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Abigail Adams
Abstract:
This paper will focus on the communicative practices of American students and their
downtown Madrid. This is important because in a residence with students from various
countries, the Americans sit together every night as a ritual routine. After analyzing
observations and interviews I found that this occurs because when required to create new
norms and routines it is possible for people to come together and create meaning in
Introduction:
Madrid, I went downstairs to the cafeteria and looked around. The large white room with
mismatched bright chairs and bright lighting was full of people that occupied the tables
and waited on line to get their food. I was immediately intimidated because every single
one of them was speaking Spanish and I knew that my own Spanish would not be enough
to keep up. I got my food and ate quickly and alone. As I walked to school later in the
day, I mentally convinced myself that I would be OK as the only American, and that I
would do my best. It would be good for me to practice and get to know people from a
different country. However, later that night when I returned to the cafeteria, there were
American students, speaking English to one another, all at the same table. I immediately
forgot my mental preparation and joined the Americans—who I would go on to sit with
As the semester continued on, I noticed that the conversations that took place during
dinner were unique from the rest of the conversations that occurred throughout the day.
The same people sat everyday at the same time at the same table. In a residence full of
people from all over the world, the Americans found each other. I was fascinated by this,
and curious as to why their conversations were always so similar. Every night the
conversations focused on the same topics, and the reactions were always similar as well.
The American students seemed to be in their own group as a comfort. One girl that will
be mentioned later, Lisa, even said about a group of American students that moved in
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later, “I don’t understand why we don’t all sit together. We are all Americans! We should
referencing my research along with a number of key participants, all of who are
American students that sit with one another during their meals.
Literature Review:
abroad, it is first important to consider the meaning of a dinnertime ritual outside of that
context. Shared mealtimes most commonly occur within a family setting. Chaya Possik
Continuous repetition of action, content, and form. Family meals take place in a
set way on a daily basis. There are often special "weekend" meals and family
celebrations that include eating together. There are certain family interactions that
occur only during family meals (Possik 260).
Further, these shared mealtimes are understood to be extremely important in the lives of
children and young adults in the United States. According to Cecily and Albert Dreyer,
the American dinnertime ritual is “perhaps the most stable family ritual in which the child
participates” (Dreyer 1973). Furthermore, in their journal article, Family Dinner Time as
a Unique Behavior Habitat, they discuss the importance of this ritual for white, middle
class Americans and the significance of the roles learned by the children of the family
when the ritual takes place. Dreyer and Dreyer agree that the social skills that a child
develops during their dinnertime rituals often remain with them for life. In support, the
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ritual that families are expected to strive for to manage a healthy and “American dream”
lifestyle. That being said, it is true, according to Miriam Weinstein, author of The
Surprising Power of Family Meals, that shared mealtimes are a resource that create
healthier lifestyles with less focus on drug and alcohol use, eating disorders, family
Kim Varey and Dan Shapiro studied the impact of dinnertime rituals for college
students over the course of their university experience. They found that for incoming
college freshman, one of the biggest challenges was adjusting to new routines after
leaving home and having to compensate for not having the support of their families. To
their family life at home. Students that had other siblings and/or a two-parent household
valued the routine and ritual of dinnertime more than students that were an only child
and/or came from a single parent household (Varey and Shapiro 1995). When comparing
this to the participants in this study, the majority have siblings and come from a two
parent household, although a few do not. However, those who do not are less likely to
prioritize their dinner routine each night. In The Rituals of Dinner, Margaret Visser
discusses the importance of table manners in each culture. While she finds the topic of
table manners to be absurdly funny, she also mentions that without them, the ritual of
dinnertime would be completely different. Relative to the topic of this paper, Visser
in the culture itself” (Visser 1991). While the particular table manners that the Americans
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in the Tierra de Estudiantes residence practiced in the United States may not be very
different that those that they practice in Madrid, the culture and conventions still change
with the way that they order their food, and that they are aware of the differences
between themselves and the Spaniards in the cafeteria. Visser also states that we use
eating as a medium for social relationships outside of the family world. Thus, the
relationships formed between the American abroad students over their meals are justified.
Based on the above information, the research questions I have formed are as
follows:
Method:
Overall Design:
relationships with the participants and my place in the group before I began my study.
