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Heidi Orman
EDUC 121
For my Virtual child assignment, the computer program gave me a son. My son James
was born a week early, and he came fast, I almost did not make it to the hospital. When James
was 3 months old, I started working, and we put him in a high-quality care center, so I did not
have to worry about teacher burn out or someone being sick. I breast fed him and supplemented
with formula from day one. I also let him be the guide for me on everything. When James was 8
months old, my partner lost his job, and did not get another one until four months later. James’
At his 9-month checkup, he was completely normal except he was out going, and his
motor skills were a little behind. When James was 1 year old, he said his first word, which was
“dog”. James also started walking at this time. He mastered the object permanence test at the
right time. By the age of fifteen months, James was a little scientist, and liked to do
neighbor child, and I switched him to a high-quality home daycare for children 18-36 months
At his nineteen-month checkup, James was not very aggressive with other children,
unless they took one of his toys; he had a strong attachment to me; he made good eye contact,
seemed at ease, was cheerful and was rarely tense or emotional during the observation. James
was above average in all aspects of language development; memory was pretty good; and he was
above age-norms for building a block tower to model one made by the examiner and other spatial
skills. James was about average for gross motor development and was able to concentrate on
By age two, James was potty trained, and rarely had accidents, and I thought at this time
that he was ready for preschool. I got pregnant again at this time. I choose a high-quality
preschool program that provides academic acceleration with both morning and evening options
and had him tested again at two and a half years old. This time James was normal except that he
became possessive of his toys, and pushed and bit a child, and his problem-solving skills were
excellent. James scored in the above average range on tests of language comprehension and
conversation the examiner and he had about a picture. James is about average in solving
problems with more than two steps and grouping objects together in categories. He is above
average in copying shapes with a pencil, working with picture puzzles and constructing things
out of blocks and seemed to enjoy working with these things a great deal. James' gross motor
skills were typical for his age and varied from slightly below average (climbing) to slightly
above average (throwing and catching a ball). James was able to focus on the tasks posed by the
Maggie, my second child was born when James was three years old. James loved his little
sister and liked to play with her. I had some problems with James, at this time, which are normal
with a new sibling. James regressed a little bit, he sometimes seemed to be regressing and
becoming more demanding and whiny, and less cooperative, but other times prided himself on
being a competent older sibling. We put the crib in James’ room until we moved into a better
house, where I put Maggie in daycare, and James started a new preschool. During that summer, I
had him tested again. James was cooperative and friendly, and able to focus well on tasks, but
somewhat anxious and unsure of himself in novel social situations. James was a bit clingy with
the teacher, and reluctant to join in preschool activities, but after sufficient encouragement,
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would join in. James seemed to have one or two little friends in the preschool and played
comprehension and production tests. For example, he was able to tell a detailed and coherent
story about a picture. James was in the average range in terms of understanding quantitative
tasks. He performed above average in copying designs, solving picture puzzles, and building
block towers to match someone else’s. James' gross motor skills were within the average range. I
also filled out a parenting questionnaire, and it said that I was currently somewhat above average
in warmth and affection shared with James, and currently about average in the discipline and
control.
