Difficult Women The actor has built a career, and a passionate fan base, playing supporting roles; now, at 60, she has become an unconventional star.
By JORDAN KISNER
OCT. 3, 2017
At 7 p.m. in Paris late last year, Frances McDormand
was marching from the Right Bank to the Left at an extraordinary pace. Im practicing my route, she said, speeding off in the wrong direction before stopping short. Which way is the river? she asked, scanning the narrow boulevards snaking in every direction. I pointed left, and she took off so swiftly that I had to run to catch up. When I did, she was cursing under her breath at her faulty inner compass. She has lived most of her life in Manhattan. She likes grids. The route she was practicing began at the Centre Pompidou, where she was performing with the experimental theater company the Wooster Group, of which she has been a member for nearly two decades. It ended at a friends apartment off the Boulevard St.-Germain. The rest of the company was lodged in the Marais, and McDormand had been concerned about the state of their accommodations. She likes to be sure that her co-stars are comfortably situated and has been known to inspect and then personally redecorate cast quarters in advance of their arrival. On one of the Wooster Groups previous Paris tours, the hotel was less than clean, and though no one could call McDormand high maintenance, she has no patience with squalor. Were avant-garde. It doesnt mean we have to be unhygienic. She would be walking home alone after shows, and she doesnt use Google Maps. Her cellphone still has buttons and a hinge. Do you want me to look this up? I asked, reaching for my smartphone, and she responded as if Id reached for the grenade pin. NO! DONT! She shook her head firmly. Then well never learn. She caught a glimpse of the Seine and was gone again.
Thats another great thing about getting older.
Your life is written on your face.
Frances McDormand, or Fran, as she is called in regular
life, cuts a handsome figure on the street. She is 60 and sexy in the manner of women who have achieved total self- possession. She eschews makeup unless she is working, doesnt dye her hair and despises the nips, tucks and lifts that have become routine for women of her profession. Her clothes are well made she loves clothes but utilitarian and comfortable. On this day she was wearing loose-legged cropped pants, black-and-peach sneakers, a navy sweater and a thin headband shoved in and out of uncombed hair as the mood struck. She doesnt do press junkets, and for most of the 20 years since she won a Best Actress Academy Award for playing Marge Gunderson, the tremendously pregnant, improbably cheerful police detective in Fargo, she has refused interviews. Her publicist explained to me that his job is to politely tell people to go away. Frances McDormand
I was never that involved in the machine of press and
publicity as an actor because Ive always kind of worked on the margins of my profession, she explained as we made our way toward the river, reoriented at last. And then when my son was younger and it did get a little bit more intrusive, I tried to come to terms with how I was personally going to handle someone coming up to me on the street and wanting some part of my time. We turned onto the Boulevard de Sbastopol, and the river enlarged itself on the horizon. Now what I do because this is how I live when someone approaches me and says, Can I have your autograph, I say: No, Ive retired from that part of the business. I just act now. She paused in the street. I say: Whats your name? She peered into my eyes and grasped my arm. I touch them. I look at them. I have a real exchange, she said. Im not an actor because I want my picture taken. Im an actor because I want to be part of the human exchange. Just then, a young Frenchwoman walked up to us and said, Fargo? Fargo! Oh, jadore Fargo! It all transpired as McDormand had described: She refused the picture and the autograph but asked the woman what her name was, made extended eye contact and allowed herself to be hugged. The woman was elated. McDormand turned back to me triumphant. See? The exchange.
