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Depression in men:
communication,
diagnosis and therapy
Keywords Christopher Kilmartin
Depression
Abstract
Gender
Women are diagnosed with depressive disorders twice as frequently as men, and yet evidence from
Masculinity
differential rates of substance abuse, incarceration, and especially suicide calls into question the
Psychotherapy assumption that men are less susceptible than women to depression. It is possible that there is a
Diagnosis ‘‘masculine’’ form of depression that is under-diagnosed and under-treated. Health professionals should
work toward a greater understanding of cultural masculinity in the service of conceptualizing, diagnosing
and treating male clients/patients who may be suffering from a disguised form of this common mental
illness. Therapists who treat conventionally gendered male clients/patients should educate these men
about masculinity as an important context of their problem, and should attend closely to issues of
emotional expression, premature termination of therapy, and grief. ß 2005 WPMH GmbH. Published by Elsevier
Ireland Ltd.
Although twice as many women as men are may reflect underlying depressive symptoms
diagnosed with major depression [1], men com- that are undiagnosed and untreated [5–7].
mit suicide four times more often than women This problem is illustrated by the following
[2], abuse alcohol and other drugs at least twice excerpts from Dr. Spencer’s intake interview
as often [3], and commit 86% of all violent of 21-year-old Paul, who comes to the Psycho-
crimes [4]. These social and personal problems logical Services Center at his university.
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Practicing medicine
Dr Spencer might treat Paul’s distractibility defines as sex-appropriate [6]. However, an indi-
and sleep problems and ignore the grief issues viduals’ reactions to this pressure are widely
created by the breakup, taking at face value variable. There are many men who do not like
Paul’s assertion that he has no subjective feel- sports and many women who do. Likewise,
ings of sadness. A physician might prescribe there are many men who are emotionally
sleep aids or antianxiety medication rather expressive and many women who are not.
than refer the patient to psychotherapy. The ‘‘acting-out’’ depressive pattern described
The diagnostic criteria for major depression above is labeled ‘masculine’ (a psychological
found in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual term) rather than ‘male’ (a biological term)
of Mental Disorders, 4th edition (DSM-IV) [8] because many men are conventionally dep-
include symptoms that represent a feminine- ressed and many women may evidence a mascu-
gendered pattern (as defined in mainstream line style of depression. But because the cultural
Western culture) of the disorder. Women often pressure to conform to gender expectations is so
‘‘act in’’ because of a gender role that empha- powerful, most sufferers of masculine depres-
sizes both the expression of feeling and a focus sion are males.
on internal judgments of their own inadequa- Masculinity is culturally defined as antifemi-
cies. In contrast, men are socialized to ‘‘act out’’, ninity [9]. In most of the mainstream culture,
and thus men’s depression is more likely to be the worst insult for a boy is to say that he runs,
expressed through chronic anger, self-destruc- throws, looks, or acts like a girl [10]. Thus boys
tiveness, drug use, gambling, womanizing, and learn from an early age to avoid any behaviors
workaholism [5]. Underlying these behaviors that are culturally defined as feminine because
are experiences of loss and persistent feelings displaying such behaviors can lead to social
of hopelessness, helplessness, and worthless- punishment from male peers, parents and
ness, the hallmarks of depression. Because they other adults, siblings, and even from female
are socialized to avoid introspection and the peers. Avoidance of the feminine is also rein-
awareness of disempowering feelings, many forced by media images that often portray
men fail to recognize that they have a mental socially attractive men as being unemotional,
health problem in need of attention. Moreover, hyper-independent, and violent. These same
health professionals who come into contact images portray feminine-acting men as weak,
with men who display masculine patterns of neurotic, and deserving of punishment.
depression may fail to refer the client/patient to Because women stereotypically ‘‘act in’’ in
appropriate treatment. Paul’s symptoms do not response to psychological conflict (e.g., by cry-
meet the DSM-IV criteria for any depressive ing, worrying, and talking about sad feelings),
disorder, yet they are very similar to patients men are encouraged to do the opposite:
whose symptoms do fit the diagnosis. remain stoic, banish thoughts about their pro-
This article is an attempt to describe a mascu- blem from their consciousness, dissociate
line style of depression and provide recommen- themselves from their emotions or convert
dations for health professionals in communi- vulnerable emotions to anger, and take action
cation, diagnosis and treatment of male clients/ in response to their feelings.
