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Algumas anotaes que fiz de 7 udios curtos do Hypnotica, do Mind Mastery Archive.
Como sempre, o Hypnotica manda *MTO*.
ANOTAES:
-- nao se pressione, relaxe. D tempo ao tempo, d alguns anos a si mesmo. E aproveite a sua
jornada, cada pedacinho dela, implementando e integrando tudo que vc aprender com
perfeio em todas as reas de sua vida.
-- sempre que vc estiver saindo/namorando uma garota, nunca diga pra ela pq os seus
relacionamentos no passado no deram certo. Vc subconscientemente demonstrar como era
vc tratado/tratava pessoas e isso poder influenciar ela a agir da mesma forma negativa com
vc.
Fale assim: "As pessoas terminam por diversas razes. A razo pela qual eu fiquei com ela pelo
tempo que eu fiquei foi pq quando eu acordava, tinha caf da manha, sabe? Ela massageava
meus ps antes de eu dormir, ela fazia vrias pequenas coisas que eu acho importantes para
uma boa comunicao e um bom relacionamento. Por isso que eu fiquei com ela por tanto
tempo".
Falando assim, vc criou um padro que ela tem de atingir, vc ps a barra de expectativa no alto
e mostrou que menos do que isso vc no aceitar.
-- pequenas coisas nas quais vc trabalhe, embora paream que nao importam, importam mto,
at pq elas se somaro.
-- nao se apoie totalmente em ninguem. Outras pessoas so bnus. Podem ser seus
companheiros, mas a jornada sua, e mesmo sem eles, mantenha-se firme.
-- Sua sexualidade, sua conexo com o seu lado sexual, uma parte grande do inner game
-- o que vc faz? "eu ensino pessoas a se sentirem bem". "Ensino mulheres a terem diferentes
tipos de orgasmos, etc"
-- The Way of the Peaceful Warrior um grande livro que mostra uma energia masculina forte.
Outra coisa interessante so imagens arqutipas (veja a arte de Luis Royal; se escreve
assim??), ela tem uma energia masculina, vc pode pr afirmaes na tela do seu pc e msica
(deliriums, dead condense, enygma, etc) tb qd l-las. Isso tudo ajuda a construir sua energia
masculina. Teste coisas, no se atenha as coisas que eu fiz ou outras pessoas fizeram.
-- todas pessoas ancoram estados a movimentos corporais. Quando vc ficar consciente disso,
poder se aproveitar disso a seu favor, qto mais vc ancorar algo, mais poderoso ficar.
-- qd vc vir uma garota que quer, ponha tudo em cmera lenta. Comece a observar, vc est
dizendo besteiras (suas crenas limitantes) pra vc mesmo na sua cabea? Se "pegue" um pouco
antes de entrar nesse estado, nessa repetio de besteiras na sua mente, ou quebre-a de
alguma forma.
Quebre o padro, faa uma pergunta qualquer, pergunta a hora, finja que confundiu ela com
outra pessoa, e dps v embora; isso te far crescer j e quebrar as crenas limitantes aos
poucos. So pequenos passos que ajudam MTO.
Use a regra dos 3 segundos pra te ajudar a quebrar seus padres de comportamento antigos.
An Evening With Hypnotica PUA -
Dating Advice On How To Meet And
Talk To Women/Girls
The thing with women, like I said, I'm bringing a few women
in here
that are gonna kind of lay down the law a little bit.
It doesn't work that way. You know, like I said I'm going
to
bring these women in here that are going to tell you as
soon as a guy goes into that frame
you fucked yourself.
Because women talk so much dirty shit that the first time
I was in a with 5 of them doing the hot oil wrestling, I
was blown away.
We all
probably at one point or another bought into that whole
paradigm.
But it's not true.
You know, I say it every seminar, I was the guy that women
played spin the bottle
at the party with and I was just kind of there.
You know, you have the cocky confidence where you're kind
of like
'Yeah, watch this guys.' And I
remember I said to my table, you know a bunch of friends,
we were kind of nerds and things like that, that's just the
way I kind of grew up, I said 'Watch this.'
And there was this chick that I totally dug.
And say 'That's right, you do. It's fun to enjoy pleasure.
Isn't it?'
And start going into those sexual realms. You can turn
stuff around so fuckin' fast it's ridiculous.
You know, in the last year there's probably been 50 or so
more that were under 3 minutes. Just bam!
Because women, which is good because you guys are here,
are not used to hearing guys talk like that.
It's all about leading. 'Come here. Let me show you this.'
Okay. Women don't respond to guys
that are like 'Um...
I have an opinion.
Can you answer this question for me? Who lies more men or
women?"
And I'll have girls tell you that that's just weak.
Pathetic.
Okay. So get over the fact that you're just a pickup artist
or you're just some guy
who can't get laid or whatever.
You think to yourself that you're a salesman.
That you're going to make her, you know, shake like a dog
shitting peach tree seeds is
what Steve likes to say.
What does this mean, you ask? It means that nows the time where I completed two 60-
60-30s for the love of the world in the capacity of Getting Things Done Fast. Literally,
thats the name of the Getting Things Done-based seminar Ive been listening to.
its been awesome, because Ive learned AT LEAST four times as much as when I
would read the text of Getting Things Done for hours at a time.
Awesome.
Besides that, Ive had a chat with Eric today. It was an interesting discussion, because I
would learn about the power of letting other people of letting people be fucked up,
letting other people walk their own hard road. I can help and give love, but it is their
road to walkit wont always be an easy one. Specifically, here are just some of the
ideas we discussed:
(Note, I was contemplating whether or not to share this. Eric (Hypnotica) is a good
friend and mentor to me. Nonetheless, we both believe in abundance, we both believe in
empowering people to the greatest degree possible, so below are some outstanding ideas
that will pay for this coaching ten times over.)
Use Metayes with any statements of selfI.e. say Yes, I have brown
hair. Yes I have brown eyes. Yes I breathe Yes I am a powerful man.
Nineteens still youngway ahead of everyone else
Attach music to my idea generation (especially useful with metayesanchor
power to the high points of the song we both will recommend a song like
Freedom Fighters by Two Steps from Hell)
Develop goalsEric showed me ten pages of goals (my goals are three pages)
describing his fun and playful spirit he has, his financial goals, his affinity with
nature (the way he describes it is awesome); its fun to note how relieving it was
to have somebody with sense of definite purpose similar to mine
Eliminate sugar its too temporary a source of sugar
Free the creative spiritif I learn something, share it
Just do it (Eric)Have an Unconscious drive to make it happen
Erics Mastery Series is a force to be reckoned withby far the best interview
series Ive ever listened to
Certain activities like admitting something youve repressed releases a LOT of
energy (we talked about the Hooters incidentkinda tough)
Metawhore reveals the power of sheer honesty
Lightning bolt negativite framesi.e. set the frame; alternatively, if thats not an
option, just accept the circumstance transform it (SUPER useful for my
situation turn everything into an advantage)
Be into whatever you do.
(Inference from Convo) Use references from movies to convey ideas
(Me) Make sure Pamela works properly before every Skype call (didnt have it
record :/)
Do less when changing habits
Start a Youtube channel (I made a StickK commitment here), update it daily,
with things like:
o What you learned
o Review
Overall, its easy to say that you can gain so much more from coaching with a solid
person than you ever will on your own. A person who has more experience than you in
any regard has a computer more powerful than the faster than (almost?) any
supercomputer ever.
Really, a coach can quickly detect problem spots in your vision and help you pull out
that plank from your eye. Once youve implemented what your coach suggests, youll
be amazed at how much better you see.
If youre looking for a coach, then Erics someone who can definitely help you with
your problems. Hes been extremely helpful to me, and I cannot recommend his book
Metawhore or his program The Collection of Confidence highly enough.
Anyway, thats it for todayhope you enjoyed this post. Today was a lot of fun, and I
feel that Ive learned a lot and now, as a result, have the opportunity to create a LOT of
value for the world.
Yours truly,
Aaron
In my last article1 we explored a biblical basis for the Meta-No pattern. As believers
in Jesus Christ we are taught to negate, to reject, and disown, to literally say No!
to all concepts, ideas, attitudes and frames that contradict and are contrary to the
will of God. We are to say No! to all that does not serve and aid us in serving
God. (Titus 2:11,12).
In this article we will explore the concept of affirmation, or the Meta-Yes according
to Scripture and its importance in renewing the mind.
In my first article I stated that during my Meta-states certification training Dr. Bob
Bodenhamer said, All change in essence boils down to saying No to what you
dont want and Yes to what you do want. I believe this is one of the most
significant contributions that the field of Neuro-semantics has made. The idea that
beliefs are confirmed thoughts2; that it is the affirming and saying yes to a thought
that solidifies and confirms it as a belief and thus as a frame is really quite simple
and yet at the same time quite profound. I believe that in the Scriptures we have a
foundation for this theory.
In 2 Corinthians 1:20 we are told all the promises of God in Him are yes, and
in Him amen, unto the glory of God by us.
All of God promises are fulfilled in Christ. If we ask God, Is this promise fulfilled in
Christ; is it true in Him? God answer is always Yes! That promise is fulfilled and it
is true in Christ!
For example we have in and through Christ redemption and forgiveness of sin
(Colossians 1:14). If you were to ask God Are we redeemed in Christ, are we
forgiven in Him?, Gods answer is ALWAYS Yes! You are redeemed, you are
forgiven in Christ.
If you were to ask God, When we were baptized, were we united with Christ in His
death and resurrection? Gods reply would be Yes! When you were baptized with
Christ you were united with Him in His death and resurrection! (Romans6:3-8)
Again all that God promised is fulfilled in Christ, a fulfillment that God affirms and
confirms, that He says YES! to. As a matter of fact the word translated, as YES
from the Greek is NAI. It denotes the strong affirmation, assertion and
confirmation of a thing3. So Gods YES is an affirmation and confirmation of His
word and its fulfillment.
Now 2 Corinthians 1:20 states that we utter the AMEN! to Gods Yes!. In
regards to a promise God declares, Yes that promise fulfilled in Christ!, to which
we utter Amen!. What does it mean to utter or say Amen! to something? And
why must we through Christ say Amen! to Gods Yes!?
The word amen in English and Greek comes from the Hebrew word amen (the
word sounds basically the same in all three languages). Amen literally means It is
true, it is so, so be it, or let it be so4. Biblically amen serves as a formula and
expression of confirmation or agreement5.
In the scriptures amen always serves as a positive response to something that one
has just heard or said. This can be a prayer or a teaching (Galatians 1:5 and
Deuteronomy 27:15-26). Actually, amen serves at least three positive purposes in
scripture:
1. It can be used as an exclamation point, as a way of emphasizing and
strengthening something just said6.
2. It is also used to confirm the word of another.
By pronouncing amen the listener associates himself with what has been
uttered; he makes it his own and is ready to conform to it. The people said
amen to the commandments Moses gave them (Deuteronomy 27:15-26)
thus agreeing to follow them and accepting the consequences implied. 8
The NIV Encyclopedia of Bible Words states that To say amen is to identify
with what is said and to confirm that what has been said is true and binding. 9
Thus to say Amen! to what one hears is to affirm that which one hears, to
confirm it as true , to identify with it and make it your own.
When we say Amen! we are in essence saying Yes! to Gods Yes!. Thus our
Amen! is a Yes!, i.e., an affirmation and/or confirmation that is meta to Gods
Yes! (Our Amen! is about his Yes!). Our Amen is a Meta-Yes!
Within the context of the Christian faith and the Christian life to say Amen! to
Gods Word, to His Truths and promises is to have and exercise faith in God. Said
another way to have faith in God is to Amen! God and His Word.
That to Amen! Gods Word is to exercise faith in, or to believe Gods Word may
also be seen in the fact that the Hebrew word for faith, EMUNAH, is derived from
the Hebrew word AMAN which denotes firmness and certainty. Depending on how
its used Aman can also mean, to cause to be certain, to believe or to
establish.11
Amen is also derived from this word Aman. Thus to believe God, to say amen to His
Word is to apply and bring to bear certainty, firmness, and confirmation to the word
of God and thus to establish it in our own hearts and minds.
This also sheds light on and expands our understanding of a familiar passage of
Scripture: Romans 10:17
The word hearing in Greek is akoe. This word refers to a responsive hearing not
a passive one.12 In other words when we hear the word of God there is a response
that we are to have toward the word we hear, and that response results in faith.
What is the response we are to have? We are to respond to Gods word with
Amen!, with a Meta-Yes! As we respond to His word with an Amen! (Yes!),
bringing affirmation, confirmation, and identification to bear upon His word the
result is faith, i.e., a belief frame by which we live and move and have our being.
Does this means that our faith is merely or only a human effort or product?
. Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. For it is God
which worketh in you both to will and to do if His good pleasure.
God Himself is at work within us, energizing, and motivating us to fulfill His will, to
say Amen/Yes to His will. We say Amen outwardly because God is inwardly working
within us and motivating us to utter the Amen, the Yes to his will.
Our verbalizing of the Yes! or the Amen! is one aspect of our working out our
salvation, i.e., of carrying out and fulfilling what it means to be saved.
To utter the Meta-Yes to the word of God is not to substitute human activity for
Divine activity. Rather it is to cooperate with the Lord in what He is working and
doing in us.
And how are we to utter our Amen to the word and truth of God?
Amen is [to be enunciated] with the full power of the voice. (p. 492)
The church had adapted from the synagogue the practice of enunciating the amen
with the full power-of the voice. (Ibid)
The idea seems to be the amen must be spoken out loud and strongly for it to
be effective. This accords with the Meta-states/ Neuro-semantic application of the
Meta-Yes pattern where we are told to elicit and utter a strong intense Yes to a
new enhancing belief in order to install it (Hall, Personal Mastery pp.156-163).
With the Meta-Yes we have a very practical means of exercising and applying faith
in God. The insight and understanding that the Meta-states model brings to the
concept of beliefs, that they are confirmed thoughts, helps us to understand why
Christians often have difficulty believing and making the promises and truths of
Scripture our own.
Until we utter the Amen! the Yes! to the truth we hear it is not confirmed in us as
our truth. It has not become our own; it is not yet our frame.
But once we utter strongly and congruently Amen or Yes to Gods truth it, becomes
our truth; it becomes the frame by which we live.
So what truth of Scripture would you like to have as your operating frame? What
principle or biblical concept would you like to utter an Amen or Yes to?
How about:
Or,
. We are more than conquers through Him that loved us. (Romans 8:37)
Or,
Peace I leave with you, My peace I give unto you (John 14:27).
Have you uttered Amen/Yes strongly, intensely and congruently to such Biblically
enhancing beliefs? Do you want to? Would it serve you to have such beliefs as your
frame of mind? Are there beliefs that you need to say No to first? Those beliefs
that keep you from serving God and following Him fully do these beliefs serve
you? Do they help you to walk in the image and likeness of God and fulfill your
spiritual potential?
Are you ready to say No to those limiting frames? Then Do It! And remember
as you say No to limiting frames and Amen/Yes to enhancing ones, keep in mind
that God is working in you and with you. He is empowering you to say No to
those limiting frames and Amen/Yes to the enhancing ones (thats a frame by the
way).
With the Meta-Yes and the Meta-No we have in our hands two powerful and
effective tools for renewing our minds and bringing them into alignment and
harmony with the Mind of God.
Williams James, the Father of American psychology, said, Tell him to live by yes
and no yes to everything good, no to everything bad.13
Good advice.
This past weekend, while attending the School of Steve P, Hypnotica dropped by to
show everyone something called the META Yes. Its a very simple tool to help with
changing your neurology for mastering your universe.
Now project a circle out in front of you. What you do is tell yourself something that
you know to be true. I am wearing white Air Force Ones. Take a moment and notice
what you feel. Step in to that circle and say Yes! You can make a gesture if you
choose to help anchor this feeling. Now step out of that circle to where you were.
Repeat this a few times, saying the same thing over and over. Now move on to
something else that you know to be true.
I just started my own Word Press blog. Notice how it feels. Step in to the cirlce.
Yes! Repeat. Once youve done this a few times, amp it up.
Now, youre probably saying to yourself, But, OG! This sounds just like an
affirmation! What gives? Ill tell you what gives. You keep reciting affirmations (a
positive statement about yourself) they end up becoming mantras. Remember that
episode of Seinfeld where Kramer kept muttering to himself serenity now? Thats
how I see people who just use affirmations ending up being. Not everyone is going to
go crazy, but you never truly believe in it. The META Yes exercise speeds up the
process and quickly integrates these beliefs in to your neurology, bringing about a whole
new world of positive energy for you to tap in to. With this newfound energy, you may
find yourself going more direct, being more playful, or whatever it is you normally are.
Ramp it up!
Make the META Yes a part of your daily routine and watch how quickly you escalate
from Chump to Champ!
OG
Im Good Enough, Im Smart Enough and Dog-Gone It People
Like Me!
Ever use affirmations? A lot of people do and after all, the above one must have worked
since it turned a clown into a senator. But the question is, can they work for you? And
the answer to that is yes they can if you do them correctly and they could be a big help
when youre going into an interview.
Okay, so youve finally got an interview and the job sounds like something you would
really like. And suddenly it seems like its a really important thing, a lot more important
than just talking about the World Series with one of your friends. Do you find yourself
acting any differently? Chances are the natural nervousness you would feel when
speaking with new people is amplified to the point where it drowns out your own
thoughts and you feel your confidence draining away.
Ive had candidates sparkle during phone interviews and when they came on site for
their final interviews fall apart and become different people. Since its the Halloween
season I guess Dr. Jekyll became Mr. Hyde or maybe it had something to do with the
full moon. But in any event, they lost confidence in themselves and for lack of a better
description, choked.
So how do you stay confident during an interview? Try the Meta Yes technique.
The Meta Yes is a way to leverage affirmations. While some people are able to tape
affirmations to their bathroom mirrors or chant them to themselves for good result the
majority of people who complain that they dont work simply do not link that
affirmation to something that they know to be true. And because of that an affirmation
becomes wishful thinking like most New Years resolutions.
2) Imagine a circle in front of you and step into it and say whatever it was you chose in
step 1 and very affirmatively say Yes!
3) Step out and repeat a couple of times, really noticing what it feels like when youre
saying something you know to be true.
4) After a few times, say your affirmation and step into the circle again and say Yes!
while bringing up that feeling of knowing something is true.
5) Repeat this a few times a day and pretty soon the affirmation will gain strength.
Essentially you are anchoring what you know to be true to the affirmation and your
unconscious will work on making it true for you.
So, if for example you were to use the affirmation, I am the best person for this job and
am able to express that articulately in interviews you will likely find yourself to be
more confident in expressing yourself with interviewers. Give it a try in an area where
youre feeling a sticking point. Let me know how it goes.
Best,
James Seetoo
A Simple Boost for Social Confidence
The problem is that for insecure or socially nervous individuals it becomes the rejection
prophecy. A feeling of apprehension about meeting new people is outwardly expressed
as nervous behaviour and this leads to rejection.
But a new paper published in Psychological Science provides a simple exercise that
helps boost relational security and should help turn the rejection prophecy back into the
acceptance prophecy.
Self-affirmation
Stinson et al. (2011) measured the relational security of 117 participants by asking them
how much they agreed with statements like: My friends regard me as very important in
their lives and My partner loves and accepts me unconditionally.
Half of them were then asked to do a very simple self-affirmation task. Participants
looked down a list of 11 values including things like spontaneity, creativity, friends and
family, personal attractiveness and so on. They put them in order of importance and
wrote a couple of paragraphs saying why their top-ranked item was so important.
The results showed that this simple task boosted the relational security of insecure
individuals in comparison with a control group. Afterwards their behaviour was seen as
less nervous and they reported feeling more secure. And when they were followed up at
four and eight weeks later, the benefits were still apparent.
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It appears that even a task as simple as this is enough to boost the social confidence of
people who feel insecure.
Afirmaes
Steve Andreas
"As estrelas do mar so uma praga para os pescadores que vivem da captura
de mariscos e de outros moluscos no mar, pois as estrelas se alimentam
desses animais. Os pescadores achavam que para matar as estrelas bastaria
pic-las e jogar os pedaos de volta para o mar, porm no sabiam que cada
fragmento se regenerava em um adulto perfeito e, no final das contas, isso
conduziria para uma populao ainda maior, at que o problema foi melhor
compreendido." Wikipdia.