Over the course of her 36-year career, McDormand has
played women who are attractive but rarely beautiful, magnetic but thorny and, she notes, theyre usually the supporting player in a mans story. To this day she is best known for Marge, but Marge had much less screen time than people remember. Her slightly daffy good-heartedness serves as the foil for the murderous men who occupy most of Fargo. A peculiar number of McDormands early roles were female accessories to men with violent tendencies: the Lois Lane to a disfigured and enraged anti-superhero in Darkman; the brutally beaten wife in Mississippi Burning; the wife of a Korean War veteran who attempts suicide in Chattahoochee. Her first film role was Abby in the Coen brothers noirish debut, Blood Simple. (This was kismet; the Coen brothers, then unknown, went on to create some of McDormands best roles, and she and Joel Coen married.) Abby is a proper ingnue, a young Texan woman with wide eyes and fluffy curls and a habit of softly telling men she loves them when she is afraid they might hurt her. In Blood Simple, McDormand is in her mid-20s, dewy and golden blond, and she seems to occupy brighter, warmer light than anyone else in her scenes. She is addictive to watch, which obscures the fact that, as she pointed out to me, Abby is fairly two- dimensional. The one thing that Ive always been able to offer them is a complexity that fills out an idea they have of something, she said of the Coen brothers in an interview for the Criterion Collections release of Blood Simple in 2016. This ability to suggest a fascinating inner life just out of the viewers reach made McDormands career as a character actress. She takes marginal characters and makes them the most robust people in the movie. So it was with the fierce, Goethe-quoting widow in Almost Famous, who gets a scant few scenes but earned McDormand an Oscar nomination; the hapless gym employee who wants a butt lift in Burn After Reading; the molelike film editor in Hail, Caesar! McDormand explained to me that had she stayed in the theater, she would have played all the canonical leading women, but in Hollywood her looks disqualified her. I was too old, too young, too fat, too thin, too tall, too short, too blond, too dark but at some point theyre going to need the other, she told me. So Id get really good at being the other. Years of hearing this type of thing from casting directors have provoked in her a defiant renunciation of vanity and a deep, though intermittent, self-consciousness. Shell state her weight in a public interview but avoids looking at the monitor when filming. Id much rather not be aware of how fat my ass looks, she said. She wants the work that is given to stars, but she hates to have her photo taken. She doesnt own a full-length mirror. In the last 10 years, something shifted for McDormand: Right as she hit the age when most actresses begin disappearing for lack of roles or moving to the edges of story lines, she moved to first billing. For decades, she excelled at the work of embroidering the lives of women who arent deemed appealing enough to watch for two hours straight, and rather than aging into a different acting type, she has taken it upon herself to put peripheral women at the center. Photo McDormand improvising in TriBeCa in August.
In 2009, she optioned Elizabeth Strouts novel Olive
Kitteridge shortly before it won the Pulitzer Prize. She and a friend, the screenwriter Jane Anderson, embarked on a long adaptation for HBO. She later admitted to me that it made her nervous; she didnt know if she could carry a film, Anderson told me. McDormand kept asking to take Olive out of scenes, to make her a supporting part. I said, Fran, its called Olive Kitteridge! She cant be a side character. Olive Kitteridge is a four-hour peregrination inside one womans life a postmenopausal woman whos not the Queen of England or an aging rock star or a mother suffering picturesquely from dementia, but a starchy middle-school math teacher living in Down East Maine. Olive is furious and uncompromising, agitated by her husband, who is oppressively nice (McDormands words), puzzled and disappointed by her son, ill at ease with emotion and bewildered by social niceties. She burps uncontrollably and spares no one the truth. Shes moral, she cares, but still shes unable to be what the people closest to her need: warm, compromising, wifely, motherly. The project was the first work McDormand ever produced for herself, after a long career in which her only power, as she describes the actors lot, was the power to say no. It was also her first concentrated effort to create a female story that felt as complex as real womens lives. I became interested in educating people in the variety of ways in which women can express their emotion. Which is much easier to do in a large role than in a supporting role to a male protagonist. In general, the women in a supporting role to a male protagonist cry a lot. McDormand insisted on Olives right not to cry and battled the director, Lisa Cholodenko, over whether Olive should break down at several key moments in the series. The women were already comfortable working together. Cholodenko, who directed McDormand in Laurel Canyon (2002), prevailed, pleading that the audience needed an opportunity to feel affection for the character. (McDormand privately made a list for me of which moments of crying were authentically Olive, and which were her doing what she was told.) The balance they struck worked: Olive Kitteridge won eight Emmys in 2015, including the Outstanding Lead Actress in a Limited Series or Movie award for McDormand. This fall, she will be the star of a film featuring another