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I put a lot of effort to make it not only compelling, but also quick and
easy to read. I really hope that you will enjoy it and that it will help
you to reinforce the concepts I’m discussing in my videos.



All the best and live with confidence!

Jimmy
Stop seeking approval. The more you seek it the
less confident you appear. Look at the highest
status individuals - they rarely seek approval
Everybody seeks the approval and validation of other people to a
certain extent. However, it has become clear that people who get the
most approval, validation and respect usually don’t care about it. It is
very counter intuitive, and at first difficult to grasp. However, on your
path to confidence you will need to get this area handled. As I
mentioned, everybody seeks approval and trying to totally change this
state of affairs wouldn’t be healthy. Having said that you should
alleviate your approval-seeking behavior and care less about what
other people think about you. I know, I know… it is easier said than
done. 



The problem is that when you compare yourself to other people you
can never be happy in your own skin. There will always be somebody
who is better in something else. Instead, always strive to compare
your own progress to yourself. Instead of comparing your actions and
results with other people, pause and take a deep breath and analyze
your life. What was your starting point? What progress have you made?
I am 100% sure that there are many things you could think about.

In order to gain a lot of confidence you need to change how you see
yourself. The reason is that all our characteristics, including the
external traits, are shaped by our perception. Your thoughts and
beliefs change your physiology and have a big impact on your body
language. For instance, a particular state of mind can stimulate
changes in your body language that will be barely visible by the
conscious mind. However, people will sense that something is different
at the subconscious level. After a comprehensive analysis of many
different people who lack confidence I came to the conclusion that
most of them have one commonality. Namely, they take themselves
too seriously.



“…what others will think about me?”



They are pondering whether they will manage to win approval and
validation or not. There is also an enormous fear of rejection. This in
turn destroys the confidence as the person is trying to conform to
everything that is socially acceptable (or imposed by their subculture/
social reference group). Paradoxically, when this occurs they get even
less approval, because others can sense their weakness and fake
conformity. 



Some people will love you, others will hate you no matter what you
do



You need to change your way of thinking by understanding that no
matter how great you are, there will be some people who will always
disagree with you. Moreover, some people will hate you no matter
what you do. Imagine a situation that we summon 100 random people
from the street and ask them to look at you for 10 seconds.
Subsequently, they are required to anonymously express their opinion
on you. Most probably the majority will say that they can’t really
access you solely based on your looks. Some people will admit that
they simply like you and they cannot rationally explain the reasons.
They find you likeable and that’s it. Perhaps, it is your smile or maybe
you remind them of their role models or old friends. However, a small
group of people will admit that they don’t like you. There can be
various doubtful reasons. For example, your smile may be a problem as
it reminds them of somebody they hated back at school. Perhaps, they
didn’t like the way you looked at them and they created hidden
negative meaning in their mind. Finally, the reason could be as simple
as the fact that they just don’t like your face.



I have to lay it on you. Nobody in this world can escape negative
judgment. You could be a person who devoted his life to helping
others, somebody who would sacrifice his own life for the greater
good, but still… you won’t get all people to like you and to give you
approval. It’s just a nature of human beings and the moment you
understand it and become OK with it, everything else will become
easier.



Build “Why I’m Great” list



Write down your accomplishments and record them.



You are better than you think you are. We humans tend to
underestimate ourselves and overestimate others. This state of affairs
is very unfortunate as it limits our potential. Tony Robbins explains it
very well. He says that when we don’t believe in ourselves we are less
likely to take a massive action.



“Why would I make true effort if I won’t succeed anyway…” we often
say to ourselves








As a consequence, you end up not giving your best and your results are
in fact minimal






It is obvious that the results will not satisfy you. This only reinforces
your belief that you are not capable of achieving great things








Feeling that way, you underestimate yourself and end up not taking
massive action





The circle repeats itself



It is a circle of death and you need to avoid it. If you are already inside
you need to escape it as soon as possible. The exercise I am offering
you will reinforce your belief in yourself by showing you that you are
better than you think you are. The main purpose is not to simply
motivate you. The goal is to show you real evidence of your greatness.
There are many things you can be proud of. Unfortunately, many of
them are suppressed deep in your mind and your task is to dig them
out. Do not procrastinate. Later and tomorrow usually never come. Do
it now.



