwahati to were the passenger.
Bidding him a safe and comfortable We spent a proved futile and, as the whistle sounded, I
journey, I gave him less than 50 per cent miserable ran for the train. To my horror I found it
chance of catching the flight. However, his moving in the opposite direction and my
night on the
bravado seemed justified as friends told friend Ramesh trying his best to wriggle out
platform
me that he reached the airport in time — in of it with our luggage. I was shocked but
telling jokes, nevertheless helped him out.
fact, was one of the last 3-4 passengers
who checked in before the window’s
singing film Ever a man known for his cool he was
closure. I mentally took my hat off. songs and red in the face shouting obscenities.
Another lady — also belonging to the smiting our “You... you, searching for worthless locks.
‘A’ category — the MD of a Ratlam limbs and Our train is the next one and it’s moving
company, had the habit of informing the faces to ward away. You loaded me on the wrong train
stationmaster in advance of her catching off the hordes and then went treasure hunting...”
the Mumbai Express and asking him to of mosquitoes Sheepishly, I admitted my mistake and
delay its departure in case she arrived late. which had calmed him down.
This she habitually did to the chagrin and smelled blood. To compound our misery the
irritation of the SM. stationmaster informed us that there were
Dwelling on the subject of catching and missing no trains till next morning and we would have to
trains, yours truly with a close friend was touring the fend for ourselves during the night — the station
deep south of India about three decades ago. boasted of no waiting room.
We spent a miserable night on the platform telling
D
eciding to visit Rameswaram we arrived by jokes, singing film songs and smiting our limbs and
bus at Mandapam station next to faces to ward off the hordes of mosquitoes which
Rameswaram. The bus stopped at the station had smelled blood.
gate and the train was standing about 20 metres To conclude, recently I had to catch the 12.15
away. I asked Ramesh to buy the tickets and check p.m. train to Secunderabad. Giving due
its departure time while I started getting our luggage consideration to traffic jams on roads and the
unloaded from the bus top. In the above act my trunk platform, vehicle punctures and accidents and other
collided with the bus body and the number lock flew unknown delaying factors, I left home to reach the
out. station at 11.35. I found that the train had been
As the departure was 10 minutes away, I decided delayed by half an hour. What to do? Having a pen
to look for the lock — it had sentimental value, and some loose paper handy why not pen something
though it cost only Rs 3 six years ago. The search about catching trains? Result — this article. We
Q&
a bank. I have got kundan jewellery, in my
Yes, there are some banks ornament box. An elderly relative had
offering car loans at reduced rates given it to me. What is this jewellery
for women. They charge 25 basis and how should the shine come back
points less, compared to general to the pieces?
Though studying in college, I want to loans. For example, banks would Kundan jewellery are medieval
start saving money, right now. Can a reduce interest rate from 9.25 per type ornaments, where gold foil is
Public Provident Fund (PPF) account cent to 9 per cent, while extending inserted between stones and also
be opened by me? loan. near mount. You can use suede cloth
You would be thrilled to know that Processing fees is waived off, to make the kundan collection
a PPF account can be opened easily. also. Prompt payment of car loan sparkle.
It does not matter whether you are in instalments is rewarded by slashing
college still. However, a bank interest rate further. The bank may Recently, I let out two rooms in my
account is necessary. charge 50 basis points less. That is, house, for rent. I am employed in an
interest rate is cut from 9.25 per cent office. Which income tax form should
I have been asked to write a book to 8.75 per cent, for women. be filled, by me?
and hope to get a fair sum as royalty. When rental income is derived,
How much tax would have to be paid Do I have to write a new cheque, if you have to submit form ITR – 2, for
on royalty? mistake is committed in earlier one? income tax.
Well, if you get Rs three lakhs as Just a few days ago, the bank
royalty, there’s still no need to pay refused to accept a cheque, though I At a wedding in my family, I have to
income tax. But, if sum is more, tax had crossed out error and signed, buy clothes for relatives, both on
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Yes, the new banking rules say discount would a wholesale outlet
Can bank ask me to open a fixed that if there's a mistake, one can’t give?
deposit if I want a locker? cancel the error, as before and put a You should try to get 40 per cent
The bank can't insist that a locker verification signature. When spelling discount, and nothing less. A
would be given only if a fixed deposit is wrong, amount is incorrect or name wholesale cloth shop or mill
is opened. But, some banks may say is incorrect, a new cheque has to be showroom may give the rebate
that a fixed deposit, equivalent to written. because of bulk buying.