I had James go to a summer prep session for kindergarten, and I enrolled him in school at
the age of 4 years, 10 months. He was assessed by the teacher, and she said that James was doing
well with the peer group. He made several little friends in the kindergarten prep session. He
could read a few short words and write his name and could name most of the letters on sight at
The teacher noted that James had only a few small difficulties adapting to the "practice"
kindergarten activities the children were asked to do. James was initially shy and reluctant to
engage in the kindergarten activities, but after watching a bit, joined in and was generally
cooperative and eager to please the teachers. James generally worked on his own but became
somewhat nervous and dependent on the teachers when mild stress occurred. He performed
above average on tests of vocabulary, and the ability to retell a story. James' language skills
seemed to be more than ready for the beginning of kindergarten. James had age-appropriate
skills in counting, classifying and understanding quantitative relationships. James had a real
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knack for the art projects the teachers had the students do, and really got interested in the pre-
math activities involving working with blocks and geometric shapes. On the parenting
questionnaire I ranked in the top 15% in terms of affection and warmth displayed toward James,
James's first official day of school was exciting and a bit stressful. So, it was normal, at
the end of the day, James said, "My teacher is nice." When James turned 6, he was pretty good at
learning the words of songs in school and had a decent voice. I asked him if he would like voice
or piano lessons, but he was not very enthusiastic. However, James started to learn how to play
the electronic keyboard at home, following the simplified musical notation in a little book. James
had night terrors at this time. I signed James up for bilingual class. One day James told me that I
am "nicer" to him than other parents are to their kids, and I have more "rules" than other kids'
parents. I was surprised that James was aware of how other parents behave. James' first grade
report card stated that James was kind and corporative. James was good at reading, writing,
speaking, listening, social studies, science, spatial understanding, and visual arts. He was normal
in mathematical problem solving, understanding of data and number concepts. James was usually
appropriately active during recess and physical games, and appropriately quiet during periods of
work in the classroom setting. He did not show an unusual amount of impulsive or distractible
behavior. Usually he worked independently, listening attentively and following directions, and
usually followed classroom rules. In the comments section the teacher wrote: “Sometimes James
over-reacts to stressful situations and can become anxious, moody or slightly depressed. With
encouragement, he usually seems to come out of it before the day ends.” When James was 8
years old, I had to call and tell one of James’ friend’s parents that James would not be able to
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come back over because they let him watch an R rated movie. I started teaching James about
At age 8, I had James tested by a psychologist. James was average to above average
range in word reading, reading fluency, phonological awareness and spelling. He was friendly to
the examiner and remained calm and cheerful during the IQ and achievement tests even when
some of the questions became difficult and frustrating. These were some of James' scores on the
Verbal portion of the Wechsler Intelligence Scale for Children (where 7 is one standard deviation
below the mean, 10 is the mean and 13 is one standard deviation above the mean): Information
(15), Vocabulary (17), Similarities (16), Comprehension (16). The psychologist said these scores
were in the gifted range. James' scores on the math concepts, math application problems, and
math computation tests were in the average range. James' scores on tests of visual-spatial ability
(spatial rotation, copying of designs, etc.) were well above average, and the examiner
recommended that I seek out drawing, design and building experiences for James, depending on
interest level. The psychologist interviewed me using a standard set of questions about parenting
attitudes. According to my scores, I was in the top 15% in warmth and affection toward James.
My scores on the parenting questionnaire indicated that I was in the top 15% in discipline and
James was a normal ten-year-old. James’ 5th grade report card stated that James did
above average in all areas of reading, spelling, speaking, listening, social studies, science, and
art. James was "appropriate for grade level" in writing, mathematical problem solving,
music. In the comments section the teacher wrote: “Occasionally James gets upset during
stressful situations inside or outside the classroom, but usually is able to bounce back quickly.
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He usually works independently, listens attentively and follows directions, and consistently
When James was 12 years old, I got a chance to make a business trip to Montreal, so I got
passports for James and me to go on a Canadian adventure. Maggie was too young for this trip
and got cared for at home. James pointed out some of the differences in everyday things, such as
food packages in the markets, signs in both English and French, and other subtle cultural
differences. He said he wanted to learn French. James' oral reading, decoding, reading
comprehension, spelling and writing skills were above his grade level, and he was busy writing
stories and experiences down into his journal. I encouraged any reading interests and provided
praise and helpful feedback for James' writing efforts. My partner and I had separated, and James
got braces. I got his 7th grade report card early in the summer. It sated that James’s word
reading, spelling and writing skills were strong. He got A's in the gifted and talented English-
Social Studies core course and in Spanish. The teacher commented that James was becoming
very good at analyzing literature and was quite a good writer as well. He got a B in both 7th
grade Math and Science. When he took art, and he got an A. The art teacher wrote a note
attached to the report card that said this was a real area of strength for James. He listened
attentively, followed directions, and followed school rules. He was quite effective at time
homework. He had almost no problems completing assignments and turning them in on time.