caustic antiheroine, who was written just for her: Mildred in Martin McDonaghs Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri. McDormand plays a mother whose daughter has been raped and murdered, and who has made it her mission to terrorize the local Police Department until they give the case the attention it deserves. Mildred is a difficult character shes violent, sometimes in baffling ways. Shes foulmouthed and enraged, pitiless and a bit demented. She stomps around town in a car mechanics jumpsuit with the back of her head shaved, ready to scorch the earth. McDormand is imposing in the role mostly because of her stillness. Her back is ramrod straight inside her jumpsuit. She doesnt walk; she strides. I really played it like a man, she said. I completely based the character upon John Wayne and John Ford movies, because thats a two-hour arc. Those characters can come out of nowhere, they dont need a lot of background, you dont have to explain why theyre like that, they just are the way they are. McDonagh thought of Mildred more as a Marlon Brando character. We both liked her, he told me, we both loved her, but didnt want to do anything to make her more likable or lovable. For once, we dont have to show the female side or the light side or the nurturing, mothering side. We both said, [expletive] that, were doing something different this time. Whether or not you buy the notion that rage and violence are incompatible with a female side, whether you like the notion that the actors way into Mildred was to play it like a man, theres something surprising about seeing a female protagonist like Mildred. Nothing is done to make her grief soft or even to imply that she was a very good mother in the first place. She isnt made for viewing pleasure or to teach a lesson; shes just there, hurling Molotov cocktails at the world.
One evening after rehearsal with the Wooster Group,
McDormand walked to a cafe across from the Centre Pompidou for a drink with Kate Valk, who was directing the production, and the Wooster Groups founder and director, Elizabeth LeCompte. McDormand intends to die onstage with these women, or so she said over drinks. In 1999, after seeing one of the groups productions, she approached LeCompte to ask if she could join them. She didnt want to accept film jobs that would take her away from her young son. People kept stopping her in the grocery store asking her to do the Fargo accent, and the Wooster Group, a pioneer of avant-garde theater, was appealingly removed from the machine of Hollywood celebrity. I need to work, and I need a home, McDormand said. LeCompte agreed. Early Shaker Spirituals is McDormands favorite of the productions she has done with the group. In it, five of the groups female members (LeCompte, McDormand, Cynthia Hedstrom, Bebe Miller and Suzzy Roche) recreate a field recording of Shaker spirituals made in 1976 at one of the last remaining Shaker colonies, in Maine. These women are not trying to sing pretty, McDormand said. Kate always has to remind me not to make it pleasant. You fail if you try to make a pleasant sound. In rehearsal, as in life, her body is kinetic and restless. The company was brushing up the performance after a long break, and whenever someone made an error, McDormands mouth twisted or her eyes betrayed intense perception and restrained irritation. Throughout rehearsal, she was rapt but funny, keeping one ear tuned toward Valks mood at all times while finding moments to touch or joke with the cast and crew. She was the goody-two-shoes and the class clown wrapped up in one. Whats perfect about the union of the Wooster Group and the Shakers is that both are matriarchal, both are about discipline and rigor and work, McDormand explained to me over drinks with Valk and LeCompte. LeCompte had a glass of Sancerre, McDormand had a glass of viognier and Valk had a smoothie. Its foundation is postmenopausal women. The five of us, Liz being the oldest and in a position of power, and Kate directing us so its six postmenopausal women. And what you gain after menopause is the power of invisibility. You become sexually invisible to both men and women. You gain the power of not giving a [expletive]. And we love the music, Valk added. McDormand nodded, looking pensive. And I love the bonnet. A preposterously muscled young man walked by, and McDormand followed him with her eyes. That physiognomy is part of whats happening with gender equality right now. Men are trying to indicate that they are still marketable procreators its like plumage. Valk agreed. Its like that great documentary on the American wood duck. And all the things that male wood ducks do. The conversation shifted to my presence. LeCompte and Valk were curious about what McDormand had gotten herself into. Are they going to take photographs of you? Valk wanted to know. She turned to me. Is she going to be a cover girl? McDormand made a face. No. No. They never She stopped. Im not a cover-type person. Before anyone could protest, she changed the subject: She thought perhaps a bird had pooped in her wine. She signaled the waiter and caught my eye. Do you think you can tell him that a bird pooped in my wine and Id like a little extra? The waiter arrived. Monsieur, un oiseau a ... I hesitated, forgetting the French verb and realizing too late that the bird had also targeted my phone, which was sitting near her wine. MERDE, McDormand interjected loudly, pointing at her glass. The waiters eyes widened and he bowed lightly, excising it from between bowls of olives and salted nuts. McDormand sat back, satisfied. She reached for my sullied phone and wiped its face with her napkin. Now lets see if we get charged for the merde.