Due to the nature of a qualitative study, I used two different research methods:
give me a more rounded understanding of unspoken practices of the group before I began
my interviews.
were all study abroad students living in the Tierra de Estudiantes Residence in downtown
Madrid, and all but one of them are visiting students at a local University. When the
study began they had only known each other for two months. The participants have all
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developed a relationship with one another and only two of them knew each other before
their study abroad period began. For the privacy of the participants and purpose of this
Formal Interviews: The formal interview procedure that I used was based on the
guidelines provided in chapters seven and eight of Sarah J. Tracey’s Qualitative Research
Methods. When I began my interviews I had a list of ten questions that were based
around the participant’s dinner practices in Madrid, their dinner routine at their home
university, and their dinner practices at home. The participants were asked about why the
American students seem to sit separately from the Spanish students, as well as asked to
detail their evenings, talk about their relationships with the other participants, and discuss
how the dinnertime discussions made them feel at the end of the day. The questions were
designed in order to understand why the participants sat where they did, why their
conversations were what they consisted of, and if there was meaning in the routine of
their practices. For some participants I asked questions that were more tailored to their
that occurred throughout the observations. Interviews will be cited throughout the paper
as (I-Date-Time).
Observations: My observations lasted for a period of 37 days, with some days not
decided to continue doing observations when not all of the participants were present
(which was mostly weekends), because it offered the opportunity to observe exchanges
that included masked feelings of some group members toward others. Each night I
attended dinner and participated in the dinner conversation, then noted whatever I
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thought might be significant in a Word document when dinner was over so that my note
taking did not have an impact on what was discussed in the moment. When I began to
Analytic Procedures
After the observations and the interviews I began to code the information. I
started with the material from the observations. To do this, I went through the data that I
collected and looked for similarities and commonalities in the information. To begin, I
went through my list of significant observations and noted two communicative practices
that happened in each. To clarify, for a certain date, based on what occurred, I might have
written “teasing” followed by “heated exchange.” This was the easiest way for me to
begin to see how often each type of communicative exchange was used and by
whom. To follow, I created a chart to reflect who used what communicative practices
and how often that person used them. I listed the communicative practices at the top of
the chart, in order of how often they were used, and the name of the participants
interview. I also created an Excel chart to track the participant’s age, family background,
demeanor, and past dinnertime rituals. This helped me to look at the Excel chart, find a
person relative to what I was looking for, then go back to their interview and look more
Analyses:
After only two months the participants were close enough to become one
another’s support systems, punch line, and entertainment. The most common
support, caring, tension, family relations, joking, and complaints. However, of these
topics the only ones that arose in the formal interviews with the participants were
support, caring, and joking. The most common reoccurring communicative practices that
arose in formal interviews were in regard to the time that everyone sits down, the age
difference and language difference between the Spanish students and the American
students, the fast bond that was created among the participants, and the comedic relief
that comes from a shared dinnertime routine. The quick construction of relationships
among the participants was their ideal, yet none of them expected it so quickly. However,
abroad students as a ritual. Based on the guidelines provided by Possik, the routine that
was originally convenient became ritual after repetitive practice and it became unusual to
go without it. In her interview Lisa stated, “it is noticeable when someone is not at dinner
because we are all used to seeing each other at the end of the day. If someone isn’t there
we might even text them to make sure they are ok” (I-322-7). To add, in align with
Possik’s definition of ritual, the participants occasionally share a meal together outside of
the residence hall, usually for an occasion such as a birthday or achievement. For
example, when Michael found out his paper was being published in his home university’s
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newspaper, Alexa suggested that they all go out for celebratory beers and burritos. (O-
323-7).
dinnertime also carry over into the participant’s dinnertime routine. The observations
show repeated communicative practices for certain participants that indicate their
dinnertime experiences in the past. The chart above shows how often each relevant
most of the communicative practices that were observed is relative to her interview in
which she stated, “I normally keep to myself during dinner. After a long day of class I am
not in a very talkative mood. Um, I am mostly comfortable with sitting there and
enjoying my food” (I-322-6). Rebecca is an only child that also eats alone relatively often
at home and at her home university. Thus, social cues learned at dinnertime are less likely
to apply to her. That being said, in the case of Michael, who eats with his family every
night, the conversation often turns back to him and stories about his life. This is a social
cue that as the only child living at home he could appropriately keep the focus on
himself. The people around him however do not agree with his social cues, as indicated
by the observation of Leah teasing Claire for chugging a pitcher of sangria if Michael
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would talk about himself 50% less, and Leah stating in her formal interview that the
In the observations that he was present for, as well as in his formal interview, Eric
referenced to the group of people that he eats with and hangs out with to be his family.
When Eric makes these grandiose statements the group reacts well and agrees. In her
interview, Lisa stated, “we have all leaned on each other and supported one anther
because we are all that we have here. They are my biggest support system” (I-322-7).
