WOUNDED BY VIOLENCE: PSYCHOSOCIAL HEALING IN SRI LANKA
By Gethsie Shanmugam 2017 Ramon Magsaysay Awardee
Presented at the 59th Ramon Magsaysay Awards Lecture Series
4 September 2015, Manila, Philippines
In 1987, armed with a permit from the Governments Ministry of
Defence, I went into the war zone to work. Since the escalation of hostilities between the Sri Lanka government and separatist militants groups in the early 1980s, both conventional and guerrilla warfare claimed thousands of lives. The separatists were fighting for an independent Tamil homeland in the north and east of Sri Lanka, and for most of the war held large portions of this territory. Having joined Save the Children Norway (also known as Redd Barna) to work with children and women affected by the war, I had the rare opportunity to travel back and forth across the frontline that divided the warring parties. The war was taking a terrible toll on the population. Death and destruction, injury and disability, were all too common as a direct result of attacks, shelling, landmines and bombing. People in the conflict-
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affected areas endured shortages in basic facilities, disruption of services like education or health, destruction of livelihoods, and also faced the fragmentation and erosion of community ties as conflict dispersed families and introduced fear and mistrust between neighbours. Women, children and men all bore the psychological and social consequences of these experiences in the short medium and long term, although in different ways. From the time I started working in this field until now, I have been continuously searching for ways to better support the healing of the hearts and minds that are hurt so deeply by violence. Given the sad reality of wars and conflicts around the globe today, this is a search that many of us across our different nations are engaged in. We need to work together to exchange knowledge and learn from one another, if we are to keep moving forward. Throughout my career, I learned so much from friends and colleagues who had worked in other contexts in Asia and Africa. My talk today is to share some of my experiences of work in Sri Lanka with you all, in case that this might help you and others in responding to the conflicts in other settings. I will focus on a specific area of work: supporting women who had been widowed by the conflict, and their children. In the late 1980s there were a number of reports that came to us of how many men from the villages in the north and east of the country been killed in massacres or were missing after abduction. In one night, 101 men had been killed in two villages in the district of Vavuniya. In Mullaitivu district, a young field worker reported that 21 men from her village had been killed overnight. In the East of Sri Lanka, we learned of over 1700 killings of men and hundreds more who were disappeared. When we looked into these deaths, we found that the consequences for the families left behind were enormous. For women who lost their spouses, in addition to the grief and other powerful emotions associated
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with these brutal killings, they also experienced challenge of having support their children emotionally and take on the full burden of maintaining the family in a social environment that stigmatised them and where they were also vulnerable to direct violence and exploitation. In the communities of the North and East Sri Lanka, widows were seen as inauspicious, so were not welcome at events such as weddings and other celebrations, and were also subject to other social restrictions that were very oppressive and marginalising of these women, especially those who were still young. Trying to respond to the situation of these women, we quickly realised that we had to be very careful to develop an approach that did not be counter-productive. Even though these women were very vulnerable and struggling with life, we did not want our actions to reinforce an experience of being passive recipients of assistance. We had to be there for them, but we did not want to ignore for underestimate the windows dormant potential. We did not want to create dependency on either side: the widows should not grow dependent on the support they would receive this, nor should our support system become too attached to the widows crisis situation. The success and sustainability of the program depends on striking a balance between extending support and guiding them to be self-reliant. We realise that our program had to build people, rather than only livelihoods and houses. Our approach was to integrate psychosocial support, what my colleague Elizabeth Jareg called Basic Therapeutic Actions, into practical activities that were a priority for the women. After an initial assessment, the windows were encouraged and invited to drop in at our office to register with the program. It soon became very clear that they were more interested in having someone listen to them then collecting the rations that were being distributed as relief. Simultaneously our staff collected independent information about the
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widows and their families from the local government officials. We needed to train our staff to be able to support the windows using our new and evolving approach. Although we started with an intensive training, we continue to provide on the job guidance and capacity building, in response to the needs of the program. We selected young women from the very villages in which we worked to be trained to do this work. Once the supporters, as we called them, had completed their initial training, they began to visit the homes of the widows, on a very regular basis. This allowed them to build a rapport with the women and also the rest of the family. After every visit supporters came back to the office and discussed the widows experience and the situation within each family with a more experienced colleague. Each widows life and situation was unique, and the support is required constant guidance from each other and from their supervisor as they work with the women and their families. Remember, the supporters were not professionally trained counsellors. However, they received guidance and input from more experienced persons and this is where I sometimes had to step in to provide direct support to women or children, and then followed up in person or sometimes through the supporters. Regular meetings of small groups of the widows were held in each village. During these meetings they started planning income generation projects. They discussed what each woman could do and the feasibility of the ideas they had. Even as they worked on the practical and urgent issue of generating income for their families, we organised a different kind of gathering for them. We brought the women together for listening sessions. The group was divided into 10 pairs of women, and they were encouraged to share about themselves with their partners. Then they were formed into small groups of four and the exchanges continued. The supporters and the
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facilitator interacted closely with the women during this process encouraging them to speak freely and supporting them when they felt overwhelmed emotionally. The process was very powerful, and a feeling of camaraderie set in. Many women said that they had never before been able to confide their problems to anyone else. They also recognise themselves not only as people with sadness and problems to share, but also as people with the capacity to listen to others and comfort them. We recognise that the womens distress sometimes created problems for their ability to communicate with others. We facilitated half day sessions for women to share in a supportive environment, and also to offer peer support to one another solving practical problems, giving each other emotional support and sharing resources amongst themselves. The sessions really led to women no longer feeling helpless, as collectively they were able to make and put into action plans that they could not envisage as individuals. Of course there were some women who did not want to work in a group, as they could not trust the others. As the groups evolved, we provided them with more skills training in line with their plans. We encourage them to build on existing skills and interesting opportunities. The supporters help carry out feasibility study for the business plans that the women want to implement. The groups became an important source informal emotional support and friendship for the women. Where women individual problems that could not be addressed in the group, the supporters would connect them with more experienced members of the team could come in for special assistance and would guide the supporters in their day to day assistance. We also recognise that women often had challenges relating to their childrens problems. We were working with the children of these women separately at first, and then facilitating interactions between mothers and children to share respective problems feelings. The program was able to ease some of these challenges.