Muitas pessoas recomendam que dizer afirmaes positivas, repetidas vezes, uma maneira
de mudar as suas crenas sobre si mesmo e melhorar a vida. As afirmaes se originaram da
obra de mile Cou (1857-1926) que defendia dizer a frase abaixo, repetidas vezes, at que
ela se tornasse um mantra de fundo inconsciente: "todos os dias, de todas as formas, estou
ficando cada vez melhor."
Existe um srio problema com essa afirmao particular na repetio da palavra "todo". Nunca
ser verdade que eu estou ficando melhor todos os dias e de todas as formas. A realidade no
assim. Mesmo se eu estiver ficando maravilhosamente melhor em muitos aspectos, no ser
em todas as formas. Muitos de ns temos uma voz interior que ouve as declaraes universais
e as contesta e aqueles que no tm esse tipo de voz, ficariam melhor se tivessem uma!
Se eu disser a declarao de Cou para mim, ela estimula a minha voz interior a encontrar
excees essa generalizao universal. Ela poderia dizer sarcasticamente: "Sim, certo! Que
tal a forma como voc se dirigiu a sua esposa, hoje de manh isso melhor? Que tal aquele
joelho dolorido que estourou ontem, de tal forma que hoje voc est mancando isso estar
melhor? Eu no penso assim! "
Assim, mesmo se pudesse valer a pena insistir na ideia das afirmaes, preciso ter muito
cuidado com as palavras que dizemos a ns mesmos, ou a afirmao pode "sair pela culatra" e
produzir resultados contrrios. Qualquer palavra universal, como "todos", "cada", "sempre",
geralmente incita uma voz antagnica e isso, pode resultar na diminuio do seu otimismo!
Mas h outros problemas com as afirmaes que podem no ficar aparentes de imediato. Um
site da internet diz o seguinte sobre as afirmaes:
"A ideia por trs dessas tcnicas bastante simples. A maioria de ns cresceu
aprendendo a se desprezar por qualquer erro real ou imaginado. Ns
crescemos acreditando em certas coisas sobre ns mesmos ou nos
comparando negativamente com os outros. O uso de afirmaes positivas
uma tcnica para mudar esse dilogo interno negativo para algo mais positivo."
A meta de termos vozes internas que so positivas parece muito atraente. Entretanto, se
examinarmos essa prescrio um pouco mais de perto, a ideia de adicionar afirmaes
positivas apresenta alguns problemas. Se assumirmos, como faz a citao, que a maioria de
ns "cresceu aprendendo a se desprezar por qualquer erro real ou imaginado", o que vai
acontecer quando introduzirmos uma nova voz que positiva e que d apoio? Haver um
conflito inevitvel entre esses pontos de vista opostos. Alm disso, a velha voz que despreza
ir provavelmente redobrar seus esforos no sentido de discordar com a voz que d apoio. Isso
pode resultar em nos colocarmos ainda mais para baixo do que antes de acrescentarmos essa
afirmao.
Segundo a Wikipdia, "para uma afirmao ser efetiva, ela precisa estar no tempo presente,
ser positiva, pessoal e especfica". Um outro site oferece os seguintes exemplos:
Embora "eu estou saudvel, feliz, sou inteligente e livre" no tenha o universal "todos", ele est
implcito, e eu no conheo ningum que esteja sempre saudvel, feliz, inteligente ou livre. Se
eu disser isso para mim quando estiver doente, triste, com tdio ou me sentindo imobilizado,
isso ir se opor ao que eu sinto e no ser muito til.
Quantas vezes verdade que voc est cercado por pessoas que o amam? Voc pode ter em
casa vrias pessoas ao seu redor que o amam muito, mas e no trabalho ou no armazm? L
provavelmente existem, pelo menos outras pessoas, que esto indiferentes e que podem at
ser hostis.
Se uma afirmao no se coaduna com a sua realidade, a parte de voc que controla a
realidade ir ser provocada a question-la, derrotando novamente a finalidade da afirmao.
Contudo, se criarmos vozes internas que so um pouco mais sutis nas palavras que elas usam,
existem maneiras de contornar essa dificuldade.
Um mundo feliz
A instruo interessante que se segue foi postada em um newsgroup, um ano atrs, por um
email de Vikas Dikshit, um educador trainer de PNL de Pune, na ndia:
H cerca de 18 meses atrs, uma jovem senhora me pediu ajuda para a sua
depresso. Ela frequentava um psiquiatra e tomava remdio para a depresso
por alguns meses.
Cerca de um ano aps esse email, Vikas escreveu dizendo que sua cliente ainda se sente
muito bem, e que ele tem usado o mesmo mtodo com sucesso ou variaes dele com
uma srie de outros clientes. Embora esse mtodo parea muito simples para ter algum efeito,
ele emprega alguns aspectos muito sutis de linguagem.
A maneira mais simples de entender esse processo que ele o mesmo que todos ns
fazemos muitas vezes, porm utilizado de uma maneira mais til. Se algum fala sobre um "dia
sombrio", ele no est realmente falando sobre o dia, ele est falando sobre os seus
sentimentos. Quando algum fala de um "ardor agradvel", ele est falando sobre o ardor ou
sobre como ele se sente? Quando algum fala sobre a cortina feliz, isso significa que ele est
se sentindo feliz.
J que todas as frases so sobre algum aspecto do mundo sendo feliz, no h conflito entre
dizer isso quando a pessoa no est se sentindo feliz. Uma pessoa infeliz ainda pode falar
sobre cortinas felizes. Isso muito diferente da afirmao "eu estou feliz" que ir contradizer o
estado presente de algum, se ele estiver infeliz.
Esse processo direciona a sua ateno para as coisas ao seu redor no momento presente,
exatamente como ocorre com qualquer meditao til. Como voc tem ateno limitada, isso
ir simultaneamente retirar a sua ateno do que voc estava executando para aquilo que
estava deixando voc infeliz, inclusive algum dilogo interno negativo que estava acontecendo
em sua mente.
A palavra "feliz" um gatilho para esse estado, de modo que us-la tende a eliciar sentimentos
felizes, no importa o que ela descreva, seja uma cadeira ou uma mesa. Quando eu descrevo
as cortinas como "felizes", isso conecta a felicidade com as cortinas e com tudo mais no
meu entorno que eu descrevo com essa palavra. Depois disso, cada vez que eu olhar para as
cortinas e para as outras coisas minha volta eu vou pensar na palavra "feliz" e isso
tende a eliciar aquela sensao feliz. Se tudo minha volta rotulado dessa forma, em breve
estarei cercado por coisas que esto agora associadas com a palavra "feliz" e que eliciam esse
estado de sentimento.
Entretanto, preciso ter muito cuidado se voc incluir outras pessoas nas suas observaes
felizes, e notar que tipo de reao essas observaes provocam em voc, porque isso pode
criar um contraste que no seja conveniente. Se eu notar uma criana feliz, isso pode me fazer
sentir feliz, porque eu no sou uma criana do mesmo modo como eu no sou uma cadeira
nem uma cortina. Mas se eu notar outros adultos sendo felizes, esse contraste com o meu
estado atual pode agravar a minha infelicidade. Se os outros minha volta esto felizes,
quando eu estiver infeliz, isso pode tornar ainda pior a minha infelicidade. Por isso muito mais
seguro no incluir outras pessoas de nenhuma maneira mesmo crianas ou animais e s
usar objetos inanimados.
Outra maneira de pensar sobre esse mtodo que ele um exemplo do padro de linguagem
hipntica chamado de "restrio selecional". Visto que uma janela no pode ser feliz, sua
mente ir inconscientemente procurar dar sentido a palavra "feliz" ao aplic-la em alguma outra
coisa. Se voc est sozinho, voc a nica possibilidade disponvel, e mesmo se estiver com
outros, voc ainda uma possibilidade. Como todo esse processamento ocorre de modo
completamente inconsciente, ele no pode ser contrariado pelo seu pensamento consciente.
claro que, apesar de toda essa compreenso maravilhosa, esse processo pode ser
completamente anulado se algum usar um tom de voz sarcstico, zombador ou desdenhoso.
Mas se voc usar um tom que o habitual, simplesmente relatando a sua experincia
"objetivamente", ou algum tom que expressa at mesmo um pouco de prazer, o processo ir
funcionar. Se voc fizer isso com voc mesmo, ou com algum, voc pode notar a tonalidade, e
mud-la se ela no apoiar o mtodo.
Voc tambm pode usar esse mtodo com qualquer outro adjetivo conveniente, tal como
"calmo" ou "pacfico" para algum que se agita facilmente, "amvel" para algum que sente
raiva, ou "equilibrado" ou "centrado" para algum que se sente disperso ou catico.
Simplesmente identifique o humor problemtico, pense em seu oposto, e em seguida,
selecione um adjetivo que expresse esse humor oposto para colocar no lugar do "feliz".
Por exemplo, se algum est frequentemente com medo ou ansioso, o oposto seguro, e ele
pode usar essa palavra para descrever o mundo em volta dele. "Eu vejo a cadeira segura",
"Essas so cortinas seguras", "Esse um computador seguro", etc.
Tente isso agora. Pense em um estado desagradvel em que voc s vezes entra...
Ento pense no seu oposto, um estado positivo que voc gostaria de ter no lugar desse
Ento use essa palavra para descrever as coisas ao seu redor, seja internamente ou para fora
em voz alta. Continue a fazer isso por vrios minutos, e note como isso muda a sua reao...
Esse mtodo uma afirmao que funciona, e no ir estimular outras vozes conflitantes para
discordar dela.
CREDIT HYPNOTICA's Reinventing yourself]
GO out to a mall/ bar / restauarant.
1 - for 20 minutes walk up to as many beautiful women as you can. Find out what your
mind says to you.
After 20 minutes. Write down everything that your mind was saying too you that
prevents you from approaching her.
e.g.
I'm not worthy for a girl like that.
She's too hot.
She's not my type.
OMG, she's out of my league.
::drool::
She doesn't look happy.
3- Do the same thing again for 20 minutes, approaching lots of women, but saying
nothing. This time say to yourself something that is possible.
e.g.
She might have just broken up with her BF.
She might like my shoes.
She might think I'm cute.
She could be lonely and needs someone to talk to.
5 - Same thing for 20 minutes, approaching lots of women, but saying nothing. This
time say to yourself something that is FAR FETCHED and SILLY.
e.g.
She could think I'm the hottest guy.
She could chase me around grabbing my ass.
She might grab my hand and put it between her legs.
She could rip my clothes off and make out with me.
This was a great exercise. In fact I recommend doing it a few times because when I
approached women I found myself going into a fun state.
[Angel Donovan]: All good. Its great to have you here. We just recently reviewed your
book Metawhore, which came out about six months ago, I think. So first Id just like to
kind of get your ideas behind why you wrote that and what you wanted to communicate.
[Hypnotica]: Well, I wrote it for the reason that I you have it inside you, and this is
something that it took a long time to get there. And I came from the position where a lot
of the guys in the community came from, not really knowing what to do, overweight. I
was fat. I was extremely white, freckles, pimples. So I consciously went through the
steps on where to get to the point where I feel extremely confident in myself, in my
success, in my interactions with women on pretty much every level.
[Hypnotica]: So it would be a shame, I think, for someone to have gone through that
and not be able to give back a little bit of the steps and the learnings that it took to get to
the point where I was at and where Id feel comfortable, where I think a lot of guys are
trying to get to. So that's really why I wrote the book, for the reason I mean, I didnt
write it because Im a writer. Im definitely not a writer. I wrote it just because of the
fact that I think that there are a lot of guys that can get a lot out of the book, and
especially on the sexuality level where Im getting lots and lots of feedback and
testimonials from guys just emailing me out of the blue like, Im glad you wrote this
book because it made me think that I was fucked up in the head or I had all these urges
or it wasnt natural. So Im getting a lot of that. I think its a good thing that the book
went out, even though it rubbed some people wrong, But I think overall its just another
viewpoint that most people didnt put out. So that's pretty much why I wrote the book.
[Angel Donovan]: Yeah, I mean, one of the things I enjoyed about it was the honesty.
Its very authentic, and I can understand the scenes that you describe, which are kind of
embarrassing. Most people wouldnt want to put it out there, so I think relating to those
guys who said, Hey, thank you for writing the book, its because they feel normal
because they know that there are other people out there doing the same that they can
relate to when they are doing something and they dont have to hide or whatever. Do
you want to relate one or two of those kind of things that you think people should feel
normal about that they generally dont because of the way people view them or talk
about them?
[Hypnotica]: Well, I think people should feel extremely normal about being vulnerable,
being able to open up and say things that are absolutely pretty much normal in life.
Vulnerability, a lot of guys think, Oh, I need to hold on to my emotion or I cant let it
out, but the thing that there is is there's a certain strength with vulnerability. Because
vulnerability has a certain softness to it, and when you have a certain softness, youre
actually more human, youre actually more able to relate to people, you can be more
empathetic, and those are the things that I think are powerful. So when a person can
actually say whatever he wants to say and understand that he's got such a strong solid
sense, core confidence inside himself no matter what anyone says, it doesnt matter
because he's just being his own unique individual self and there's no one that can say,
Hey, this is right, this is wrong, because nobody knows whats really right, whats
really wrong. So its basically the persons own unique opinion of what they bring to the
world, whats their own unique gift, whats their own unique perspective. And without
that, then were all clones. We just walk around as robots in a certain paradigm, and
that's death to me. So its really about the birth of creativity, the birth of, hey, being okay
with being yourself, being your own unique individual, really.
[Angel Donovan]: Great. Are there any specific examples you could give like of things
that you think probably occur for a lot of people but they dont talk about them?
[Hypnotica]: Well, let's go right with masturbation. Lots of guys, you know
[Hypnotica]: Now I think its getting a little bit more open. I think that the Internet has
really helped out open a lot of things on a lot of different levels as far as ideas, as far as
other people out there that have similar interests. And I think something like
masturbation, guys, at least in my generation, masturbation was taught to be bad, its
dirty, its a very There was a big religious I like to say the religious reich of telling
whats right and whats wrong is rotting away a little bit, because they were saying,
Oh, you cant do this and you cant do that. And I dont know so much about this
generation coming up, but I feel like a lot of people were put to shame, like its bad.
And its not bad. Its just a natural normal process. I mean, anytime you can, A, release
good feelings into the world, I think that's good. Anytime you could get a release of
tension and let the chemicals run through your body that relax you, that's good. And I
think the only thing that's bad is if you keep on doing it 20, 30 times a day and you
overdo it. But something like that where you can just easily talk about it, its more open,
its more honest, its more just you being you. I mean, I wouldnt make it the
conversation of the family dinner, but you know, when youre out with your friends, if
you can laugh it, you could joke around, then youre more at ease with it. And once you
have that tension relaxed in your body, then youre able to flow more easily, things to
that nature.
I mean, lots of shit happens. Shit happens to people all the time. I mean, I had a really,
really weird experience. Probably the weirdest experience happened two days ago to
me.
[Hypnotica]: And I dont ever get thrown off ever. Like that's one of my things, is Ive
been there, Ive done it. I had a friend, and this is Im still a little weird on this.
[Hypnotica]: I had a friend that I know from, I dont know, maybe 10 years, a manly
man. I mean, this guy is like six-five, you know, almost 300 pounds, six-five,
connection worker, just a man man, the most manly man that I know, alright, put it that
way. And he came I havent seen him for about a year, you know. He said, Hey, Eric,
did I leave my tool there? I go, Yeah, you left the tools here. Come on over. So he
comes over and were just sitting there talking, were kicking back. And he's older. He's
about, I dont know, 15, 20 years older than me. And in the penitentiary, like one of
these guys, you know, not a guy you mess with.
[Hypnotica]: And out of the blue he just says, Eric, can I see your dick? And I was
like, What? He goes, Your dick. Id really like to see your dick. And Im kind of
getting a little Im like, What are you talking like is this a joke? Like, Okay,
whats going on? And he goes, No, I really would like to see your dick. And I go,
No I go, Im not going to show you my dick, but you want to see a picture of it?
Here. Heres a picture. Heres my photo of that. It gets sent out to girls who want to see
my dick. Here you go.
And then he kept on. Then he kept on. He was like, Well, you know, Id really get great
pleasure and he basically came outthis a guy that I thought I knew like the back of
my handfor an hour sat in the room and he was pushing on it. And hes a big guy, so I
was like, Okay, I need to grab a hammer here because he's looking at me like Im his
next dinner.
And so its like when you can just get it out of your system and let it go, it becomes
funny. Once something becomes funny, whether its masturbation, whether its
premature ejaculation, whether its anything, you get that tension out of your body.
Once the tensions out of your body, then youre back more into the flow. But that's the
kind of stuff that happens.
[Angel Donovan]: And I like the way you put it, like its this tension in your body that
is kind of trapped, and I guess its going to come out in weird ways and interrupt what
youre doing, you know, if youre approaching women or youre meeting women or
whatever it is, it can hold you back, I guess.
[Hypnotica]: If you let it build up I kind of look at it like, imagine like a sink and
there's hair in the sink, and sometimes if there's enough hair in there it kind of slows it
down, but if you dont anything about it, pretty much it stops. And if you realize that
there's always going to be a little cloggage somewhere down the line, as long as you
keep moving forward and you do something actively to kind of clean it out, you just
have to move forward.
For example, like guys on approaching, I know they have this big thing on guys on
approaching. I dont really even look at it that way, but a lot of guys do. And so they're
out there and they dont realize that its like anything. Its like working out. Its like
starting a vehicle. Theres a warm-up phase. And nobody really likes to do the warm-up
phase. Even the best people that I know that are good at it, even the guys that are the top
guys that teach this stuff that I know go out all the time, say, Hey, the first three times
suck. The first time is just like youre warming up and its stretching a muscle. You just
dont go in the gym and grab 300 pounds and throw it up. Youve got to ease into it. The
first time always sucks, just like getting out of bed and going, God, I have to go to the
gym. It sucks.
[Hypnotica]: Then, once you start getting into the groove and you start getting warmed
up, you start to find the flow. And I think a lot of guys are afraid of taking that very first
step, but that's just like warming up. And once you look at it like youre just warming
up, its okay. Even like one of the top guys was saying, he doesnt even know what he's
going to say. He just makes his feet move in that direction. He's like saying, No, I dont
want to go. I dont want to go, but his feet just walk him to that direction, and he says
usually its something pretty stupid. He goes, once that's done, the hair or the clog that
we were talking about, a big chunk of it gets moved. And then the next time is like the
rest of it gets moved and pretty soon, the water starts flowing. That's a little analogy that
may help people. I dont know if I answered the question completely.
[Angel Donovan]: Yeah, that definitely fits with what I know a lot of other people, you
know, the guys teaching this stuff, that they do in real life. So that fits with what I know
as well.
[Hypnotica]: And the only way to really do it and learn it is to go through it and do it
and experience it. You can read all the stuff, and that's kind of why the whole PUA
system is kind of the way it is right now because its just theory out there. Everyones
kind of talking theory, and when you talk theory there's nothing new being brought to
the table, because its like, Oh, I brought this. Youre not getting the experience, and
when you get the experience is when you get the unique concepts and you get the
unique ideas and you get the unique systems that roll through body.
Like some of the content I presented this year that were brand new at the conference
that we did with the Casanova Crew guys is, basically I said, Hey, are you guys afraid
of clowns? And theyre like, Oh, no. And I go, But I want you to think about
something. The amount of makeup on a womans face is the distance that she is
detached from reality, and a clown puts on makeup and they entertain you. Okay, a
woman also puts up makeup and entertains you. A woman is just really kind of like a
pretty clown, you know, and just start to shift the perspective.
I go, Now, if you walked up in a bar to a girl and you had some liquid on you that takes
makeup off and you sprayed it on their face and it melted the makeup off, do you think
that they would still be as confident as they were if they were dressed up like the pretty
clown? And a lot of guys said, No. And I said, That's what youve got to
understand. Youre talking to an illusion. Youre talking to something that's put up to
make believe. And I said, So when you understand that, then you guys start to see
things a lot differently.
And the other thing is, when a womans getting ready, how long does it usually take?