Eric and Lisa thinking of their dinnertime group as a form of family is substantial in that
Weinstein cites that dinnertime rituals within families creates and advocates for healthier
lifestyles. Eric parties five nights a week, and smokes a pack of cigarettes a day.
However, it was observed that a repetitive and recycled communicative practice within
the group is encouraging him against that type of lifestyle. On March 14, the observations
showed Eric going out for a cigarette and Alexa stopping him. In a later interview with
Alexa she stated, “I know he will smoke anyway. But I really hate that he puts that stuff
into his body so I will always try my best to stop him” (I-323-9).
As abroad students, the participants were required to develop a new routine and
adjust to a new life away from home and from their home university. This is not only
difficult, but it is also intimidating. Abroad students are similar to the findings of Varey
and Shapiro in that they are beginning at a new school away from home with a new
routine much like incoming college freshman leaving home for the first time. However,
when there is the absence of being able to return home for the weekend a new routine
must be created, and thus, a dinnertime ritual among friends. In addition to the
relationship among these findings are those of one-child households versus two or more
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child households. Rebecca is an only child that keeps to herself during dinner and is not
attached to the routine. Alexa, however, who has an older brother and loves her time with
her family, appreciates the dinnertime that the participants share together.
When going from eating with either your close friends or family every night to
not knowing anyone to eat with at all, a culture shock and intimidation becomes
prominent in the lives of abroad students. Visser discusses the potential detriment of
Henry, who usually eats alone or with his mother, now eats with a group of 12 people
every night. That being said, he is known for being loud, talking about himself, and
taking everything as a joke. In his formal interview, few of the answers that he gave were
taken seriously. These different conventions in mealtime routine for Henry are indicative
of the different culture that he became a part of. The previous culture would be one of
eating quickly and on the go in between school and work, and the current is to sit for over
an hour with a large group of people. To add, the rest of the American students are aware
of their separation from the Spanish students but don’t intend to do anything about it
All of the actions observed and mentioned in formal interviews are relevant and
related to the materials cited in the literature review above. The literature review is
largely centered on the importance of dinnertime rituals to families and the meaning that
is created for families when dinnertime rituals take place. Thus, the communicative
importance of finding comfort and routine in a new place, which can then become a form
of extended family.
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Conclusion:
In a setting unlike anything they have ever experienced before, the American
Estudiantes, had to create a new routine and find new comforts. Around a dinner table
there are an infinite amount of topics that a family can discuss, and through those
analysis of observations and formal interviews as compared with journals and books, I
American students studying abroad is that of an extended family. Rebecca shows the
reservation of an only child, Lisa shows the constant care of the family helper, Henry
shows the immaturity of someone usually on his own, and so on. Crowded around a
dinner table these very different personalities are able to come together in support of one
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Dreyer, C., & Dreyer, A. (1973). Family Dinner Time as a Unique Behavior Habitat.
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Varey, K., & Shapiro, D. (n.d.). College Students' Perceptions of the Dinner Time Ritual:
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Visser, M. (1991). The Rituals of Dinner: the origins, evolution, eccentricities and
Weinstein, M. (2006). The surprising power of family meals: how eating together makes
Appendix
Observations
March 6, 2017
As the students file in and sit down at the table at different times, each asks one girl
(Lisa) about her exam. When she expresses her concern, nearly all of them smile and say
“I’m sure you did great!” The conversation starts with the day’s events—discussed by the
whole table, sometimes broken into smaller groups based on who is sitting next to the
other. One regular member of the table’s group, Ro, asked people to go around and share
the “peak and pit” of their day.
Themes: support, caring
March 7, 2017
Claire says, “It’s my dad’s birthday and he hasn’t answered the phone all day. He hates
his birthday but I always make him celebrate it so I just wish I were there.” Lisa says
“Awe abs, I’m sure he knows that.” Henry says, “I’m sure your dad is happy you aren’t
there because you can’t make a big deal out of something he hates.”
Themes: joking, caring
In February another group of Americans had moved into El Faro, but all were from the
same University. They always sat in the same section as our group but at a different table.
That night, after talking to them on line for food, Lisa came back to our table and said,
“he is so nice. I don’t understand why we don’t all sit together. We are all Americans!
We should join forces.”
Themes: friendly, joking
they’re just really nice, really Slovic people.” Henry turned to Michael and said, “So
they’re almost like you, but they’re actually nice.”
Later, Henry and Michael were speaking to each other in Russian and laughing
hysterically.