There are 3 steps:



STEP 1 - Take a piece of paper and write down the following:
• Everything that you are proud of in your life
• All the assets (not just physical) you have
• All your accomplishments
• Situations demonstrating your strengths e.g. when you helped
somebody
• Things you really like about yourself e.g. a particular part of your
body



The key is that you can’t limit yourself to the mere obvious. Delve
deep into your mind and try to list as many things as possible. Listen to
your favorite music and spend at least 20 minutes on this exercise.
Strive to list even the smallest positive thing you can think about.

Fight the temptation to do it in 5 minutes. The reason is that there
will be many accomplishments, situations, strengths that you will
forget to mention. It will happen because many of these things are
stored deep in your memory and it is not so easy to access them.

As I mentioned before, write down every single thing that comes to
your mind. For example if everybody keeps telling you that you have
beautiful eyes, then write it down. If you are personally proud of any
particular part of your body, jot it down. If you had a situation when
you helped an older woman with her bag on the plane, guess what…
jot it down. Is there anything you like about yourself that is very
private or socially unacceptable? Jot it down anyway! Have no shame,
no one else but you will read the list.



Bear in mind that the list should always be in progress, meaning that
you should be reviewing and updating it frequently.



Step 2 – Create an audio version of your list

Record yourself reading the list out aloud. You can use your MP3, iPod,
phone or whatever comes in handy. Make sure that you have a high
level of energy. The reason is that later on you will be listening to that
recording many times and you want it to energize you. To warm up,
read everything aloud without recording. Imagine that you are on the
air and you need to captivate your audience with your charisma and
tone of voice. 



After recording each item from the list, pause for 2 seconds. These
pauses will give you ample time to digest the content of the message
when you listen to the tape at a later date.



Step 3 – Always keep the audio version on your phone/MP3 and the
miniature of the physical list in your pocket or wallet



Here comes the best part. Whenever you need an additional boost of
confidence and motivation, refer to your list in order to remind
yourself how great you are. For instance, you may use this list when
you feel down or when self-doubts creep in. When you are about to
face major challenges in your life, this list will definitely help you to
be more positive, confident, and most importantly, make you realize
that you are better than you think you are. 



However, your list will also be extremely helpful when you need more
confidence on the spot, for instance, when you are about to approach
an uncomfortable situation.



Emulate Confident People


Speak the way they speak, 

Dress the way they dress, 

Move the way they move. 



Modelling is based on the concept that there is no point of reinventing
the wheel unless necessary. For instance, if you want to learn how to
cook, why would you want to do it intuitively, using the trial and error
approach? It makes more sense to watch YT tutorials and follow the
advice from a decent cook book. Essentially, if something you are
trying to achieve has been already accomplished by other people,
don’t try to be original for the sake of being original. This is the
shortest path to failure.



Instead, learn from the best and their path to success. This approach
will accelerate your learning experience, thereby the chance of
success. 



The good news is that the concept of modelling successful people also
applies to building your self-confidence. There are so many confident,
successful individuals you could learn from, including business tycoons,
movie starts, coaches or even people in your own life. Do you
personally know anybody who is very confident? I am sure you do.
Below I will show you exactly what to do in order to make the most of
the modelling principle. 



STEP 1 - Jot down the names of all the confident people you admire



Are there any businessmen or movie characters you admire because of
their confident body language? Perhaps, there is a member of your
family you look up to, because of their exceptionally confident way of
speaking. On the other hand, if you truly admire the character of Mike
played by Al Pacino in “The Godfather”, jot his name down as well.
Remember, that the individuals you choose can be fictional.



STEP 2 - Review the list and ask yourself the following questions:



Which of these people do I admire the most?



Which of them has the highest level of confidence?