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There was also separate work done with the children of the widows. On one hand, there were targeted activities to help these children express and address the emotions, relationship and social issues that they faced. Equally importantly, they were involved with other children in their village through child-focused clubs and participatory processes that supported their socialisation and integration. We also worked with key adults in the community, like village officials, teachers and principals of schools to ensure that these children were not discriminated against because of their status, and that they had continued access to education and other services. What worked about the approach that we evolved to work with widows and their families was that it was developed in response to the needs that they had. It tried to build on existing capacities of the women, children and communities, using the external resources as a support to these or where more specialised skills were required. This kept the costs of the programme low, ensured sustainability in a very uncertain rural environment and most importantly ensured the activities were centred around the local actors not external professionals. As far as the approach to psychosocial support went, influenced greatly by Elizabeth Jaregs idea of Basic Therapeutic Actions, the program recognised that the practical and material problems in peoples lives were as central to their psychosocial wellbeing as their emotions and traumatic experiences, and indeed that these were often connected to each other. By addressing both the external and inner worlds of the widows, and also integrating therapeutic elements into practical actions so that they served both purposes. Elizabeth Jared has described the Basic Therapeutic Actions approach as involving the use of eclectic activities with therapeutic effects, and says they should ideally have the following characteristics: Be rooted in the community; that is, worked out, implemented and
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evaluated in cooperation with a particular community, involving resourceful persons from within and outside the community. Be developed through reliable relationships with groups, families and sometimes individuals. Have specific aims. (i.e. to help women to sustain their families economically) Promote personal growth through involvement and trusting relationships, and involve women and children directly wherever possible. Be integrated into other relief and rehabilitation activities. Be low cost and set in motion sustainable processes that involve people emotionally as well as intellectually. The key ingredients in our approach with the widows program were as follows: Developing listening and supportive skills in community workers Enabling women to share their grief and problems Creating supportive networks of Women in a similar situation Making women aware of their own resources and strengths, and showing them respect Guiding the women to recognise their childrens psychosocial Needs Giving Children opportunities talk about the situation and worries Helping children to belong to a supportive peer network and socialisation process Removing or easing administrative and bureaucratic barriers to accessing key services Providing appropriate and sustainable assistance to improve the economic security of the family
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The programs based on this approach ended in early 2000s, when it seemed as though the intensity of the conflict was reducing and there might be hope for peace. Even then, these services met only a proportion of the needs. However, sadly, the final years of the war from 2006-2009 were extremely brutal and created many more widows in the North and East where the war was fought, but also in the rest to the country from where the government soldiers came from. Although the war ended some years ago, the struggles of women who were widowed still continue, as they have not been adequately supported. Transformations for the better seem to take place at a very slow pace. People are discouraged, lose patience and one quick fixes, forgetting that change takes it all time and its own course. I have been encouraged by small groups of people coming together to work within and across communities to offer support. In recent years, I have joined a small group of widows who lost their spouses in the late 1980s in a separate armed insurrection in central Sri Lanka, connecting across ethnic lines with more recently widowed women in North West Sri Lanka, to extend friendship and share experiences. I hope that efforts like this will continue, but also that we will be able to do more to mobilise resources and genuine people to build on our past experience and establish effective programs for the women who are still struggling as heads of their households in post-war communities. Thank you for listening. I hope that the approach I have shared will be of interest to you, as you consider the challenges facing women widowed by conflict and violence in your own countries and communities. I look forward to hearing your thoughts and exchanging views with you in the discussion that will follow.