The Book of Manners Compiled by: Fu'id Thn ‘Abdul-‘Azeez Ash-Shulhoob Translated by: Faisal Shafig, Montréal, Canada DARUSSALAMThe Book Of Manners Compiled by: Fu’ad Ibn ‘Abdul-‘Azeez Ash-Shulhoob Translated by: Faisal Shafiq Montréal, Canada DARUSSALAM GLOBAL LEADER IN ISLAMIC BOOKS Riyadh, Jeddah, Sharjah, Lahore London, Houston, New YorkPublishers Note 5 PUBLISHER’S NOTE All the praises and thanks are due to Allah, the Rubb of the worlds, and may Allah exalt the mention of the Prophet Muhammad, the chosen, the trustworthy, and the mention of his Household and all of his Companions. Islam is the greatest favor of Allah with which He has distinguished the mankind and Jinn. It is only a Deen which Allah made the last of all religions. Hence, it is the duty of every Muslim to value this divine favor by adhering to it. This could not be accomplished without understanding all the aspects of the religion which should be based on the Qur’an and the Sunnah. We try to present our publications based on authentic research material in accordance with the Qur’an and Sunnah, along with simplicity and freedom from every type of vague conception, weak authority, and false ideas. You will find the same spirit and tradition of good research, professional editing and excellent printing standard in this work. The Book of Manners is by Shaikh Fu’aad Ibn Abdul-Azeez Ash- Shulhoob. Shaikh is a well-known Islamic scholar and has compiled this book on Islamic Manners and Etiquette after his thorough study of the works of great scholars such as Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim, Ibn Muflaih, As-Safaareenee and others. This collection relates to the important aspects of daily life so that the readers may benefit from it for their success in this life as well as in hereafter. ‘Abdul-Malik Mujahid General Manager Darussalam RiyadhContents 7 Contents Introduction 11 The Book Of Manners 13 Chapter -1.... 15 The Manners Of Reciting The Qur’an, And Related Issues 15 The Manners Related To Reciting The Qur’an 17 Chapter 2. 54 The Manners Of Giving Greetings Of Peace 54 The Manners Of Giving Greetings Of Peace ... 55 Chapter 3. 81 The Manners Of Seeking Permission To Enter Another Person's Home, Room, Property, Or Any Private Space.... 81 The Islamic Manners Related To Asking Permission 82 Chapter 4 93 The Etiquettes Of Meeting Another Muslim - 9 The Islamic Etiquettes Of Meeting Another Muslim ....................-. 93 Chapter 5 ae The Etiquettes Of Visiting Your Brother The Manners Of Visiting Your Brother. Chapter 6... The Etiquettes Of The Host And The Guest : . The Manners Of Being A Host Or A Guest.............0.:00:ccceeeeseeees Chapter 7 The Etiquettes Of Gatherings The Manners Of Gatherings .. Chapter 8 The Manners Of Speech..8 The Book Of Manners Islamic Manners That Pertain To Speech....... settee 150 Chapter 9 - 192 The Manners Of Eating And Drinking. 192 The Etiquettes Of Eating And Drinking «- 192 Chapter 10 228 The Manners Of Going To The Bathroom.. .. 228 The Etiquettes Of Going To The Bathroom. . 228 Chapter 11 247 The Manners Of Attending Masjid: 247 The Etiquettes Of Attending The Masjid.........0.0.0c.cccccceseseteteseees 247 Chapter 12 277 The Manners Of Sleeping. 277 The Etiquettes Of Sleeping................cccccccceseee tees c ce ceneeseseeeseeeeeeee 278 Chapter 13 302 The Manners Of Traveling 302 The Manners Of Traveling: 302 Chapter 14 324 The Manners Of Visiting The Sick . 324 The Manners Of Visiting The Sick . 324 Chapter 15 The Manners Of Adornment And Attic 346 The Manners Of Adornment And Attire.........0.cccc cece 347 Chapter 16 The Manners Of Walking And Riding 391 The Manners Of Walking And Riding .. 391 Chapter 17 .....ccccscccsessecsssesessseassescsnssesseenseessseassesssesnsesensnenssees 397 The Manners Of The Pathway The Manners Of The Pathway 397 398 Chapter 18 The Manners Associated With Being A Good Neighbor. The Etiquettes OF Being A Good Neighbot............:::ssssssseeeeeeeContents 9 Chapter 19 vee 415 The Manners Of Sneezing And Yawning .........0..0.0:cccccceeeeeees 415 First, The Manners Of Sneezing: .. 