Usually about an hour and a half to two hours for the average woman. And I said,
What do you think when shes getting ready that shes thinking about, shes fantasizing
about when shes shaving her legs, when shes shaving her pussy, when shes making
sure that shes absolutely prepped? Shes doing a ritual in her head of a type of man that
she wants to meet. And when she can think to herself like, Man, I hope I meet this in a
guy, you think its the average guy that comes up and just goes, Hey, whats your
name? or Can I ask you a question? No, its a guy that throws the lightning bolt that
knocks her off her feet. That's what shes doing in her head. That's the type of ritual.
I said, So when you go out, you need to understand what has been going on inside this
womans head when shes getting ready, what type of guy, and for you to step in and
become that guy and be that guy so you help her with her fantasy. So, I wouldnt have
known that if I didnt keep on going through the process. For you to go through the
process, you understand these things and you start to think about it differently.
[Hypnotica]: Compared to if you just stand on the outside and youre thinking about it
and youre contemplating it in your head with your PUA buddies, you dont get to see
things that free your thought process up.
[Angel Donovan]: Its interesting to look at it from the womens side, you know. She
wants to impress all her girlfriends and whatever, you see that in all of the effort they
put upfront, right, some special occasion, you know, it can go two weeks in advance
theyre stressing about the dress theyre going to wear and what theyre going to look
like and so on. So, in a sense, I guess they get over the tension before the event, in their
preparation, and then the guys have to deal with it at the event. Does that make sense to
you?
[Hypnotica]: Yeah. Id say theyre more like putting themselves on display. Its more
like theyre doing a model walk.
[Hypnotica]: They do have a certain amount of I guess tension built up, and women are
wild. They want to let loose. So its almost like that's their moment. Theyre going to
shine, that person that theyve been building up on the inside, you know, when they look
at the shoes and theyre going, Okay, Ill put this combination together with this
combination. I mean, its really just a big, like a party, because theyve been planning
it. So when theyre out there, theyre going to put on that person. Theyre not going to
be brought down by a normal conversation. They dont want to. They want to be in that
mode where theyre out there having fun, letting loose.
[Hypnotica]: And guess what, guys, you better be that guy whos able to do that. And if
youre just letting her ride the conversation or expect her to keep the creativity going in
a conversation or bring her back down to a normal boring interaction, then youre going
to lose. If you like, Hey, Im that guy whos going to be the tour guide through this
night tonight and going to have fun and going to make it wild, youre a hell of a lot
better off than youre just that guy that's, Okay, Im going to go and approach this
girl, because theyre going to eat you up because youre going to break down their
vibe.
[Angel Donovan]: So you were talking about experience, the importance of experience
over theory a minute ago, and one of the interesting things you relate in Metawhore is
that you go from many extreme experiences, probably a lot more extreme than anyone
else I know has been through. So do you think its essential to go to extremes? Or what
kind of experiences do you think are helpful in gaining to get better at all of this?
[Hypnotica]: Well, the way I look at extreme is anything beyond what normalcy in a
society is.
[Hypnotica]: Its kind of like the society, which is protected by certain kind of universal
little laws that everyone kind of agrees on, and that's where everyone is. And so I kind
of say like if youre going out and youre looking for a treasure, you dont want to look
where everyone else has been looking because youre not going to find it. You have to
look where no one else has looked.
So I dont believe that its essential because I think you can learn a lot by staying in
those parameters, but for me, because I like to kind of blaze the trails a little bit, I
believe, you know, or at least I like to go outside the extreme and do those things,
because then you start to see all the patterns that people run by, and how many people
want to stay in that little comfort zone but when they get a chance, boom, they come out
and they want to unleash and go into it? So, I mean, I believe if youre going to be a
maverick, if youre going to be someone who really like goes beyond what people want
and find new stuff, I believe youve got to go extreme. If you just want kind of like a
little bit, you can excel extremely the other way, but I dont think youre going to get as
many as the original ideas that are going to come to mind, if that makes sense.
[Angel Donovan]: Yeah. Yeah, it does. So let's put this into practice. What kind of
things would you suggest the guys do in order to build up their experience of it and get
out of their comfort zone?
[Hypnotica]: The most obvious is actually go out. Lots dont even go out. They sit at
their computer and they talk theory all day. I mean, if you go out Tyler Durden from
RSD, you know, I was watching him talk, he goes out every single night whether he
wants to or not, even if its for 20 minutes.
[Hypnotica]: You go out and you get to know the vibe. Just doing that is extreme. And
you start to realize, Okay, you know what, theres a certain tendency, there's a certain
pattern here. So, I mean, just going out is a big thing.
Hey, walking up to girls is another big thing. Lots of guys dont even do that. Its not
like 10% of the guys even do that. Being able to put sexual thoughts and ideas and seeds
into a conversation, being able to talk sexually, I mean that's, for the most part, a little
different than most things.
Now, if youre talking like extreme extreme, you know, there's all kinds of things. I
mean, Im a big advocate of doing psychedelics, taking a vision quest, going out into
the forest and doing that kind of thing. That's my own personal thing that helps me get
out of my own head or gets me regrounded and lets me see things differently.
[Hypnotica]: But even that, going out, like I said when I was in the book, going out and
doing or wearing something extreme just to get the information, just to get the
experience, just to get the peoples reactions, I mean, that's huge when you see that. It
gives you more data to work with in your brain. I believe the more data that you have of
how people react and how people are, the more flexible you can become, and the more
flexible you are, the more power you gain in any one system that youre working with
with a person. You can blend in with anyone. I could blend in, and I do, with people that
are hanging out in jail or prison that have been there. I can hang out with people that are
millionaires that are federal judges. I have that ability because Ive stretched my
experience level between everyone in between because Ive done those strange things
and put myself in those positions purposely, compared to a guy whos been sitting on his
computer talking about girls and you put him in the middle of a Playboy Mansion party,
he's going to be dripping out.
[Angel Donovan]: So when it comes to girls, do you think guys should especially the
younger guys, say, under 25s who dont have that much experience of women, do you
think because a lot of them may start out with this idea of what an ideal girl is and
theyve kind of got that vision in their head, and those are the kinds of girls theyre
always going for. Would you suggest that they try and break out of that? Is that a good
thing or?
[Hypnotica]: No, I believe going for the gusto, always going for what you want, it may
not have the best ratio, but once you understand that to a degree, it is a numbers game,
and you keep going, that's going to help you out a lot. And I think the big thing is that
guys take this out of context, is they think to themselves, Oh, I really want this girl,
but they havent done shit to self-improve themselves.
[Hypnotica]: And like I said, one of the questions I always ask is, Would you date
you? And youd be amazed, I mean I just did a seminar up in LA last week and I asked
that question, and like five guys raised their hands out of like 50. I said, Guys, this is
the big problem here, because like if you dont want to date you, why would you think
anyone else would? That's huge. So all these guys are thinking, Well, Im not going to
improve myself, but I want this girl whos a 10. It doesnt work that way at all. So I
think the big process that guys have got to go through is that they need to bring
something to the table. They need to bring a good attitude. They need to bring a good
energy. They need to bring something that's useful. So when these guys are just starting
out, theyre going to get blown out of the water big time.
[Hypnotica]: And I always say the ratio, and a lot of guys say, Oh, out of 10 girls you
should be hooking up with like 3 of them, that's a bullshit ratio.
[Hypnotica]: The real ratio is about 1 out of 10 girls maybe will appreciate you going
up to them. That's kind of the more realistic ratio for most guys. And even me, because
you never know. You walk up to a girl, shes married. You walk up to a girl, shes got a
boyfriend. You walk up to a girl, shes in a bad mood. You walk up to a girl, shes deaf.
Whatever. It doesnt matter. So 1 out of 10 is going to even appreciate you, and so
youve got to get good with that ratio.
And I told the guys, like, Look, if you knew that a treasure was, let's just say, 10 feet or
15 feet below the surface, but you had to dig through rock, you had to dig through
gravel, you had to dig through all this stuff to get there, would you dig? And they all
go, Yeah. And I go, Its the same with women. Now, if you knew underneath that
treasure there's another treasure 10 to 15 feet down, would you keep digging? Yeah,
absolutely. I go, Good. So how far would you dig in order to get as much as treasure
as you wanted?
And that's the whole process. Whereas a lot of these guys wont even approach one,
they approach three girls and theyre like, Wow, I was blown out of the water. Big
deal. Shit happens. Life moves on. They wont remember who you are 15 minutes from
now. Keep going.
And you figure if 1 one out of I dont care if its 1 out of 20 girls. Let's say you
approach 40 girls a night and youre successful one time, well, if you do that every
night in the course of a week, that's seven girls. Seven girls times four weeks is 28 girls.
That's 28 girls that youre hanging out with.
My vision of success is being able to hang out with who you want, when you want,
however you want, at any point in time. Like I always say, the lion likes to be fed, and
the lion will eat whenever he wants. The lion doesnt go, Okay, Im hungry now. Im
going to go out there and find something. The lion has food theyre waiting, and that's
kind of how I like to think about it.
Go and build that up for yourself. You could set the relationship boundaries and criteria
right from the beginning. You say, Hey, Im looking for a woman whos bisexual in
nature. Are you bisexual? No. Okay, cool. Then you carry on a normal
conversation. Once you have that all set up, then you create the life you want. When
you create the life you want, you get to live the life you want how you want it, when
you want, and do those things, and that in itself builds a certain comfort.
Like my own personal I know you talked about the marriage thing earlier, you asked
me a question, but my own personal comfort zone is I like two women that I have a
relationship with, and that's normal. Like I live with my wife and right across the street
in my other house is the woman that I see also, that Im hanging out with at the same
time. That's my own comfort zone. Any more than that, I start losing track of time, I
start getting a little mixed up on my managing stuff. And Ive gone up to, like I said, at
one point, 16 women that I was hanging out with, you know, 16 women that I was
messing with at any one point in time. But I was way out of balance. This is my own
personal balance, like this is what makes me feel nice and content, calm, anytime I
want.
And I could still go out there and go meet women if I want. That's my own choice
because I set that up from the beginning. But that's where the comfort zone is. That's
where contentment lies. And when you have that understanding of who you are, what
you want, how you want it, and you stay strong with that, its like your little kingdom.
Theyre welcome to come, theyre welcome to go. Once you have that, you have that
contentment and you know who you are, what you want, and then its just a matter of
being like an archaeologist and going out and finding the treasure and being okay with,
Okay, this one wasnt into it, and things of that nature.
Another thing I think a lot of guys make the mistake of is rating a woman on a scale of
1 to 10. So theyre going, Oh, shes a 10. I like to this is another thing I introduced,
is I like to do a double scale where I go, Okay, whats the combined rate of 20? Let's
just say that looks is a scale of 1 to 10. And I dont even like scaling this, but it helps
guys understand.
[Hypnotica]: Scale of 1 to 10, where is she on the scale? Okay, so shes a 10. Whats
her personality like? Well, it could be a 5. Youre not going to know that unless you go
find out. So I always say Im not going to be interested in bringing any type of woman
into my life that's not at least a 15, a combined effort of both of the numbers together.
So I said instead of that, instead of blowing yourself out of the water and saying shes a
10, why dont you find out what her total number is and then go from there?
[Hypnotica]: So shes a 10 but shes got a 2 personality, 12. I just go, Oh, 12, and
walk away. What does that mean? Oh, it just means I have this way of structuring. Your
looks were a 10, your personality was a 2. Not interested. It flips the balance a little bit
back onto the woman when you can say that. Not meanly, just very nonchalantly. And
you know what you want, go get it, and everything else is great.
[Angel Donovan]: Totally. Because when you were talking about the numbers game a
second ago, I was thinking about there's a lot of guys out there who, you know, theyll
go to a club and theyll approach three girls and then theyll give up for the night, and
often their excuse is that there's not enough hot girls in the club. So what would you say
about that? Is it because like this better approach of personality rating combined with
looks or is it something that's the wrong way of thinking about it? What do you think
about that?
[Hypnotica]: Well, its definitely the wrong way of thinking about it because of the fact
that there's a certain warm-up phase.
[Hypnotica]: So if youre just going there, you can utilize any of the girls that are there
just to strike up a normal conversation to get your conversation flow going. Like I said,
a lot of guys are so focused on the goal of getting laid that they miss everything else in
between that's fun. When they go into that situation, you know, there are like all these
girls. But that could be helping them with their end game. So by the time that they see a
girl that theyre like, Wow, that girls really great, theyre already warmed up. The
juices are really flowing. Theyre fluid. Theyve kind of got their humor going. Theyve
got all the tension of the week and the day and the stresses gone, so they dont look at it
that way. And if they did look at it that way where theyre going up there and theyre
talking to women, just kind of warming up and using that as a warm-up phase for that
platform so when that woman that they do find is great, theyre already warmed up,
ready to go. So yeah, absolutely, they think about it wrong.
[Angel Donovan]: And another thing you were just saying was about balance, and right
now for you there are two women in your life and that's just about the right balance. I
can relate to that because over different parts of my life Ive had different balances. I
think the highest I ever felt comfortable with was about three, and right now I feel
comfortable with one. So it can change over life. Do you think there are different times
in your life when there is this different balance? So, say, if youre 20 years old, the type
of balance that maybe is good for experience gaining. And for that time of to get kind of
a dating life that you can be content with in the long run, maybe you have to gain more
experience in the short run like a lot of people talk about, right?
[Hypnotica]: Yeah, I mean, in every phase of a persons life youve got different things
going on. You have testosterone at one level spiking so youre going to be a lot hornier.
And I look at a lot of guys that are just like, Oh, Ive never really gone out. Well, you
need to get out to find out what you want because all the women that Ive been with in
my life I learned a little bit. I learned what I like, what I dont like
[Hypnotica]: who I want to hang out with, who I dont want to hang out with. If
youre so blinded by just getting sex because youre like, Oh, Im getting sex, but
youre missing all the fundamentals down like personality and the way that you guys
interact together in the conversation and the mutual interest, if youre just blinded by
that, youre going to get sucked in. So the more experience you get the better, because
you should really fine-tune what it is you want.
And I think the balance point for everyone is going to be different. Like I said, my
personal thing is two. I feel content with that. I know after reading some of David
Deidas stuff I understood when he said, You know, the more masculine you are, the
more feminine presence you need to balance you out.
[Hypnotica]: And Ive kind of felt that a little bit true with myself. If I feel one, I feel
like I just feel a little off. Two is perfect. Im like content. Im like, everythings good,
focused on enjoying the work that I do more and things of that nature.
And I dont know, this is something I was kind of on one of, let's just stay, one of my
spiritual journeys out in the woods, and it kind of made sense to me. I looked down and
I said, Man, like God is pretty funny the way he puts things together. I mean, its right
here in focus for you, its kind of the elusive obvious. I looked down, you know, I was
naked and I looked down, and Im like, Hey, you have one dick and two balls, okay?
The mans the dick, the women are the balls. Nature said it itself, one on each side and
youre in the middle. I was like, That makes sense to me. So that was my own
personal revelation. Dont know if its true or not, but it made sense to me.
So yeah, every persons going to have their own balance point. And without finding out
what that balance point is, theyre going to be probably in a world of hurt as far as that
goes, as far as like finding that, because if they find one and theyre like, Oh, youre
the only one, but maybe they secretly think that they need two.
[Hypnotica]: Yeah.
[Angel Donovan]: Because a typical guy in todays age probably gets married but he
has affairs or he's got a girlfriend and sometimes he cheats on her, right?
[Hypnotica]: Oh yeah.
[Angel Donovan]: That's a pretty typical model that goes on. So maybe those guys are
still guessing.
[Hypnotica]: I mean, Ive seen that firsthand. I mean, when I ran strip clubs, like I said,
and with a stripper for 18 years, so I saw that firsthand how all those guys who say they
are happy with their wives, would come in there, like let loose, like, Oh. So it was
very apparent to me whats really going on with guys on that level. And absolutely, its
taken me almost, like I said, almost 37 years to come to that point where I found out
where my perfect balance point is, and it took a lot of struggle and a lot of refining that
situation because, you know, Id be with a girl and Id say, Well, I like being with other
women.
But then you define it more because all of a sudden its like, well, how do you say. You
get more of what you want being with a third? Maybe I wasnt really content with just
having one and going out and having sex with her, that that didnt fulfill me. What
really fulfilled me was kind of hanging out with two which I have a relationship with or
that I can feel comfortable with on that level. So youre always learning.
And then you have to redefine it with the women, which is not really all that fair to
them because theyre thinking in their mind, Okay, can I handle this? See, I can handle
this. But then they go, Okay, now can I handle it with a girl that maybe he will sleep
over at her house or maybe that they will hold each others hands? That's another level.
So that was another level that you have to reeducate, or reeducate not only yourself but
the person youre with. And they might not even be cool with it, so youre like, Look,
youre not really denying them. You can always walk away from them because in life
you can do that. Its a matter of can you walk away from yourself? And you have to be
true to yourself and say, Okay, well, this is what it is that I find that ultimate
contentment.
So youre going to get put in situations where there's going to be conflict, but that's the
whole process. When you get to the point when youre completely content, you know
what works, what youre looking for, its not always the easiest path to get, but if it was
everyone would go and get there.
[Hypnotica]: I saw David DeAngelo in his other seminar, he said something that made
a lot of sense to me. He said, You know, success is counterintuitive. He said, Its
easy to eat that crap in front of you, its harder to prepare a good meal. Its easy to spend
that money right that you have, its harder to save. Its easy to just say, Hey, this is what
I want in a relationship, instead of creating the perfect environment that you want. Its
going to be hard, but that's when its going to be worth it as well.
[Hypnotica]: Oh yeah.
[Angel Donovan]: If you want to really, you know, get a lot out of this and get the most
out of this, is there going to be a lot of pain along the way, and if the answer is yes, how
do you deal with it? How do you get over that? Because, you know, I think a lot of the
guys, they want to avoid the pain, and that's kind of a big part of learning this stuff.
[Hypnotica]: Well, if youre going to go to where youve got to go, youre going to feel
it. And I dont really consider it pain, I consider it more heartache. Because if you do get
in with someone and you do enjoy their presence and you have a great time together but
youre missing a little aspect, youre going to feel it, because shes going to say, You
know what, I want something different.
You know, there have been nine women, or actually 10 now, that have said, Hey, I love
you too, and the earlier, the ones that were earlier, I was still kind of defining what
made me tick. And a lot of those girls were like, Eric, you know I love you. I wish we
could be together but I cant handle the situation. So you know what, theyre going to
go and theyre going to find something that they want and anytime that happens youre
going to feel the sting. Youre going to feel that heartache and that pain.
[Hypnotica]: And like I said, its more like that vulnerability feel. It softens you. Now,
you could do one of two things. You can soften, open up and become more open and
more sensitive and more aware, or you can harden up, which a lot of guys do. That's
why you get these guys that are like, Fuck you bitch, shit like that. It doesnt work
that way.
So youre going to feel it. So just get used to it. Its a part of life. Death is going to come
and youre going to feel it. So, love, people in life, its a part of life. You cant say
everything is always going to feel good, but when you can really understand that its not
hardening you, its softening you, and be okay with it and open and be good enough to
take that pain and to feel it, the more real youre going to be because youre not running
away from feeling. Youre man enough to stand up and say, Okay, here it comes,
boom! Im going to feel the waves. And the waves are going to come through and
youre going to feel it, and then you learn from it. So just get used to it, man.
[Angel Donovan]: There was something I read in Metawhore which I was interested in
that you wrote, was that you said that whenever you cheated on a girl or you slept with
someone when you were in a relationship with someone, and you can requote me if I get
this wrong, you said the magic would go from the relationship.
[Hypnotica]: Yeah.
[Angel Donovan]: Yeah, I want to just verify that that's exactly kind of what you meant
and explain what is that about.
[Hypnotica]: So when that happened I just instantly know I mean, the relationship
can still be good, but its kind of like that magic is gone, unless, Ive found, that the
woman is absolutely appreciative of that and can consider that and absolutely fully
believe in you with that. Then the magic stays because its a part of that picture. Once
you step out of that initial frame of what that or what you had in a relationship, that's
when you lose it. But if you expand it with someone who can appreciate you for that,
then it can grow. Its a small distinction that most people dont really ever figure out, but
that's what I meant by that.