If I could get the posture, body language, behaviour and the tone of
voice of one of these individuals, which one would I pick?



Analyze your answers and select 2 to 4 individuals. These people will
constitute your new role models that you will learn from. 



STEP 3 - Carefully analyze your role models



What are the characteristics that make them so confident? Is there
something about their eye contact, the way they walk or speak? Make
effort to analyze it profoundly and jot down everything that comes to
your mind. Which one of these traits could you adopt in your own life
to become more confident?



Daily Routine



You should spend at least 10-15 minutes daily watching videos of your
role models, carefully analyzing what makes them look and act so
confident. The best way is to find particular YouTube videos that
portray your role models as the embodiment of confidence. Bookmark
them and refer to them daily. It is extremely important as it will help
you to build the momentum. You will be more likely to implement your
observations and conclusions in your everyday life. 











STEP 4 – Modelling



Replicate the traits of your role models as often as possible, ideally
every single day. One good way to practise and monitor your progress
in the comfort of your own home is to record yourself. Set up a video
camera and practise several situations you experience frequently. For
example, the moment you greet somebody on the street, small talk
you usually have or the moment you enter the office. Again, ask
yourself what your role models would do and correct your course along
the way. Watch the videos and analyze your body language. Compare it
to the videos of your role models, note the areas for improvement and
repeat the exercise. Bear in mind that this is just an additional
element to the practice you will have in the real social environment.

Finally, take a sheet of paper and write down the following in capital
letters:



“How would <person1/2/3 > act now? Be confident and become one of
them”



For example, you could write: 



“How would The Godfather, Tony Robbins and Steve Jobs act now? Be
confident and become one of them”



Keep it in your wallet as it will remind you to stay on the right track
throughout the day.



Become an Actor
How is it possible that a great actor manages to transform himself into
a variety of different characters? Sometimes, these characters have
contrasting traits. For instance, Al Pacino may become an average
middle aged man in one of his movies, and a ruthless mafia chief in
another. Look at some of the greatest actors of all time. Most of them
were incredibly flexible in their approach throughout their careers. 

There is something important you can learn from great actors. Namely,
if you define the ideal appearance, body language, behavior and the
tone of voice of the person you strive to become and fully concentrate
on attaining these attributes, you will change the way people perceive
you. Most importantly, YOU will perceive yourself in a totally different
way. 



You need to become an actor who is about to create his masterpiece.
Your role is to play a truly confident character. You may say: 



“Whatever Jimmy… I get your point, but I am not an actor and real life
is different”



Well, what if a talent scout spotted you on the street and offered you
a small, but very well paid role in a movie. Let your imagination flow
and envision that the movie director realizes that you are a perfect
match for that role and offers you $ 500,000. You can get all this
money just for a few scenes in a Hollywood production. Not a bad
deal.



Think about it, $500,000 for a week of work. I am sure that the answer
would be an emphatic “ yes!” 

What about playing that ultra-confident character? Are you capable of
it? I am sure that you would find a way to make it happen. When you
have a strong enough WHY, it is inevitable that you will make things
happen. It all comes down to huge motivation (in this case financial
gain and potential fame), learning by analyzing the best as well as
practice. 



Take a moment to think about it. Grasping this concept can change
your perception. Personally, I went through a similar process on my
path to become more confident. When I delved deeper I realized that
the only thing that could stop me was my limiting inner voice.
Whenever I had to face challenging and potentially uncomfortable
business situations I imagined that I was an actor. I gave myself a
permission to be extremely confident. After all, I was an actor and had
a job to do. When I took this approach I noticed a significant
improvement in my level of confidence. There is something powerful
about “acting as if”. The more you do it, the more you become your
ideal character. At some point certain traits you created as an “actor”
are internalized and become a part of your core.



Low Status Mentality



Unfortunately, most of us have a low status self-image. We have a
certain perception of ourselves and subconsciously feel that whatever
deviates from the norm, imposed by the cues we get from the society,
is incongruent. For example, when you want to act confidently you are
often unable to do so, because of your limiting self-image. You know
exactly how you should adjust your body language, tone of voice and
behavior to appear more confident, but nevertheless get stuck. 



