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I also want to congratulate you for cracking open this book and getting started
on changing your life with women for the better.
Im going to say something blunt: There are so many people out there who
dont even try. Ive met all sorts of people who are nice people, but they dont
go for what they want and as a result, they dont get what they want.
I respect everyone who goes for what they want (provided that their approach
is respectable and not harmful to others).
The fact that you are taking action by purchasing this course and reading this
book means that you are willing to do what it takes to get what you want. It
means that youre not going to settle for less than you deserve.
And it means that I have your back and will do everything I can to
help you get the woman (or women) youve always wanted. I want
you to succeed.
In fact, I want you to look back on this moment as youre reading this book a
month from now two months from now even a year or two from now and
say, This was the moment where things started to really change for me for the
better.
So heres the deal: Im going to tell you about the most powerful
technique Ive ever developed. I use it all the time and get great results.
This technique was literally a game-changer for me and many of my students.
My student (who Ill call Jim for this story) felt out of place and uncomfortable
in these environments, but he really wanted to pick up younger women.
On the first night we went out, I asked him to just talk to women so I could
just observe him.
Although I couldnt hear everything Jim was saying, I would see him walk
up to girl after girl and see the girl look uncomfortable, then
scared, then get pulled away by her friends.
I could tell that Jims confidence was plummeting each time this happened
and I felt bad for him. All he wanted to do was attract a girl he didnt have
bad intentions or anything.
But it was true that his body language, his voice tone and the things he was
saying were coming across pretty creepy.
On top of that, because he felt that he wasnt capable of picking up hot young
college girls, he came across as having a hidden or sneaky motive. Internally
he felt like he was trying to get something he didnt deserve.
I gave him some pointers to help him and his results improved a bit. But
because he believed he was too old to get girls in their 20s, he was shooting
himself in the foot and extinguishing any chances of having significant success
with women.
So, before the next time we went out I spent 20 minutes with Jim and taught
him the Red Dragon Attraction Technique.
When we walked into the bar, he started approaching women and groups of
people and talking to them right away.
But now, instead of everyone looking creeped-out, they would first listen to
whatever he asked them and then they would smile or laugh warmly and
start chatting with him.
Nick Richards and I were checking up on him and our other coaching
students. After 20 minutes, Nick says to me, He looks like a totally different
person Were geniuses!! (Kidding.)
Now that Jim had an easy, dependable technique to call up confidence at will
and let go of his limiting beliefs and behaviors, his results began rapidly
improving over the course of that one evening.
At the end of each evening, we would typically talk with all of our coaching
students about what worked for them, where they were having trouble and
what they want to work on next.
We were all ready to wrap up for the evening when we saw Jim talking to a hot
blonde 20-something. We decided to go to our meeting spot and let Jim catch
up only he never did.
If you told me that the story sounded too good to be true, I would have to
agree with you. But I promise, it happened for him as described and I have
similar stories about several other students from my coaching program with
similarly awesome results.
But I did change his name to protect his identity his name isnt really Jim.
Ive met some guys who have read way too many books and courses on pick
up and seduction. Even though they really wanted to improve, they had so
many tricks up their sleeve that everything they did came off as sleazy,
calculated and creepy.
Theres nothing wrong with having attraction to women and a desire to get
physical with them. Thats natural.
However, it is creepy and weird if you believe you need to manipulate or trick
a woman into bed in order to succeed with her at all. That will lead you down
a very bad path
Well, it is! And you can have all of that (and more), but you need to USE THE
TECHNIQUE. If you read this entire book and use what Im teaching you as
described, youll enjoy great results.
But you NEED to practice it and I would highly encourage you to use it as soon
as possible. And the more you practice, the better and better your results will
get with it.
So thats the deal Ill give you the knowledge that took me YEARS to
discover, but you must put it into practice to get any kind of result. So by
reading on, you agree that youre going to take action on this knowledge
before forming an opinion on whether or not it will work for you.
To help you do that, I really want you to understand how and why Nick and I
created this technique in the first place:
So, there was this one summer night in Boston. Nick and I went out to our
favorite hotel bar and we were all geared up to meet some nice women.
In fact, it was so bad that night that when I would look towards a woman she
would quickly avert eye contact or make a face as if to say, Ew I dont want
to talk to you.