Im not an actor because I want my picture
taken. Im an actor because I want to be part of the human exchange.
Shortly after returning from Paris, I received an email
from her with the subject line My head shot. It contained a photograph of her floating naked in a lake. She doesnt like having her picture taken, she wrote, but this might suit the magazines purposes. Two months after that, she sent me a picture of herself at the dinner table with a head of cauliflower perched atop her like a crown. In reply to the lake picture, I sent her the poet Mary Ruefles essay Pause. Hot flashes are the least of menopause, Ruefle tells the young woman she imagines might be reading. You will want to drive a knife through your heart; you will want to leave your lover, no matter how much you have loved them. You will feel as though your life is over, because it is. You will realize for the first time that your whole life people have looked at you because you are a woman and people look at women but now, suddenly, you are invisible. But then something magical happens: You are a woman, the ten years [of menopause] have passed, you love your children, you love your lover, but there are no longer any persons on earth who can stop you from being yourself. ... You would never want to be a girl again for any reason at all, you have discovered that being invisible is the biggest secret on earth, the most wondrous gift anyone could ever have given you. She got it perfectly, McDormand wrote back a few hours later. Around 46 years of age, I became concerned that I may slaughter my family. I was perimenopausal when Pedro her son was in the throes of adolescence and at the mercy of testosterone poisoning. I continue to have three hot flashes daily, one bout of cold sweats per night, and have reveled in my invisibility for 10 years. So there.
McDormand with John Getz in Blood Simple, 1984.
Fargo, 1996. Almost Famous, 2000.
With George Clooney in Burn After Reading, 2008.
Hail, Caesar! 2016. Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri, 2017.
Recently, at a benefit for her local radio station,
McDormand introduced herself this way: Hello. My name is Frances Louise McDormand, formerly known as Cynthia Ann Smith. I was born in Gibson City, Ill., in 1957. I identify as gender-normative, heterosexual and white-trash American. She explained: My parents were not white trash. My birth mother was white trash. McDormand was the last and, she thinks, ninth child to be taken in by Noreen and Vernon McDormand. Vernon was a pastor with the Disciples of Christ who had a talent for starting new outposts of the church. He and Noreen moved between working-class communities in the South and the Midwest every few years, and because Noreen was never able to carry a pregnancy to term, the couple fostered children wherever they went. They adopted two, a son and a daughter, through the foster system. In the late 50s, they adopted their third, a 1-year-old named Cynthia, who, as far as anyone knows, was born to a young woman in Vernons parish. They changed her name to Frances. In her late teens, McDormand was offered the chance to meet her birth mother, and she refused. The anger she felt at being unwanted had become too important a part of her psychology, she thought. Still, she sounds proud when she calls herself white trash like her birth mother, and she has spent much of her career playing women who, in one way or another, resemble that description. She describes her upbringing with the McDormands as kind of Norman Rockwell-y: hymn singing, spaghetti dinners, summer Bible camps run by her father. Though Noreen often worked full time as a receptionist and had lots of kids to take care of, she strived to make a homemade dessert every night, often elaborate cakes, like a three- tiered Lady Baltimore. McDormands favorite was more dclass: angel food cake with orange-juice icing. The family moved mostly between small agricultural communities like Hillsboro, Ky., Statesboro, Ga., and Chattanooga, Tenn., where they lived in a neighborhood that was built over the town dump. McDormand, then in second grade, found that this provided excellent treasure hunting. Their longest stay was in Monessen, Pa., a steel town near Pittsburgh, where, she told the public-radio benefactors, the mill glowed and thrummed, day and night. The working-class women she plays are familiar to her from childhood. Those are the people that held me and raised me, and the work ethic I have, she says. Thats why she shows up herself for lighting and camera set up, though it is expected that hired stand-ins endure the technical rehearsals. McDormand does her hair and makeup too, if its efficient. Im a member of the company, Im not outside of it, she says. I like being right in the middle of everything. Its isolating and vulnerable. It was at Monessen High School that she acted for the first time, as Lady Macbeth. She was 14, and an English teacher had the students put on scenes from Shakespeare after school. I spent a lot of time alone reading books, and this was the first time that literature took me into a public place where I could share it with other people, she told me. She started acting in school plays, never as the lead but as the colorful characters, the ones who came out screaming or fainting. She went to Bethany College in West Virginia, because it was affiliated with