Themes: family, joking
April 4, 2017
Rebecca came downstairs a few minutes late. Lisa immediately asked her how she was
feeling and if she had gone to the doctor yet. Everyone chimed in saying “oh you’re sick?
What’s wrong?” This was followed by different suggestions regarding the doctor,
medicines, and rest.
Themes: caring
April 5, 2017
Thomas was complaining about his meat not being fully cooked. Alexa suggested he go
back up and ask them to cook it more. This exchange happened three times, and the last
time Thomas snapped at Alexa, saying, “I don’t want to go back up! If you want to do it
then go for it, but stop bothering me about it.”
Themes: complaining and heated exchange
April 6, 2017
As dinner began to come to an end, Lisa (who is fluent in Spanish) leaned across the table
and whispered to Claire and Alexa, that Spanish girl at the table next to us has been
laughing and making fun of us the whole dinner and I am about to snap. Everything we
have been doing she has made fun of us for, except what we have been saying because
she cant understand the English. Claire and Alexa convinced her that it wasn’t a big
enough deal to get upset about and who cares if she was making fun of us, she is much
younger.
Themes: gossip, tension
saying to Henry (Alec’s roommate), I have a new sympathy for you and what you have to
deal with
Themes: gossip, complaints, support
Potential Abstract:
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This paper will focus on the communicative practices of American students and their
shared mealtimes while studying abroad. The significance is found in that in a residence
shared by students from all over the world, the Americans students sit together every
night and go through a routine. After analyzing observations and interviews I found that
this occurs for three primary reasons: Americans looking for comfort, replacing a routine,
and desire for familial practices. When moving to a new place for a temporary amount of
time, the routine from America that was lost is replaced with the most comforting routine
possible.
Interview Questions:
1. What do you think of your dinnertime routine at Tierra de Estudiantes?
2. What is your dinnertime routine in the US like with your family?
3. What is your dinnertime routine like in the US during the school year?
4. What do you think your relationship is like with the people that you have dinner
with?
5. Why do you think that the American students and the Spanish students sit
separately?
6. If the Spanish students sat with the American students at random one day how
would the Americans react?
7. What does the conversation at the table usually focus around?
8. Can you describe a typical night at the dinner table for me?
9. Is there a particular seating arrangement that people follow?
10. What led up to this group of Americans sitting together?
3. What is your dinnertime routine like in the US during the school year?
a. During the school year um, I eat dinner pretty late, I uh don’t know how to
cook, so its very rare that I make my own food. I usually go out to eat but
try to lead for a healthier option. If it’s a really busy part of the year or I
have a heavy workload I usually eat with my HW in silence with someone
else doing their work. If it’s the weekend I am more likely to go to a
restaurant with my roommates, but there is a significant amount of time
that my schedule doesn’t align so I go on my phone or with a book.
4. What do you think your relationship is like with the people that you have dinner
with?
a. I normally keep to myself during dinner. After a long day of class I am not
in a very talkative mood. Um, I am comfortable with sitting there and
enjoying my food. I don’t think I spend a longer amount of time eating
dinner here like most people do, because I am a slow eater so the Spanish
pace of eating is more fitting to my style.
5. Why do you think that the American students and the Spanish students sit
separately?
a. I think that there is a cultural divide and um I think it is a little bit difficult
for people to envision themselves out of their comfort zones and trying to
break the language barrier. I think that because we have a lot in common
being from the states we gravitate towards each other. If people do go out
of their comfort zones and communicate with Spanish students then the
conversation is very limited because we are not necessarily sure on what
topics are dinner appropriate and in general um I just think ppl are more
likely to like put themselves in different groups rather than sitting and
having one huge table.
6. If the Spanish students sat with the American students at random one day how
would the Americans react?
a. At first it would be a little bit confusing, shocking even. But I think if they
were to make that first move we would feel um happy that they went out
of their way to interact with us. But I definitely think the first reaction
would be one of surprise.
7. What does the conversation at the table usually focus around?
a. More often then not the conversation is centered on what people did that
day and what they encountered throughout their classes.
8. Can you describe a typical night at the dinner table for me?
a. Everyone normally comes down to have dinner at the same time. Soooo
we all have a habit of sitting together. Um I think in a sense we sit at
random, not necessarily next to the same people. A typical dinner is
normally filled with mundane conversation, weekend plans, and comments
about the food.
9. Is there a particular seating arrangement that people follow?
a. No its normally at random but within the same group of people.