patients who display this pattern. The approach The DSM-IV criteria for depression describe
consists of motivating men to seek treatment a feminine, acting in, mode, including: con-
and helping them to acknowledge vulnerable sciously depressed mood, fatigue, loss of
emotions, develop supportive relationships energy, and diminished pleasure in activities.
with other men and with women, take respon- It is not surprising that women are diagnosed
sibility for their problems and the destructive with depressive disorders twice as often as
interactions that often accompany, and build men. Some theorists believe that this sex dif-
the skills necessary for more effective manage- ference is due to institutional sexism, which
ment of their lives and relationships. certainly provides a great deal of stress, or to a
ruminative style of depression that is a product
Cultural masculinity and its effects of gender socialization, or to both [1]. However,
on symptom patterns in some men, patterns of substance abuse and
criminal behavior may reflect a dissociative
Cultural masculinity is the pressure to behave and action-oriented approach to dealing with
and experience the self in ways that the culture depressive symptoms.
Diagnostically, I believe that masculine clueless, and I need help in managing my emo-
symptoms of depression should include: bad tional life.’’ Moreover, if we are able to convince
temper, aggression (anger is the ‘‘masculine him to accept psychotherapy, we will be asking
emotional funnel system’’, one of the few him to express his feelings, cooperate, and
emotions for which male expression is cultu- introspect, all feminine-defined behaviors. Sen-
rally sanctioned; thus vulnerable emotion is sitivity to ‘‘men’s issues’’ will result in improved
often converted into anger [11,12]), substance delivery of service. Following are some general
abuse, physical and sexual risk taking, emo- guidelines for treating men who display a mas-
tional numbness, over-involvement in work culine style of depression.
or sports or both, and impoverished friend-
ships.
Why, then, should we label these symptoms Teach about gender
as depressive if the behavioral manifesta-
tions are so different from the pattern that Gender is an important context of men’s
the mainstream psychiatric establishment responses to health care. For example, con-
describes as depressive? One of the most suc- ventionally gendered men may be less likely
cessful non-medical models of depression con- than others to comply with physician’s
ceptualizes it as a cognitive problem. That is, orders, report their pain accurately to a chir-
depressed people hold beliefs about them- opractor, or take time off from work to attend
selves, their world, and their futures that physical therapy. Because the psychotherapy
maintain their symptoms. More specifically, situation is likely to address topics that are
depression can be thought of as a triad of especially gender salient (e.g., self-esteem,
beliefs: that one is fundamentally flawed, that emotions, relationships, and self-concept),
his/her flaw is in a highly valued area, and it is important to introduce the topic of
that it will never change. In other words, masculinity early in the relationship. Many
whatever is negative in one’s life is viewed men have never considered the effects of
as internal (‘‘it’s me’’), stable (‘‘it’s forever’’), gender on their behavior, yet it is an impor-
and global (‘‘it affects everything I do’’). These tant context for their lives. I would argue
cognitions lead to chronic feelings of being that one of the goals of treatment should
helpless, hopeless, and worthless [13,14]. As be to help the client/patient move into the
these are feminine-defined cognitions and position to resist the cultural pressure to be
emotions, conventionally gendered men masculine when it conflicts with his life
who are depressed are likely to defend against goals. It is very difficult to resist a pressure
these thoughts and feelings through the beha- that one cannot name, and so professionals
vioral pattern described above. The client can do great service by teaching about mas-
presented at the beginning of this article culinity. As a result, the male client/patient
experiences these cognitions but, through achieves a better language for symbolizing
masculine socialization, he has become adept his experience.
at erecting psychological defenses against
them and distorting the emotional experi-
ence they induce. Inoculate against premature
termination
to feel better. They feel relieved at having told the job that I wanted and I felt disappointed’’
their stories, and the professional has listened and then point out the different feelings that
empathically and instilled some hope for arise from the two statements. Another entry
the future. When symptoms improve to a into the man’s emotional world may come
barely tolerable level, the man might be from the use of the masculine mode of story
tempted to drop out of treatment. Doing so telling. Many men are adept at recounting
prematurely will usually result in a return to incidents from their lives. Therapists can help
the previous symptom level. Therefore, a health them to access their feelings by listening for
professional should inoculate the client/patient emotional themes in their stories and explor-
against premature termination by predicting ing these themes with them.
his ambivalence toward treatment, offering
support, and strongly recommending that he
continue to attend therapy despite feeling Access the vulnerable feelings
slightly better. underneath the anger
This article is the third in a series of articles on patient-physician communication. Further articles
in the series will be published in future issues of the journal.
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