James started his rebellion period at the age of 14 and started hanging out with
skateboarders. James made the high school swim and water polo teams. He started taking a
computer graphics class, and he received good grades on his progress report. My partner and I
got back together after on and off separations over the previous two years, and after going
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through a few weeks of couple’s therapy. We started getting along better and had a new sense of
maturity in the relationship. I am not sure how much of an effect the separation had on the kids.
James sometimes would blame himself for the separation. He seemed less cheerful than usual
and was arguing more with us. But, thankfully, he was not having problems with the peers at
school and was still doing well in his classes. Over the summer, James had been less cooperative
with my requests and was spending more and more time with friends. Sometimes I was able to
shuttle James and his friends around, but it was not always possible for either parent to monitor
James because of our jobs. I let him go but required that he always be reachable by cell phone;
and if he was not available; did not follow either parent's instructions about being home at a
certain time; or lies about where he had been; he would get grounded. James received good
James got A's in Spanish I, English Honors and World Geography. The English and
Spanish teachers both commented "a pleasure to have in class." He received A's in both Algebra
I and Biology and was rated as "a pleasure to have in class" for both subjects. Because of these
grades, James was eligible for Honors Geometry and Chemistry in 10th grade. He received A's in
his fine arts classes that year and a comment that his work was very creative. He earned a B in
music this year and did not seem too interested in taking music classes next year.
When James turned 16, we adopted another dog. When he got his license, the driver
training instructor reported that James was a conscientious driver. He never went over the speed
limit, always came to complete stops, and was very alert while driving on the freeway. I took a
45-min. commute job to save money for James’ college. James had a small accident accident and
I revoked his driving privileges for two months and made him fill out the forms and pay the
deductible. I signed James up for SAT ACT prep courses. He got a part-time job, working at a
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local grocery store. I required him to save half of his earnings for college. James got matching
tattoos with his girlfriend, luckily it was small and in an inconspicuous place.
Here are some highlights from James's 11th grade report card. James received good
marks for citizenship from several teachers, indicating that James contributed often to the class.
James was able to take Honors English and American History based on his 10th grade record and
got A's and commendations from the teachers for both. He also got an A in Spanish II and
planned to take AP Spanish, English and World History in 12th grade. He received A's in both
Algebra II and Physics. Because of these grades, James was eligible for AP Physics and
Chemistry in 12th grade. He received A's in his fine arts classes this past year and a notation
"Pleasure to have in class" from the Painting and Photography teachers. On the teachers'
recommendations, James has entered one painting and several photographs in a county-wide art
fair. He got a B in his music classes that year and seemed to enjoy his classes, learning a lot.
James received his test scores on the ACT and SAT at the age of 17. He scored in the top 5-10%
on all verbal subtests and the top 15% on all math and science tests. I was extremely excited for
James and begin to help him research colleges and prepare applications. James signed up for a
Psychology class the first semester of his senior year. He really enjoyed the class and talked
about it often with me. James jokes that he is always acting as a therapist to one friend or
another!
High school was over, and I was pleased to learn earlier in the year that James got into
several colleges, including a couple of very selective institutions, primarily on the strength of his
grades and scores on the SAT. James got financial aid from one of his top choices, but I needed
to discuss the family finances before proceeding. James sent in samples of his works in the
spring and was accepted into an art-design school. He planned to go there in the fall, instead of
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pursuing other plans. He had a summer job to save up money. As James headed into his next set
of adventures, I reflected on my relationship with him at this point in both of our lives. I have
managed to be an excellent parent in terms of both discipline and warmth. James is very close to
both parents now, but of the two, he is closer to me. He seeks out my advice on important issues
How I made decisions was that I pictured what I would really do with my child and did
that. I also based my decisions on a logic stand point, it is not logical to let your child get away
with crashing the car. If your child has already mastered something, do not keep teaching that
thing, go on to the next skill. I made the decisions because that was what my child needed. I
think my actions helped James when he got older to make sure his grades did not drop, or to not
give up on his hobbies, like how he liked to draw. When it was time to go to college he went to
an art-design school. The positive aspects of parenthood were watching James grow into a very
well-mannered man. The only negative thing that happened was James’ small accident, and his
small tattoo. I did not really think about the concepts from the Kail book, but I guess that it