As from today, become an actor whenever you enter a situation that
requires confidence. Choose one of your favourite movie characters
and imagine that you get paid to act like him. 



Multiple Elevator Pitch



There are some people who tend to lose their feeling of confidence
and composure during basic conversations with others. Have you ever
had a situation when you spoke to somebody you didn’t know well and
felt some strange pressure deep inside? Perhaps, the feeling was so
uncomfortable that you even started to lose your composure? 

In the most extreme cases the lack of composure is clearly visible to
others making the “victim” even more stressed. It is a death spiral
that can easily discourage some individuals from entering social
situations. The pain of potential stress and embarrassment is higher
than the pleasure of interacting with others. I’m gonna list some of
the most common visible symptoms of this predicament:



-trembling hands 

-sweating

-abrupt changes in the tone of voice 

-not being able to finish the sentence without swallowing

-humidity in the eyes

-stuttering, mumbling

-nervous tics

-lightness in the head 

-dryness in the mouth

-headache (triggered by increase in blood pressure)



I hope that you haven’t experienced any of this as it’s a terrible
situation to be in. However, if you have, this chapter will help you to
alleviate the risk of this happening again in the future. 



Extreme loss of composure usually happens when a person you are
talking to intimidates you to a certain extent. For instance, it is more
likely to occur when you are speaking to a very confident person, an
attractive person of the opposite sex or a bigger group of people. It
can also happen when you are not sure how to respond to certain
open-ended questions, have difficulty in introducing new topics or you
when you simply feel that what you are saying doesn’t make sense (by
the way - usually it’s just a self-imposed limitation, not reality).



There is a simple strategy that will enable you to change this state of
affairs on the spot. Fortunately, conversational patterns are highly
predictable. Think about your everyday conversations. They usually
start and end in a similar way and have similar structure. Taking this
into account, you can prepare a few cool responses to the most
common questions and have them under your sleeve. What do I mean
by the “most common questions”?
Let me explain. When you enter any new social situation there are
certain questions that others will most probably ask you. For example:



How is your day going?

What do you do for living?

How do you know <person>?

How do you like this city so far?

What is your passion/hobby?

What are your plans for the <summer, Christmas and so on.>?



Unfortunately, if you lack confidence there is a possibility that even
these simple questions will put some pressure on you. In some cases
the anxiety starts becoming too high to cope with. This situation may
in turn decrease your level of confidence and cause you to lose your
composure. 



To increase your level of confidence on the spot and protect yourself
from this predicament, you can internalize the answers to the most
common questions in advance. This is the reason I like to call it the
Multiple Elevator Pitch.



So What is an Elevator Pitch itself? 



The idea of having an elevator pitch is very well known in business. It
is essentially a very concise, but comprehensive description of who you
are and what you do. By definition an elevator pitch should say a lot
about you, but be concise enough so you can use it in the elevator.
Imagine that you enter the lift in your office and happen to see the
CEO whom you don’t know personally. He asks you: “So, what do you
do?”

If you don’t have your elevator pitch prepared you will be probably
surprised by the question and your response will be chaotic.



However, imagine that you have your quick intro prepared beforehand.
The moment he asks you exactly the question you can respond without
any problems.



However, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that you should script
your conversations. This wouldn’t make sense. What I’m suggesting is
that you can get rid of the initial stress by internalizing various
responses to the most common questions that will serve as your
crutches.



This tip will not only make you feel more confident, but you will also
appear more confident in the eyes of other people. Think about the
last 10 interactions you had with your colleagues. The first question is
usually: 



How are you doing? I haven’t seen you for while, what have you been
up to?



The rest of the conversation will usually follow whatever response you
give. Take an advantage of this predictability and prepare yourself.