Now Ive had success with women before and Ive trained myself to have a
thick skin, but to be perfectly honest I was feeling like total crap after
about 30 minutes of this.
Nicks night wasnt going any better and when we were hanging out with each
other, I felt like the problem was just getting worse.
Finally I said to Nick, Hey, Ill be back, and I peeled off for a bit to get my
head straight.
Truth be told, at that moment I really just wanted to leave the venue and
forget about the meeting women for the night.
But, as a guy who teaches dating tips to guys all over the world, I knew I
needed to step up my game so that I could help out other guys who find
themselves in the same position. (Sometimes thats all that gets me through!)
Instead, I decided I was going to act like a movie character that I knew women
found attractive. I think I chose Brad Pitts character from the movie Fight
Club (without the sociopathic ideology, of course).
I decided to just totally invest my thinking in being this character for the
evening as my sole mental focus.
In fact, I actually pretended that I was going to audition for this part and if I
got the role I would be paid millions of dollars and receive wild acclaim, so I
had to do a good job.
After about a couple minutes of walking around and doing this, I was feeling
tremendously better. I was about to go back and talk to Nick when I was
approached by a tall, gorgeous blonde girl.
Now, I love blonde girls, but for whatever reason I always seemed to do best
with girls who werent blonde. But here she was, saying words to me.
Now this isnt a story about picking girls up at a bar so Ill spare you the
details, but I ended up talking with her for a while, got her number and set up
a date with her.
Nick had eventually joined me, and when the girl left he said, Well you turned
your evening around I see.
So at that point I was happy with the first results from this fledgling
experiment and I told Nick what I had done.
Amazingly, after a couple minutes Nick came back and looked completely
different. I mean, he still looked like Nick but he had a kind of aura of charm
and good feelings around him.
Very cool stuff. Anyway, I want to keep this focused on the technique and on
attraction, so I wont go into the details about the rest of the story, but I can
tell you that this technique has been a massive success for us from the very
beginning of using it.
Major Hint: When we are just being ourselves, that usually means to
act consistently with our current mood.
Not bad advice if youre tremendously happy that day, but if youre not in a
spectacular mood or if youre like me and certain social environments make
you anxious and nervous, then it is bad advice.
In the next section, Im going to give you a totally new and original way to
think of confidence, so that you arent forcing yourself to appear
confident, you just naturally come off that way.
A Helpful Perspective on
Confidence
Now in order to truly understand the power of this technique, you need to
truly understand confidence in a usable way. So before I show you how to do
the technique, Im going to give you a way to look at confidence that will
change your entire perspective on what you think confidence is.
I always HATED when people tried to give me dating advice, saying I just
needed to be confident. My thought was always, Great HOW? What even
IS this confidence behavior Im supposed to be doing so I can attract women
instead of repel them at the speed of light?
Rather than debate what the essence of confidence is, lets talk about what is
going to come across to women as confidence.
See, if I show you how to be and what to do in a way that you can understand,
then being confident will be easy for you. Thats what were aiming at here.
Now a lot of people will try to fake being happy and comfortable because on
some level they know that looking unhappy or uncomfortable comes across as
looking not-confident.
Thing is, these people often give themselves away when they open their
mouth.
The following list is some behaviors of people who are unhappy and/or
uncomfortable.
Now, I will be the first to admit that when I was at my worst I did every one of
these destructive behaviors and more.
At the time I felt like I was just being myself, which was supposed to be
attractive, but in fact all of these behaviors were really undermining my ability
to attract women and people into my life.
When I acted this way, I came off as extremely unlikable and unattractive.
Those are all unhappy behaviors and at best theyll come across as
lacking confidence, at worst theyll come across as painfully
insecure.
The guys who come across as confident (that is, happy and comfortable
internally and externally), just enjoy the moment. Some examples of these
confident (happy and comfortable) guys are in the following list.
Think about it when youve been truly at your most fulfilled and happiest,
this is how you were with the people around you.
This works to an extent, but the second that people stop constantly monitoring
their actions and forcing each and every correct behavior, that approach falls
apart.
The main reason is that we act in accordance to our MOOD. Or better said
we act in accordance to our MODE.