the Disciples of Christ and she could get a scholarship. There, she became the only theater major in her class, drove vans across the border into Pennsylvania so her classmates could buy birth control and steadily worked her way through her post-hometown to-do list: sex, drugs, profanity. At 24, newly graduated from Yales M.F.A. program in acting, she was offered a role in Blood Simple, which marked the beginning of her professional career as well as of her 33-year partnership with Joel Coen. From the start, they met each others instincts with unquestioning courtesy. It was a revelation that I could have a lover who I could also work with and I wasnt intimidated by the person, McDormand told me. In past relationships, she struggled against feeling subservient, trapped in fraught sexual power dynamics. But that didnt happen with Joel. It was: Wow! Really! Oh, my God! I can actually love and live not subvert anything, not apologize for anything, not hide anything. Though they moved in together almost right away, they waited 10 years to marry, and until recently her wedding band was a ring once owned by Coens first wife, which McDormand adopted, thinking it shouldnt go to waste. In 1995, they adopted a baby from Paraguay, whom McDormand still refers to by his full name: Pedro McDormand Coen. Pedro is now 24, a personal trainer and, lately, a grip on his fathers movie sets, but McDormand still likes to tell stories about the outfit he wore on his first day of first grade. Jane Anderson described their household as haimish. Shes a great homey cook, she told me. You go to her house and shell whip up a great pork chop and a salad and shell throw it down and set a beautiful table and make you a good pot of English tea and a cookie. Joel will show up to your house and bring a pie in a wonderful antique pie carrier that Fran found somewhere. The McCoens, as McDormand sometimes refers to her marriage unit, now maintain two residences: an apartment on the Upper West Side of Manhattan, where theyve lived for decades, and a 1,300-square-foot house in what McDormand would prefer me to call An Unnamed Town in the Pacific Northwest. This is where McDormand spends most of her time, and she forbade me to specify even a state, not so much because she worries people will track her down but because she feels protective of her Unnamed Town. She is involved in local efforts to protect affordable housing, and with the local radio station. The cheesemonger runs around the counter to give her a hug when she comes in. The day before I flew there to visit her, McDormand decided, after some deliberation, that I was not invited to her house. It is mine, she emailed me, and I also dont like articles where actors reveal their private lives. This was part of a longer missive about her complex relationship to anger, and the pain of being adopted, so I pushed back. She was unmoved. Her reply was a link to the online portfolio of the architect who helped them with their last renovation and a dare: Guess which is ours. So we hiked. McDormand had instructed me to meet her in the parking lot of a nearby cafe, and when I arrived she was sitting straight as a soldier, dressed in her hiking skirt (ankle length, denim). We hopped into her car and drove to a nearby freshwater spring to fill our water bottles, which she stuck in a backpack packed with cheese and apples for our lunch. As we carved our path up the mountain, she told me about her next project with Jane Anderson, based on a trilogy of Conrad Richter novels published between 1940 and 1950 called The Awakening Land, which theyre adapting into another mini-series. Shell play the oldest iteration of the main character, Saird, a pioneer woman who gives birth to a stillborn baby and, while still covered in blood, throws herself on top of a wild turkey and wrings its neck so her other children wont starve. McDormand clapped with glee. Isnt that great? What actor wouldnt want to play that? We sat on some rocks in the forest, and she began unloading plastic bags of cheese and crackers from her knapsack. Look at this, she said, handing me an apple. It was a variety called a Pink Pearl, which a neighbor had brought her. Its skin was a pale, nearly translucent yellow. She fished out her pocketknife and cut into it, revealing brilliant pink and white swirls. Have you ever seen anything like that? I told her I thought I knew the answer to the question I was about to ask, but: Why these roles? Why these women? What kind of women? Oh, profane women. Or rageful, or violent. I mean, I know Im profane. And outspoken. But I dont know, theyre fun! She chewed and thought. Its not just that theyre angry. Its more She paused. My politics are private, but many of my feminist politics cross over into my professional life. Because I portray female characters, so I have the opportunity to change the way people look at them. Even if I wasnt consciously doing that, it would happen anyway, just because of how I present as a woman, or as a person. I present in a way thats not stereotypical, even if Im playing a stereotypical role. She shrugged. I cant subtract that from myself anymore. I could when I was younger. Why? I asked. Is that just what happens with age? Yes, she said, nodding seriously, and took a bite of Pink Pearl. Thats another great thing about getting older. Your life is written on your face.