I need to emphasize that I don’t want to you to use this approach
forever. It simply helps you to break out of your old-self. You become
more comfortable and eloquent when speaking with others, which will
in turn increase your overall confidence. As I said before, this strategy
is especially useful for people who have social anxiety and conversing
with others makes them very stressed.


“I Feel Great!”


How do you respond when someone asks you: “how are you?”

If you are like most people the chances are that you say:



“not too bad”

“I’m fine”

“I’m ok” etc.



Is that the case? You need to ask yourself what this response projects
and believe me, it projects many things.



First of all, you are amongst 98% of people who use the same generic
response. You become one of many and guess what... it makes you
being perceived as an average person. 



Most importantly, it’s very mechanical and doesn’t propel your brain to
be more positive. Whether you like it or not the language you use has
a huge impact on your mental state.



From now on make a commitment to yourself that whenever somebody
asks you the most common question (how are you doing?), your
response will be more positive. The reason is that it will positively
impact your confidence. For instance, let’s assume that you don’t feel
great today. You haven’t slept enough and feel a little bit stressed
about the presentation you have to deliver later today. If somebody
asks you how you feel today and you respond with an enthusiastic
”great!” you not only force your brain to “materialize" this feeling, but
at the same time you also hold yourself accountable for this state of
mind. After all, since you are telling everybody that everything is going
amazingly well, you have no choice but to live up to this. Now you
can’t simply walk around with a grumpy face complaining how unfair
the world is, or how difficult and problematic a situation may be, nor
can you punctuate your personal misfortunes. It would seem ridiculous
as there would be absolutely no compatibility between your words and
your actions. And lack of compatibility usually results in lack of trust
and respect from others. Therefore, by saying that you feel great you
force yourself to act as if you actually feel great! Also, if you act as if
you are feeling great, the likelihood of you reaching that state will
increase. 



Have you noticed how many sick people derive pleasure from speaking
about their illness and to what extent they go to embellish their
symptoms? Perhaps, you are one of them. No worries, there is nothing
to be ashamed of – it happened to most of us at some point. However,
you have probably noticed that the individuals who complain about
their sickness usually retain this state for quite a long period of time.
This is due to the fact that every time they mention how sick they are
it only reinforces the belief in their mind that they can’t get better
soon. Their wish becomes a command for their subconscious.



However, I am also sure that you know people who stay positive and
don’t complain no matter what. They may be suffering from a strong
ailment, but they never try to portray things worse than they actually
are and generally avoid talking about their predicament. If they do
mention their ailment, they usually adapt a positive attitude to their
present situation. And most of all, they learn how to accept the things
they have no influence on. These people usually get better very
quickly. Their behavior impacts their physiology, whether they are
aware of it or not. Furthermore, people who smile more often are
always in a better mood than grumblers.



You become the mix of who you associate with, what you read, what
you experience, what you focus on and what you speak about. Use
positive vocabulary and say that you feel great whenever asked. It is
inevitable that you will not only feel better, but also people will
perceive you as a more positive person. This will in turn lead to a
higher inner, but also perceived self-confidence.

The Importance of Pushing Your Comfort Zone




When you stare at apple for too long, it’s gonna rot. And when you
stare at your fears for too long without taking any action your
confidence will rot just like that apple. This is why it’s so important to
push your comfort zone regularly and face your fears like warrior.



One of the most important traits of successful people is the willingness
to push their comfort zone. Are they afraid? Sure! However, the
difference between winners and losers is that winners take action in
spite of fear. Whenever you push your comfort zone you expand it.
Comfort zone is just like a muscle - you can’t grow it without a little
bit of sweat.







Let me explain how it works. Imagine that it’s the last day of your
holiday and you are on the beach. The weather is pretty bad and the
water is cold. Since it’s your last day you decide to jump in anyway.
Initially you feel freezing cold. However, after a few minutes of
jumping in and out you adjust to the new environment. You are almost
naked, but probably feel warmer that people who are dry. This is how
your comfort zone works. Whenever you do something that scares you,
you make that fear smaller and become more and more comfortable
with the uncomfortable. 



