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Rebecca De Leon
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Topic: The Importance of creating and building a strong relationship with young adults.
My topic is about the importance of creating and building a strong relationship with
young adults. The ages that are considered young adults range from 18-year-old- 25-year-old.
It is around this age that some individual transitions from the teenage years to adulthood, this is
the time most of human beings try to find themselves and true identities in friendships,
relationships, family, acquaintances at school and in workplaces. It is around the time when most
people experience an emotional, dysfunctional relationship with a significant other, and or also
face financial problems. Although not everyone experiences those type of issues the majority that
do experience such obstacles and trauma don't know how to deal with it or how to proceed life
looking forward past the obstacle. The question I am hoping to answer writing this paper is how
can one be helpful to a person experiencing obstacles in their lives that are keeping them from
enjoying life and are keeping them from growing as individuals and becoming a better person,
not only for themselves but for those around them. What are some techniques and tools that can
be used to catch young adults attention about helping them cope with issues such as: stress,
anger, emotional distress and financial problems. I want to narrow it down to two different types
of conflicts: economic stress and emotional distress. I believe that around this time of life is
when individuals starting to live the prime time of your life. At this age the young adult is filled
with dreams of his or her own life without a clue of what life really has stored for them. As an
18-year-old grows older and their dreams and goals dont to go as the way they planned, they
become exposed to stress, they are fragile to giving up on life and very easy for them to get lost
in between the gaps. One of the reasons why I am very interested in writing this paper on this
topic is due to a personal experience Ive encountered which is why I want an in-depth
discussion on this topic. It is also a topic that relates not only to my life and human development
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but others that have not yet and will maybe experience such obstacles in their lives. In my
experience, when I turned 18 year old I was legally considered an adult but emotionally, and
financially I was still yet a teen. As human beings, Im a strong believer that we are all different
and we all mature differently depending on our, gender, cultural environment, life situations and
life experiences. As a child, I was raised by my grandparents in a different country with different
cultural beliefs but as an adolescent I was raised with my mother here in the United states with
different cultural beliefs. Now, with just my transition from my early childhood to my young
adolescent years in a different country, different language and different relationships was just a
I was sent away to live with my grandparents when I was 4 years old. I lived in El
Salvador for 6 years of my life (my childhood). It is there where I when to school and did my
elementary years. Being that it was El Salvador I learned how to read, write, and speak Spanish;
Spanish became my primary language. Like most of us know. Childhood is probably the most
important years of one's life. It is the childhood where one can learn about their heritage, culture,
and the importance of knowing the differences around oneself and others. Living in El Salvador
for 6 years of my life (my childhood) made such an impact in my life that up to this day I
continue to see the difference it made for me as a child. As a child I was able to learn a different
culture than my own, I was able to learn more about my mother and the family side of my
mother. It is where I learned most of my talent that I now know I gain and learn as a child that
can reflect now as an adult and those experiences and lessons learned from my childhood have
helped me a lot through my difficult times and my struggles. When I moved back to America to
reunited with my mother, I was 9 years old (my young adolescent years) with that being said and
my past life in El Salvador you can only imagine how hard it was for a girl to survive a world
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where English is the primary league. Speaking English language to survive school here in the
United States was a must, at least in my school. I am sure now children and students are provided
with bilingual classes that can help them understand school material. Communication became a
barrier for me as an adolescent. My early adolescent years and teenage years became a little less
hectic for me as my relationship with family members and those around me became closer. Even
then, when I turned 18 I felt like I was not yet ready to be called and adult. There was still
something about life I didn't quite understand, and I know I was not the only one who felt that
way because I knew some of my peers felt left out but for different reasons. According to
Eriksons 8 stages Identity vs. Role confusion play an important role in one's life. That is when
children need to cope with new social and academic demands. Success leads to a sense of
competence, while failure results in feeling of inferiority. Therefore, it is very important for
teens to successfully transition from this stage to the next stage which is Intimacy vs. Isolation
stage, where young adults need to form intimate, loving relationships with other people.