10. What led up to this group of Americans sitting together?
a. I think with a limited number of American students in the dorm it was
easy to identify who the Americans were and like I said, when you’re
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comfortable with people from the states you are more likely to sit with
them as opposed to the Spanish students.
11. In observations it has been seen that people always ask you how you are feeling
when you are sick. How do you feel about this?
a. Good. I mean everyone is really nice and caring. Lisa always offers me
medicine.
very closed and not willing to take an extra step and start a conversation.
That has to do with our generation and our society. We might not know
how good their English is and not want to force our Spanish. Its shyness.
We just feel so comfortable being in our own language.
6. If the Spanish students sat with the American students at random one day how
would the Americans react?
a. I think we would be very open to it. Its really about who makes the first
step. Just like if we did it vice versa they would probably be open too. It
would be small talk at first, but the language barrier might hinder a real
connection. But both would be open and welcoming.
7. What does the conversation at the table usually focus around?
a. Mainly everyone’s days. Highs, lows, achievements, complaints, plans for
the weekend, past stories. Usually very comedic. Dinner is always
comedic relief.
8. Can you describe a typical night at the dinner table for me?
a. It usually starts with Alexa, Claire, and me being there first since we are
already hungry. We would get the table, the water, and then Thomas
comes in followed by Henry, and Michael with the occasional surprise of
the other guys coming in later. It is noticeable when someone is not at
dinner because we are all used to seeing each other at the end of the day. If
someone isn’t there we might even text them to make sure they are ok
Wherever we sit is where conversation will spur with one another. Once
we all have our first round we go back for seconds or salads. Claire will go
and get some dessert. Then we sit and talk and the whole process is
usually an hour and a half. IT is also where we congregate and plan for the
night out.
9. Is there a particular seating arrangement that people follow?
a. No not at all. I think everyone grabs the seat they like, or um, but I
definitely move around. Claire and Thomas like the same seat, but we
switch sides and there is nothing official.
10. What led up to this group of Americans sitting together?
a. I would credit this all to Michael and Henry. They’re very open, outgoing
and social. We all met them and they brought us all together. We all
connected with them in our own ways and soon we one by one met each
other and this became our crew. So I credit it to them because they
brought everyone together.
11. Why do you think that you and Henry have so many little spats?
a. I think that he and I are really different but very comfortable around each
other. He is actually like a brother to me because I care about him so much
but I know we both get annoyed by each other snap.
12. What would you say about the differences that the group brings to the table?
a. Oh everyone is so different. I really sometimes can’t believe we are all
friends. But I guess we love each other so it really doesn’t matter.
Sometimes its feels like more family than friends for that reason actually.
a. No, not really. I think sometimes a few people choose to sit near someone
else or in a particular seat, but most people just sit anywhere. But always
at the same table.
10. What led up to this group of Americans sitting together?
a. Honestly I came in late so I am not really sure. I missed the first week of
school but they all brought me in under their wing in the dorm because I
can be kind of shy. But once I sat with them a few times I never wanted to
change anything.
a. No—we haven’t known each other long enough to get clicky within our
own click. I usually sit somewhere near Henry.
10. What led up to this group of Americans sitting together?
a. We all just met randomly on the first day and bonded. We all continued
sitting down together at the same time, same place, same days. We could
have easily started sitting with other Americans but we all just get along.
But I really don’t know if we would all be friends if not for Tierra de
Estudiantes.
11. Can you describe a conversational moment with the people you eat dinner with
that would be telling of your relationship in some way?
a. Um, ok. Well the other day I was telling them that the paper for my home
university is publishing one of my stories. I was with Eric, Claire, Alexa,
and Lisa. Everyone was so happy for me and really being supportive.
Alexa even suggested that we go out for beers and burritos. Then I started
telling them about how now I can tell people at bars that I’m published
and they said, OK Michael, that’s enough talking time for you now. It’s
like they’re great people and so supportive and nice, but not afraid to joke
around with me and mess with me.
a. Funny stories- like Lisa for example tonight. The serious ones are not
always at dinner.
8. Can you describe a typical night at the dinner table for me?
a. We all sit down, and we start asking everyone what did you do today, or
how was your day or how was your exam. You asked me today how my
tryout went which was nice. But I also expect it, its normal.
9. Is there a particular seating arrangement that people follow?
a. Most of the time I sit either next to Alexa or next to you. I don’t know
why, I just know that we always have nice conversations.
10. What led up to this group of Americans sitting together?
a. We didn’t choose. It was just a coincidence. Everyone came from
somewhere different and we all made friends in smaller groups, came
together, and got to love one another.