However, what’s gonna happen if you decide to swim again in a couple
of hours? Well, you will have to go through the process again. The
same happens with your comfort zone and this is why it’s so important
to push it regularly.



Most successful people are willing to take calculated risks and accept
that certain situations will make them feel uncomfortable. However,
they are aware that the potential reward is much bigger than the
discomfort they may experience temporarily. 



Become that person. 



Consciously engineer situations that will push your comfort zone and
whenever the self doubt creeps in, switch off your thinking and do it
anyway. This behaviour will also build your confidence and self esteem
as you will prove to yourself that you can manage your fears instead of
letting your fears to control you.
Action Step: What is one activity that scares you? Identify it and make
a conscious decision that you will do it. Set the time and face that
fear.





Use Small Daily Interactions to Your Advantage



No matter who you are, daily social communication is inevitable. I am
not referring to gatherings or meetings, but to the simplest form of
social interactions, for instance speaking to a shop assistant, your
hairdresser, banker or taxi driver. Unfortunately, most of these
interactions are very mechanical and emotionless. It almost seems like
you are not speaking to another human being, but to a machine, really
think about. When you go to the supermarket what do you usually say?
In 99% of cases it’s a simple:



“Hi”



…



“Thank you”



I’m not saying that there is something inherently wrong with this
approach. You are probably very busy and want to get things done
quickly. Treating others like a part of machinery may be sometimes
convenient. 



However, I believe that if you really want to improve your social skills,
self-confidence and charisma, there is a better approach.

Instead of being like everyone else strive to become a member of this
small % of people who are perceived to be social masters. Think about
those you admire for their high level of social confidence. How do they
approach any social situation? Is there something different about
them?



It seems like they know how to create an instantaneous bonding
experience with people by being open, enthusiastic and genuinely
interested in others. They seem cool even in the shortest interactions.
For instance, when speaking to the cashier they are not following the
boring and predictable pattern:







“Hi”



…



“Thank you”





Instead, they have a confident smile, a lot of positive energy and
usually start with an enthusiastic:



“Hey! How is your day?!”



They would then continue a short, positive chat while the cashier is
scanning the items. For example, they may quickly share an
interesting fact or make a funny comment about something. In this
way social masters propel the other person to open up and engage in
the chat.



Don’t get me wrong though. I am not saying that you should initiate
long, deep conversations when queuing in the supermarket. You would
definitely wind many people up including the cashier. However, what
you want to create is a quick, energetic chat that will make the other
person smile and bring both of you some positive energy.



Bear in mind that the above is just an example and this approach
applies to situations in many other places like pharmacy, barbershop,
post office, restaurant, elevator, to name just a few. You need to
remember that strangers you meet on your path are also humans and
they have their problems, fears and insecurities. They will not judge
you. In fact, in most cases they will value you tremendously once they
see that you are a positive person who is willing to talk to them.



Have you ever met somebody who doesn’t like to feel special and
important? I doubt it. Everybody wants the approval of others to
certain extent. There is no better way to make a person feel good,
special and important by striking up a chat and asking questions about
themselves with a genuine interest. 



Simple Challenge – 3 strangers a day



Make a commitment to yourself that every single day you will start a
conversation with at least 3 people you don’t know. I can sense that
while reading this you start feeling a bit uncomfortable. 



“3 strangers a day?!”



Well, I am not asking you to engage in long, deep conversations every
time you meet somebody. The point is to initiate very short chats using
everyday situations. This way you avoid the fear of rejection and train
yourself in social dynamics. How can a cashier, a postman or a barber
reject you? Use every single opportunity to be a little bit more social
than the day before.



Something to consider: In the past how many chats did you initiate
spontaneously every week (I’m referring to total strangers)? Most
people don’t do it at all (not counting the drunken nights out). Now
realize how much you are about to learn with the minimal time
invested. Within a year you will have initiated a conversation with at
least 1000 strangers. There are certain conversational patters that
repeat themselves quite often and your brain will start recognizing
them. For instance, after 100 times of saying:



Hey, how is your day? Any cool plans for the weekend?