[Angel Donovan]: That's great. Thanks for clarifying that. Now, this has been a great
interview, weve covered a lot of topics, and I just want to thank you for putting the
time aside for this.
[Hypnotica]: Cool. I want to thank you for putting that stuff out because I know there's
a lot of bullshit stuff out there. Actually, a client came to me the other day who went to
your website and said, Hey, I was just looking at your reviews on The Collection of
Confidence and you had good reviews, and so I wanted to get in contact with you. And
I know there are a lot of products out there that arent very good. I know your buddy
didnt like certain aspects of that one product we did, and I understand.
[Hypnotica]: I understand exactly where he's coming from on that. So its one of those
things. Some products are better than others and that's the way it goes, especially in this
time and place right now because there are so many guys that are just rehashing
information. That's what always kind of bugged me, is a lot of these guys cant do the
results, and they just put the books out there and then they expect guys to get advice
from them, and its just bad advice, and it is what it is, I guess.
[Angel Donovan]: Well, like you said, its all about the experience, right?
[Hypnotica]: Absolutely, and there will still be lots more to go. On that note, let me add
something about the experience real quick.
[Hypnotica]: Its, its always going to be different. What Ive found is, when I was 20,
the experience was a lot different going out to the clubs. Now that Im 40, I also notice
the experience is different at the clubs. I actually had one girl say, No, youre too old
for me. Like that was new. I wasnt expecting that. So its a new way of things. So
everythings going to adjust.
I look at the guys now that are like 65 and 70. I dont look to the game guys anymore. I
look to the older guys that are still pretty good with women. Im asking them questions
because, you know what, I know that Im going to get there. The guys that are younger
should be looking towards what Im learning right now because of the fact that, guess
what, theyre going to get there as well.
And so its always a progression, and the game is going to change. The older you get,
maybe youre losing your hair, there are going to be certain frames that you have to
think about differently. And so just be prepared for the evolution of the game because
youre going to have to evolve in one way or the other and become more flexible. If you
dont, youre going to get sucked into the black hole of not knowing where the hell you
are. So its just a little aspect to be prepared for, is be ready because the game does
change.
[Angel Donovan]: Which is never a reason to not get into kind of the mindset where
youve got to a point in your life and now youre going to make everything stable, right,
and stop learning and getting out your comfort zone, stop doing new things, because the
truth is that life keeps changing and youve got to stay on top of it.
[Hypnotica]: You have to stay on top of it or youre just going to be fine with the
traditional white picket fence thing where life just goes by and you take it. And
nothings wrong with that, but youre going to lose the new social dynamics that are
going on, like the things with Twitter, Facebook. You know, there are all these new
avenues of learning and meeting people, so if you fall out of the game, you dont stay
on top of it, pretty soon, if it gets to the point where, say, you get a divorce, you dont
even know where to start. So you keep your saw sharp because of the fact that's going to
keep you ready for anything.
I mean, that's why I say, you know, this whole idea of meeting women is extremely I
think its one of the best ways to self-improve because of the fact its you in a dynamic
and its you face-to-face with who you really are. If you cant really run from yourself,
youre cant lie to yourself or the guy in the mirror, youre going to get confronted with
your biggest, deepest fears, so its the perfect platform for personal progress and
development. And I think a lot of guys miss that. They think its just about going out
there and getting laid. No, this is a great avenue and a great platform to really find self-
expression and really find self-esteem, really find out who you are, and to fix it and to
adjust it in such a way that you feel that perfect balance with yourself.
[Angel Donovan]: I totally agree with you on this point. And as youve probably seen
as I have, that a lot of the best guys at this have moved on to much better things
afterwards in other avenues of their life as well, so they definitely took a lot that they
learned from this whole process of learning about women and getting better with them
and communication skills and so on, and it just pushed them on to apply that to other
areas whether its business or whether its other hobbies or whatever they wanted to do
in life.
[Hypnotica]: There's just lots of good stuff that's on there. There are free trances for
confidence. Theres a lot of free stuff for guys that are at any level. So if they have that,
feel free to pop over there and check it out, because of the fact that Im in this for the
long haul and I want to make sure that guys can follow that path that I have so they can
do it a lot faster than I did and learn a lot faster than I did. So I just wanted to throw that
in there as well. Hypnotica, which is H-Y-P-N-O-T-I-C-A, dot org.
[Angel Donovan]: Yeah. Alright, great. Thanks for that, man. Been great having you
on. Thank you very much.
[Hypnotica]: Goodbye.
Steve Piccus and Hypnotica!
Now for those of you who read The Game, you may recognize them as Steve P. and Rasputin.
Steve Piccus was famous for hypnotizing women and having them PAY him for the priveledge of
giving him blowjobs. Hypnotica (aka Rasputin) is Steve P.'s partner in crime, and also runs a
major strip club in the San Diego area.
This was a real treat because these guys don't usually work with anyone because their
knowledge is so powerful, and they take clients by referral only. They are the inner game
specialists who have worked with all the gurus. So to have them show up to help Neil out was
great.
Just some more quick background... Steve Piccus is widely regarded as the "godfather" of the
seduction community. It's the concepts he pioneered that laid the groundwork for a great deal
of material out there, including Speed Seduction and Double Your Dating (both Steve P. and
Hypnotica are regular speakers at David DeAngelo seminars).
The famous Rick H learned everything he knows about bedding bisexual women from Steve
Piccus.
But the most amazing thing this dynamic duo is known for is personal change work. And that's
what they were there to talk about the final day.
The topics Steve P. and Hypnotica covered ranged from personal change to sexual mastery. One
of the coolest exercises they did was teach the guys how to have amazing self-confidence.
Hypnotica picked on Rourke a bit about this, and demonstrated the technique on him. It was a
small anchoring exercise where Hypnotica had Rourke imagine a line running from behind him
to in front of him. On the line behind him, was pain. On the line in
front of him was supreme confidence.
Hypnotica had Rourke take a step back and asked him how it felt. Then another step back. And
another. Rourke was not feeling very good by this point. Then Hypnotica had him step forward.
And as he stepped forward, he started feeling better.
Eventually, he got all the way to the front of the line to feel that supreme confidence he always
wanted. The exercise really seemed to change him.
Hypnotica also went on to talk about how to find your center, and how it's important to have a
strong center in your mind, body, and soul. The center is the part of you that controls your
energy, and if you don't have it, your energy is all over the place.
Hypnotica has a really cool philosophy about how men need to embrace the feminine energy
within them, just as women need to embrace their male energy. It's about yin and yang,
balance.
Steve Piccus also talked about some really cool things, which I'm not going to go into in this
report because they simply have to be seen to be believed, and if you just simply read about
them you'd think I'm making them up. But needless to say, there was some hard-core change
work going on.
Hypnotica (aka Eric Von Sydow) explains the meaning of cross-
contextualization. In layman's terms, its basically the application of multiple
exercises, triggering multiple senses, to achieve a desired mood.
For example, how many times have you played upbeat music while driving to
the club or party? Thats just using sound, which you know puts you in an
upbeat mood, to apply the appropriate mindset in advance.
Hypnotica takes it a step further and describes the visual applications he uses,
such as provocative art and images. He doesnt mention examples that address
the sense of taste, touch or smell, but that doesnt mean there arent methods. It
just means its up to you to experiment.
This is something I recommend for those of all skill levels. Veterans with higher
self-awareness may be quicker to notice the effects. Beginners may have a little
more difficulty, yet require every bit of effort to solidify a positive attitude prior to
entering a social environment.
I want my confidence to develop and grow. I am committed to putting in the time and the
effort to doing the exercises.
My Future is waiting....
STEP 1
1) In the Positve
2)Present Tense
3)Detailed
4)Re-Write your goals, re-phrase, change
I have confidence. I am bold. I am able to express my self to others. My message comes across
clear and strong. I am a real man. I lead other men. I tell cool and interesting stories. I make
people laugh and enjoy themselves around me. I get aroused on q and have wild passionate
sex with my girlfriend on demand. I have a group of friends that I trust, respect and have a hoot
with. I have friends in return to respect, trust, and have my back. I have frame Control.
I am the man who has a powerful presence and can carry on intriguing conversations with
women and men. My body posture exudes confidence and my non verbal communication
demonstrates that I am 100% aligned with powerful person I am. I have an opinion that
matters and people take me seriously. I respect others in the same way that they respect me. I
bring joy and laughter into peoples lives and in return they do the same for me.
I have confidence of being the master of my own reality, and I treat everyone else as a lucky
guest in it. I embody this trait in a charming, humorous, and congruent way.
Step 2.
Demystify Rejection
-There is no such thing as rejection. There is only the way people re-act to others. They only
real perception of rejection takes place in your own mind.
-Men who are afraid to make mistakes lack BOLDNESS. Success is build on failure.
Simple Exercise
Step 1 - 20 women in 30 Min - When you see a women you want to approach, slow down your
thought process and notice what is going on in your head. Write them down. Take 15min break
and clear your mind.
Step 2 - Try again but this time Re-frame any negative thoughts.
Step 3 - Try again but this time Think of something OUTRAGES (example as you approach her
she rips off her shirt and jumps on you screaming you are the hottest piece of ass she has ever
seen)
He saw
a high official getting much respect,
and wished to be like him.
Suddenly, he became him.
He saw
the hot sun making him sweat,
and wished to be like it,
Suddenly, he became it.
He saw
a dark cloud blocking his light,
and wished to be like it.
Suddenly, he became it.
He saw
a strong wind blowing him aside,
and wished to be like it.
Suddenly, he became it.
He saw
a huge mountain blocking his might,
and wished to be like it.
Suddenly, he became it.
He saw
a small stone-cutter chipping his body,
and wished to be like him.
Suddenly, he became him (again).
Notes: The retold story of the stone-cutter reminds us of the interdependent cycle of
worth, of how even the humblest can be the most powerful. The stone-cutter was not
truly weak, but weak only from his discontent, from wanting to satisfy his craving for
power. Whatever our station in life is, we are like the stone-cutter. How about re-writing
the story with you in it, to see how you are already powerful enough in your own right?
True power, however, is from having and using great and selfless compassion and
wisdom, not from any egoistic self-serving power.
Buddhism speaks of the worldly Five Desires, for wealth, sex, fame (status and power),
food and sleep. With wealth, it is not difficult to satisfy the other four desires. These
Five Desires all fall short of the noblest desire for Enlightenment, based on
Bodhicitta, the aspiration to guide one and all to it. All other non-spiritual desires are
cyclical, ultimately pointless.
Benjamin Hoffs retelling of the classic Chinese story in The Tao Of Pooh:
There was once a stonecutter who was dissatisfied with himself and with his position in
life. One day, he passed a wealthy merchants house and through the open gateway saw
many fine possessions and important visitors.
How powerful that merchant must be! thought the stonecutter. He became very
envious, and wished that he could be like the merchant. Then he would no longer have
to live the life of a mere stonecutter.
To his great surprise, he suddenly became the merchant, enjoying more luxuries and
power than he had ever dreamed of, envied and detested by those less wealthy than
himself. But soon a high official passed by, carried in a sedan chair, accompanied by
attendants, and escorted by soldiers beating gongs. Everyone, no matter how wealthy,
had to bow low before the procession.
How powerful that official is! he thought. I wish that I could be a high
official! Then he became the high official, carried everywhere in his embroidered
sedan chair, feared and hated by the people all around, who had to bow down before
him as he passed. It was a hot summer day, and the official felt very uncomfortable in
the sticky sedan chair. He looked up at the sun. It shone proudly in the sky, unaffected
by his presence.
How powerful the sun is! he thought. I wish that I could be the sun! Then he
became the sun, shining fiercely down on everyone, scorching the fields, cursed by the
farmers and labourers. But a huge black cloud moved between him and the earth, so that
his light could no longer shine on everything below.
How powerful that storm cloud is! he thought. I wish that I could be a cloud! Then
he became the cloud, flooding the fields and villages, shouted at by everyone. But soon
he found that he was being pushed away by some great force, and realized that it was
the wind.
How powerful it is! he thought. I wish that I could be the wind! Then he became the
wind, blowing tiles off the roofs of houses, uprooting trees, hated and feared by all
below him. But after a while, he ran up against something that would not move, no
matter how forcefully he blew against it a huge, towering stone.
How powerful that stone is! he thought. I wish that I could be a stone! Then he
became the stone, more powerful than anything else on earth. But as he stood there, he
heard the sound of a hammer pounding a chisel into the solid rock and felt himself
being changed. What could be more powerful than I, the stone? he thought. He
looked down and saw far below him the figure of a stonecutter.
The Stonecutter
Afformations vs Affirmations
I recently ran across something online called Afformations. Its like an affirmation,
but its used in question form.
Example: Why am I so attractive to women?
By asking yourself a question of this nature, youre supposed to reach a logical
conclusion subconsciously. But if youre not attractive to women, and the mere sight of
you repulses them with such disgust that they run away from you screaming, like Lisa
Turtle running away from Screech (yeah, I watched it too! ), then you wont be able
to reach a logical conclusion. Your ku will come back with youre not! But you can
be!
Now if you start asking your ku how you can become successful, hell respond with
things to do to kick your butt in to gear so that youre not going home with Pamela
Handerson every night.
Once you start reaching plateaus of what you consider success, then you can start asking
yourself these questions.
If youre 510 and weigh 300 pounds and ask yourself Why am I so physically fit?
when youre incredibly fat and out of shape, your ku will tell you that youre not and to
quit dreaming. If it does come back positive, youre only deluding yourself.
Then again, sometimes its good to have positive delusions about ourselves! I think
Gene Simmons said something like that once.
The key to affirmations becoming a success arent the speed at which they work. Its
how effective they work once you get both sides of your mind (conscious and
subconscious) believing that its true. If you are subconsciously trying to get your
conscious self to believe something that isnt true at the moment, but you want to be
true, your subconscious will keep believing it until you consciously believe and/or
recognize this as fact. Same works in reverse. You can believe something consciously
and hammer your subconscious with it until it submits and begins to believe it as fact
too.
Then, when you use the affirmation Im a fucking pussy magnet! youll get this rush
of endorphins thatll validate your belief. When you use the afformation Why am I
such a pussy magnet? your ku will give you examples of your own successes to
confirm what you think to be true, is in fact, the truth.
OG
Anxiety
When dealing with the PUA community, the most common problem these guys send me
is what they call Approach Anxiety.
Its bullshit. Approach Anxiety, that is. Look at it like this. Can you go up to your boss
and say Hi. How are you? Do you get all nervous and feel those butterflies fluttering
in and out of your stomach when you do that? No? Now what if your boss was a
smoking hot 30 year old woman. Purely from a physical attraction standpoint, would
you still get nervous saying hello to her? No? Then why does some woman in a bar
inflict so much fear in to you? Why does she get you all jumbled up internally so that
you turn yourself in to a blundering idiot?
Its how society has made it and Im here to put the middle finger high up in the air and
tell society to go fuck itself.
Heres a very simple, yet incredibly powerful, technique that I developed in 2007, oddly
enough, to get over a bit of stage fright before doing karaoke.
Close your eyes and recall a time where you felt like you were on top of the world! It
doesnt matter if it was five days ago, or five years ago. Weve all had this feeling.
Once you have it, slowly take in a deep breath, say FUCK IT (you can say it inside
your head), and blow it all out like a puff of smoke. Notice how you immediately feel
better. All that negative energy is gone and youre riding this natural high that cant be
matched by any drug!
What happened is that you took this great feeling, this feeling of being the Emperor of
the World and anchored it to taking a deep breath. A second anchor was set as well.
And if youre not sure what I mean by anchors, Ill get to that in a bit. That second
anchor is removing this negative energy from your mind, body, and soul by blowing out
quickly like youre expelling smoke from your lungs.
ANCHORS
Stimuli that will consistently produce the same internal data in an individual. Robert
Dilts.
I love using the act of breathing to set anchors for myself. I have about six or seven
different things Ive anchored to deep breathing and exhaling. Why? Rubbing the back
of your head might seem a bit odd, or even thumbing your chin might get people going
huh? But breathing? Its only natural to take a deep breath from time to time. Its
hiding in plain sight and nobody will know any better.
There are a myriad of ways to get over this. Ill post some more on energy control later
on thatll put you on your ass. Just know that this is something that you have complete
control over. Its not out of your hands. How can it be out of your hands when its
plastered inside your head? Start looking around see what else is up there. Feel free to
comment and ask questions here, or send them to OGTrance@Gmail.com. Ill answer
any and all questions as soon as I can.
Just to give you a heads up, Ill posting something here shortly about what to do with
that nagging little voice that tells you youre not good enough. Youd be surprised at
how easy it is to shut that guy up.
OG
Finding Your Power Animal
Power animals, animal totems, spirit guides. There are other names for this but these
are three most commonly used terms Ive found in my research.
These animals can be very beneficial to you on your journey towards enlightenment.
My particular animals are the white rabbit (snow hare?) and (king) cobra. Ive known
for a while that Ive had some sort of connection to the cobra, but Im still not sure what
it is. Im researching what it means but all I can seem to find is the snake (generic).
What I find is that the snake is the symbol of change, enlightenment, death/rebirth (skin
shedding), transformation, and a whole other host of qualities. Various cultures attach
different associations with it. Some positive. Some negative. Regardless, Snake can
teach you many things about yourself. Rabbit, on the other hand, symbolizes living by
ones own wits, and moving through fear, amongst many other traits.
It wasnt until I went to the School of Steve P that I realized that I also had the rabbit as
a power animal. Rabbits have always had a presence in my life, whether as a pet as a
child (Happy Easter! =D), a lucky rabbits foot, or see them running through my yard.
I just never knew the association. While in a deep trance state heavily influenced by a
shamanic drummer, Hypnotica asked us to find our animal. I knew exactly what he
meant as I had done some research on this previously. Next thing I know I see a large
white rabbit. Sitting there. As the trance progressed I could feel myself going deeper. I
dont know why, but I began channelling the energy of Snake. I became Snake. More
specifically, I became Cobra. I was rocking in motion like a king cobra being
charmed by the flute. As the drumming picked up the experience was greatly
intensified! Next thing I know I see myself as Cobra and Im eating Rabbit!
What that told me is that both Snake and Rabbit are important to me. With Rabbit, I am
cunning, swift, and capable of making it on my own. With Snake, I am powerful,
intelligent, spiritual, and constantly changing/evolving. As Snake, when I ate Rabbit,
that told me that Im the source of everything that is me. I am the source of my energy.
I am the source of everything needed for me to survive in this lifetime.
The first time I found that Snake was a power animal, I had gone in to a trance designed
specifically for this purpose. While I cannot remember the original method of going in
to this trance, I have devised something that will work wonderfully!
NOTE: Before you do this, if you feel you cannot commit this to memory, you can
either record this or have a friend do this with you. However you choose to do this will
work just fine.
Now, as youre getting comfortable, I want you to imagine yourself walking through the
forest. You come across a hole in the ground. It doesnt seem to have an ending. You
jump in to it and find that youre gently gliding down. Every twenty-five feet you see a
sign that says HYPNOSIS. As you pass each sign you find that your thoughts begin to
slow and quiet down, while your body becomes more and more relaxed. When you feel
youve gone deep enough down this hole (and youll know when you have), you find
that you land gently upon your feet.
Youre now standing in a cave. Theres a torch just up ahead. As you lift the torch, you
find that you become more relaxed. More tranquil. As you begin walking through the
cave, you come across another torch hanging on the wall of the cave. Your torch is
extinguished, sending you deeper state of relaxation. Picking up the new torch, you go
deeper in to this cave. After a little while longer, you come across a new torch hanging
on the wall of the cave. Your torch, once again, extinguishes on its own, sending you
deeper in to a state of relaxation. As you take this torch, you continue walking through
the cave. You reach a waterfall at the end of the corridor.
You walk up to it but you do not feel water splashing you. You stick your free hand in
to the fall. You discover that its not water, but rather pure, positive energy. You step in
to it, allowing it to cover you. You breathe it in and feel your confidence rising. As you
step away from the cascade of positive energy, you discover youre walking through a
small stream of this energy. Looking down, you notice some minnows. Do one of these
stand out? Does anything here catch your eye? If not, it is OK. As you lift your head,
you see a beautiful pasture of the thickest, most luxurious grass before you. You step
upon the grass, feeling very comfortable. Very confident. As you continue your way
through this meadow, you come a chair that looks as if it were made especially for you.