Success leads to strong relationships, while failure results in loneliness and isolation. Knowing
and learning about this topic can not only be interesting for those who are or have experienced a
situation in their life where they have felt alone. I believe we are part of this world to help one
another and look out for each other to help us become better people; better citizens. Learning
about such stages and how we can overcome those issues can help us help others and the
community by helping them build relationships and gain knowledge of some sense that can be
beneficial for them in the future. Building a strong relationship with young adults can help create
an environment for them where they feel included and part of this society because a lot of the
teens and young adults are not feeling the same response as others in different communities are
feeling. Creating and building trust is the key when dealing, working with teens and young adults
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if we want to help them become better people we must first do our part in building that strong
relationship we want them to have with us as the other elements are of a process that involves
questions and answers about their experiences in young adulthood and caregivers.
I0 am going to interview a mother, a daughter and a son. Mother Leonor is 46 years old,
daughter Naomi is 17, and son Ricardo is 18 years old. Leonor is a mother of 3 teenagers and a
school age child who is 7 years old, Jacob. Leonor has been raising her kids along with her
husband Ricky and they sure have had a handful to deal with the past years, but they wouldn't
Leonor has also been a Sunday school teacher in the past. She has taught a group of teenage girls
about love, friendships, relationships, life experiences, and daily life issues as a teenage girl and
As i interviewed Leonor I asked her about her experience raising three teenagers. Her response to
that question had to do with the experience she had once teaching young teenagers at Sunday
school long ago. Raising three teenage boys, teenage girl and raising a school age kid has been
a handful but wouldn't change it for anything in the world. Her experience at the Sunday church
gave her a sense of what to expect when her own children grew up to be teenagers just like the
ones she taught at school. Leonor's children were young at the time therefore she had less to
worry around those times of her teaching. This was a summary of what Leonor had for answer to
my topic The importance of building a strong relationship with young adults. Leonor had her
side of raising her teenagers, but her son and daughter had another.
Leonors questions:
1)How has it being like raising three teenagers/ young adults and a school age child?
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2)Has it been any different from the experience teaching teenagers at Sunday School? Was it or
Ricardo's Questions:
1) How has your relationship been with your mom and dad for the past years being a teenager?
2) Have you/ Did you feel supported by them when you transition High School to College?
3) What strategies do you think school, mentors can offer when not feeling supported by parent
or family members?
Naomi's Questions:
2) Would you have liked to have a sister your age instead of brothers your age?
3) What would have been different for you? The they should have/ they shouldn't have.
I separated questions depending the answers I wanted to receive and from the person i wanted
the answers from. Of Course, as I explained mother Leonor about my topic and she had a lot to
say. Knowing she is former Sunday teenage school teacher and a mother of three teenagers/
young adults herself but the teenagers answers were the ones that interested me of why is it
important to build a strong relationship with young adults. And so I divided my eight questions:
Age: 17-year-old
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Questions:
1) How does it feel being a senior at your High School and at the corner of graduation?
Describe your experiences as a senior and how have they been for you. Either negative
A: It has been a good experience attending to a public High School these past four years.
Sharing memories, I will never forget with my friends Ive had over in Middle School all the
way through High School. I can say it is a sad but happy moment for me because this is where
we are basically considered adults like my English teacher tells us. We will no longer have a
set schedule of classes to take but more of being on our own. I am really enjoying my senior year
right now attending all of my senior activities and field trips. I say I have had a pretty great
experience in my High school years and even now as a senior I have come along away building
relationships with my teachers especially my English teacher. I have also experienced High
School drama last year and maybe that can be a negative experience for me. My best friend
suddenly stopped talking to me but I think I might know the reason why and it has to do with me
being on top of my academic work and always trying to push her to follow up with hers without
realizing that is not what she really wants for herself. She does not know what she wants to do
when she gets out of High School and she is thinking of just moving back to Mexico to work
with her grandparents. It really bothers me at first, but after having this conversation with my
mother she made me understand that in life sometimes we dont keep the same friendships we
once had as children. Laura had been my friend since kindergarten, so it did hurt me when she
suddenly stopped talking to me. Over all It has been a good experience and I am really going to
2) Have your High School teachers been of a great influence in your life? Being said that
you are on top of your academics rather than others at your school.