If you are depressed, for example, it will only feel natural to act in accordance
with depressed behaviors. It will feel like the weight of the world is holding
you back in that mode if you attempt to act outside of that MODE.
If you are feeling angry, you will act in accordance with that angry MODE.
Not only will you be more likely to talk about angry things and respond in
angry ways to other people, your entire appearance will change to
project a look of anger.
The changes in your facial expression, tone of voice, rate of speaking, etc.
might be extremely subtle, but they will come across loud and clear to the
woman youre talking to. She will feel your anger and, thus, feel that
you are not confident.
Now for years, my only approach was to force myself to act in the attractive
ways and suppress the unattractive ways, no matter what mood I was in.
Like I said, this worked for a while, but in the long run was very detrimental
to me and my progress. Forcing myself to act a certain way left me
For example: If youre trying to lose weight, but youre feeling lazy in that
moment, forcing yourself to run is a good thing.
However, if you had a bone fracture, then forcing yourself to run would be
a very bad decision running when you have a bone fraction would make a
small problem into a big problem.
In fact, theres actually a part of the brain specifically geared toward keeping
you in a specific behavior set based on your current mood/mode.
What this means is that if youre around people and you feel a certain way,
your brain will actually prevent you from acting outside of the way
you feel in that situation: about yourself, about other people and about
life in general.
This is one reason why many men drink alcohol for liquid courage: Alcohol
decreases activity in the prefrontal cortex and therefore alleviates
them from feeling the pressure of acting outside of their beliefs
about themselves and their current mood.
This allows a guy to access the mode that gives him internal access
to being able to flirt.
Problem is, alcohol also decreases brain activity in many areas of the brain
and over time can increase feelings of anxiety and insecurity.
Im not against drinking responsibly, but drinking alcohol for courage is a very
bad idea and has significant drawbacks both in the short and long term.
You could say that using alcohol to unlock your attractive self is like
breaking into your own car by smashing the window and tampering with the
ignition. It will work, but its destructive, costly and completely
unnecessary if you have the key.
Well, actually a TON of good. Your brain depends on oxygen. Even minor
changes in breathing can have a major impact on your brain. And when your
brain is distressed, your entire experience of life and mind will be poor.
On the other hand, when you flood your brain with plenty of fresh oxygen and
exhale all of the carbon dioxide in your system, it has a tremendously positive
effect on your brain. You will actually calm down the centers in
your brain that make you feel alarmed, anxious and unpleasant
and you will activate the parts of your brain that make you feel
focused, at ease and happy.
If you find this interesting, I invite you to take a look at any of the numerous
studies that have been done on the positive effects of breathing from
meditation.
Using your mind and breathing to your advantage are essential to make this
technique work for you, so its very, very important that you start out with the
strongest possible base. This is an essential step.
Wherever you find yourself at this moment, stop and take a moment to take
5 long, slow breaths. Take a nice long slow inhale through your nose all the
way so that youve completely filled your lungs with air (but not to an
uncomfortable point) then slowly exhale ALL the air. All of it. Then repeat
4 more times.
As youre breathing, I only want you to have one single thought and focus in
your mind. As youre breathing in, focus and think on the word in. Then on
the exhale focus, only think of the word out.
Dont stress out about doing this right. That would defeat the purpose of this
step. If you think about something else as youre relaxing, thats OK, just
gently bring your mind back to focusing on relaxing and let any other thoughts
or distractions pass without acknowledgement or concern.
Take as much time as you need to feel relaxed but at a minimum, 5 long,
slow breaths.
Just pick someone who does really well with women who also has a
personality type that you generally admire.
This is something that I had learned from an acting class that I took years ago
from an expert actor.
As it turns out, many performers of today actually used this same kind of
technique as they were learning to perform. One example is Bill Maher of
Politically Incorrect, who modeled himself after Johnny Carson.
(If you watch YouTube videos of Johnny Carson and then immediately watch
Bill Maher afterwards, youll notice many striking resemblances in their style.)
Im going to explain this to you, but then I want you to physically get up and
do it.
Keep your eyes open and just pretend hes standing there in front of you.
Dont worry, it doesnt have to be a clear picture just get a sense of him being
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there. And if you really have trouble visualizing, just pretend what it would be
like if you could visualize him standing there and continue.