You sit down upon this magical chair, feeling its powerful energy becoming one with
you.
Looking up, you notice an enchanted forest up ahead. As you approach, you see your
power animal. What do you see? Move in closer. Whats it doing? Now that youre
close to it, can you touch it? What happens?
As you move through the meadow, and back in to the stream, you make your way back
in to the cave where a fresh torch is waiting for you. As you grab the torch, and lift it
up, you feel yourself starting to slowly wake back up. Traveling back through the
corridor, as you pass torches hanging on the wall, you find yourself coming back a little
bit more. As you reach the spot you had landed at, after gliding down through the hole,
you find yourself floating back up. You see signs every twenty-five feet that now read
AWAKEN NOW. Seeing these signs, you begin to slowly open your eyes and come
back to the world around you.
Now that your eyes are open, and have discovered your power animal, you can do this
again and again. You can return to this area at will. When you meditate, you can call
upon your power animal to guide you on your journey.
I would strongly recommend learning about this animal; or insect for that matter. Some
people have the spider, or a cricket, as a totem. Research on what lessons they can
teach you. Search what you can learn from its medicine. What are its traits and how
do they relate to you? How can you integrate your power animal in to your life?
Becoming familiar with your totems, and learning about their lessons, medicine, and
magic can greatly improve your life and lifestyle!
OG
Got Something on Your Mind?
There is an ancient Huna technique for talking to yourself to get information you need.
This is something I do quite often. Yeah, I should probably be examined for
schizophrenia! =)
The Ku is the problem solver. He knows things about you. He knows every little detail
about your life in the past and present. That is why the ku is similar to the subconscious
mind. Even if you dont know it, your subconscious is always on and always recording.
Same with your ku. He might have a different personality than you. Oftentimes he
does. I dont know why or how, but with the people Ive taught this exercise to, or
talked to their ku for their own therapeutical reasons before dropping them down in to
trance, the ku always seems to be different than their conscious self.
The first step in communicating with your ku is to give it a name. Whats the first one
that pops in to your mind? Mine happened to like the name Ku. Im OG and hes Ku.
It works for us. If you cant think of a name, ask him what he wants to be called.
For first-timers (and most of you are), the second step is to close your eyes and take in a
slow deep breath, and then exhale. Its for relaxation purposes only. It helps to think
more clearly if youre in a nice state of relaxation. Once you begin to talk to him more
often, youll be able to do this while doing anything with your eyes open. Just dont
talk out loud if youre doing this in public. Id hate to have you picked up and taken to
the mental ward! =)
Now talk to him. Get to know him. If you two butt heads, oh well. Youre stuck with
him! =)
First ask him to retrieve his favorite memories. Whether it be childhood, adolescence,
or adulthood. You might be surprised with what he considers to be his favorite
memories. They just might be some of your favorite memories too.
Next have him bring out his least favorite memories. Some of these may be painful.
The key here is to not be afraid and let it happen. You can always change these
memories in to something more pleasant later on. But thats for a different blog.
Ive had some rather interesting experiences talking to Ku. Hes shown me things I
have long forgotten about, and given me answers to problems that have been plaguing
me. For example, back in 2007 I was dating this very beautiful six-foot tall redhead.
She was amazing! After two weeks of dating, however, I started to get paranoid and
thought she was playing me. I had no logical reason to. A few months after we broke
up, I was sitting at my computer trying to figure out why I was so fucked up over this
break up. Ku came to me (I didnt even know he existed as this point) and told me that
I have a tendency to get paranoid about shit once I make things official with a girl. I
was not being played by her, nor was I playing her. Back then I was a one woman man.
Hell, I thought I was talking with God at that time. Then, after I learned this technique,
Ku told me it was him, and not the Creator, that had intervened and answered my
problem. Hes been there forever. I have had several other times in my life, always
under an extreme amount of emotional stress, where Ku had simply come forward and
slapped me around for cunting. Now that I know how to contact him at will, I do. If I
cant sleep, but can tell hes got something going on in there, Ill ask him whats going
on. Thats how I developed my last latest technique for giving women hypnotic
orgasms. Once that flood of information hit me, I was able to fall asleep. Now I just
use self-hypnosis to put myself to sleep.
Once you get more and more familiar with your ku, talk to him. Develop a relationship
with him. He can be a very valuable ally in your life. But he can also be a cock blocker
and fuck your shit up. The key is to find a balanced relationship with him and youll
see a myriad of improvements in your life once you two begin to work in harmony.
Keep me posted.
OG
Shut Up!!!
What were covering today is that nagging little voice in the back of your head that tells
you youre no good, or some other bullshit that prevents you from doing what it is you
want to accomplish.
Now the other day I told you how to get rid of those anxious feelings. Today the voice.
You combine the two of these and you get something POWERFUL!
Imagine a radio with the old analog knobs on it. I prefer a radio, but you can use a TV
or anything at all that has a volume knob on it. Youre listening to that bullshit voice
telling you youre not worthy, or whatever hes saying. Makes you feel like garbage.
Right? I hated him too! And then I came up with this!
Turn the volume down. Thats right. Imagine that volume knob is turning to the left,
decreasing the volume at which that voice speaks to you. Keep turning it until hes all
the way gone. Turn it a little bit more and click off the radio. Now, do the breathing
exercise from the Anxiety post and watch what happens! =)
Now that you have these two simple, yet effective, tools in your arsenal, dont you think
its time to put them to use in the Real World? If you believe that it can be done, then it
can.
Keep checking back here as you never know when Im going to be blogging and
coming up with more crazy shit!
OG
Confidence Exercise - Scrambling
Sit down in a comfortable chair, close your eyes and relax. This is a good exercise to do
at home the night before your big speech or presentation, but you can do it before you
leave your office to go to the venue, or even sitting on the loo ten minutes before you
have to get on your feet (you'll probably be there once the adrenalin starts to flow
through your body anyway, so you may as well put the time to good use!).
Think of a time when you spoke in public but you felt you didn't do a good job, or the
first time you ever felt nervous about speaking in public. See everything you saw then,
and hear everything you heard. Don't see the image through your own eyes, but as if
you were watching it on a TV or cinema screen (i.e. dissociated ). Don't get upset by it,
just watch it unfold like a movie.
Now sit up straight and put a big grin on your face. Run the movie backwards, but at
high speed like a Keystone Cops movie or the final scene in a Benny Hill show. Hear
the people speaking backwards, as if you were rewinding a tape. Watch people actually
swallow their words.
Now run it forward very fast, but change things. Give people silly voices. Give it a
Benny Hill soundtrack. Make it into a cartoon and give people huge Mickey Mouse
ears. If there is an individual in there who particularly upsets you, make him wear a tutu
or some other ridiculous outfit. If he has a big nose, exaggerate it so it is like an
elephant's trunk. If he has big ears, make them into Mickey Mouse's. Then run it
backwards again. Then forwards. Then backwards, all the time at high speed. The first
time you try this, do it at least a dozen times. Associate the Benny Hill music and the
cartoon with the situation.
Now how do you feel about the situation? If you have done it effectively, after a dozen
goes you will find it almost impossible to revisit those negative feelings.
How does this make you feel? The probability is that you are beginning to feel uncertain
and unconfident. Exaggerate this physiology for a moment. Really let those shoulders
droop. Hang your head and look at the floor. Let your upper body sag. Now while
holding that posture, I want you to shout out, 'I feel really, really positive!' as loud as
you can. Really try to feel positive as you do so.
What happened? Did you feel positive? I'll bet you didn't. Because it is impossible to
feel positive while you have negative physiology.
Now stand as if you were hopeful about being able to do the same thing. How would all
of the above change? You are probably standing straighter with better posture. Maybe
your chin is lifted a little, with a set to your jaw. Perhaps you are nodding your head as
if to say, 'Yes, I can do this.' How does that make you feel? Has it changed?
Finally, stand as if you were certain you could do it. What is your physiology like now?
Now you are ramrod straight like a soldier on parade. Your chest is puffed out. Perhaps
you are bouncing slightly on the balls of your feet like a boxer. Positive adrenalin is
beginning to course through your body. There is a determined set to your jaw, a steely
glint in your eye. A confident smile plays across your lips.
How do you feel now? I'd bet a hundred pounds to a penny you feel very positive and
confident. NOW, while holding this positive physiology, say ' I feel really, really
nervous' and try to sound as if you mean it. You can't, can you? It's IMPOSSIBLE to
feel nervous or depressed while you stand like this.
So the next time you feel nervous, you can alter it just by standing up straight, squaring
your shoulders, unfolding your arms and smiling!
Submodalities
Submodalities are the sights, sounds, smells, sensations and colours that are the
building blocks of your Internal Representations. By changing these as we picture
something, we can affect how we feel about it.
Sit down, relax and think about a pleasant memory (it can be recent or from the distant
past, it doesn't matter). See everything you saw then, hear everything you heard, feel
everything you felt. Now try to notice the various submodalities.
Is it a still image or a video? Is it black and white or colour?
Now think about an unpleasant memory. As an exercise, we are going to change some
of your submodalities and see what effect it has. First, if you are viewing the image as if
through your own eyes (this is know as being associated), step out of the picture and
view it as if on a screen (dissociated). Does this have any effect? Most people will find
the negative emotional state is lessened slightly.
Now make the images black and white. Now make them duller, weaker, less distinct. If
the image is panoramic, (i.e. if it you turned around 360degrees it would be all around
you), place a frame or border around it.
Make the sounds quieter, fuzzier, in mono. Take away the soundtrack in the background.
Reduce any sensations you feel - heat, pressure, etc. Make any smells less distinct.
You will find that some of these changes affect your state and decrease the unpleasant
sensations, while others have no affect whatsoever. That's fine. Different submodalities
work differently for different people. If reducing the volume has no effect, don't do it.
Some people react more to images, others to sounds or sensations.
Imagine you have a remote control in your hand, and you can adjust the volume, pitch,
colour, contrast, brightness, etc., at will. You can 'freeze frame' or put it on 'fast
forward.' It's your remote control,so adjust the settings just how you want them. If it
gets too loud, lower it; if it's too bright, make it slightly darker. Create the image and
sounds that are perfect for you and optimise your emotional state.
The majority of people find that if they make the image smaller, unfocussed, dimmer,
black and white and farther away they power of the negative memory is reduced. The
same if they make the sounds quieter, more indistinct, slower.
This exercise should have demonstrated just how easy it is to alter your emotional state
just by changing your submodalities. When you conjure up a negative memory from
your past, your brain responds just like one of Pavlov's dogs by immediately producing
certain images, sounds and sensations.
If you accept that, you are letting your brain run your life. The alternative is to refuse to
do so, and drain all the strength and power from those memories by consciously
changing your submodalities.
Positive Visualization
One of the things I am regularly asked for are tips about how to overcome nerves or
reduce anxiety just before a big presentation. There are a number of ways you can do
this using techniques from NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming; read more about it
here) and I'll cover them all off in future articles. But one of the simplest is to use
positive visualization.
Sit down in a comfortable chair, close your eyes and relax. While you may feel nervous
about public speaking, you are very confident about many other aspects of your life.
Think about a situation you have been in when you felt extremely confident.
See everything you saw then, and hear everything you heard. Think about the following:
Are you in experiencing the memory through your own eyes (i.e. are you actually
there, reliving it?) or are you watching it as if it's on a TV screen.
Don't view yourself as if you are on a movie screen. Instead, step forward into the
picture of your body so that you are experiencing the situation first hand (i.e. associated
).
If the image is far away, bring it very close. Make it bigger, then bigger still, then even
bigger and if there is a border around it, get rid of it and make it panoramic so that if
you were to turn around in a circle you could see it all around you. If the image is black
and white, make it Technicolor. Make the colors brighter and more vivid.
Make the sounds louder and crisper. If you can't hear any external sounds, are you
saying anything to yourself? Say it louder. Do you have a favorite piece of motivational
music (e.g. 'Eye of the Tiger,' Wagner's 'Ride of the Valkyries' or the theme from
'Rocky')? If so, play it loudly, in stereo.
By now you will be feeling confident. Note where those feelings start in your body - in
your chest perhaps, or stomach. Let them spread throughout your body so that they
reach out to your fingertips and your toes, so that they infuse every fibre and molecule
of your body. Feel them burn into your cheeks.
Give the feelings a color, and then make that color brighter and more intense (this is
important - it helps the visualization.).
Double the feelings' intensity and then double it again. Take those feelings and spin
them around inside your body; then spin them faster and make them grow to the point
where they are trying to burst out of your body.
Now feel them seeping out through your skin, flowing over the surface of your body,
and hardening into a hard, colorful, indestructible shell. You are invincible behind this
shell; it is like armour. With this shell you can do nothing wrong. Nothing can harm
you.
Now . . . just when you feel that the feelings are reaching their peak, you need to anchor
it by doing three things.
First, select a visual image of a person that epitomizes confidence to you. This would be
James Bond for me, but it can be your favorite politician or sports star. In fact, anyone
you like (it could even be Eeyore from Winnie The Pooh if that's who floats your
boat!) ..... it's your choice).
Second, say a phrase to yourself such as ' Just #*/@# do it' or ' Let's go' or ' Time to
rock' or ' It's showtime' or ' Make it so' or ' Infinity and Beyond !' or whatever happens to
appeal to you personally. This is your anchor, nobody else's. It doesn't matter if it's silly
- nobody else can hear it. If you can't think of a phrase, replay a snatch of that
motivational music.
Third, squeeze your first finger and thumb tightly together for 3-5 seconds whilst seeing
that image and hearing that phrase.
Now open your eyes. Congratulations. You have just anchored that touch and phrase
with feelings of confidence.
Close your eyes again. Now think about a situation from your past when you were about
to stand up and speak in public. See everything you saw then and hear everything you
heard, and start to feel how you felt. Just as the negative feelings are taking hold, press
your thumb and first finger firmly together and repeat your chosen motivational phrase.
How do you feel now? Do you still feel anxious or nervous? Even if you did not
suddenly burst with confidence, at the very least your nerves and anxiety should have
lessened considerably or disappeared. If not, don't worry. THIS WILL WORK.
These changes need reinforcing immediately if they are to be long lasting. Just as you
wouldn't go to the gym once and be satisfied with what you have achieved, you cannot
do the same with your mind. Practice the above exercise about three times per day for
the next week. Every time you do so it will become more effective.
Constant reinforcement carves out a neurological pathway that in time will become a
motorway. However, this needs to be done with emotional intensity until your newfound
confidence becomes an integral part of your belief system.
Swishing
This exercise is great if you have any vivid memories of past speaking 'disasters' that
tend to spring to mind whenever you think about speaking in public. Sometimes the root
cause of a person's glossophobia can be an event such as the first time they had to speak
in front of the class in school and they were laughed at by their classmates.
First, think of a time when you spoke in public but you felt you didn't do a good job, or
the first time you ever felt nervous about speaking in public. See everything you saw
then, and hear everything you heard. This time, see the image through your own eyes,
not as if it is on a TV or cinema screen (i.e. in an associated state).
Begin to feel the nervousness and anxiety that is associated with that situation. Then
shrink the image in size until it is very small and place it to one side of your peripheral
vision.
You look a million dollars and are filled with confidence; you are on fire - unstoppable!
The audience is hanging on to your every word, they laugh at your jokes and look on
admiringly - they can't get enough of you. Perhaps your boss is there and looks on
approvingly (that promotion is surely just around the corner!). Your voice is powerful,
resonant and persuasive and you can hear the audience's laughter and applause.
Make the image technicolour, and make those colours bright and vivid. Bring the image
closer and make it bigger, then bigger still. Take away any border that may be there and
make it panoramic. Make the sounds loud and crystal clear. Revel in the brilliance of
your performance. Bask in the audience's applause and admiration.
Now darken that image, push it very far away in the distance until it is small and dark
and replace it with a large version of the negative one. Then click your fingers and say "
Wooosh !" as excitedly and enthusiastically as you can. In one second, make the
positive, technicolour image hurtle toward you very quickly so that it smashes the old
one to bits and completely fills your vision.
Open your eyes for a second to break state, then close them and do the swish once more.
Do it again. And again. Do it a dozen times. Every time, imagine the distant, dark
picture becoming brighter and rushing towards you like a bullet or an arrow so that it
smashes the old, negative one to bits and completely fills your vision. This only works
if you do it very quickly, so really make the positive image hurtle towards you like an
express train.
I have customers who have learned to do this so effectively that just the mere
appearance of negative thoughts in their brain automatically triggers the swish. In
effect, you are saying to your brain, 'Don't think that, think this instead!' If it doesn't,
click your fingers and say 'Wooosh!' and it will
Confidence Circle
This is a great NLP exercise for speakers, because it uses a spatial anchor which you can
take with you and use when speaking to make 'onstage' or 'in the spotlight' or 'the front
of the boardroom' a place in which you feel powerful instead of anxious or nervous.
First, visualise a spot on the floor and expand it into a circle large enough for you to
step into comfortably. Now do the Visualisation exercise explained above until your
feelings of confidence have peaked. But instead of anchoring those feelings to a mental
image, sound or touch, we are going to anchor them to the imaginary circle.
Step into the circle. Don't imagine doing this; actually step into the circle you have
visualised in front of you. As you do so, imagine that circle coming 'to life'.
Imagine it lighting up and filling with your 'confidence colour' (whatever that means to
you). Imagine it getting warmer. The circle can be ringed with lights, or one continuous
fluorescent neon bulb, or a series of small fires. Imagine the circle growing wider if you
want. Whatever works for you.
Let your feelings of confidence amplify and associate them completely with your circle.
FEEL the confidence flowing through you when you are in there. The circle is a magical
place. In it you are invincible. You are 'da man'. You are on fire. Superman is a limp-
wristed, panty-waisted wuss compared to you.
Now step out of the circle and calm down. Think of something else to break your state
and let the feelings of confidence ebb away. Then do the exercise again. Do it at least
six times. Now visualise folding the circle in halves, then quarters, then eighths, and put
it in your pocket.
Then do the exercise twice a day for the next week (remember that anchoring needs
repetition for it to work), but when you start, imagine taking the circle out of your
pocket, unfolding it and throwing it on to the floor in front of you.
Now you don't need to conjure up the feelings of confidence. Simply step into the circle
(remember to physically take a step forward; don't just imagine it) and because it is now
a spatial anchor, you will feel the confidence flow through you.
Now whenever you are about to speak in public, focus on the spot where you know you
will stand, and as you are introduced, mentally unfold the circle and throw it there. See
it glowing and as you step into it, you will feel that confidence.
You see, what we can achieve is limited by what we believe. Henry Ford knew this:
Whether you think you can or you think you cant, you are right.
So here I was, passionately committed to become the world-class business guru, best-
selling author, the speaker who fills stadiums. And yet there was voice telling me, You
cant do it. Keep trying, trying is fun, but in the end you will fail.
Great outthinkers seem to overcome this voice. Their belief matches their passion.
Napoleon believed he was the greatest general of his time and so he was. Steve Jobs
believed his people could achieve the impossible, so they did. Richard Branson believed
he could win against British Airways, and so he won, even though every airline that
tried over the prior three decades failed.
Over the past four weeks, Ive studied books and articles, interviewed entrepreneurs and
experts, then assembled it all for you in a simple framework with which you can
systematically attack whatever belief is holding you down. Give me 20 minutes. This
works.
Fundamentals
1. Beliefs arent real. They are mental maps, abstractions of reality, that help us predict
a complex world. My son believes good batteries must be cold because I keep ours in
the freezer. He believes Santa Claus rides a sleigh.
2. Four anchors form our beliefs (For more, read Why We Believe What We Believe by
Andrew Newberg and Mark Robert Waldman).
