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Its automatic. We ask and we tell. We tell our stories to others as much to our own
benefit as theirs. There is a critical way in which telling my story confirms my own identity. I am
me because of my day to day experiences, my choices and my actions, yes, but I cannot exist in
isolationin doing so much of me becomes meaningless. The self is the story of everything
that weve experienced, choices weve made: the continuous experience of the individual. I am
the baby that grew into the person writing this, and every step along that path shaped that person,
I am my story.
Critically, ones narrative becomes fixed in reality when share it. It is in the interpersonal
exchange of iteration and confirmation, the giving and receiving of storiesmy day, my
thoughts, my ideas, preferencesthat I begin to compose a self. By having that narrative
received and validated it becomes real. When I describe myself as a daughter, a sister, a friend
each obviously gives a relationship. But this is true too when I say that Im a student, a
bibliophile, a backpacker. It is our social world, our relationships that give these things content
and which limit them in scope. The choices I make, the way I define myself, the story I tell, each
of these is reliant on others for support, up-take, and validation. Not only is identity relationally
structured, it is also relationally constrained. Everything that one believes about themselves or
their reality has to be checked by others around them. Any story one tells about themselves has
to be accepted and taken up by their community. There is a power in that communal reality. In
hearing my story, those around me communicate a respect for me as a person. The uptake of
ones narrative is in many ways what allows movement from object to person: endorsement of
the story is recognition of its narrator.
When people flee their own country and seek sanctuary in another country, they apply for asylum
the right to be recognized as a refugee and receive legal protection and material assistance.
An asylum seeker must demonstrate that his or her fear of persecution in his or her home country
is well-founded2.
1
This is paraphrased.
2
UNCHR 2017 Definition of Asylum Seeker.
A refugee is someone who has been forced to flee his or her country because of persecution, war,
or violence. A refugee has a well-founded fear of persecution for reasons of race, religion,
nationality, political opinion or membership in a particular social group3.
These definitions are legally important. They help to conceptualize the context under
which certain protections and rights ought to or can be put in place. There are good and
necessary functions that thinking in terms of refugee status provides. In regard to the question of
relational and narrative identity it may aid others in recognizing the reality of the trauma implicit
in that experience, and yet there seems to be a way in which it becomes the only context in which
these individuals exist in our heads, their narrative is bound tightly to the confines of their legal
status. It seems to me that the transformation of the legal status of refugee or asylum seeker into
a social status in some meaningful ways impacts ones relational and narrative identity.
For one, when the label refugee moves from its narrow legal context to a broader social
identity it functions to erase an individuals autonomy in regards to their identity and to quiet or
silence elements of their broader personhood. The label of refugee or asylum seeker comes with
a social baggage, a social expectation of what it does to a person and who being one makes
someone. These assumptions, often informed by media representations, political platforms, and
other indirect sources, are imbedded in our social cognizance in problematic ways. Interacting
and conversing with the men at the refugee center I realized that there was so many aspects of
their personhood I had invisiblized. I found myself genuinely surprised to talk to these men and
learn about things which should have by no means been surprising. My ignorance and surprise at
the mens descriptions of their skilled former jobs, at their language skills, their desire to return
home, and their bigger dreams and goals is something that has bothered me viscerally since it
was revealed to me that I was there expecting a specific story. It seems that somehow by thinking
of these people in terms of their legal status led me to assume specific things about them, and to
really be open to only a very narrow narrative.
The way narrating to the narrow criteria of the legal definition in order to gain access to
resources and protections has expanded to become a social identity, a narrative that one is
expected to tell takes away from respecting and validating the real people experiencing the
3
UNCHR 2017 Definition of Refugee.
tragic, challenging, traumatic reality of forced migration. These people are people with the same
psychological needs and wants as every other humandignity, respect, humor, kindness,
acknowledgement. To have ones audience, the recipients of your narrative, restrict ones
identity to such narrow bounds is dehumanizing. I think it becomes critical to remember as a
society, and especially for us in positionalities of privilege, that one must always acknowledge
the person before their label.