How is he standing? Whats his facial expression like? Does he look happy?
Content? Playful? Cocky? At peace? Calm? Collected?
Great. Now I want you to close your eyes. And at the moment that you close
your eyes, I want you to take a deep breath and imagine you are him.
I want you to imagine how it feels to be his body. I want you to imagine that
youre looking out of his eyes and hearing out of his ears. I want you to think
like he would be thinking and respond the way that he would respond in any
given situation.
And I want you to walk around and do everything as your character would do
it.
For example, if you imagined yourself as Don Draper from Mad Men (as one
of my students does), then I want you to look at things like Don Draper would.
If youre going to get a cup of coffee, I want you to get a cup of coffee like Don
Draper would. If youre talking to someone, I want you to talk to them like
Don Draper would.
And obviously, if you chose a criminal character like Tony Soprano, dont start
committing crimes because you want to be in character.
If you do that, you are not only an idiot, but I think youll have a lot of trouble
meeting women in prison.
You are taking on the essence of the character, not taking on the plot. Hope
thats clear.
In regards to this technique, this means that you should put yourself
into character as often as possible to really train in the character
behaviors.
One of our students loved the results he got from this technique so much that
he ended up practicing his character all day while he was at work.
Funny thing is, before we even went out with him that Friday, he ended up
getting a date with a girl in his office, who literally told him that she, Never
noticed how sexy he was!
All he was doing was just imagining he was that character! He wasnt doing
anything crazy or over the top he was just committing to acting as that role
in everything he did.
It happens, but youll get results and learn a lot quicker if you take action and
talk with women in real life instead of waiting for something to happen.
I am suggesting that you try this technique for the next 2 weeks while you are
actively interacting with women in real life.
But on the other side, Ive seen guys get into an interaction and then drop the
character either because they became nervous and overwhelmed, they forgot
to stay in character or they thought they were all set since they got into an
interaction with a girl.
Practice BEING this character actively. At first, youll find that you fall out of
character rather often and need to remember to stay in character.
With practice, youll get good at staying in character and reap the benefits.
And if you practice this for a full 3 weeks as often as you can, you will start
acting in these new attractive ways automatically without having to think
about it.
The formula is simple though the more you do it, the better youll be.
One last thing I want to mention is that practice in real life with a
real woman is 1000 times more effective than practicing by
yourself. The real world doesnt lie and it is the best source for feedback on
your growing level of attractiveness.
Do your best to practice this in the real world in real interactions as often as
you can.
Heres the thing that gets me. I have met a lot of guys who have read a ton of
techniques about picking up women and yet take NO ACTION in the real
world.
Hell, I was one of these guys for 3 years before I finally forced myself to get off
my ass and take real world action! So I understand
Thing is, though, these same guys will actually try to debate me about the
effectiveness of this technique without even trying it! Or theyll try it once
half-heartedly, not end up dating a supermodel on their first try and then tell
me it doesnt work.
Listen, I have seen ALL of the coaching students Ive taught this to
succeed wildly with this technique. I know it works.
But I need to make sure that you follow through and actually USE this
technique since Im not actually there with you to coach you through it and
hold you accountable.
So lets talk about how youre going to use this technique and get great results
in YOUR life.
Ive known thousands of guys who study this stuff. Some from the internet.
Some who live in my town (Boston). And some who have been coaching
students of mine.
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When it comes to learning a new technique, there really is only one of two
things that happens.
Scenario one: The student reads the technique, says, Cool!! and
immediately goes out and starts using it everywhere and sees great
improvement in his results with women.
Scenario two: The student reads the technique, says, Cool! and then does
NOTHING.
I dont want to sound mean, but if youre not going to take action on this
technique now, youre most likely not going to.
And I know some of you are saying, No, Eric, Im not like that. I really will
come back and re-read this technique once Im ready. Then Ill do it!
Listen, Ive been in your shoes and Ive worked with tons of guys on this as my
private coaching students.
Heres the problem: Its never a good time. Youre never ready. Youre never
going to feel like you know enough.
The fact is you are either willing to take action now and handle
whatever comes up or youre not.
You know that you could do this technique easily at any time. You know that
you could go out and meet women right now, some way, somehow.