415 Chapter 20.... . The Manners Of Interacting With One’s Brothers . 424 The Manners Of Interacting With One’s Brothers ... . 424 Chapter 21.... 451 The Manners Of Interacting With One's Wife.... 451 The Manners Of Dealing With One’s Wife 451 Chapter 22... - 469 The Manners Of Supplication - 469 The Manners Of Supplication. . 470Introduction 11 Introduction Verily, all praise is to Allah; we praise Him, seek His help, and ask for His forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from the evil of our n selves and from the evil of our deeds. Whomsoever Alia guides none can lead astray, and whomsoever Allah leads astray none can guide. And I bear witness that none has the right to be worshipped but Allah alone and that He has no partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. O Allah, send prayers and salutations on Muhammad, his family, and his Companions #. Allah 8 completed our religion for us, completed His favors for us, and sent to us a Messenger #% who is merciful to his Nation. That Messenger, Muhammad 2%, guided us to all that is good and warned us about all that is evil, and his guidance is applicable as well as binding upon mankind until the Hour (i.e. the end of this world) comes to pass. Among the many good deeds that the Prophet #% guided us to and the evil that he #8 warned us about, are a set of manners that are comprehensive of worldly matters and religious matters, of worship and dealings - dealings with one’s family, children, acquaintances, and strangers. There are different kinds of manners, and so the Islamic ruling changes depending on which manner is in question. A specific manner can be Haram (forbidden), Waajib (compulsory), Musta- habb (recommended: one is rewarded for doing it but not punished for not doing it), Makrooh (disliked: one is rewarded for not doing it but not punished for doing it), or Mubaah (whether one does it or not, he is neither punished nor rewarded). As we study each manner in this book, we will clarify its ruling. Throughout history, Muslim scholars have written books on manners, these being the most famous among them: Zaad Al- Ma’‘aad, by Ibn Al-Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah; Kitaab Al-AadaabAsh- Shar’iyyah, by Ibn Muflaih; and Kitaab Ghidhaa Al-Albaab, by As-12 The Book Of Manners Safaareenee. My purpose here is to summarize their works and present the manners they discussed in a book that is easy to read and understand. And in keeping with that purpose, I have tried as much as possible to avoid excessive detail. It must be understood, of course, that perfection or even some semblance of completeness in any scholarly work is very difficult to achieve. If a reader finds an error or any deficiency, he shuld call our attention to it, and Allah 3€ does not waste the rewards of those who strive to improve matters. We seek help from Allah and depend upon Him alone. There is neither might nor power except with Allah, the All-Mighty. O Allah, send prayers and salutations and blessings on Muhammad, his family, and his Companions 4. And all praise is to Allah, the Lord of all that exists. Written by, Fu’aad Ibn ‘Abdul-‘Azeez Ash-ShulhoobThe Book Of MannersChapter -1 The Manners Of Reciting The Qur’an,.. Chapter -1 The Manners Of Reciting The Qur’an, And Related Issues Allah 4% said: 4B shad Ay Sai OE be Gp “Verily We: It is We Who have sent down the Dhikr (i.e., the Qur'an) and surely, We will guard it (from corruption)’ (Qur‘an 15:9) And Allah 8 said: Ls ee eB Ae 2 steer oe! eke GL ab WS ATE ne be Oe SS Srl SNE SETD © “Do they not then consider the Qur‘an carefully? Had it been from other than Allah, they would surely have found therein much contradictions” (Qur'an 4:82) And Allah $€ said: @ Ghai oul EA GCM he satpy “Do they not then think deeply in the Qur‘an, or are their hearts locked up (from understanding it)?’ (Qur'an 47:24) And Allah 4€ said: 4D 55 IA Sd “And recite the Qur'an (aloud) in a slow (pleasant tone and) style.” [73: 4] The Messenger of Allah #% said,