Beruflich Dokumente
Kultur Dokumente
University of Indianapolis
Jessica Hoover
Darryl Clark
16 April 2017
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It is no question that adults can have very distinct conversation styles, varying from
feminine speech communities tend to “regard communication as a primary way to establish and
maintain relationships with others.” They also tend to connect with, support, and understand
others. Adults from masculine speech communities are likely to “accomplish concrete goals,
exert control, preserve independence, entertain, and enhance status.” Masculine adults usually
prove themselves and negotiate in conversations (Wood & Fixmer-Oraiz, 112-114). There are
obvious gender differences in the conversations of adults, but how early on does this start? This
paper will discuss the differences in verbal communication of male and female children in ages
ranging from three to four, four to five, five to seven, and seven to ten years old.
Starting at the first stages of learning to communicate, a study in 1978 was conducted
with children who were close to turning three years old. 90 unacquainted children were paired up
in either same-sex or mixed-sex pairs, and each pair was given a toy horse, wagon, nerf trucks,
toy telephone, paper and crayons, merry-go-round, and ferris wheel one toy at a time. An
interesting finding in this study was that the same-sex pairs were very similar in behavior, but the
mixed-sex pairs showed lower amounts of socialization. Girls in particular tended to withdraw
and become more passive when in a pair with boys. The authors said that the reason for this was
that the girls felt less in control when interacting with a boy rather than a girl. When a girl issued
a prohibition (“no” or “don’t”) to a girl partner, the partner withdraws, but when issuing a
prohibition to a male partner, the male does not listen. The authors’ hypothesis for this was that
the girls may have talked tentatively or in a softer voice, causing the girls’ prohibitions to be less
effective (Jacklin & Maccoby, 559-560, 567-568). These findings directly coincide with the
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common use of tentativeness in adult feminine speech communities (Wood & Fixmer-Oraiz,
113).
In a different study a year later, 40 children between the ages of three and four were
divided into three groups: an all-male group, an all-female group, and a mixed-sex group. The
author audio-taped the groups’ conversations looking for “interruptions, overlaps, lapses, gaps,
and number of initiated unit-types.” The results showed that boys tended to interrupt girls in the
same way that men interrupt women, but in fewer instances. What differed this study from the
previous is that the girls did not show signs of passive behavior or become silent, even when
interrupted by boys. This may have something to do with being in larger groups rather than in
pairs. Also, contrary to popular belief, there were no differences in the amount of conversation
Later on, a study in 1990 recorded conflicts between three year olds in same-sex groups,
and the results were consistent with conflict strategies for male and female adults. The girls’
conflict was full of negotiations and worked to respond to the others’ needs and find a solution to
the conflict (Sheldon, 28). This correlates with a feminine adult’s need to maintain relationships
and support others (Wood & Fixmer-Oraiz, 112). The boys in the study had much longer conflict
that focused on trying to get their way (Sheldon, 28). This finding reiterates the independence
In the four to five year old age group, children are just starting to enter school and their
speech has developed a bit more, prompting there to be studies for this particular age range. In a
study conducted in 1987, four to five year olds were put in same sex problem solving groups of
four children each. They were given the task to watch a cartoon movie on a television, but in
order to keep the TV running one child had to turn a crank, one had to push a light, one was in a
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bystander position, and one watched the movie. The results showed that the girls and boys had
equal success in viewing the movie, but girls used more verbal behavior and boys used more
physical behavior (pushing, shoving) in order to do so (Charlesworth & Dzur, 191, 198). This
goes back to the tendency of women to focus on the importance of communication and men to
In 1993, a psychology group at the University of Sussex recorded four to five year old
children in their classrooms in the beginning and end of the school year to analyze their use of
commands during pretend play. In stark contrast to what one would think, the girls were actually
found to use more commands than the boys in both the beginning of the year and the end. Men
usually use more commands and attempt to exert control more than women (Wood & Fixmer-
Oraiz, 114-115). Interestingly, the use of commands did not change at all when the children were
in same-sex and mixed-sex groups (Lloyd & Goodwin, 122, 128). This differs directly with the
first mentioned study in 1978 where the girls were found to act passively and feel less in control
when paired with boys (Jacklin & Maccoby, 567-568). One distinct difference between the two
studies that could have skewed the results was that the children in the 1978 study were in a very
controlled setting while the children in the 1993 study were in a natural setting and most likely
felt more comfortable. Of course, there was also a couple years age difference between the two
sets of children.
138 children between the ages of five and seven were paired up with either partners of the
same sex or opposite sex in a study conducted in 1991. The pairs were instructed to play with
puppets together for ten minutes, and the researchers looked for collaborative, controlling,
obliging, or withdrawing speech. Coinciding with most research, the most common speech in all
of the pairs was collaborative and cooperative, but the older female pairs use those two types of
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speech more than any other pair. Controlling and domineering speech was more common among
male pairs, also consistent with the research of verbal communication of children and adults
(Leaper, 797, 806). Control is one of the most prominent features of masculine communication
In a study conducted in 1994 by Lea Ausch, 80 children from the ages of five and six
years old were paired up in same-sex or mixed-sex dyads and were given a doll house or a G.I.
Joe Command Center. The pairs were asked to come to a decision on where to place the furniture
in the doll house and where to place the guns and tanks in the command center. It was expected
that the boys would use more aggravated interactions, while the girls would use more
cooperative and mitigating interactions, but that was not exactly the case. The two genders
actually ended up using the same proportion of aggravated interactions regardless of whether
they were playing with the doll house or the command center. However, the girls did show
higher levels of aggravated interactions when playing with the command center, while the boys
did not (Ausch, 225, 236-237). This study drew a very different result from the 1978 study
mentioned earlier that also had the children play with some gendered toys (Jacklin & Maccoby,
567-568). Once again, age can play a significant factor in the different socializations between the
children, and with the 1978 study being conducted on three year olds compared to five to six
year olds, the development of the children’s social skills varies quite a bit.
While the first two studies of children deal solely with gender, a study by the Open
University in 2006 brought a different consideration into the picture: whether the popularity
along with the gender of the child will affect the results. Using five to seven year olds, the
researchers paired up both an unpopular and popular child of the same sex to play a game
together. When looking at the use of questions, directives, and elaborations, popular girls used
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more of these forms of speech than unpopular girls. Popular and unpopular boys had no
difference in the amount of these forms of speech they used (Murphy & Faulkner, 82). This
study gives some insight into the factors other than gender that could contribute to the types of
speech children use, and judging by the results, popularity seems to have a larger impact on the
speech of girls than boys. More research needs to be done on whether popularity plays a part in
older group of children between the ages of seven and eight while they were playing at recess.
The boys were more likely to play ball games and the girls involved themselves in things like
conversation, jump-skipping, and verbal games, which is not surprising knowing that the adult
Baines, & Pellegrini, 481, 485). Looking at the assertiveness between children, a 1980 study
focused on multiple groups of children, with the groups ranging from five to six years old and
eight to ten years old. The results showed that while the younger girls were less assertive in the
five to six year old group, the assertiveness of girls increased in the groups of older children. In
the group of eight to ten year olds, the amount of assertiveness in girls actually equaled that of
While much of the research done on the verbal communication of children was not
consistent, it still can be seen that as a child grows older he or she is more prone to use either
masculine or feminine styles of speaking. The inconsistencies of the studies could have been
because they were all using different children from all different walks of life. It also may have
had something to do with the environment that the study was conducted in. As said before, the
children that were in a more natural environment and may not have known that they were being
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watched could have far different reactions than the children in the controlled experiments. In the
future, the studies will need to focus more on giving the children more natural setting so the
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