Evidence: Something happens (e.g., gifts appear one morning and my mom says
they are from Santa Claus)
Logic: It makes sense, more specifically, it is consistent with our other beliefs
(e.g., gifts cant just appear out of nowhere, my mom and dad were asleep...it
must have been Santa)
Emotion: Strong emotional associations (a 3-year-olds joy at getting a new choo
choo) embed beliefs more indelibly
Social consensus: We believe more deeply if others believe too (e.g., Maria and
Nico and Sofia all say Santa brought them gifts too)
3. We reject what doesnt fit. Once a belief is formed, we explain away any
inconsistent evidence. I saw a documentary in which a young child said to his friends,
Santa came to my house and ate a little bit of a cookie, then he went to Jacks house
and ate a little bit and drank some milk, then to Marias and ate some and then...So if he
went to ALL of our houses in one night, it must mean-- You are sure he is about to
realize Santa cant be real, but instead he animates excitedly, Santa must have been
really hungry!
4. Humans need consistency between beliefs, actions, and words. In Influence: The
Psychology of Persuasion, Robert Cialdini calls this The Rule of Consistency." This is
how beliefs hold us down or lift us up. If you believe you cant, you start acting and
speaking like someone who cant, so you actually cant. Interestingly, the relationship
also works in reverse: Change your action or words and you can change your beliefs.
The Model
Over a 12-hour flight home from Paraguay, I assembled these principles into a model
we can use to deconstruct and replace any belief that holds us down. It is simpler than it
looks.
Imagine a hot air balloon being held down by four anchors. The balloon represents the
belief holding you down and actions and words this belief influences.
The four anchors represent evidence, logic, emotion, and social consensus. To release
the balloon you must replace the offending belief. Do this in five steps:
What evidence/events anchor the belief? (my books arent on the NYT best-seller
list)
What emotions anchor your belief? (I feel comfort because in not really trying, I
know I cant fail)
Who around you reinforces this belief (social consensus)? (well-intentioned
people who congratulate me on already having achieved the dream)
What logic locks in this belief; what dependent beliefs fit? (wanting to fill a
stadium is self-centered, thinking I can offer what people dont already know is
conceited)
Evidence: what alternative evidence supports this new belief? (people pay me
lots of money to speak, Im sharing the stage with some of the biggest business
gurus)
Emotions: what does it feel like to really live this new belief and fulfill your
dream? (passion, purpose, having made an impact)
Social consensus: who can you surround yourself with to support the new
belief? (other business gurus and authors)
Beliefs: how can you replace the dependent beliefs identified above? (this is
not conceited because its about serving others; the best business gurus do it to
serve others, not for their ego)
Completing this process took me 20 minutes and has put me fully in the game,
committed and knowing I can win. Would that be worth your time?
i am
relaxation and scripts for self-help, personal change and fulfilment
I deserve to be,
I want to be,
I can be,
I will be,
I am.
If you want to change your life you need to change how you think and change what you
do. Self-help, personal change, being happy: it's up to you. No-one else.
You decide. This is the first step. Self-help starts with you. Self-help and personal
change starts with your realisation that it really is in your own hands, and your decision
to do something about it.
Your own self-belief is the key to successful life-change, achievement, contentment, and
happiness.
Your own mind, particularly positive suggestion and visualisation, will develop your
self-belief, and your determination to make successful change to your life.
This page will help you begin to change the way you think, feel and act.
Visit it any time you want to boost your self-belief, to relax, and to regain control of
your life and direction.
Print this page and put it above your mirror, above your bed, above your desk, anywhere
you'll see it every day.
Make time - actually schedule some time in your planner or diary to do this. It will
dramatically improve your mood, attitude, and approach to life, and therefore what you
get from life.
Positive suggestion and visualisation, combined with deep relaxation, is an easy way to
make powerful positive personal change.
Just going through this relaxation exercise alone will help to change and improve the
way you feel. If you combine the relaxation techniques with a repeated script of positive
statements, such as the 'I am' script below, you will begin change the way you think, and
feel, and act, and all that life offers as a result.
The more you use the relaxation exercise and say or hear the script, then the greater and
more sustainable will be the effect.
The time it takes to change depends on different people. Stick with it and it will become
easier, more natural, more enjoyable, and it will work.
relaxation exercise
1. Sit or lie down comfortably. Properly comfortably. Straighten your back, put your
shoulders back to open your rib-cage.
2. Relax your shoulder muscles particularly. Relax your whole body, and empty your mind.
3. Close your eyes (obviously open them when you need to read the next stage).
4. Take ten deep, slow breaths. Breathe from the pit of your stomach and feel your lungs
filling.
5. Focus on your breathing. Feel it getting deeper and slower. Feel yourself relaxing and
any tension drifting away.
7. Visualise yourself being happy, succeeding, winning, being loved, laughing, feeling
good.
9. Allow a gentle smile to appear on your face as you feel a calmness enter your mind.
10. Then say (out load ideally) the words below (a script for personal change) to yourself:
i am
I am good person.
I have integrity.
Whatever life puts before me will be useful experience that will make me stronger,
wiser, and more tolerant.
I am strong enough to understand and make allowances for other people's weaknesses,
and their behaviour towards me. Other people's behaviour is about them, not me.
I focus on the joy of living my life and helping others where and when I can.
I take exercise which I enjoy. I walk when I don't need to drive or take the bus or train.
I smile and laugh whenever I can - life is good - getting caught in the rain reminds me
that it is good to be alive to feel it.
I forgive other people. Deep down everyone is a good person, just like me.
I am a good person.
I am.
The use of scripts while in a deeply relaxed state is a ages-old method of gaining and
maintaining control over our personal feelings and behaviours.
The use of scripts or strong statements while in a deeply relaxed state enables a
'conditioning' effect on our subconscious.
Changing our subconscious - our feelings and beliefs - increases our sense of calm and
well-being, and also enables change in our conscious thoughts and behaviours. It's that
simple.
Some people find it easier than others to relax deeply. It comes with practice.
If you find it difficult, allow yourself more time when going through the relaxation
exercise. Create or put yourself into a quiet relaxing calm environment. Shut out noise
and distractions. Lie down rather than sit.
When relaxing and emptying your mind it is natural for thoughts to arise - in which case
simply acknowledge them gently and let them go - visualise them floating away like a
balloon into the distance. Your ability to empty your mind and relax, free from thoughts,
will improve with practice.
When you practice, you will increase the ease with which you can relax, and then you
will find that you no longer need such a quiet environment. You will even find that you
can achieve a deeply relaxed state in quite noisy stressful environments. Even sat at
your desk at work.
Deep relaxation alone is good for the mind and body, without the use of scripted
statements. Combining deep relaxation with good positive scripts is a powerful method
of achieving greater happiness and for making positive personal change.
The use of repeating scripts (said or listened to) is ages-old as well. The principle is
used in many timeless customs - some which are forces for good, others not so good -
which are used to change or control feelings, including praying, chanting, singing, etc.
Often these practices are combined with deep relaxation, meditation, trance, even
hypnosis, again some for good aims and some not so good.
What I'm advocating here is the use of the same basic methodology - deep relaxation,
combined with repeating strong statements - to achieve powerful personal change for
the good, in the direction that you want.
If you are a coach or trainer you can help others with this type of personal change - see
the personal change exercises ideas which use these relaxation, scripts and positive
statements techniques.
using and changing scripts - what the 'i am' words mean
The 'I am' element alone is a powerful one because it embodies the sense of self-
determination, which nobody and nothing can ever take away from you, and it
emphasises the value of simply 'being'.
We each exist as a person of value and worth in our own right, irrespective of
possessions and achievements. Accepting and reinforcing this concept is good for each
of us. This, at its simplest level, is what 'I am' means.
"There is wisdom in accepting what you are. It is difficult to be what you are not. Being
what you are doesn't require any effort. When you become wise, you accept yourself the
way you are, and the complete acceptance of yourself becomes the complete acceptance
of everyone else." (From 'The Mastery of Love' by Don Miguel Ruiz, with thanks to
Allspirit.co.uk)
You can use the relaxation exercise, combined with a script, to change many aspects of
your life and feelings.
For example, if you want to be more confident, use a statement such as 'I am a confident
person' rather than 'I will be a more confident person' or 'I will try to be a more
confident person'.
If you want to stop smoking, use a statement such as 'I am a non-smoker, because I
value my life and body' rather than 'I will try to give up smoking'.
If you do not want to give up smoking, merely to cut down, adjust the script
accordingly, for example: 'I smoke only five/ten/fifteen cigarettes a day, because this is
improving my health and my life' (better than smoking twenty or thirty day).
If you keep telling your sub-conscious that you 'are', then in time you will 'be'.
Use script statements that describe yourself as you want to be. Repeating positive
scripts, combined with deep relaxation, will change your behaviour from deep within.
You can increase the ease of using scripts if you make a tape or CD recording of
yourself reading your script.
You can then use the recording any time you want.
Using a recording also means you can relax completely while listening to the words,
with no need to open your eyes to read.
You can also listen to your recorded script at bed-time, before you go to sleep every
night, which is also an effective way to reach and change your sub-conscious feelings.
be assured...
Most people judge themselves against entirely artificial criteria. Material success is not
what life is about.
You can change your frame of reference. You do not have to accept a frame of reference
that others have given you.
Many of the most materially 'successful' people are deeply unhappy, yet they strive and
search (unsuccessfully) even harder for more material success.
Most ordinary good, honest 'being' people are fooled into believing that what they have
is not worth anything. Don't be fooled.
Next time you get caught in the rain, or bump the car, or get a headache - enjoy being
alive to feel it and experience it.
Your limiting beliefs are those negative beliefs about yourself that stand in the way of
your real success and weaken your self esteem. To overcome and transform your
negative beliefs you must first acknowledge them and accept them for what they are. As
is the case with all beliefs, whether positive or negative, a limiting belief started off as a
single thought in your mind in reaction to a certain event, or to what you were told by
your parents or society in general. This thought was repeated often enough until it was
accepted as an unchecked "truth" by your subconscious mind. In other words, your
limiting beliefs are a learned thought pattern and the good news is that they are up for
re-programming.
Why Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs? If you are not where you want to be in your
life, whether physically, emotionally, romantically or financially (and so on), the
chances are that an underlying, deeply ingrained negative belief is limiting your
progress. This does not mean that your physical appearance, romantic or financial status
should define you or your worth. It simply means that you are free to also succeed in all
these areas of your life if you so choose to, not because doing so will make you a better
person compared to anyone else, but simply because you want the experience itself.
Overcoming your limiting beliefs is the fundamental step in that direction.
The Power of Limiting Beliefs: While beliefs are really just beliefs, you should be
careful not to underestimate their power. Since all beliefs belong to the realm of the
subconscious mind, their mental influence may not be obvious at the conscious level,
but their negative impact on the outcomes you want to achieve, most certainly is. All
beliefs are executed on auto pilot by the subconscious mind - with no need for any
conscious thought. This is both the strength and the Achilles heel of the subconscious
mind, because while it is able to carry out the most complex of tasks automatically, it is
not rational in nature and hence cannot distinguish between those beliefs that serve you
and those that don't. It is up to you to become conscious of your limiting beliefs and
learn to overcome them while consciously reprogramming your mind at the
subconscious level.
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A Brief History of Negative Beliefs: You will find that most of your limiting beliefs
can be traced back to your childhood. The futile exercise of comparing yourself to
others as a child and continuing to do so as an adult, has created many of your beliefs
and is keeping them alive. Your beliefs are at the back of the subconscious programmes
that are still running your life today and usually unbeknown to you. They are nothing
more than the learned thought patterns behind your habitual thoughts, words and
actions. This is not about blaming our parents or our teachers or society in general for a
misguided childhood. Most of our parents and teachers did the best they could at the
time and to blame anyone just keeps you stuck and disempowered. Your aim is to
simply recognise that these childhood and even childish beliefs no longer serve you, and
that if something doesn't serve you, then you should endeavour to move beyond it.
Identifying Your Personal Limiting Beliefs: Using the "Decoding Your Beliefs"
exercise outlined in the preceding article about building self esteem, make a list of your
personal negative beliefs. You can carry on adding any negative beliefs to your list as
they come to you at a later stage. To see how those limiting beliefs have unnecessarily
hampered your success, you could choose to write an example of when any such belief
has prevented you from doing or achieving something you wanted. For example a belief
like "I am bad with money" or "I am a spendthrift" is likely to have left you with a
rather unhealthy bank balance.
Stocktaking Your Limiting Beliefs: While this article is focused on transforming those
personal limiting beliefs that begin with the words "I am", the techniques can be equally
used for any negative belief. It takes time, effort and a healthy dose of introspection to
uncover your limiting beliefs in all areas of your life, but doing so will go a long way in
understanding and hence enabling you to transform your current circumstances across
the board. Choose the areas of your life you wish to work on e.g. relationships, health,
finances or your job, and then make a list of your beliefs pertaining to each area.
With regard relationships, your list can include phrases that begin with words such as
"relationships are", "women are", "men are", "love is", "family is" and so on. Beliefs for
health can include phrases such as "health is", "my body is", "exercise is", "food is"; for
finances an obvious example is "money is"; and for your job, "work is", "bosses are",
"success is" and so on. Of course, your beliefs in each area will once again be a
combination of positive and limiting beliefs. Remember to focus on the positive beliefs
as a source of your natural strengths, and seek to transform the limiting beliefs with the
five techniques outlined below and in the second part of this article. You may also find
that some of your limiting beliefs from your "I am" list, affect a specific area of your
life, in which case you can simply add them to the relevant list.
This should come as very good news because it means that instead of believing you are
a victim of your circumstances, you can change your unwanted circumstances by
changing your limiting beliefs. The five techniques outlined in this two-part article,
when understood and effectively applied, are the most effective steps you can take in
that direction. The first four techniques are aimed at consciously re-programming your
subconscious mind while the fifth technique is aimed at raising your level of
consciousness. While all the techniques can be used simultaneously, the fifth is by far
the superior.
An example of a positive affirmation for health for instance is "My body heals itself
efforlessly and quickly", or for relationships is "I respect and uphold healthy boundaries
in all my relationships". There are some fantastic programmes available commercially
which use targeted recorded affirmations to re-programme your mind. If such
programmes are not within your current budget, you can always make your own
recording of positive affirmations that are tailor-made for you. It is most effective to use
an even, deliberate tone of voice with as little background noise as possible. Mental
repetition, without the help of a recording, is of course also effective as long as you do it
systematically and persistently.
A World Famous Positive Affirmation: Emile Coue gave us one of the most beneficial
positive affirmations that was made famous by the Silva Method and that
instantaneously covers every aspect of your life. "Every day in every way, I am getting
better and better". Mentally repeat this to yourself throughout the day irrespective of
what other programmes you are using. Learn to become more aware of your thoughts.
When you catch yourself having negative thoughts calmly and deliberately say to
yourself "cancel, cancel, cancel", then take a deep breath and mentally say "every day in
every way, I am getting better and better". Notice how "better and better" is not the
same as the false target of "I am perfect" - it is simply better and better.
Technique 2 - Act As If: The second method for building self esteem is to act "as if".
This is similar to positive affirmations but rather than using your thoughts and words,
you are using your actions. It means to act as if you do not have your negative beliefs
or, even better, as if you have their positive equivalents. You may have heard it said like
this - "fake it, until you make it". If for instance you lack confidence, notice how it feels
to walk around with your head held up high and your shoulders back. When you do so
often, your mind will "forget" your lack of confidence because your new bodily stance
sends a very strong, over-riding message of confidence.
Your Mind Does Not Know You are Acting: Since the subconscious mind is not
rational in nature and hence does not judge, it can not tell the difference between when
you are pretending and when you are acting on a "real" belief. Have fun acting "as if"
and sense how differently you feel inside just by acting out a positive role. This is not
about tricking your mind. It is about knowing how the mind works and that we are all
already just "acting out" our lives based on a script that is stored by our subconscious
mind and that we did not consciously choose in the first instance. Persistently acting "as
if" changes the script over time, and when the script changes for the better, then so does
the movie.
In the case of overcoming limiting beliefs, you can imagine yourself acting as if you
have the equivalent positive belief of the belief you intend to overcome. Visualize how
you would think, talk, act and feel if you had a specific positive belief about yourself.
When combined with the first two techniques of positive affirmations and acting "as if"
in your waking world, you will quickly experience beneficial, life-changing results. For
a full explanation read: Creative Visualization Explained and the associated articles.
A Warning About Your Negative Beliefs and the Laws of Polarity & Attraction: If
you use creative visualisation to visualize an intended outcome without transforming the
underlying negative belief first, then you may find that your subconscious mind fights
and sabotages your attempts. Most people attempt to simply focus on what they want
while ignoring any underlying contradictory negative belief. These unchecked negative
beliefs, by the Laws of Attraction and Polarity, inadvertently attract more of what they
do not want. You can use a simple technique to by-pass such limiting beliefs called the
Mental Focus By-Product Method. The aim is to place your mental focus on something
that is a by-product of what you want but not specifically what you want. In other
words, mentally focus on something that you do not have a specific negative belief
about but, that in order to experience it you must also have that which you actually
want. For a full explanation read: Effective Mental Focus - When Not to Focus on What
You Want.
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Technique 4 - Change Your Perception of Past Experiences: The fourth technique for
overcoming limiting beliefs is to change your perception of a past negative experience.
This is most effective when you can trace the limiting belief back to the time it was
created i.e. to a specific past negative experience. In this instance you can use a
powerful meditation technique to go back to a time when that a negative belief did not
exist. Mind Your Reality's Mental Time Travel Meditation is summarised here.
Mental Time Travel Meditation: In a relaxed state and with your eyes closed,
mentally create a horizontal time line of your life where the furthest point to your right
is your present moment. Include a point for your negative experience somewhere on the
left of the current moment as well as a length of time before that experience. Imagine
yourself traveling backwards in time along your time-line until you come to that
experience, then mentally freeze the experience in its place and continue to travel back
in time to a point when the associated negative belief(s) did not exist. This could be just
before the experience or all the way back into your childhood.
Feel how confident, strong and carefree you felt at that point of time when you did not
have that negative belief. Now step into and internalise those positive feelings before
returning to the present moment back along your imaginary time line, giving no notice
to that negative experience, other than to see how it is frozen in time. This is a very
powerful meditation exercise that will enable you to release yourself from the grip of
the perceived negativity of your experiences and their associated negative beliefs. For a
full explanation read: Mental Time Travel to Change the Past.
The 21-Day Rule to Create a New Habit: It is widely suggested that overcoming
limiting beliefs or creating a new habit, takes on average 21 consecutive days of
repetition. This may sound like a little (and really it is) but most people struggle to get
past day 3 because we live in a world of instant gratification in which we expect and
demand instantaneous results. In contrast, however, the conscious creation process,
whereby energy in its potential form is transmuted into matter in its material form
through the power of thought, requires time in the physical world. Understanding the
necessity of time will grant you the patience and persistence you require for overcoming
limiting beliefs. Having said this, there is one more technique that does not require any
time for its manifestation because it is based on an eternal truth - the truth about your
true nature.
Technique 5 - Know Thyself: The final, and by far the most effective technique for
overcoming limiting beliefs, is also one of the maxims inscribed on the Temple of
Apollo at Delphi: "know thyself". To know yourself is not just about knowing what your
beliefs are or knowing your strengths and weaknesses. These aspects of your character
are the tip of the iceberg and in fact have little to do with the real you. To know yourself
is to know your true nature. Your true nature goes beyond the confines of the physical
world, your physical body and your five physical senses. Your true nature belongs to the
spiritual realm.
Your True Nature is Divine: The real you is your Higher Self, the eternal observer. The
real you has no limiting beliefs for it knows that your consciousness is one with the One
Universal Mind, All Powerful, All Present and All Knowing; the only difference being
one of degree. No limiting belief, no matter how deeply ingrained or how powerful,
stands any chance in the face of Omnipotence, of which you are a part. Any need to
compare yourself, compete with or depend on the opinion of others as a measure of
your worthiness, becomes redundant when your self worth and self esteem have there
basis in knowing your true nature. Knowing who you really are is the only authentic
source of inner strength when overcoming limiting beliefs because it can never be
disturbed by outside appearances. When you know yourself, you can rip up your list of
both positive and negative "I am" beliefs and replace it with these words alone: "I am".
No qualifications, nothing more, nothing less. "I am".
