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We’ve all met them: the “awkward Get the fundamentals right:
squad”. They dig in, talk tough, make negotiation, communications, behaviour
statements about what they will and
won’t accept, and then argue that their 1. Change how you negotiate
needs and ideas should prevail.
The biggest single cause of negotiation failure
Almost everyone has the capacity to behave
is people arguing about what they will and
like this and we’ve probably all done it at some
won’t accept. Indeed, this approach (it’s called
point. Colleagues, suppliers, customers,
‘positional bargaining’) has become so firmly
friends, partners and children can all be
established as the ‘norm’ in most Western
stubborn and unyielding at times. So what is it
societies that many of us do it without even
that sometimes drives people to behave like
thinking.
this and – more importantly – what can we do
about it?
But there’s a considerable weight of research
and experience to show that digging in,
What do we mean, “difficult”? refusing to change your position and arguing
the other person down causes real problems: it
Avoiding evaluation takes too long, has a low success rate, and
Sometimes people make demands and try to damages relationships and reputations.
impose their ideas on others because they Launched in the 1970s, the Harvard Law
believe they have identified the best solution School’s Negotiation Project has drawn some
(for them). They think that by avoiding a proper simple and startling conclusions that have
debate and evaluation of other possible formed the basis of an entirely new approach
solutions, their idea will prevail. to negotiation, now increasingly used by
professional negotiators, mediators and those
Positional bargaining who work in conflict resolution. The founders of
Difficult people often negotiate using old- the Harvard project – William Ury and Roger
fashioned ‘positional bargaining’ – a technique Fisher – called their new model ‘Principled
based on saying what they will accept, then Negotiation’.
arguing the other person down, until they
either give in or walk away.
Have an alternative
Resisting change Principled Negotiation theory says that if you
People can be difficult if they perceive that a don’t have a ‘plan B’ (Ury and Fisher called it
change is imminent that will not be in their best their ‘BATNA’, or Best Alternative To
interests. Negotiated Agreement), you’re unlikely to be in
a strong position in the negotiation. So think in
advance about what you’ll do if you really can’t
Change resistance reach agreement with the other party: will you
There are only three sets of reasons why
try to find another supplier elsewhere? Ask
people resist change.
your boss to talk to their boss? Delay the
1. They don’t understand the change that’s project for now? Whatever it is, it needs to be
being proposed. To overcome this type of something that you really would do – the ‘next
resistance, you’ll need to explain carefully best thing’ to the negotiated agreement you’d
and clearly, then check for agreement. been hoping for.
2. They understand, but don’t agree. You’ll
need to explore their interests and In any negotiation, the person with the
concerns, explain the reasons and strongest BATNA is very likely to have the
benefits to them. Maybe they have an
upper hand, but you don’t have to tell the other
even better idea!
3. They don’t trust you. There’s no point in party what your BATNA is and, indeed, doing
trying to influence people who don’t trust so can sometimes jeopardise the negotiation if
you. You’ll need to build trust and it makes them feel that you’re threatening
empathy first, then try again to influence them.
the outcome.
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Principled Negotiation All rights reserved.
spoken to you with a voice full of anger and that we’re stupid, or perhaps that we’ve not
sarcasm, or alternatively with the curt and made enough effort. For others, injustice and
disapproving tone that a stern head-teacher unfairness make their blood boil. If you don’t
might use to silence a child who’s been talking know about your ‘hot buttons’ then you’ll be
during Assembly. It quickly becomes clear that vulnerable to other people making you angry
words on their own – stripped of the rich (and perhaps even irrational) just because
context provided by voice tone and body they’ve said the wrong thing to you. If you can
language – can be open to dangerous learn to moderate and control your reactions,
misinterpretation. you’re more likely to have the upper hand.