RA1: Masters vs.

Disasters  Name: Jed Phillips

MASTERS versus DISASTERS
1. Sit back & wait for others to introduce
1. Introduce themselves to new people in
themselves whom they do not know.
various social settings.
2. Wait for others to invite them into
2. Invite others to coffee or other social
conversation or other social events.
hangouts to get to know others or get them
3. Think that their interpretation of an event is
involved with others in the group.
the only possible explanation and are closed
3. Know that their interpretation of an event is
off to hearing or exploring other possible
only 1 of many possible interpretations of
explanations.
the same event.
4. When people raise issues with them they
4. When people raise issues with them they
respond with a counter attack or they
respond, “interesting point, tell me more?”
whine.
5. People who try to maintain relationships
5. People who choose to runaway or seek
during conflict.
better investments.
6. Those who accommodate to their partner
6. Those who choose not to accommodate and
and engage in positive behavior.
respond with negative behavior.
7. Those who derogate their alternatives.
7. Those who act on their alternatives.
8. Those who show a willingness to sacrifice.
8. Those who do not sacrifice for their partner.
9. Maintain eye contact throughout
9. Do not maintain eye contact throughout
conversation.
conversation.
10. Keep your phone away during
10. Constantly check their phone, seeming
conversations.
distracted.
11. Have patience when communicating from
11. Don’t actively participate in the
their phone or in person.
conversation
12. Goes out of their way to be nonverbally
12. Avoids humanistic characteristic such as
affectionate
touch and smiling.
13. Understands the relationship level they are
13. Uses inappropriate nicknames in public.
in with another person.
14. Rarely discuss how they feel about where
14. Can take a step back to evaluate the
the relationship is headed.
relationship to acknowledge where it’s at
15. Manipulate their relationship to finish a task
and where they want it to be.
they have.
15. Look at their relationship as a way to share
16. Take up all of their partners time, not
their warmth and compassion.
giving them much time alone.
16. Know when to give their partner space.
17. Are constantly including others in their
17. Know when they need to spend time with
relationship.
just the two.
18. Don’t understand the power of their words.
18. In romantic relationships they understand
19. Are oblivious to turning points
the importance of saying “I love you” for
20. Automatically assume that the relationship
the first time
is supposed be smooth sailing and
19. Recognize turning points in the relationship.
everything fall into place.
20. Understand that their will be ups and downs
21. Blindly jump into conflict turning points
and embrace them.
without creating a previous understand of
21. Plan out consequences of crises and conflict
what that might look like.
turning points.
22. Think that opening up will make them seem
22. Feel comfortable opening up about
weak.
problems they are facing.
23. Assert individuality and compromise.
24. Engage in meaningful conversation.
25. Intentionally revive hope in pulling through
a difficult time in the relationship.
26. Appropriately and intentionally reach out.
27. Best negotiate outcomes when ending a
relationship.
28. Take the opportunity to stop and talk to
someone face to face.
29. Engage in meeting with the people of the
job you apply for in person.
30. Step out of their comfort zone to meet new
people.
31. Have meaningful conversations on dates.
32. Know their communication strengths and
weakness for a job.
33. Spend time with friends engaging in their
lives.
34. Open about their feelings towards another
person to discuss further action.
35. Offer someone a job after multiple meetings
with that person.
36. Share intimate details about themselves.
37. Integrate relationships making them
exclusive using boy/girlfriend.
38. Help train a new employee to ensure they
succeed.
39. Establish activities with friends based on
common interest.
40. Create bong in romantic relationships by
getting married and opening joint accounts.
41. Offering an employee an extension contract
or promoting them.
42. Ask close friends to participate in meaning
events like your wedding or asking them to
be godparents.
43. Wait until they are married to move in with
a romantic partner.
44. Limit social media use and actively engage
in social settings.
45. Say “Even though you did ______, I should
_______.”
46. Acknowledge conflict and use I statements
in.
47. Understand the circumstances around why
someone did this or that.
48. Recognize how their behavior affects
others.
49. Find common ground and build report.
50. Lead with empathy.
23. Attack and complain about their partners
differences.
24. Settle and use small talk.
25. Cease psychological and physical contact,
pushing the other away.
26. Overreact and reach out too much or little.
27. Store resentment and end the relationship
poorly.
28. Choose to start a conversation over social
media.
29. Communicating to a potential employer
without preparing.
30. Avoid meeting new people and avoid
conversations.
31. Have surface level conversation on dates.
32. Blindly enter a new job without
communication the job effectively.
33. Not being there for their friends or digging
deeper.
34. Jump into a relationship without knowing
their true feelings.
35. Hire someone without knowing their
feelings towards the job.
36. Brush over intimate topics.
37. Stay in an open relationship where other
people could get involved.
38. Giving new employees tasks without
training them.
39. Not knowing normal details about a
“friend.”
40. Skipping bonding steps in romantic
relationships by moving in before marriage.
41. Giving promotions without knowing the
employee’s intentions with the job.
42. Not being vulnerable with your close
friends and limiting contact.
43. Create excuses to move in like its better
financially.
44. Constantly hide behind their phones or at
home in front of a tv/laptop.\
45. Say “because you did ______, I have the
right to ______.”
46. Ignore conflict and continuously blame the
other.
47. Assume someone did this or that without
understanding the circumstances.
48. Act with out thinking of the consequences it
has on others and themselves.
49. Play games with romantic partners and
friends.
50. Side with the enemy.