A Warning Against Arrogance: Knowing your true nature is not about feeling that you
are now above or better than others because you have "figured it all out" and they
havent. It is not about arrogantly believing or proclaiming that you are God or thinking
that you are invincible and that nothing can touch you or get in your way. This attitude
is an extreme that is best to be avoided and can in fact be more self-destructive than not
knowing your true nature at all. In contrast, knowing yourself is accompanied by a deep
sense of inner peace and balance with reverence for the One Universal Mind, of which
everyone, everything and you yourself, are a part. There is no place for conceit, self-
righteousness or arrogance in knowing yourself.
Repeat as needed until trance is satisfactory. And, even if you don't make it through the
set once, when your eyes close take yourself (in your mind's eye) to a body of water.
Enjoy some R & R there until you're ready to return.
To utilize this trance you can add your own suggestions once in the trance, or you can
ask your unconscious mind before you begin, that while you are in trance it can go
through and retrieve all useful and constructive references and resources pertinent to
your issue at hand and have them available to you when you come out of trance. Then
just trust that that will happen and enjoy your time by the water.
For further exploration, read the transcript and/or listen to the MP3 found under
transcripts.
My mental health is fun and radiantly happy. All situations in my life are wonderful. I have a
childlike playfulness and I enjoy playing and being at peace. My imagination is outrageous. I
have a serene mind that is passionate about life. I am passionate about life. I am exhilarated
about life. My mental mind is free and playful and happy to live life outrageously. I enjoy all of
natures wonders and I take the time to worship its beauty. I see, hear, and feel, the beauty in
everything. I take time for myself to play and I involve others in my play. Iam a kid at heart. I
see the world as a beautiful place to be. I am glad I was born and I love being alive. I now feel a
deep inner peace and serenity. I am always deeply relaxed and centered. I enjoy doing things
that are fun. I fully enjoy all people and I love to smile and to make others feel good. I only
focus life on the positive. I am cheerful and friendly to all people. I am beautiful and lovable. I
am kind and loving and I have a great deal to share with others. My mental attitude is I deserve
the best in life/ I know I have a lot and everyone recognizes it. Everyday and in everyway I am
getting better, better and better. My mental attitude loves to love and loves to be loved. I enjoy
brightening my day and everyone elses. I let my inner child run and play freely through me. I
fully love and appreciate my self just as I am. I am dynamically self-expressive. I always
communicate clearly and effectively. I wake up feeling wonderful and look forward to a
wonderful day. I am passionate about everyday. I am feeling calm and happy all the time. I am
happy with myself and being free. My mind is free and has a great imagination. My mind is
talented intelligent and creative. I use my talented intelligent and creative mind to enjoy life
and to create the very best for myself and others. My mind deserves the very best. I am an
open channel for creative energy. Certain ideas and inspirations come to me easily. My mental
attitude knows it is ok to enjoy life, have fun and I do. I am happy in everything I do. I live all of
my days. My mind is curious and brilliant. I am always learning to live better and better and I
trust the infinite to bring all this to me. Thank you.
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Originally Posted by bjohns09
Hypnotica, do you reccommend any products specifically for NLP seduction (Dave
Riker for example)? Is your "Deep Phone Seduction" just for phone game?
I've been getting great results with NLP like the field report in this thread after
studying from some of Ross Jeffries's material. What's even crazier than these
intense results is that the woman in this field report is in a long term relationship.
That is one of the main reasons I decided not to get physical yet.
I don't use NLP for seduction. The best results i get are from creating the vibe i want to
resonate with, keep a outcome frame goal in mind and a flirtatious banter back and
forth. With the mindset of a teacher who can show her alot more then 99% of anyone
out there.
I also use a lot of Sexual tones and stories to get them on the same page as me.
hypnotica
Hypnosis really isn't that creepy. It is just effective communication - often used to
go into trance states (like in meditation as sdnightfly pointed out). And then from
there you work with your beliefs, thoughts and memories in order to build up your
inner game. For anyone that is willing to do the research the gold is all there.
This is a hypnosis script you may want to read it to get a few new ideas.
The unconscious mind controls all automatic body functions. It controls breathing, heart
rate, respiration and perspiration. It is in control of all of the body functions that are not
under constant conscious control. As a matter of fact, if you try to control these
automatic body functions consciously you will either fail of cause them to just not work
right.
For example, have you ever thought about your breathing? If were walking along and
you decided to concentrate on your breathing you will find that it disrupts the whole
process. Before you started thinking about it, you were breathing just fine,
automatically. Your unconscious mind was managing quite well without any conscious
effort. You unconscious mind knows how to measure how much oxygen your body
needs, and then automatically lets your lungs and diaphragm know what the right speed
and depth of breathing is required. But when you start thinking about your breathing
consciously, you dont know if you are breathing fast enough or slow enough, or deep
enough or shallow enough. It is not until you start thinking about something else that
you unconscious mind can take back control and handle thing perfectly.
So if you dont think about your erection, your unconscious mind will make one for
your. This is a simple process but some people make a mistake. If I told you to not think
about your breathing it would be difficult for you to do that. It is difficult to not think
about something by trying to not think about it. Here is another example, try to not think
about pink elephants. Try harder and really try not to think about pink elephants. As
long as you try to not think about pink elephants you cant help it, you just keep
thinking of pink elephants.
But if I told you to now think about another kind animal, like cows you can take your
attention away from the pink elephants. Watch how well this works. Lets think about
cows. Some cows are brown and some are black and white. Cows are female and people
can get milk from them. They also have calves, and the calves get good creamy milk
from their mothers. Male cows are not cows. They are bulls.
So now we have learned that the unconscious mind perfectly controls all automatic
body functions and among these are the ability of men to get and sustain an erection. We
also know that the unconscious mind does best when left alone to do its job. If you think
about an erection, it will only get in the way of the unconscious mind doing what it
knows how to do. It knows how to give youre a perfect erection anytime that you need
one.
We also know that it is almost impossible to not think about something. If you start
thinking about or worrying about your erection, it only gets in the way of your
unconscious mind providing you with a good strong erection. So what you need to do is
to give your unconscious mind all of the information that it needs to provide you with
an erection whenever you want one. You know that you cant just talk to it and say,
okay unconscious mind, give me an erection, because then you are thinking about it
again.
This is what you do. The subconscious mind is structured to automatically respond to
certain things. The more strongly that you are aware of these certain things, the more
abundantly the subconscious mind gets the information it needs to provide you with a
good strong and long lasting erection. This information comes through the 5 senses.
When you want to have an erection all you have to do is focus on you partner. Give her
your 100% attention and you will have a 100% erection. It is that simple. But how do
you give her that kind of attention?
This is how. Use all of your 5 senses when you are with her. Allow yourself to use
touch, taste, sight, smell and hearing. So then, this is the secret. When you are with your
partner, really use your senses. Notice the touch of her skin. The taste of her skin. The
scent of her perfume. The way she looks. And, the sounds that she makes.
Really allow your senses to be filled with these wonderful and pleasant sensations.
These are the signals that your unconscious mind needs to receive. It uses these senses
to get the information it needs to produce a good strong long lasting erection.
When you are with her really notice her touch, taste, appearance, scent and the sounds
that she makes. Maybe there is some particular thing that you like best about her. Focus
on that aspect of her, if there is some particular thing that strikes you as being sexually
attractive. Is it her hair, her eyes, her figure? Really, allow yourself to enjoy that part of
the experience. As you do this, your unconscious mind will respond to these things and
send all of the proper signals so that you function perfectly. Focus on her. That is the
secret.
Notice how it feels like to touch her. Notice the sensation of the touch and how she
responds to it. Some places may be smooth and cool while others may be rough and
warm. Explore all of the sensations. Be a great explorer.
Notice how she tastes when you kiss her. Enjoy the taste of her lips and skin. Some
places may be sweet and others salty.
Enjoy seeing all the things that you dont usually get to see until the next time that you
are together this way.
Enjoy how each part of her smells. Notice the scent of her hair and skin. All of these
very feminine smells send very definite signals to your nervous system. Some of these
smells are produced by glands that are specifically designed by nature to communicate
to your nervous system and produce an erection. Some of these smells are almost
undetectable by the conscious mind and are called pheromones.
Enjoy all of the sounds that she makes and the rhythm of her body as it moves next to
yours.
As you focus on her your body responds reliably and consistently. You will be more
confident when having sex. You confidence with extend throughout almost all aspects
of your life.
hypnotica
In minutes.
If the client knows the exact time of a memory, and it was the initial memory, and the
client is ready to release the negative emotional response, the Eye Pattern Scramble
works beautifully. This process removes the emotional connection, sometimes even
the traumatic part of the memory. Every one has an eye pattern strategy that
retrieves memories. The eyes move in a specific way and that allows us to retrieve a
particular memory.
The purpose of scrambling up the clients eye pattern strategy is that the nervous
system uses eye patterns to retrieve memories and the emotions connected. When
the pattern is scrambled, the nervous system no longer has access to the feelings
around the memory. Sometimes the section of the memory that triggered the
emotions even disappears.
To use the Eye Pattern Scramble, have the client recall the memory they are ready to
release. Have them access the emotions and just when their emotion peaks, have the
client follow the movement of your fingers. As you are scrambling the eye pattern,
simultaneously touch the clients knuckle that you did Resource Anchoring on. This is
to add resourceful feelings while scrambling up the strategy. It takes only five
minutes, perhaps three.
how many and how well has it integrated now with your
overall view point of life
and in things in general
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can a tweak something lot of stuff that I that
comes in you know doesn't fit my personality like when I
first started I
thought
I thought the whole indirect thing was was the way to go
because I had never
heard a
you going indirect to a woman you know collect our work
with guys that were
straight
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adorable and they would
they would get a lot of which works which works but then
mike got in this
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then when I got into it didn't but then the structure uva
traction
reporter seduction I hadn't heard about and that's
tend to work so there's always stuff that I can hear the
night
so so here's hoping a man in going back in not knowing
anything that you learned
over the years
in this whole realm where you think you'd be a
do I was thing about this the other the other day the other
day
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when I was in high
school that's what happened
your a was very popular one point cuz I was honest
a TV show I would answer
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because I always had
women coming to me so I didn't have to work a lot
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seduction community in the
wake up call
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dominance I guess so
important
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don't want to dominate
anyone but I wanna be a leader year
and that's why the new proposal no be
talking about as I call you like people say you lied lied
lied
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give a map for
this
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in
in with the picture that they believe the girl had a cow
identify about
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good conversation
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little fun other than
for
you're building a bigger picture so before the new concept
actually want
them
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are and you have that
mastery who you are and your reality and what you can
create
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submit to your power
because they want to they're absolutely bread
to submit to their power to just go Wow here's a man who
knows what he wants and
that's attractive to women
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in that's the beauty of it because if you have that vision
for what you what
you believe in yourself
you believe that you can get there you can get there and
then we'll see that
now for two feet of your
off that vibe because everyone wants to be around people
that are
proactive that are visionary that that have a good thing
going on or they can
even have fun
in a moment the leading for and so thats
what's most important I believe yeah could see that's
probably what was
missing as I was old
II could lead to other people terms but in terms of women
I was lacking so I relied on them so I can say that
have relying on them as is is giving your power with her
women like I said if the shit hits the fan you know they
all want a guy
rely on them for their decision-making process you know
when I look younger oh
shit Mike
should go down the world you gonna do you gonna where you
gonna be like
we don't want to be in that situation exactly how they were
a man is going to
make
you know get you know get over there get behind me this
we're going to go to the
bathroom
alright cool you believe in it right on man but you know
they don't deal with
each side
right alright well this was a good area cool appreciate you
take your time yeah so if you guys want to attend the open
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Cross-Contextualization by Hypnotica & Steve P
Hypnotica & Steve P
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xUVq0zzZirI
In the video with Steve Piccus above, Hypnotica (aka Eric Von Sydow) explains the
meaning of cross-contextualization. In layman's terms, its basically the application
of multiple exercises, triggering multiple senses, to achieve a desired mood.
For example, how many times have you played upbeat music while driving to the club
or party? Thats just using sound, which you know puts you in an upbeat mood, to
apply the appropriate mindset in advance.
Hypnotica takes it a step further and describes the visual applications he uses, such as
provocative art and images. He doesnt mention examples that address the sense of
taste, touch or smell, but that doesnt mean there arent methods. It just means its up
to you to experiment.
This is something I recommend for those of all skill levels. Veterans with higher self-
awareness may be quicker to notice the effects. Beginners may have a little more
difficulty, yet require every bit of effort to solidify a positive attitude prior to entering a
social environment.
A fun fact some dont know is that he was previously known as Rasputin when
Strauss mentioned him in The Game. I always make sure to listen carefully
when anyone from that book takes the mic for the simple reason that theyve
got a lot of experience.
Hypnoticas just to keep the weirdoes away. You can call me Eric.
Another reason I like his work he shares his real name. To hide behind a
pseudonym almost seems like it would psychologically program your mind to be
ashamed of your work. Although I see the controversy one faces from society
when participating in pick up, I also know one can choose their profession if
they dont like the downsides of it.
I digress.
Inner game is where its at, he begins. Its the engine that moves the car. You
dont want your tricks to lead the way.
Who here would date you? A few people raise their hands while the rest await
further expansion on the meaning of the question.
Im not talking about this, Eric sarcastically blurts while making a subtle
jacking-off motion.
Who heres been in sales? Ever tried selling a product you didnt believe in?
So what if you dont believe in yourself?
Then he openly reveals to the room that he began journaling when he was
terrible with women. Something Ive been doing for nearly two decades. Baby
steps worked when you were a kid. Guess what, they work when youre an
adult. And in his he listed his poor habits before going through and addressing
them only to see, that one by one, they vanished.
When youre in a bar and scared shitless about whats shes gonna think about
you, if you were to go up and remove all of her makeup, do you think shed be
as confident? Would you feel like its a bit more realistic?
Out of nowhere Eric strikes listeners with an uppercut they dont see coming.
Gasps of astonishment are let out. But the truth in the comparison still remains.
Both wear makeup to change perspectives.
He continues with a basic self worth scale of 1 to 10. Ask yourself where you
rank, monitor it, and adjust things accordingly. If you are at an 8, you meet
someone, and your average drops to a 7.5, time to move on. Your quality of life
matters.
Then he brings up the process a woman goes through when preparing for a
date or a night on the town. Shell be doing some kind of ritual. What kind of
mindset are they going through when theyre doing that?
Little does he know, Im already familiar with his past career as a male dancer
and Im just exploiting some current pop culture for my own amusement. I get
my cheap chuckle and shut my trap before Eric has a chance to hypnotically
implant Channing Tatums butt in my brain.
He backtracks one step to the preparation women go through and calls upon
our good friend Liz Everett to describe her typical routine. Just as I knew she
would, she gives a very abstract, spiritual answer about portraying herself as
Pocahontas or a Goddess in hopes of finding her masculine counterpart.
Hypnotica: Now give us your Snooki version. The room erupts with laughter.
Liz: I dunnoI bejewel my vajayjay.
Hypnotica: Im MUCH more comfortable with that answer.
Next is a little exercise he entitled Two steps from Hell that involves listening
to music you associate with power and aggression, breathing heavily and
embracing the entire physical sensation of being in that state. Repetition over
time will be required to memorize it, but once accomplished, transitioning to that
same state (whether it be for work, exercise, etc.) will be quick.
And right then, while my mind is slightly distracted by how easy it would be to
toy with the high-testosterone vibe, Eric does it.
Theres a model I think helps. He draws an invisible dart board on the wall,
implying that the three rings represent the intensity of a topic. The outer ring is
cold, like small talk. The middle is medium. And the center is the hot, spicy,
sexually sparklicious stuff you REALLY are thinking about.
What better way for a male instructor to teach the sexual escalation of verbal
game than by calling upon an attendee to volunteer and proceeding to gaze into
his eyes while you blurt out an improvised chat, full of innuendos?
Another voice asks for a demo with an actual female and the pause that follows
is almost as amusing when every man in the room realizes just how rare of a
commodity women are at the event. Every dudes face seemed to ask the same
question: Where do I put my penis?
In a place filled with sudden confusion, the ideal heroine swoops in and saves
the day Super Sarah Ann the Wonder-Woman-equivalent and modelesque
wing girl master for ABCs of Attraction.
Their unrehearsed chat flows pretty smoothly considering she looks like
helpless prey while sitting dead center in a crowd of horny men. But thenEric
pushes the topic into the erotic No Mans Land where few dare to trek. Sarahs
voice begins to touch on that feminine uncertainty you encounter while flirting.
Its a unique concoction of playfulness and precaution women emit in their
tonality when you first get into the personal subjects.
The demo ends and Sarah scampers back to her seat in the rear of the room
with blushed cheeks. I make sure to take a mental snapshot so Im able to
elaborate when editing this later and wait for her amusing reaction.
Eric summarizes what just took place. I believe in putting a woman on the spot.
Most of you guys are holding on [to the conversation] like youre on a Bronco
waiting to be bucked off.
His analogy of speakers helps classify the various voices heard to the base, the
mids and the tweeters. Ever been in a room where everyones speaking in
their mids or tweets? Its fucking annoying. I hear the word resonate in
throughout the speech, which also frequently pops up in his products.
Then he goes through the what/why/when/where/how list of characteristics,
behaviors, values, beliefs and attitudes one wishes to have by asking yourself
the right questions.
By asking who else do you affect in the big picture? he wraps it all in one big
bow. It mirrors that utopian philosophy depicted in the film Pay It Forward,
where one favor received, results in three more given.
If you go on my website, theres plenty of free shit, but I want this to go out
because its important and take some time to do thisbecause if you dont give
yourself a solid vision, a map of where you wanna go, theres more to ita lot
of guys are afraid of getting beat up and rejectedpick up is the best form of
self-improvement I think there is.
Hopefully some of these seeds went in. As he wraps up, he mentions his new
book, Metawhore , that Ive been meaning to get a copy of so I make sure to
snag the last one later.
HYPNOTICA
**NOTE: Since my interview with Hypnotica (Eric) was done via Skype, the
structure of the questions may be slightly different. As an added bonus,
however, you may listen to our longer interview, which gives some insightful
perspectives about self-improvement, here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?
v=s_VlfHAajOY
ME: As far as what you saw (in Ken Hoinskys writing), did you see anything
controversial?
ERIC: No, I think its a matter of what guys need to do. Getting laid for a man is
a chore. Getting laid for a woman is a choice. If you wanna see what its
actually like to be a guy, go out on a corner, hold one of those signs, that say
Will You Give Me Money? or Please Help Me and see how that feels because
thats the exact feeling most guys have when they approach a woman.
Unfortunately, women dont understand that aspect of it. Guys have to learn
these skills. If they dont, theyre gonna become lonely.
ME: Thats an interesting concept regarding holding the street sign because
many guys, who do an approach incorrectly, come off as needy, much like a
homeless person complimenting you because they want your money.
ERIC: Its the same thing because women have the power. But, men also have
the power if they dont give a shit, because its a numbers game no matter what.
Yeah, were going to stumble, were going to fall, but were doing it to educate
ourselves, unlike caveman days where wed hit em over the head and dragged
them off!
ME: In times like this, regardless of the arguments from critics, do you think its
important for dating coaches to come forward and advocate on behalf of their
clients, who are unfairly under fire for simply wanting to better themselves?
ERIC: No, I dont think its important for the coaches to speak at all because
people are going to have their opinions, women arent going to be swayed, the
feminists are not going to change, and theyre going to find their little angle.
There are just people out there who want to look for shit to bitch about. We
could bitch about womentheyre lying to us when they put on make-up. We
dont even know what they look like! Do you hear us whining? No! I like to say
its like a YouTube video. I saw a video where a guy was in his boat, and there
was a whale. And the whale was trapped in a net. The guy actually jumped out
of the boat and he cut the whale free from the net. About 2,000 people liked the
video, yet there were 200 people who hated it and thought it was a bad video.
There are just assholes in the world in this day and age. If youre doing good,
its gonna come back to you. Its just the golden rule.
ME: Do you think critics can help the more misogynistic coaches bring their
teachings back to a more realistic level, or help us address the common
stereotypes which may have some truth to them?
ERIC: To me its going to come down to the individual. When youre trying to
group anything together, its going to sound ignorant.
ME: Are there any ideas or perspectives you may have for the Pick Up World to
evolve?