Your subconscious will learn how to predict possible answers to that
question with the light speed and foresee various potential
conversational threads that can emerge later. You will start seeing in
slow motion and become great in starting conversations. I am pretty
sure that it will change your social and business life. The reason is that
most interactions always start in a similar way, no matter what person
you are speaking to and in what situation you find yourself in. First 30
seconds become a foundation for the rest that follows. Thanks to your
new daily habit you will master those first 30 seconds, which in turn
will increase your inner (and perceived) social confidence.





The Psychology of Rejection



First of all, very often when you feel rejected it’s not necessarily the
reality, but only your interpretation of the situation. When you feel
like you got rejected it may not even be about you, it may be about
the other person or the circumstances. For example, let’s say that you
are attending a dinner party and at one point decide join a group
discussion. However, you can sense that you are not very welcomed
and eventually, walk away. How do you feel?



Well, you probably feel rejected, your confidence dropped and you
experience a lot of discomfort. You feel like something may be wrong
with you. However, you probably haven’t considered that the situation
that just happened wasn’t even about you. Perhaps, the timing was
wrong. Maybe they have been discussing something important for a
long time and were just arriving at the conclusion OR perhaps, you
joined the group of friends who are saying good bye to one another
before leaving the country. There are many potential examples, but
the point is simple: Just because you feel rejected doesn't mean that
it’s about you.



So what to do when you really get/feel rejected?



You should smile and handle it as if nothing really happened. The
mistake many people make is that they show non verbally and/or
verbally that rejection had a huge negative impact on their self-
esteem. Their facial expression changes, the body language becomes
less confident, they are visibly sad and they walk away as if they were
just defeated. If you do that you let the rejection impact you in a
negative way. Also, you show to the person rejecting you that you
actually care a lot.



Instead, smile like it’s not a big deal and leave. Your motions impact
your emotions so whatever you do with your face or your body has an
impact on how you feel about whatever is happening.
People will notice when I get rejected



Many people feel fear that when they get rejected everybody will
notice and think that they are losers. This couldn’t be further from the
truth. 



First of all, everybody faces rejection. You could help millions of
people around the world, give all your money away and start serving
poor. Guess what? Rejection will still be a part of your life, it’s
inevitable as this is how we are hardwired as humans. You will never
get validation and approval of everyone (and trying to do so is very
destructive).



Secondly, you need to understand that people don’t pay attention to
you. They have too many things going on in their own lives. Sometimes
we go somewhere and when we are surrounded by people we feel like
we are observed. It seems like we are being watched. It’s simply not
true. Quick thought experiment: Imagine that you spend a couple of
hours walking around the city and take a few breaks in different
cafeterias.



What’s gonna happen if we show your picture to everyone who was in
your vicinity (whether a passersby or someone sitting next to you in a
cafeteria) and ask all of them: “did you see that person today?” 

Most probably only a few people will recognise you. As I say in many of
my videos our focus is limited and we can’t possibly focus on
everything as we would go crazy from overstimulation. People don’t
pay attention to you, then pay attention to themselves. As my friend
Peter Sage says: “Everyone is the main character in their own movie,
you are just an extra”



If you still think that people pay attention to you let me ask you a
question. Can you recall anybody you don’t know that you saw today
whether it was in the shop, on the street or any other location?
Probably not. Now, how many people were in your vicinity today?
Probably thousands…

People are simply too busy with their own lives. The interesting thing
is that loads of people get rejected by somebody when they are in
your vicinity and you are not even aware of it, because you don’t focus
on them. You have other things you pay attention to in your life.



Thank You



Thanks a lot for reading this guide! I appreciate your time and hope
that you found it useful. Always remember - it’s not just about the
knowledge, but IMPLEMENTATION is the KEY. Make sure that you go out
there and start using those strategies in your daily life.



btw - I appreciate your feedback and would be very grateful if you
could leave a formal review on the course page (after you watch
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I hope that you will enjoy the rest of the course!

All the best,

Jimmy