If you are a woman who has risen to new levels of fame
and recognition by, paradoxically, renouncing any interest in what we could call the male gaze or the industry gaze, or the fan gaze then theres something profoundly discomfiting about the prospect of being profiled for a magazine. Four months into our meetings, McDormand wrote to say she didnt think I should be writing about her at all, but that shed like to get together to brainstorm a more worthy subject. At our next meeting, she informed me that she wouldnt be sitting for any photographs to accompany this article. I dont do those. You have to use pictures of me from what I do. Like my characters. Then Im not promoting me. She eventually agreed to be photographed but asked that the session be as unlike a typical shoot as possible: no hair person, no makeup artist, no wardrobe. Initially, when asked to talk about the concept, she had suggested a no- concept concept. Later, she allowed that she might wear some plants in her hair. It would be interesting to appear like the spirit of a Shaker woman floating around Lower Manhattan. On the appointed morning in August, she blew like a friendly hurricane into the photo studio in TriBeCa one minute early. She surveyed the variety of flower crowns laid out on the props table, picked up a wreath of cotton branches and set it on her head. How cool is THIS, she shouted, looking in the mirror. But its not at all me. The faux peonies, daisies, sea grasses and laurel went the way of the cotton. She took the young stylist who had made the wreaths cozily by his arm and thanked him for his work. Theyre beautiful. But theyre not right for me. It looks great on you, though! You should wear it. She set the daisies on his head and announced the return of the no- concept concept. Just me. Just me as myself. McDormand-as-herself was dressed in wide-leg bluejeans, a tank top with no bra, a long-sleeve T-shirt, Birkenstock sandals and a giant denim jacket. Out of her backpack she produced two other options: a bandanna and a long white nightgown. I wore it last night, but I ironed it, she said. Even with as few people on set as possible and without all the accouterments of a cover shoot, McDormand seemed to be gritting her teeth. She shifted under the lights in her tank top and bare feet like a child. Someone turned on the music shed requested (Smooth, by Santana), and she swayed a little, uncertainly. She caught my eye across the room and made a small motion, asking me to dance too, where I was standing, so she wouldnt be all alone up there. We bopped awkwardly to Santana while she tried to ignore the camera. There is a stunning un-self-consciousness that overtakes her characters when they are alone. In these moments on film, you can see the face fall open and reveal a whole person, whoever she is when shes turned inward, unwatched. Her ability to go to this place in front of a camera is one of her singular talents. I had been curious whether that might happen this morning, a sort of reverse- engineered revelation as Fran performed Fran. But if that moment came, it was distinguishable only to the camera, and perhaps to the photographer. As the hours passed, McDormand kept the room in a state of mild panic. She stood there at one point in her nightgown with a sweater on her head. She sent the wreath stylist to cut pieces of boxwood she had noticed on the buildings roof terrace, and then winked at me as he went. She turned around so the back of her head faced the camera and announced that she wanted to try a few like this. This is my angle, she said. I never do this, she kept saying to the photo team. All morning: I never, ever do this. Then why are you doing it? someone finally asked. I dont know! She said. She seemed to really consider the question. I guess I want more work. At the end of the day, the group went outside for some exterior shots in the alley behind the studio, and McDormand spotted three teenage boys hanging out on the sidewalk.