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My Counseling Philosophy
Eden Driscoll
My Counseling Philosophy
students in the context of higher education is to encourage their learning about themselves and
how they interact with the world around them. In order to do that, we, student affairs
professionals acting as counselors, teach them how to think critically and develop agency over
their thoughts and feelings. We provide them the emotional encouragement they need to engage
with each other so that we create a network of support for students that spans across campus.
I personally believe that being a helper means partnering with students to assist them in
processing how they are making meaning of experiences. I want to empower them to reach their
own conclusions rather than give them direct advice. By asking questions rather than providing
answers, I hope to encourage personal reflection and critical thinking that challenges students to
examine their beliefs and the issues they are facing through multiple lenses.
lesser extent, cognitive behavior therapy. Both theories stress the importance of unconditional
positive regard shaping the relationship between the counselor and person being helped.
Growing up, my parents constantly told me that they would love me no matter what I did. My
Christian background also emphasized how much God loves people despite all their sins.
Therefore, the concepts of withholding judgement and believing in the underlying goodness of
students. As stated by Corey (2009), “When therapists are able to experience and communicate
their realness, support, caring, and nonjudgmental understanding, significant changes in the
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client are most likely to occur” (p. 169). I want to develop authentic relationships with students
I also agree with the shared humanistic and cognitive behavior principle that the client
partnership between equals. I cannot heal students, but I can assist them in healing themselves.
This is highly influenced by Baxter Magolda’s (2004) Learning Partnerships Model. While
challenging students to further develop themselves, I want to validate them as knowers in their
own right, to situate learning in their experience, and to mutually construct knowledge with
them. For example, if I am working with first generation students who are academically
struggling, I would ask them to identify what non-academic strengths they have and then
brainstorm with them how they can adapt those strengths to their schoolwork.
Some of the most important skills I have learned in this course are reflection,
confrontation, disputing beliefs, giving feedback, and using silence. Another relevant
characteristic of humanistic therapy is “reflecting and clarifying the client’s verbal and nonverbal
communications with the aim of helping clients become aware of and gain insight into their
feelings” (Corey, 2009, p. 166). I can use ‘you’ statements to reflect back the content and
feelings that I am perceiving from whoever I am helping. For example, to someone who is
telling me about her struggles with her roommate, I might respond with “You feel frustrated that
your roommate constantly leaves her dirty dishes in the sink.” Doing this allows me to
I also believe, like cognitive behavior therapists, in “replacing faulty cognitions with
constructive beliefs” (Corey, 2009, p. 278). I may subtly dispute a student’s beliefs in order to
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accomplish this. “You say that your roommate always leaves the kitchen a mess. I wonder
whether always is the most accurate word to use.” If I have a strong relationship with the
student, I may try gentle confrontation. “You complain about your roommate’s messiness, but
you also told me that you often do not have time to clean because of your other commitments.”
If I am very comfortable with a student, I may ask her whether she would be open to feedback.
“You have a tendency to be quick to judge people - how have you talked to your roommate about
her reasons for leaving the sink a mess?” Sometimes just sitting in silence may be enough to
I also need to take into account the cultural differences and unique identities of each
individual that I am counseling. As Brew and Kottler (2008) state, I need to gain an
“understanding [of] the client’s unique worldview, including core beliefs; awareness of one’s
own biases and values; and an understanding of how methods must be adapted to fit the needs of
each person” (p. 35). Therefore, I must constantly engage in my own personal work of
confronting and challenging my own biases and beliefs. Constant reflection and solicitation of
Another aspect of this course that I believe is critical to developing a healthy relationship
with students is setting goals and expectations at the beginning of our meetings together. When I
was leading the Alternative Spring Break trip last year, I was very frustrated with my two student
trip leaders. They never seemed to step up to their responsibilities, but I later realized that this
was partially my fault. Although I had communicated general expectations to them at the
beginning of the trip planning process, it would have been much more effective if we had created
One of the most important concepts I learned from the reflective journal assignments was
when to use closed and open-ended questions. I discovered that close-ended questions are most
effective in soliciting specific information while open-ended questions give more control of the
conversation to the student. I can glean a greater understanding of the situation and deeper
The most crucial realization I had over the course of my three helping sessions was that
staying truly present with a student is extremely difficult. I have to remember to take inventory
of the content and tone of students’ responses, their non-verbals, and my non-verbals, all the
while trying to navigate between staying in the moment with them and considering whether I
should ask a question or make a statement. If I do judge that a verbal response is necessary, then
I have to decide what would be most helpful and appropriate to say or ask. Doing all of this at
Final Self-Assessment
Staying with the student while considering all those other factors is certainly one of my
greatest challenges. I also have a tendency to mirror facial expressions rather than content
because I have always been taught that that is the polite thing to do. When someone is laughing
while describing some hardship, I need to do better at responding to the content of the message
rather than the delivery. While I consider my listening skills to be a strength, I need to practice
asking questions and making statements since I noticed throughout my helping sessions that I did
I believe that my empathy and desire to help others is my most valuable quality, but this
can also be a weakness at times. I want to be able to fix people’s problems for them and heal
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them completely when that is neither possible nor beneficial for people in the long term. As
Brew and Kottler (2008) explain, people could either blame me if I suggest something that does
not work or become reliant on me if it does. For my own mental health, I also cannot become
lost in people’s struggles and take them on as my own. I need to find the boundary between
empathy and over-involvement. Finally, I have recognized my tendency to crave approval. “If
the therapists’ caring stems from their own need to be liked and appreciated, constructive change
in the client is inhibited” (Corey, 2009, p.174). I have to stay aware of the reasons behind my
actions. Am I behaving a certain way because it is helpful for the student or am I just wanting to
Thankfully I can still practice all of these skills regularly in my daily life once this course
is over. I kept mentioning ‘students’ throughout this paper as people who I would be helping,
but it really could be anyone: coworkers, family, friends, etc. Practicing ‘you’ statements, asking
responding to content rather than facial expressions, and staying aware of what is motivating me
are all concepts that I can be implementing in my life outside higher education as well as inside
References
Baxter Magolda, M.B. (2004). Learning partnerships model: A framework for promoting
self-authorship. In M.B. Baxter Magolda & P.M. King (Eds.), Learning partnerships:
Theory and models of practice to educate for self-authorship [pp. 37-62]. Sterling, VA:
Stylus Publishing.
Brew, L. & Kottler, J.A. (2008). Applied helping skills: Transforming lives. Thousand Oaks, CA:
Sage Publications.
Corey, G. (2009). Theory and practice of counseling and psychotherapy (8th ed.). Belmont, CA:
Brooks/Cole.