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Caleb Austin
Dr. Cassel
Engl 101E-14
1 December 2017
College is a time in which individuals discover themselves and build their futures. Many
people view college as the best time of their lives. College is a time in which many people find
the person that they spend the rest of their lives with. While it may be the best time of students
lives, what happens to two young lovers who end up going to two different colleges across the
country? Do they break off their relationship that has been growing for months or years to
accommodate the distance, or try to continue their relationship despite the distance? Is their love
strong enough to last through the years, until they make it through college?
I have been dating my current girlfriend for over two years. We wanted to be together at
college but thought it would best for us as individuals and a couple to go to the colleges that
would be the best fit for each of us as individuals. I ended up at Wittenberg University in
Springfield, Ohio and she went 992 miles south to the University of Central Florida in Orlando,
Florida. We both knew going into college being so far apart would be difficult, but we knew if
we made it through college it would be worth going through the long-distance relationship. We
have had several struggles of missing each other and small arguments over pointless matters, that
never would have bother us if we were not separated for such long periods of time.
There are many students that are involved in long-distance relationships. Roughly thirty-
four percent or one third of college relationships are considered long-distance. College is the
number one place in which long-distance relationships take place (The Center for Long-Distance
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Relationships). There are many hardships in long-distance relationships that can put stress on a
relationship and everyday life. However, relationships that can survive the long-distance become
relationships have a bad reputation with most of the world. Over time it has been noticed that
long-distance relationships do not have a high success rate and that there are many problems and
headaches that go along with long-distance relationships. These create a negative feeling towards
long-distance relationships. This negative tone can also impact the success of long-distance
couple does not believe the couple will last that can
Negative affectively greatly increased in males in Figure 1: The graph above shows the
portion of long-distance and same-city
long-distance relationships. This led the number of
couples together at one year as a function
relationships lasting one year later to drop drastically. of mens and womens negative
affectivity on their relationship
One can draw multiple conclusions from the (Cameron, Jessica J. and Michael Ross).
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information presented in Figure 1. One conclusion is that males are less likely to follow through
in a long-distance relationship compared to women. Another conclusion from the data is that
long-distance relationships are harder to maintain same city relationships (Cameron, Jessica J.
There are many cases in which long-distance relationships do not work. However, with
better transportation and a more connected world it makes it easier to be a greater distance apart
but still be close. There are more couples in todays world in long distance relationships than
ever before. Jobs and furthering education are the two strongest factors in a long-distance
relationship. Technology has been a major driver in the success of long distance relationships.
According to data cited in a study from The Center for Long-Distance Relationships, some three
million Americans now live apart from their spouses for reasons other than divorce or marital
Keep in mind that technology is changing how we view distance, and a long-distance
relationship in the early 1990s was vastly different than one today. In analyzing peoples diaries
of their texts, phone calls, video chats, and other communications with their long-distance
partners, researchers found that long-distance couples felt more intimate with each other
compared to geographically close couples. This is because the long-distance relationship couples
The average distance in long-distance relationships is one hundred and twenty-five miles
(Dr. L Industries, LLC). Some important key aspects in all relationships are communication,
trust, and loyalty. These aspects are even more important to help overcome the distance which
lies between two hearts. In relationships where the partners see each other, these aspects are less
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important because there are personal interactions which allows for both partners to sense how the
When two people are separated, they know less about what is going on in each others
lives. This can cause the couple to lose interest or feel like the relationship is not as serious as if
the relationship was not long-distance. Communication is important because it helps keep
couples close and easier going about being so far away from their partner. Communication can
be through a text, phone call, letter or video chat. It helps keep each other informed about the
partners life and keeps them on each others mind. Communication is easier to communicate
more efficiently today through more accessible phone calls and video chats. By hearing a
partners voice, it creates a stronger more personable and deeper conversation compared to
Trust is another big aspect. Trust is having reliability and belief in someone. Without
trust both partners will always be worrying and paranoid of their partner being unfaithful, and
this can harm or even be fatal to a relationship. Statistics show that walls are being built in
relationships, and wars have been waged in the United States relationships. The United States
has a forty percent divorce rate. In society, trust is something that could help aid relationships to
last. Once an individual has lied to their partner it becomes easier. Normally, lies start out small
and eventually become larger. In the long run this can creative negative impacts on any
relationship and even be the cause of its termination. It is important for both partners to have
trust in a long-distance relationship because they will not always be there to see what their
Loyalty goes along with trust. If a partner wants to be able to trust their partners loyalty,
then their partner should be able to trust them back that they will stay loyal. By being loyal you
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are being committed to each other. Being open and honest by volunteering private information is
important. Both partners should be morally committed to each other. It is also important for both
individuals to want to continue an open and healthy relationship because of personal values, not
because of social pressures. With both individuals being loyal it will allow for the other
individual in the relationship to trust the other, creating less tension in the relationship (Dr. L
Industries, LLC).
Some people define long-distance relationships when two people in a relationship cannot
see each other every day. Some people measure a long-distance relationship by how many miles
lie in between them and their partner. Whatever the definition, there are still difficulties to
also carry rewards, for those in a relationship who work through the distance find a stronger and
deeper relationship (Knox.) There is also growth in individuals that survive a long-distance
relationship. When both partners are separate they are more willing to do things that would have
took time they could have spent with their partner. This allows for the individuals to try new
things and experiment with who they are without their partners influence (Tseng) (The Center for
Long-Distance Relationships).
There is some evidence that long-distance relationships help make a more intimate
relationship then if couples who are geographically close (Knox). There are fewer interactions
with couples who are in long-distance relationships. This leads to those limited interactions being
longer and more meaningful. There is more effort put forward by the couple when they know
While there are positives and negatives to long-distance relationships, they have low
success rates. Long-distance relationships are less likely to work compared to same city
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relationships. There are many long-distance relationships where one or both partners in the
relationship develop an out of sight, out of mind mentality. The mentality out of sight, out of
mind is losing feelings or not caring about a partner because they are not present. Twenty
of relationships are reported to growing apart or becoming worse (Knox). This out of sight, out
of mind is a thought that can lead to cheating and other negative actions on the long-distance
relationship.
There are many factors that go into all relationships. No two relationships are the same
and some relationships are meant to fail. People are always changing and growing which can
cause separation or growth. Long-distance relationships are difficult to maintain but can be
rewarding. The steps used to help maintain a healthy long-distance relationship can also be used
If the idea of long-distance relationships became more positive in our culture, then there
would be a higher success rate for long-distance relationships. A strong support group can give a
long-distance relationship the edge it needs to get through the tough times (Cameron, Jessica J.
and Michael Ross). Support groups are used all the time in todays world to help people get
through tough times. A strong support group starts out with close family and friends supporting
the idea of the relationship continuing despite the distance. Long-distance relationships are
Work Cited
Cameron, Jessica J. and Michael Ross. "In Times of Uncertainty: Predicting the Survival of
Long-Distance Relationships." Journal of Social Psychology, vol. 147, no. 6, Dec. 2007,
Knox, David, et al. "Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder? Long Distance Dating
Relationships among College Students." College Student Journal, vol. 36, no. 3, Sept.
Long Distance Relationships. The Center for the Study of Long Distance Relations, 2017,
Tseng, Chi-Fang. "My Love, How I Wish You Were by My Side: Maintaining Intercontinental
International Journal, vol. 38, no. 3, Sept. 2016, pp. 328-338. EBSCOhost.