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Dr. Smith
English 101
29 November 2017
Raising a child as I read in a book named "Stranger in the Nest" is like owning a stranger whom you
know nothing. He/she knows nothing about you as well. This stranger is like a clay in potter's hands.
The question that always comes to mind is that does this clay have anything inside that affects the
way of shaping itself or does it all depend on potter's hand? Parents always have been told that they
are responsible for their children's actions. Parents do affect their children, but how much? There have
been dozens of studies on twins, adoptions and family lives that prove in some way genetic
endowment shape children more than parent's style of rearing. Apparently this means that all those
psychotherapists and pharmaceutical technologies do nothing but wasting our money on something
that cannot be changed. The reason why I found this topic controversial is that childrearing nowadays
has become remarkably sophisticated for most parents, so human genome could be a reasonable
excuse or reason for them to pass their responsibility to something else. Unfortunately, one of the
outcomes of this logic will have permanent harm to parents such as feeling more helpless and
irresponsible. Now that we are suffering from environmental solutions, the dissolving mystery of
human genome will just be one more problem. In other words, it restates that if you get what you need
instead of somebody else getting it is because you were more lucky, ethical or blameless. It'll make a
feeling of being the best in some things. Therefore one should not have made efforts to make it
possible and to achieve what she/he needed. Personally I believe these judgements could have serious
implications in the society. I believe we humans have the power and intelligence to change and revise
ourselves. Despite of inborn mental disorders that appears from the first years of human's life, parents
are the most effective elements in shaping their child's personality and attitudes.
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Any good parent wants their kids to stay healthy, act like an adult and do well in school.
Unfortunately, there is not a set recipe for raising good children but I've done researches about the
Doing Chores
Studies have shown that kids who do chores are more likely successful, collaborate well with their co-
workers and want everything to be completely done. Lythcott Haims says "By making them do chores
taking out the garbage, doing their own laundry they realize I have to do the work of life in
High Expectations
Kids live up to their parent's expectation. Using data from a national survey of 6,600 children born in
2001, University of California at Los Angeles professor Neal Halfon and his colleagues discovered
that the expectations parents hold for their kids have a huge effect on attainment. 96% of the kids who
In simple words, whenever you see your friend upset, that gloominess will transfer to you and
whenever he/she is happy, that brightness will transfer to you as well. Therefore, if a parent is anxious
or feeling frustrated, that emotional state could transfer to the kids too.
Healthy Relationships
Studies have shown that young people who had high conflicts between their parents were far
more likely to have feelings of loss and regret and they still report pain and suffering over
Works Cited
B. Cohen, David. Stranger in the nest: Do parents Really Shape Their Childs Personality,
Dovey, Dana. "Raising a Confident Child: How Parents Shape Their Children's Print.