A: I want to say yes, but it is not completely true. I think the people that have been more of an
influence in my life have been my older cousins who have pushed me to do good in school ever
since I can remember. They have always been there asking me How is school going? If you are
struggling, please let us help you so you won't have to go through what we went through. I have
heard some of their experiences and they sound horrible. They have explained to me how life is
after you graduate from High School and how difficult it is for a college student to go on his own
without any guidance and that is why it is important to keep a good relationship with your
college counselors in High School and teachers who are willing to help you and give you advice
before graduating.
3) Has it been difficult for you to keep up with your academics and your personal
A: I have always been involved in sports. Ive played Volleyball and Softball here in High
School and it is not until this last year that I decided to just enjoy my last year in High School
enjoying my last few classes here and my senior dances, activities, and fieldtrips. The good thing
about my High School is that most of my teachers understand and allow me to catch up on some
of my school work because of away games our teams would have and now that I think about it,
that is what helped me and motivated me to continue High School. I know a lot of my classmates
started giving up on school and I think it is because they did not be motivated. Some of them
4) How can you describe the relationship you have with your parents?
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A: I think my relationship with my mother is stronger than my relationship with my dad. I love
them both very much, but I feel like I can be more open to my mom about things my dad would
not be open about. I think it is because my dad is a little bit more over protected since I am the
girl in the family. He does not understand what is like to be a teenager. All the stories that he
tells me about his younger years involve working hard to help my grandparents out. Which is
5) Is there anything you would like to change about your parents? Parenting styles?
Believes?
A: Like I answered in the previous question, I have a stronger relationship with my mother. I
really think it is because she was once a teenager and she understands, or tries. I think that in my
Middle school years there was a lot of things I wanted to change about my parents. I found
everything wrong with my parents but as I went to High School I started getting involved in
sports and in a lot of High School activities and just the fact that they supported me in everything
made me happy. Getting good grades and passing my classes have always been a priority though.
6) Does it seem scary for you pretty much leaving this chapter in your life and moving on to
A: Well, now that you make it sound like these years arent never coming back, yes. Well, not
scary but sad that I won't be able to walk around the halls with my friends and go to sport games
like I would enjoy going during lunch time, but I am excited to know what is out there for me
and to continue exploring what I want to become later in life, because as of now I want to take a
year off before starting College. My parents dont know that, yet I hope they agree with me and
understand.
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Interviewing Sofia Marquez brought me back to the time I was in High School. It seems
like it was just yesterday I graduated High School, yet it has been eight years. A lot of her body
language and the way she expressed herself as she answered my questions said a lot about her
and about the way she has been raised by her parents. Being that she is a 17-year-old she seems
pretty sure about what she is doing in school and about what she wants to be after High School,
other than the break she is planning to take after High School and before starting College. It
seems to me that her parents did a good job in raising this teenager, like Sofia explained, it was
not easy at first but after the parents seemed to understand what was important to their daughter
that they took the time to acknowledge it by supporting her in her games and addressing the good
grades they were expecting from her as she enjoyed her sport games. Sofia is transitioning from
the Identity vs. Role confusion to the Intimacy vs. Isolation stage. At this point in her life she has
experienced a sense of self identity by not following the crowd but by following her dreams in
finishing High School with good grades and soon moving on to the next stage.
Sofias experience is not as similar as mine experience going to High School but talking
to her did bring me back to some of the experiences I experienced in High School. Sofia has had
the support of their parents and older cousins to pursue better and higher education as for me, I
did not have anyone to be there for me to support me. My mother was always working and after
High school I was alone doing my homework and something I would stay after school and do it
there before my mother picked me up. It is amazing how the lack of a secure environment and
My final thoughts about doing some research about this topic and interviewing my people
really did prove my point about how important it is to build and have a secure relationship with
teenagers and young adults. Throughout my life I have lived life with just my mother and my
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brother but have not really had a strong relationship with them, so I can relate and say that it is of
important.