Like if I said to you that I would pay you one million dollars to use this
technique for two weeks and talk to at least 10 women using it, Im sure you
could very quickly imagine yourself doing it and you would know exactly how
to make it happen.
So really it comes down to this: are you going to be a scenario one guy (and
get great results with women) or a scenario two guy (take no action
and get no results).
The choice is yours but I urge you not to kid yourself. Call your choice what it
is: You are either willing to take action now or youre not.
Im making a big deal about this because I have found that when I allow a guy
to believe hell get around to it, he NEVER does. NEVER.
I know a guy whos still waiting to get around to learning to meet and attract
women, four years later! Every time he sees me he tells me why he cant do it
now, but that hes almost ready to soon.
I know it sounds crazy, but those who dont take action right now simply dont
take action. I really dont want you to be one of those no-action guys.
The good news is the guys that take the action and are determined to
succeed DO SUCCEED! Thats who I want you to be.
This is a MENTAL EXERCISE. You are simply using your mind to get better
results with women and to have women find you more attractive.
All youre doing is using a mental tool to help you activate your most attractive
mode.
See, the funny thing about this technique is that its like a mental loophole.
Since youre just playing a game of pretend (like you did as a kid), your mind
gives you permission to act as your most attractive self.
On a deeper level, when you choose an attractive character to model, you are
choosing your impression of someone who reflects your idea of what an
attractive man is. But in order for you to make that choice, you are actually
choosing a reflection of your most attractive self.
What you do in your own mind is your own business and nobody will ever
know if youre getting inspiration from James Bond or Wolverine. Unless you
told them, which would be a very bad idea since it would likely give you
performance anxiety and ruin the whole technique. Keep it secret!
What people will see is you only it will be a version of you that is incredibly
charismatic and attractive.
It is still you though its just you being more attractive. And with practice,
youll naturally act and present yourself in those attractive ways
without even thinking about it.
Moreover, this is just a fun experiment. You can always go back to your old
ways of doing things if you want to. Theres absolutely no risk in trying
something that will get you better results than anything youve used before.
Greg, Boston, MA
This is funny but I started using [the RDAT] for online dating. When I wrote
my profile and when I write messages to women, I write it in my characters
voice. And when Im writing responses or chatting with them, I imagine how
my character would respond and I write it down. After starting to do this Im
getting 3 times the response rate I used to get and the women are much more
interested in me.
Wrapping It Up
OK, so in this book, I explained how the RDAT helps you get significantly
better results with women. I explained why its helpful, what it is, where it
came from, how you can use it in your own life and why you should start using
this information right now to get great results.
I really want you to get the kind of great results Ive been describing in this
book, so I will just remind you one last time that taking action now is the best
possible thing you could do to change your life and get better with women.
I wish you the best of luck. And if you have a question for me or a success
story youd like to share, Id love to hear it.
In fact, if you can think of other areas or sticking points in your dating life that
you think want resolved quickly and for good, you can feel free to ask me.
I remember what it was like to have dating problems and at that time there
really wasnt anyone out there who got where I was coming from and could
give helpful advice that would really work for me.
Now that Im a dating coach, I do my absolute best to meet you where youre
at and help you get to the next level. If you can think of an area where youd
like to rapidly improve or eliminate a nagging problem, send me an e-mail.
I dont always have available slots for private coaching, so if youd like to get
your sticking points handled and get to the next level, I would urge you to e-
mail me right away since my availability fills up quickly.
My waiting list is first come, first served, so at the very least Ill work with you
as soon as I get a free slot.
One last thing I DO NOT work with guys who are unwilling to take action to
move themselves forward. Talking about picking up women is not the same as
actually doing it in the real world. I have no interest in anyone who only
wants to debate what they think will work without trying anything.
With that said, I understand how tough it can be to deal with dating issues and
as long as youre willing to try and improve, Im willing to work with you.
And seeing as how you read this whole book and youre ready to go out and
use this technique, Im betting you are that kind of guy. And that means I
would love to work with you and get you where you need to be in order to have
the success youve always wanted.
Thank you for reading this book and feel free to e-mail me with questions,
success stories and about private coaching at eric@womendesireyou.com
Eric Edgemont
The King of Dating Transformation