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CENSUS: LET IT BE
AN OBJECTIVE
including ayurvedic
the so-called contain overdosesgiven for the
ATIVE dispense powder
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and babas
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past nowadays treatment same disease. and babas
he recent are a craze sweeping the drug for the , ashrams should be
Herbal medicines remedies are allopathic such companies
in the foreign Action of and hence is to
called traditional but also have to g fake drugs purpose
akin to propagatin Their sole are
only in India Ayurvedic drugs such by
the law. ones.They
market not and countries, treated as the needy but are also
While herbal tests in the western not serving
countries. alternative money and the image of Ayurveda,
quality name of of make
undergo stringent sells in well as mockery not only tarnishing of the people.
EXERCISE
in India
everything violation as gullible with the lives 2011
This is sheer lives of poor risk on playing CENSUS
medicines. putting the at it
hand and treatment exercise
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people, who the Delhi ensus has number of the
in a study power from
the other. of it was
seen when, and Research needs a large nt draws this man Perhaps,
A glimpse utical Sciences drugs in the governmethe government schools. are well-
of Pharmacepresence of allopathic or
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found the sold as Ayurvedic schools, nt believes are used
to maintainin
(DIPSAR) ns commonly n. the governmethis job, as they most is the
many formulatio for erectile dysfunctio available in the do what suffers
ns easily trained to this exercise
Unani medicines found But in all to one
herbal preparatio five were registers. six months work
Of the 16 DIPSAR, of viagra takes around
tested by generic name herbal school
education.
teaching
market and citrate – the so-called The entire
exercise this period from
Sidenafil . During remain absent
who lurk in every society but their It clearly reveals the fact that
classmates as well. census is a great demographic
Date rapes, once unheard of, endeavour that must not be confused
have become common place today with social science field work. India is
and there are more and more girls home to awe-inspiring number of
A BLESSING FOR ready to shed their inhibitions and sub-castes with nomenclature
RIGHT CH
RIGHT
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MODERN WOMEN willing to play along with their variations across regions. Religion
CAREER ellising today’
s
classmates, unmindful of the dangers and caste have done no good for our
I
All that
in our country. status
to do for aeons accepted the
middle- women and they
f you are you time, they adjusted they had
of unwanted pregnan cies, sexually country but only divided the people.
from no them the
opportunity
as you moved to gives them – to
take decisions
childhood even forces
and then choices. get to
adulthood and make the choices they
age. The Some of feeling
into middle a glorious
were born make give women they are made
world you exists. and so of relief.
into no longer in the of freedom and with a sense of
see that joyfully free the most important
You can
and the people For many, women
Career by Kasturi
way you eat, work. Today’s
dress, relate to work or
around you in these only choose to either
entertain, can not choose from
murders. As the author of the article political culture where caste and
summed
have options parents recently they came
back
which we to make with her and e of the
work
and are able makes month
This The importanc respect she
choices. very dazed. doing and the
it something she was come home
because it, had only
new for doing
aking got
choice-m to them there!re we went, jawans
was something “Everywhe we were
never – and us because
women saluted her
chance
had the
2010), women earlier says it is expedient that girls have to religion cast their shadows on
were taking up job just as bread- be protected from their male anything we do. It is nice that for the
winner or to support their family. In classmates. But the first line of first time since independence the
the present days the concept of defence should the girls themselves census will record caste-based
working woman has changed. They and it is they who should take all census which would be in a
take up lucrative jobs to maintain precautions and keep the wolves at transparent and effective way so as
their status. Earlier women were bay. As it so often happens the girls to capture valuable socio-economic
confined to kitchen and bringing up decide to keep everything to information of our billions and we
children. With globalisation, themselves and rarely confide to their would be able to put to use such
technology has opened numerous parents leading to situations going databases in driving our
avenues for women. Call centres out of hand when it becomes too late developmental priorities and policies.
have proved a blessing for women to salvage their reputation or honour In order to measure our current
with minimum qualification. The odd or even their chastity. reservation system’s success, this
timings do not seem to bother them. – Vijayalakshmi A., Bangalore. data is of immense importance.
The parents of working women, who Otherwise, the current method will
are on the threshold of old age are result in progress of a specific group,
burdened with the additional THE DOWRY MENACE leaving other groups deprived of
responsibility of bringing up their This refers to the article Different chance to progress.
grandchildren. The best option for dimensions of dowry menace. I fully – Vinod C. Dixit, Ahmedabad.
ladies would be to burn their own agree with the writer that the parent The prize is awarded to:
boats by staying up at home. Girl are should have a thorough enquiry of Vinod C. Dixit, Ahmedabad.
not willing to commit to marriage and the groom before getting their
they prefer live-in relationships. In daughters married. A thorough probe WOMAN'S ERA
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such young girls are in the lurch. So them from falling into the trap of reactions on
articles, short stories
to change the scenario the best thing greedy dowry seekers.
and features published
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