Peterson, Julie Longua, and Tracy Dehart. In Defense of Self-Love: An Observational Study on Narcissists' Negative Behavior During Romantic Relationship Conflict.
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This is not what someone should do when
For example, narcissists prefer partners looking for self-love because it is not healthy. who are both perfect and admiring, in part because narcissists believe these partners will enhance their self-esteem
I wonder where the line is drawn between
narcissists are less concerned for the well- healthy self-love and narcissism. It probably being of their partners (see Sedikides, needs to be recognized that there is a healthy Campbell, Reeder, Elliot, & Gregg, 2002), balance of everything in life and the sooner more concerned about maintaining power people see that the better they can live. and autonomy in their relationships
Is it okay to break some relationships with
On the other hand, it is also possible that people if they are detrimental to your own narcissists will enhance the self at the self? Would this make you more of a expense of their relationship. narcissist?
I do not know how I feel about this because I
Research suggests that narcissism is think it should be okay to weaken a bond with associated with a willingness to weaken someone if they are harming your self image. bonds with close others in order to maintain inflated self-views
I think this means that if someone is truly
some researchers have suggested that practicing self-love they will not be a narcissists positive self-evaluations mask narcissist because they are not going to take underlying (and potentially implicit) their insecurities and inflict harmful ideas insecurities about self-worth onto others.
I think this can also go for people who do not
Results indicated that participants higher know what self-love is. It can truly be (vs. lower) in narcissism were observed harmful. engaging in significantly more negative behavior, such as criticizing, complaining, insulting, and name-calling, during the conflict and reported becoming less committed to their partners after the conflict.
This shows that lack of self-love can affect
Moreover, research on romantic conflict many parts of a persons life. While has revealed that couples most destined for narcissism and self-love are very different relationship loss seem to be those who, they have similar reporcussions. during conflict, criticize and express contempt for each other, respond defensively, and withdraw from one another
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