On Parenting

presented by:
Mercy Grace J. Marjadas
 What is parenting?
Parenting or child
rearing is the
process of
promoting and
supporting the
physical, emotional,
social, and
Parenting refers to the aspects of
intellectual
raising a child aside from the development of a
biological relationship. child from infancy to
adulthood.
 Basic Facts of Parenting
1. HUMAN BEINGS DO
NOT HAVE PARENTAL
INSTINCTS.
2. WHAT WE KNOW
ABOUT PARENTING,
WE LEARNED FROM
SOMEWHERE.
3. WE CAN ALWAYS
LEARN NEW WAYS, IF
WE ARE WILLING TO
TRY.

Having children makes you no more a parent than

having a piano makes you a pianist.
--Michael Levine
 Parenting Myths
1. All parenting skills are instinctive
2. A mature adult can be a perfect
parent.
3. Good parenting guarantees good
children
4. Parenting is always fun
 Parenting and Learning
Parenting and learning are closely related:

Parents provide us with rewards and

punishments that shape our behavior.
Parents are role models for
observational learning.
Parenting Styles
A parenting style is a set of strategies that parents
use to raise their children. Psychologists have
identified 4 main parenting styles.
 Authoritarian Style
Parents
Establish strict rules.
Expect children to always
follow the rules.
Use punishment more than
reinforcement.
Do not discuss rules with
their children, and may not
explain why rules exist.
Might tell children to do
something because I told
you so.
Children
Are not allowed to question
the rules.
Are not encouraged to make
mistakes and solve problems
on their own.
May become hostile or
aggressive towards their
parents because they resent
constant punishment. May
struggle socially.
 Authoritative Style
Parents
Establish strict rules, but
allow situational exceptions
to the rules.
Consider childrens feelings
when creating and enforcing
rules.
Discuss rules with children
so they understand.
Use a combination of
punishment and
reinforcement.
Children
Are expected to follow the
rules, but can question the
rules & discuss them with
parents.
Are encouraged to problem-
solve and make mistakes in
order to learn.
Tend to become responsible
decision-makers.
 Permissive Style
Parents
Have lenient / no rules and
not very much discipline.
May only punish children if
the problem is very serious.
Have a kids will be kids
attitude, and may treat their
kids like friends.
Do not discourage their
children from doing bad
things.
Children
Are allowed to do what they
want.
Grow up with no respect for
authority.
Often struggle academically.
Tend to make poor life
choices because they have
been raised with no
guidance.
 Uninvolved Style
Parents Children
Are neglectful. Grow up with many
May be overwhelmed by responsibilities.
other life problems, and Lack discipline and tend to
ignore their children. make poor life choices.
Often do not know what Often struggle academically.
their children are doing. Grow up not trusting others.
Do not have many rules or Grow up with low self-
expectations because they
esteem.
expect children to raise
themselves.
Other Parenting Styles?
The previous slides list the four classic parenting styles,
but modern psychologists have defined new styles.

An example is Overparenting

Parents are strict (like authoritative) but also involve

themselves in every aspect of their children's lives. They
try to solve their childrens problems for them and clear
obstacles from their childrens paths. (Tiger Mom)
Parenting styles fall
on a continuum
Summary
Effects
 Which type of
parent are you?
Practical Parenting
In the next slides, we will discuss practical advices on
how to raise confident and well-adjusted children.
 Rights vs. Privileges
Rights are things that should never be taken away
from a human being, no matter what they do.
FOOD / WATER
SHELTER / CLOTHING
MEDICAL CARE

Privileges are special things that can be taken away

from us, dependent on our behavior.
Quite simply...
Everything else is a privilege.
 What you do matters

Parents are important role models for

their children, who learn how to behave
by watching mom and dad.
 You cannot be too loving

There is no such thing as "too much"

love. Remember that material
possessions or lack of rules and limits
is not the same thing as love.
 Be involved in your childs life

Parenting involves a lot of

responsibility. "Being an involved parent
takes time and is hard work, and it
often means rethinking and rearranging
your priorities. It frequently means
sacrificing what you want to do for what
your child needs to do. Be there
mentally as well as physically.
 Adapting your parenting
to fit your child
The age of a child can greatly affect how
he or she behaves. Know what behavioral
changes are normal and help support
them in their personal growth and
development.
 Establish and set rules

When a child is younger, it's important to

help manage his behavior, which teaches
him how to manage himself. "If you don't
manage your child's behavior when he is
young, he will have a hard time learning
how to manage himself when he is older
and you aren't around."
 Foster your childs
independence
Boundaries for children are important.
"Setting limits helps your child develop a
sense of self-control. Encouraging
independence helps your child develop a
sense of self-direction. To be successful in
life, he's going to need both."
 Be consistent

Set rules and be consistent in applying

them. "If your rules vary from day to day
in an unpredictable fashion or if you
enforce them only intermittently, your
child's misbehavior is your fault, not his."
 Avoid harsh discipline

Physical discipline is never an option.

"Children who are spanked, hit, or
slapped are more prone to fighting with
other children. They are more likely to be
bullies and more likely to use aggression
to solve disputes with others.
 Explain your rules and
decisions
Have clear expectations that are age-
appropriate and make sure they are clear
to the child in a way he understands.
 Treat your child with respect

Treat children with respect and they will

learn to respect others, including their
parents. "The best way to get respectful
treatment from your child is to treat him
respectfully."
 A-Zs of Parenting
Accept your child for the wonderful person he or
she is
Be a good role model in all you say and do.
Communicate respectfully and listen attentively
to your child.
Discipline fairly, firmly and with love
Encourage good eating habits
Find ways to get and stay fit together
Give chores that built responsibility
 A-Zs of Parenting

Hug your child to build self-worth

Instill respect for other people
Join PTMs and other school activities to assess
childs progress
Keep your promise or do not make them
Laugh together and enjoy each others company
Make family rules and enforce them consistently
 A-Zs of Parenting

Never Use physical force on your child

Offer your help whenever its needed
Praise your child for achievements as well as
for efforts
Quickly stop your child from harmful activities.
Read together often and make reading fun
Show patience and remember nobody is perfect
 A-Zs of Parenting
Teach health and safety rules.
Use every opportunity to show your love
Value your childs thoughts and opinion
Xerox and save records of your childs
achievements
You can make a difference in your childs
life.so parent with pride.
Zoom over this ABC again and again.
 The Rewards of Parenting
Good parenting fosters healthy psychological
adjustment and it promotes positive behaviors and
attributes Good parenting also helps deter children
from antisocial behaviors, drug and alcohol abuse,
anxiety, depression, and eating disorders.
 PARENTS PLEDGE
I Promise
I will show my children I LOVE them.
I will listen and value what my children say.
I will praise my childs efforts towards
accomplishment.
I will respect my children as individuals.
And..
I will enjoy with my children everyday.
HAPPY PARENTING!!!