ERIC: Its hard for me to say because I dont consider myself a part of the
community even though I teach at these things. I was around before the book
[The Game] came out and we didnt call it Pick Up. We called it learning to
become a better man. The community came around because the book was
labeled, and I think it was labeled wrong. This is a Mens Movement to better
educate themselves about social dynamics. So when you put the term around
it, as youre a Pick Up Artist, you just identified yourself. Thats your identity a
pick up artist. Youre not a human being trying to educate himself, youre a pick
up artist. Its a component of it, but its not the whole thing. And if you look
around, where are the people now? You dont see the same websites. Theyre
not pitching the same stuff. Why? Because the money is gone. Some made
some money because they marketed okay, but now look and every Tom, Dick
and Harry is a pick up artist. To me, its getting more mainstream. There are
pick up artists I know that are psychos! There are pick up artists I know that are
unconventional. There are pick up artists I know that are right on track. When
people give me shit, I tell them If you can find anything thats misogynistic in
what I do, Ill give you a $1,000 bucks! and they never want to take the
challenge because they already have their preconceived ideas about what it is.
In 20 years of educating men on this subject, Ive never had a guy say Hey, I
wanna rape a chick. Ive never had a guy say Hey, I wanna manipulate a chick
into bed. Most guys I talk to just wanna better themselves.
ME: I agree. And I definitely have a compassion for these guys I meet who get
out of break-ups and want to play it safe without taking a risk, even if that risk
isnt in anyway life-threatening.
ERIC: But thats not completely true, because it is life-threatening. Ive known
five guys, probably in my entire life, who have killed themselves over a woman.
She broke up with him, they didnt have the skills, they became lonely, and they
killed themselves. So it is a life and death thing to me and if you dont have an
unconscious competence, then what are you gonna do? You gonna sit there
and just play Nintendo all day?
ME: So would it be an accurate interpretation to say that you feel that the
amount of acceptance Pick Up gets will remain the same because the general
percentage of society who actually makes a difference in their own lives also
remains the same?
ERIC: Yeah, Id say so. Its only going to get more people because as more
people around the world tap into this era of educating themselves online, its
only going to snowball into a bigger, better affect.
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Labeled The Inner Game Guru, Eric Von Sydow, aka Hypnotica, first attracted
mainstream attention when he was featured in Neil Strausss bestselling book
The Game. Since then he has been featured in The New York Times,
Cosmopolitan, USA Today, The San Diego Reader, and has made guest
appearances on Playboy Radio. He is also a featured lecturer in the Double
Your Dating, Power Sexuality, and Body Language programs.
As a mind scientist, Eric has created a vast range of techniques and strategies
that help men and women take their relations with each other beyond
conventional expectations. Through his products, seminars, and private
consultations, he has inspired men around the world to reevaluate themselves
and follow a pathway better suited to their inner man.
Check out his website here: www.hypnotica.org
NLP Techniques: Aligning Neurological
Levels
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The Idea:
Aligning Neurological Levels, or the Aligned Self Pattern is one of my very favorite
NLP patterns, because it can be a whole intervention in itself. It is based on the work of
Robert Dilts, who discovered that people operate at different levels at different times,
and when these levels are out of alignment with each other, people not only feel stuck,
they are perceptibly stuck.
Like the Circle of Excellence, this pattern works extremely well both with individuals
and in groups. This pattern is good for both remedial and generative work.
The Pattern:
Lay down 6 cards or coins about 1 step apart on the floor extending out in front of the
explorer.
Each one of the cards will be spatially anchored as follows:
Think of the times and places where you will want and need to be as congruent and
resourceful as possible.
Think of another time and place where you will want and need these resources.
Now, take a step forward into the next space, and think of all the behaviors you will
need to achieve your outcome... your state, your thoughts and attitude, your posture
and breathing, the way you speak and move.
Now, take a step forward into the next space, and think of all the resources, skills,
knowledge, people, information, strengths and abilities you will need to achieve your
outcome...
Make sure these resources are ecologically sound... good.
Now, take a step forward and imagine the kinds of beliefs and values that serve you in
achieving your outcome.
Take a moment to state those positive beliefs to yourself and notice how they support
you in achieving your outcome.
Take a moment to organize your values so that first things come first... good.
Now, take a step forward to notice how well who you are aligns with your pursuit and
achievement of your outcome.
Take a moment to more perfectly align your identity with this pursuit... good... that's it.
Now, take a final step into the realm of the eternal. Reflect on the positive legacy your
contributions have left for mankind and posterity.
Take a moment to experience how that will look, sound and feel to have done
something positive for others, and allow that experience to soak in, now.
Now, turn around 180 degrees and face the direction you came.
Take a moment now to reflect on how this highest purpose and intent can inform,
modulate and enlighten all other aspects of your life.
Now take a step forward, and having experienced the eternal perspective, notice now
how your identity has been deeply shaped in powerful ways.
Take a moment to project how this more powerful you will engage in the world.
Now take a step forward, and having updated what it means to be you now, notice how
your beliefs and values are informed, revised, updated and aligned naturally and easily.
Notice how easily it is to recognize and place first things first. Now imagine how those
important things will easily get done, and how the less important things can also get
done in due time.
Notice how confident you feel that you are also doing the right things.
Now take a step forward, and having updated and revised your priorities, values and
beliefs, notice how your learning is accelerated, focused on what you'll need when
you'll need it.
Notice also how your confidence and competence have also grown up side-by-side and
how they support each other. Notice yourself in a flow state, enjoying being good at
what you do now.
Now take a step forward, and see yourself as a detached observer, performing with
confidence and competence those new skills and capabilities, and notice how your
thoughts, emotions, posture, breathing, expression, speech, motions, decisions are all
enhanced and perfected.
And now just step into that experience as yourself and see, hear and feel yourself
doing these things as naturally, smoothly and easily as you saw your self when
detached... good.
Finally, take a last step forward, and bring all of these new resources, skills, powers into
real-projected future places and times. See yourself doing everything fully congruent in
these situations, notice what day and time it is, what you are wearing, who is present,
and just feel great!
When to Use this Pattern:
Do try this exercise, it comes highly recommended. NLP Comprehensive also favors
this exercise during their integration week at the end of Practitioner training, and for
good reason!
Credits:
Robert Dilts
Spinning Feelings
Spinning feelings is a set of simple, quick and efficient techniques that can be used to
deal with a wide range of personal issues. There are some variants, but Ill focus one I
like and have used a lot. The basic idea is this. You focus your attention on a feeling in
the body, discover how it rotates, then pretend to move it out of the body, switch the
direction of the rotation and finally put it back in the same place again. The point with
this trick is that the feeling cannot be entirely still it must move in some way or it
would attenuate. But since it cant rotate in two opposite directions at once, the old
pattern is interrupted and the feeling disappears.
Im not entirely sure who came up with this idea to begin with, but Ive seen
descriptions in similar terms in various places. Although it may have older roots, I first
learned it from a video taped seminar with Richard Bandler. The other parts and details
in the description below are mostly what Ive arrived at from my own experience. So
the following is a step by step description of the method Ive used.
o If you find it difficult to get back to the old bad feelings, you may try to
remember some specific bad events. You may also try to relive them in your
mind as you experienced them when they first occurred, i.e. as if you were
actually there again.
Now you will likely experience an unpleasant feeling somewhere in your body. Close
your eyes and focus on that feeling.
o After a while you will most likely notice that the feeling is moving around in
some cyclical fashion, as if rotating along a path.
o If it is difficult to find the direction in which it is rotating, you may try to very
gently spin it in various directions and try to notice if one of them seems right,
as if the feeling will tend to keep spinning in that direction even if you stop
nudging it.
o Once youve found a rotational cycle that seems stable, imagine moving it out
of the body.
o Now flip the plane of rotation half way around so that the feeling spins in the
opposite direction.
o When youve got it spinning in the other direction, put it back in the same
place in your body again.
The pattern is broken.
o Since the feeling cant spin both ways simultaneously, the pattern is broken
and the feeling disappears.
o Sometimes after dissolving the first rotating feeling, you may discover another
place in the body where there is another one. Then repeat the process.
o When you are finished with the technique, open your eyes and remain still for
a while.
o If you now think back upon the event youve worked on you will likely notice
that your feelings are entirely different, less unpleasant. Often one remembers
more positive circumstances and details that were previously overshadowed by
the dominating bad feeling. This can sometimes be an opportunity to reflect
on the experience and learn something that one hadnt thought of before.
o Ive often found that in this situation it is relatively easy to forgive what
someone has done, that life or the world in general has been awful or perhaps
yourself for having done something stupid.
A few details
When one tries to detect how the rotational pattern of the feeling is shaped and how it is
moving, one might sometimes notice that it is a bit uneven in shape, and that the tempo
varies in different parts of the cycle and so on. When Ive changed the direction of
movement in those cases, I have usually tried to not only flip the rotational plane. Ive
also tried to reshape the new pattern a bit so that it is mainly the direction of the rotation
that has changed, while the rotational cycle and tempo in its various parts are still fairly
maintained. Please note, though, that it should not primarily be a visual representation
one is working with, but an actual feeling of something moving. That is, even though it
may easily also become visual if one is prone to using inner images, it is the feeling that
is the important part, so make sure you get that right.
During several of the first times I did these things, I usually found one particular
direction of movement to be quite common for me; so on the rare occasions when a spin
in a different direction occurred, it was often harder for me to figure out just how the
feeling was moving.
On such occasions it may be helpful to remind one self of the different directions that
are possible. Usually the feeling moves in one of three planes; a vertical plane going
either forward-backward or left-right through the body; or a horizontal plane. Of course,
the spin may be in both directions in those planes, and sometimes the plane may even be
a bit slanted. Sometimes, it may initially seem to move all over the place, but if one is
patient and waits a bit, Ive found that it usually stabilises into one fairly simple cycle
after a short while.
As mentioned one might sometimes discover more places where there is a small feeling
after taking care of the first main one. For my part, Ive usually only found one or a
couple more for each separate thing Ive been thinking back on and working with.
Ive also tried to make sure in advance to be well rested and alert, and not to have eaten
just prior, since if one is full of food and digestion is in full swing, it may become
difficult to distinguish the often quite subtle feelings one is looking for.
The last part about forgiving should not be glossed over. In fact, it can serve as a good
indication of whether the process worked to resolve the issue fully. If one finds that the
same thing keeps popping up again long afterwards and still carries emotional charge,
and is hard to really forgive, there is probably more work to be done with the issue or
some aspects thereof
I suspect that when one uses this technique, one might tend to enter a slight hypnotic
state or something like a light trance. As far as I understand, while in such a state, one
looses some of ones faculties of critical thinking and may become more susceptible to
impressions. Therefore, I assume that it could be a good idea to avoid impressions for a
while afterwards, perhaps take an undisturbed walk or get a snack, while it wears off.
Going to specific places aids clearer recall and connection to feelings. As proficiency is
gained, and especially if one runs out of particular places to go, one may use a more
general, but similar approach. In general things that are or have in the past been
emotionally charged are probably things that may be useful to deal with, be they health
issues, personal weaknesses, loss of loved ones, unhappy love, annoyances in politics or
what ever. It might be a good idea to keep a scrap of paper to jot down ideas of possible
issues as they pop up, and then deal with them later on as one gets some free time. Id
like to point out that in my experience the saying that time heals all wounds is very
wrong. The wounds do not heal. Rather they may be compared to archaeological finds.
They just get covered with dust and eventually forgotten. But in most cases they are still
there, and I think that on some level and in some way they still cause some pain
although one isnt conscious of it.
I had used the technique a few times without going anywhere in particular first. But
while taking a walk during early summer, I happened to pass the hospital where my
father passed away due to cancer about 15 years ago. Since such a long time had passed,
I thought that I had gotten over it by now. But this time I felt noticeably down, bothered
and a bit sad, and it was almost as if a veil came before my eyes. When I got home, for
some reason I decided to go back again and try the spinning technique in that particular
place.
A week or two later I got away to do it. I sat down outside the hospital and did
something similar to what is described above. I found it easy to detect the feeling. It was
like an obvious rotation forward in my chest, but it was easy to dissolve using the
technique. After a while I found a few more minor feelings to deal with. After that I
remained there for a while, thinking about all the things that had happened there, but
now without the negative feelings. Going home I felt very relieved and peaceful. I was
also very happy that it had worked so well, and thought that I should try it out in a few
more places. By now Ive done it quite a number of times during a period of several
months, with very good results.
When it concerns a specific location, such as a small hospital or a house where one has
lived, its easy to know where to go. But Ive also for example gone to a college
campus. Such a place, of course, has a lot of spread out areas where one may have spent
a lot of time during some years of studying. In these cases I went there two to three
times, with a week or more in-between. On each occasion, I would walk around for an
hour or two, sitting down here and there, trying to remember some negative events to
handle. On occasion, I would literally in passing discover negative emotions that I at
first couldnt associate with any particular memory, but after dealing with them I usually
realised what might have been the cause. These were relatively minor things and
happened long ago, but still carried some remaining negative charge until now.
Most times that Ive made these small excursions the results have been positive right
away, and in these cases it has been an entirely positive experience to finally be able to
really put various things behind me. Occasionally, though, Ive felt blue for a few days
or a week or so. After all, even if the old emotions are handled, it may be saddening to
be reminded of factual circumstances about things that didnt go as one wanted, or when
something one had worked hard on for a long time didnt work out, things that might
still affect ones life. And even if one doesnt experience temporarily worse mood due to
something like that, I suspect that there may surface some things to process and
reconsider. Therefore I have usually let at least a week, often two, pass between
sessions. Ive also usually tried to get a lot of sleep, especially the first few days
afterwards.
In the beginning it was sometimes hard for me to get out and do these things when I had
planned to, especially if it was some place that I felt uncomfortable going to. But then I
would bribe myself into going, by treating myself to some nice food or some other
reward afterwards. Over time it became easier though, partly because I was already
done with the hardest things, and partly because I really learned to appreciate the
positive results.
Some times I also saw a possible connection to so called chakras, which at the time I
didnt really know much about. But as I was starting to run out of ideas of places to go
and try to deal with particular bad experiences, the connection became quite clear, and
since then Ive done a little reading and experimented with it so Ive added some new
pages with brief introductions to the subject of chakras as well as the related
phenomenon of the so called kundalini as well as a few more exercises that may be
useful in chakra balancing for those that share such experiences.
Comments are welcome, especially if there is something that is unclear or hard to
understand in the text. But I do get a lot of bots spamming me, so if its not obvious that
its a relevant comment, I might not let it through.
If you missed Austin, Magnus will be in Las Vegas in March 2007 teaching the very same
workshop.
-Tribulus
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The following is a review of the Inner Game Tapping Workshop done by Magnus of Bristol Lair.
Before I went, I asked Dimitry if I could write a review of the workshop and he said I could,
otherwise you would not be reading this.
Disclaimer:
This is not for everyone. Tapping is a New Agey thing that takes away you negative beliefs and
negative emotions through a process of tapping the fingers over meridian points. It is loosely
based around the concepts of Chinese Medicine.
If you disagree with the premise behind words on a computer screen, you don't have to keep
reading. Just click the back button on your browser and go back to the main message board.
I will only express my own opinions and I make no claim of expertise nor do I fully endorse the
method.
Saturday
We met Magnus at a Club House in Austin. GameTrane of the Austin Society lives in the same
appartment complex.
So several of the members of the Austin Society were present. It was nice to see some of these
guys again.
I had met them almost a year ago. I recognized some faces. These guys are still some of the
coolest guys I've met since I've been in the Game.
We also had some Austin Sociey guys who are part of the Dallas Lair there too. So its all good.
Magnus described some of the basics and philosophy behind Tapping or EFT (Emotional
Freedom Techniques).
Basically, its like people hold negative emotions in their bodies. If you've ever felt fear on
approach, or felt anger in your midsection or had the "butterflies".
This is the type of muscular tension and relaxation we are describing.
Negative emotions are stored in the nervous system. Whenever similar situation occurs, the
negative emotion is triggered as well. Sometimes these can persist in absence of the thing that
originally set off the emotion. These can manifest also themselves as negative beliefs as the
brain makes connections that X=pain or will lead to pain.
Magnus made the analogy of imagining a picture on a wall. If we are told it is a boat, then we
can accept this. If we are then told that its not a boat but a car, then we can easily accept the
change as well.
But if we have some emotion associated to that imagine, then we are less likely to accept the
change.
Somehow the brain thinks that it is more important to hold onto the other image.
So beliefs work in the same way and are sometimes in our way.
Even though the community helps us to change our behaviors, we are doing little to affect the
negative beliefs and associations in our nervous systems.
Thus we cannot break through to the lives we truely desire.
Tapping changes the feelings associated to ideas. In effect, it resets the nervous system to not
react. Where once the nervous energy got trapped as a standing wave, it is now free. The idea
can be expressed freely.
Its analogous to the picture that I told you was a car. Its now waterfall. You can make this
change in your mind because your brain does not believe your life depends on that picture
being a car.
This is my poor man's explanation of Tapping, belief systems and negative emotional energy.
For more on this, please visit www.innergametapping.com and www.emofree.com.
We did around 100 rounds of this on Saturday, starting with basic self acceptance ideas,
tapping on how we felt, describing our emotions and experiences.
Convincer
Just before lunch, I started to get hungry. Normally when this happens, I'll go eat. Since we
couldn't leave, we tried tapping it away. To my suprise, it worked. My hunger was the result of
some nervous energy.
When we actually did go to lunch, I was not really that hungry. I did eat anyway.
So it did work.
Oneitis Resolved
Then after lunch, we were going over what stops you from being the man you really want to
be?' ' What stops you from being proud of yourself?'
My thoughts drifted to a oneitis girl. Then another. Then another. Finally I came to the girl that
brought me into the community. My "one that got away".
I began to get hot for some reason. My whole body heated up as if I had a fever. My stomach
was queezy and I felt like I wanted to vomit.
Deeper and deeper we went....I kept bringing up situations in my mind in which I was
interacting with her and not proud of myself. In the past, I would see when she got me into a
sport and how I tried to beat her at it or how when she would throw signals at me, I would
ignore them.
All of this made me uncomfortable. The emotions were definitely welled up somewhere in my
mind.
Magnus kept going. At one point I think he saw me. He said "Some of you look aweful, I am
going to keep going." And he did.
I felt myself getting really hot again and we took a break.
I told him I had a fever and I might have to leave. He thought about it and I could tell he
thought it might be the tapping.
We did an exercise to open the Chakras. And it didn't go away immediately, but later the heat
and the queeziness disappeared.
I am very grateful for this particular thing. I went from feeling like she was the reason I had to
become a PUA to feeling like I am free from a horrible oneitis experience.
If you've ever had a crush on someone, you know how painful it can be.
This was a really good for me. Another way of looking at this is that I was using energy to keep
this feeling going. I kept feeling upset about it. Think how much emotional currency I have to
spend to keep feeling bad about someone or some situation.
Its better to let it go. Which is what I did.
We also did an eye contact exercise, being in a great state in the field and approach anxiety on
Saturday.
Sunday
Sunday was much like Saturday but we talked about and tapped "your ideal girl" and what
stops you from being with her. We did a really cool exercise with this.
We talked about and tapped your turn offs with the girls you meet.
We tapped on our negative feelings towards women. Particularly oneitis's, ex-'s, girlfriends,
friends, mothers. Since I had already experienced alot of this on Saturday, my mind searched
for other girls I had known in my life.
We talked briefly about uncomfortable feelings around sex and also did some tapping on
success and what is stopping you from being the guy you want to be.
Overview
To those who missed this workshop, you missed a great opportunity to get in touch with your
inner game. At one point, Magnus had a drawing on a dry-erase board and on it was a man and
a woman.
Arrows coming from her represented negative beliefs that you have. Arrows going to her
represented your natural game.
Other arrows represented "community acquired" skills.
Interesting to me was his philosophy was that the arrows representing negative beliefs would
eventually mess up your game and that the community skills did not outweigh them in the end.
In other words, getting your "house" in order is more important than running game. Wow.
And you can still work on the community skills. So why not clear up any issues you have first?
I would suggest that you take this workshop. It is eye-opening and original and can do nothing
but help. It is a little new-agey. But its definitely worth it.
Tribulus